Poetry Of The Heart

In Good Hands


David cried for hours, each and every day. No one really knew why… he wasn’t one to talk about personal issues. Those who knew him had no clue, and most thought him to be a bit odd, a loner, one full of emotions; that he was just too soft, and really needed to ‘man up’. They didn’t really know him, though.

It’s too bad, for they may have learned a thing or two about life and love. You might be wondering how I know his story… A young man I know shared it with me; he felt like the story needed to be told, to set the record straight. The following story is true, no matter how far-fetched it may sound; whether you choose to believe it is entirely up to you.

David had been acutely aware of the mystical world since he was very young, having been visited by fairies and taken on journeys into other realms. He learned early on that it was pointless to discuss his adventures, as no one believed him, and he spent so much time in psychiatric hospitals and in counseling sessions, his childhood was very abnormal.

He learned to keep his mouth shut, yet continued his relationships with the fairies and more. In time, he was considered “cured”, and a great poster child for the psychiatric community. He simply outsmarted them, but it took years of living hell for him. Nothing more was ever said, to him or by him, about any of that past as he grew older. He had fallen in love, however, with one of his fairy playmates… and their love grew.

His world, of course, did not even believe such nonsense, and her world was very apprehensive of his kind, yet their love was growing, more and more over the years. The laws of the universe only allowed for one visit per day, either between midnight and noon or noon and midnight, and the time was unlimited during either of those periods of the day, up to twelve hours. Seemed like plenty of time for them to share each others company, yet in reality, it was quite restrictive.

One of the details was that if either of them spent more than the allotted time, the following day it was forbidden to visit. His fairy love’s name was Andrina, and eventually, they could not restrain their passion for each other. They made love, and yes, their passion carried them through midnight to the next day, and that following day was the longest either had ever experienced… From that day on, their time together always seemed too short, and their good-byes were painful, each and every time.

There was something else, too, that weighed heavily on them… Andrina was soon to be with child. In the realm of fairies, when they become pregnant, it is obvious in the first week. There is an unmistakable glow about them, from head to toe, and no amount of covering can contain the glowing. Of course, the fairy realm was well aware of this situation early on, and many discussions were held regarding what the two had done.

Many of David’s visits to Andrina were spent in their high courts, mostly listening to speakers on the subject, about the effects and ramifications of their creation. During these times, the memory of his childhood came back to him, and such times were difficult for him.

Fairies were with child for only three to four months, and the birth of a new fairy was not like the human birthing. The child fairy was nurtured only for two days before able to stand on her own two feet, and within a week they were able to carry on similar to the human world six year old, in fact, this is when they were encouraged to go out and explore.

Anyway, the fairy world embraced David, eventually, and accepted their child with loving kindness. They named her Grace, and David called her Gracie. She was beautiful, and it was obvious early on that she had mostly fairy qualities. Are you getting the picture now? David cried when he was home, in his world, separated from his love and his child… at least half of every day. He had no one with which to share his plight, other than his lover.

Do you know what happens to fairies when they get old? Neither did David, not in the beginning. He found out soon enough though. When a fairy has a child, her cells change dramatically internally, and their aging process speeds up. Andrina was aging much faster than David, and soon it was evident to him, to the point where Andrina had to share with him her fate.

When fairies reach a certain age, those who have given birth, they must fly up into the sky on a full moon night, never to return… they become stars in the sky. So, yes, David had much reason to cry, don’t you think? But that’s not all…


Following Andrina’s voyage of the stars, Gracie and David shared their moments together, still within the same limitations. So David would spend as much time as possible with her, and he put on his best positive attitude during those times.

His worst days were usually following the times he would hold her in his hand and give her a beautiful flower… she so loved flowers, just like her momma, and those moments just filled David with such a sorrowful joy. He could barely contain the tears when they were together, imagine his heart when they were apart… Yes, he spent hours, each and every day… crying.


Oh, the young man who shared this? He was the one Gracie visited in his youth… and she shared everything with him, but that’s another story.

What Do Women Really Want

So what do women really want from their man?

