Find your Happiness

Above everything else. . .

Make yourself happy first. . .Words of Wisdom I have been told but to many times I have ignored.My entire life I have worked so hard to make everyone else happy,while during this time I continue to wonder why I myself always end up lost and empty.

I am always to concerned about what everyone else wants or thinks that I never really sit down and ask myself what I want or what I need.I continue to hurt myself and others while trying to please everyone which is why I have realized something needs to change.

I am writing this because there are to many people in my life that I could tell just please understand I am capable of making my own decisions and dealing with whatever the consequence may be positive or negative. This is my life not yours and I will decide what is best for me.

There are different types of people in your life, those who truly care about you and only want to see you succeed and those who want to suppress you and hold you back from greatness.

I unfortunately have many suppressors in my life, the types of friends that do not want what's best for you or what could benefit you but whatever could benefit them and could care less about your well being. It is funny how the ones who suppress are the ones who don't quite seem to have things figured out yet. . and the ones who care are the ones are know what they want in life and would be glad to see anyone else figure it out to.

I want whats best for everyone around me, I just hope my true friends want the same for me.I am going through a phase in my life where I am working so hard to achieve my dreams and work towards my goals, I am looking for happiness and I will do whatever po

ssible to attain that.

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People always ask me why I am so happy and easy going. Its simple, very very simple. Take control of your life. You decide what it takes to make you happy then make decisions to get there. You decide what you will and won't allow in your life then you dictate just that.

Tell the truth and surround yourself with people that are ok with that. You can't imagine how much of a burden lies are in your life. Just one more thing keeping you from true happiness.

If there are people in your life who cant accept the truth, do not defend your words and actions to make them believe you. Let them choose if they want to believe you or not, them believing you is not your problem. In my last relationship I spent so much energy trying to get her to see that I am an open book that it turned me into a person I didn't like.

I was continually trying to make her see that I am a genuine person without motives. Its amazing how much bending on what you know is right for you does to your life. I'll never do it again.

Decide what is right for you and your life and stick with it. How people react or accept that should not factor into your decisions of what is right or wrong. This can be hard, but being easy or hard doesn't factor into right/wrong.

Those are two completely separate things, don't confuse them. If its right then do it, no matter how hard it is. Trust me, once you do this enough and see the results it becomes very easy. Its all about confidence.

Embrace confrontation. However, you can't truly embrace confrontation until you are confident in what you believe. Once you are confident in yourself and your thoughts, confrontation actually becomes very easy.

Never get personal with confrontation, just state the facts. Amy, I don't like when you say and do xyz. Now its up to her, not you, to decide if she wants to stay in your life. That's why my life is easy. I make the rules for my life, you can either follow them or not be in it. Its that simple.

Once you are confident in what is right for you, set boundaries to maintain that. Life becomes black and white after that, if someone crosses the boundary you confront them and let them know. If they keep crossing them then they don't get to be part of your life anymore. Its that simple. Do not let other people influence or effect your happiness.

I'm going to say that again, do not let other people influence or effect your happiness.

Be consistent. Stick with what you believe and stick with it every time. Your surroundings do not affect what you believe to be right for yourself. If people aren't accepting of you, don't change, just state who you are and live accordingly. Them liking it doesn't factor in to any part of the equation.

Be real, don't be fake to gain acceptance or approval from anyone. Think about it, if you do gain their acceptance or approval then you have to maintain the fake person you pretended to be to keep them. So you are signing up for not being yourself and adapting your beliefs when you are around them.

This is destructive behavior to yourself and the people you are around. That's why life gets complicated, you have to be different people around different crowds. If you can be the same exact person around everyone and have the same exact story around everyone, imagine how easy your life would be?

Imagine how easy your life would be if everyone played by your rules? Not possible? I disagree. There are always rules you have to follow when you are dealing with other people and the world, but when you are dealing with you and other people are dealing with you then its absolutely true.

Be fair at all times. You'll be amazed at how much people appreciate it and once again how easy it makes your life.

Just so you know, this kind of life is not easy. When someone does something i don't appreciate, I tell them. This does not mean I am mad or don't like you, I am just letting you know that you did something I don't like. That has nothing to do with the person you are.

People will have a hard time believing this. But again, that's not your problem, if you try to make other peoples problems yours then go ahead and sign up for unhappiness.

Just a few things that popped in my head.

"Seizing Every Moment Of Our Lives"

What is real pleasure ?
I have been on net for past one year actively involved in net socializing. i have interacted with many people. some were just seeking sex, some wanted company to share loneliness.... some wanted relationship...the interaction with each and everyone added something new to my perspective towards life.But out of all these interaction, interaction with one changed whole course of life. I got new vision to look at life. i introspected myself a lot , applied all skills of psychology in knowing myself.... as i believe if i know myself i can understand anyone in the world without colouring my perception towards him/her with my own wishes and desires...

