Growing up pains

One of the most profound feelings one could have is associated with enforced separation, and we have all had it, sometime or the other, havent we! By some quirk of fate, I seem to have endured rather more, because of the changes in my school, college, and then changes in my posting.

Sometimes, I really envy those people who are born, brought up, educated and live in the same city, or village, who meet their friends regularly and are really surrounded by camarederie, if it can be stated like that!

The wrenching feeling, the mumbled goodbyes, it all began when I was about 10 years old. Suddenly, the guava tree which me and my sister used to inhabit for hours, the small plots of season flowers which I used to water, the stony cricket pitch, even the railway station began to assume such intimate hues which I find hard to describe even now!

And not to mention the wisp of a girl who used to sit with me, wrote names on the covers of my textbooks and sometimes, shared her tiffin. For some strange reason, she never sat beside me in the schoolbus. I can still remember her smile, ever so clearly now when I am pounding the keys..

And the second time, when I was seventeen and thought I was grown up enough! Farewells bid most breezily with hearty shrugs and laughter couldnt however, blunt the sense of loss which is associated with every such instance, and here I was saying goodbye to hundreds of friends, some beloved teachers, the huge playgrounds and orchards, the ceramic workshop, etc, etc...

Thereafter it kept happening and did not cross my mind until recently. My family has gone for the winter vacation and after two days, I found a little note, neatly folded, behind the keyboard.
Bye Bye babai, it said in uneven capitals, I am away!

All of it surged over me in a sudden rush of emotion...this liitle girl, my daughter, is growing up!

"Be The Women Men Adore"

Do you want to Fall into a Type of Love That Last Forever?

Are you tired of dating loser guys that have no chance of being the one? Do youw ant to make the man of your dreams fall in love with you? If so, then you need to read on and discover the secrets to making the man of your dreams fall in love with you.

Women Men Adore - Become the Woman That All Men Want

Women Men Adore - Captivate the Man of your Dreams

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1. You have to exude confidence

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The most important part of love is that you have a chemistry between you because without chemistry the relationship is doomed.

Every girl wants a guy that is absolutely crazy about her and if you want to learn how to get a guy to like you, then you need to know how to build up your personal magnetism.

LOVE CAN BE MADE - IT IS UP TO YOU!!There are many different tricks that can be used to attract a guy and make him fall in love with you. You have to start by understanding that you need to have the self confidence to know that you can attract anybody you want. Learn to trust yourself and know that what you are doing is right.

1. Start by listening to him. Even if you do not agree with what he is saying make sure to listen to his point of view. This shows that you find him to be important and that it is not just about you.

2. You need to be different from other women and make sure to concentrate on him. However if it is all about him you have to be careful because you might end up with someone that does not care about you.

3. Regardless of what you are, who you are, what you look like, or what you think you are, just be yourself. You will never have a sucessful relationship unless you give him a chance to fall in love with you. Don't be fake because he will see right through it.

4. Make him smile. Have a sense of humor and making hims smile will win him over pretty fast. You don't want everything to be serious and you will want to flirt with him so he can develop feelings for you.

5. Build up your personal magnetism by making yourself as beautiful as you possibly can. This is an easy way to help attract him to you.

6. Try to have a good attitude and stay motivated and cheerful. Happiness is contagious and everybody wants to be around it.You should also stay away from games. Do not try to be both the lover and the friend because this is just confusing for a guy. Also, make sure you are not after a guy no matter what the cost is and avoid trying to get a guy that is already involved with someone else.

Now that you know how to get the guy of your dreams you need to make sure it happens naturally. Use your feminity to win him over and remember that woman means devoute love.

Do you feel like you will never find the right guy for you? Are you afraid that when you do he won't be attracted to you?

"Sadness"

Are you sick of being lonely?

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First, you have to become beautiful. Not just to him, but also to yourself. Every woman can do this and it has a lot to do with your self confidence and your appearance. We all feel better when we put in some effort to look great. Do this and you will not only attract more attention, but you will also feel much more confident.

Second, you have to act correctly around the guy of your dreams. You cannot always stick with your group of friends because there are a couple of things that a man thinks about when you are with your group.

1. He does not want to be rejected in front of all of them.

2. How am I going to get any one on one time with her. This will keep him from coming up to you more often than not.

Last, you need to understand that it is a small price to pay to learn how to not only attract the man of your dreams, but keep him, keep him happy, and maintain the right type of relationship that can last a life time for you.

Knowing what it takes will arm you with all the knowledge you need in order to become proficient at love and be in a rewarding relationship.

Our bodies are perfect organisms that allow us to live on earth in comfort, to run and play, to read and write and, in short, they let us perform each and every task. These organisms are so wonderful that one cannot make anything that resembles them even with the most advanced technology.How much do you know about this body of yours, which works non-stop and repairs itself when it runs down?

OUR WINDOWS ON THE WORLD: EYES

Each organ in our bodies is very important to us. Our lives would change if even only one of them were missing. For example, our eyes… Did you ever think what you would have done if you didn't have your eyes? You wouldn't be able to know what your parents, brothers or sisters, or friends look like. You wouldn't be able to see all the beautiful things. You wouldn't be able to play most of the games you now do. You wouldn't be able to read the contents of this site or see the colourful pictures in it. You wouldn't be able to imagine what a rabbit or a dog looks like, because you would never have seen one. You wouldn't be able to watch cartoons on TV. You wouldn't be able to perform your tasks with ease. You might not even be able to find your way around home. You wouldn't be able to see any colours or shapes, nor would you know what light is or be able to notice any of these things. The list is endless.

God created all humans with eyes with which they can see. God has given humans this very important asset.

Our eyes serve very important functions. They perform critical processes of which we are completely unaware, and only after which we can see around.

Let us briefly examine how we see:

Every object in the world reflects and emits light on to its surroundings. For instance, while you are looking at the computer screen, the light reflected and emitted from the screen is going to the back of your eye through your pupil.

This light, after going through a series of processes at the back of your eye, turns into an electrical signal. This electrical signal goes to your brain. At the back of your brain is the centre of vision that makes it possible for you to see. The centre of vision is a small area. This is the tiny area where the electrical signals form the image of the screen and that is when you see this site.
Even trying to explain these processes as briefly as possible takes such a long time, whereas the process is instantaneous. These processes happen so fast that when you look at the computer screen, at that instant you are able to see it.

Isn't it such a perfect system? If you remember, we had mentioned evolutionists earlier in the site. We also mentioned that these people believe that earth, the universe, the stars and all living things are a result of chance. Those who say this say the same about our eyes. They say, "The eyes occurred by themselves and through coincidence." Can such a complex and wonderful system form by itself?

Let us give an example to clarify how ridiculous this opinion is:

Engineers have manufactured the photographic and video cameras by copying the human eye. However, none of this equipment gives as clear a view as your eyes do. Now lift your head from the computer screen and look around you. Isn't your vision clear? There is no blur, snowy dots or missing lines in your vision. Now look at your television set. Quite often, you see snowy dots or skipped lines in the image. Even when these don't happen and even with all the new technology, televisions still do not produce the perfect images that your eyes do.
Now, let's think for a moment. This means that our eyes are a lot more advanced and are of better quality than any video or photographic camera or television.

What would you do if someone came up to you and said something like the following?
..
"There was a storm that caused some electrical cables, screws, hammers, screwdrivers to fly out the door and windows, to fly out of the house, and then all of them got together in the backyard. Then there was some rain and thunder and these things were mixed with the soil. Some time passed and I saw a television set emerge. I picked it up and brought it home."

You would probably think that that person is either insane or lying, because as we all know, television sets are made in huge factories where there are hundreds of engineers, designers and specialised personnel. It is impossible for a television set to form on its own.

Could it be that our eyes, which are of much better quality than television, have occurred by themselves? Of course not! Just as a television doesn't come about on its own, but someone does manufacture it, our eyes are also not a result of coincidence. God is the One Who created our eyes in such a way that they see in three-dimensions and with coloured images so clearly. This is why we have to thank God for everything beautiful that we are able to see.

OUR EARS THAT HEAR WITHOUT ANY CRACKLE

God has created our ears perfectly just like our eyes. Imagine a stereo, for instance. Even if you turn on the best of stereos, you hear some crackling and hissing sounds. Radio channels often become mixed up. Right now, don't talk but just listen! Do you hear any hissing? Your ears never produce any. You hear the sounds marvellously clearly. Well don't you think that your ears could also have produced crackling just like stereos? God has created our ears perfectly and we are able to hear the sounds around us without experiencing any distortion.

God has created our ears in such a way that we are unable to hear certain sounds that would disturb us. The blood in our body, for instance, flows very fast and it makes a lot of noise during its circulation. However, our ears do not hear the noise that it makes. Our planet also produces quite a strong noise while it spins. Nevertheless, God has created our ears so ideally that we don't hear this noise. God is very caring towards us. This is the reason why, throughout our lives, He doesn't let us hear noises that will disturb us.

This is why we have to thank God for His benevolence. God has stated the following in a verse in the Qur'an:

"God brought you out of your mothers' wombs knowing nothing at all, and gave you hearing, sight and hearts so that perhaps you would show thanks." (Surat an-Nahl, 78)

OUR HEART THAT NEVER TIRES

For us, our heart is an essential organ. It beats about seventy-two times per minute and about forty million times per year. To understand what a tiring activity this is, just make a fist with your hand and then relax it, and continue making a fist and relaxing it. How many minutes do you think you will be able to keep this up? Your heart, which is about the size of your fist, continues this action throughout your life without becoming tired or even stopping once. Our hearts don't stop even while we are asleep. If we become excited, our heart beats faster, and it beats slower while we rest. Our heart makes all these adjustments automatically while we are totally unaware.

Every time our heart beats, it pumps blood around our bodies. What we need to survive is in this blood. Every one of our cells receives the necessary oxygen and food they need from the blood. Our heart pumps about 43,000 litres (approx. 11,000 gallons) of blood per day. Do you know just how much blood this means? This is about enough to fill 150 bathtubs. Wouldn't you become tired if you tried to empty a single bathtub full of water with just a cup?

Now imagine having to empty 150 bathtubs of water with just a single cup. Probably you wouldn't have been able to accomplish such a difficult task. However, our heart does such a task and has done so since the day we were born and will continue to do so until the day we die. Moreover, it never takes a break. You, for example, would take a break while doing a difficult chore. You would probably need to lie down, or take a rest, but our hearts don't become tired, because they are essential for our survival. It is small but its task is enormous. This is why God has created it in such a way that it never tires.

It is unimaginable for a country to be without a network of roads, railways or seaways. A unique network in your body allows it to function faultlessly. These are the blood vessels of our circulatory system. Inside these vessels, the blood flows that the heart continuously pumps. The blood carries countless materials from one part of the body to another. It distributes food continuously to each part of the body and collects waste materials.

"Simplicity Of Life"

The Simplicity of Being

It is a twist of human psyche that we feel the need to have a purpose, that life has meaning, that we matter. The majority of us go through a period of reflection (if not multiple periods) during our lives, trying to make sense of it all. We NEED to know.It clobbered me the other day, while chit chatting with a family member, that there is no meaning to life. We simply exist.Does a bird (or any animal) try to answer the question of its existence? No, it simply exists. Day to day.

More accurately, second by second.It's laughable, the vanity of humans thinking that we matter. In the grand scheme of things we as individuals are nothing more than microscopic particles. Our actions have zero impact on the universe as a whole. Sure, we each are each playing a part in the destruction of the Earth, but even if our planet vanished tomorrow what real impact would that have on the universe as a whole? Earth would never be missed.

And if a whole planet can go unnoticed, that teeny tiny little ol' me matters even less!"Then why continue living?" I was asked. "Why bother at all?"Because life provides so many simple pleasures. But we're too busy chasing from this place to that, worried about what so-and-so thinks, paying bills, rising debt, keeping our jobs, wearing the latest trends, buying bigger/better/brighter.Stop and smell the roses!

"Who has time?!?"Some times I think I've lost my inner child - that sense of awe and wonderment - the belief in the imaginary and pretend. I sat and watched my niece and nephew opening their presents today, their eyes wide with surprise and happiness, and I was amazed that they still believe in Santa. They have faith in the red suit and beard, and the magic of the North Pole.The same way that the majority of the world has faith in some form of a cognizant God.

They cannot figure out the meaning their own, what purpose they serve, why they matter, so they fall back on faith, which lifts them and gives them hope.Why do so many people resort to blind faith for hope?I wonder how many people would pull the plug if they didn't have faith; if they were not religious? Then again, the atheists aren't running off the edge of cliffs like a buffalo stampede.I think deep down we all know that we serve no purpose.

Much like that bird flying over head, we simply exist. Why do we feel that there has to be more?We humans are cursed. Why can't we simply exist? Why can't we just simply be?All those year that I wasted trying to figure it all out - trying to make sense of it - when in a flash I'm okay with there being no meaning to life, and that I serve no purpose. I simply "am".

Welcome to the world of 'PRANIC HEALING'

ABOUT PRANIC HEALING

Pranic healing is an energy healing technique based on the overall structure of the human body. According to the precepts of pranic healing, our body is actually composed of two parts: the visible physical body, and the invisible energy body called the bioplasmic body or aura.

The visible physical body is that part of the human body that we see, touch, and are most acquainted with. Our aura is that invisible luminous energy body, which interpenetrates the visible physical body and extends beyond it.

Traditionally, clairvoyants and energy healing practitioners call this energy body the etheric body or etheric double.What Is Pranic Healing?Pranic healing is an ancient science and art of healing that utilizes prana (or chi/qi/ki) or life energy and the chakras or energy centers to heal diseased energy levels.

The healing process involves the manipulation of the patient's chakras, ki and aura. It has also been called medical qigong (ki kung or ki healing), psychic healing, vitalic healing, therapeutic touch, laying of the hand, magnetic healing,faith healing, and charismatic healing.

Dear God,

Life is a journey, a way that we must all walk. We all know this, but since we often do not know what kind of a journey it is to be, we create expectations of the way we want it to be, and then frequently find that it is not what we expected. We often associate the Plan or God's Plan for us with comfort and ease. We think that if everything is going along well, if we don't have too many challenges or troubles and if we are comfortable, that God has blessed us. We erroneously think that pain is a result of sinning against God, that pain is punishment for doing wrong. Even if we do not consciously believe this, we probably believe it unconsciously. "What have I done wrong?" is often asked when things do not go the way we want. We tend to associate happiness with the lack of pain and disturbances, and assume that such happiness and good feelings are God's blessing.

We must learn to accept the limitations, obstacles and challenges in our personal lives and learn from them the true nature of reality. At first we really don't know what is going on or why we experience what we do. We just find life difficult, challenging and often painful. Suffering is seen as intrinsic to human life. But we really don't know why. Eventually, after much experience and reflection, we start to find meaning in it all and gladly accept the responsibility you have blessed us with. For this I am forever grateful, and I want to thank you for what you have already done. I am not going to wait until I see results or receive rewards; I am thanking you right now. I am not going to wait until I feel better or things look better; until people say they are sorry or until they stop talking about me; until the pain in my body disappears; until my financial situation improves; until the children are asleep and the house is quiet; until I get promoted at work or until I get the job; I am going to thank you right now.

I am not going to wait until I understand every experience in my life that has caused me pain or grief; I am not going to wait until the journey gets easier or the challenges are removed; I am thanking you right now. I am thanking you because I am alive. I am thanking you because I made it through the day's difficulties. I am thanking you because I have walked around the obstacles. I am thanking you because I have the ability and the opportunity to do more and do better. I'm thanking You because FATHER, YOU haven't given up on me. God is just so good, and he's good all the time!

Merry Christmas To All

To All Of You Who Celebrate The Christmas..
Let All Your Beautiful Dream Come True..
Merry Christmas..



Christmas must be more than just a day of jingle bells and plum cakes, or just a night of imagined Santa ... its true spirit can only lie in resurrecting Christ's love and compassion within, beyond all divisive dogma, so that there can be unity in diversity, empathy and forgiveness in conflicts, humility in power, values in technology, and service in leadership, towards buildinga better global village, so that Christ's great sacrifice goes NOT in vain ...

SECRET RECIPE FOR SUCCESS

1. Build your success on strong foundations.These skills will never leave you.

2. Teams are made up of individuals.Giving your best effort to the team results in cohesive and profitable teams and greater personal rewards.

3. Look towards the future…today.Have short, medium and long-term goals – and reward yourself when you achieve them.

4. Balanced Perspective. Don’t make your life just about work.Spending time with family and friends, and enjoying hobbies can make all the difference to your happiness and your ability to perform at your best.

5. The extra 15 minutes.Finding the competitive edge. Spending 15 minutes a day to focus on areas that will help you achieve your goals will add up to 70 hours a year!

6. Determination beats talent every time.Although the secret to success is primarily hard work, be smart in the way you go about it.

7. Exercise!Spending at least 30 minutes 3 times per week doing a physical activity you enjoy makes you fitter, healthier and better able to deal with the challenges corporate life presents.

8. Know when to ask for help.Coaches, be they in sport or business can guide, support and inspire.

9. Once you have reached your goals, don’t become complacent – aim higher!Life can be so much more enjoyable when you have a purpose. 9.9. Have fun and enjoy what you do!

About Loyalty

On the far skyline' shoulder, the pale drunk morning's sun was watching the toyed people, and on one of the flourished roofs on the eye-sight, a little boy sat , and with his small grateful eyes , he started meditating a flock of doves..
A flock of doves, which their neighbor's half time was devoted for them.
The little boy started to look at his pale neighbor, and a million of questions were jumping in his small head.
"What is the secret of that relation between him and the doves?"
"Is it possible that he understands their language?"
"Could there be any kind of relation between them?"
And he sank into the questions that knocking his head gate.
He knew that the pale neighbor lives in a very small room with his Fat wife.
He remembered that he heard his mom once gossiping with her friend:
-They eat once each two days.
-A stupid man he is, they say that if he sells the doves he has, he will be managed to buy a small car that helps him to make a good income.
-I know… they offered him that a lot, but he keeps refusing
And saying, "God will be in my side"
- O shame! How can his wife endure him! If I were her I would stay no more with him.
The sound of a salesman in the road, was too loud not to cut his ideas series, he looked at a few ants were trying to drag a dead fly.
The memory of the little boy took him back again into a dark night when he heard a conversation between his neighbor and his fat wife, they where talking about their bad state:

- Look I can endure not this damn situation anymore.
- Be patient woman!
- But patience has limits.
- If there were limits for patience, then it would be not patience, hence it would be but a surrender..
- Name it as you wish, I tell you now, I surrender!
- God will be with us, God forgets but none.
- But you forgot him, so how supposed he to remember you?!
- He will remember me because he is the God, and God never forget anybody, even if I forget him, he is the God he is the God, and God is so merciful..
- O! you fortune fool, But you have the solution, and you help not your self.
- Doves again!!! Didn't I say "God is the Merciful?!"
- Look! God is the Merciful when you Mercy yourself.
- I will make it not long discussion; I will not drop my doves even if I have to drop you.

In the next day' night the pale neighbor's fat wife went back not to his home.
The little boy still remembers the gossip that happened between his mom and her friend about the fat wife disappearance.
The neighbor said:

- I know from the beginning that she is a whore.
- God damn her.
- They say that she escaped with another man.
- God damn her, is it possible that she escaped with another man that simply …
- Tis but the end, there is no more Loyalty in this life.
- She had to be patient; if I were her I would still patient till the last moment.
- I think that the Demon controlled her.
- A Demon …. Huh … she is a whore since her birth.

By the pass of time that gossip never left the memory of the little boy, he was always wondering:
Is it possible that God Create people as whores since their birth, to punish them at the last!! He just can punish them without making them have that experience and life..
So there must be a goal of making them undergo the life.. Truly there must be a goal, but what is it?!
He said:
"I think that life is a break before God punishes us.
Yes life is but a break.
In this case God made life to make us happy before he punishes us at the last.
What a God!!
Oh this means that our neighbor understood the reality of life.
Our Fat neighbor!! Oh she did the right thing!
What a smart fat neighbor!"
The boy remembered that their neighbor after the escape of his fat wife, started to spend all his time with his doves.
And he remembered that he was getting paler as well.
The sound of the doves when they rushed toward the seeds cut the boy thinking.
He started to look at the doves again.
And the loop of questions was rising again:
"Why he does not escape with another woman?!
But why he supposed to escape?
Form whom?!
To whom?!"
The little boy cut his thinking with his sentence:
"Anyway he prefers to live with doves than any other woman,
At least they are so loyal to him. They never escape.
Yes they are more loyal."
The little boy thought the soul of the pale soul and the soul of the doves were mixed together to be a great part of that roofs,
He was convinced that the doves are more loyal than his neighbor fat wife; at least they never escape with another man. They never complain.
The little boy stood on his feet, and started to look with grateful eyes at the doves, and there neighbor kept on throwing the seeds to them!!
But suddenly, the pale neighbor fell to the ground above the seeds. And the good-hearted doves followed him and started to speak him making strange voices.
The little boy cried and uttered:
"They are crying over him and trying to drag him out of the Death."
Yes because he is their friend since the roofs where existed.
They never betrayed him they are so loyal.
What a great doves, and after a few minutes, the doves flight away, at that moment he understood everything; they were not gathered for him, But for the seeds, it is their loyalty secret..
Yes tis the secret of their loyalty for that roof and that pale.
Even the doves,
Even the doves,
God damn them... These selfish creatures..
Since that day the little boy, Became little no more...