The top 6 things women want FROM MEN, in order, are:

1. Women want men who exhibit confidence (or power)
2. Women want men with a sense of humor (fun)
3. Women want men with money or the things money can buy (sense of security)
4. Women want men with looks (protection and attraction)
5. Women want men with a bit of "Bad boy" qualities (mysterious and independent/strong)
6. Women want all the other stuff they typically list (varies - sensitive, caring, etc.)


1. Women want a man to be confident! Confidence is the number one quality women look for. Don't be wimpy. Don't apologize for everything. Be real. Be you.

2. Women want a man who makes her feel like she's the only one. Women go nuts over a man who will go the extra mile. For example, he opens the door for her, he walks on the right side of the street, he helps her shop. I'm talking about being a GENTLEMAN! If she is cold, offer her your jacket. If she is in trouble, protect her. If there is danger, put your arm around her. Be a real man.

3. Women want a man with a sense of humor. A woman will almost always love a man who can make her laugh. If you are dull, you are boring. If you make a woman laugh, you're halfway home. Take a chance, be real, but be funny. There are several seduction experts who claim that being "cocky" and "funny" are the two most important qualities to attracting a woman. I agree.

4. Women want a man to listen to them (yes, even to the gripes and details of all the craziness) and not necessarily give advice. Many women love to complain about their problems; however, they complain not to receive advice, but merely to sound off. I know it's hard to nod and be supportive, because you want to watch ESPN or do something that to you may seem more exciting, but the fact is, your woman will go to the ends of the earth to love you when you truly listen to them and acknowledge their needs. You need to understand that women need to VENT. Allow her this, and she'll allow you in. Nod. Get involved and provide active listening feedback. Be truly interested in what she is saying without worrying about what you're going to say next. Then, watch what happens as your woman opens up to you more.

Women want men to listen to them, because they have a need to be heard. And, women want their man to express his feelings and trust her with his intimate side. Real listening, with real intimacy, is rare. Real listening is suspending thinking about what to say and being deeply engaged in what she is talking about. Listening requires actively paying attention -- shutting off the chatter mind.

5. Women want men to treat them like they are the sexiest woman on the planet and that no other woman compares. Talking about your ex-girlfriends is not going to score big points with your new woman. Treating her like she's the ONLY one will make her smile for quite a while.

6. Women want loyal men. Women want to know you will be faithful. Don't tell a woman how you cheated on your ex. It won't make her think you are wise, loyal, or trustworthy. I'm not saying to lie to her -- just don't go there. Don't cheat on your woman. She will not think you are a better man for doing this. Just like you want think you are the only man she's ever loved, well, that's the thing she wants, too. The key to faithfulness comes from your own inner character. Be a man of character and you will reap a relationship built upon trust. You gain respect through consistent committed action. Respect backed up by love builds trust, trust builds a strong relationship that can stand the tests of life and time.

7. Women SAY they want a sensitive man. Truth is, if you go around apologizing all the time and crying frequently then a woman will abuse you. Trust me, it is NOT wise to do. This was well exemplified during the beach scene in the movie Bedazzled, where the main character in the film was trying to woo his love interest, his advice had been to "be more sensitive." Well, he went so overboard, was so sensitive, that his love interest ended up walking away with another dude with the assumption that they'd have meaningless conversation and casual sex! Boy was HE surprised! Being overly sensitive is a quick way to get shown the door. It is important to strike a balance. Be strong, be there, yet share your emotions. Speak up and be real. Let them know you care. But don't be a sissy.

Women say they want to be treated like an equal. This is not true. Women want to be treated like a WOMAN. Not like a man. If she wanted to be with a woman, she'd do that. She wants to be with YOU. Therefore, be a MAN. This is not to be confused with being treated like a piece of property, not to be confused with being treated with disrespect. Women want to be respected! A woman wants to be respected for being feminine, being a woman. Women are quite different from men. A man who takes the time to understand the difference is a wise man. Bottom line here: NO MORE Mr. NICE GUY. Be a REAL MAN, not a sensitive NICE GUY. Because the nice guys usually do finish last.

