Thursday, December 3, 2009

Secretly In Love With You

Secretly In Love

You took my hand and led the way never telling me all you wanted to say whisper softly love , in my ear all those sweet nothings I wanted to hear kiss my lips and touch my skin boiling passions deep within

Pull me close and hold me near sheltering me from my own pain and fear through the darkness in the night baby ,be my beacon ,and shine your light in the brightness in the sun show me

I'm your only one
give me wings so I can fly I can soar when your nearby enter my heart and break down this wall it's time for me to watch it fall

I've been a prisoner can't you see
now break my chains and set me free strip me of my armor tight you'll find I wont put up a fight release my soul held deep within I'm ready now, to love again


Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Earn Money as a Professional Wedding Coordinator


Starting a wedding coordination business offers an opportunity to earn an excellent income, as well as the pride and self-satisfaction of business ownership, while doing something you already enjoy. It is a great business for those who love weddings and who are highly organized. It is also a natural progression for those already in the wedding industry - people who are currently operating bridal boutiques, wedding stores, floral services, catering companies, and reception venues.

Demand for a Wedding Coordinator

Weddings are big business. The Association of Bridal Consultants estimates that consumers spend a whopping $33 billion on their weddings every year. In 1999, the average wedding cost approximately $20,000, and many more couples spend on top of that amount.

Today's bride is spending more money than ever before to ensure that her wedding day - the single most important day of her life - is planned to perfection. Once reserved only for the very rich, today's brides- and grooms-to-be, often busy with dual careers yet wanting to make their wedding uniquely personal, are turning to consultants for help. Wedding coordinators are being used more to help couples save time, money and considerable stress preparing for the wedding.

More people are finding that a good wedding consultant could be a source of information, ideas, and contacts for the bride-to-be. Hiring a wedding consultant could help ensure that the wedding day ends far more spectacular than the bride has ever envisioned. They provide guidance on etiquette, invitations, planning and directing the rehearsal and ceremony, even arranging transportation and accommodations. Wedding consultants may also assist in locating a site for the ceremony, shopping for the wedding gown, arranging for childcare and shopping for wedding accessories. As such, professional wedding consultants are compensated well for their knowledge, talent, time, and expertise.

The services of wedding coordinators are also frequently used in the planning of other social events such as anniversaries, engagement parties, graduation celebrations and other similar functions. This creates the potential to tap into these other markets as well, thereby expanding the overall prospects of your wedding coordination business.

Role of the Wedding Coordinator

Wedding coordinators play an important role as professionals within the industry. A consultant's primary function is to help a couple learn, implement and manage all the necessary tasks required to host a successful wedding event.

As a wedding coordinator, you assume the role of a planner, facilitator, mediator, money manager, artisan and organizer of all parties concerned. Your role is to be "on top" of everything - every finite detail of the wedding. Wedding planners can do just about everything - from arranging a budget and timetable to remembering to bring white bobby pins for your veil. Duties can include setting up appointments, offering etiquette advice, mailing invitations and recording responses, coordinating the decorations, negotiating contracts, and attending to many other details. However, many planners also set their limits as to what they can and cannot do. One wedding planner I know draws the line at writing the thank-you notes.

Weddings, being extremely emotional events, can oftentimes try the patience of a saint. The wedding coordinator must be able to "handle" any situation that will arise. You will be dealing with not with the bride and groom-to-be, but everyone else in their families and circle of friends. Even the most well-planned, beautifully orchestrated event has some sort of emotional twist or turn that a consultant must be able to skillfully negotiate.

Knowledge and Skills You Need to Have

The wedding coordinator is hired for the simple reason that they know the ins and outs of weddings -- the etiquette, the right people to work with, and the ways to manage within any budget. A professional wedding consultant is an experienced, organized, detail-oriented, imaginative, people-person, possessing mature judgment, patience and the expertise to orchestrate this special day.

A successful wedding planner needs to be an expert in hospitality, event planning, decorating and wedding trends and traditions. You need to be knowledgeable of the latest trends in wedding products and services, food, music, ceremony and reception décor.

