Monday, August 31, 2009

Freelance Writing Business


How To How To Start Your Freelance Writing Business

If you'd like to protect your personal assets, appear more legitimate to publishers, and establish an employment history for things like obtaining credit, then you should definitely look into incorporating or establishing a DBA.

Difficulty: Average
Time Required: One month
Here's How:

1.Choices, Choices. Although it might sound complicated, your first step is to choose what kind of business front you want to frame your writing in. Operating without any kind of paperwork at all means that you are doing business as a sole proprietor--a very popular choice among many freelance writers. However, you might want to look into forming an LLC or LLP, which are both simple and somewhat inexpensive (only $50 around my area!), but offer more protection to you. Last, you could go even bigger by choosing a
different kind of corporation.

Recommendation: An LLC will serve most writers' purposes.

2.All that paperwork! Don't be intimidated by the type and amount of paperwork it takes to set up your business. States are beginning to support and encourage small businesses by streamlining this process. For example, my LLC was only 2 pieces of paper and $50. Are you making this harder than it needs to be? You'll never know unless you do the research!


3.Feds! Yes, you now have to deal with the Federal government, but it's easier than you might imagine. You need an EIN for your small business. This is simply a number that's similar to your S.S. number, but you can give it clients in place of your S.S. It's simply the tax ID of your business, and it takes two minutes to obtain one at the
IRS website. You just answer a few quick questions, and then they send you a letter in the mail. How official are you, now?

4.Do the research. This may be an extraneous step-- unless you find something. Your job now is to research your city, county and state regulations to make sure there are no licenses or permits you need to do your job. As a writer, it's a long shot, especially at the state level, where you've (supposedly) already made yourself know through your LLC paperwork (above). However, I have known writers that needed to tell their city about their home office, and obtain an inexpensive permit. Better safe than sorry!

5.Bank on it. With your LLC (or similar) paperwork in hand, it's time to make it official with your bank. Establishing a separate bank account for your company is crucial for future credit purposes. A business bank account in the name of your writing company is your next step, and should take only about 30 minutes of your time.

6.Keep records. You now need to manage your
writing dollars. Whether you choose a simple Excel spreadsheet, or an entire software accounting system doesn't matter. What matters is that you keep your 'money in' and 'money out well-accounted for.

7.Pay Uncle Sam. Ahh, yes, every business needs to share the fruits of its labor with the government. Here's how to make sure you
, and at the right times. (Hint, there's four of them-- not just one!)

8.Consider insurance. Do you have clients coming to your home office? You may need liability or "slip and fall" insurance. Have you ever considered the need for errors and omissions insurance? These are things to consider, now that you're official and all!

Tips:

Again, don't be intimidated by any of these steps. I've known many writers who want to form an LLC, but are unsure of the process. I personally found it to be much simpler than I imagined, and hope you will, too!

What You Need:

DBA or LLC paperwork/correct agency (see exact link in article)
IRS.gov (see exact link in article)
Licenses or permits
Bank account
Good tax preparer or software program
Insurance agent

Sunday, August 30, 2009

Blessings


sometimes you can not see where the road is leading
it might take a turn that you never dreamed of
but these unexpected detours can be blessings
giving your heart a new song to happily sing
even opening a new door to love


new joys they may bring
finding the dark clouds lining
an adventure you had not thought of
set you to the clouds and soaring
be the air beneath your proverbial wing
offering blessings you never thought of

Thursday, August 27, 2009

Priceless Gifts That Don't Cost A Cent

THE GIFT OF LISTENING But you must REALLY listen. No interrupting, no daydreaming, no planning your response. Just listening.

THE GIFT OF AFFECTION Be generous with appropriate hugs, kisses, pats on the back and handholds. Let these small actions demonstrate the love you have for family and friends.

THE GIFT OF LAUGHTER Clip cartoons. Share articles and funny stories. Your gift will say, "I love to laugh with you".

THE GIFT OF A WRITTEN NOTE It can be a simple "Thanks for the help" note or a full sonnet. A brief, handwritten note may be remembered for a lifetime, and may even change a life.

THE GIFT OF A COMPLIMENT A simple and sincere, "You look great in red", "You did a super job" or "That was a wonderful meal" can make someone's day.

THE GIFT OF A FAVOR Every day, go out of your way to do something kind.

THE GIFT OF SOLITUDE There are times when we want nothing better than to be left alone. Be sensitive to those times and give the gift of solitude to others.

THE GIFT OF A CHEERFUL DISPOSITION The easiest way to feel good is to extend a kind word to someone, really it's not that hard to say, Hello or Thank You.

Proven Ways to Get Along Better With EVERYONE



Before you say anything to anyone, ask yourself 3 things:

Is it true?
Is it kind?
Is it necessary?

Make promises sparingly and keep them faithfully.
Never miss the opportunity to compliment or say something encouraging to someone.
Refuse to talk negatively about others; don't gossip and don't listen to gossip.
Have a forgiving view of people. Believe that most people are doing the best they can.
Keep an open mind; discuss, but don't argue. (It is possible to disagree without being disagreeable.)

Forget about counting to 10. Count to 1,000 before doing or saying anything that could make matters worse.

Let your virtues speak for themselves.

If someone criticizes you, see if there is any TRUTH to what he is saying; if so, make changes. If there is no truth to the criticism, ignore it and live so that no one will believe the negative remark.

Cultivate your sense of humor; laughter is the shortest distance between two people.
Do not seek so much to be consoled, as to console; do not seek so much to be understood, as to understand; do not seek so much to be loved as to love.

Thursday, August 20, 2009

Monday, August 17, 2009

Make A Difference

MAKE A DIFFERENCE

As one that does care, I say to those that are quick to judge,I helped save a life this night. With the knowledge at hand,total respect for all,and malice toward none,I ask-What have YOU done? STEP UP. Make a difference. I have. I will continue to be the person I've always been. Be slow to judge. Quick in your desire to help. The impression you leave will for all time be your imprint. Perfection is impossible. The want and action to be the best for yourself,for others,for posterity....is "YOU". Make yourself matter.Those that should-can. Those that can-do. Whatever is necessary,for good to survive.~~~~

L I F E

Life takes unexpected turns in a matter of seconds..life suprises u with things u'd never thought of seeing, hearing, or believing...life puts u in situations u'd never thought of being in...one day ur happy..next day ur sad..one day ur alive..next day ur not (god forrbid)...u may say that life isn't fair (although it is sometimes true)..but God never puts u in situations u can't make it through...

Only he knows why he does things...everything is meant to be..everything happens for a reason..everything has a purpose in life..If u want to make it far in life...keep ur head up, never lose interest in life...have hope, faith and love..forgive and forget the people that have caused u harm..hatred never puts u ahead in life..it takes u many steps back...sucks u into a world of negative thoughts and feelings...when ur filled with hate it just causes more bad and poor choices...

I've learned to forget but not forgive (yet) the people who have done harm..although the pain is still inside (but never let out) I've learned to suck it up..always have a smile on my face no matter what..i remember going to school telling jokes being funny with people n all...but to hide away problems and pain...i still have problems trying to let it all out...that's the hardest part of all...letting go of every pain that has been hidden deep inside...Are u scared that people might judge you if u tell them?

Change there thoughts about u or maybe walk out on u (even if they have known u for years)?...Do u think ur better off without saying anything...Do u think ur life won't change even if u let it out or Think no one is out there for u to listen?...There is always going to be someone there to listen and help u out on every situation..even if u feel alone or have hit rock bottom...love everyone close to you..cherish every moment with them..because u never know if it will be the last time seeing them or them seeing u..appreciate life everyday..live it as if it was ur last........

addicted

i'm so weak lady i'm in need,
lost inside the inhaling ,
here you are just a stalling ,
why can't you hear me calling
like being in a raging storm,
waiting on exhaling to come,
tossing and turning all night long
i wake up only to discover ,
my house is still not a home
still still just a dream ,
still alone.

cruel so damn mean reality can be so wrong,
addicted lost in wonder as to where this is coming from
like that ole hoot owl who shares my song ,
only to realize all my desires are all in vain ,
as my reality remains the same ,
stuck in this perceptual addiction,
it's you baby i am missing ,
it's you who has me singing
lost in perpetual unidentified dimensions ,
running rampage in visions of premonitions ,
i am a man lost inside of these intermissions
addicted in loving you all over again
lost inside this imagination,
no way am i just a victim of my run away interventions ,
i don't care who you been with
i want even ask questions,
in love with you so deep
till there can be no hesitation ,
passion filled sweet cravings better known
as you and my addiction ,
what more can i say to even the score,
when all my wants serves to need you more,
than the sun needs the sky,
more than the stars that shines in the blackest night,
addicted like the blind needs sight,
like reasons needs whys,
like four corners needs sides i just want you in my life,
as these words i recite let emotions take flight,
just look me in my eyes
as i take you on a natural high addicted
i see your face in every place i wanna be,
like being in a cage of love i never wanna be free
i savor the karma that is your Ora to taste,
like rain to the desert dry and bar-rand floor
not one precious drop of wetness

Will i let go to waste addicted
call it what you will or may as i think of you night and day,
such as my affliction better known as sweet addiction ,
I'm addicted to your love my mission is to get it,
want be without it no doubt about it got to have it,
addicted i'm so weak lady i'm in need,
lost inside the inhaling ,
here you are just a stalling ,
why can't you hear me calling
Magic walks with me



Magic walks with me through this world
Holding my heart and soul ever so gently
Some say I see miracles around every corner
They’re right I sure do see the mystical shining


Walking beside
Behind
Leading
Following
Teaching


Brother departed physically but ever embedded
Sending me a hawk that circles constantly about
Shows me a little girl with knowledge and grace
So far beyond all of our years combined shaming us


Holding hands
Chattering
Laughing
Healing
pondering


Dark Park introduces a child who walks alone
White hair to his scalp and blue tear drop eyes
Playing with the sweet princess unwaveringly
Eating peanut butter instead of pizza but still
Making contact


Smiling
Digging
Climbing
Starring


Questions asked about his protectors location
Go unanswered with a quick smile so familiar
And running feet to climb the slide backwards
No one brings him he just arrives in our circle


Walking alone
Intensely
Immensely
Solitary
Contrary


 Princess inquires about his weird manifestation
Where do you walk here from is it close by here
Desolation Boulevard doesn’t seem to terrify you
And why are you eating the bread of ducks and fishes


Smiling bright
Bestows
Sandwiches
Peaches
Nanas


Remembering a boy who walked the crystalline path
Saving those who were deemed hopeless and unworthy
Inquiring about a need for assistance and Adoration
Answered with a nod and a weirdly familiar tilted smirk
Tomorrow pizza


Steaming
Screaming
Remembering
Protecting


Magic walks with me through this world
Holding my heart and soul ever so gently
Some say I see miracles around every corner
They’re right I sure do see the mystical shining


Walking beside
Behind
Leading
Following
Teaching

Saturday, August 15, 2009

"Dedicated To My Special Indian Friend"




40 Tips For Better Life...

1. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day. And while you walk, smile.