You still don't get it? Ok, then try this: be your own bad self. I will say that some women are attracted to "Bad Boys". I think there is a certain ruggedness to the bad boy - they break rules, they sometimes behave rudely. But the true gentleman always remembers what matters most. Have an air of mystique, but definitely be you. If, on occasion, that means doing what you want, rather than what she wants, then do it. Just don't make a continual habit of it - that's rude.

8. Women LOVE a man with a plan. Women love men with ambition. Men who know who they are, what we're doing tonight, and what we're doing with our life. If you don't have a plan, get one. I have a plan (a) and plan (b) ready at all times, so that no matter what, it will appear I'm fairly spontaneous, but reality is I usually know where, when, and how the evening or date could go. In dating, it is extremely important that you have a plan when you ask a woman out. They will judge your sense of confidence by how well you have thought out where you will take her and what you will do together. So, think ahead, have a plan, then work that plan. While you're at it make sure you have an alternative plan, too, in case she doesn't like the first one!

It is equally important for a man to know when to call a woman's bluff and let her know when she is pushing his limits. A man who just falls over and laps at his woman's feet is a man who is called "whipped" for a reason. An example is as follows: she asks, "what do you want to do tonight," he says, "whatever you want to do." If this is his consistent pattern, he's whipped. She won't respect him in the end.

9. Women want generous men. Don't be a tight-wad. Give the woman in your life gifts. Like the Chairman of the Board, Ol' Blue Eyes, Frank Sinatra, used to say, "you gotta gift 'em." Well, I figure good enough for Frank, good enough for me. After all, Frank was a MASTER SWOONER. Guys, get this: Frank Sinatra went to Hollywood with a plan to take a lengthy list of top actresses in his movie studio to bed at some point during his career. As the story goes, he pretty much succeeded. Some women will frown when they read this - but guys, I know what you're thinking: "who did Frank get together with?" Well, how about Gina Lollobrigida and Ava Gardner, for starters (I believe it was Angie Dickinson who claimed to abstain). That's like saying Jennifer Lopez, Halle Berry, and Charlize Theron to today's younger actor.

So, maybe giving a gift once in a while isn't such a bad idea. Just don't go broke trying to impress her! After all, Frank Sinatra also had a stellar voice, plenty of swagger, and loads of star power to go with his ability to buy a gift or two. Nevertheless, small gifts, especially gifts that show you were listening when she mentioned her favorite candy bar, or when she stopped at that jewelry counter to admire those earrings (but put them back without buying them), or how she commented on how she'd just love that dress in the window of that snazzy clothing store. Well, use your own imagination. But if you don't gift the woman in your life you'll probably be referred to by the woman you love as "cheapskate".

Now, "why," you ask, "do women care about gifts?" Good question. The answer is that one way women relate is through giving gifts - especially when you've paid attention to what they want. Women will gift exchange compliments with each other, too. So just trust me and surprise her with a gift every now and then and see if she doesn't respond favorably.

10. Be a true friend. LISTEN TO HER. Let her share her good times and problems with you. Be there, rather than just promising to be there. Consistent committed positive action is a definition of love. How do you show you are a friend? Are you there when it matters most? Are you there for the small stuff, too?

11. Women want to be loved, despite their flaws, and need to be satisfied mentally, emotionally, and spiritually as much as physically. Unconditional love would be ideal love. How can you love a woman without judgment, conditions, or rules? How would you like to be loved?

Sexually speaking, women define great sex differently than men, using words like soft candlelight, light touch, then becoming more aggressive as their mood rises to the occasion. A man, on the other hand, instantly rises to the occasion. Women want men to be their lover instead of obsessing over their body to just get sex. Rather than treat women as sex objects, treat them as someone to relate with; in other words, a real person! That means taking your time, showing extra attention, and being tender in ways with her to let her know she is special.

12. Women appreciate a man who is creative. Roses are nice. But sometimes it is extra special to think of something that most guys wouldn't do for a woman. It could be something frivolous, but if it is something that you think SHE would like, then why not do it? You might have just made her day.

13. Women want men who offer a sense of security, to know that her partner will be there if she becomes sick or when she grows old or flabby. Giving a woman security is being there through emotional and physical support. An example might be if she has to have surgery. Take the day off and be there for her, hold her hand, and give your full support to her. In other words, postpone that "tee time"! Security comes from trust. Again, this is about being able to rely in your strength of character.