NEVERMORE

Once upon a midnight dreary, while I pondered weak and weary,Over many a quaint and curious volume of forgotten lore,While I nodded, nearly napping, suddenly there came a tapping,As of some one gently rapping, rapping at my chamber door...'Tis some visitor,' I muttered, ..tapping at my chamber door -Only this, and nothing more.'Ah, distinctly I remember it was in the bleak December,And each separate dying ember wrought its ghost upon the floor.Eagerly I wished the morrow; - vainly I had sought to borrow

From my books surcease of sorrow - sorrow for the lost Lenore -For the rare and radiant maiden whom the angels named Lenore -Nameless here for evermore.And the silken sad uncertain rustling of each purple curtainThrilled me - filled me with fantastic terrors never felt before;So that now, to still the beating of my heart, I stood repeating..'Tis some visitor entreating entrance at my chamber door -

Some late visitor entreating entrance at my chamber door; -This it is, and nothing more,'Presently my soul grew stronger; hesitating then no longer,..Sir,' said I, ..or Madam, truly your forgiveness I implore;But the fact is I was napping, and so gently you came rapping,And so faintly you came tapping, tapping at my chamber door,That I scarce was sure I heard you' - here I opened wide the door; -Darkness there, and nothing more.Deep into that darkness peering, long I stood there wondering, fearing,Doubting, dreaming dreams no mortal ever dared to dream beforeBut the silence was unbroken, and the darkness gave no token,And the only word there spoken was the whispered word, ..Lenore!

'This I whispered, and an echo murmured back the word, ..Lenore!'Merely this and nothing more.Back into the chamber turning, all my soul within me burning,Soon again I heard a tapping somewhat louder than before...Surely,' said I, ..surely that is something at my window lattice;Let me see then, what thereat is, and this mystery explore -Let my heart be still a moment and this mystery explore; -'Tis the wind and nothing more!

'Open here I flung the shutter, when, with many a flirt and flutter,In there stepped a stately raven of the saintly days of yore.Not the least obeisance made he; not a minute stopped or stayed he;But, with mien of lord or lady, perched above my chamber door -Perched upon a bust of Pallas just above my chamber door -Perched, and sat, and nothing more.Then this ebony bird beguiling my sad fancy into smiling,By the grave and stern decorum of the countenance it wore,..Though thy crest be shorn and shaven, thou,' I said, ..art sure no craven.Ghastly grim and ancient raven wandering from the nightly shore -Tell me what thy lordly name is on the Night's Plutonian shore!

'Quoth the raven, ..Nevermore.'Much I marvelled this ungainly fowl to hear discourse so plainly,Though its answer little meaning - little relevancy bore;For we cannot help agreeing that no living human beingEver yet was blessed with seeing bird above his chamber door -Bird or beast above the sculptured bust above his chamber door,With such name as ..Nevermore.'But the raven, sitting lonely on the placid bust, spoke only,That one word, as if his soul in that one word he did outpour.Nothing further then he uttered - not a feather then he fluttered -Till I scarcely more than muttered ..

Other friends have flown before -On the morrow he will leave me, as my hopes have flown before.'Then the bird said, ..Nevermore.'Startled at the stillness broken by reply so aptly spoken,..Doubtless,' said I, ..what it utters is its only stock and store,Caught from some unhappy master whom unmerciful disasterFollowed fast and followed faster till his songs one burden bore -Till the dirges of his hope that melancholy burden boreOf "Never-nevermore."'But the raven still beguiling all my sad soul into smiling,Straight I wheeled a cushioned seat in front of bird and bust and door;Then, upon the velvet sinking, I betook myself to linking

Fancy unto fancy, thinking what this ominous bird of yore -What this grim, ungainly, ghastly, gaunt, and ominous bird of yoreMeant in croaking ..Nevermore.'This I sat engaged in guessing, but no syllable expressing

To the fowl whose fiery eyes now burned into my bosom's core;This and more I sat divining, with my head at ease recliningOn the cushion's velvet lining that the lamp-light gloated o'er,But whose velvet violet lining with the lamp-light gloating o'er,She shall press, ah, nevermore!Then, methought, the air grew denser, perfumed from an unseen censerSwung by Seraphim whose foot-falls tinkled on the tufted floor...Wretch,' I cried, ..thy God hath lent thee - by these angels he has sent theeRespite - respite and nepenthe from thy memories of Lenore!Quaff, oh quaff this kind nepenthe, and forget this lost Lenore!'Quoth the raven, ..Nevermore.'..Prophet!' said I, ..thing of evil! - prophet still, if bird or devil! -Whether tempter sent, or whether tempest tossed thee here ashore,Desolate yet all undaunted, on this desert land enchanted -On this home by horror haunted - tell me truly, I implore -Is there - is there balm in Gilead? - tell me - tell me, I implore!'Quoth the raven, ..Nevermore.'..Prophet!' said I, ..thing of evil! - prophet still, if bird or devil!By that Heaven that bends above us - by that God we both adore -Tell this soul with sorrow laden if, within the distant Aidenn,It shall clasp a sainted maiden whom the angels named Lenore -Clasp a rare and radiant maiden, whom the angels named Lenore?'Quoth the raven, ..Nevermore.'..

Be that word our sign of parting, bird or fiend!' I shrieked upstarting -..Get thee back into the tempest and the Night's Plutonian shore!Leave no black plume as a token of that lie thy soul hath spoken!Leave my loneliness unbroken! - quit the bust above my door!Take thy beak from out my heart, and take thy form from off my door!'Quoth the raven, ..Nevermore.'And the raven, never flitting, still is sitting, still is sitting

On the pallid bust of Pallas just above my chamber door;And his eyes have all the seeming of a demon's that is dreaming,And the lamp-light o'er him streaming throws his shadow on the floor;And my soul from out that shadow that lies floating on the floorShall be lifted - nevermore!

The prophet MOHAMED peace & blessing upon him

All Nations and Countries are proud of their great people and heroes and depend on them in writing their History and building their Glories.

We didn’t hear, read or know someone greater than our beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) in what he offered to his Nation and to all Mankind.

Muhammad has given the greatest qualities by the Almighty Allah…

He is justice: Who said:” If Fatima- my daughter – did steal, I would cut her hand.”

He is modest: Who said to a woman who was awed by him:”Calm down; I’m just the son of a woman from Quraish who used to eat dried Bread.”

He is the worshiper: Who used to pray till he get swelled legs and cracked feet; so that his wife Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) told him:” Oh Messenger of Allah, why are you doing that to yourself since Allah overlooked all your past and future faults? The Prophet replied:” That’s why I like to be a thankful worshiper.”

The Prophet is also described as being so generous with no fear of poverty

Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) said:” Muhammad never refused helping anyone for the sake of Islam. He gave a man a drove of sheep so that the man went back to his tribe saying:” Follow Muhammad who is so generous and doesn’t fear poverty.”

“He also gave Safwan bin Umaiah in the Day of Hunain 100’s of cattle.” Narrated by Muslim

Who is as generous as him (PBUH)?

Who can give such gifts except him (PBUH).

Even the rich never give such gifts, and if they do, because they are rich, but Muhammad gives and may spend days hungry!

Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) reported: “Muhammad was very generous especially in the holy month of Ramadan (the fasting month).”

“The Prophet once received 70 thousand Dirham and started to give all needy till all the money finished.” Narrated by Abu Al Sheikh

He is the brave Leader who stands in the front lines in all Battles

Al Baraa’ (may Allah be pleased with him) reported:” We were protecting ourselves behind the Prophet when the Battles were very strong and the bravest among us was fighting side by side with him (PBUH).” Narrated by Muslim

And Ali (May Allah by pleased with him) reported:” When the Battles were overpowered, we were protecting ourselves behind the Prophet.” Narrated by Ahmad, and many other scholars.

*Notice that Al Baraa’ (the reporter of the 1st Hadith) is a very brave man, where as Ali (the reporter of the 2ed Hadith) is so much famous in his bravery and courage.

See how the bravest of men were not as brave as Muhammad (PBUH).

A man told Al Baraa’:” how could you leave the Prophet in the Day of Hunain?” Al Baraa’ replied “But the Prophet did not.” Agreed upon.

Al Baraa’ also said:” The Prophet was the best, the bravest and the most generous among all.”


He was gentle and patient with those hurting him (PBUH). When he conquered Makkah he forgave his folk who hurt and insulted him for years.

Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) reported: “A man came to the Prophet and spoke to him in a very bad way saying:” Oh Muhammad, give me some of Allah’s gifts you have.” The Prophet looked at him and smiled, then he ordered giving him the money he needed.” Agreed upon

Muhammad is the one having all great qualities and generous merits. Allah describes him in his Holy Quran: ”for the believers he is full of pity, kind and merciful.” (9/128)


Al Hassan Al Basri said commenting on a verse in the Holy Quran:”It was by the mercy of Allah that you were lenient with them “(3/159), he commented:” This is Muhammad’s morals, mentioned by the Almighty Allah.”

Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) said in describing the Prophet:” He was the most generous among men, the most delighted, the most honest in speech, very lenient, the best in companionship, respected by anyone seeing him, loved by anyone knowing him and the one describing him must say” I never saw and wont see anybody like him.” Narrated by Al Tirmithi, Abi Shaiba and Al Baihaki



This is just a drop out of a sea full of great qualities of the Prophet….

This is a reminder to everyone reading…

These are Muhammad’s Morals….So where are the real lovers and real followers?


Allah’s Peace and Blessings be upon him.

Message to all couples and in a relationship

When she walks away from you mad - Follow her

When she stares at your lips - Kiss her

When she pushes you or hits you - Grab her and don't let go

When she starts cursing at you - Kiss her and tell her you love her

When she's quiet - Ask her what's wrong

When she ignores you - Give her your attention

When she pulls away - Pull her back

When you see her at her worst - Tell her she's beautiful

When you see her start crying - Just hold her and don't say a word

When you see her walking - Sneak up and hug her waist from behind

When she's scared - Protect her

When she lays her head on your shoulder - Tilt her head up and kiss her

When she steals your favorite hat - Let her keep it and sleep with it for a night

When she teases you - Tease her back and make her laugh

When she doesn't answer for a long time - reassure her that everything is okay

When she looks at you with doubt - Back yourself up with the TRUTH

When she says that she likes you - she really does more than you could understand

When she grabs at your hands - Hold hers and play with her fingers

When she bumps into you - bump into her back and make her laugh

When she tells you a secret - keep it safe and untold

When she looks at you in your eyes - don't look away until she does

When she misses you - she's hurting inside.

When you break her heart - the pain NEVER really goes away

When she says its over - she STILL wants you to be hers

When she reposts this bulletin - she wants you to read it- Stay on the phone with her even if she's not saying anything-

DON'T let her have the last word- always call her when you know something's wrong- Pretty and beautiful is so much better than calling her hot.-

Say you love her more than she could ever love you- Argue that she is the best girl ever-

When she's mad - hug her tight and don't let go- When she says she's ok don't believe it, talk with her- because 10 yrs later she'll remember you- Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her- Treat her like she's all that matters to you-

Tease her and let her tease you back- Stay up all night with her when she's sick-

Watch her favorite movie with her or her favorite show even if you think it's stupid-

Give her the world- Let her wear your clothes-

When she's bored and sad, hang out with her-

Let her know she's important-

Kiss her in the pouring rain- When she runs up at you crying, the first thing you say is;

"Who's ass am I kicking today baby?"

Foods that never spoil?
What are some foods that never spoil?

I started to research your question and got as far as this first site, started laughing so hard I had to quit.

FINALLY, a way to know what to pitch and what to save!

THE GAG TEST - Anything that makes you gag is spoiled (except for leftovers from what you cooked for yourself last night). Ditto for things that make you violently ill.
EGGS - When something starts pecking its way out of the shell, the egg is probably past its prime. Especially if the something is NOT a chicken.
DAIRY PRODUCTS - Milk is spoiled when it starts to look like yogurt. Yogurt is spoiled when it starts to look like cottage cheese. Cottage cheese is spoiled when it starts to look like regular cheese. Regular cheese is nothing but spoiled milk anyway and can't get any more spoiled than it is already. Cheddar cheese is spoiled when you think it is blue cheese but you realize you've never purchased that kind. Blue cheese, by definition, is never spoiled.
MAYONNAISE - If it makes you violently ill after you eat it, the mayonnaise is spoiled.
FROZEN FOODS - Frozen foods that have become an integral part of the defrosting problem in your freezer compartment will probably be spoiled - (or wrecked anyway) by the time you pry them out with a kitchen knife.
EXPIRATION DATES - This is NOT a marketing ploy to encourage you to throw away perfectly good food so that you'll spend more on groceries. Perhaps you'd benefit by having a calender in your kitchen.
MEAT - If opening the refrigerator door causes stray animals from a three- block radius to congregate outside your house, the meat is spoiled. (or the smell alone can make you violently ill and/or unconscious)
BREAD - Sesame seeds and Poppy seeds are the only officially acceptable "spots" that should be seen on the surface of any loaf of bread. Fuzzy and hairy looking white or green growth areas are a good indication that your bread has turned into a pharmaceutical laboratory experiment.
FLOUR - Flour is spoiled when it wiggles.
SALT - It never spoils.
CEREAL - It is generally a good rule of thumb that cereal should be discarded when it is two years or longer beyond the expiration date.
LETTUCE - Bibb lettuce is spoiled when you can't get it off the bottom of the vegetable crisper without Comet. Romaine lettuce is spoiled when it turns liquid.
CANNED GOODS - Any canned goods that have become the size or shape of a softball should be disposed of. Carefully.
CARROTS - A carrot that you can tie in a clove hitch in is not fresh.
RAISINS - Raisins should not be harder than your teeth.
POTATOES - Fresh potatoes do not have roots, branches, or dense, leafy undergrowth.
CHIP DIP - If you can take it out of its container and bounce it on the floor, it has gone bad.
EMPTY CONTAINERS - Putting empty containers back into the refrigerator is an old trick, but it only works if you live with someone or have a maid.
UNMARKED ITEMS - You know it is well beyond prime when you're tempted to discard the Tupperware along with the food. Generally speaking, Tupperware containers should not burp when you open them.
GENERAL RULE OF THUMB - Most food cannot be kept longer than the average life span of a hamster. Keep a

"Great Uses Of Lemon In Our Kitchens"

101 New Uses for Everyday Things

Get 10 times more uses from such sure-to-have-around items as salt and dryer sheets with these clever ideas

10 New Uses for Lemon
“Lemon juice is the strongest food acid in our kitchens, strong enough to make life unbearable for most bacteria,” says Robert Wolke, professor emeritus of chemistry at the University of Pittsburgh and the author of What Einstein Told His Cook 2: The Sequel, Further Adventures in Kitchen Science (W. W. Norton, $26).

Use Lemon to:

1. Sanitize a chopping block. Run a slice of lemon over the surface to disinfect.

2. Eliminate the browning that occurs when food sits out too long. Sprinkle apple or pear slices with lemon juice before serving, or squeeze a bit into guacamole and give it a stir.3. Remove tough food stains from plastic and light-colored wooden cutting boards. Slice a lemon in half, squeeze the juice onto the soiled surface, rub, and let sit for 20 minutes. Rinse with water.

4. Fade tea stains on cloth. Dilute lemon juice with an equal amount of water. Use an eyedropper or a Q-tip to make sure the juice targets the stain. Thoroughly flush with cool water.

5. Decorate on the cheap. Fill a glass bowl with lemons for a sunny centerpiece. Or display a row of them along a windowsill.

6. Relieve a sore throat. Cut a lemon in half. Skewer one half over a medium flame on a gas stove or an electric burner set on high and roast until the peel turns golden brown. Let cool slightly, then mix the juice with 1 teaspoon of honey. Swallow the mixture.

7. Whiten fingernails. Rub a wedge on the surface of your nails.

8. Shine the interior of copper cookware. Sprinkle a lemon wedge with salt, then scrub.

9. Brighten laundry whites. Add 1/2 cup lemon juice to the wash cycle of a normal-size load.

10. Remove soft cheese or other sticky foods from a grater. Rub both sides of the grater with the pulp side of a cut lemon.

The Power of Our Words

Throughout our lives we casually say things, negative and positive without ever taking a moment to think about the power of our words. We all have our beliefs on how life should be, but what we forget is that what works for one person may not work for another, and because we each come to the table with a different set of beliefs and from a different background we will never see things exactly the same way. The thing about words that people don't always understand is that words have power.

Most of us desire happy lives with all the wonderful things filling it, but we spend a great deal of time thinking and talking about all the things that we are unhappy about or don't want, and in turn we continue receiving more of what we don't want. Whether positive or negative if you say or think something enough it will eventually happen.

So, instead of thinking and talking about what you don't want find the positive in the what you already have, and instead of thinking about all that you think is wrong with what you have think about how you would like it to be. It is more important to know the kind of life you want and believe that although it may not come the way you want it to come or look the way that you think that it should look just know that it will come.

We say things to and about each other that are sometimes unkind and hurtful, and many times more wounding than we can imagine. But just as we use our words and thoughts in an unkind way we can use them to uplift and motivate, and to change our lives in a positive way. It is easy to criticize someone because they don't think what you think or want what you want, but it is a bigger person who can use their words in a constructive way help someone understand their point of view or to help another person to better their life. It is like the old saying you get what you give. If you use your words and your life in a positive way you will get positive in return.

How are you using your words??

"A Vow That Should Kept,"Till Death Do Us Part"

As you've probably heard, nearly half of all marriages now end in divorce, leaving bitter spouses and confused children in their wake. Don't let this happen to you! Whether your marriage is going through tough times or is experiencing marital bliss, or even if you're not yet married but considering it, here's some free but proven advice to help your marriage last. It's straight from God, the one who created and ordained marriage! If you've tried everything else, why not give God a chance? Follow the keys in this guide, and you can secure your home.Seventeen Rules for a Happy Marriage From God's Great Book

1. Establish your own private home."Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh." Genesis 2:24.

Answer: God's rule is specific. A married couple must leave father and mother and establish their own home, even if finances require that it be a one-room apartment. Husband and wife should decide together on such policies as these. Then she should inform her relatives and he, his. They must remain firm no matter who opposes. Thousands of divorces would be avoided if this rule were carefully followed.

2. Continue your courtship."Above all hold unfailing your love for one another, since love covers a multitude of sins." 1 Peter 4:8, RSV.* "Her husband ... praiseth her." Proverbs 31:28. "She that is married careth ... how she may please her husband." 1 Corinthians 7:34. "Be kindly affectioned one to another ... in honour preferring one another." Romans 12:10.

Answer: Continue (or perhaps revive) the courtesies of courtship in your married life. Successful marriages do not just happen; they must be developed. Don't take each other for granted, or the monotony that results will destroy your marriage. Keep love growing by expressing love for one another or it will die, and you will drift apart. Love and happiness are not found by seeking them for yourself, but rather by giving them to others.

So spend as much time as possible doing things together if you would get along well. Learn to greet each other with enthusiasm. Relax, visit, shop, sightsee, eat together. Don't overlook the little courtesies, encouragements, and affectionate acts. Surprise each other with little gifts or favors. Try to "outlove" each other. Don't take more out of marriage than you put into it. Divorce itself is not the greatest destroyer of marriage, but rather, lack of love. Given a chance, love always wins.*The Revised Standard Version of the Bible, (C) 1946, 1952, 1971 by the Division of Christian Education of the National Council of the Churches of Christ in the USA. Used by permission.

3. Remember that God joined you together in marriage."For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife. ... Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." Matthew 19:5, 6.

Answer: Has love almost disappeared from your home? The devil (that notorious home-breaker) is responsible for this. Don't forget that God Himself joined you together in marriage, and He intends for you to stay together and be happy. He will bring happiness and love into your lives if you will obey His divine rules (commandments). "With God all things are possible." Matthew 19:26. Don't despair. God, who places love in the heart of a missionary for a leprous savage, can easily give you love for each other if you will let Him.

4. Guard your thoughts--don't let your senses trap you."For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he." Proverbs 23:7. "Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife." Exodus 20:17. "Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life." Proverbs 4:23. "Whatsoever things are true, ... honest, ... just, ... pure, ... lovely, ... of good report; ... think on these things." Philippians 4:8.

Answer: The wrong kind of thinking will destroy your marriage. The devil will trap you with thoughts like these: "Our marriage was a mistake." "She doesn't understand me." "I can't take much more of this." "We can always divorce if necessary." "I'll go home to mother." "He smiled at that woman." Stop thinking thoughts like these or your marriage is gone, because your thoughts and senses govern your actions. Avoid seeing, saying, reading, or hearing anything that (or associating with anyone who) suggests impurity or unfaithfulness. Thoughts uncontrolled are like an automobile in neutral on a hill. Anything can happen, and the result is always disaster.