2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.

3. Sleep for 7 hours.


4. Live with the 3 E’s — Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.


5. Play more games.


6. Read more books than you did the previous year.


7. Make time to practice meditation, yoga, and prayer. They provide us with daily
fuel for our busy lives.

8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.

9. Dream more while you are awake.

10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.


11. Drink plenty of water.


12. Try to make at least three people smile each day.


13. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip.


14. Forget issues of the past. Don’t remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past.
That will ruin your present happiness.

15. Don’t have negative thoughts or things you cannot control.

16. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the
curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.

17. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.


18. Smile and laugh more.


19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don’t hate others.


20. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.


21. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.


22. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.


23. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about. Don’t compare your partner with others.

24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.


25. Forgive everyone for everything.


26. What other people think of you is none of your business.


27. GOD heals everything.


28. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.


29. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.


30. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.


31. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.


32. The best is yet to come.


33. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.


34. Do the right thing!


35. Call your family often.


36. Your inner most is always happy. So be happy.


37. Each day give something good to others.

38. Don’t over do. Keep your limits.

39. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.


40. Don’t be more calculative in your life for all things.


Friday, August 14, 2009

Happiness





"Possessions, they don't mean that much It rains and they just turn to rust
and we all, we all turn to dust
In the end, in the end

All the stars above don't mean a thing
And I don't care about fortune and fame
All the gold can stay lost
In the bottom of the deep blue sea
It don't matter much to me
I just wanna be happy

Hey. Lets be honest
Love's the only dream
That we all want, that everybody needs
Life's a train, it don't turn back
It's how you love, not what you have
In the end, oh in the end

All the stars above don't mean a thing
And I don't care about fortune and fame
All the gold can stay lost
In the bottom of the deep blue sea
It don't matter much to me
I just wanna be happy

And the sun's gonna come up
And the sky's gonna look down
And we're all gonna keep
Spinnin' round and round

All the stars above don't mean a thing
And I don't care about fortune and fame
All the gold can stay lost
In the bottom of the deep blue sea
It don't matter much to me
I just wanna be happy

"Feeling's for your ex!"

Your ex still on your mind?

Are you still in love?Should you tell them?Did they move on?


These are some of the main questions after a break-up that Ive had to ask myself a lot. Im sure a lot of you out there have the same questions that you wish someone could just answer for you,but as we all know it doesn't work like that....sucks I know! When you split up with someone you have been in a long lasting relationship with, it can be very difficult to stop some of the feelings that you have for him or her still. Sometimes even though you know that the split is for the best, your mind might still continue to wonder and think about your ex. There is no easy or magic formula for getting him or her out of your mind. However, there are a few steps listed next that may or may not help.

1.Think Back!!!

-Think of all of the things that made you split. When your mind goes down memory lane...make sure that it also travels the rocky and bumpy road that caused the break up. Then remember all of the reasons that made you decide to part ways to begin with. Another thing put away things that remind you of him or her. Things he or she gave you (especially pictures of them or the both of you).

2.Your freeeee!!! Like free Willy!!!! :)

-Enjoy your newly found "freedom". There are many previously forbidden things that you can do now that he/she won't be around to tell you not to do them. Indulge in as much football watching, beer drinking and pool playing that your heart desires, because you are now free to do them without repercussions and girls do as much flirting, partying, hanging out with who ever, and so much more as well.

3. Stay Away!!!!!

(I mean it)-Find different places to hang out. Try to stay away from places that you went together, bcuz if you...you'll be sitting there like "DAMN!" Any mutual friends should also be off limits just for now though. (Not a permanent thing) You should still go out with your friends and have fun!!! Even if you may not think that you feel up to going out, seriously go ahead and make your absolute "best" effort to have a good time. Listen to me! I'm not lying!

4. Get yourself together!!!

-Repair your damaged ego. Your ego may have just taken a heavy blow if you were not the one that wanted the break up. Start slowly in getting yourself back into dating shape again by doing some fun activities like taking dance lessons or get a membership at the gym. This will let you get back into physical shape, build your ego and you could possibly meet new people in the process.

5. PEACEEEEE!!!

-Think about the positive things to come. If your ex did things or had faults that made life difficult for you, just imaging the positive things that will be in your life without the mental stress that he/she had once created for you. Once you can get out of the limbo state of wanting him or her back, you can finally get some closure and peace of mind to move on in peace.

Are you making these mistakes?

Calling your partner constantly after the break up.
Saying “I Love you” over and over and how much you can’t live without them.
Trying to convince them that you’ll change and everything will be different this time.
Begging and crying, acting out of desperation in the hopes that they will feel “sorry” for you and take you back.

Trying to use reason and logic to get them to come back.

Resorting to arguing, blaming and guilt trips when all else hasn’t worked.
Doing absolutely nothing because you’re afraid to make things worse!
If your doing any of those things make sure you are to try and stop yourself. Your not helping the situation at hand any easier on yourself...you know the saying if you set it free and it comes back, it was always yours and if it doesn't it just wasn't meant to be. Its pretty much like that. Which isn't always such a "BAD" thing! And that's something that some ppl need to realize.Okay, now this part is for those out there that are searching for guidance when it comes to confronting their ex about their feelings. If your ex happens to already be moved on and in a new healthy happy relationship...plz do not tell him/her. The reason I say this is bcuz you might ruin something he/she is sharing with someone. Telling him or her you love them will be selfish and could cause problems between you too. Rly think about some things:"Do you think you would feel the same about him/her if she didn't have a new significant other?"Maybe, just maybe you really do still love him/her...but maybe you are just in love with the "idea" of her.Don't sit there and tell your ex you still love them or that you want them back if they already have a strong,happy,healthy relationship...that could start problems between the both of you or between ur ex's previous relationship! "Why would you want to come between that?"............................................................................................

If you rly love your ex, you will be strong enough to let him/her be with the person that makes them happy. You will sit there and just be happy that they found happiness! :)Here's another situtation: Ex is single still!I feel that if your ex is still single and isn't kind of seeing someone already, then you should go straight ahead and tell them how you feel. I believe in fighting for what you love. I mean thats what I did. Im not gunna sit here and lie to you saying I won him back, bcuz I didn't...don't get me wrong I fought long and hard. I put up a pretty good fight if you ask me, but not everything can go back to the way it was.

And that's when we need to face the facts that its over. I did and now look at me...im still HAPPY! I mean me and my ex still to this day talk and have a very healthy relationship. We still are in love, but we don't let that interfere with our lives and friendship. We just came to terms that we were better off friends. If we can do it so can you!!!"From all that though I learned that no matter what he will always have a place in my life and heart. I will carry him with me forever and into every relationship I have." "So it comes to the last question""What are you going to do?"

Thursday, August 13, 2009

" I love you "

" 3 Words "


Just three words that I want to hear
Just three words to make it all clear
I need three words to assuage my fear
Three words you can give to me to bring us closer together
Three words you can say to me to change my world forever
I want three simple words strung together in a sentence
Three little words that would mean the whole world to me
Three syllables that can have overwhelming eloquence
Three words that mean more than any others ever hurled at me
Countless ideas would never be enough
To eclipse only three of devotion and charity
Never ending ballads of emotion and love
Could not outshine these three words of clarity
A million words could never measure up
To but three spoken with sincerityJust three words that I need my dear
Just three words I’d do anything to hear
I need three words whispered into my ear
Three words once heard would lead me far outside my element
Three distinct words when uttered render all else irrelevant
Three simple words can turn my world into abject pleasure
Three little words the meaning of which cannot be measured
Three syllables strung together that alleviate so much pressure
Three words for which I yearn would be so absolutely treasured
Countless ideas would never be enough
To eclipse only three of devotion and charity
Never ending ballads of emotion and love
Could not outshine these three words of clarity
A billion words could never measure up
To but three spoken with sincerity
Just three words and I need to hear them
Three words that need to be said
So go out on a limb someday soon before we’re both dead
Three words that herald happiness
Three words from you I would never dread
Three words shouted from a mountaintop
Three words whispered in your head
Three words across the internet
Or three words lying in your bed
So much gets said about nothing
I’d rather hear “I love you” instead.