A Woman BY Example

a good woman

good woman is proud of herself. She respects herself and others. She is aware of who she is. She neither seeks definition from the person she is with, nor does she expect them to read her mind. She is quite capable of articulating her needs. A good woman is hopeful. She is strong enough to make all her dreams come true. She knows love, therefore she gives love. She recognizes that her love has great value and must be reciprocated. If her love is taken for granted, it soon disappears. A good woman has a dash of inspiration, a dabble of endurance. She knows that she will, at times, have to inspire others to reach the potential God gave them. A good woman knows her past, understands her present and moves toward the future. A good woman knows God. She knows that with God the world is her playground, but without God she will just be played. A good woman does not live in fear of the future because of her past. Instead, she understands that her life experiences are merely lessons, meant to bring her closer to self knowledge and unconditional self love.

Women Reveals....

9 Things Women Want...

1. Respect. Show us through your actions that you respect our opinions, careers, interests, friends, bodies, and minds. You don't have to agree with all that we say or do, but try to honor our opinions as valuable contributions. Follow the golden rule and treat us as you would like to be treated: Be honest, fair, kind, and considerate.

2. Romance. It's another night on the couch with takeout and TiVo? Just because we're staying in doesn't mean the evening can't be romantic. Light a few candles and see where the night leads. Treat us like your girlfriend, even after we become your wife. Date nights, physical affection in the car, kissing like when we first started dating -- all of the things that made us fall in love with you don't have to stop just because now there are bills to pay, a house to be cleaned, and kids to be bathed. Bring home flowers for no reason. We're not talking $100 bouquets of roses here. Even the $10 bouquets from the supermarket are enough to make us smile.

3. Time. We understand relationships can't be all wine and roses; simply making the time to be with us and treating us like your top priority says "love" more than all the fancy gifts and lovely letters ever could. This includes helping around the house. The realities of a 21st-century relationship are that both partners probably work. If you happen to get home before we do, why not vacuum the living room or throw in a load of laundry? If you take the garbage out without being asked, chances are you'll be getting a big ole smooch when you come back.

4. Dinner. Of the homemade variety. You may not be good at cooking and you may not know how to boil water. But greeting us at the door after a long day with fish sticks (or whatever you can wrastle up) makes us swoon, because it shows that you've been thinking about us and our hectic day.

5. Communication. Women are vocal creatures. We know you love us, but it's nice to hear you say it, too. We can also be insecure. We wish we weren't, but the reality is that we often notice our wobbly thighs and forget about our gorgeous eyes. So let us know when you think we're hot. Tell us we're beautiful. It helps us feel good. Words of appreciation aren't half-bad either. Tell us you love the lasagna we made. Notice that we cleaned the bathtub. It doesn't have to be over the top, just let us know that you see the effort we put in, and you're grateful.

6. Consistency. This doesn't mean be boring and predictable. It means that we know you will (usually -- no one is perfect!) give us the love and support we need. Knowing that you're coming at this with the same desires and energy as we are goes a long way to making us feel secure.

7. Engagement. Of the mental kind, not the "I'm getting married in the morning" kind. You don't have to like everything we like (we might be a little concerned if you do), but showing interest in our passions, be it career-..related, a sport, or a hobby, goes a long way. Listen when we talk to you. We're not speaking just so we can hear our own voice; we want to connect with you and this is one valuable way we do this. This also means paying attention to the little things. Whether it's the name of your best friend's husband or the fact that you hate Nicolas Cage movies, it's the little things you remember about us that's so endearing.

8. Humor and Humility. These two tend to go hand in hand. This doesn't mean that you have to crack jokes or entertain us, but just being able to laugh at yourself is enough. Guys who take themselves too seriously bring everyone down.

9. Challenge. Not the kind that makes a relationship constant work, but the good kind that surprises and motivates us to do, be, or achieve what we desire. Studies show that partners who prod each other to meet goals -- in other words, don't support lazy or bad habits -- are ultimately happier than those who don't hold each other accountable.