5. Never retire for the night angry with each other."Let not the sun go down upon your wrath." Ephesians 4:26. "Confess your faults one to another." James 5:16. "Forgetting those things which are behind." Philippians 3:13. "Be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you." Ephesians 4:32.

Answer: To remain angry and upset over hurts and grievances (big or little) is exceedingly dangerous. Unless quickly solved, even little problems become set in your mind as convictions and attitudes adversely affecting your whole philosophy of life. This is why God says to let anger cool before retiring at night. Be big enough to forgive and to say with sincerity, "I'm sorry." After all, no one is perfect, and you are both on the same team, so be sportsmanlike enough to honestly admit a mistake when you make it. Besides, making up is a very pleasant experience, with unusual powers to draw marriage partners closer together. God suggests it! It works!

6. Keep Christ in the center of your home."Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it." Psalms 127:1. "In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths." Proverbs 3:6. "And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:7.

Answer: This is the greatest rule. It really covers all the others. Put Christ first! The real secret of true happiness in the home is not diplomacy, strategy, and untiring effort to overcome problems, but rather, union with Christ. Hearts filled with Christ's love can never be very far apart. With Christ in the home, marriage will be successful. The gospel is the cure for all marriages that are filled with hatred, bitterness, and disappointment. It prevents thousands of divorces by miraculously restoring love and happiness. It will save your marriage, too, if you are willing.

7. Pray together."Pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak." Matthew 26:41. "Pray one for another." James 5:16. "If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally." James 1:5.

Answer: Pray aloud for each other! This is a wonderful rule that succeeds beyond the wildest dream. Kneel before God and ask Him for true love for one another, for forgiveness, for strength, for wisdom--for the solution to problems. God has given a personal guarantee that He will answer. The praying person is not automatically cured of all of his faults, but he will have a heart that wants to do right. No family ever breaks up while sincerely praying together for God's help.

8. Agree that divorce is not the answer."What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." Matthew 19:6. "Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery." Matthew 19:9. "The woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth." Romans 7:2.

Answer: The Bible is clear. The ties of marriage are meant to be indissoluble and indestructible. Divorce is permissible only in the case of adultery. But even then it is not demanded, only permitted. Forgiveness is always better than divorce, even in the case of a moral fall. Marriage is for life. God so ordained it when He performed the first wedding in Eden. Thoughts of divorce as a solution will destroy any marriage. This is one reason Jesus ruled it out. Divorce is always destructive and almost never a solution to the problem. Instead, it creates much greater problems, so it should never be considered. Torn, frustrated, unhappy, twisted lives almost inevitably follow divorce, and even success in life itself is often thwarted. God instituted marriage to guard people's purity and happiness, to provide for their social needs, and to elevate their physical, mental, and moral nature. Its vows are among the most solemn and binding obligations that human beings can assume. To lightly set them aside results in removing one's self from God's favor and blessing.

9. Keep the family circle closed tightly.

"Thou shalt not commit adultery." Exodus 20:14. "The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her. ... She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life." Proverbs 31:11, 12. "The Lord hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously." Malachi 2:14. "Keep thee from the evil woman. ... Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelids. ... Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? ... So he that goeth in to his neighbour's wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent." Proverbs 6:24-29.

Answer: Family intimacies must never be shared with others--not even with parents. It is a great sin and a tragedy to break this God-given rule. A third person to sympathize or listen to complaints is a tool of the devil to estrange the hearts of husband and wife. Solve your home problems privately. No one else (except your minister or marriage counselor) should ever be involved. Always be truthful with each other, and never keep secrets from each other. Tell no jokes at the expense of your spouse's feelings. Vigorously defend each other, and strictly exclude all intruders. And as for adultery (in spite of what some marriage counselors say), it always hurts you and everyone else involved. God, who knows our mind, body, and emotional structure (and knows what helps or hurts us) says, "Thou shalt not." And when He says, "Don't," we had better not. Those who ignore His rule will pay the supreme penalty. So if flirtations have begun, break them off at once, or shadows may settle over your life that cannot be lifted.

10. God describes love; make it your daily goal to measure up."Love is forbearing and kind. Love knows no jealousy. Love does not brag; is not conceited. She is not unmannerly, nor selfish, nor irritable, nor mindful of wrongs. She does not rejoice in injustice, but joyfully sides with the truth. She can overlook faults. She is full of trust, full of hope, full of endurance." 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, Weymouth.*

Answer: Please reread the above Scripture passage carefully. This is God's true description of love. How do you measure up? Love is not a sentimental impulse, but a holy principle that involves every phase and action of life. With true love, your marriage cannot fail. Without it, it cannot succeed.*Weymouth's New Testament in Modern Speech by Richard Francis Weymouth. Special arrangement with James Clarke & Company Ltd.

11. Remember that criticism and nagging destroy love."Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them." Colossians 3:19. "It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman." Proverbs 21:19. "A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike." Proverbs 27:15. "Why beholdest thou the mote [splinter] that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam [whole board] that is in thine own eye?" Matthew 7:3. "Love ... looks for a way of being constructive." 1 Corinthians 13:4, Phillips.*

Answer: Stop criticizing, nagging, and faultfinding. Your husband or wife may lack much, but nagging won't help. Don't expect perfection, or bitterness will result. Overlook faults, and hunt for the good things. Don't try to reform, control, or compel your partner--you will destroy love. Only God can change people. A sense of humor, a cheerful heart, kindness, patience, and affection will banish two-thirds of your marriage problems. Try to make your spouse happy rather than good, and the good will take care of itself. The secret of a successful marriage lies not in having the right partner, but rather in being the right partner.

12. Do not overdo in anything; be temperate."Every man that striveth for the mastery is temperate in all things." 1 Corinthians 9:25. "Love ... does not pursue selfish advantage." 1 Corinthians 13:5, Phillips.* "Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God." 1 Corinthians 10:31. "I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection." 1 Corinthians 9:27. "If any would not work, neither should he eat." 2 Thessalonians 3:10. "Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled." Hebrews 13:4. "Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that ye should obey it in the lusts thereof. Neither yield ye your members as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin." Romans 6:12, 13.

Answer: Overdoing will ruin your marriage. So will underdoing. Work, love, rest, exercise, play, worship, meals, and social contacts must be carefully balanced in your marriage, or something will snap. Overwork and the lack of sleep, proper food, or exercise make a person critical, intolerant, and negative. Constant overeating is a great evil that strengthens the lower nature and dulls the conscience.Sexual abuses destroy a love for holy things and weaken vitality. Marriage gives no license to sexual excesses. Degrading, twisted, or intemperate sex acts destroy love and respect for one another. A temperate sex life is recommended by the Bible (1 Corinthians 7:3-7). Social contacts with others are absolutely essential. True happiness cannot be found in isolation. We must learn to laugh and enjoy wholesome, good times. To be overly serious is dangerous. Overdoing or underdoing in anything weakens the mind, body, conscience, and the ability to love and respect one another. Don't let intemperance wreck your marriage.13. Respect each other's personal rights and privacies.

"Love is forbearing. ... Love knows no jealousy. ... She is not unmannerly, nor selfish. ... She does not rejoice in injustice. ... She is full of trust." 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, Weymouth.* "Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another." Romans 12:10.

Answer: Each spouse has a God-given right to certain personal privacies without explanation. Do not tamper with each other's wallets or purses, personal mail, and other private property unless given permission. The right to privacy and quietude when preoccupied should be respected. Your husband or wife even has a right to be wrong part of the time and is entitled to an "off-day" without being given the third degree.

Marriage partners do not own each other and should never try to force personality changes. Only God can make such changes, and we shall all answer personally to Him on this matter (Romans 14:12). Perfect confidence and trust in one another--no checking up on each other--is absolutely essential for happiness. Spend less time trying to "figure out" your spouse and more time trying to please her or him. This works wonders.*Weymouth's New Testament in Modern Speech by Richard Francis Weymouth. Special arrangement with James Clarke & Company Ltd.

14. Be clean, modest, orderly, and dutiful."In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel." 1 Timothy 2:9. "She ... works with willing hands." "She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household." "She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness." Proverbs 31:13, 15, 27, RSV.* "Be ye clean." Isaiah 52:11. "Let all things be done decently and in order." 1 Corinthians 14:40. "If any provide not ... for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel." 1 Timothy 5:8. "Be not slothful." Hebrews 6:12.

Answer: Laziness, disorder, dirt, and slovenliness are the devil's weapons to destroy your respect and affection for one another, and thus ruin your marriage. Neat, modest attire and clean, well-groomed bodies are essential for both husband and wife. The meals should be wholesome, attractive, and served on time. The home should be clean and orderly, because this brings peace, calmness, and satisfaction to all. A lazy, shiftless husband who does not provide for his household is a curse to his family and an insult to God. Carelessness in some of these seemingly small matters is destroying homes by the thousands.*The Revised Standard Version of the Bible, (C) 1946, 1952, 1971 by the Division of Christian Education of the National Council of the Churches of Christ in the USA. Used by permission.

15. Determine to speak softly and kindly."A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger." Proverbs 15:1. "Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest." Ecclesiastes 9:9. "When I became a man, I put away childish things." 1 Corinthians 13:11.

Answer: Force yourself to speak softly and kindly to your spouse. Silence, when one is attacked, is often the best method to cool wrath. Decisions made when angry, tired, or discouraged are unreliable anyway, so it's best to relax and let anger cool. And when you do speak, let it always be quietly and lovingly. Harsh, angry words crush your spouse's desire to please you.

16. Be reasonable in money matters."It [love] is not possessive. ... Love has good manners and does not pursue selfish advantage." 1 Corinthians 13:4, 5, Phillips.* "God loveth a cheerful giver." 2 Corinthians 9:7.

Answer: All possessions and income in marriage should be "ours," not "yours" and "mine." Wives who don't work outside the home should receive a regular amount for groceries, clothing, and other budgeted items. It should be cheerfully provided instead of grudgingly released under protest. Wife and husband both should have small, equal sums (whenever possible) to spend as desired without giving account. A miserly husband usually angers his wife into being a spender, just as a wasteful husband makes a wife stingy. Showing confidence in your companion's managing ability will usually make him or her more businesslike.

17. Talk things over and counsel together freely. "It [love] is neither anxious to impress nor does it cherish inflated ideas of its own importance. ... It is not touchy." 1 Corinthians 13:4, 5, Phillips.* "He that refuseth instruction despiseth his own soul." Proverbs 15:32. "Seest thou a man wise in his own conceit? there is more hope of a fool than of him." Proverbs 26:12.

Answer: Few things will strengthen your marriage more than counseling together on all major decisions. Changing a job or purchasing a home, an automobile, a boat, furniture, clothing (major items at least), and all other items that require money involve both husband and wife, and the opinions of both should be considered. Talking things over together will avoid many blunders that could ruin your marriage. If, after much discussion and earnest prayer, opinions still differ, the wife should submit to her husband's decision. Scripture is clear on this. (See Ephesians 5:22-24.)

18. I want my home to be a place the angels of heaven enjoy visiting.

Answer:
Thought Questions

1. Which marriage partner should be the first to confess after a quarrel? (Romans 15:1 )The one who was in the right!

2. Could you suggest a rule for a meddlesome mother-in-law? (1 Thessalonians 4:11 )Yes! Be quiet and mind your own business! (See 1 Thessalonians 4:11.) In fact, this rule applies to all in-laws. Many a marriage that might have been a little heaven on earth has been changed into hell by in-laws. The duty of all in-laws is to leave the newly established home strictly alone.

3. My husband is a godless man, and I am trying to be a Christian. His influence is terrible. Should I divorce him? (1 Corinthians 7:12 )No! Read 1 Corinthians 7:12-14 and 1 Peter 3:1, 2. God gives a specific answer.

4. When my husband displeases me, I won't sleep with him. He says I am wrong. Am I? (1 Corinthians 7:4 )Yes! God gives a definite answer to this question in 1 Corinthians 7:4, 5.

5. My wife ran off with another man. Now repentant, she wants to return home. My pastor says I should take her back, but God forbids this, doesn't He? (Matthew 6:14 )No. No, indeed! God permits divorce for adultery, but does not command it. Forgiveness is always better and is always in order. (See Matthew 6:14, 15.) Divorce will seriously mar your life and the lives of your children. Give her another chance! The golden rule (Matthew 7:12) applies here. If you and your wife will turn your lives over to Christ, He will make your marriage supremely happy. It is not too late.

6. What can I do? Men are always attempting familiarities with me. (1 Thessalonians 5:22 )Be very careful of your conduct. God says, "Abstain from all appearance of evil." 1 Thessalonians 5:22. Perhaps your conduct around men--a suggestive smile, immodest clothing, off-color jokes, or a "too relaxed" and comfortable attitude--encourages their advances. There is something about Christian reserve and dignity that keeps a man in his place. Christ said, "Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven." Matthew 5:16. When Christ really shines from your life, you will have little trouble with evil men and their advances.

7. Can you tell me simply and plainly what God's counsel is to one who has fallen but is truly repentant? (John 8:11 )Long ago Christ gave a pointed and comforting answer to one who had fallen into immorality but was repentant. He said, "Go, and sin no more." John 8:11. His counsel still applies today.8. Isn't the "innocent party" in a divorce sometimes partially guilty also? (1 Samuel 16:7 )Certainly. Sometimes the "innocent party," by lovelessness, inattentiveness, self-righteousness, unkindness, selfishness, nagging, and downright coldness, can encourage evil thoughts and actions in his or her spouse. Sometimes the "innocent party" may be equally as guilty before God as the "guilty" one. God looks upon our motives and judges accordingly. "For the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart." 1 Samuel 16:7.9. Does God expect me to live with a physically abusive spouse? ( )Physical abuse can be life threatening and is a serious problem that demands immediate attention. The spouse and family members who have been physically abused must find a safe environment in which to live. Both husband and wife need to seek professional help through a qualified Christian marriage counselor.

12 ways to better yourself

How To Be A Better Partner

If you have ever been in a relationship that failed, you most likely have sat down afterwards and wondered what went wrong. Sometimes it is easy to spot how much of it was their fault but it is not too easy to look at where you, personally, went wrong. Everybody wants to be the best at what they do, and being the best you can be for your partner is no exception.

Listed below are 12 simple lessons that will help you to achieve that goal. Remember, if you want to be good to someone else, you also have to be good to yourself.

Be romantic.Whenever a relationship starts to fail, the lack of romance is one of the first indicators. It is very natural for people to get complacent and forget the fun things they used to do when they first got together. A relationship has to be constantly worked on and being romantic is an absolute must.

Never disparage yourself.Whenever you are disparaging yourself, you are basically saying that you are no good for your partner. If you don't believe that you are good enough for them, then you won't be. It's as simple as that. Don't sit around and beat yourself up over past mistakes, that will only prevent you from trying and succeeding at new things tomorrow.

Always be honest.There is not one single relationship that will succeed in the long run if built on a lie. Even if your partner never finds out the truth, the fact that you know you lied will affect your feelings for yourself and your partner. With that kind of a hindrance, the relationship will never reach it's full potential.

Do not do things just to keep your partner happy.How many times have you done something for or to your partner that you really did not want to do, just to make them happy? How did it make you feel? Every time you compromise yourself in that way, a piece of your love for them dies. It is much better to explain to them that you don't feel good about certain things and work on an alternative together.

Do not ask your partner to do things you know they don't want to do.This is the reverse of the above lesson and fairly self-explanatory. If you know they really don't like doing something, and if that something is for you and of no benefit to them, then why ask them to do it unless you are being selfish or mean?

Do not belittle your partner.Everyone makes mistakes in life and everyone works or catches on at different speeds. If you spend your time nagging at your partner or putting them down about every little thing they do wrong, then how can you expect them to do anything right? Do you want a life-partner or a puppy dog?

Do not put off things you have promised to do.Trust is an important part of any relationship and it needs to be developed. If you say you are going to do something and don't, then how can your partner rely on you in the future?
Always be there for your partner.Nothing is more important in your life than your partner. Friends come and go, as do children, but your partner is with you for the whole journey. If they are in trouble or need you, nothing else matters, other than to be there for them.

Communicate.Things change in a relationship almost on a daily basis. If you don't talk to your partner you could very easily wake up one day and find that you have drifted too far apart to bridge the gap.

Do not commit adultery or other harmful acts against your relationship.This one is really self-explanatory. Nothing destroys a relationship faster than infidelity or wrong doings.

Treat your partner with respect.It is extremely easy to take someone for granted and once you start to cross that line, it is very difficult to go back. Be careful not to treat your partner worse than you would treat your best friend.

Be open and receptive to your partner's wants and wishes.It takes two people to have a relationship and when you shut one of them out because you are not open to their ideas and wishes then you really don't have a relationship at all. Always be open and receptive to what they say. Also, be open to new experiences and ideas, you never know what you might learn.

Friends and Lovers

Can platonic relationship turn passionate? Would you want it to?

Pop culture abounds with examples of friends who’ve navigated or tried to the path to romance
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Chandler in friends, Laurie and Jo march in Little Women and Harry met Sally…which explores sexual tension to determine if, in fact, men and women can be friends.
Can men and women be friends? I mean, can they really be just friends?

All friendships, even same sex ones, have ambiguous and changing boundaries. You may think somebody’s a best friend but and they just consider you a casual friend. Perception is not always the same.

In other words your perceptive can shift. Suddenly you see a friend as desirable but he or she still sees you as only a friend. Which leaves you with two choices, you can try to change it to a romantic relationship or you can learn to live with it so that there’s flirtatious banter.

It’s sexual attraction without acting on it. And the primary reason many of us don’t act is fear: the worry that if our friends rebuffs us or move from platonic to romantic fails, friendship is irrecoverable.

It is shame but there’s a comfort to friendship that often gets destroyed when romantic feelings are raised, an awkwardness that accompanies the transition into and out of these feelings.
It feels very uncomfortable when somebody likes you more than you like them and making transition is always a risk. You should be really sure you want to take that risk before you make the move.

The right timing often is paired with the maturity to understand the difference between what makes friends compatible and what makes romantic partners compatible. Do you both want kids? Where do you want to live? These kind of talks, so pragmatic are imperative to saving a relationship.

“The friend definition very different from the romantic one” Kathy Werking says, “Flaws that are OK in a friendship may not be OK in a romantic relationship.”
But if the flaws are benign and there’s a spark, that’s a great place to be.

Is he really good enough for me ???

My life may have been about him at one point.
But I have come to learn that my life was never about him.
It was about choosing to love him.

And when it unreciprocated, that was the speed bump.
I needed to warn my self that at times of euphoria,
I really need to slow down,
And I should ask my self...
"IS HE REALLY GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME?!?"

Love Quotes 4 u...!!

Love Is In The Air

"Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing." - Goethe"

To be in love is merely to be in a state of perceptual anesthesia." - H.L. Mencken"

Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it...It really is worth fighting for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk everything, you risk even more." - Erica Jong"

Sometimes love is stronger than a man's convictions." - Isaac Bashevis Singer"

Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness." - Oliver Wendell Holmes"

Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it." - Robert Mitchum"

Love stretches your heart and makes you big inside." - Margaret Walker"

Love has no awareness of merit or demerit; it has no scale... Love loves; this is its nature." - Howard Thurman"Love is like war: Easy to begin but hard to end." - Anonymous"

Where love is, no room is too small." - Talmud"

Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." - Mark Twain"

Love is more than three words mumbled before bedtime. Love is sustained by action, a pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day." - Nicholas Sparks"

To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven." - Karen Sunde"A love song is just a caress set to music." - Sigmund Romberg"

Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit." - Peter Ustinov"

Love is like a violin. The music may stop now and then, but the strings remain forever." - unknown"

Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence." - Erich Fromm"

In the final analysis, love is the only reflection of man's worth." - Bill Wundram, Iowa Quad Cities Times"

Love doesn't make the world go round, love is what makes the ride worthwhile." - Elizabeth Browning"

To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down."- Woody Allen

What Keeps Us From Being Truly Happy

What keeps us from being truly happy is quite simple really, yet difficult to put into practice until we really understand it. The fact of the matter is that the living entity is a pure spiritual being, but encased within a material body. What this means is that the individual soul, when in the materially conditioned state, identifies itself as this temporary body, which may, for example, be male or female, black or white, young or old, American or Russian, healthy or sickly, or something else. When the spiritual identity is transferred to the temporary body, all of the desires that the living entity has are then focused on the physical form, centered around the mind and senses. So the living being then tries to seek pleasure and satisfaction by serving the mind and senses. The problem is that there is a lack of reality in material existence since its basis is on the wrong identity. Material activities have little to do with the spiritual being within the body. Therefore, at some point the living being, who is almost lying dormant in the material form, will become restless with this lack of attention for its spiritual needs and start to wake up to the fact that he is still not fulfilled or satisfied, in spite of how many material engagements have occupied him. This then carries over into material consciousness, and the person will then feel unhappy with the way things have gone.

