"What Do Men Find Sexy?"

This one question will derive a common answer from the ladies - fast cars, bikes, high heels, great curves, pretty face, provocative dress and so on. This answer may be true, but only to a certain extent. There are many other things along with these that men can find absolutely sexy. Think for example, a warm Sunday morning and you and your man curled up with each other in your night wear. You have unkempt tousled hair and probably some smudged make-up and mind you, no high heels. Men would find it sexy, as it makes them feel relaxed in your company. The fact you don’t have to look perfect all the time makes them realize, they don’t have to either! They can be themselves with you and that is definitely a turn on! Here are a few other things which I think men find sexy!

Healthy Curves
Throw away those diet pills and start eating! Anorexia is not a fashion statement, it is a disease and no man would want a girl with that disease! Men like to see some good fleshy curves on women and like it when they eat healthy. So the next time you feel you are gaining weight, get happy about it! At the same time, keep it in moderation and exercise to get rid off the extra flab.

No Make-Up Look
Yes, men find it sexy! In fact, after reaching a certain level in your relationship, your man will find it uncomfortable to kiss you when you have layers of lipstick. The no make-up and natural look is a turn on simply because of the fact that it is natural and not fabricated. Make-up may even act as a barrier at times instead of being a turn on.

Confidence
It hardly matters whether you have the perfect face or the fab body, till the time you are high on confidence. Yes, confidence is a big turn on for guys and they find it absolutely sexy when the woman they adore is confident about herself. So whether it is deciding what you want in life or which restaurant to go for dinner, showing some confidence will definitely perk up your man.

Passionate with Kids

Men find women who adore and pamper kids, absolutely sexy. This is because such women have a certain motherly instinct about them that reminds men of their own mothers. It makes them feel warm and cared for and can also melt their hearts in a matter of seconds. So, the next time you are pampering a kid and your man is rolling his eyes, you will know that inside, he loves what you do!

"Health Benefit of Sex..... "

Health Benefit of Sex.....

To all SEX Lovers......... Here are some of the benefits of SEX in our health..... So for those of you asking if Sex really necessary the answer is a BIG YES....

1. Reduce risk of heart disease - having sex 3 or more times a week we reduced the risk of heart attach by half.
2. Weight Loss, Overall Fitness - sex burns about 200 calories per session
3. Reduced Depression - sexually active couple were less subject to depression.
4. Pain Relief - orgasm releases endorphins which alleviate the pain of everything
5. Less frequent colds & flu - Having sex once or twice a week show 30% higher level of immunoglobulin.
6. Better Bladder Control - the muscle we use everytime we stem our flow of urine also worked during sex.
7. Better teeth - Seminal plasma contain zinc, calcium and other minerals shown to retard tooth decay.
8. A happier Prostate - Men in their 20s reduce 1/3 chance of having prostate cancer by ejaculating 5x/week.

This is for real....... you can check the site below for further reading.....

http://www.forbes.com/health/2005/10/05/cz_af_1005healthslide_2.html?thisSpeed=12000

"Making Love is a special thing that shared by two people bonded by LOVE"

All students & individuals who are capable in engaging sexual intercourse........ your attention please.....

Pre-marital sex is very common now-a-days.

Are you in favor of this set-up or not?

You may say it depends on the situation, but try to listen

Sex is a very wonderful thing a man and a woman can do.......

You can enjoy sex even outside marriage but let us think twice before engaging in sex specially STUDENTS

Your parents have dreams on us, let us not frustrate them.....
You are still young and we can do many things other than SEX
You need to stabilize ourselves before committing to somebody

Remember it feels good to have your own money rather than having someone providing it to you.

If you cannot control yourselves in engaging in pre-marital sex, be RESPONSIBLE

To the outcome of your decision
Learn to be a good parent to your coming child

Try to strive hard to prove to your parents that you are mature enough to handle this problem

Be strong enough to face all the comments that you might heard from others
and Remember that a baby is an angel give them a chance to live like you......

What ever your decision remember that it is only you who are responsible in the outcome of your life....

What Is Sex Appeal Made Of?

Instant attraction, the power of scent, slow-burn love and opposites attraction.

You may pretend you do not like punks anymore, but no matter how much you try to demonstrate during your life that your taste in men has changed, you should know that a woman's preference has been shown to be constant along her entire life.

So, what shapes in your eyes a man's sex appeal?

Sex appeal is to be found in four distinct major attraction types, the only way your choice varies during a woman's life: instant attraction; the power of scent; slow-burn love; and opposites attract. "There's no universal formula or magical formula. But we do connect on certain levels - physical, psychological - and there could be childhood factors, biological factors"

Instant attraction is linked to early experience and familiar backgrounds. " (...) the crushes we develop when we're first starting to have sexual feelings leave a long-lasting imprint. When you find yourself attracted to preppy guys with blue eyes or Johnny Depp because he was your crush, it really has to do with those early crushes",

This has also something to do with cultural and family background or ideals formed by the mass media that form an internal model. " ... we are hard-wired to like people from the same background as us, same educational level. When you're in the room, you go to the guy or the girl you feel is at your level."