Wednesday, August 12, 2009

To The Girl Who Stole My Heart

She means the world to me

Maybe tomorrow you'll take back my heart,Maybe you'll give me a brand new start.I'm living with dreams that won't come true,For you will never love me as I love you.Every thing happens for a reason,So i have to deal with this heart break without treason,You are still the apple of my eye,And many people are probably wondering why?Much respect goes out to you and i told you why,It just kills me to see our relationship telling us goodbye,Losing love for me is a feeling you cannot hide,However; you know i will always be by your side.Baby youre right, maybe your attraction for me will return,But for right now i have to just let it burn,You were always my dream come true,And i understand you did this because you were feeling blue.

It's whatever you like honey and its not your fault,Just keep my heart and lock it up in your vault,I still know you are the one for me,Will we be lovers again?...we will just have to wait and see...Hopefully the future holds something more than being friends,However you know ill be there until the end.

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

You are a dream come true


A dream come true


Watching you sleep,


Dreaming away.
Sleeping in my arms,
You'll be mine, again, someday.

Feeling you breathe,
So precious when you sleep.
I love every smile,
giggle, and weep.

I constantly wonder
What you dream about.
You're truely someone
I cannot live without.

When you're out of my arms,
It feels like a hole.
A missing piece in my life,
My heart, and my soul.

You're getting so big!
So damn cute and smart.
You're filled with joy,
And a beautiful heart.

You roll like a champ,
And waving goodbye.
Everytime I leave you,
I can't help but cry.

You're so close to crawling.
I love hearing you're voice.
Please understand, Honey.
None of this was by choice.

I made some mistakes,
I admit- I was wrong.
But we'll be a family again,
And it wont take too long.

We WILL be together.
I give you my word.
The only thing that could stop me,
Is Jesus Christ, our Lord.

But, he wont take me from you.
Or, you away from me.
He had a plan, giving you life.
And someday you will see.

It may seem really messed up,
The way things have worked out.
But it all happened for a reason,
I trust God, without doubt.

All you need is Me.
And, all I need is You.
Believe in Mommy, Baby Girl.

Our dreams WILL come true...

About That One True Love


True Love

YOU, with eyes that melt into the very core of my soul
YOU, with a voice that sounds like an angel speaking to the very center of my being.
YOU, with a touch that leaves me breathless, speechless, and numbs all pain.

Your smile makes me weak and my heart skips a beat,
The sound of your voice soothes my soul and calms my spirit,
Your touch tames my wild nature and soothes my impatient soul,
The look in your eyes stops all time and space and holds me tight.

You turn my heart inside out exposing all that I am,
You kiss away all my invisible scars
You clear my slate and allow me to begin over
You transform my life with the depth of your passion
You capture me in the beautiful complexity of your mind


Eyes with an intensity that melt right into the very core of my soul. A voice that speaks straight into my heart. A touch that numbs all pains emotional and physical and takes me to a place that is all our own. I am profoundly blessed to have finally found you through all the lives we've shared before this one, God led us to each other once again. How could we be worthy of such a gift from above.

Your love is more precious to me than the air I breath and I am forever yours with all that I am from now until the end of all time.

Monday, August 10, 2009

Mr.Right , Mr.Right , Mr.Right....where are you?

Mr. Right....now


When we are children, we are surrounded by many things that shape our thoughts, actions, and desires in the future. As we grow into teenagers these things we learned as children begin to take root, and we learn whether or not the behaviors we've learned are acceptable for us or not. Sometimes it's very difficult for us to unlearn things that we've been taught, or things we've told ourselves from a very young age.

Our parents are very influential in this process. The kind of relationship that our parents have with each other has been proven to directly influence the type of partner we seek out as adults. If our father is respectful and courteous to women, males are in turn usually respectful and courteous to women. If our mothers nag, berate, and pester our fathers into submission, females in turn usually do the same thing.

As children we are faced with relationships of all kinds. Usually these relationships are male female, but that doesn't matter for my purposes today. What I want to talk about is the preconditioning we all receive is children that says the purpose of human kind is to grow up and raise a family.

From a very young age we are shown that success is measured in what we achieve. The idea of a "perfect life" is having a spouse, two kids, a dog, and a house with a white picket fence. We all have our idea of what the "perfect' life would be, no matter what the details, more often than not that ideal includes falling in love and having a life long partner.

The trouble with this idea is that it rarely happens that way. We know this though, we all know the divorce rate, we all have habitually single friends, yet we still seek out this ideal. There are a few black sheep in our society that have learned that it's okay to be single, that life happiness is not dependent upon meeting somebody else.

The real trouble with this whole philosophy is that it makes us feel worthless. Just the thought of having an "other half" by nature means that until you find this other half, you are by all accounts unfulfilled. In order to be a whole you must first find that one special person who completes you.
This is absolutely crippling! No wonder single people have such low self esteem! How can they feel good about themselves when they are not whole people? There are people out there who must be in a relationship at all costs. Their lives can be going just fine, they have a job, a car, enough money, but they have no relationship and so their life's is crap.

Some of us out there food ourselves into happiness. We'll meet somebody that in our hearts we know is not right for us, and we manufacture feelings for this person. Even though this person might treat us poorly, ignore us, demean us, the idea of having a lover that treats us poorly is better than the idea of not having a lover at all. Because when that person is absent we can imagine that our relationship is great. When they are gone, we are able to think of "all the good times" that may or may not exist, but they are enough to keep it together. "Love" or the absence of it, can be truly blinding.

When do we wake up? When do we see that the pursuit of happiness does not have to include finding our soul mate? The answer is simple, when we acknowledge ourselves as being whole. When we feel whole in and of ourselves, finding a lover is no longer a need, but a want.
It took me a very long time to learn this lesson. Some of my friends are still figuring it out. To those people who still feel like they NEED a lover to be happy, I say wake up. Look around you at all of the wonderful things in your life. They are there whether you see them or not. Look at all of the people who love you, not for anything in return but just because.

I do believe that people can find a steady, stable, healthy relationship. You wont find it by holding on to every person you go out with until they cast you aside. You have to set boundaries for yourself. You have to have self worth. I went out on dates with, and had relationships with over 100 men in the course of 8 years before I met my "other half". You will never meet Mr. right, if you are too busy with Mr. Right now.

My Boo...


FOR YOU...



So cold and dark, so empty and alone,Never knowing what real love was.So fragile and closed, so hateful and cruel, never to open my heart to anyone, and then there was you.So scared, so new, not knowing what was to come, I gave you what little I had left. Hoping that you would want me the way that I am. Timid and frightened, wanting to love again, and then there was you.A little relief from the beating that my heart took, trying to remember what it was like. You showed me that it was real and true, you touch so gentle, you saw right through.All the pain and distrust disappeared that day, the love that consumed me felt so perfect and so right. Still hesitant to let anyone see who I really was, and then there was you.Believing in me, trusting me, loving me unconditionally, letting go of all the fear, anger, and regret. Knowing that it is ok just to be who I am.Crying, laughing, talking, sharing emotions that I tried to hide for so long, All because there was you.

How do I tell you how I feel about you
When.....
everytime i think of you my body shakes
everytime i see you my knees grow weak and
everytime i'm with you i dont want the time to end.
When.....
everytime i look into your eyes, i wish i was there
everytime i see you smile my heart melts and
every night before i go to sleep i pray we dont end.
I've tried somehow to say:
you're the sun that lights up my sky
the wind that keeps me cool on a hot summer day
and sweet incense that keeps me on a natural high
I want so much to tell you:
that without you with me each day my day isn't complete
that since day one I've always wanted to be with you
that no matter what's going on in my life
you're the reason there's a smile on my face
and that loving you seems to be all I need to know.
But everytime I want to
the words just wont come out
to you it may sound mushy or too cute
you may not believe it so it's better I keep my mouth closed
Then to try to tell you exactly whats on my mind
yet I wish to tell you that I'm beginning to
love you more with each passing of the day
and that I want to be with you
come whatever may.
One Word
One Look
One Smile
And my heart lightens.
How I wish it wasn't so!
I love you still.
One year ago
You captured my heart.
I have paid the price.
An astronomical sum.
And if to do it all again,
I would...because
One Word
One Look
One Smile.
Every I love you, you whisper,
is like rain for the trees,
moonlight for the ocean,
nectar for the bee
Every kiss bestowed upon me
is like fragrance on flowers,
heat upon the desert,
mist from morning showers
Every glance in my direction
is like flame to the fire,


a twinkling of stars,
a spark of love's desire
Every moment in your arms
is like waves to the ocean,
a rushing, primal urge,
a sweet mix of emotion
Every passing year marriage
is like joy without measure,
a life without limits,
I shall love you forever.

I LOVE U BOO BOO,YOU MIGHT NOT KNOW HOW MUCH OR LOVE ME THE SAME BUT MY LOVE IS UNTAINTABLE!!!