So it is the material mind and senses that have desires for sensual pleasure, which the mind may interpret as happiness. Yet the soul is still waiting for the proper attention to fulfill its own spiritual needs. The soul is simply the observer of material activities, and does not participate in them. It is like watching a movie, or having an out of body experience when merely watching what the body is doing, or what is happening to the body. But the soul is not the material body. It is only within it.¹ The correct understanding is that the gross physical and subtle bodies (consisting of mind, intelligence and false ego) have nothing to do with the pure spirit soul within the body. They are simply a superficial covering of the pure Self.² For this reason it is considered that the most foolish part of spiritual ignorance is identifying with the temporary material body. It is this misconception that precedes the idea that my legs, my hands, or my head are actually myself. Then all that appears to be connected with the body becomes "my" wife, "my" husband, "my" family, "my" property, "my" job or duties, "my" money, and on and on. All this continues without considering that we came into this world with nothing, and when we die we take with us nothing. Then everything in between those two conditions called birth and death are but temporary activities and belongings that do not really have much of a connection with our real identity.³ This is what people forget to consider, and what gives rise to the numerous problems that follow this initial misconception.

The main foolishness of the gross materialistic lifestyle is that people work very hard for what they think will be a permanent home, family, or career. What upsets most people is when they learn or experience that nothing is permanent. Something always happens sooner or later to disrupt or take away what they have been working to accomplish or acquire.⁴ So in truth, the spirit soul only "imagines" or "pretends" (for lack of better words) that he or she is the material body. Yes, the body is real, and so is a dream, but only as long as the person does not wake up from the dream. Once he awakes, then he sees through the illusion of the experience, regardless of how real it may have seemed to be. Similarly, as a person enjoys or suffers in a dream, life on the material plane is also illusory and full of joys and sorrows of short duration that have little to do with the spiritual Self. In this way, without proper regard for our spiritual identity, one thinks he is a permanent part of this temporary world.⁵ The individual and independent soul is transcendental or above the material nature. It exists on a much higher frequency or vibrational level. Thus, the soul can never actually be affected by material happiness or distress. It is only due to the false ego that causes the bodily covering to overwhelm the spiritual being and consider itself a material form. This further creates the tendency for one to enjoy or suffer while influenced by bodily activities, although a person is actually above it all. The purpose of spiritual practices is to relieve a person from this condition, and reawaken one to his genuine spiritual identity. Therefore, once again, because there is no real or permanent connection between the living being and matter, all happiness and distress have no essential reality in material existence. They go on as regular events, with you or without you. The more we think we are these material bodies that need to be served and catered to, the more we will be absorbed in the illusory highs and lows of life, which have little to do with who and what we really are. This is the main reason why our material engagements are limited in how much happiness or pleasure they can ever give us.

THE WRONG AIM IN LIFE

Because of the bodily conception of our identity, it brings us to the wrong aim of life, which is our motivation toward selfish material enjoyment. This is what keeps us in the illusion and prolongs whatever suffering and anxiety we may be experiencing. For example, when we have worked hard in our life and have struggled to attain a house, and are surrounded by wife or husband, children, community, have an education, a career, or whatever else we have wanted, sometimes we feel very happy. Sometimes we are completely jubilant, yet sometimes we are not so satisfied. At other times we may feel completely bewildered, not sure of what we want. In this way, for whatever reason, things are always changing. Again we find that what we think gives us security or happiness is an illusion because the mood of the mind is always fluctuating. Because of that alone, what once was like nectar in the beginning can become like poison in the end. When something is new it may be exciting, but after some time it can get dry and tasteless. That's the nature of the material world. So if you are looking for steady and sure happiness by being absorbed in the material energy, one must be aware of this shortcoming.

One key point here is that real happiness can be found in any condition, as long as you begin to make the connection with your higher Self. Once you realize that you are a spiritual being, you can understand that you are never connected to matter because you are a part of the superior spiritual energy of God. Always. You are a minute particle of eternity, bliss and omniscience. However, you are part of the marginal potency in the sense that you have the free will to either become absorbed in the material energy or be released from it. It's your decision. Once you make that decision, then you can engage in those practices to raise yourself, your consciousness, to higher levels of perception and attain freedom from the encroaching material problems that can, at times, seem overwhelming. Or you can remain absorbed in relishing whatever attracts your senses and the ups and downs that go with it.

Nonetheless, when the mind is motivated by passion, a person is forced into making many plans. Then he pursues them and voluntarily accepts so many troubles in hopes of attaining happiness and something meaningful in this world as a result of his schemes. Through this means he expects to enjoy life. He sees a beautiful house, and he wants one. He sees a fast car, and he wants one. He sees a lovely lady, and he wants her. This is because he thinks that surrounding himself with such possessions will make him happy. He thinks that once he achieves any of these, then he can relish his accomplishments.¹⁰ This is the way that achieving the results of one's hard work gives a false sense of happiness.¹¹ A person may feel that he has attained his goals, but such happiness soon gives way to the next desire or goal, or even the next problem. The fact of the matter is that one who cannot control his senses comes under the control of never-ending material desires. One with uncontrolled senses never feels satisfied with what he has for long. He always wants more or something new.¹² Thus, without realizing it, he is forced to act on those desires for more and more prizes, accomplishments, and possessions. His life often becomes more complicated, and the happiness he longs for keeps alluding him, like the donkey chasing after the carrot. The donkey does not understand that the more he chases after the carrot, the more he is merely serving a master. Thus, the materialist is forced to continue to serve his unquenchable thirst for material enjoyment at the dictates of the master, known as his mind and senses.

Yet as time goes on, he may question the course of action he has taken. He may indeed look around and wonder why he has not attained the happiness for which he had hoped. He sees that time has slipped away. In fact, he may be an old man, and if he has not kept himself so busy that he has no time to reflect on life, he may start to worry that death is drawing near. His friends may start to die off, giving a warning sign that his turn may be next. At that time, he may feel that all of his prizes, possessions, and property and wealth, have lost the meaning that they once had. They cannot protect him from death, and he has made no spiritual progress to console himself of what future lies ahead of him. Without proper spiritual knowledge, a person is left with nothing but his own ignorance for his counsel in trying to figure what to do. Thus, at death, the materialist is taken away from everything he had worked for and everything that had given him any pleasure, and another life goes by without gaining any substantial understanding of the true purpose of it.

WRONG AMBITIONS AND THEIR HIDDEN RESULTS

Those people who are trapped by the desire to enjoy material life cannot understand the real goal of earthly existence. One who is overly attached to the objects of material happiness cannot understand that he is wasting precious time by working to merely maintain house and home.

The real purpose of life is to realize the Absolute Truth, and that chance is spoiled by the pursuit of too many materialistic goals. A foolish person cannot understand that life offers the chance for real liberation, freedom from the limitations that capture a person while in this material creation, and freedom from the essential problems of life, starting with birth, disease, old age and death.¹³

Unfortunate as it may be, those interested in enjoying a so-called beautiful life, surrounded by family and friends, and searching after wealth, think that such things are life's ultimate goal. Such people never find life's true purpose. Thus, they are forced to go through many lifetimes engaged in the same pursuits.¹⁴ In this way, the conditioned soul continues to wander throughout the world in various lives searching after the same happiness as always. Sometimes he may be fortunate in a high position, and at other times he may suffer in a low circumstance. In any case, in his search for material happiness he is ever neglecting the way toward real freedom from these continuous ups and downs.¹⁵

As we all know, while living in the material world, we do need to make a living, and have money and necessities to survive. Nonetheless, a spiritually progressive person is not so interested in anything that is temporary. When he or she knows the transcendental pleasures of spiritual life, such a person will engage in the spiritual pursuits that deliver one to the unlimited happiness within the Absolute Truth, in connection with one's higher Self and the Supreme Being. After all, materialistic pleasures are available even to the hogs and dogs who also eat, sleep and have sex. What is the need for a human being to strive so hard for the same thing? Better to strive for spiritual purification which allows our consciousness to enter into the spiritual strata wherein exists unlimited transcendental bliss. In such a state, the living being can attain self-sufficient happiness and feel that wherever he may be and at all times, without being dependent on temporary material facilities for sensual pleasure.

Therefore, the key point is that, yes, work to maintain yourself, keep your body and soul fit. Work to attain basic happiness while living in this world, but keep your life simple. This allows you to be free from the many complexities that actually create more problems and less peace of mind. Raise your family peacefully, if you have one. However, we should keep in mind that we must not be overly attached or affectionate to anything without striving for spiritual consciousness. Such material attachment without the spiritual perspective is what leads us farther away from the true happiness and contentment that we seek.¹⁶ We must reflect on how we can continue to aspire for keeping all of our relations in the proper frame work of spiritual Truth. That is where we all, not only ourselves but also the people with whom we are involved, can be truly happy and peaceful.

Fighting for Love

During the course of a person's lifetime, one cannot always escape the grim reality of a battle. Of course I don't mean battle like a sense of war but more or less by its meaning; an encounter between two opposing forces. Whether it's an external or internal threat, battles are always fought whether we want to or not. There will always be someone or something that would oppose to what we believe in, what we feel and what we hold dear. There will always be something that will hinder us from winning a certain battle during the course of our lives.

Most of the times, aside from the usual heartaches that we feel when we're in love, we are also in danger of fighting for that particular love. Whether it's another person, or our beliefs, or just something from our past, fighting is inevitable. I don't mean of course that fighting between the lovers but the external threats that surround both sides. Most of the times, families tend to come between two lovers (Romeo and Juliet much?) and often times, past lovers come back with desperation or vengeance to claim what was or should be rightfully theirs. Sometimes, beliefs can also come between the two lovers and there are just some technicalities that may seem random but are potential reasons why something will always hinder two people from loving.

Yet, for some reason, when the battle becomes a one-sided battle, more often than not, one or the other will give up. Whether it's the pain of seeing the other get hurt or just tired from fighting for something that won't be theirs, giving up may sound the rational thing to do. But from here on in, how can you assure yourself that what you did in the past will definitely not happen again? If you gave up on someone you love, how can you be so sure that you won't do it again the next time you fall in love? When love is true, when love is pure, despite all adversities, pain is never a reason to let go or give up. If you truly love a person, then you should give it your all to fight for that somebody, to make sure that he/she will never be gone or taken away from you. Often times, we find ourselves asking the question "if he/she really worth fighting for? Is our love worth fighting for?". The answer to those questions will have different answers coming from different perspectives. But the one thing that will bind all answers despite their difference is how much you love that person. Fighting for love is a test of your character, to see how far you are willing to go for that someone, to see how much pain you're willing to endure for him/her. "Strength through adversity" does not apply directly to wars and warriors but also applies to a relationship. However, it takes two of you to fight for your relationship and for your love, keeping each other strong and holding on through tough times.

In my personal perspective, I'll always fight for the one that I love, no matter the adversity. And the answer that I'm about to give to this question "is she really worth fighting for? Is our love worth fighting for?" is "YES". Come what may, love is always worth fighting for, whether it's a simple form of love for friends to a more deeper and profound feeling of love towards your special someone.

" HE'S NOT GOOD ENOUGH "

HE'S NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU

They dated for ten months before it ended. She was an upper class, stunningly beautiful woman with a master's degree and high ambition. He was a nice-looking middle-class man with a high school degree and no aspirations beyond the local fitness club. Aside from their economical differences, they got along great. The sex was incredible, they had the same interests, and they always had fun together. So what went wrong?

Women have come a long way in the past few decades. We are educated, have respectable jobs, even buy our own houses. We marry later, date longer, and spend years searching for the right man. In the interim, we meet a lot of men who just "aren't quite right," for reasons we can't describe. We tell ourselves we can make it work. And we try and try, but eventually, inevitably, we fail.

Men are by their very nature hunters and gatherers. They have an inborn need to provide for a family. Yes, society has changed, but does that change that instinct they were born with? I say it just leaves them feeling confused and a little...lost.

It sounds snobby to say it, but if a woman of a certain social standing meets a man who is, by society's definition, lower than her on the class totem pole, the relationship is likely doomed from the beginning. Not that it's not possible to make a relationship work...I just personally have not seen too many that do. I see a lot of couples try and it always seems that things get fouled up somewhere along the way.

A man likes to feel like a man. Dating or being married to a woman who has her life together more than he does emasculates him somewhat. It may not even be on a conscious level. Sure...there are plenty of men who say they'd love to end up with a woman who can pay their way in life. They could be stay-at-home dads or maybe just not work at all. And maybe that's fine with the woman but I suspect somewhere, deep down, something is eating away at that man.

I've personally witnessed it. Men with more successful women, women who seem to have it all together. The relationship doesn't work out and, next thing you know, he's dating a cocktail waitress or his cleaning lady. A woman who makes less money than he does. A woman who looks up to him, who thinks of him as a strong, successful man who can provide for her, whether she wants to marry or not. You see, this is all on a subconscious level.

Then there are the men who marry above their class and end up having affairs with women whom they feel are lesser than them. What the marriage has depleted in him, the affair gives back. A woman looks up to him, makes him feel like a man again. Yes, he has to go outside of his marriage to get it but he craves it. He needs to feel needed.

But the real problem is that more and more women are becoming major go-getters. I see women with master's degrees and Ph.Ds. Women who run their own businesses and invest in real estate. Women who have it all together. The only thing missing is a man to share it with.

Are there enough eligible men in this world to live up to all that? How many men with Ph.Ds marry the pretty girl at the gym, with not much going for her but looks? What happens to all the women who are strong, capable, and highly educated?

Are some women just too smart to date?

I'm so confused , I know i'm good in giving advice to other people who needs it but i am having a hard time analyzing if i'm applying the right solution to my own problems.

About problems....i've got plenty of it but i tend to solve it anyway not realizing how sometimes the solution just popped-out.I'm a very optimistic person , i guess so,from my personal point of view.I always try to look the brigthside of every situation even there are times i felt that i'm at the dead end still hoping that i can make through somehow,luckily i had survived those hardships & trial that came to my life.

In my age of 28 i had been through a lot of experiences that made me a stronger person bec. i always try to learn from my past experiences.

I'm not perfect & nobody is but i always try my best to be a better person not to satisfy anyone or to show others what i can be but for my own self satisfaction.It brings me joy if i excel in everything i do even on the most simplest task i oath to do.

In my own way i know i am an achiever because i don't give up easily on anything i can endure enough pain to survive but what weakens me is I move using more of my heart instead of my head.

Still i have many dreams i want to fulfill & goals to achieve.I want to live my life in a more meaningful way.

I believe in due time ill be able to reach those dreams with the help of my migthy creator,he is the only friend i've got when there is no one to turn to.

Now,i'd been through a lot of sef realization on what i wanted to pursue & what are my priorities in life.

Many thought that i'm absurd to be friending someone who is unattainable,i did'nt believe them bec. i know there is no such thing as unattainable asides from God.

I believed that this guy had love me to the extent that i dreamt spending the rest of my life with him.But this is not just all about my faith,i love this guy so much but there many questions that is bugging me.Is my love enough to accept him?Can i really endure all the pain that this so called love will bring ?

No, it really doesn’t matter.

However, sometimes it hurts.

I'm sitting here typing through the haze of the medications that they have given me to make me "normal". To civilize me. To make me acceptable to the life society says I must live. I fear my own statements will not make sense, I fear that I will forget to spell my words correctly. Mostly, I fear the demon that keeps my words locked away from me.

I'm in my bathrobe, listening to the sound of Little Wonders, playing over and over again, on my sons cd player. His calming song. His song that he told me as he placed his small hand on his heart, "Mommy it makes me feel something in here". I love my son. I should look to him for wisdom, because most wisdom is only found in simplicity.

In the past two days, I've taken my profile out into the world of myspace. The first time to support one of my fellow citizens. The second time, to pass sometime with an interesting person, that has similar beliefs but has differing opinions on how much effort is to be put into that particular set of beliefs. Also, I thought maybe there was some learning to be done. Some information to be collected that I had not yet been exposed to, and that was exciting to me.
What I found was that people, be it on myspace, be it in the real world, are frightened by what they don't know, what they don't understand. I found the ugliness in the world that I have been hiding from for so long. Tonight though, this isn't about the real world. It's about the fake world, the myspace world.

I spend my time on myspace, with the most well known bullies on the site. Straight up, we're mean and we hit low and we don't stop until the emotional blood flows. This, is where I find my solace. I know, it sounds odd, but there people don't hide behind an artifical act of purpose, or politeness for the sake of others.

I'm learning and growing everyday. I'm glad for that. I'm also remembering that I am human. I have my own set of values, my own set of beliefs, my own philosophy on how this whole bit called life works. I don't believe in god. I don't believe in spirtuality much either. I believe in doing my best to do what I feel is right.

Life didn't start out simple for me. Life has been presented to me through complex and confusing actions by others. I lashed out in my younger years, I had my time but now have found a tenative peace regarding that life and the poor choices I made. My choices are getting better, along with my ability to choose for myself.

I am a good mother, which is the first and most important part of all. I am a good friend, I try to be a good daughter, I am loving and nurturing to the men I love and when I have been loved in return without hate and oppression, it has been good.

I am saddened tonight by human beings again. It's seems to be an unreasonable species that has plagued the earth since it's beginning. Moreover we seem to plague ourselves with unreasonable limitations designed to seperate ourselves from one another. We use religion, or the lack thereof, we use politics, we use money, we use education, we use skin color, we use every available difference to hate each other and I still fail to understand why.

Whatever I may be, whatever I may not be, I am not the things that I have been accused of being in the past two days. I am simple. I am a mother. I am another American suffering from the economy, unemployed and desperately trying to find work. I have been with only two men, in the three years since I left my husband, both I cared for. One I was and always will love. When you consider that I've been extremely careful in my sexual acts, and that I've had so few, I would hardly count me on the list of slutty women. The other thing I have been accused of being is a stripper, and though it's laughable, it is angering. I've been desperately trying to find work for months. I have even been willing to take jobs that would not bring my level of dignity up, but never have I considered raising my son, with a stripper as a mother. I use the internet to have fun, flirt and let loose the inhibitions a bit. Anyone though, that thought that through would realize that it is damned difficult to be all of the horrible things they have accused me of, when I am at home, with my child, on a computer. I am, where I am supposed to be. Doing what I believe is right, I don't run to bars and date a different man every week. The worst thing I do in my life, is take anti-depressents and anti-anxiety medication with a little side bonus of anti-psychotics, but they are only to keep my moods level and help me sleep. I take them because they keep me stable, and I think that as a parent, being off my medications would be the less fit of the two options.

Life may have caused my problems, but more likely it was simple defects in my own chemical makeup that have caused the problems I have. I have been so many things to so many people. What I can tell you I am not, is ashamed. I am not ashamed of being a woman. I am not ashamed that I've had a difficult past. I am not ashamed that I don't take things too seriously. None of these things bring me shame. Like I said, I have my beliefs and I hold to them, but I never try to shove them down the throats of others who want to believe differently than I do. I think when you have reached that point, no matter what your beliefs are, you have blinded yourself to experiencing anything new. Moreover, I try not to be afraid of something new and I do feel disgust, though I try not to, at people who do. Self-righteous people, who feel superior to all because they hold knowledge of pretentious and unimportant things. People who think that things can only be done in a certain way and when they are not, these same self-appointed intellectuals, call you a stripper and a slut. Which is so odd to me, because when I'm really angry, I mean really, really angry, that is when the vulgar leaves me. That is when I use my mind. That is when I use the power of my intelligence, not when I am having fun.

This was nothing more than a personal vent. I needed it. I am feeling the effects of two days of being called names by "intellectuals". I want to lash out and introduce them to my real life friends and say look, see this is what I do, these are the people I know, please find a way to tell me that we are stupid, I beg you. The other lashing out is the one that I repress, and that is my want to fight physically. Anyone can talk on a computer in relative safety, but honestly, some of the things I have been called in the past two days, there is a high probability that had it been in person, I would have finally lost my grip on my anger and simply punched a few people. I am all woman, but one thing I don't do much like a woman is fight. I'm glad it's a computer. Because now I can shut it off and go back to the world where my little boy loves his mommy more than anything in the world and I am not ever called things like stripper, whore, slut for enjoying a bit of fun online.

My friends are my strength. My friends in life and my friends here. Maybe some of you don't think of your online friends as real, but I do. I may not consider my whole friends list my real friends, but I consider many of the people there real friends, because they care. I can shut down the computer and they don't stop existing, and I don't shut out their words of support. Though we may be crude sometimes, at least we are not fake, and for that, I can't thank the twists and turns that led me to a place like MANtana enough. My real life friend who has taught me the value of not being too serious, the value in laughter and the value of beating life at every bully it attempts, has a far better grasp on the balance of life than people who have to boast their qualities. For him, I am eternally greatful.

