"What Do Men Find Sexy?"

This one question will derive a common answer from the ladies - fast cars, bikes, high heels, great curves, pretty face, provocative dress and so on. This answer may be true, but only to a certain extent. There are many other things along with these that men can find absolutely sexy. Think for example, a warm Sunday morning and you and your man curled up with each other in your night wear. You have unkempt tousled hair and probably some smudged make-up and mind you, no high heels. Men would find it sexy, as it makes them feel relaxed in your company. The fact you don’t have to look perfect all the time makes them realize, they don’t have to either! They can be themselves with you and that is definitely a turn on! Here are a few other things which I think men find sexy!

Healthy Curves
Throw away those diet pills and start eating! Anorexia is not a fashion statement, it is a disease and no man would want a girl with that disease! Men like to see some good fleshy curves on women and like it when they eat healthy. So the next time you feel you are gaining weight, get happy about it! At the same time, keep it in moderation and exercise to get rid off the extra flab.

No Make-Up Look
Yes, men find it sexy! In fact, after reaching a certain level in your relationship, your man will find it uncomfortable to kiss you when you have layers of lipstick. The no make-up and natural look is a turn on simply because of the fact that it is natural and not fabricated. Make-up may even act as a barrier at times instead of being a turn on.

Confidence
It hardly matters whether you have the perfect face or the fab body, till the time you are high on confidence. Yes, confidence is a big turn on for guys and they find it absolutely sexy when the woman they adore is confident about herself. So whether it is deciding what you want in life or which restaurant to go for dinner, showing some confidence will definitely perk up your man.

Passionate with Kids

Men find women who adore and pamper kids, absolutely sexy. This is because such women have a certain motherly instinct about them that reminds men of their own mothers. It makes them feel warm and cared for and can also melt their hearts in a matter of seconds. So, the next time you are pampering a kid and your man is rolling his eyes, you will know that inside, he loves what you do!

The Secrets of Being Irresistibly Sexy

If you are with a man who does not like you the way you are for whatever reason: he prefers blondes, big breasts, small breasts, French braids, big women, small women, blue women, or green men run to the nearest exit because there must be a mutual attraction. Don't think that you will change his mind, desire is natural. Don't become his sexual habit because he has gotten accustom to using you. Some women may not agree with this but: Yes, you do want your man to lust after you like the whore in the hot pants whom he swears he wasn't watching.
Except yourself for who you are - the way you are, then surround yourself with people who feel the same way as you do. For example, everyone doesn't like McDonald's hamburgers, right? But it doesn't make sense for the creator to worry about the people who will never eat Big Macs but, make sure that the people who like his hamburger can't get enough. No matter how much you enjoy your favorite food, you don't want it everyday. But the important factor is that your favorite food has become part of your staple diet and you can't imagine living your life without it. Become his favorite food.
The very first thing that you must do is express your unique personality. You need to completely understand that there is no other woman in the world like you. Therefore, you are an extraordinarily, unique, special individual. However, on the flip side, you are no different than any other woman, you have eyes, nose, buttocks, thighs, breasts, vagina, and legs. There will always be one that is bigger, better, smaller, larger, firmer and tighter than yours.
What makes a woman truly irresistible and desirable contains two components 70% her inner beauty and 30% how she presents her physical assets. Her inner beauty is the totality of her ability to exude her unseen attributes i.e. personality, opinions, talent, kindness, and mannerisms freely and authentically. Additionally, she must learn what her physical assets are and accentuate and display them with confidence.
1. Don't be afraid to be who you really are. Speak your mind, be open, honest and interesting. Don't speak negatively about other people it makes you look petty. Talk about ideas. Be yourself! Be yourself! (This is not a typo) Don't worry about whether or not other people like you.
2. What is your best physical asset? Is it your eyes, breasts, legs? You should know this information second to your name. Whatever your physical assets are play them up.
3. Buy clothes that compliment your soul and your body. If you walk in a store and see an outfit that looks like it was made with you in mind, or leaving it in the store feels like you left a part of yourself behind; this is a must buy. Learn which colors, brands and styles compliments you the most and stick with what works. What looks or smells good on another women won't necessarily have the same affect on you.
4. We all get a little lazy sometimes, but enough can not be said about personal hygiene. Pay attention to your finger and toe nails. Shave your legs and under your arms. Go that extra mile for yourself. Buy the vaginal washes that kills bacterial odor so that you will still smell fresh after a long day. Gels to whiten your teeth are not expensive, purchase them. A good rule of thumb to remember is: If he licked you from head to toe what would you taste and smell like. Take care of yourself accordingly.
5. Be unpredictable. Don't wear panties when he least expects it and wear long johns to bed just when he thought he could take you for granted. Men are socialized to be stimulated by the thrill of the hunt, to be challenged and competitive. Ask yourself: If I were a I man would I chase after me. What kind of prey are you? Easy. Mysterious. Complex. Humans value things that they believe are not easily obtained and priceless.
6. No matter how beautiful or attractive you are if you can't develop an emotional bond or attachment with your male. He must think about you when you are not around. There are several ways to do this, but the effectiveness depends solely on the type of man he is. Don't forget to understand the nature of the object you wish to possess. Here are a few suggestions:
Don't be a doormat. Be a little assertive, but fair. Men love women who are challenging, poised and assertive. Don't hold a grudge or brag, let by-gones be by-gones but stand your ground and move on.
Be a little needy. Ask him to fix your car, unplug the toilet, put your entertainment center together. Everyone wants to feel loved and needed- not used! Let him know that he is your macho man. This will only work if you are self-sufficient and independent. He will be complimented that you trust him enough to lean on him. Use this technique sparingly, it can be an extreme turn-off if used too often. Remember for a man: It's only sexy to be needed by someone who doesn't need him. The turn-on is the fact that you chose him.
7. Be his best friend, lover, girlfriend, wife and business consultant wrapped into one person. Listen to him when he talks about his day, friends, problems, concerns. Go have a drink with him at the bar and if a good-looking woman strolls in, you be the first to compliment her. Confidence is sexy.
8. Make love with the lights on no matter what size or shape your body is. When it's dark you can be substituted for any woman. Let him see your nipples rise to his touch, the goose pimples that cover your skin as he kisses your neck, and the expression on your face when he becomes a part of you. He can't see this at the restaurant or while you are watching television together. Let him see what he does to you as a woman.
9. Before you be irresistibly sexy to your male partner, you must first learn do your homework to learn his definition of sexy. Make it a game if you can but you must find the answer to these questions: What helps him relax; what makes him feel close to you; what stimulates his senses; what arouses him sexually; what gives him pride. Learn what stimulates his five senses, touching, smelling, hearing, seeing and tasting. He is a unique individual, all men do not enjoy the same activities. The more you learn about how to please him; the more special you will become to him. Do your homework.
10. Lighten up, have a sense of humor and learn how to create a naughty mood. Flirt with him. They say the basic male instinct is to hunt, and when the chase is over, the romance dissolves. Send him on a hunt and just when thinks he can't win, coyly, offer him your lips and body. Give him eye contact when talking to him. Seek to connect with his soul. This may include a warm bath or a slice of pie while he is watching his favorite sport on television. Learn how to balance his delicate need for tenderness, love and acceptance with challenge, excitement and adventure.