Sunday, August 9, 2009

Man In A Crowd

different.


cuz im like no other.
i have a different scent.
i have a different taste.
i have a different face.
i have different ways.

my looks are portrayed by this ghetto i live in.
but my heart and mind are..
what they are because of this ghetto i live in.
must i be treated different
because of this ghetto i live in.?

nah nah
shoot..
i like to see things different.
i dont spend my nights on the streets runnin from the police.
i dont spend any time of any day drinking,
i dont spend anytime blowing trees,
cuz i keep my life from sinking.

my mentality is what it is because of the crazy things i've seen.
"no man alive has witnessed the struggles i survive" (tupac shakur)
and not even you will ever know what i mean.

drugs and alcohol..?
man i've seen it all.
i grew up around a bunch of screw ups.
i started talkin to the girl
and i immediately grew up.
discovered she's the BEST in the world..
and my heart immediately blew up.

my life has changed.
my heart has changed.
my drive.
my outlook on life.
my mentality in general
is different.
this girl changed my life
never in my life
did i once think
i'd ever think..
"i want this girl to be my wife"

now throughout the most complicated struggles
i make sure i survive.
i will run.
i will stride.
i will jump.
i will climb.
whatever it takes..
to keep her in my life.

i could and would do anything to keep it from being "alright".
and more than fine.
cuz this girl is more than fine.
she's gorgeous.
and i thank the lord..that she's mine.

my image is portrayed by my lifestyle.
never thought my style
could make things difficult for this long of awhile
so i continue to change
and i continue to become the man i could be
and the man i promised i would be.

an athlete
an honor student
a poet
a doctor to be..
you'd think that'll do it.
but impressed they yet wont be.
so i continue to work on being the man i know i should be.

i've changed my ways.
im different.
i've changed the ways..
of others.
they're different.

the girl has complete affiliation,
with my determination.
she's the reason for this creation.
she kept me from becoming an abomination.

the reason why i wanna get out the projects
and
move to the hills or out on the shores.
there's nothing i want more
to change my life style
and have her in my life forever
not just for-a-while.

i continue to have fun and joke around
but 99% of my mind
is tellin me everything is gonne be fine
and as long as God is puttin that in my mind
imma continue to wisely use my mind.
cuz she's one of those girls you'd find once in a lifetime.

im no Albert Einstein.
im no Benjamin Franklin.
i cant do anything special..
other than become a different man.
im no genius
but trust me.
the man i've became.
oh..you've never seen this.

thanks to the love of my life..
im not the man i was 2 years ago.
im different.
my life has been changed because of the
way THEY think i am.
but they dont even know me.
but, i continue to change the image i portray.
cuz,
im different

No Offense To Feminism, But Some Women DO Need A Man


Girl Talk: What If You DO Need A Man?


“Some women are just happier in a relationship.”

As my shrink said this, my jaw dropped to the floor. Did she really just say that? The woman who had feminist literature on her bookshelf and never failed to induce a pep rally of self-empowerment at the end of each session?

We were, of course, discussing (OK fine, I was complaining) about my lack of a boyfriend, and inability to get over some of the ones I did have. For me, I surmised from my psychotherapy high horse, the issue was about loneliness and, therefore, about some childhood father complex. I thought I sounded smart; it seemed like something my psychiatrist would say herself.

But her response was both jarring and a relief. Some women are just happier in a relationship. Huh? Isn’t the modern woman supposed to be totally amazing on her own? But at the same time, the tension in my heart unclenched as I considered the phrase that potentially answered all of my romantic issues.

Was I one of those women? And do they really exist? Looking back, I began to think it might be true. When in committed relationships, I was happier. When single, I was depressed. Perhaps this was chance, but I realized that I took better care of my life with a boyfriend by my side. I kept things cleaner to show respect for his presence in my living space. I bathed more often and took care of my acne-prone skin.

I dug up a paper I wrote during my senior year of college when I was living with the man I planned (at the time) to marry. Based on Daniel Miller’s A Theory of Shopping, I had explored the author’s hypothesis that purchasing could be motivated by love, and proved it by shamelessly charting a week’s worth of my purchases. At the time, the list was comedic (I had a friendship with my very giving professor). But now looking at my list, I see a zeal and motivation I don’t always find in my life now. In buying skim milk, bran cereal, flax bread, I was taking pride in eating healthy. With the new dishes and wine glasses, I added sophistication to our home. I recalled feeling satisfied and grown up when we began enjoying food on matching plates and not drinking Pinot Grigio out of mugs.

When I recently asked my friends about this idea of “being better with a man” or “needing a man,” a good handful of them confirmed this belief. (Definitely not all, mind you.) One said, “I’m more organized, in control, and positive when I’m receiving male attention ... a relationship is enough to keep me motivated and excited.” Another friend, Olivia, told me, “In a relationship, I have someone else to answer to. There is another person who is close enough to me to know when I’m being lazy or not living up to my potential, so that pushes me to actually be more active.”

For Olivia and me, efforts of self-sufficiency outside of relationships can sometimes fall short, or more often, turn into faking that whole “I’m an awesome single woman” thing. And I’m sorry, I do know that I’m awesome, but getting there is exhausting. I’m not saying this is everyone, but that perhaps there are women—and men!—who need sex with trust, or who rely on spouses for friendship rather than large social networks. And perhaps “needing a man” is an indication of the more basic human instinct—not for reproduction, but for companionship.

The idea still doesn’t sit right with me as someone who has put so much energy into making me happy. But, then again, there’s a lot to say for someone who chooses to be happy. Even if it means the choice includes a man.
Are you someone who needs someone to be happy? If not, why not?If so, how so?

Saturday, August 8, 2009

"PROMISES"


Promises are easily made. Keeping them often proves more difficult because when we are pressured to strive always for perfection, we find it simpler to agree to undertake impossible tasks than to say no.

Likewise, there is an infinite array of circumstances that conspire to goad us into telling falsehoods, even when we hold a great reverence for truth. When you endeavor to consistently keep your word, however, you protect your reputation and promote yourself as someone who can be trusted to be unfailingly truthful.

Though your honesty may not always endear you to others—for there will always be those who fear the truth—you can nonetheless be certain that your integrity is never tarnished by the patina of deceit. Since frankness and sincerity form the basis of all life-enriching relationships, your word is one of your most precious and powerful possessions.

When we promise more than we can deliver, hide from the consequences of our actions through falsehoods, or deny our true selves to others, we hurt those who were counting on us by proving that their faith was wrongly given. We are also hurt by the lies we tell and the promises we break. Integrity is the foundation of civilization, allowing people to live, work, and play side by side without fear or apprehension.

As you cultivate honesty within yourself, you will find that your honor and reliability put people at ease. Others will feel comfortable seeking out your friendship and collaborating with you on projects of great importance, certain that their positive expectations will be met. If you do catch yourself in a lie, ask yourself what you wanted to hide and why you felt you couldn’t be truthful.

And if life’s surprises prevent you from keeping your word, simply admit your error apologetically and make amends quickly. Since the path of truth frequently represents the more difficult journey, embarking upon it builds character.

You can harness the power of your word when you do your best to live a life of honesty and understand what motivates dishonesty. In keeping your agreements and embodying sincerity, you prove that you are worthy of trust and perceive values as something to be incorporated into your daily existence.


Friday, August 7, 2009

Eternity

Let Love Last

Listen to her secrets.
Take her out to dinner.
Call her first.
Label her as yours.
Understand her feelings.
Tell her shes gorgeous.
Write her a song.
Talk to her like a human being.
Ask her to dance with you.
Never imagine life without her.
Kiss her in the rain.
Hold her hand at any time.
Pass her love letters.
Never forget her birthday.
Tell her shes always right.
Be her escape.
Tell her you believe this is a fairytale.
Give her gummy worms.
Remember her favorite color.
Hold her books in school.
Give her hugs and kisses.
Show her off to your friends.
Kiss her hand just because.
Treat her like a star.
Dream about her.
Tell her shes super nifty.
Say she has the key to your heart.
Watch her walk home - so she's safe.
Play her favorite game.
Have a song that remind you of her.
Kiss her on the forehead...
Dance together like retards.
Stay together forever.
Let love last.

"Expect A Miracle"

Laugh. Smile. Be Grateful.

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Start a Gratitude Journal.

Step 1
Find a notebook. You can buy an inexpensive notebook and decorate it if you want to. Make it be a notebook that makes you feel happy just to look at. Always keep a pen or pencil with it.

Step 2
Make mental notes of good things that happen all day.


Step 3
Every night write down at least five good things that you are grateful for that day. It can be something as small as the smell of a flower, or as big as someone special saying they love you.


Step 4
Try to look for lessons in your challenges. Even they can become blessings, too.


Step 5
Re-read your journal and allow yourself to feel the positive energy in your life.


Step 6
You can include goals in your journal, with steps you are taking to achieve your goals. Include pictures to help you visualize your goals and achievements.

Step 7
Share your blessings with people close to you, if you feel comfortable. Especially if it's someone that you count as one of your blessings. I'd give anything to tell my Grandma Mary what a blessing she was in my life. Say it now to your loved ones, before it's too late.

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The more gratitude you show, the more you will have to be grateful for...

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Here is a video with some Gratitude Meditations and Affirmations --




Please feel free to share something that you are grateful for in your life.

LOVE


It is a mystery why we fall in love. It is a mystery how it happens. It is a mystery when it comes. It is a mystery why some loves grow and it is a mystery why some loves fail. You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons and causes, but you will never do any more than take the life out of the experience.

Love is more than the sum of the interests and attractions and commonalities that two people share. And just as life itself is a gift that comes and goes in its time, the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its ways.

To often, when love comes to people, they try to grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a GIFT freely given and a gift that just as freely moves away. When they fall out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather than accepting the gift for what it was.

They want answers where there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong with them, or they try to get their lover to change, thinking that if some small thing were different love would bloom again. They blame each other. They try anything to give meaning to what has happened. But there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they accept its own mysterious ways they live in a sea of misery.

You need to treat what love brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.

If you find someone else in love with you toward whom you feel no love, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage, do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how love will deal with you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are very different.

If you fall in love with another who falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to asses blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know it in time, but time itself will choose the moment.

Remember this and keep it in your heart. LOVE CHOOSES YOU. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it to the world around you in any way you can.

Love has its own time, its own season, and its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it or reason it into staying. If it chooses to leave, from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and nothing you should do. be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life. If you keep your heart open it will surely come again.

Thursday, August 6, 2009

Find your Happiness

Above everything else. . .

Make yourself happy first. . .Words of Wisdom I have been told but to many times I have ignored.My entire life I have worked so hard to make everyone else happy,while during this time I continue to wonder why I myself always end up lost and empty.