Everyone in this world is lonely, unsatisfied,... feeling of vacum, incompleteness is hovering everyone, despite of thier sound social position, fanances,and many realtionship they enjoyed. but no one could achieve the desired level of satisfaction, feeling of being complete.

Almost everyone has similar story.Every one is searching pleasure, in pursuit of this they tried to grab top most position in there professional world, they earned name, fame, money and many good physically satisfying relationship. enjoyed the pleasure out of all achieved things.... but every pleasure was momentry, it lost its worth, charm and charisma with time. again search for pleasure started.........

Somehow i feel, we people fail to define pleasure because we don't undrestand who we are? what we actually want out of life..? I beleive in maslow, who says life is a journey..ultimate aim of this life is self actualization.... in this journey we need to first achieve the satisfaction for biological and social needs thn we can achieve ever lasting pleasure by self actualization.

Its so easy to satisfy biological needs but satisfaction of social need especially need for belongingness and association has become so impossible now a days..we try to associated with our parents but this association breaks when they depart.. then we make friends.. but this momentry feeling of belongingness doesn't last long , they have their own life.... we make gal/ boy friend.... here we get satisfaction, but it also fades whn they leave you for someone else.then search of permanent relationship i.e. soul mate starts..... but getting soul mate and making him belive in his feeling for u is also very difficult.

Finally most of human being reverse back to biological needs and try to exract satisfaction out of sex or physical relationship...but with every harmonal cycle the so called achieved satisfaction fades out... and we humans just get entangled into this vicious circle... find ourself stressed out and burned out frequently... this also results in many psycho somatic illnesses like, BP, heart illnesses, frequent attcks of allergic reactions, insomania, diabeties etc......

Finally we depart from this world without knowing ourself , fail to accomplish god's work to serve others, find pleausre out of giving pleausre to others... helping god in making this world beautiful and livable .The reason is simple we fail in junior class of needs after easily passing primary class of needs....

When company of soul mate can give long lasting pleasure, can satisfy need of belongingness, why don't we believe in our feelings and emotions when we get aquainted with our soul mate? what's the point in living in pain, getting struck to the lower level of heirarchy of needs? why are we wasting another birth in understanding and accepting the soul mate send by god....why are we going against god and living in pain? every soul has been gifted with one soul mate... but we humans fail to catch the signals. understand our mate because of our ego, self inflicting values and barriers...

Until the time two souls wont unite long lasting pleasure , sense of completeness, cann0t be attained without union we cannot progess spiritually.... let's not waste this birth as well ... let's help God in making this world beautiful...let's overcome all barriers and unite with the soul mate and achive higher goals unite with the supreme power, forever.......

You Can Be Rich & Happy: Now

I often hear people say things like:

"Oh, you can't be rich and happy", or "I'm happy but I'm not rich", or "if I had money I'd be happy". Some of the people who claim to be happy obviously forget to tell their face that they are happy because they certainly don't give the impression of being happy.

So what's the secret?

Is it really possible to be rich and happy or is that state truly unattainable?

I think it's a very important issue because the world is going through a period of increasing tension and conflict. Poverty and starvation are on the increase while at the same time some people's wealth is increasing dramatically. Individuals are finding it harder and harder to get ahead while the profits of major corporations are increasing from year to year.

So many ordinary people are anxious, worried and depressed in their daily lives and many are heavily in debt with very little prospect of getting off that treadmill. For an increasing number of people winning lotto is their only strategy for achieving financial independence.

Some decide it's all too hard and go for the social security safety net while others drop out altogether and live on the streets. Drugs, prostitution and crime continue to rise while our politicians tell us that we are living in a state of economic bliss and that things have never been better.

The fundamental cause of many of our challenges seems to be a lack of self-esteem and an absence of a sense of purpose. Throughout my books I speak about these issues and seek to provide strategies for improvement in these areas.

Let's deal firstly with finding a purpose for our lives.This is probably one of the most challenging issues we have to deal with and it is also something that we have to find out for ourselves. No one else can do it for us.If that isn't enough, another challenge is that our purpose may change as we go through life and as we come into contact with other people and new information.

Purpose is different from goals.
Purpose is much bigger than any goal.
Purpose is ongoing and is not like a goalpost or destination that you seek to reach.
Purpose has nothing to with accumulating a fortune or building an empire.
Purpose is a guiding light for your life. It's your beacon through fine weather and through the storms.
Purpose is a direction.
It is an ongoing reason for you to do what you do with your life. It is what adds passion to your life.
Purpose is what makes you get out of bed in the morning and want to have another wonderful day. It's the juice that powers the direction of your life.
Purpose keeps you on track in the face of adversity and challenges.