You need to have a good fashion sense. You will be expected to advise the bride on the proper attire for the wedding party, appropriateness of gown styles in accordance with wedding formality, principals to use in assisting the bride in choosing veils and headpieces, guiding the bride through the process of apparel ordering & alterations.

The wedding business is a people business: hence, you must be a master in diplomacy possessing excellent communication skills. You must understand the bride's psychology, including her anxiety and stress, to work well with your client. You must also be an effective arbitrators to help the bride and groom (including their mothers) reach decisions harmoniously on the guest list, music, desired ambience, and other minute details.

You must have good networks, possessing good contacts with high-quality, reliable wedding services. These include photographers, videographers, florists, caterers, hotels, make-up artists, jewelers, churches and rental halls, musicians and disk jockeys, and even travel agents. Most of all, you need to have the skill to coordinate all of them.

Wedding planners are expected to turn a $10,000 wedding into looking like thousands more were spent. Thus, you need to be a creative negotiator who is quick to develop solutions and negotiate prices with suppliers.

Since most wedding coordinators are solo entrepreneurs, you also need to know bookkeeping, marketing, understanding and analyzing your market. You must develop a winning business concept and formula for your consulting service. You need to have basic and financial management skills and organizational ability to run a business and even oversee a wedding budget.

I know of a wedding coordinator who worked hard learning all the things she needs - spending time with a florist, assisting a caterer - before embarking on her own business. As you learn easy and inexpensive ways specific to the field of wedding coordination, you also need to know how to attract customers and build a fabulous reputation and clientele for your service within your local market.

Pricing Your Wedding Coordination Service

The pricing of a wedding coordinator will depend on the location, nature of tasks involved and your level of expertise. Some wedding coordinators charge based on a percentage of the wedding's cost, while others charge a flat fee. Flat fees may range from 10 to 15 percent of the wedding budget. Since the average wedding using a coordinator costs about $15,000, your earnings may run from $1,500 to about $2,000.

Some others charge an hourly rate ranging from $50 to $150 per hour. According to many wedding coordinators, the average wedding takes about thirty-to-forty hours of coordinating, which ends up costing between $1,500 and $3,000.

Potential Earnings

It normally takes three years to establish a wedding consulting business

, and five years to become profitable.

If you work on thirty weddings in a year at an average rate of $1,500 per wedding, you can expect to earn $45,000 in a year. If you work alone on a full-time basis, you can service about 40 weddings a year, providing nine man-days per wedding. To increase revenues, other wedding coordinators provide extra services such as printing invitations, selling accessories or renting tuxedos.

The wedding business is seasonal. The months of September, October, June and August are traditionally the busiest months. Winter months are slow; except if you are in a tropical country where December is also a busy wedding month.

Tips for Success

The wedding consulting business is extremely stressful, demanding, competitive and with small profit margins. You will be working on a number of elements over which you have no control.

If you think the wedding consulting business is the right business for you, here are some steps you need to take to start a wedding consulting business:

1. Consider apprenticeship. A good wedding coordinator must be able to anticipate events and plan every little detail about the wedding. However, it takes time to gather the level of knowledge you will need to plan and execute creative and well-managed weddings. Consider learning the profession by working for someone else at first. One of the best things you can do is to find a seasoned consultant and offer to work for them, even for free. Another way is to work closely with people involved in the business - the caterer, bridal designer, and other professionals in the field. It will help you gain a clearer view of the business, and gain some experience before you take the reins of your own business. You can always go solo once you have developed your skills.

2. Build your portfolio of satisfied clients. The wedding consulting business is built on reputation. Potential clients will want to look at your credentials and record of accomplishment in managing and organizing weddings. To help you build a portfolio of your work, organize weddings for families and friends. Be sure to get pictures from the photographer and a recommendation from the bride.