I am always to concerned about what everyone else wants or thinks that I never really sit down and ask myself what I want or what I need.I continue to hurt myself and others while trying to please everyone which is why I have realized something needs to change.

I am writing this because there are to many people in my life that I could tell just please understand I am capable of making my own decisions and dealing with whatever the consequence may be positive or negative. This is my life not yours and I will decide what is best for me.

There are different types of people in your life, those who truly care about you and only want to see you succeed and those who want to suppress you and hold you back from greatness.

I unfortunately have many suppressors in my life, the types of friends that do not want what's best for you or what could benefit you but whatever could benefit them and could care less about your well being. It is funny how the ones who suppress are the ones who don't quite seem to have things figured out yet. . and the ones who care are the ones are know what they want in life and would be glad to see anyone else figure it out to.

I want whats best for everyone around me, I just hope my true friends want the same for me.I am going through a phase in my life where I am working so hard to achieve my dreams and work towards my goals, I am looking for happiness and I will do whatever po
ssible to attain that.

Believe In Your Dreams

Visualize Your Dreams, Plans, Hopes............


It doesn't hurt to dream......to make plans.......set goals. I am puting this down in writing so that we all can share.I believe in visualization. If anyone has read the book, "The Secret", you will know the power. Many of us have known about it prior to the book, but have not made a constant practice of it. Simply, it is the power of POSITIVE THINKING.I've known the practice since I was a child. (Thank you, Mother.) Much of what I read from the book was "common knowledge". SO WHY IS IT SO HARD TO DO?A number of years ago, I knew I had nothing to lose......... I would go to bed and lay out a visualization of having my own little baby girl. Larry and I had been told we'd never be able to have our own. Frankly, it was FUN to fantasize. I visualized many dozens of times as I fell asleep at night.Then, it came true. Very similarly to my "dream". My next visualization was a house and lots of property........... This time I wasn't specific. All I knew was that I wanted us to SIMPLIFY. And we did.Today, we are in a simple farm house with lots of land.............and now I am visualizing AGAIN.My best time is at night while going to sleep..........but other people tell me they are better with writing down their goals and even finding pictures to represent them so they can put them up on their Fridge (or wherever). I've done that too! Hey! Whatever works.What do YOU do? What are YOUR goals, dreams???SEE THEM. VERBALIZE THEM. WRITE THEM DOWN. MAKE THEM REAL. And if anyone needs help, let me know. This is a wonderful thing to do at night as you fall asleep.Please join me.________________________________________________________________On a side note........I have a dear friend who did this - visualized and wished for a "male companion" on what is called a Wishing Moon.............Her wish came true a couple of weeks ago........heehee......She is currently bottle feeding a 4 week old male miniature fox terrier pup! Rule number one: Be careful with what you wish for! LOL.________________________________________________________________Aha........MY dream.......my visualizations? I've told you about two of them.........Now it's YOUR turn, my friends. Yes, I have some future ones. And I bet my dear Larry doesn't remember what they are.... even though I've shared them with him........He probably won't even see this blog.......but, no problem. What's important is that the dream and energy has been put out there....... Please add yours........


4 THINGS THAT CAN MAKE OR BREAK YOU

INSECURITIES- There are wonderful things inside of you, things that no man or woman can discredit or take away from you. Don't be insecure about who you are, what you are, or the things you have to offer. Insecurity is like not believing in yourself. Lack of confidence, Lack of self esteem. God created you as an unique individual, be who you are and love it!

INSIGNIFICANCE- You don't have to have all the shine all the time. Sometimes its good to sit back and play the background. It's not always about being in the spotlight. When it counts the smallest most insignificant things can make the biggest difference.

REJECTION- Learn to deal with rejection. People are not going to like everything you do or everything you are. So what! You can't please everyone. You will go into certain situations and be turned away,turned down, and doubted. Pick yourself up and Try again. Failure comes before success.

LONELINESS- Being alone can be a good thing. At times we are so bogged down with the hectic hussle and bussle of everyday life, friends, family, relationships, traffic.. That we forget to take time out for ourselves. We forget to rest. We forget to focus, We forget to pray. How can you hear what god is trying to tell you when you never have the time for him. Loneliness can be a good thing. It gives you time to listen to your heart. It gives you time to find out who you are, and most of all it gives you time to talk to God. Besides when you feel alone most, he's always there to carry you through.

Wednesday, August 5, 2009

How To Build A Strong Relationship

RELATIONSHIP SECRETS

Always celebrate! Whether it's the 1st or the 50th, each year together is a triumph.


APPRECIATION Let each other know how much you appreciate each other. You may already know but hearing it from each other is always better.

BEST FRIENDS Be best friends preferably before being boyfriend-girlfriend. Take time to know each other so the relationship will be a deep one. Tell each other about your crushes, dreams and problems. Make sure he/she is your best friend before getting engaged. The strong bond of friendship will help you both survive tough times. BOND Make it a point to spend time together often but leave room for each other. Also spend time alone w/ each other, so that at the end of the day you could both share your experiences. This way, you stay interesting with your partner.

CHANGING EACH OTHER Don't marry an as...le, j.... or a bi.... (an unsuitable person) You'll never change each other.

COMPLIMENTS Always compliment each other. This will prevent feelings of resentment & thinking that one is being taken for granted.

DATE Keep doings things that you both enjoy, do them together. Make time & continue to date to keep the romance - look good, smell good to maintain physical attraction

DIFFERENCES Celebrate differences. Never force your ideologies down each other's throat. Give up trying to turn your partner into you. Accept differences, appreciate them.

FIGHTS Fight w/the aim to resolve the issue. Don't outdo each other. The longer you extend the fight. The more chances that you'll say something hurtful that you don't really mean. As mad as you were w/ your partner, he/she is still the person who laughs at your jokes & thinks you're hot. Hear each other out, don't dig up old issues. Choose your battles. Make sure the fight will be worth it & that something will change in the relationship as a result of the fight.

FLAWS Know that the perfect person does not exist. Know that just as there are things that you love about him/her, there will be things that will make you go crazy. We are only human with our own flaws.

FUN Have fun together! This means keeping the fun & spontaneity that was there in the early days. Allow yourselves to get silly - shower together, pee w/the door open etc. Being able to make each other laugh & see the lighter, crazier, absurd side is the best way to get through all the differences in personalities, adjustments in lifestyle & opposing viewpoints.

GOALS Make sure you have similar goals. It would be difficult to keep your bond intact if your views are complete opposite.

GRUDGES Quit tabulating grudges. Let it off. Discuss it, then trash it, don't recycle it.

KEEPING IT HOT Keep it hot by traveling to diff. places together. A new setting will do wonders. Always have skin contact - be it holding hands, a massage or just plain leg rubbing.

HONESTY Don't lie or hide things. The problem will only get bigger.

KNOW EACH OTHER Learn each other's interest. It really keeps the conversation flowing!

HUG A hug can be far better more intimate than a kiss.

IDENTITY Don't lose your personality - that's why he/she fell in love w/you. Have separate interest & activities to keep your individual, & to be able to contribute more to the relationship.

INDEPENDENCE Having your own income means you're the boss in your life.

IN-LAWS Make rooms for the in-laws.

INTENTIONS Wish each other well. Don't wish each other worst

ISSUES Speak up about the awkward stuff now,like money & sex. The earlier, the better.

LISTEN Listen, listen, listen. Hear each other out especially during arguments.

LOOK GOOD Mind your appearance! Stay fit & healthy for each other. LOVE It all boils down to your love, chemistry & respect for each other.

MEMORIES Remind each other of the old days. Do something that you used to do for each other before. It may even be corny but it made you two together. Experience new things together- from dining into a new restaurant to experiencing street food together to exploring to new places. It's the little surprises that make great memories.

MIND READING No matter how long you've been together, do not think that you can read each other's mind. NEEDS Be good to yourself,then be good to your partner. That's what love is all about. Think about your partner. Will it make him/her happy? Will she/he enjoy it? Consider each other's feelings. Be very attentive & sensitive to each other's needs, physically & emotionally, that way your partner learns to do the same for you. Never take your partner for granted.

PRIORITIES If one says it's important, then it is! Prioritize each other among other things!

SPACE Give each other space. Have dates with your girlfriends, have your boy's night out. If you can't trust each other with this, then don't get married. SORRY Say sorry when you're wrong.

SURPRISES No matter how long you've known each other, be open to surprises, both good or bad.

TEAMWORK Think for two & always work as a team. Consult each other before making a decision because everything will always affect both of you. Strengthen couple power. In many ways, we have to decide based on what is best for the relationship in favor of our individual selves.

SUPPORT Support each other's dream. Be willing to follow your passions, support your partner in his/her decisions & create new ones together. Two heads are better than one.

TALK Tell each other's stories. Life goes by so fast & its easy to see how easily couple can grow apart. Whenever something funny, scary, exciting or juicy happened to you or to someone you know, tell each other about it & have your partner do the same. Keep each other in the loop of life, even by email if you have to.

Communication is the main ingredient in successful long relationships. Share your feelings w/o judgments or criticism, active listening, then working up to a discussion for problem solving. It takes continuous effort & learning.

Poetry Of The Heart


In Good Hands


David cried for hours, each and every day. No one really knew why… he wasn’t one to talk about personal issues. Those who knew him had no clue, and most thought him to be a bit odd, a loner, one full of emotions; that he was just too soft, and really needed to ‘man up’. They didn’t really know him, though.

It’s too bad, for they may have learned a thing or two about life and love. You might be wondering how I know his story… A young man I know shared it with me; he felt like the story needed to be told, to set the record straight. The following story is true, no matter how far-fetched it may sound; whether you choose to believe it is entirely up to you.