But opposites are also attracted to one another, especially in what concerns the personality. "It's almost as if we're trying to balance out what we lack. So if we're introverted, we're drawn to that guy who's the life of the party."

The power of scent, referring in fact to pheromones. "They signal our reproductive potential. You may find yourself attracted to a guy. You have no clue why. It's because on some level, you like his smell, his scent, his pheromones."

The Slow-Burn Love is connected to a more adult age. "Slow-burn love is when all of a sudden you find yourself attracted - maybe after many years - to a guy who you were friends with. And it could be - it's not that you've changed so much in what you like, but it could be that he's become more your type. Maybe he just sort of grew up suddenly. When you sense that new thing, it really triggered some nice dopamine in your brain and you like what you see and you want to take it a step farther." These factors cannot be controlled by men or women.

Don’t be Afraid of being Sexually Attractive

Off late, I have been greatly criticized because of the way I define sexual confidence and the views I have expressed about sexual desire. This is because my views are in contrast to what the West thinks. As per me, I feel the West thinking of sexuality is still very primitive. It is dangerous too because it makes men and woman do things which they would never do by themselves. Many still keep their sexual desires very secret and make decisions based on a framework laid down thinking that sexual desires are something that can be subjected to such inflexible mechanism.

I have no issues with it, we live in an age where each individual is free to choose.

I keep writing about this parochial way of sexual confidence because I meet men and women across all the strata of society and each of them is grappling with the problem of expressing their sexual desire which is in absolute contradiction to the norms that the society expects all of us to adhere to. So the result is that none of the people are able to express their sexual existence in a healthy and productive manner – which it was truly meant to be.

All of us, men as well as women think of act when we hear the word “sexual”. We have all been conditioned to think like that. All we feel, when we hear anything sexual is that if we let ourselves enjoy what we feel we will be committing the greatest sin for which we will be punished in the most brutal and horrid way.

Another supposedly liberal version of being sexual is all let loose show. You allow yourself to freely express yourself, nothing limits you and you can do anything since you think it is supposed to be like that! This too is a childish way to express sexuality.
I reiterate what I said earlier, every individual in this world has his/her freedom of choice.

I will tell you what the fact is. There have been many books written on sexual confidence and lot of programs have been run to give you technicalities about sex. These are effective but in a very limited manner. They are fruitful for those who think that sexual power and realization of what you truly are not at all linked. For those who just want to calm those jumping hormones these books are fine, but for those who seek much more such books and programs can throw a spanner into their life.

Cultivating and sustaining sexual confidence is not at all complex. It has just been made complex by the world over a period of time.Sexual confidence has nothing to do with how big an organ you have or how well you are at belly dancing or how much your skin you show.

Sexual confidence is above all these physical aspects. Sexual confidence is knowing what you truly are and expressing your sexuality in your own unique style. Human sexuality is composed of a lot many factors like personal values, experiences, sensations, thoughts, emotions, what attracts you and how you desire to express yourself and how you view yourself to be. Sexual confidence is understand each of these factors and their relationship and express them in a way that makes you feel more fulfilled and bring peace and joy to you.

You may be smart and good at striking conversations, but if you want to focus your sexual desire in to your groin area it is not worth hit. Worse, having this kind of attitude is detrimental and it is the worst thing that you could do to you physical, emotional and mental well being.

And for god’s sake don’t tell me the moves – caress the ear, kiss the neck for 2 minutes, next run fingers on the back, move over to the thighs and then turn her on the back and get it done with. This kind of a mechanical and dry run makes me feel that sex is a math puzzle which we all humans are trying with the help of various permutations and combinations.

Sexual desire is perfectly normal. It is not a sin to have sexual desires. We have been created like this. Accept these facts. Every living being on this earth has sexual capabilities. It is nothing unnatural emotion that we are harboring. It is how our whole human kind has cultured into communities and societies. It is just as natural a process as eating, walking, talking etc. The sexual emotions and desires that you feel are an integral part of human existence. It is nothing but love trying to happen. To express such desire is the ultimate bliss, one that vanquishes all fear – the love of how we are linked to the nature.

The issue here is our fear. We fear that we will get transformed into someone we have not yet known. Being powerless is not what we are afraid of. On the contrary, it is the power that we are endowed with which pulls us back.

Just give a thought to what your life would transform to if you come to about how fulfilling and satisfying life is when you live in harmony with your sexual desires. What would the whole experience of living in harmony with your sexual power, wisdom and consciousness be? What would it be when you get all the focus you need without toiling for it?

Do not manipulate your emotions and instead just let them flow in their natural form. Just imagine if you get the gift of telling who is attracted towards you. How would it feel to view yourself in a different light when you are attracted to someone, just because there is a very great part of yours which you can dedicate to that person? Wouldn’t it be great if you master all the techniques inside and outside the bedroom? You will definitely lead a lot better life if you are able to express and share you sexual personality and are always filled with passion and vitality.