How to Have Sex Appeal
When you see someone that is very social and strangely seductive, maybe they are not that good looking, but they have something that makes you feel attracted and jealous of them. Yeah, that's sex appeal. Want some? Read on!

Steps
Care and love your looks. It is good to look nice, it can really make you feel better about yourself. Try to try something new, like a new haircut or new wardrobe. Do something new on your looks, but you have to feel beautiful and find yourself pretty.
Don't be afraid to approach people. Being shy won't help you anyway. If you want to meet new people, it's easy when you make the first move. Go up to them and have a talk, but be enthusiastic and real, and please, wipe off all your awkwardness and insecurities, and express yourself freely.
Have a sense of style. It is important to know what is hot and what's not but don't over do it. Remember, fashion is about wearing only what flatters you, since then you will feel comfortable and act more naturally.
Connect with people. Look at strangers and make eye contact with them and smile easily. Greet them. It will give you more confidence, besides, doing it is a way of connection that will make it easier to get to meet people.
Be sure of your qualities. Being confident in yourself, not only in your looks, but also in your own person, is always important. When you like yourself and you are sure that your qualities are cool, then you will be able to let them be noticed and don't hide them. Tell yourself that you're beautiful and think of why people should like you for you.
Always have a good sense of humour. Don't take things too seriously, try to smile easily and laugh more often. Even if you don't feel your best, try to think of positive things more often.

Tips
Confidence is the most important - it can give you the necessary presence, charm, charisma and sex appeal you want.
Meet new people for fun! Don't force yourself to appear sexy or something, just have a good time and don't hide your natural sex appeal.
Always keep a positive attitude and smile. Sexy people usually smile often.
Having a nice glow / tan always helps your sex appeal, it will also boost your confidence.
Bathe. Often.
Stand tall and be observant if you find someone that may have been glancing your direction, walk over and start a conversation. *The best line to use is "Hi my name is (state your name clearly and confidently) and how are you?"
Most importantly to top it off.....don't try to be someone you're not..Be yourself

How to Be Charming

Charm is the art of having an attractive personality. This characteristic can only be achieved over a period of time. While everyone is born with differing amounts of natural charm, much can be acquired and honed through practice and patience. As with dancing, the more you practice, the better you will become. Effort and careful attention to the needs and desires of others will ensure that charm becomes a permanent part of your character.