David had been acutely aware of the mystical world since he was very young, having been visited by fairies and taken on journeys into other realms. He learned early on that it was pointless to discuss his adventures, as no one believed him, and he spent so much time in psychiatric hospitals and in counseling sessions, his childhood was very abnormal.

He learned to keep his mouth shut, yet continued his relationships with the fairies and more. In time, he was considered “cured”, and a great poster child for the psychiatric community. He simply outsmarted them, but it took years of living hell for him. Nothing more was ever said, to him or by him, about any of that past as he grew older. He had fallen in love, however, with one of his fairy playmates… and their love grew.

His world, of course, did not even believe such nonsense, and her world was very apprehensive of his kind, yet their love was growing, more and more over the years. The laws of the universe only allowed for one visit per day, either between midnight and noon or noon and midnight, and the time was unlimited during either of those periods of the day, up to twelve hours. Seemed like plenty of time for them to share each others company, yet in reality, it was quite restrictive.

One of the details was that if either of them spent more than the allotted time, the following day it was forbidden to visit. His fairy love’s name was Andrina, and eventually, they could not restrain their passion for each other. They made love, and yes, their passion carried them through midnight to the next day, and that following day was the longest either had ever experienced… From that day on, their time together always seemed too short, and their good-byes were painful, each and every time.

There was something else, too, that weighed heavily on them… Andrina was soon to be with child. In the realm of fairies, when they become pregnant, it is obvious in the first week. There is an unmistakable glow about them, from head to toe, and no amount of covering can contain the glowing. Of course, the fairy realm was well aware of this situation early on, and many discussions were held regarding what the two had done.

Many of David’s visits to Andrina were spent in their high courts, mostly listening to speakers on the subject, about the effects and ramifications of their creation. During these times, the memory of his childhood came back to him, and such times were difficult for him.

Fairies were with child for only three to four months, and the birth of a new fairy was not like the human birthing. The child fairy was nurtured only for two days before able to stand on her own two feet, and within a week they were able to carry on similar to the human world six year old, in fact, this is when they were encouraged to go out and explore.

Anyway, the fairy world embraced David, eventually, and accepted their child with loving kindness. They named her Grace, and David called her Gracie. She was beautiful, and it was obvious early on that she had mostly fairy qualities. Are you getting the picture now? David cried when he was home, in his world, separated from his love and his child… at least half of every day. He had no one with which to share his plight, other than his lover.

Do you know what happens to fairies when they get old? Neither did David, not in the beginning. He found out soon enough though. When a fairy has a child, her cells change dramatically internally, and their aging process speeds up. Andrina was aging much faster than David, and soon it was evident to him, to the point where Andrina had to share with him her fate.

When fairies reach a certain age, those who have given birth, they must fly up into the sky on a full moon night, never to return… they become stars in the sky. So, yes, David had much reason to cry, don’t you think? But that’s not all…


Following Andrina’s voyage of the stars, Gracie and David shared their moments together, still within the same limitations. So David would spend as much time as possible with her, and he put on his best positive attitude during those times.

His worst days were usually following the times he would hold her in his hand and give her a beautiful flower… she so loved flowers, just like her momma, and those moments just filled David with such a sorrowful joy. He could barely contain the tears when they were together, imagine his heart when they were apart… Yes, he spent hours, each and every day… crying.


Oh, the young man who shared this? He was the one Gracie visited in his youth… and she shared everything with him, but that’s another story.

Tuesday, August 4, 2009

What Do Women Really Want

So what do women really want from their man?

The top 6 things women want FROM MEN, in order, are:

1. Women want men who exhibit confidence (or power)

2. Women want men with a sense of humor (fun)
3. Women want men with money or the things money can buy (sense of security)
4. Women want men with looks (protection and attraction)
5. Women want men with a bit of "Bad boy" qualities (mysterious and independent/strong)
6. Women want all the other stuff they typically list (varies - sensitive, caring, etc.)



1. Women want a man to be confident! Confidence is the number one quality women look for. Don't be wimpy. Don't apologize for everything. Be real. Be you.

2. Women want a man who makes her feel like she's the only one. Women go nuts over a man who will go the extra mile. For example, he opens the door for her, he walks on the right side of the street, he helps her shop. I'm talking about being a GENTLEMAN! If she is cold, offer her your jacket. If she is in trouble, protect her. If there is danger, put your arm around her. Be a real man.

3. Women want a man with a sense of humor. A woman will almost always love a man who can make her laugh. If you are dull, you are boring. If you make a woman laugh, you're halfway home. Take a chance, be real, but be funny. There are several seduction experts who claim that being "cocky" and "funny" are the two most important qualities to attracting a woman. I agree.

4. Women want a man to listen to them (yes, even to the gripes and details of all the craziness) and not necessarily give advice. Many women love to complain about their problems; however, they complain not to receive advice, but merely to sound off. I know it's hard to nod and be supportive, because you want to watch ESPN or do something that to you may seem more exciting, but the fact is, your woman will go to the ends of the earth to love you when you truly listen to them and acknowledge their needs. You need to understand that women need to VENT. Allow her this, and she'll allow you in. Nod. Get involved and provide active listening feedback. Be truly interested in what she is saying without worrying about what you're going to say next. Then, watch what happens as your woman opens up to you more.

Women want men to listen to them, because they have a need to be heard. And, women want their man to express his feelings and trust her with his intimate side. Real listening, with real intimacy, is rare. Real listening is suspending thinking about what to say and being deeply engaged in what she is talking about. Listening requires actively paying attention -- shutting off the chatter mind.

5. Women want men to treat them like they are the sexiest woman on the planet and that no other woman compares. Talking about your ex-girlfriends is not going to score big points with your new woman. Treating her like she's the ONLY one will make her smile for quite a while.

6. Women want loyal men. Women want to know you will be faithful. Don't tell a woman how you cheated on your ex. It won't make her think you are wise, loyal, or trustworthy. I'm not saying to lie to her -- just don't go there. Don't cheat on your woman. She will not think you are a better man for doing this. Just like you want think you are the only man she's ever loved, well, that's the thing she wants, too. The key to faithfulness comes from your own inner character. Be a man of character and you will reap a relationship built upon trust. You gain respect through consistent committed action. Respect backed up by love builds trust, trust builds a strong relationship that can stand the tests of life and time.

7. Women SAY they want a sensitive man. Truth is, if you go around apologizing all the time and crying frequently then a woman will abuse you. Trust me, it is NOT wise to do. This was well exemplified during the beach scene in the movie Bedazzled, where the main character in the film was trying to woo his love interest, his advice had been to "be more sensitive." Well, he went so overboard, was so sensitive, that his love interest ended up walking away with another dude with the assumption that they'd have meaningless conversation and casual sex! Boy was HE surprised! Being overly sensitive is a quick way to get shown the door. It is important to strike a balance. Be strong, be there, yet share your emotions. Speak up and be real. Let them know you care. But don't be a sissy.

Women say they want to be treated like an equal. This is not true. Women want to be treated like a WOMAN. Not like a man. If she wanted to be with a woman, she'd do that. She wants to be with YOU. Therefore, be a MAN. This is not to be confused with being treated like a piece of property, not to be confused with being treated with disrespect. Women want to be respected! A woman wants to be respected for being feminine, being a woman. Women are quite different from men. A man who takes the time to understand the difference is a wise man. Bottom line here: NO MORE Mr. NICE GUY. Be a REAL MAN, not a sensitive NICE GUY. Because the nice guys usually do finish last.

You still don't get it? Ok, then try this: be your own bad self. I will say that some women are attracted to "Bad Boys". I think there is a certain ruggedness to the bad boy - they break rules, they sometimes behave rudely. But the true gentleman always remembers what matters most. Have an air of mystique, but definitely be you. If, on occasion, that means doing what you want, rather than what she wants, then do it. Just don't make a continual habit of it - that's rude.

8. Women LOVE a man with a plan. Women love men with ambition. Men who know who they are, what we're doing tonight, and what we're doing with our life. If you don't have a plan, get one. I have a plan (a) and plan (b) ready at all times, so that no matter what, it will appear I'm fairly spontaneous, but reality is I usually know where, when, and how the evening or date could go. In dating, it is extremely important that you have a plan when you ask a woman out. They will judge your sense of confidence by how well you have thought out where you will take her and what you will do together. So, think ahead, have a plan, then work that plan. While you're at it make sure you have an alternative plan, too, in case she doesn't like the first one!

It is equally important for a man to know when to call a woman's bluff and let her know when she is pushing his limits. A man who just falls over and laps at his woman's feet is a man who is called "whipped" for a reason. An example is as follows: she asks, "what do you want to do tonight," he says, "whatever you want to do." If this is his consistent pattern, he's whipped. She won't respect him in the end.

9. Women want generous men. Don't be a tight-wad. Give the woman in your life gifts. Like the Chairman of the Board, Ol' Blue Eyes, Frank Sinatra, used to say, "you gotta gift 'em." Well, I figure good enough for Frank, good enough for me. After all, Frank was a MASTER SWOONER. Guys, get this: Frank Sinatra went to Hollywood with a plan to take a lengthy list of top actresses in his movie studio to bed at some point during his career. As the story goes, he pretty much succeeded. Some women will frown when they read this - but guys, I know what you're thinking: "who did Frank get together with?" Well, how about Gina Lollobrigida and Ava Gardner, for starters (I believe it was Angie Dickinson who claimed to abstain). That's like saying Jennifer Lopez, Halle Berry, and Charlize Theron to today's younger actor.

