"PROMISES"

Promises are easily made. Keeping them often proves more difficult because when we are pressured to strive always for perfection, we find it simpler to agree to undertake impossible tasks than to say no.

Likewise, there is an infinite array of circumstances that conspire to goad us into telling falsehoods, even when we hold a great reverence for truth. When you endeavor to consistently keep your word, however, you protect your reputation and promote yourself as someone who can be trusted to be unfailingly truthful.

Though your honesty may not always endear you to others—for there will always be those who fear the truth—you can nonetheless be certain that your integrity is never tarnished by the patina of deceit. Since frankness and sincerity form the basis of all life-enriching relationships, your word is one of your most precious and powerful possessions.

When we promise more than we can deliver, hide from the consequences of our actions through falsehoods, or deny our true selves to others, we hurt those who were counting on us by proving that their faith was wrongly given. We are also hurt by the lies we tell and the promises we break. Integrity is the foundation of civilization, allowing people to live, work, and play side by side without fear or apprehension.

As you cultivate honesty within yourself, you will find that your honor and reliability put people at ease. Others will feel comfortable seeking out your friendship and collaborating with you on projects of great importance, certain that their positive expectations will be met. If you do catch yourself in a lie, ask yourself what you wanted to hide and why you felt you couldn’t be truthful.

And if life’s surprises prevent you from keeping your word, simply admit your error apologetically and make amends quickly. Since the path of truth frequently represents the more difficult journey, embarking upon it builds character.

You can harness the power of your word when you do your best to live a life of honesty and understand what motivates dishonesty. In keeping your agreements and embodying sincerity, you prove that you are worthy of trust and perceive values as something to be incorporated into your daily existence.

"Power Of Words"

Science is not belief, but the will to find out, it is organized common sense where some beautiful theories were killed by ugly facts - just as houses are made of stones, so is science made of facts - and WE see only what we know!

COMPROMISE: Let's agree to respect each others view, no matter how wrong yours may be ;P - seriously, just sharing my "confusion" about some "modern world issues" ;)

The power of words

I read this article today and it reminded me of a blog I've read last week... no name, but the entire blog was an "insult" from page 1 - page 7 or so, from the topic up to the comments...And I thought this article is a great reminder... sometimes I have to remind myself ;)Words can inform our mind, caress and comfort our feelings, excite and thrill our spirit, or warm and kindle the flame of our hearts. They can also slap our face, punch us in the stomach, rattle our nerves, kill our desire, or destroy our self-confidence.

Of course this is metaphorical, but these metaphors capture in words our physical reactions to what is said, and that is the power of language. It can emotionally move and affect us as powerfully as physical actions. In an average day we may use as many as 40,000 words, the equivalent of four to six hours of continuous speechWe use these words with much ease and usually little self-conscious thought.

We simply open our mouths, and out they come. With our words we express our beliefs, and ourselves while at the same time imparting some affect on those we are speaking to, and they, vice-versa to us. It is this very influence that our words have that truly gives them their power. We all, at times overlook the far-reaching strength of our words, but this ignorance makes us no less susceptible to their power.We have many superstitions about how we use our words. We are afraid to talk about events of which the outcome is still pending, for fear that our words will negatively affect what will happen.

The power of language starts to influence us in early childhood. We learn to associate certain words with the opinions expressed around those words. These associations are likely to stick in our minds even when we reach adulthood. In this way words gain some of their power through our unconscious. We are conditioned by the words we use and hear frequently, and they become second nature to us. This causes a problem when a word loses its literal meaning and becomes distorted in or own minds by the emotional connotations that surround it. "If words are not trustworthy in the privacy of our heads, they are even less so when they are converted to speech or writing.

We then become less able to relay what we really want to say because the words carry meanings that only we know the emotional connotations of. This is not only a problem when we are talking to someone else, but also when he or she is speaking to us. They may have their own emotional links to certain words; this then can cause our interpretation of what is being said to be different from what is actually meant.In human relationships, words can be especially powerful and sometimes dangerous.

We tend to use labels to define people and situation. In the worst cast, labels can reduce an issue to its simplest form, causing its importance or uniqueness to be lost. When labels are aimed at people, they can have the effect of dehumanizing a person by shrinking their entire being down to a single word. This is apparent in racism, sexism, and narrow-mindedness. The power of our words is twisted to override reason. Toni Morrison phrased it this way, "Oppressive language does more than represent violence; it is violence; it does more than represents the limits of knowledge; it limits knowledge . . ." We have all heard the saying, "Sticks and stones will break my bones, but names will never hurt me!"

Children learn to say this usually after being the object of name-calling. But this saying couldn't be further from the truth. Our bones usually did make it through just fine, but something had been hurt. This is yet another aspect of the power that words carry. They can hurt us, and usually with a more deep and lasting effect than a physical injury could cause.Ultimately, we all hold the power of words within ourselves.

Whatever powers we give them, and however they may influence us, they are things of our own creation. With this knowledge we are charged with a great responsibility. Words reflect and give wings to everything that is inside of us, and for good or for bad, they can express what we truly are as nothing else can.How much are words able to hurt you? (written or spoken). And in what kind of situations?

THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK

P O W E R O F W O R D S

ONE THING I HAVE LEARNED THIS PAST WEEK IS THE IMPORTANCE OF THE PHRASE "THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK". WHAT IT ALL ENDS UP BOILING DOWN TO IS THAT ONCE THE WORDS ARE SPOKEN YOU CAN'T TAKE THEM BACK. AFTER YOU SAY SOMETHING TO SOMEONE THE EFFECT AND POWER OF YOUR WORDS EFFECT THEM IMMEDIATELY.


I HAVE FELL VICTIM TO THE BAD HABIT OF SPEAKING TOO QUICKLY AND NOT CAREFULLY PHRASING MY WORDS OR NOT THINKING ABOUT WHAT I'M SAYING BEFORE I LET IT COME OUT. IT CAN BE SUCH A HORRIBLE THING TO DO BECAUSE I KNOW THAT NOT ONLY HAVE I BEEN HURT BY OTHERS THIS WAY BUT I HAVE ALSO HURT OTHERS THIS WAY. MORE OFTEN THAN NOT THEY ARE PEOPLE I LOVE AND CARE ABOUT.

IT IS ALSO SO IMPORTANT TO BE CAREFUL ABOUT THE TONE OF YOUR VOICE AND THE ATTITUDE IN YOUR VOICE WHEN YOU SAY SOMETHING. SO MANY TIMES ARGUMENTS AND HURT FEELINGS AND BAD SITUATIONS CAN BE AVOIDED SIMPLY BY TAKING A MINUTE TO THINK ABOUT THE WAY YOU WORD THINGS OR THE EXACT WORDS YOU USE OR THE TONE OF YOUR VOICE ETC.......



IT IS ACTUALLY A LOT HARDER TO DO THAN IT SOUNDS BECAUSE OUR VERY FIRST REACTION, ESPECIALLY WHEN WE DON'T AGREE WITH WHAT IS SAID TO US, IS TO GET DEFENSIVE OR RUDE AND JUST POP OFF WITH THE FIRST THING THAT COMES TO MIND WHICH MORE OFTEN THAN NOT ENDS UP BEING SOMETHING SARCASTIC, RUDE, CONDESCENDING, ETC, ETC.......

IF THERE IS ONE THING I HAVE LEARNED FROM MY QUICKNESS TO SPEAK OR BY MY VOICING OF MY OPINION WHEN I SHOULDN'T OR IT IS NOT WANTED IS THAT IT IS WORTH TAKING THE EXTRA FEW MINUTES OR SO TO CHOOSE THE WORDS YOU SPEAK VERY VERY WISELY BECAUSE GOOD RELATIONSHIPS WITH PEOPLE YOU LOVE AND CARE ABOUT ARE NOT WORTH RISKING.

FOOLISH WORDS CAN RUIN MANY GOOD THINGS AND ALL IT TAKES TO AVOID THIS IS A MINUTE OF CONTEMPLATION BEFORE YOU VOICE YOUR THOUGHTS. PEOPLE THAT LOVE AND CARE ABOUT YOU MAY UNDERSTAND AND BE PATIENT ABOUT IT BUT THERE WILL COME A TIME WHEN SORRY DOESN'T CUT IT AND WILL GET SICK AND TIRED OF IT AND WILL NOT PUT UP WITH IT. IT IS DEFINITELY NOT WORTH IT AND I CAN SAY I KNOW FROM PERSONAL EXPERIENCE.

TAKE EXTRA THOUGHT AND CARE IN WHAT YOU SAY TO OTHERS BECAUSE YOU MAY NEVER QUITE REALIZE THE WAY YOUR WORDS MAY TOO BE HURTING THEM AND THAT IS NOT FAIR TO DO TO PEOPLE WHO ARE IMPORTANT TO YOU.

The Power of Our Words

Throughout our lives we casually say things, negative and positive without ever taking a moment to think about the power of our words. We all have our beliefs on how life should be, but what we forget is that what works for one person may not work for another, and because we each come to the table with a different set of beliefs and from a different background we will never see things exactly the same way. The thing about words that people don't always understand is that words have power.

Most of us desire happy lives with all the wonderful things filling it, but we spend a great deal of time thinking and talking about all the things that we are unhappy about or don't want, and in turn we continue receiving more of what we don't want. Whether positive or negative if you say or think something enough it will eventually happen.

So, instead of thinking and talking about what you don't want find the positive in the what you already have, and instead of thinking about all that you think is wrong with what you have think about how you would like it to be. It is more important to know the kind of life you want and believe that although it may not come the way you want it to come or look the way that you think that it should look just know that it will come.

We say things to and about each other that are sometimes unkind and hurtful, and many times more wounding than we can imagine. But just as we use our words and thoughts in an unkind way we can use them to uplift and motivate, and to change our lives in a positive way. It is easy to criticize someone because they don't think what you think or want what you want, but it is a bigger person who can use their words in a constructive way help someone understand their point of view or to help another person to better their life. It is like the old saying you get what you give. If you use your words and your life in a positive way you will get positive in return.

How are you using your words??