3. Constantly update your knowledge of wedding trends and etiquette. Read magazines to keep you abreast of the ins and outs of wedding protocol. You also need to learn about wedding and reception decorations, starting with flowers. Catch up on the latest trends on wedding attires. Take time to attend other weddings in order to learn some other great ideas that you can use in your business, as well as the big mistakes and fiascoes that you need to avoid. Attending bridal shows is also useful. Be sure to collect your ideas in a notebook.

4. Establish a network of suppliers that you can rely. Research the vendors that provide food, beverages, entertainment, clothing, and supplies for weddings within your region. It is important to know who is available and what they charge, and to be acquainted with their reputations. Establish relationships with your potential suppliers and negotiate for the best possible price.

5. Strive to improve your people skills. A wedding coordination business is people intensive: your success will greatly depend on how well you work well with your clients. The bride and groom, as well as their families, can be nervous about getting everything ready for the big day. You need to have the ability to maintain a cool head and possess social graces.


Saturday, November 21, 2009

The Truth Behind The Smile

Behind my smile

People in my life lately always want to know why i'm so happy or curious as to why I look for the best in everything ....Well I have had my fair share of mistakes like everyone else and I am far from perfect but I am learning and growing each day. I realized the importance to me in life is to truly follow my heart and surround my self with great people.I like to have that karisma around me that way people can always remember that glow. I also came to the realization I want to be a true leader not a follower and impact people/ the world in a beautiful way. I value my health, faith , motherhood and helping others as far as donating my time to charities or where ever I can make a small difference; a helping hand never hurt anyone. The small things in life are too often over looked when really they are some times the most important . Cherish your health don't take life for granted . Live, Love, Learn, forgive you will find your heart and eventually You will find clarity/truth because you are the only one that has to look your self in the mirror each day. I found my self or I should say I am still seeking my self not only through life experience's but I actually sat down and wrote my own obituary scary thought kinda morbid..But it makes you realize how you want to be remembered. We all have an inner beauty in us so let it shine.

MIND BODY & SOUL

True Friend Is Rare To Find



Ok, this blog took a lot of time and effort, thanks to all of you who helped with your input and thoughts:


Kayla, Kristin, Shannon, Gorilla, Sherri, Jay, Trey and Lover Lovingston.

What makes a good friend to me??

This was a hard question for me to answer and I want to pose this question to all of you at the end here....

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In my eyes a real friend is tried and true. They are there when you need someone to talk to and they understand your feelings or at the very least act understanding even when they don't understand fully. They sympathize with you and they always take your feelings into consideration. They understand that things in your life need to be accomplished as well as they would take care of their own things. They don't get angry or mad if you have something important that needs to be done before all else. They will not talk about you in public and they will always have your back.
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A good friend will offer you advice and stand by your side even if they do not agree with the decisions you may make. A good friend will offer encouragement and offer prayers or good thoughts/words to help you through a situation.


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A good friend will call you when they know you are having a bad day to make sure you are ok, to do the best they can to offer a shoulder or an ear. A good friend will not only think of themselves, but always take care of themselves...you can't be a good friend to someone, that offers good advice, if you aren't all together yourself...
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A good friend will laugh at you AND with you, they will tell you when you mess up or they may keep their thoughts to themselves, but either way, they'll love you regardless of your failures or decisions. They'll question your thoughts, beliefs or feelings, to make sure you think from all angles, not just to be an ass. They may say something you don't like to hear or don't want to hear, but they do it in YOUR best interests.
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A true friend will never be offended by another friend’s advice or questions…maybe if there was an offense taken it was only because it was the truth and it made them mad to hear it said aloud, maybe it only reconfirmed their fears. True friends don’t say those things out of spite, but out of looking after the ones they care about and protecting the ones they love.
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Real friends don’t publicly fault their friends. They are grown up and can act mature enough to handle things like an adult. A real friend doesn’t stab you in the back when you are only trying to be helpful. A real friend won’t ignore you over something trivial and insignificant.