Some people uncover their purpose in life through meditation, while others do it through exercises. Some people know what they are truly passionate about and follow that passion to give them purpose. Some know their purpose early in life while others take longer to find it. Far too many people struggle through life on a treadmill without having really lived their life with passion and die with most of their dreams unfulfilled. These to me are the saddest people.Here's what I wrote in Financial

Freedom . . . starting now! –

An Action Guide:"I believe that we all have a purpose, even though sometimes we may not be aware of it. Sometimes our purpose is buried under a pile of doubts, fears, a history of failures and rejections and we need to do a little work to uncover it. When you realise what your purpose is and live it, you will experience happiness that is more powerful than the temporary buzz that you get with the achievement of a goal.Purpose does not have to be spiritual, or specific.

My individual purpose is very specific, to live and teach the principles of true wealth. Some people prefer a broader purpose such as helping others or the environment. We don't all have to be Mother Theresa.

Each of us can do good in our everyday lives.It is worth taking the time to get to know your purpose because following this purpose is your source of true happiness. Often, you will come across your purpose simply by being the person that you want to be. The personality traits that most typify you, the things that you love to do, the gifts that you have, even the material possessions that you desire are very closely linked to your purpose."In my book I provide a number of exercises to help in uncovering one's purpose.

One idea is to ask yourself what you would do with your life if you knew you were going to die in exactly two years time. Then ask yourself why you aren't doing that now. At first you may come up with all sorts of excuses, however I suggest you keep digging deeper by considering the possibilities in search of a way. Rather than saying to yourself: "I can't do that" ask yourself "How can I do that?" The process may take some time and that's OK. Please don't beat yourself up over it. Just give it time and keep asking how you can do what it is you want.

A higher force will reveal it to you.Here's what the Indian philosopher, Patanjali wrote about purpose.Purpose"When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all of your thoughts break their bonds: your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction and you find yourself in a new, great, and wonderful world.

Dormant forces, faculties and talents become alive and you discover yourself to be a greater person than you ever dreamed yourself to be."Now let's look at the issue of self-esteem.

How To Be Rich & Happy On Your Income:

"We find true happiness when we follow our purpose. You cannot live your purpose without healthy self-esteem. Self-esteem is just another way of saying that you value yourself. In my opinion, lack of self-esteem is at the core of all society's problems. If everyone valued themselves highly enough and knew they could have what they wanted, they would not have to sell their bodies or resort to gambling, drugs or crime.

Poverty is a mental disease that stems from low self-esteem. Like many diseases, it is curable for those who believe it can be. As with any illness, it takes effort, initiative and courage to beat it - and if you give up, you're in trouble!"The good news is that nearly all happy and prosperous people have conquered this debilitating mental disease at some time in their lives. Most people have had cash shortages in their lives and some have been broke. Even if you have lost everything, you still have the knowledge and beliefs that helped you to achieve what you had before you lost it.

That does not mean that you are poor. Being poor is a state of mind which has nothing to do with how much money you have. Some of the richest people are very unhappy and are very poor in their beliefs, their attitudes and their behaviours.

On the other hand some people with very little money are some of the richest people in the world. It really just depends on your attitude.If you want to be richer and happier, you may want to know more about these two books which will unlock for you the keys to achieving true wealth.

You see, anyone in my opinion, regardless of their occupation or upbringing can accumulate more money than they would ever need. All you need is the desire, the right attitude and a plan to achieve your goals. Once you have these essential elements you need to take action to achieve your plan.

These two books will show you how!These books are written in a non-technical fashion and are easy to understand. They are not textbooks on high finance or complex economics but rather easily readable, down to earth collections of ideas, experiences and exercises designed to inspire and motivate you to take control of your finances and to examine your attitudes to life and money.

They are easy to read for teenagers too and contain many important ideas for them as they generate an income. Sadly, our young people are not taught money skills at school and usually start their working life from a position of indebtedness because they are taught to buy on credit rather than how to earn and manage their money before they go into debt.Worries over money affect the health and beliefs of many people.

These books can help them to change their beliefs and attitudes around money.The principles discussed in these books apply throughout the world and this is the reason they have become best-selling books and have been bought by people in more than 22 countries.How To Be Rich &

Happy On Your Income is packed with wealth tips – both practical and esoteric. What sets this book apart is its clear, concise and concentrated money management strategies including:

How to get beyond survival mode

How to manage and save your money

How to develop a spending plan without depriving yourself

How to use your credit cards wisely

How to minimise taxation

How to increase your wealth through leverage, stockmarket investment and by investing in real estate You will easily and quickly learn how to develop a wealthy mindset, instill prosperous attitudes and find practical know how on creating wealth.

You will discover how to save money and how to turn those savings into wealth, consistently and without high risks.

Peppered throughout the book’s margins are nitty gritty how-to tips and inspirational homilies from sources as diverse as Donald Trump, Kerry Packer, Rene Rivkin, Albert Einstein and Albert Camus (who said: "It is a kind of spiritual snobbery that makes people think they can be happy without money.")

Teaching children about money

A chapter on teaching and modeling good money management skills to children highlights the importance of fostering in them a spirit of independence and respect for money, and more importantly the need to teach them to value themselves, to dream and to develop an abundance mentality.