Good night moon. Good night cow jumping over the moon. Good night nobody. Good night noises everywhere. Goodnight to my friends who will read this and say wonderful things to make me feel better. You silly people, I feel better knowing you are there. :)

Long blog is long. I hope too many of you don't bother with it, it's just a personal need to vent. I have a reason to leave it open, Boomess gave me that reason, but I will share that another time. I'm not going to beat myself with proofing it either so-:P

"Emotions Unfold"

emotional contagion One midnight, I had just finished another shift at a job I didn’t like so I was alive with energy. I smiled, my eyes were open, I felt good about myself. I said my usual goodbyes to a friend and sprung into my car. My friend reversed his car just before I had the chance to leave my car park so he had beaten me this time – it was an unspoken game that took place each time we left from work. I waited for him to get out of the way before I reversed to make my way home. As I was leaving, the open car park gave me an invitation to have a little fun with my car. If landscapes could talk, this one was whispering into my ear that I should spin the wheels. “Besides, it’s late at night. No one is around and you’re feeling great. It’s an open car park with no danger. Do it!” said the persuasive voice. Like a vulnerable teenager succumbing to peer pressure, I accepted the invitation. The car became an extension of my body as it began to mimic my ecstatic mood. I put my foot down hard on the accelerator as I spun the wheel left around the first corner. As the rear tires lost their stability and the car went side-ways, I entered the next turn and spun the wheel right. The sound of screeching tires was like water fertilizing my increasing smile. Smoke filled the rims of my tires and a shot of adrenaline filled my body. Following the consecutive drifts, I straightened the car and approached a set of traffic lights on the main road that would take me home. Had this been during the daytime, about seven cars would be in front of me before the upcoming traffic lights. I decided to keep complying with the road’s persuasive voice as it told me to “be a little adventurous” so I decided, or rather I let the road decide for me, that I should turn left instead of my usual right turn. Not exactly an Indiana Jones adventure, but it was different. My friend who had left before me had just gone through the traffic lights a few seconds before me so the lights were still green. Keeping in the mood, I put my foot down on the accelerator to catch the green light. I would make it. I turned around the corner with a soft screech of the tires and there, 20 meters in front of me, on the side of the road were two police officers beside their vehicle. They pulled me over. Opposite to what you might be thinking, I was not concerned. I was still in my elevated state. I wound down my window and an angry officer came charging at me, yelling, “What the hell are you thinking? What the hell is going through your mind?” I paused momentarily, unaffected by his aggressive state. I said smilingly, “I’m just happy, I guess”. Not a smart response. It just hit me that I was out of it. I knew I should have said something else. I gulped. My mind rushed to think of some communication techniques I could use as a life boat to save me from drowning in the conversation. The moment was intense and all that came to mind were some techniques on getting out of a speeding-ticket. I thought to myself that I’ll give the techniques a shot. After all, I had annoyed the officer enough already. As I was thinking how to approach this difficult situation, I was still happy of course. My happy mood seemed to pour fuel on his already raging fire. “Bloody hell mate! I could just give you a ticket right now!” My smile began to lower. I no longer made eye contact with the officer. The officer’s raging mood began to infect me and cause me to feel angry. It was as if my body had been overcome by an emotional virus the officer had given me. I thought of the techniques to get out of a speeding-ticket and realized I was already beginning to use them. Well, it was too late to make the officer feel safe as he approached the car, but I needed to no longer act oblivious to my mistake. I needed to show respect as officers are in a clear position of authority and often experience disrespect throughout their day that only makes them more determined to convict guilty citizens. “You’re right.” I replied. “I was stupid and careless.” The officer was still enraged and continued to threaten me with a ticket. I knew he could easily write me a ticket, but he wasn’t writing one possibly because officers hate the paperwork created from citizens breaking the law. I kept myself aligned with the officer’s reality by remaining in a “Yes I’m wrong, stupid, and shouldn’t have done that” mood. I continued to play psychological judo, and match my mood with his own, until two minutes later he said to drive off. And oh, I got no ticket! I drove off – though feeling pleased I had beaten a reckless driving ticket – in an irritated state. The officer had destroyed my happy mood. It took two minutes of talking with the officer to completely transform my happy state into a joyless, gloomy mood. All it took was two minutes to convert my mood and there I was, in an unhappy state for the remaining two hours until I went to bed. Everyday you are interacting with people at different mood levels. Sometimes you’re happier than people you are talking to, other times they are happier than you. Whatever the case maybe, emotions are being transferred to various people. This is a fascinating peculiarity with emotions. Have you ever noticed how we feel in our interactions is not just dependent on our internal state? How did you feel when someone really annoyed began talking to you? You became more annoyed. How did you feel when someone unhappy began talking to you? You began to be unhappy. How did you feel when a charismatic person talked to you? You felt his energy and you began to feel happier.

5 important lessons to learn from a humble pencil 1. It tells you that everything you do will always leave a Mark . 2. You can always correct the mistake you make .. 3. The important thing in life is what you are from inside and not from out side . 4. In life you will undergo painful sharpening which will make you better in whatever you do .. 5. Finally, to be the best you can be, you must allow yourself to be held and guided by the hand that holds you.

Who's To Be Blame?

Now a days, many countries in the world suffered economic crisis, one of this is my land, the Philippines. Many Filipino suffering this phenomenom sine our country belongs to the third world. But the big question is, who is the responsible of this problem? To whom we are going to address this question?

The politicians, our leaders. That was the answer of many Filipinos of the said question. In relation with that,they kave point and sense. Many of our leaders are ruling our country with different motives. Some are just entering politics for their own benefits, some are just for popularity and only few thinks for the improvement and development of their country. Is this their reasons why they enter politics, if so, they couldn't be called as leaders.

A big "why" comes out from my mind when i am Doing this article. A "why" that probabaly the answer for this crisis. Why those politicians got those offices and positions? Thta question is clearly address to the people of the philippines. to each individual.

Whoever the responsible for this, whoever behind this case there's only one thing i conclude, rthat the changes begins in each individual or just simply the changes begins in "me".

Best places in Spain upon moving along

Spain is the best tourist destination that everyone would surely love to be with. Fantastic people, delicacies and tourism are a travel for a lifetime that Spain surely could offer in different kind of people, culture and languages.

Guggenheim Museum Bilbao is where most groundbreaking architecture to have come out of the 20th century. Just try to look at the building itself that symbolizes its innovative and architectural landmark, in which creates a seductive backdrop for the exhibition of contemporary art.

Las Ramblas in Spain, which is the Arabic word for "dry flower". This is the place where Barcelona people meet. This a great pleasure day and night, in which stools were under the threes upon looking the live statues.

El Born is quiet been a small village in the vicinity of Barcelona, fashionable but so authentic. Violinmakers, glassmakers and designers could be seen. Pensioners play cards, young people discuss at the edge of the fountains. Strange atmosphere. Don't doubt to go into the little streets to breathe the old Barcelona. Wherein right at the very area, cheap hotels in Barcelona could be seen.

Don't ever miss the chance to visit the Museum of Barcelona, Picasso Museum. The museum is indispensable for understanding its formative years. The genius of the young artist is revealed through the more than 3,500 works that make up the permanent collection. It also reveals his relationship with Barcelona: an intimate, solid relationship that was shaped in his adolescence and youth, and continued until his death.

For Hotel accommodations near the mentioned vicinity:
hotel de lujo Barcelona

hotel Barcelona

"Relationship Intimacy"

24 ways to Keep Love and Sex Alive

Both love and sex keep a relationship going. Love between two individuals cannot achieve fulfillment without sex and having sex with no feeling of love for your partner has no meaning at all. So, you have to keep both of them alive. How can you do that? Here are our suggestions:

1. Always make your spouse feel special. Keep on showering compliments on her looks and sexual charm. It will be quite rewarding for her if you tell her how beautiful she looks.

2. Surprise your partner by presenting flowers and other lovely gifts without any specific reason. These little things sometimes make a relationship worth continuing.

3. You two may have been together for several years, but don't forget to take your spouse out for occasional dates. There's seldom a better alternative than choosing an old place where you used to go often for a date. It will revive your salad days of courtship.

4. Make your dates as romantic as possible. You can light candles or play some melodious numbers in the background.

5. You can go for a long evening walk together. Don't forget to hold hands while walking by the riverside or strolling through the country roads.

6. Jump into the bathtub with your beloved. Say cheers and sip glasses of wine while cuddling passionately in the tub. Having a shower together will be great to add some spice in your lives.

7. Regular physical contacts, may not be a sexual one, is necessary for leading a satisfying relationship. So, often touch and rub different body parts while relaxing. You can also massage each other with some aromatic oils.

8. Plant a goodbye kiss on his or her cheek while leaving for office. After returning home, greet your partner with a warm hug.

9. Sometimes, instead of going out, cook some homemade delicacies together and create a restaurant-like ambience at your home for having a romantic dinner, not to forget the flowers and candles!

10. Try to take some time out from your busy schedule to be with each other. Spending quality time together will make your bond stronger.

11. Be honest towards your work and never neglect your profession. Remember that if you are successful, your spouse will be the happiest person on the earth and the love for you will grow.

12. Help in making each other's dreams come true. Try to understand your partner's innermost desires, be it something personal or professional, and lend her a hand for realizing them.

13. Give each other the respect you both deserve because without mutual respect, love cannot sustain longer.

14. Both-way communication is required in any sort of relationship and in a marital one it becomes mandatory. Otherwise, how can you get a clear idea regarding the physical and emotional yearnings of your spouse? Love just flies out of the window if couples do not communicate in an intimate level.

15. Pay attention to each other's needs. Instead of arguing, lend a patient hearing to each other's words.

16. In a perfect relationship, both of you are required to give some space to each other. This will help your love for each other to develop.

17. You two may be poles apart, but there's must be something common between you two – some interests or hobbies. The thrill of pursuing a common interest is altogether different. So, look for the magic.

18. You can get into proper discussions with each other and seek suggestions for revitalizing your relationship. Put forward your ideas too, but don't force things.

19. Don't just declare your plans, but also demonstrate them in action.

20.If you succeed in keeping your promises, it will surely draw him or her closer to you and make him or her love you more.

21. After If you are annoyed at something, don't keep your anger suppressed. Go and have a heart-to-heart conversation.stepping into a party, set the dance floor on fire together. Thus, you can spend some joyous moments of togetherness.

22. Always make each other laugh. Whisper some raunchy jokes to enliven the sexual mood and also learn the tricks of playing romantic bedroom games.

23. Never strike out sex from your list of priorities, because regular sex is as important as having food or sleep. Try to find your partner's secret sexual fantasies. Spend a good amount of time on some exciting and adventurous foreplay and then get into the sexual act. Nothing is more invigorating than a session of good sex.

24. Stimulating the minds of each other is also necessary besides stimulating the bodies. So, try to make her aroused intellectually.

Joy in living comes from having fine emotions, trusting them, giving them the freedom of a bird in the open. Joy in living can never be assumed as a pose, or put on from the outside as a mask. People who have this joy don not need to talk about it; they radiate it. They just live out their joy and let it splash its sunlight and glow into other lives as naturally as bird sings.

We can never get it by working for it directly. It comes, like happiness, to those who are aiming at something higher. It is a byproduct of great, simple living. The joy of living comes from what we put into living, not from what we seek to get from it.

Just My Advice.

If you are in a relationship, enjoy it. It most likely won't last forever. Even if you are in love with each other. Life is a crazy , surprising , thing that can take you through loops and back to the place you started or somewhere far off. You will most likely love again, but just not love each other.If you're in High School enjoy that, trust me.

You will miss it, even if you hate it. You really do learn who your best friends are after you graduate. Don't be scared to have fun and bend a few rules, I'm glad I did. (I graduated in 2005).If you're in College, take your future more serious than I am/ever did. Stay in it if you took out huge loans, even if it sucks. Trust me.

You don't want to be stuck with a huge loan without anything to show.If you have something to say to someone, you might as well tell them. Because most of the times whats killing you is what you're keeping inside.If your parents , grandparents, friends, tell you they love you, don't be scared to tell them back (I still am terrible at this, but I'm working on it)Get to know your Parents, Grandparents, Aunts , Uncles, anyone you can. One day when more time passes you'll wish you connected more. Trust me on this.

Don't be scared to be open minded and question things regardless of what you believe or believe in or think currently. Don't be scared to do something that makes you feel alive. But don't forget to be happy and comfortable at times.If your friends are dancing, you should dance too. The best way to live a leveled life is to humiliate yourself in front of people.

Last weekend, I was driving to pick up one of my friends to go shopping for the day from her grandparents house. I got lost. I called her and when she got on the phone, I said "I am an idiot." Her response? "Ok. And...." Then we both laughed.

I have several friends with whom I can be completely honest. If I am shopping with one of them, and a pair of pants make her backside look like a truck, I am going to tell her. Friends don't let friends be made fun of. If one of them is doing something incredibly stupid, chances are, I am going to tell them.

Here's the kicker - are you ready? I expect them to do the same. I have one friend who has sat in my living room and said "Do you know what a idiot you will be if you make that choice?" This same friend has also told me multiple times "not to be a dumbass." Are all of my friends this blunt? Thankfully, no. Some of them have tact. Am I as blunt with all of my friends? No. Thankfully, I know which ones to have some tact with. Regardless of the words I use, I am still being honest. Regardless of the words they use, they are still being honest with me.

The man I was seeing told me how words can hurt. I agree that they can - and the truthful ones tend to smart the most. They hurt no matter how nicely they are said. Sometimes those words can make you look in the mirror and realize that you do not know who you have been looking at. He spoke about the tongue being our most powerful weapon. I agree with that - the book of James talks about that explicitly. But there is a difference between using words in cruelty, in lashing out or anger and using words purposefully to correct someone.

I will never forget a time shortly after I was saved. I was attending a church at which I was also later baptized as an adult. The Director of Women's Ministry really did not like me. I could just feel it. But, she took the time to correct me in something I was doing - which I did not even realize. Red faced, and mortified, I simply thanked her for pointing it out to me. I was prepared to never go back to that church again. My first instinct had been to react in anger and tell her to mind her own business.

I later recieved an email from this woman thanking me for how I handled myself. She explained how it is a sign of growing maturity to be able to accept correction. I have a terribly long way to go in terms of spiritual maturity, but I have kept those words with me since that day. I began to be open to the ways - subtle and great - that God was offering correction in my life and whom He was offering it through.

When you love someone, whether they are family, friends, or significant others, it can be your job to offer correction. That correction can come in a variety of forms. Sometimes silence is the best form of communication. Sometimes redirection does the trick. But, sometimes, you need to use words. The ideal is not to have to use words. Sometimes, no matter how well intentioned you are, those words will be misconstrued. They will be twisted and unless that person is ready to hear you, all of a sudden you will become "persona non grata" for being honest.

One of the problems is that people internalize their actions and their exterior world into their identity. As humans, we are made in the likeness of God. We all have the power to be holy, to be good and to be one with each other with our God. But, we also have free will. We have the choice to sin every moment of every day - bringing us further and further away from the God in whose image we were created. What we don't often realize or remember is that it is not our choices or our deeds that define who we are. For me, and others of faith, it is our identity in Christ. For non-believers - the essence of who you are still lies in God. It does not lie in your choices, or your actions. You are so much more than that.

Our identity in Christ requires us to be honest and transparent with each other. Our identity in Christ requires us to guide and help others who are developing in the faith in whatever way God leads us to.

This is something that my now ex-boyfriend could not understand. He said my words hurt, and I had no right to not agree with him. Ok. I will agree with him that they hurt. The truth often hurts worse than anything else. The truth is God's proverbial "slap in the face" to make us realize what we are doing. He would have rathered that I merely agreed with everything that he said - like I should have been one of those Stepford Chicks. "Yes, honey." "No, honey." "Right away, honey." "Yes, honey, we can have sex on the kitchen table in the middle of the day....Ding....honey, the brownies are done, just in time."

Being honest with someone about their actions does not mean you are condemning them as a person. Isolating something as a bad choice does not mean you are classifying that person as a bad person.

I am thankful that I understand the purpose of honest correction in my life, even if I do not always handle it with as much grace as I could. I am thankful that there are those in my life who care about me enough to want to be honest with me - to help me grow into a better woman.
I believe honesty hurts - even brutally at time. But, I think this world would hurt a lot worse without honesty.

** For those of you who may be new to the scene, the Group Blogging Experience (GBE) is pretty much where each week Alicia will give a general topic, then you have all week to work up your own interpretation of it. The only limits on what you choose to blog about are the time you want to put into it, and your imagination. By Saturday, everyone posts their blogs and Alicia links them all through hers. Come join us!

"Letting Go"

Learning to Let Go

First, I want to say thank you to those of you that came out to play on my blog-dick blog. It was like an improv. comedy show featuring friends! When you talk to each other here, I smile and laugh and learn. I love the sense of community.

Sometimes it feels like we're having a wild block party and other times it's like we're sitting on a front porch swing, drinking green tea (nod to Melissa), learning to let go and grow. That's what I want to talk about today, letting go and growing. Despite the fact that most of us wish our children to have bright, beautiful childhoods and would shield them from ugliness and harm, ugliness and harm come.

Despite our wishing it weren't so, parents hurt their children. Many of us know this from personal experience. We remember being hurt by the people that ought to have loved us and protected us; it's a pain that is hard to let go of.

Sometimes disease and disaster are visited on children and we are powerless to stop it. Many of us remember childhood as a time of suffering. I believe that childhoods of sunshine and kisses are the rarer thing.This is not new. It is not a sign of our declining society. It has always been so.

Do you realize that most nursery rhymes have dark origins? Ring Around the Rosy is about the Bubonic Plague. A symptom of the plague was a rosy rash in the shape of a ring. Ashes, ashes... we all fall down is a reference to the burning of bodies.

Rock-a-bye Baby is an American nursery rhyme with a sing-song melody. The lyrics likely reflect the Native American tradition of hanging babies in woven cradles from trees. The wind would sometimes knock them down and... well, babies got hurt, sometimes died.

I've actually seen the very same thing happen in developing countries where I have lived and worked. Children are hung from tree branches in woven slings that keep them cool and rock them while their mothers cultivate bush gardens. I have seen children fall... I have heard mothers scream. Sometimes we make the mistake of thinking that we're unique in our suffering.

We imagine that the average human experience is full of light and that our darkness is the darkest of all. Please hear me, I do not lack empathy. I'm merely saying that throughout history, as reflected in the nursery rhymes that our children chant and sing, children have known suffering. They have not been spared harsh reality. In early societies, children grew up knowing that life is hard. They either lived it or witnessed it.

There was no hiding from pain. It's no different in most societies today. In poorer countries, there are no advocates to protect children from parents who would harm them. There's no community hospital, not even a pharmacy.

They do not see the fresh scrubbed, chubby faces that we see on television screens... portrayals of beautiful, happy children playing with toys. The children who make it to adulthood in developing countries spend no time marinading in their pain. They understand it to be a condition of existence.

Pain comes with living. Here in America, we insulate ourselves and hide from pain. When life is hard, we become steeped in resentment. We think we deserve something easier, better; we become bitter, angry. I hate abuse. I hate suffering. I wish to alleviate it.

My adopted children have known pain beyond what I have known, and my own childhood was far from easy. My husband and I have given them sanctuary because we cannot abide suffering. That said, we don't let our children nurse their pain.

We focus on the fact that they have hope and a future. We focus on the fact that they landed here, in a safe place where they are loved, blessed, cherished. We help them to walk through and move past their pain.Although it may seem counterintuitive, it is NOT a kindness to encourage a child or an adult to wrap themselves in bitterness and pain.

We are fortunate to have been born into a society where we have the luxury of looking back. In developing countries it's not even an option, nor was it in early American history, but just because we CAN spend our lives looking back doesn't mean that we should.

It's good to process the past, to talk about it, to get through it so that we can move beyond it and learn to live in the NOW.

"Take Time To Relax"

Be kind to yourself,Always take time to unwind & relax

Our days can sometimes be very confusing. We seem to have too many things to do, too many problems to solve, and not enough time to accomplish everything...!!!
We tend to forget that each day is a beautiful miracle, and there is much love and enjoyment to be experienced...!!!

Allow yourself time to relax time to be with your friends and love ones, time to play, and time to sit in the sunshine. Be easy on yourself, and you will find your problems easier to solve and that you can accomplish more with your time. And you will also find that yourlife is more fun, and that you are happier and more content...!!!

The Unbearable Lightness of Being

"Live Right,Live Lite"

I've been active on a few blogs this week dealing with infidelity...'If he cheats, is it your fault?' and 'Damn right it's your fault.' I am continually amazed at the lack of personal responsibility in our society. We use society as a measuring stick for what is acceptable behavior and we look to our peers to tell us that our actions are not our responsibility but an almost involuntary consequence of someone else's behavior. In other words, we persecute the victim.

Have you ever noticed the opposition you will be faced with when you suggest that someone must take personal responsibility?'Great spirits have always found violent opposition from mediocrities.' Albert Einstein'In the religion (and philosophy) circles, I continually come across blogs that assert one extreme or the other. It's not surprising that I am often misunderstood by these people and any attempt at 'debate' I will lose.