So, maybe giving a gift once in a while isn't such a bad idea. Just don't go broke trying to impress her! After all, Frank Sinatra also had a stellar voice, plenty of swagger, and loads of star power to go with his ability to buy a gift or two. Nevertheless, small gifts, especially gifts that show you were listening when she mentioned her favorite candy bar, or when she stopped at that jewelry counter to admire those earrings (but put them back without buying them), or how she commented on how she'd just love that dress in the window of that snazzy clothing store. Well, use your own imagination. But if you don't gift the woman in your life you'll probably be referred to by the woman you love as "cheapskate".

Now, "why," you ask, "do women care about gifts?" Good question. The answer is that one way women relate is through giving gifts - especially when you've paid attention to what they want. Women will gift exchange compliments with each other, too. So just trust me and surprise her with a gift every now and then and see if she doesn't respond favorably.

10. Be a true friend. LISTEN TO HER. Let her share her good times and problems with you. Be there, rather than just promising to be there. Consistent committed positive action is a definition of love. How do you show you are a friend? Are you there when it matters most? Are you there for the small stuff, too?

11. Women want to be loved, despite their flaws, and need to be satisfied mentally, emotionally, and spiritually as much as physically. Unconditional love would be ideal love. How can you love a woman without judgment, conditions, or rules? How would you like to be loved?

Sexually speaking, women define great sex differently than men, using words like soft candlelight, light touch, then becoming more aggressive as their mood rises to the occasion. A man, on the other hand, instantly rises to the occasion. Women want men to be their lover instead of obsessing over their body to just get sex. Rather than treat women as sex objects, treat them as someone to relate with; in other words, a real person! That means taking your time, showing extra attention, and being tender in ways with her to let her know she is special.

12. Women appreciate a man who is creative. Roses are nice. But sometimes it is extra special to think of something that most guys wouldn't do for a woman. It could be something frivolous, but if it is something that you think SHE would like, then why not do it? You might have just made her day.

13. Women want men who offer a sense of security, to know that her partner will be there if she becomes sick or when she grows old or flabby. Giving a woman security is being there through emotional and physical support. An example might be if she has to have surgery. Take the day off and be there for her, hold her hand, and give your full support to her. In other words, postpone that "tee time"! Security comes from trust. Again, this is about being able to rely in your strength of character.

A Woman BY Example

a good woman


good woman is proud of herself. She respects herself and others. She is aware of who she is. She neither seeks definition from the person she is with, nor does she expect them to read her mind. She is quite capable of articulating her needs. A good woman is hopeful. She is strong enough to make all her dreams come true. She knows love, therefore she gives love. She recognizes that her love has great value and must be reciprocated. If her love is taken for granted, it soon disappears. A good woman has a dash of inspiration, a dabble of endurance. She knows that she will, at times, have to inspire others to reach the potential God gave them. A good woman knows her past, understands her present and moves toward the future. A good woman knows God. She knows that with God the world is her playground, but without God she will just be played. A good woman does not live in fear of the future because of her past. Instead, she understands that her life experiences are merely lessons, meant to bring her closer to self knowledge and unconditional self love.

Women Reveals....


9 Things Women Want...

1. Respect. Show us through your actions that you respect our opinions, careers, interests, friends, bodies, and minds. You don't have to agree with all that we say or do, but try to honor our opinions as valuable contributions. Follow the golden rule and treat us as you would like to be treated: Be honest, fair, kind, and considerate.

2. Romance. It's another night on the couch with takeout and TiVo? Just because we're staying in doesn't mean the evening can't be romantic. Light a few candles and see where the night leads. Treat us like your girlfriend, even after we become your wife. Date nights, physical affection in the car, kissing like when we first started dating -- all of the things that made us fall in love with you don't have to stop just because now there are bills to pay, a house to be cleaned, and kids to be bathed. Bring home flowers for no reason. We're not talking $100 bouquets of roses here. Even the $10 bouquets from the supermarket are enough to make us smile.

3. Time. We understand relationships can't be all wine and roses; simply making the time to be with us and treating us like your top priority says "love" more than all the fancy gifts and lovely letters ever could. This includes helping around the house. The realities of a 21st-century relationship are that both partners probably work. If you happen to get home before we do, why not vacuum the living room or throw in a load of laundry? If you take the garbage out without being asked, chances are you'll be getting a big ole smooch when you come back.

4. Dinner. Of the homemade variety. You may not be good at cooking and you may not know how to boil water. But greeting us at the door after a long day with fish sticks (or whatever you can wrastle up) makes us swoon, because it shows that you've been thinking about us and our hectic day.

5. Communication. Women are vocal creatures. We know you love us, but it's nice to hear you say it, too. We can also be insecure. We wish we weren't, but the reality is that we often notice our wobbly thighs and forget about our gorgeous eyes. So let us know when you think we're hot. Tell us we're beautiful. It helps us feel good. Words of appreciation aren't half-bad either. Tell us you love the lasagna we made. Notice that we cleaned the bathtub. It doesn't have to be over the top, just let us know that you see the effort we put in, and you're grateful.

6. Consistency. This doesn't mean be boring and predictable. It means that we know you will (usually -- no one is perfect!) give us the love and support we need. Knowing that you're coming at this with the same desires and energy as we are goes a long way to making us feel secure.

7. Engagement. Of the mental kind, not the "I'm getting married in the morning" kind. You don't have to like everything we like (we might be a little concerned if you do), but showing interest in our passions, be it career-..related, a sport, or a hobby, goes a long way. Listen when we talk to you. We're not speaking just so we can hear our own voice; we want to connect with you and this is one valuable way we do this. This also means paying attention to the little things. Whether it's the name of your best friend's husband or the fact that you hate Nicolas Cage movies, it's the little things you remember about us that's so endearing.

8. Humor and Humility. These two tend to go hand in hand. This doesn't mean that you have to crack jokes or entertain us, but just being able to laugh at yourself is enough. Guys who take themselves too seriously bring everyone down.

9. Challenge. Not the kind that makes a relationship constant work, but the good kind that surprises and motivates us to do, be, or achieve what we desire. Studies show that partners who prod each other to meet goals -- in other words, don't support lazy or bad habits -- are ultimately happier than those who don't hold each other accountable.



Making Love

In the real world, not the movie fantasy world, the ability to make love is a reality. When you make love, you cant MAKE someone love you, or do things that you may feel you are going outside your comfort zone in order for someone to love you. You cant close your eyes and look at the sky and make a wish on a falling star that someone will make love to you one day. Some people think that they have been made love to because they had something called “good sex”. But I’m here to tell you that …”good sex” isn’t love making when the person doesn’t love you unconditionally.

Sometimes it seems that women dreams are to fall in love and be made love to constantly every night, while sometimes it seems that it could be a nightmare for some men. It is because women are women and men are men..so the challenge is to create love between two very different creatures and make that real. It can seem impossible at times, but its possible sometimes. I’ve’ always had the vision of how it would be when someone would make love to me. I’ve been in relationships and we both have LOVED each other, but I can honesty admit, (since I am someone who doesn’t write in codes and isn’t afraid to be real and tell people how I feel) I admit that I have NEVER been made love to.

The person may have thought they did..but they didn’t. Women, we can tell the difference between being made love to and just getting screwed. I have been in love, and I have loved , but never made love to. I honesty believe that once someone makes love to us..that person will be there forever. That is probably why it doesn’t just happen. My vision of being made love to, will be no strings attached, no conditions no personal gains, no emotional guilt’s, no points to prove, no goals to accomplish, no secrets but just relaxation, commitment, loyalty, being consistent and honest.

Making love is a natural gift from God but has been manipulated by sins..like lust, negative intentions, negative motives, selfish pleasures, unfaithfulness, and personal gains. Women are not always turn on by penis size, and how good they are in bed, and how great they look and their body looks. Some women are turn on by men ability to show they really love, by sharing things with us they may be ashamed of, crying in front of us, being open and honest with us, telling us what’s going on in their lives, what hurts them, what makes them sad.

Women we don’t want someone who’s secretive and is too afraid to express their feelings. The fact that a man can come to you and is honest about something, without fear of judgment, that shows love. If we have to ask you the same question a million times, that doesn’t show love, it shows a man being secretive and afraid. So how would you (men) expect that you can express your love in bed, if you can’t express your love in words and in actions. That is why it can be impossible for you to make love to us.

Anybody can lay down and have sex with a women, but it takes a good secure man to profess his love, and express his feelings. That takes courage, but for women, that comes natural. Some men want us to cater to their ego, chase them, want them, and have no love or feelings for anyone else, meanwhile the same game they spit in your ear..they spitting in someone else ear..may 3 or 4 ears. So how can we expect for you to make love to us when you don’t even know how love is made.

Here is the ingredients to love making. First, Build the rapport: we need to know that you are there for us, you care for us, no matter what. Not just tell us that you care, but show us that you care, express you care through the things you do, protect us and our hearts. Secondly, We HAVE to be the only one: this may be hard for a lot of men, but it is what it is.

You can’t make love to us, if your having sex with 3 or 4 other girls. We need the insurance that we are the only ones you think about sticking your penis in and sharing your thoughts and fantasies with. & Last, We need trust: we have to trust you and you have to make sure that you don’t give us any reason not to. In case you do give us reason not to, then you have to communicate with us and be there to listen.

Some women can’t even reach an orgasm if they don’t trust their men, true story . So those are my ingredients to making love, if you have a honest relationship with us, care and protect us, we know we are the only one and we trust you, then "good sex" can turn into love making.

Love making doesn’t have to be slow, with candle an music, it can be ruff, nasty and hard whatever… but as long as we have those ingredients then we know that however you have sex with us… It will be you making love to us.

Be Healed By Faith

The healing power of faith.

Visit this link for a short story on the power of faith, before reading the rest of this blog.