Steps
Improve your posture. Good posture will give the impression of self confidence (even if you don't feel that way on the inside). While walking, maintain a relaxed yet definitive upright posture: spine long, shoulders back, head level with the ground. This may feel awkward or overpowering to you when you first practice it, but keep trying.

Relax the muscles in your face to the point where you have a natural, pleasant expression permanently engraved there. Face the world and show everyone you're not afraid.
Make a connection. When your eyes come in contact with another person's, nod and smile subtly with a subdued joy shining forth. Don't worry about the other person's reaction and don't overdo it.
Remember people's names when you meet them for the first time. This takes an enormous amount of effort for most people. Repeat the person's name when stating your name to that person will help you to remember it better. For example: "Hi Jack, I'm Wendy." Follow through with small talk and repeat the person's name. Repeat it once more when you say goodbye. It's not just about helping you to remember that person. The more you say a person's name, the more that person will feel that you like them and the greater the chance they'll warm up to you.
Be interested in people. If you meet a new acquaintance, for example a coworker, a classmate, a friend of a friend, etc. find out about their immediate family and interests. Be sure to ask after the names of family members and remember them. Be careful in that subject though you don't want to be nosy. If you ask too much they will become uncomfortable. Also ask after their particular interests in life. These two topics will ensure much better small talk than just harping on about school or work. Most people don't like to think about those things at social occasions unless they have to. Even if it is about networking, you should understand fully the worth of taking a break from talking shop. It is important to refrain from talking up about yourself. Be purely interested and impressed by the person with whom you are speaking.
Orient topics toward the audience. This means taking into account topics that interest those around you, even if you are not so keen on them. If you are in a sporty crowd, talk about last night's game or the meteoric rise of a new team. If you are amongst a group of hobbyists, draw out their hobbies and make remarks related to fishing, knitting, mountain climbing, movies, etc. Nobody expects you to be an expert. It is your level of interest and willingness to engage in topics that makes you an interesting person to be around. Exercise an open mind. Let others do the explaining. If someone mistakenly thinks you know more about the topic, be genuine and simply say that your knowledge is limited but that you are hoping to learn more about it.
Praise others instead of gossiping. If you are talking with someone or you are talking in a group of people, and up pops the subject of another person in a positive or negative way, be the one to mention something you like about that person. Hearsay is the most powerful tool in gaining charm because it is always viewed as 100% sincere. It has the added benefit of creating trust in you. The idea will spread that you never have a bad word to say about anyone. Everyone will know that their reputation is safe with you.
Don't Lie. A lie is something you say for which there is some direct evidence somewhere out there that contradicts it. If you tell Mary that you like Jane and Billy that you don't like Jane, Mary and Billy will talk and your reputation will be ruined. No one will believe a word you say.
Issue compliments generously, especially to raise others' self esteem. Try to pick out something that you appreciate in any situation and verbally express that appreciation. If you like something or someone, find a creative way to say it and say it immediately. If you wait too long, it may be viewed as insincere and badly timed, especially if others have beaten you to it. If you notice that someone is putting a lot of effort into something, compliment it, even if you feel that there is room for improvement. If you notice that someone has changed something about themselves (haircut, manner of dress) notice it, and point out something you like about it. If you are asked directly, be charming and deflect the question with a very general compliment.
Be gracious in accepting compliments. Get out of the habit of assuming that the compliment is being given without genuine intent. Even when someone makes a compliment out of contempt, there is always a germ of jealous truth hiding in their own heart. Be effusive in accepting the compliment. Go beyond a mere "thank you" and enjoin this with "I'm glad you like it" or "It is so kind of you to have noticed." These are "compliments in return." Avoid backhanding a compliment. There is nothing worse to a person complimenting than to receive the response "Oh well I wish I was as ______ as you/that situation." That is tantamount to saying, "No, I am not what you are saying I am, and your judgment is wrong."
Control your tone of voice. The tone of your voice is crucial. Most people feel insecure somewhere inside and have an inability to accept praise. For this very reason, when you praise, do it subtly and glibly. When you say, "you look nice today" it should be in the exact same tone that you would use to say "it's a nice day." Any variation from your normal tone will arouse suspicion about your sincerity. Practice giving compliments into a recorder and play it back. Does it sound sincere? Practice until you get it right..

The 5 Most Sexiest Man Alive (Latest Update)

The Most sexiest Man alive (Latest Update)is from the most pretegious "World Magazine 2007" for today's women.

This guys have their own unique distinctive qualities that make them stand-out from the rest.

To be considered one of the most sexiest man alive is so flattering because this is not all about the looks & having a perfect body.Being sexy is having the qualities that makes you shine out from the rest...good looks & having nice body is a plus points but the big factor is how you project & present yourself in any situation that you encounter.Having self-confidence & unique sex appeal that all this 5 men are blessed to have that all women are going crazy to have them or to have someone like them to be the man of woman's dreams.