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A real friend will understand your need to take care of the things in your life above all else. If they are a real friend they won’t fault you for taking a few minutes to get something important taken care of. They will understand and still be there once you have taken care of necessary business.
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A real friend will sense when there is something wrong in your attitude or personality, they will call you up to see if you are ok, they will send you a message saying that “I’ll be there for you, when you want to talk.”


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A real friend will not do something to help you out, then turn around and use it against you. Especially when the action that supposedly helped you was not one that you had even asked them for.

They let you have space, but don’t let you go too far from their sight. They keep you in mind and always have your best interests at heart. They understand that your family will always come before them and are not selfish in their desire to take up all of your time and energy. They appreciate the efforts you make at friendship, even if you are not able to lend out hours of your time at the time they need you.

There are exceptions to this of course. If a friend is in a car wreck or tragically ill and on their deathbed, then yes, a real friend will put their life on hold to help the other one make it through and cope. They will drop it all and give everything they have towards making the friend's situation more comfortable or tolerable. However, if it is the same situation over and over again, for example an asshole significant other or a drug problem, then the friend in need should understand that the things in your life will take importance over their matters at hand. It doesn’t mean you don’t care, it just means you have to take care of something, you WILL get back to their problems as soon as you can, but experiencing the same problem over and over because you don’t want to change things only means one thing…insanity.

Life

Walking The Walk
(a short story)

Interesting how excited she became when I asked if she would like to go for a walk. A simple pleasure I thought would be nice for us to partake in. We set forth into the night air which was clear, crisp, and cool. Bright stars looked down upon us while a mild wind brushed over our faces, infusing our minds with the pure joy and satisfaction of togetherness. The smiles on our faces brightened the dark sky much more than the moon ever could as we shared short kisses filled with affirmations.


We talked about how our pasts shaped us in to the persons we are today. About the hopes for how our present day activities will shape our future. We shared our beliefs, our perspectives on several things and with each step, each word, each moment of silence we became closer, actually becoming a part of each others own body. Walking yet finding calm within the ruckus of life that we were surrounded by. I could feel the emanation of her love as we held hands. This love I felt, this love she wanted me to realize that she held for me, was far beyond anything she had ever spoke of.

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

When To Find True Love?

Just Another Love Story


Once, there was a guy, who was in love with a gal. She wasn't the most beautiful and gorgeous but for him, she was everything. He used to dream about her, about spending the rest of life with her. His friends told him,"why do you dream so much about her, when you don't even know if she loves you or not? First tell her your feelings, and get to know if she likes you or not". He felt that was the right way.


The girl knew from the beginning, that this guy loves her.One day when he proposed, she rejected him. His friends thought he would take to alcohol; drugs etc. and ruin his life.To their surprise, he was not depressed. When they asked him how was it that he is not sad, he replied,"why should I feel bad? I lost one who never loved me & she lost the onewho really loved and cared for her.


"Never Cry for One Who Makes You Cry!

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

A Rose In Torn

RareLightning Spears


No ulterior motive

Nothing up my sleeve

Nothing you did or said

You were just you


Didn’t have to buy me anything

Didn’t have to wine or dine me or anything

Ever and persistent


My desire for you from a distance

I love you for who you are

No agenda at all


Nothing to win but you

Nothing I would not do

You were just being you


Didn’t have to spend a lot of money

Didn’t have to call my jokes funny

Always and forever


My love for you fades never

I love you for all that you are


Not some reward

Not for anything you’ve done

Not even for being so true


Just for being you


Didn’t need to go out of your way

Didn’t need to bend over backwards

I’d hold you close or love you from far away

So much to giveSo much love to share


No one could ever compare

You’re a find you are

You’re rare Take my breath, my very air

At your beauty I constantly stare


Love you for beauty you hide

Love you not for anything you’ve got

Love you for the angel inside


Love you not for just you looking so hot

Love you so much it ought to be a crime

Love you so until the end of time


Love you as if you were already mine

Love you like no other


You are such a rare find


Hold you close or love you from afar

I love you for who it is that you are.