Making Love

In the real world, not the movie fantasy world, the ability to make love is a reality. When you make love, you cant MAKE someone love you, or do things that you may feel you are going outside your comfort zone in order for someone to love you. You cant close your eyes and look at the sky and make a wish on a falling star that someone will make love to you one day. Some people think that they have been made love to because they had something called “good sex”. But I’m here to tell you that …”good sex” isn’t love making when the person doesn’t love you unconditionally.

Sometimes it seems that women dreams are to fall in love and be made love to constantly every night, while sometimes it seems that it could be a nightmare for some men. It is because women are women and men are men..so the challenge is to create love between two very different creatures and make that real. It can seem impossible at times, but its possible sometimes. I’ve’ always had the vision of how it would be when someone would make love to me. I’ve been in relationships and we both have LOVED each other, but I can honesty admit, (since I am someone who doesn’t write in codes and isn’t afraid to be real and tell people how I feel) I admit that I have NEVER been made love to.

The person may have thought they did..but they didn’t. Women, we can tell the difference between being made love to and just getting screwed. I have been in love, and I have loved , but never made love to. I honesty believe that once someone makes love to us..that person will be there forever. That is probably why it doesn’t just happen. My vision of being made love to, will be no strings attached, no conditions no personal gains, no emotional guilt’s, no points to prove, no goals to accomplish, no secrets but just relaxation, commitment, loyalty, being consistent and honest.

Making love is a natural gift from God but has been manipulated by sins..like lust, negative intentions, negative motives, selfish pleasures, unfaithfulness, and personal gains. Women are not always turn on by penis size, and how good they are in bed, and how great they look and their body looks. Some women are turn on by men ability to show they really love, by sharing things with us they may be ashamed of, crying in front of us, being open and honest with us, telling us what’s going on in their lives, what hurts them, what makes them sad.

Women we don’t want someone who’s secretive and is too afraid to express their feelings. The fact that a man can come to you and is honest about something, without fear of judgment, that shows love. If we have to ask you the same question a million times, that doesn’t show love, it shows a man being secretive and afraid. So how would you (men) expect that you can express your love in bed, if you can’t express your love in words and in actions. That is why it can be impossible for you to make love to us.

Anybody can lay down and have sex with a women, but it takes a good secure man to profess his love, and express his feelings. That takes courage, but for women, that comes natural. Some men want us to cater to their ego, chase them, want them, and have no love or feelings for anyone else, meanwhile the same game they spit in your ear..they spitting in someone else ear..may 3 or 4 ears. So how can we expect for you to make love to us when you don’t even know how love is made.

Here is the ingredients to love making. First, Build the rapport: we need to know that you are there for us, you care for us, no matter what. Not just tell us that you care, but show us that you care, express you care through the things you do, protect us and our hearts. Secondly, We HAVE to be the only one: this may be hard for a lot of men, but it is what it is.

You can’t make love to us, if your having sex with 3 or 4 other girls. We need the insurance that we are the only ones you think about sticking your penis in and sharing your thoughts and fantasies with. & Last, We need trust: we have to trust you and you have to make sure that you don’t give us any reason not to. In case you do give us reason not to, then you have to communicate with us and be there to listen.

Some women can’t even reach an orgasm if they don’t trust their men, true story . So those are my ingredients to making love, if you have a honest relationship with us, care and protect us, we know we are the only one and we trust you, then "good sex" can turn into love making.

Love making doesn’t have to be slow, with candle an music, it can be ruff, nasty and hard whatever… but as long as we have those ingredients then we know that however you have sex with us… It will be you making love to us.

Be Healed By Faith

The healing power of faith.

Visit this link for a short story on the power of faith, before reading the rest of this blog.

So. . .I am not being sarcastic with the title of this blog. I'm pointing out that the actual healing power of faith is, as the family in the above listed article found out the hard way, actually zero - nil, nada, nothing.

Some of you might suggest that "God won't save you from your foolishness". So: God loves you so much that he'd let his only son die for your sins, but if you do something stupid, you're on your own? You know you don't believe that.So how to explain this apparent discrepancy?Let me be as blunt as I can: If God exists, he doesn't help anyone with anything. There are no exceptions, not you or anyone.