Let's first attempt to define existentialism.Existentialism is a philosophy that emphasizes the uniqueness and isolation of the individual experience in a hostile or indifferent universe, regards human existence as unexplainable, and stresses freedom of choice and responsibility for the consequences of one's acts.The laws of God, the laws of man,He may keep that will and canAnd how am I to face the oddsOf man's bedevilment and God's?I, a stranger and afraidIn a world I never made(A. E. Housman (1859-1936)

Jean-Paul Sartre's conception of existentialist philosophy focused upon the radical freedom that faces every human being. In the absence of any fixed human nature or absolute, external standards, we must all become responsible for whatever choices we make. Sartre recognized, however, that such freedom was too much for people to always handle. A common response, he argued, was to use their freedom to deny the existence of freedom — a tactic he called Bad Faith (mauvaise foi).

When Sartre used the phrase 'bad faith,' it was to refer to any sort of self-deception which denied the existence of human freedom. According to Sartre, bad faith occurs when someone tries to rationalize our existence or actions through religion, science, or some other belief system which imposes meaning or coherence on human existence.

Bad faith is an attempt to avoid the angst which accompanies the realization that our existence has no coherence except for what we ourselves create. Thus, bad faith comes from within us and is itself a choice — a way that a person uses their freedom in order to avoid dealing with the consequences of that freedom because of the radial responsibility that those consequences entail.
To explain how bad faith operates Sartre wrote in Being and Nothingness about a woman who is faced with the choice of whether to go out on a date with an amorous suitor. In considering this choice, the woman knows that she will face more choices later on because she is quite aware of the man's intentions and desires.

The need for choices is then heightened when, later, the man puts his hand on hers and caresses it. She can leave her hand there and thereby encourage further advances, knowing full well where they might lead. On the other hand, she can take her hand away, discouraging his advances and perhaps discouraging him from ever asking her out again. Both choices entail consequences which she must take responsibility for.

In some cases, however, a person will try to avoid taking responsibility by trying to avoid making conscious choices altogether. The woman might treat her hand as merely an object, rather than an extension of her will, and pretend that there is no choice in leaving it. Perhaps she cites uncontrollable passion on her part, perhaps she cites the presence of peer pressure that forces her to comply, or perhaps she merely pretends not to notice the man's actions. Whatever the case, she acts as though she is not making any choices and hence has no responsibility for the consequences. That, according to Sartre, means acting and living in bad faith.1)

If he cheats, is it her fault?Christianity is an Existential Communication Soren Kierkegaard wrote something in his journal that the remainder of his work would become focused on:Christianity is no doctrine, but an existential communication…Kierkegaard wrote this as a reaction to the Danish Lutheran church and the caricature it made of Christianity, but the distinction is just as true for today.

The prevailing conception is that a person is a Christian if he believes in the keydoctrines/truths (which vary depending on denomination), and if this belief is professed to God in a prayer. Accordingly the essence of Christianity is located in these doctrines; abstract statements that give someone the ability to know who is Christian and who is not. For example, if a respected Christian man acts selfishly in a given situation, it is never once doubted that he is a Christian. At most his action is deemed 'unchristian', but his identity as a Christian is left untouched.

This line of thinking climaxed with the doctrine of eternal security, which states that once you are saved (by professing these Christian truths), you can never lose your forgiven and righteous status, no matter what you do in the future.In the intellectual world this conception of Christianity is confirmed. People argue and philosophize about various doctrines, and call it Christian philosophy.

Christianity is defined today as 'a religious system of beliefs that comprise a worldview.'Existential Christianity's fundamental assertion is that Christianity is not a system of beliefs, but rather a lifestyle expressed existentially.

An 'existential communication' means something that is communicated and expressed to othersthrough our existence, the way we live and act within this world. Becoming a Christian does not involve a change of beliefs, but a change of how we live and exist inside a selfish and egoistical world.

This is revealed in three ways: The existential nature of Jesus Christ, how we express Christianity to others existentially, and how we express Christianity to God existentially. Despite the association of existentialism as a godless and sorrowful philosophy, Existential Christianity is primarily concerned with the teachings of Jesus within a paradoxical and meaningless environment.

2) Do you think a Christian can be an existentialist? Why or why not?

3) If you are a Christian, why do you think the church focuses on 'right beliefs' instead of 'right actions?'resources:

http://atheism.about.com/od/existentialistthemes/a/badfaith.htmhttp://www.existentialchristianity.net/ExistentialCommunication.pdfYou can either open your eyes (metaphorically) and see the spiritual dimension in human life and accept it as reality, or you can close your eyes and deny it. It is choice, not logic.

"Why Men Pull Men Away‏ In a Relationship"

3 Ways Women Accidentally Push Men Away‏

If you want to know the fastest way tobecome the kind of woman a man wants to LOVE andSTAY with.

Have you ever had a man break up with you orpull away all of a sudden? And you had no clue as to what caused it tohappen? Because as far as you could tell, everythingwas going great. You were spending tons of time together. Youhad an amazing "connection". And you KNEW that hisfeelings for you were real.

He might have even said the "L" word to youmore than a few times. LOVE. But for some reason, he just pulled away oneday. And it left you breathless and wonderingwhat had just happened. As the smoke cleared... and you startedthinking back on it, you remembered that hisbehavior HAD changed awhile back. And when it first did, it worried you.Actually, it worried you a lot. But you tried to ignore it.

And when you did say something to him about it,after it had been "eating at you" for a while, itonly seemed to make things between you worse. And he certainly didn't agree with orunderstand where you were coming from or what youwere upset about or afraid of.

So you tried to put it out of your mind andforget about it and hoped that it would just "goaway" on its own. But the more you did this, the more upset andfrustrated you got, because you STILL felt likesomething wasn't quite right underneath thesurface.

Something was going on inside him.Something was making him withdraw from youphysically and emotionally. Something had happened... and he was feelingand acting differently with you as a result. Something was wrong and you just couldn't putyour finger on what it was. And THAT is when things started to go from badto worse, and you started to feel and act OUT OF CONTROL.

The thoughts and feelings you were havingoverwhelmed you with FEAR. FEAR that he might not find you as attractiveas he used to. FEAR that maybe there was someone else he wasinterested in. And ultimately, the FEAR that he was gettingready to leave you... and you would lose him...forever.

So, to try and combat this fear, you started toact in ways that you NEVER would have actedotherwise. Ways that even YOU didn't like aboutyourself, and are probably even a little bitashamed to admit to now. You started to see that even though it wassomething you saw going on with HIM that was atthe root of the problem... YOU were the one whowas reacting in ways that were tearing yourrelationship apart.

YOU couldn't let go of the fear that wasfilling up inside you. And as a result, you shut yourself off from himand from the pain to try and protect yourself. But he wasn't able to pull you up from thisplace of anxiety and frustration by reassuring youand giving you more love and understanding. Andthings eventually got even worse as he pulledfurther away.

In a way, your feelings and actions actuallycaused the final breakup that you had feared tobegin with. Does this situation sound familiar to you?

Have you ever felt so out of control oroverwhelmed with a man that you ended up actuallyhelping along the very situation you feared most? Such as him LEAVING. When a man you're with starts to act"differently" - maybe he seems less interested inyou, or doesn't want to talk as much, or startshanging out with his friends more - it can be veryscary. Immediately you think to yourself "What did Ido to make him upset or angry?" or "How can I 'gethim back' close to me again?" That's only natural and understandable. However, acting out in a negative, emotionally-charged way only sets off a severereaction where you might begin to act or thinkin destructive ways.

Some women even try and "pre-empt" the pain orfear that they feel by pulling away or getting distant FIRST.

Here are 3 of the most common ways women letfear get the better of them and end up making menwant to pull away:

1. Becoming intensely negative, and accusing aman of abandoning them or wanting to leave when heacts "distant". This could be statements like,"You don't love me anymore, do you?""I know you're thinking of breaking up with me.""I can't stand how you're acting lately."

2. Finding ways to hurt or reject the man they'rewith inside the relationship before he can hurtTHEM (this might include belittling, name-calling,"nagging")

3. Acting out in ways that are sure to destroythe relationship... such as cheating. If you've seen other women go through this, oryou've done these yourself, then you already KNOWthat these ways of dealing with problems, fear, orinsecurity only get you farther away from what youwant - love and a more secure relationship.

And sure, there's almost nothing morefrustrating than being dedicated and committed toa relationship, and then seeing that the otherperson isn't as committed as you are. You mightfind yourself SO hurt or afraid because of this,that YOU become the one whose emotions andbehavior push you even farther apart.

It's enough to make you feel hopelesssometimes. Like you'll NEVER have a real and lovingrelationship. Well, the reality is there's something you CANdo that's CERTAIN to get rid of the fears andinsecurities that drive you and a man apart duringthe most critical of times. There's a way to get rid of that hopeless,frustrated, fearful, and reactive place inside youthat keeps you further away from experiencing truelove and a lasting relationship with a man.

And there's a proven way to make a man feel soAMAZING when he's with you that a man will KNOWonce and for all that you are THE ONE WOMAN FOR HIM.

You should need to learn how to bringout the natural and "magical" qualities youALREADY HAVE inside yourself that a man will be"magnetically" drawn to when he sees them in you(such as confidence, high self-esteem, humor,emotional "fitness")...

These are the kinds of things that BUILD attraction and connection in a relationship. I also show you exactly how to move past thefear, insecurity, and the "emptiness" you might befeeling that you think comes from not having theright relationship you want in your life rightnow. The truth is, you can't rely on a man to fillALL your needs for love and happiness. No one but you can start yourself down that path.

And he certainly isn't going to figure out howa relationship SHOULD work, and the best way tomake love last... and guide you through it. I think you know that this is VERY UNLIKELY. A man doesn't have all the power to give youlove, or to take it away from you. He only has the power to SHARE LOVE with you.But you have to know YOUR PART in love BEFORE love can last. YOU have the power to create this for yourself,and guide yourself to the love life you've always wanted. It starts with you.

Don't let what a man doesn't know, what he doesn't get, or your own fears stand in your wayof experiencing true and lasting love. It's time you start seeing past all the thingsthat are happening on the surface in your lovelife... and get to what's going on on a DEEPER LEVEL.

In my "Ready For Love" program I take youthrough exactly what you need to know and whatthis "deeper level" is. You'll learn to takecontrol of your feelings and regain the innerstrength that you may be missing right now. You know that you can't "solve" yourrelationship problems simply by telling a man howhe makes you feel - and then hoping he figures outthe rest of it.

It never works... and you KNOW it. And if you're getting in your OWN way andCAUSING the man in your life to pull away fromyou, then just trying to change the things you'resaying on the surface isn't going to make thingsthat much better, either.

You've tried all this, and it hasn't worked. It's time to get your own personal andemotional FOUNDATION together, so that when theright man is next to you, you'll not only"naturally" do and say things right, but you'll FEEL confident and make great things happen as aresult.

When you don't have this foundation togetherfor yourself, it doesn't matter WHAT you try andsay or do to a man... it doesn't come across theright way. No matter how much you want things towork he'll still be able to "see through you" andsee the insecurity, anxiety, or lack ofconfidence. And he'll walk the other way. I'm sure you've heard only 10% of ourcommunication is direct and verbal.

That's why, when you DO have your ownfoundation in order, and you're in touch with yourown powerful and attractive "essence"... thenwithout having to talk or convince him to staywith you, a man will FEEL this way and know thathe wants this for himself. I want you to watch some free video Clips thatwill show you exactly how to get back to your own"center" and foundation in my "Ready For Love"program here:

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Time to learn alittle more about yourself. And time to startdown a path in your life that will lead to a muchmore enriching relationship. If you get the results you want from it, goahead and keep it, and I'll bill you in a fewsmall easy payments. If you don't, just send it back to me andyou'll pay nothing. Not a cent. But I'm bettingyou won't, once you start to feel more centeredand in control of your emotions and your lovelife.

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"WET PANTS"

Come with me to a third grade classroom... .. There is a nine-year-old kid sitting at his desk and all of a sudden, there is a puddle between his feet and the front of his pants are wet. He thinks his heart is going to stop because he cannot possibly imagine how this has happened. It's never happened before, and he knows that when the boys find out he will never hear the end of it. When the girls find out, they'll never speak to him again as long as he lives.

The boy believes his heart is going to stop; he puts his head down and prays this prayer, "Dear God, this is an emergency! I need help now! Five minutes from now I'm dead meat."

He looks up from his prayer and here comes the teacher with a look in her eyes that says he has been discovered.

As the teacher is walking toward him, a classmate named Susie is carrying a goldfish bowl that is filled with water. Susie trips in front of the teacher and inexplicably dumps the bowl of water in the boy's lap.

The boy pretends to be angry, but all the while is saying to hi ms elf, "Thank you, Lord! Thank you, Lord!"

Now all of a sudden, instead of being the object of ridicule, the boy is the object of sympathy. The teacher rushes him downstairs and gives him gym shorts to put on while his pants dry out. All the other children are on their hands and knees cleaning up around his desk. The sympathy is wonderful. But as life would have it, the ridicule that should have been his has been transferred to someone else - Susie.

She tries to help, but they tell her to get out. You've done enough, you klutz!"

Finally, at the end of the day, as they are waiting for the bus, the boy walks over to Susie and whispers, "You did that on purpose, didn't you?" Susie whispers back, "I wet my pants once too."

May God help us see the opportunities that are always around us to do good..

Remember.... .Just going to church doesn't make you a Christian any more than standing in your garage makes you a car.

Each and everyone one of us is going through tough times right now, but God is getting ready to bless you in a way that only He can. Keep the faith.

Independence and Self-Respect for Seniors

Independence is what every person cherishes the most; financial, mental or physical, you'd hate to be dependent on anyone. But as you age, dependency sets in. However, if you're blessed with physical health and monetary wealth, there are ways to ensure you are independent and secured in your retired life. Then again, when seniors live alone they need to be that much more cautious while dealing with strangers. Securing themselves in every way is the first aspect of being independent.

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"Opportunity Just Knocks Ones"

What We need to be prepared ?

In my life encountered a lot of twists and turns, I have vigorously opposed by the family.Before this i am a manager at industries development.I believe that if everyone started to direct the work, the first question is to be prepared to face other people’s views and vision.

Each successful entrepreneur is true, if you listen to their stories, then you should also hear the issue.

If you want to succeed in business sales, you need to first of all is family and friends for their support. In the case against the parents, you need to be patient and needs some times, try to comunicate to the parents and tell them about the content of your work.

If you still are not acceptable, then you can choose to be part-time, after u can secure your income, you can be turn it to full-time.

At this time I believe that your parents will begin to accept, and your friends will view in you through different eyes.

We will be selling a variety of very experienced setbacks. For example, a salesman in selling houses, cars, or other goods when customers have been refused. Even worse is that customers simply do not want to buy, so we can not sold. In fact, this is not a setback. Most important personal character.

Optimistic thinking

Please open your broad thinking. When working with an optimistic attitude can also enjoy themselves with pride. No matter what you are engaged in the cause of the work of the natural state of mind is important for one thing, many people often complain about his work, which makes they lost their jobs, then thought, “If the efforts at that time, a little optimistic, and that the number of good . “
To ask ourselves a question.When you engage in sales, would not think of your products and other products have no difference?You will not be impossible to think of their own success?Do you often compared with other companies?
At this point, you need to slow down and to establish their own “confidence.” With self-confidence before they can manage your business.

Doors open!

Listening to this story. A young man, his daily work can be said to have fixed carrier.Whenever he has spare time, he would go to overtime to earn more income.However,his income become higher, and also his spending was increased. He decided to be a lot of effort to do more, but in the end of the month, not more at bank deposits.After three years later, he was same working for every day.His life and almost 3 years ago. What has not changed.

In that case, I think we ask ourselves some questions;

Why do I have been looking for opportunities to make money?

My academic qualifications, age, salary, the character can successfully meet the conditions for it?
I am in a position to become wealthy?

I have the time? (No time is only an excuse)

In that case, you have the answer you think?

Only those who want to succeed will succeed

"Being Meek In The Cruel Society"

Restoring the Virtue of Meekness
John MacArthur

Pride has been redefined in American culture as a virtue. The strong, the beautiful, the powerful, the intelligent, and the privileged take every opportunity to put themselves forward. Politicians manifest pride in speeches and debates; entertainers glamorize pride in their movies and lifestyles; educators teach pride by emphasizing self-esteem and making every child a winner (whether they deserve it or not); and sports icons reinforce pride as the path to greatness.

Probably the least admired character quality in America is meekness. And yet the greatest Person who ever lived was a meek and humble man-"learn from Me, for I am gentle [meek] and humble in heart" (Matthew 11:29). Jesus exemplified meekness during His first advent, even as He ministered in the power of God. Those who follow Him will also demonstrate meekness, or gentleness as fruit of a Spirit-filled life (Galatians 5:22).
"Meekness" is a humble attitude that expresses itself in the patient endurance of offenses. "Gentleness" is a virtual synonym. It implies leniency and long-suffering.

Meekness is not weakness; it is power under control. As the writer of Proverbs says, "He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city" (16:32). In contrast, the individual who is not gentle is likened to "a city that is broken into and without walls" (Proverbs 25:28). Gentleness always uses its resources appropriately, unlike the out-of-control emotions that so often are destructive and have no place in your life as a believer.

And don't equate gentleness with cowardice, lack of conviction, or mere human niceness. It's a virtue that draws courage, strength, conviction, and a good disposition from God, not from self-centered human resources.
Gentleness characterizes our Lord Jesus Christ. He always defended God's glory and ultimately gave Himself in sacrifice for others (see 1 Peter 2:21-23). Jesus didn't lash back when criticized, slandered, or treated unjustly, but He did respond fittingly and firmly when God's honor was profaned or His truth was perverted or neglected. He twice cleansed the Temple by force (Matthew 21:12-17; John 2:14-15), and He repeatedly and fearlessly denounced the hypocrisy of the Jewish religious leaders (Matthew 23:13-36; Mark 12:13-40; John 8:12-59; 9:39-41).

When His time of suffering came, however, Jesus submitted to the will of His Father and endured the abuse and murderous intentions of the hypocritical leaders. He demonstrated meekness to the very end. "While being reviled, He did not revile in return; while suffering, He uttered no threats, but kept entrusting Himself to Him who judges righteously" (1 Peter 2:23).
Like Christ, the gentle person does not defend himself (see 1 Peter 2:21). That's because he has died to self and therefore does not worry about insult, material loss, or even personal injury. The believer who embraces meekness knows that in himself he does not deserve defending and that, in the long run, all his possessions are not worth fighting for. In that sense, gentleness is the opposite of violence and vengeance.

For some, meekness leads to suffering. "For Your sake we are being put to death all day long; we were considered as sheep to be slaughtered" (Romans 8:36). But there is triumph for the meek, even in suffering-"But in all these things we overwhelmingly conquer through Him who loved us" (v. 37).
Meekness is a path worth following. It may not lead you to a spot on "American Idol" or "Survivor," you may not win a political campaign, but you'll find the reward of God is yours in abundance. Jesus promised, "Blessed are the gentle, for they shall inherit the earth" (Matthew 5:5).

12 Things A Woman Does That Men Find Irresistible

What exactly does a man find attractive… attractive enough to find a woman completely irresistible even deep into a long-term relationship?

And why are men so quick to dismiss a woman over just the smallest things?

I’ve had the privilege of dating some beautiful women and I’ve been in relationships with some pretty amazing women.

I’ve been in “circle” relationships (relationships with two or more bisexual woman) one on one relationships, open, closed and everything in between relationships.

Yeah, I was that guy… that idiot jerk.

I’m not saying this to “brag”, but no matter how beautiful a woman is, no matter how intelligent, no matter how fun, unless she understands how to be completely IRRESISTIBLE to a man, she will continue to have men pull away from her, close down and think about leaving her.

By the way, before I get to the 12 things, if you’re interested in learning the 5 addictive habits that most women get addicted to that ruin a perfectly good relationship, I wrote an awesome FREE report called “Relationship Rehab” that you can get in your inbox right now just by filling in your details right below and you’ll be redirected back to this page immediately:

1. Sense of Humor

There isn’t one guy I know of who doesn’t appreciate a girl who laughs at his stupid jokes simply out of a sensitive humorous bone.

When a woman laughs, it’s like there’s a beam of light that comes across a guy’s face… and if he hears loud laughter, say, from a woman from across the room for another man, it has the power to make him jealous… and want that laughter to be for him.

Humor is “childlike” energy and is like a BILLBOARD mounted to a woman’s forehead that says “Open Heart!” Men feel this on a gut level.

I’m not talking about faking a sense of humor, because you don’t want to throw red flags.

A person who laughs to gain some sort of approval and validation is easy to mark.

No.

A woman who is really sensitive to humor is a great find for a man.

2. Youthfulness

This goes along with #1 because it comes from a playful heart... and when I say youthfulness, I don’t mean age. I mean a state of being and living.

Youth is an energy and you can spot a person who’s had it “ruff from the world” and who’s become DEAD inside… and somebody who is youthful and fresh and has kept their sense of self separate from the negativity of other people’s opinions.

A child playing on the play ground hasn’t been corrupted by the world yet.