So. . .I am not being sarcastic with the title of this blog. I'm pointing out that the actual healing power of faith is, as the family in the above listed article found out the hard way, actually zero - nil, nada, nothing.

Some of you might suggest that "God won't save you from your foolishness". So: God loves you so much that he'd let his only son die for your sins, but if you do something stupid, you're on your own? You know you don't believe that.So how to explain this apparent discrepancy?Let me be as blunt as I can: If God exists, he doesn't help anyone with anything. There are no exceptions, not you or anyone.

Confirmation Bias:Faith-based healing is an excercise in confirmation bias. Simply put: Confirmation bias is when a person wants or believes something to be true, and so considers only the evidence that supports their conclusion.

Consider the following statement: 'It's a MIRACLE! Man saved is Tsunami! Praise God!' We might look at the sole survivor or a tragedy as some kind of miracle. But think about it a little more. Let's suppose 50,000 people drowned in that Tsunami. 50,000 thousands lives ended horribly.

Are you really prepared to celebrate the compassion and grace of God, because one person survived? That's what confirmation bias allows us to do. We don't see 50,000 bloated corpses, we see the smiling face of a man who believes he was "saved", and we want to be that man. You remember his face, and not the faces of the dead.

Finally, let's discuss confirmation bias in the other direction. Suppose I want to be right about the content of this blog. Could I be ignoring evidence of faith-based healing to support my conclusions? I do not believe so.

Here is why: There are millions of personal tragedies every year. MILLIONS. They happen so often as to be commonplace. In fact, when someone appears to have experienced a MIRACLE.

It is ONLY miraculous in light of the fact that most of the time a tragedy would have occured in their situation.

Shall we try to claim that God picks and chooses from the millions of tragedies each year and averts a few dozen, or a few hundred?

Stop lying to yourself.

Be consistent and reasonable in what you believe.

Soul Connection

Soulmates

Imagine a love so pure, you're soulmates.

You're connected heart to heart, mind to mind, soul to soul. It's so powerful that words don't adequately describe it. It's just something you just know. It's something that's part of you.

The best quote about soulmates that I've found so far comes from Leslie Parrish: "A soul mate is probably someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys that fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are".





The love between soulmates is so strong, so intense, so all-encompassing. Spiritually, emotionally, sexually you are one. There is a deep love and intimacy.

A soulmate has your soul and meshes yours with theirs. Your heart beats their name and whispers secrets meant for just the two of you. The bond is special and strong. Spiritual. The connection between you defies time and logic. It can't be explained. It can't be neatly put into a box or contained.

A soulmate is someone you see spending your life with. Someone you see walking down the aisle for. Someone you see raising a family together and bringing children into the world. Someone you see standing in the doorway of your child's bedroom with and watching them sleep peacefully; nestled and safe and having a profound feeling of peace wash over you.

A soulmate comes into your life to reveal another layer of yourself, an added dimension of yourself that only they can unlock from within you. They bring out the best in you. They see in your heart. They see the purest parts of you, the most vulnerable in you, and you trust those parts of yourself with them. They're someone you want to be everything for. You learn from each other. You listen to each other.

You support each other emotionally and spiritually. They're someone you may argue with but also someone who is on your side and will have your back unconditionally.
A soulmate is someone you can talk to about anything and nothing. It's comfortable. It never gets old. It flows like a lazy river, smooth and evenly, uninhibited and untamed.

A soulmate is someone you're the happiest you've ever been. It's sappy and loving and goofy. They're someone you can be yourself around. They love you for who you are.

A soulmate is someone you can laugh with, cry with, holds you up when you fall. Someone who you would go to the ends of the earth for, walk through fire for. They're someone you feel like you've known your whole life.

A soulmate is someone who can read you. They know your map by heart. They know what you need without having to ask. They know when you need quiet or a distraction.

They know when to rescue you, when you need to borrow their strength, and when to allow you to find your own. They're your sounding board and best friend. The person you're closest to, the one you gave your whole self to.

A soulmate shares your joy and feels your pain on an almost physical level. They hurt when you hurt. They're your protector and salve that eases your pain.

A soulmate is a gift that everyone should have at least once in their life. It's special and sacred and beautiful, and when you have it, you know it.

A soulmate consumes your thoughts. They melt together with you and fills voids that were left empty by past pains. Your life is a puzzle and they are the missing piece. The thought of losing them hurts you physically.

If they're torn from your life, it leaves a void. Part of you is missing. They became part of your life and part of the fabric of who you are that there will always be a special place for them in your heart. They're the person who got away and could never be replaced because the connection was so strong that it was one for the recordbooks.
Not everyone finds theirs. I did.


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Sunday, August 2, 2009

My Rules

love me or hate me, these are my rules......

too bad so sad for you if you can't handle it!


Just a short guideline as to how I tick here on my space.


1. I'm not a mean person but if you push the wrong button, you best keep your distance.

2. Just because I've never read you doesn't mean I don't want to. I'm a blog reading addict, I'll read anybody that wants to be read; however, I will not go searching for you. If you want me to read you, send me your blog link and I will happily subscribe.

3. I don't expect to be read by everyone who I read. Everyone has their preferences as to what type of blogs they read and that's fine. It doesn't mean I don't want to be read, it just means that I want to be read by people who WANT to....not by people who feel obligated.

4. I appreciate all comments that are left on my blog. I want you to know that I do not want you to feel obligated to leave a comment either. If you don't feel compelled to, then don't. I know the difference between a 'just because comment' and a genuine one. A kudo would be nice though (at least), those are always welcomed. lol

5. I get a lot of nice comments on my blog that make me smile when I post a poem. However, I want you to know that I am open to comments that display constructive criticism and not just comments telling me what a great poem it was. I know I'm not the best writer but I'm trying to learn. It is your job to tell me where I need the improvement. In case you didn't know, I have designed this page to only have writers and poets as friends, everyone else has been deleted. There is a reason for that. I'm trying to learn from the best myspace has to offer. If you're here, then it's cuz I consider you true talent. :)

6. I'm friends with everyone. If you can't handle me having a certain friend on my list then that's jes' too bad, not my problem. Your issues with them should be dealt in your own space not mine.

7. When I tell you that I love you, admire you, look up to you....it means jes' that. Some people are taking me too seriously when I tell them I love them. Do not misinterpret, if I tell you I love you, doesn't mean I wanna marry you. lmao - jes' friendship!!

8. I'm playfully flirtatious. Yes, this one is easily misinterpreted. I can understand, my fault. Let me make it clear, though, flirting is part of my personality. Again, if I do it....it doesn't mean I'm looking for any type of anything.....I'm jes' being playful.

9. Not being on someone's TFL (top friend's list) doesn't make me feel less valuable so you shouldn't feel like that either because you are not on mine. I've gotten numerous messages from people saying that I have been placed on their TFL and that I should be courteous enough to put them on mine in return.

My question is, why do you need that type of validation to make you feel worthy? Believe me, if they would allow more spots on the TFL then all of you would be up there but since you can't then there's nothing I can do.

Sorry, but I'm not gonna be influenced by anyone in deciding who I should or shouldn't have on my TFL or even what spot (yes, even that one has come up). I love you all the same doesn't matter what spot you're in.....all of you are priceless to me.....xoxo

10. The kudo thing, it's driving me batty. All my blogs are set to public. I don't like limiting my readership although this kudo bandit is pissing me off. I am tempted to start setting my blogs to 'friends only' but I don't want to. I'm not sure who is the one doing this with the kudos but let me jes' say that I will not tolerate it on my blog.


It hasn't happened yet on my blog where I am given a gazillion kudos but if it ever does and it is done by someone on my friend's list, trust me when I say it is reason enough for me to delete you. I am not looking to be top blogger or trying to gain any popularity.

I am jes' looking for readers who are gonna help me improve on my writing and such. I am also looking for genuine friends. It's not about competition, it's about learning from each other and embracing each other's talent because no two people are the same and everyone has something different to offer.

Trust In Your Dreams


Believe In Yourself


There maybe days when you get up in the morning and things aren't the way you had hoped they would be,that's when you have to tell yourself that things will get better.

There are times when people disappoint you and let you down,but those are the times when you must remind yourself to trust your own judgments and opinions, to keep your life focused on believing in yourself and all that you are capable of.


There will be challenges to face and changes to make in your life,and it is up to you to accept them.

Constantly keep yourself headed in the right direction for you.


It may not be easy at times,but in those times of struggle you will find a stronger sense of who you are,so when the days come that are filled with frustration and unexpected responsibilities,remember to believe in yourself and all you want your life to be,because the challenges and changes will only help you to find the goals that you know are meant to come true for you.

Keep believing in yourself.

Forever, For Eternity


It is not often we come together
frolicking in the ocean
we manifest pure joy

It has taken eons
for the water to carve me
but the sun illuminates me

I melt from the ice that surrounds me
yet the mountains always watch me
envious of my beauty

I love the mornings
when the sun bathes me
and I see myself in your stillness

Glorify me before you depart
Oh, light of the world
illuminate me

This love provides sweet nectar
I'm elated we can share it
my heart is racing

Having found YOU at last
soon, two hearts will be joined together
forever, for eternity.

Angel

Saturday, August 1, 2009

follow your dreams!!!




To everyone reading this I just want to say never give up on your dreams no matter what! I never have and slowly but surely my dreams are coming true, regardless of what the haters have to say, regardless of people doubting and discouraging me, despite all the obstacles in my life no one will keep me from following my dreams. Hard work and determination will get you everything and anything you want. You just have to be strong, patient and persistent. Usually things aren't handed to you, you have to think outside the box and go out there and get it and you will be successful. Keep GOD first most importantly.