Characteristic to be TRULY SEXY & IRRESISTABLE to the opposite sex.

This is what I always say to men and women who come to me asking for my help approaching, attracting, seducing or playing hard to get with the opposite sex.
"You cannot RELAX and you cannot ADOPT THE FLEXIBLE UNAFRAID ATTITUDE that anything "sexual" calls for if you are not confident in your own sexual self".

You may be technically good looking, fun, intelligent, socially charismatic and a really "nice" person but if your SEXUAL SELF is poisoned with neediness, disillusion, sense of inadequacy, need for control, low self esteem, bitterness and resentfulness, your AUTHENTIC SEXUAL INTENSITY will be held back, unnecessarily aggressive or superficial.

When the opposite sex sense that there is no AUTHENTIC SEXUAL INTENSITY in your words and actions they'll treat you as someone who has no "relationship value". This is when you really have to try hard and hang in there just to sustain a conversation or date, let alone a relationship. You try this pick-up line and that conversation starter, this flirting body language and that sexy pose, this seduction technique and that sexual position, to no avail. You can only helplessly watch as the man or woman in front of you or in your life slips away into someone else's hands and life.

Granted, if you are really good looking, slap-knee hilarious, have great personal charisma (it's possible to have personal charisma and no sexual charisma, those two are different) or if you have lots of money, you may be able to fool a man or woman for a few dates or even months. But if you are like most, after a while, carrying on with the "sexy" facade when deep inside you feel sexually inadequate gets really exhausting. You find yourself wondering and even resenting the fact that you have to pretend to be who you are not and do all those things just to please a man or woman -- who may not even be showing any appreciation for your efforts and will in a moment take the next better offer.
What makes some men and women so intensely and effortlessly seductive is not a technique, good looks or even smart brains... what makes them so irresistible is that THEY ARE THE SEDUCTION!

1. They do not just PERFORM seduction, seductiveness is part of their makeup
Men and women with this kind of SEDUCTIVE PULL are so in touch with their sexual energy and so in sync with their sexual selves that seductiveness is WHO THEY ARE and not just what they say or do. This moment-to-moment awareness of the electrifying sexual energy flowing inside them makes it possible for them to walk around like MAGNETS. This is in contrast to what is commonly known as "hot woman" or "sexy man" where “being hot" or "being sexy" is a pose, an act, a tool entirely divorced from the sexual energy that directs behaviour and creates an AURA of sexual intensity.

2. They are confident in a way that inspires the other’s confidence and trust in them
They are certain of who they are, what they want, what they have to offer and the value of what they have to offer, yet they neither show off nor are they too eager to impress and please. This is very different from the "alpha-male" or "hot babe" all puffed up, detached or aloof confidence. This is a confidence that includes others -- especially the woman or man they are seducing.

3. They operates on a personal and emotional level
Their seductiveness comes from their ability and tendency to focus on the personal and emotional state of others. They set the tone of “passionate" by demonstrating that they like who they are, that they enjoy the person they are with and that they appreciate the experience. This brightens the outlook of the man or woman they are seducing and heightens their responsiveness ultimately lifting the quality of the experience at hand.

4. They refuse to play a part -- that of the Player or Trickster-- and owe their seductiveness to this refusal!
They are NOT bound to any externally-driven techniques or egotistically designed rules and scripts, but instead have developed their own internally-driven self-regulation system (INNATE SEXUAL INSTINCTS) that informs and confirms their behaviours and responses in a given situation.

5.They are from tip to toe comfortable seducing - reveling in their own seductive energy and every bit immersed in the depth of their beingness!
For them, this is all part of living life in the most fully human manner possible. They make the earth (and life) feel like one great big playing field where their playful seductiveness come out to play and to eroticizes everything else in their magnetic field including the people that come in contact with their energy. They are interesting and fascinating to other people because they inspire others with their “let’s-live-life" intensity.

6. They are constantly changing and constantly emerging a new -- always fresh in their words and actions

Nothing they say or do is rehearsed or scripted, everything happens in the unfolding moment of right now, right here, now-as-it-is-happening. This adaptable, flexible, innovative and creative ever-changing quality leads to a sense of personal mystery (thus “Mysterious").

When you RECLAIM your AUTHENTIC SEXUAL SELF and give yourself the freedom to do things your own way -- you become a conduit for a very powerful primal force. What you've done is given your primal sexual power the permission to stimulate your innate creativity, courage, tenacity and your CAPACITY TO STIR THE

PRIMAL EMOTIONS and desires of others.
There is a natural seducer already inside all of us. Use your own natural instincts, sensations, emotions and desires to create very strong attraction.