All she cares about is PLAYING… in the sand, swinging on the swings and having fun THIS moment.

She is fresh.

I’ve been amazed when I see 18 year old girls who feel 40, and then when I see 40 year old women who feel 18

3. Body Language

Body language is 55% of all communication (vocal tone 38%, language 7%).

Hips loose and tilted a bit forward, weight on the lower back, shoulders and upper back relaxed, chest present, chin up… (there’s more to this having more to do with “energy”, but I won’t get into that right now).

A smile will show a man you’re open to him on a gut level and no smile will show him you’re “untouchable” and a cold ruthless bitch… It just depends on who you want to attract.

Body language is just like a person’s “energetic pulse” to the outside world saying if they feel good about themselves or like a ship wreck.

Whether you love or hate her, Paris Hilton has awesome body language. Check her out.

4. Emotion

Insecure men will be repulsed by the emotions of a woman… and the confident man will be attracted.

Remember, this isn’t about faking… like tantrum, emotional outburst etc. etc.

But rather just allowing your “yin nature” to flow through you. I know it sounds weird, but go with me here.

Emotion is spontaneous.

And the unemotional man is attracted to its opposite, it’s POLAR opposite… to the emotional yin feminine by the force of magnetism.

5. Patience

It is RARE to find a woman who is patient.

\I’m serious, men are truly grateful for a woman who is patient because many women are simply ADD. I can’t tell you how annoying this is to most men. It’s the final nail in the coffin a lot of the times.

What I’m talking about is authentic, compassionate patience that comes from being relaxed.

Men ,the yang masculine (my weird way of telling between men and woman) is path or goal oriented… and when a man finally finds a woman who is can relax with his path, it’s “two thumbs up”.

This is the very first step to what I call “Manhandling”.

6. Self-Care And Beauty

Beauty, hair, skin, makeup, weight; the superficial things men adore.

These are the more OUTWARD expressions of yin energy.

A past girlfriend once told me “there is NO such thing as an ugly woman, only a lazy one.”

Now, where I think most women go wrong in this department is putting ALL of their weight on physical beauty.

When that “leg” is weak and maybe they don’t think they look that great today, their entire self image is destroyed.

And when they look particularly great one day, their entire self image is built around it.

This is not good because you become a ROLLERCOASTER.

Here’s what I believe is needed ===> Balance, balance, balance.

Put some weight onto the other leg of the INNER yin energy as well.

Beauty is only the most superficial, outward expression.

7. Intelligence

When I say the word intelligence, I don’t mean book intellect or street smarts.

I mean the ability to be CREATIVE in the moment.

I’m talking about a woman who is PRESENT and “here now”.

You can look into her eyes and tell that she is with you right now, not zoning off into space or thinking about something in her head. She responds to the moment… and this is an ability that everyone has.

You too are very intelligent. You just need to know how to access it…

8. Not Needing But Wanting

Guys can smell out a needy, clinging girl which usually causes them to run the other direction.

And they can also sense a girl who WANTS rather than needs.

Being needed will stroke a guy’s ego and make him feel good about himself, but there’s a great possibility he’ll eventually freak out and run.

Being wanted, on the other hand, will make him feel even better, but he won’t run… he’ll feel compelled (unless he’s a serious dumb ass).

A girl who has the self-confidence enough to want, to desire, and not be attached to those wants is pure gold.

Then adventure, playfulness and challenge come naturally.

There’s a fine line between being a slave to needing, or being free to want.

9. Nurturance

A man wants to be independent, but likes to feel that he is taken care of as well.

They say that “every man’s life is a journey to find the happiness he once felt inside the womb of his mommy.”

Nuturance is one of the most basic female instincts… and most guys DO want that little tiny bit of mommy in a girlfriend… but not too much or both you and him will probably get annoyed!

And just like #8, this is nurturance out of want not need… a very fine line indeed.

10. Sexually Adventurous

Sexual repression makes people very, very… VERY angry. Nuf’ said.

11. Love

A woman filled with love in her heart is one of the most beautiful things.

She is fearless and hatred falls away.

A woman who sees the world through loving eyes has no enemies… even if people dislike her.

Love is not weak, it is POWER.

Love comes out of relaxation and when that restless need for approval falls away.

You just need to know HOW to control love so that you don’t lose yourself to it completely.

12. Integrity

A woman who has real values and sticks up for herself is like a beacon of light.

Many of the gals I have consulted with are pushed and pulled by the wind at every moment.

They have very little security in life and they worry continuously. Is this you?

If you know how to control this insecurity, it can actually be a GOOD thing (weird I know).

But usually she has no stability to her at all and she lives life in what I call the “Soap Opera Matrix”.

Integrity is what creates some sanity. It’s one of the few things you come into the world with, and its one of the easiest things to take for granted and sell for sparkly looking toys.

Security is good, But if you build too many walls around yourself and try to become “all powerful” you lose your delicacy, your female beauty. I’ve seen this happen to quite a few women.

It’s a delicate balance.

Here’s a simple list I suggest you start with (and I follow myself):

a. Your health. Your mind, body and soul come first. Without you there is nothing else so you must be kept in good shape and happy.

b. Love. Love is one of the highest values. Love comes BEFORE pleasure although most people always reverse them. Ever ask yourself “Is it love or lust?” They can’t tell because pleasure has always come first.You must know how to bring LOVE to the front.

c. Freedom. Never be a slave to anybody, even if you feel like you want to. You are a free being, and most men want this in a woman.

d. Pleasure. Celebration comes naturally after all of these things are taken care of. Most people try to put pleasure as their number one. They will abuse their bodies to have it, weaken their integrity to have it and sell their soul to have it. Most people are not in pursuit of happiness, they are in pursuit of PLEASURE… but that pleasure is always accompanied by pain. There’s an endless rollercoaster of pleasure/pain when it becomes number one. However, pleasure comes naturally when it comes after some other more important things… like having the “know how” to sustain a long LASTING relationship (if you have my book than you know exactly what I’m talking about).

Don’t expect this stuff to come over night.

"Be Inspired , Enjoy Everyday Of Your Life"

EVERYONE'S LIFE IS DRIVEN BY SOMETHING



Drive means to guide, to control, or to direct. Whether you are driving a car, a nail or a golf ball, you are guiding, controlling and directing it at that moment.

Today, you may be driven by a problem, a pressure or a deadline. You may be also driven by a painful memory, a haunting fear or an unconscious belief. There are circumstances, values and emotions that can drive your life. It can be by guilt; by resentment and anger; by fear; by materialism and by the need for approval.

Guilt driven people are manipulated by memories. They allow their past to control their future. They often unconsciously punish themselves by sabotaging their own success. We are products of our past, but we don't have to be prisoners of it. God specializes in giving people a fresh start. The Bible says, "Happy the sinner whose fault is removed, whose sin is forgiven." Psalm 32:1

Most people are driven by resentment and anger. They hold on to hurts and never get over them. Instead of releasing their pain through forgiveness, they rehearse it over and over in their minds. Resentment always hurts you more than it does the person you resent.

While your offender has probably forgotten the offense and gone on with life, you continue to stew in your pain, perpetuating the past. Those who have hurt you in the past cannot continue to hurt you now unless you hold on to the pain through resentment. Past is past and nothing will change it. You are only hurting yourself with your bitterness. For your own sake, learn from it and ten let it go. The Bible says, "Nay, impatience kills the fool and indignation slays the simpleton." Job 5:2

Fears may be a result of a traumatic experience, unrealistic expectations, growing up in a high-control home or even genetic predisposition. Regardless of the cause, fear-driven people often miss great opportunities because they are afraind to venture out. Instead they play it safe, avoiding risks and trying to maintain the status quo. Fear is a self-imposed prison that will keep you from becoming what God intends for you to be. You must move against it with the weapons of faith and love. The Bible says, "There is no fear in love, but perfect love drives out fear because fear has to do with punishment, and so one who fears is not yet perfect in love." 1 Job 4:18

There are people are driven by materialism. Their desire to acquire becomes the whole goal of their lives. This drive to always want more is based on the misconceptions that having more will make me more happy, more important and more secure but all three ideas are untrue. Possessions provide temporary happiness. Because things do not change, we eventually become bored with them and then want newer, bigger, and better versions. Ir is also a myth that if I get more, I will be more important. The most common myth about money is that having more will make me more secure. Wealth can be lost instantly throug a variety of uncontrollable factors. Real security can only be found in that which can never be taken from you - your relationship with God.

In most instances, people are driven by the need for approval. They allow the expectations of parents or spouses or children or teachers or friends to control their lives. Many adults are trying to earn the approval of unpleasable parents. Others are driven by peer pressure, always worried by what others might think.

Nothing matters more than knowing God's purposes for your life and nothing can compensate for not knowing them - not success, wealth, fame or pleasure. Without a purpose, life is motion without meaning, activity without direction and events without reason. Without a purpose, life is trivial, petty and pointless.

LOVE IS FOREVER

MY ONE TRUE LOVE

Close Your Eyes
I can't be with you todaybut if you close your eyes and think;I'll be beside you in the kitchenwearing your shirt - standing by the sink.
I'll be with you in the bedroomwaiting quietly on your bed;Just close your eyes and think of me,relive those memories in your head.

I'll stand by you in the bathroom,an unlikely place to meet;I'll smile at you so playfullyas I let you brush my teeth.

I'll be your light in the darkness,shining steady through and through;You only have to watch it glowto know I think of you.

I'll be the music that you listen to,I'll be there in every song:I'll laugh with you and sing with you,and comfort you when your day's gone wrong.
I'll be the wind that ruffles your hair,I'll be that warm embrace;I'll be the hand on your shoulder,I'll be the tender touch on your face.
I'll be the clock gently ticking,reminding you of the times;We've shut the rest of the world outsidewe're in our own world - yours and mine.
I'll be the moon as it danceson the water cold and still;For I have loved you alwaysand I know I always will.
Though you may not see me physicallyas you live your life today;Just close your eyes and think of meI will not be far away.

When I'm With You
When I'm with you,eternity is a step away,my love continues to grow,with each passing day.This treasure of love,I cherish within my soul,how much I love you...you'll never really know.You bring a joy to my heart,I've never felt before,with each touch of your hand,I love you more and more.Whenever we say goodbye,whenever we part,know I hold you dearly,deep inside my heart.So these seven words,I pray you hold true,"Forever And Always,I Will Love You."

Walk With Me
Walk with me down winding roadsTree lined paths and trails unknownWalk with me and hold my handWalk with me in sea soaked sandHear my whisper in your earA hushed breath, a gentle tearHear the song of mourning dovesHear my cries of whispered loveTell me of your wildest dreamsAll the things you’ve never seenTell me of our life to comeTell me of our unborn sonName the things you hold most dearThe wants, desires that you hold nearName a place you want to goName to me your deepest woeWrite to me of love so sweetFrom your heart – dig down deepWrite to me a song I knowWrite to me in sweetest proseHold me close and don’t let goYour love is what I want to knowHold my heart within yours dearHold me now, pull me nearFeel me now our bodies twinedTwo become one, a single mindFeel my body, taste my soulFeel the love that makes us whole.

After Knowing You
I never really knew you,You were just another friendBut when I got to know you,I let my heart unbendI couldn't help past memoriesThat would only make me cryI had to forget my first loveAnd give love another trySo I've fallen in love with youAnd I'll never let you goI love you more than anyoneI just had to let you knowIf you ever wonder whyI don't know what I'll sayBut I'll never stop loving youEach and every dayMy feelings for you will never changeJust know my feelings are trueAnd remember one thingI will always love you...

You're The One
You're the one I choose,To be with me forever.I feel so warm inside,Knowing we'll be together.You're the one I need,To always be there.When I'm feeling lonely,To show me that you care.You're the one I want,To hold me close to you.To always lay beside me,And whisper, I love you.You're the one I dream of,In my arms every night.I dream of holding you,Close to me real tight.You're the one I love,With all of my heart.My love is with you,Even when we're apart.

Precious
Never want to hurt youBy anything I say My joy forever showing..First day you came my wayI tell you all my secretsI know you tell me yoursI keep them like the treasures.Our life has sweetly stored.You are my inspiration.There's nothing I can find.Within your heart of beauty.That love has not defined .Together we are perfect.We share each other's dreams.Friendship with a golden rules always what it seems sacred and devoted.This friendship is designed.To comfort and protect you each day in life remind no one quite as special.Within this life I could'nt find someone as precious as you.Two loyal hearts combined.

A Beautiful Mind
God has blessed your heart and it shines bright as a star.....And it's hanging up above the world so high like a diamond in the sky.You are a living soul with so many dreams,A unique idividual that sees life so precious and adventurous.You have so much to offer the universe, your knowledge, wisdom, and courage are so admired by those you touch.You inspire all with your positive attitude about life.The words you speak are deeply thought through.You are a mysterious person, with eyes that spreads warmth and security.An open-mind to challenge the obstacles of life.And most of all the most amazing thing I love and admired about you..."You Have A Beautiful Mind"

Hand In Hand
Laying underneath the stars,On a warm silent night.Your arms are wrapped around me,And everything feels right.You kiss me sweet and softly,I feel your warm gentle touch,You help me feel protectedUnder the sweet night sky rush.My world before me is perfect.There's nowhere else I want to be,Except laying underneath the starsHand in hand, you and me.Just when everything is perfect,And you seem so delicately sweet,A rush of wind comes past meAs I'm swept beneath my feet.Nothing could be more right,There's nowhere else I want to be.Let's take a walk my only love,Hand in hand, you and me.

I Love The Way
I love the way you make me laugh, the way you make me smile;The way you hold me close to you, and kiss me for a while.I love you the way you support me, even if you disagree, You never turn your back on me, you're always there for me.I love the way you look at me, it makes my knees go weak, The love and the glow in your eyes, makes it hard for me to speak.I love the way you love how I am, how I shouldn't loose a pound, I'm so lucky to have you, you're the best guy around. I love the way we can sit around, and not say a thing, We have a special bond, who knows what the future will bring. I love the way you cheer me up, especially when I'm sad, And even when we get in fights, we never stay mad. I love the way you love me, and the love that we share,I know this love is true, and nothing could ever compare. I love the way we love each other, and the time we spend together, I never want to lose you, I will love you forever.

In The Absense of You
Its those hollow notes.My heart now singsLoneliness I languish.Upon broken wingsMy shattered dreamsAre left without lightCould this be the endOf heart taking flight I could no longer soarAs wings fall apartKnowing your silenceIs breaking my heartFor a heart cannot flyWhen nothing flowsIn the absence of youMy heartache grows


This Feeling of Love
This feeling of love that I have for you,A feeling so strong, so special, so new.You give me the gift of happiness each day,Never have I known it could be this way.You have given your love regardless of cost,With my heart in your care, I will never be lost.Or never again wonder what love really means,For now I do know it means so many things.Understanding and caring, through good times and bad,Sharing emotions, should they be happy or sad.Being there for each other through laughter or tears,At each other's side for the rest of our years.My only wish is to be with you, my love,For each day I pray to the heavens above.That you always remember my feelings for you.A feeling so strong, so special, so new!

I Woke up this Morning Missing You
I woke up this morning and listened,Listened for the sound of your voice,Your voice gently whispering..,words of love to me.And I woke up this morning,But heard nothing,Nothing familiar, nothing I know,Nothing I know now but a true pain,For I will not hear you and, I will not see you,You who gave me life,but Life today forever changed,Changed into loneliness..,You who were everything to me, I MISS YOUI miss you every moment of the day,Day in and day out,Out of tears I sit awake and carefully listen,Listen for you … in case, just in case,How I miss you.

Wishing you Sweet Dreams
Finding something to writeSince you have been goneI gaze the stars each nightWhilst wishing on everyoneStars giving me the reasonTo share love and affectionAs I sent my wishes aboveAmong the astral collectionAttaching thoughts to starsI send wishes across milesSparkling starlight gleamedAs the moon shared smilesStars seems to be dancingAround silvery moonbeamsAs I write messages of loveWishing you sweet dreams

Thinking of You
In my heartis where you'll staythinking about youeach and every day.Some things that happenedwere beyond my controlit hurts sometimesbut I had to let go.Our love was strongit felt so realsometimes I questionedthe things you feel.There are no regretsnot one, it's truebut God only knowsthe reasons we're through.Be filled with laughterand maybe some smilessending warm wishesalong all these miles.

A Boy Missing You
I miss the way,i hold you tight with just a little,little bit of mightyou brighten my path,so i can have sight you and me sound good,just how i like I hope you will never forget,how you have made me feel This love i have inside me has never felt so real When i am sad,and can't make it through,I just close my eyes,and dream of you!!!

I Want to Be Everything to You
When the cold wind blows,I want to be your warmth.And when darkness surrounds you,I want to be the light that shows you the way.When you have dreams that seem out of reach,I want to place them in your hand.And when you need someone to understand,I want it to be me.When this world is lonely, and you feel so alone,I want to be the one who chases your lonliness away.When you're dissappointed,and tears fill your eyes....You can count on me to dry them with my love.When life is being kind,And happiness fills your heart....I want to be the one to add to it.And when you no longer search for that special love,I hope that it will be because you have found it;In Me!

My One True Love
As I awaken, each and every day,Thoughts of love turn to you.An unbreakable bond between us two,A special love ever so true..The warm glow in your eyes,The sweet smile on your face;Makes me want to hold you, Forever in love's tender embrace.The gentleness of your touch,The sweet passion of your kiss.Just a couple of many pleasures,I longingly so miss..The sound of your voice,Is like a song in my heart.Always bringing me happiness,As it has done from our start..We've shared many joys , And and also felt some sorrows. Yet our future is filled ,Of wonderful tomorrows. So until that bright day,Far away such as it seems.You shall always be my one true Love.... The janu of my dreams.

A Soft Sweet Kiss
As I sadly stareInto the midnight sunI think of our loveAnd the day it begunThe feeling of loveA soft sweet kissAlways on my mindImpossible to resistYou gaze into my eyesYour innocence sharedYou gave yourself to meAnd showed me you caredNow I think of todayHow much that I've missedAnd how I long to haveThat soft sweet kissThis love won't dieI love you more todayIt's stronger nowThen it was yesterdayJust lean into meShow me that you missThe love that startedWith that soft sweet kiss

A Part of My Soul
On a warm summer night spent under the midnight skies of blueA romantic evening shared by twoEverything were so calm and so sereneWhen you asked me to share this life with love withinA tender loving smile on such a loving faceAs I said your love for me is a blessCupid’s arrow has struck my heart and made me seeWhat I feel for you is larger than the seaIf I could describe a feeling; the feeling of loving youNothing means as much to me as youFor my soul found a reason to love you in yet another wayGrounded in trust; nurtured by love in grown of silver sparkled raysGod gave us miracles in our heart and livesThe greatest thing for us to keep the seed and not making it weakTo be with you and seen my dreams come trueToday I’ve found more happiness with youYour smile is the language everytime you speakFor that love is one thing that my heart has been seekYour sweet kisses greet me on my morning strollFor now I know you are a part of my soul

While You are Away
I can't be with you today but if you close your eyes and think;I'll be beside you in the kitchen wearing your shirt - standing by the sink.
I'll be with you in the bedroomwaiting quietly on your bed;Just close your eyes and think of me,relive those memories in your head.
I'll stand by you in the bathroom,an unlikely place to meet;I'll smile at you so playfullyas I let you brush my teeth.
I'll be your light in the darkness,shining steady through and through;You only have to watch it glowto know I think of you.
I'll be the music that you listen to,I'll be there in every song:I'll laugh with you and sing with you,and comfort you when your day's gone wrong.
I'll be the wind that ruffles your hair,I'll be that warm embrace;I'll be the hand on your shoulder,I'll be the tender touch on your face.
I'll be the clock gently ticking,reminding you of the times;We've shut the rest of the world outsidewe're in our own world - yours and mine.
I'll be the moon as it danceson the water cold and still;For I have loved you alwaysand I know I always will.
Though you may not see me physicallyas you live your life today;Just close your eyes and think of meI will not be far away.

With No Reason
I love without knowing how.I love with the depths of my soul.I love with all I am and all I have.I love without eyes or sound. For my love is blind and deaf.I love with the gentleness of my heart.I love with the only passion known to me. I love with desire of you and me.I love so much that we as two become one.I love without judgement.I love with mind,body,and soul. I love in sickness and in health for all eternity.For all that I am,all that I have and all that I will ever be,I am forever yours.

My Angel
My AngelMy sweet beautiful angel.Sent to me from above.I am so grateful to have found you,and I give you all my love.You must have come from heaven,because you have pretty little angel eyes.When you gaze at me with them,my heart begins to fly.Your sweet angelic voice,continuously rings in my ears.With you by my side,there is nothing I fear.Whenever we are together,You shine with a heavenly glow.Your beautiful angel face,raises me up from feeling low.Yes, heaven is missing an angel,because you are here with me.You're my sweet, beautiful angel,and I'll love you for eternity!