Confirmation Bias:Faith-based healing is an excercise in confirmation bias. Simply put: Confirmation bias is when a person wants or believes something to be true, and so considers only the evidence that supports their conclusion.

Consider the following statement: 'It's a MIRACLE! Man saved is Tsunami! Praise God!' We might look at the sole survivor or a tragedy as some kind of miracle. But think about it a little more. Let's suppose 50,000 people drowned in that Tsunami. 50,000 thousands lives ended horribly.

Are you really prepared to celebrate the compassion and grace of God, because one person survived? That's what confirmation bias allows us to do. We don't see 50,000 bloated corpses, we see the smiling face of a man who believes he was "saved", and we want to be that man. You remember his face, and not the faces of the dead.

Finally, let's discuss confirmation bias in the other direction. Suppose I want to be right about the content of this blog. Could I be ignoring evidence of faith-based healing to support my conclusions? I do not believe so.

Here is why: There are millions of personal tragedies every year. MILLIONS. They happen so often as to be commonplace. In fact, when someone appears to have experienced a MIRACLE.

It is ONLY miraculous in light of the fact that most of the time a tragedy would have occured in their situation.

Shall we try to claim that God picks and chooses from the millions of tragedies each year and averts a few dozen, or a few hundred?

Stop lying to yourself.

Be consistent and reasonable in what you believe.

Soul Connection

Soulmates

Imagine a love so pure, you're soulmates.

You're connected heart to heart, mind to mind, soul to soul. It's so powerful that words don't adequately describe it. It's just something you just know. It's something that's part of you.

The best quote about soulmates that I've found so far comes from Leslie Parrish: "A soul mate is probably someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys that fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are".

The love between soulmates is so strong, so intense, so all-encompassing. Spiritually, emotionally, sexually you are one. There is a deep love and intimacy.

A soulmate has your soul and meshes yours with theirs. Your heart beats their name and whispers secrets meant for just the two of you. The bond is special and strong. Spiritual. The connection between you defies time and logic. It can't be explained. It can't be neatly put into a box or contained.

A soulmate is someone you see spending your life with. Someone you see walking down the aisle for. Someone you see raising a family together and bringing children into the world. Someone you see standing in the doorway of your child's bedroom with and watching them sleep peacefully; nestled and safe and having a profound feeling of peace wash over you.

A soulmate comes into your life to reveal another layer of yourself, an added dimension of yourself that only they can unlock from within you. They bring out the best in you. They see in your heart. They see the purest parts of you, the most vulnerable in you, and you trust those parts of yourself with them. They're someone you want to be everything for. You learn from each other. You listen to each other.

You support each other emotionally and spiritually. They're someone you may argue with but also someone who is on your side and will have your back unconditionally.
A soulmate is someone you can talk to about anything and nothing. It's comfortable. It never gets old. It flows like a lazy river, smooth and evenly, uninhibited and untamed.

A soulmate is someone you're the happiest you've ever been. It's sappy and loving and goofy. They're someone you can be yourself around. They love you for who you are.

A soulmate is someone you can laugh with, cry with, holds you up when you fall. Someone who you would go to the ends of the earth for, walk through fire for. They're someone you feel like you've known your whole life.

A soulmate is someone who can read you. They know your map by heart. They know what you need without having to ask. They know when you need quiet or a distraction.

They know when to rescue you, when you need to borrow their strength, and when to allow you to find your own. They're your sounding board and best friend. The person you're closest to, the one you gave your whole self to.

A soulmate shares your joy and feels your pain on an almost physical level. They hurt when you hurt. They're your protector and salve that eases your pain.

A soulmate is a gift that everyone should have at least once in their life. It's special and sacred and beautiful, and when you have it, you know it.

A soulmate consumes your thoughts. They melt together with you and fills voids that were left empty by past pains. Your life is a puzzle and they are the missing piece. The thought of losing them hurts you physically.

If they're torn from your life, it leaves a void. Part of you is missing. They became part of your life and part of the fabric of who you are that there will always be a special place for them in your heart. They're the person who got away and could never be replaced because the connection was so strong that it was one for the recordbooks.
Not everyone finds theirs. I did.