For My Angel
For My AngelThe day you came into my life will be cherished always.An angel sent from heaven above for my lonely heart to hold.My heart is no longer lonely, but insteadfilled with the wonder of a love like I’ve never known.When you first held me, it was magical!A touch no other but my soulmate could provide.Truly the passion needed no words.Your kiss on my lips is something I long for each day.With a single kiss the intensity of your love so incredibly clear!Your eyes melt me with emotion so intense it is beyond belief.A caring and unconditional love that shines from themthat makes me shiver with excitement for our life to come.Each day your smile fills my heart with a joy like no other.Oh but to have you in my life is truly a blessing!On the day we wed...I promise to you yet again my unconditional love and devotion.For I will cherish each day that God gives me with you,our own little piece of heaven on earth.I will love you always.

The World's Most Beautiful
The World’s Most Beautiful I’d give anything to see the sun set on the horizon,I’d do anything to gaze at a full moon in the night sky;Even a rainbow would make me smile,And I’d love to swim in crystal clear watersOf an untouched sea;Sometimes I’ll see a shooting star,And try to gaze from afar,All the diamonds in the night sky;The mist on the mountains is breathtaking,As is walking in rainforest;To see cascading waterfalls I’d do anything for,As to stand on the highest peak in the world,And look at the sights below;I’d love to soar on wings above the clouds,Across the bluest skies;I’d do anything to seeAll the beautiful things in the world,Like a red rose blooming in the Sahara,Like a river twisting through a dusty land,All the beautiful things in the world;But I also know I am looking atThe world’s most beautiful creation,Every time you smile,And every time I look into your eyes.

Are There Angels
It is said there are Angels In Heaven aboveAnd they shine with the light Of an inner love Of these thingsI had not a clueBut that wasBefore I found youFor in you I’ve foundA love that is so rightIt shines all aroundWith the brightest of lightIt comes from somewhereSo deep withinThat it has no beginningAnd knows no endYour love is a lightThat brightens each dayOf all of the peopleYou see on your wayWhere ever you goOr whatever you doAll see the loveThat you have inside youThat God sent you hereTo a place where you’d beSharing such loveWith someone like meIs proof for meThat angels existAnd are filled with a loveThat no man could resistI thank God each dayFor finding the timeFor looking down on meAnd making you mineSo yes there are AngelsIn heaven aboveI know because GodSent me one to love

You are so Beautfiul
Your lips made a sound,My Ears have never heard,A sweet and soft sound,Like a morning blue bird.Your eyes make me gleam,Your smile cheers me so,Your gorgeous brown hair,Makes my heart glow.Your eyes are so gleaming,Your lips are so moist,There's not a prettier sound,Than the pitch of your voice.My love for you,Soars like a dove,Nothing money can buy,Could express my love.

A Glimpse of Us
Every time i wonder i like to sit and ponderabout all the blessings i have received,the ups and downs of life,the births, the marriages the challenges, the bereaved,i can only think of ever so few times,someone has been so loving to write their thoughts in rhymes,i never found a person who makes it all worth while,who is wiling to come up and see me purely to make me smile.you are what some may call just a guy,perhaps you are a tiny bit quiet and a tiny bit shy,but to me you are everything and nothing could compare,so everything that i have i would love to share,you feel me up with happiness, so much it over flows,and you can always see this as my face, it always glowsso whenever you are alone or I'm not by your side,you know that some where I'm thinking of you and the smile on my face is wide.no one could ever replace you,you've proved to be a star,my love has made a foot print in you heart and will follow you where ever you are.

Wo nahi mera magar us se mohabbat hai to haiWo nahi mera magar us se mohabbat hai to hai,Ye agar rasmo rivajo se bagawat hai to hai.Sach ko maine sach jab kah diya to kah diya,Ab jamane ki najro me ye bagawat hai to hai.Dost ban ker dushmano sa satata hai mujko,"Fir Bhi Mujhe Us Se Mohabbat Hai To Hai"

Kab kaha maine ki wo mil jaye mujko,uski baahon me dum nikle ye hasrat hai to hai.Wo sath hai to jinda hu main,Meri saanso ko uski jarurat hai to hai.

Agar hum bhi teri tarah Majboor na hote,Khuda Qasam hum bhi Tumse Door na hote..Wo to tere ISHQ me hum Badnaam ho gaye,Warna tere shahar me MashHoor na hote..Gar Khwaab dekhne ki muze Aadat hi na hoti,To ye Khwaab mere dil ke Choor-Choor na hote..Patthar Taraash kar jab tumhe Heera sa kar diya,Paakar Be-intehaa Mohabbat tum Magroor na hote..Anjaam Mere ISHQ ka, ye to hargiz nahi hota?Tum sabki aankhon ke NOOR, hum Be-Noor na hote..!!

When Night Falls
At night I miss you most of allWhen darkness begins to fall,It's then I reach into my heartYou are there never to depart.Loving words you have said to meRemains etched in my memory, You vow your love so very trueShowing it in all things you do.I need you in my life every dayTo help me along a lonely way,I must hear love words you sayOr my world will taint to gray.In my dreams you are with meIn reality you are never to be,Our deep love is pure and strongWhy then is it so very wrong.As time passes on without you ...

My love will still remain true,I pray for a day we will be freeTo share eternal love in reality...

"Trust & Trials"

LIFE IS A TEST AND A TRUST

The way you see your life shapes your life. How you define life determnes your destiny. Your perspective will influence how you invest your time, spend your money, use your talents and value your relationships.

If you were asked how you picture life, what image would come to your mind? That image would be your life metaphor. It is the view of life that you hold, consciously or unconsciously, in your mind. It is your description of how life works and what you expect from it.

Most people express their life metaphors through clothes, jewelry, cars, hairstyles, bmper stickers or even tattoos. Your unspoken life metaphor influences your life more than you realize. It determines your expectations, your values, your relationships, your goals, and your priorities.

God's view of life is: Life is a test, Life is a trust, and Life is a temporary assignment.
Life on earth is a test. God continually tests people's character, faith, obedience, love, integrity and loyalty.

Character is both developed and revealed by tests and all of life is a test. God constantly watches your response to people, problems, success, conflict, illness, disappointment and even the weather. God even watches the simplest actions such as when you open the door for others, when you pick up a piece of trash or when you are polite toward a clerk or waitress or janitor or even to the lowest level of your personality. You will be tested by major changes, delayed promises, impossible problems, unanswered prayers, undeserved criticism and even senseless tragedies.

A very important test is how you act when you cannot feel God's presence in your life. Sometimes God intentionally draws back and we do not sense his closeness. Every day is an important day and every second is a growth opportunity to deepen your character, to demonstrate love, or to depend on God. Some tests seem overwhelming, while others you do not even notice, but all of them have eternal implications.
The second God's view of life is a trust. Our time on earth and our energy, intelligence, opportunities, relationships and resources are all gifts from God that he has entrusted to our care and management. We are all stewards of whatever God gives us.

This concept of stewardship started with the recognition that God is the owner of everything and everyone on earth. We never own anything during our stay on earth. It was God's property before you arrived and God will loan it to someone else after you die.

So, you just get to enjoy it for a while.
The first job God gave humans was to manage and take care of God's "stuff" on earth. Everything we enjoy is to be treated as a trust that God has placed in our hands.

At the end of your life on earth you will be evaluated and rewarded according to how well you handled what God entrusted to you. It means that everything you do, even simple daily chores, has eternal implications. If you treat everything as a trust, God promises three rewards in eternity. First, you will be given God's affirmation. Next, you will receive a promotion and be given greater responsibility in eternity. Then, you will be honored with a celebration.

Most people fail to realize that money is both a test and a trust from God. God uses finances to teach us to trust him, and for many people, money is the greatest test of all. God watches how we use money to test how trustworthy we are. Hence, life is a test and a trust, and the more God gives you, the more responsible he expects you to be.

Verse to Remember: "The person who is trustworthy in very small matters is also trustworthy in great ones; and the person who is dishonest in very small matters is also dishonest in great ones." Luke 16:10

WHAT LIES BEHIND US AND WHAT LIES BEFORE US

Our Path

"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to whatlies within us.""Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power,and magic in it. Begin it now."



"Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitudeyou bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looksat what happens."Believe you can and you're half way there.""The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life byaltering his attitudes of mind."

" FEAR THE POSSIBILITY OF BEING POOR... "

WE ALL FEAR THE POSSIBILITY OF BEING POOR...

Myths

Most poor are lazy and don't want to work.Most of the poor get welfare, so the aren't really suffering.Most of the poor are better off than the rest of us because the government pays them to lie around and have more babies. But we ordinary tax payers can't afford to have more kids because the government won't subsidize us like they do the "welfare queens."Families on welfare eat better than those of us who work for a living.

If they didn't buy all the junk food and steaks they do and managed their money better, they wouldn't be poor.FactsIn 1990, 60% of the poor in the U.S. were not able to work due to their age (too young or too old), disability, or the lack of jobs. All of these are circumstances clearly beyond the control of the individual.

Most poor citizens do not receive aid from the government, either because they are not eligible, not willing to apply, or do not know that they are eligible.In Alabama, only a minority of welfare recipients receive ANY cash aid at all. Among those who do receive AFDC payments, an average of $29 per child each month or $348 a year was paid (1990). Compared to the income tax deduction of $2,450 per child, it is clear that the middle class families have more government- supplied incentive to have kids than the poor do.

In fact, the fertility rate of women on welfare is less than the fertility rate of all U.S. women of child bearing age.The average Food Stamp allotment in 1990 was 79 cents a meal per person. For a poor person, no amount of "good management" can result in sufficient nutritious meals throughout the month while on Food Stamps. We imagine what we see someone buy on food stamps is what they buy every week, but most food stamp recipients do one big shopping trip a month and try to make it last through the month.Why do myths persist?

The media perpetuate mythic images of "welfare queens" by running the same tired stories, and presenting as the norm a black family with four kids, all conceived by different fathers and all of them born while the mother was on welfare.

The next time you see a welfare story in the newspaper or on TV, look critically at the images they are presenting to you. Absent are the laid-off workers, the sick and disabled, and the unemployed workers who are poor and need help.

We want to believe myths.

We are not mean-spirited people, but we all fear the possibility of being poor. By demonizing the poor, it allows us to believe that "We will never be poor, because we are NOT like THOSE people."

But in fact, we are. In a 25-year study of the American families done by the University of Michigan, at some moment in those years fully one-quarter of all families studied experienced poverty.Politicians profit from encouraging myths. When is the last time a politician got elected for telling a truth we did not want to hear?

In the case of welfare myths, politicians can balance the budget on the backs of the poor, and we will support this.

More Facts on Poverty

Most recipients of welfare are NOT black, contrary to our myths. While people of color are disproportionately poor in the U.S., they are not the majority of the poor, nor are they the majority of welfare recipients.

"Walk With God"

GOD SMILES

God smiles when we love him supremely. God made you to love you to love you and he longs for you to love him back. God deeply loves you and desires your love in return. He longs for you to know him and spend time with him. This is wy learning to love God and be loved by him should be the greatest objective of your life.

When we trust God completely, he smiles at us. Trusting God completely means having faith that he knows what is best for your life. You expect him to keep his promises, help you with problems, and do the impossible when necessary. Trusting is an act of worship. Just as parents are pleased wen children trust their love and wisdom, your faith makes God happy.

Obeying God wholeheartedly makes him smiles. God does not owe you an explanation or reason for everything he asks you to do. Understandng can wait but obedience cannot. Instant obedience will teach you more about God than a lifetime of Bible discussions. In fact, you will never understand some commands until you obey them first. Obedience unlocks understanding. Any kind of obedience is also an act of worship.

God smiles when we praise and thank him continually. Few things feel better than receiving heartfelt praise and appreciation from someone else. He smiles when we express our adoration and gratitude to him. We praise God for who he is and we thank God for what he has done. When we give God enjoyment, our own hearts are filled with joy. We enjoy what God has done for us and when we express that enoyment to God, it brings him joy - but it also increases our joy.

God gives us abilities to use and it makes him smiles. Every human activity, except sin, can be done for God's pleasure if you do it with an attitude of praise. You do not bring glory or pleasure to God by hiding your abilities or by trying to be someone else. You only bring him enjoyment by being you.

Anytime you reject any part of yourself, you are rejecting God's wisdom and sovereignty in creating you. God also gains pleasure in watching you enjoy his creation. He gave you eyes to enjoy beauty, ears to enjoy sounds, your nose and taste buds to enjoy smells and tastes and the nerves under your skin to enjoy touch. Every act of enjoyment becomes an act of worship when you thank God for it.

Verse to Remember: "Rather the Lord takes pleasure in the devout, those who await his faithful care." Psalm 147:11

Affectionate and Cute Nicknames

What's in a name?

That which we call a rose

By any other name would smell as sweet. - Shakespeare. It’s nothing special in names but many would say there’s definitely a lot of feeling and emotions attached to a name.

name is obviously the identity of a person and many people (including me) are fond of their names. Nicknames for that matter are used to address people in a rather affectionate manner. Nicknames are yet another way to address your beloved and are seen as a way of expressing one’s feeling. You may call your beloved one with a sweet and affectionate nickname.

It is a way to express your feelings and love for that person.

Many people are identified by two names: by proper names and by nicknames. Nickname may be a short-form or familiar form of your proper name or it may be totally different. Many nicknames reflect some typical characteristics of a person.

Generally, the nicknames are used to express love or close emotional bond with that individual. Most children are identified by their nicknames, even in their adulthood. The nicknames are more commonly used by writers, poets and film artists. Sometimes they are more famous with their nicknames. Most people are not even familiar with their original names.Romantic nicknames contribute a lot in developing a strong emotional bond between you and your partner.

It’s a unique way to express your affection for your beloved one. You may call your man a hunk or a sweetie pie. The nicknames you select can help to flatter your boyfriend and even increase intimacy between partners.

The kind of nickname you choose also depends upon your boyfriend; you would have to keep in mind, his nature and attitude and find a cute nickname that proves to be apt for him.So, how does one go about finding cute nicknames for their partner? Don’t worry here we have some of the popular romantic and affectionate nicknames for you.

Popular Nicknames for the BoyfriendThe girls can call their boyfriends with many cute and affectionate nicknames. Here are some cute nicknames for guys:

Handsome: It will assure your boyfriend that you find him attractive and handsome.
This assurance is very important in order to improve emotional attachment between you and your boyfriend.

Adorable: This name says it all. It’s apt for lovable boyfriends!

Movie Star: Give your boyfriend a feel like being a film star by using this nickname.
Cowboy: This nickname is very popular as the cowboys are considered as sexy and manly.

Hot Chocolate or H.C.: It’s a perfect nickname for a dark, tall and handsome man.

Honey Bear or Cuddly Bear: This cute nickname is suitable for a cool, fun-loving guy.

Tiger: The word ‘tiger’ is related to power that men love to have. Any guy would like this perfect nickname.

This cute nickname can be used for both boyfriends, as well as girlfriends.

Popular Nicknames for the Girlfriend

There are number of nicknames that can be used to call your beloved girlfriend.
Some of the popular nicknames for the girlfriend are as follows:
Honey: Any girl will like this cute nickname. It expresses your intense love for your girlfriend.Sweetie: This nickname is perfect for your cute girlfriend.

Baby: This nickname makes your girlfriend feel younger.

Dear/Darling: This romantic nickname is very popular. You can express your affection for your girlfriend with this nickname.

Sweetheart: Your girlfriend will surely like this nickname. It gives her the pleasant feeling that she is someone very special for you.

Sexy: Use this nickname for someone who oozes sex appeal.With some creativity and originality, you can create your own favorite nickname for your adorable darling and add a personal touch to the name you select.

The sweet and affectionate nicknames can give you a special identity. They help to create an emotional bond with your partner as well as bring back happy memories in your life.

"Our Purpose"

LIVING WITH A PURPOSE

There are great benefits of living with a purpose life.

We were made to have meaning. This is why most people try to discover it. When life has meaning, you can bear almost anything; without its meaning, nothing is bearable. So, without God, life has no purpose, and without purpose, life has no meaning. And, without meaning, life has no significance or hope. Hope is as essential to your life as air and water. You need hope to cope and hope comes from having a purpose.



Simplifies your life defines what you do and what you don't do. Your purpose becomes the standard you use to evaluate which activities are essential and which are not. Without a clear purpose you have no foundation on which you base decisions, allocate your time and use your resources. You will tend to make choices based on circumstances, pressures and your mood at that moment. People who do not know their purpose try to do too much and that causes stress, fatigue and conflict.

Knowing your purpose focuses your life. It concentrates your effort and energy on what is impotant. You become effective by being selective. It is human nature to get distracted by minor issues. Many people are like gyroscopes, spinning around at a frantic pace but never going anywhere. A lack of focus and purpose in life will keep you changing directions, jobs, relationsips, churches or other externals - hoping each change will settle the confusion or fill the emptiness in your heart.

Purpose always produces passion. Nothing energizes like a clear purpose. On the other hand, passion dissipates when you lack a purpose. Just getting out of bed becomes a major chore. It is usually meaningless work, not overwork, that wears us down, saps our strength and robs our joy.
Many people spend their lives trying to create a lasting legacy on earth.

They want to remembered when they are gone. Yet, what ultimately matters most will not be what others say about your life but what God says. What people fail to realize is that all achievements are eventually surpassed, records are broken, reputations fade and tributes are forgotten.

Living to create an earthly legacy is a short-sighted goal. A wiser use of time is to build an eternal legacy. Because, we were not put on earth to be remembered but to prepare for eternity.

One day all of us will stand before God and he will ask two crucial questions: First, "What did you do with my Son, Jesus Christ?" God would not ask about your religious background or doctrinal views. The only thing that will matter is, did you accept what Jesus did for you and did you learn to love and trust him? The second, "What did you do with what I gave you?"

What did you do with your life - all the gifts, talents, opportunities, energy, relationships, and resources God gave you? Did you spend them on yourself, or did you use them for the purposes God made you for?"

Verse to Remember: "A nation of firm purpose you keep in peace; in peace, for its trust in you." Isaiah 26:3

4give those who hurt you coz God always finds ways to help you out

One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well.
The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do.

Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway;
it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey.

He invited all his neighbors to come over and help him.
They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well.
At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly.
Then, to everyone's amazement he quieted down.A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well.He was astonished at what he saw.
With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing.
He would shake it off and take a step up.As the farmer's neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal,

he would shake it off and take a step up.
Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey
stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!MORAL :emember the five simple rules to be happy:

1. Free your heart from hatred - Forgive

.2. Free your mind from worries - Most never happens.

3. Live simply and appreciate what you have.4. Give more.

5. Expect less from people but more from God.

Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt.
The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up.
Each of our troubles is a stepping stone.
We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up!Shake it off and take a step up.

"Right Path"

We have two eyes and one tongue which mean we need to look twice and talk once.
We have two ears and one mouth so we need to listen more than we talk.

We have two hands and one stomach so we need to work twice as much as we eat.
We have two major brain parts, the left and the right and one heart so we can think twice and love only one.

Isn't it amazing that our body parts remind us how to live right?

4give those who hurt you coz God always finds ways to help you out

One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well.
The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do.
Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway;
it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey.

He invited all his neighbors to come over and help him.
They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well.
At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly.
Then, to everyone's amazement he quieted down.A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well.He was astonished at what he saw.
With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing.
He would shake it off and take a step up.As the farmer's neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal,

he would shake it off and take a step up.
Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey
stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!

MORAL :Remember the five simple rules to be happy:1. Free your heart from hatred - Forgive.2. Free your mind from worries - Most never happens.3. Live simply and appreciate what you have.4. Give more.5. Expect less from people but more from God.

Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt.
The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up.
Each of our troubles is a stepping stone.
We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up!Shake it off and take a step up.

You know, love is just like someone waiting for a bus.when the bus comes, you look at it and you said to yourself."eee....so full....cannot sit down one".so you said to yourself, "i'll wait for the next one"."so you let the bus go and waited for the second bus.then the second bus came, you looked at it and you said,"eee...this bus so old..surely very uncomfortable one."so you let the bus go and again, decided to wait for the next bus.after a while another bus came, it's not crowded, not old but you said,"eee..no air-con one..and the weather is so warm,better wait for the next one"so again you let the bus go and decided to wait for the next bus.

then the sky started to get dark as it is getting late.you panicked and jump on to the next on coming bus.it is not until much later that you found outthat you had boarded on to the wrong bus!so you wasted your time and money waiting for what you want!even if an airson bus came, can you ensure that the aircon buswon't break down or whether will the aircon be too cold for you?so people wanting to get what you want is not wrong.but it wouldn't hurt to give other people a chance right?if you found that the "bus" doesn't suit you,just press the redbutton and get off the bus.but wait...

i'm sure you have this experience before.you saw a bus coming (the bus you want of course)you flagged it but the driver act blurby pretending not seeing you and zoomed pass you!well, and when the bus zoomed pass, what you may have to do is WALK!!!!the bottom line is being loved is like waiting for a bus whether you want.to get on the bus and give the bus a chance depends totally on you.and walking is like being out of love.you never lose by loving.you always lose by holding back.