But just imagining it won’t help you. Act now to realize it. Show all the inhibitions you have had. You will soon start to realize life both in and out of your sexual desires."I'm very willing to share my desires."

Is there such a thing as a middle-aged woman?

Actually no. So the first thing that you have to do is take this idea out of your mind that you are somehow old or mature or middle-aged. A lot of experts actually think that the forties are the new thirties (Related article: Forties are the new thirties, particularly for women).

Fashion tips

Keep reviewing your style. A woman needs to have her very own style but at the same time this style has to evolve. While you may have looked very pretty in a certain outfit, that will not work for you now - your body has changed and the world has changed.
Take a look at your wardrobe. If you don't know where the Salvation Army office is in your town, just take your old clothes and throw them in the garbage.
Unless you live in some remote place, there is much more acceptance for women in their 40s and older to be able to dress any way that they want. This is something that was unheard of just 10 years ago. So if you have the body and the attitude, mini-skirts or low-cut dresses are perfect for you, like Ali Larter.
Stay up-to-date by reviewing many fashion websites and watching the television programs, particularly those that feature real makeover cases. (For example, Queer Eye for the Straight Girl, The Swan, Extreme Makeover, etc.)
Seek advice. If you can afford to, get an image consultant (many are available for online consultation). If not, watching programs like "What not to wear" will help you a lot. You can always seek advice and input from younger friends and family members.
Use the resources available. For example, if plastic surgery is going to help you get the body and looks you want, it might be worth it. If losing a few extra pounds will help you fit in certain types of clothes, take the challenge.
Don't be afraid to try. Take risk and you will notice the difference in your personality.

The Secrets of Being Irresistibly Sexy

If you are with a man who does not like you the way you are for whatever reason: he prefers blondes, big breasts, small breasts, French braids, big women, small women, blue women, or green men run to the nearest exit because there must be a mutual attraction. Don't think that you will change his mind, desire is natural. Don't become his sexual habit because he has gotten accustom to using you. Some women may not agree with this but: Yes, you do want your man to lust after you like the whore in the hot pants whom he swears he wasn't watching.
Except yourself for who you are - the way you are, then surround yourself with people who feel the same way as you do. For example, everyone doesn't like McDonald's hamburgers, right? But it doesn't make sense for the creator to worry about the people who will never eat Big Macs but, make sure that the people who like his hamburger can't get enough. No matter how much you enjoy your favorite food, you don't want it everyday. But the important factor is that your favorite food has become part of your staple diet and you can't imagine living your life without it. Become his favorite food.
The very first thing that you must do is express your unique personality. You need to completely understand that there is no other woman in the world like you. Therefore, you are an extraordinarily, unique, special individual. However, on the flip side, you are no different than any other woman, you have eyes, nose, buttocks, thighs, breasts, vagina, and legs. There will always be one that is bigger, better, smaller, larger, firmer and tighter than yours.
What makes a woman truly irresistible and desirable contains two components 70% her inner beauty and 30% how she presents her physical assets. Her inner beauty is the totality of her ability to exude her unseen attributes i.e. personality, opinions, talent, kindness, and mannerisms freely and authentically. Additionally, she must learn what her physical assets are and accentuate and display them with confidence.
1. Don't be afraid to be who you really are. Speak your mind, be open, honest and interesting. Don't speak negatively about other people it makes you look petty. Talk about ideas. Be yourself! Be yourself! (This is not a typo) Don't worry about whether or not other people like you.
2. What is your best physical asset? Is it your eyes, breasts, legs? You should know this information second to your name. Whatever your physical assets are play them up.
3. Buy clothes that compliment your soul and your body. If you walk in a store and see an outfit that looks like it was made with you in mind, or leaving it in the store feels like you left a part of yourself behind; this is a must buy. Learn which colors, brands and styles compliments you the most and stick with what works. What looks or smells good on another women won't necessarily have the same affect on you.
4. We all get a little lazy sometimes, but enough can not be said about personal hygiene. Pay attention to your finger and toe nails. Shave your legs and under your arms. Go that extra mile for yourself. Buy the vaginal washes that kills bacterial odor so that you will still smell fresh after a long day. Gels to whiten your teeth are not expensive, purchase them. A good rule of thumb to remember is: If he licked you from head to toe what would you taste and smell like. Take care of yourself accordingly.
5. Be unpredictable. Don't wear panties when he least expects it and wear long johns to bed just when he thought he could take you for granted. Men are socialized to be stimulated by the thrill of the hunt, to be challenged and competitive. Ask yourself: If I were a I man would I chase after me. What kind of prey are you? Easy. Mysterious. Complex. Humans value things that they believe are not easily obtained and priceless.
6. No matter how beautiful or attractive you are if you can't develop an emotional bond or attachment with your male. He must think about you when you are not around. There are several ways to do this, but the effectiveness depends solely on the type of man he is. Don't forget to understand the nature of the object you wish to possess. Here are a few suggestions:
Don't be a doormat. Be a little assertive, but fair. Men love women who are challenging, poised and assertive. Don't hold a grudge or brag, let by-gones be by-gones but stand your ground and move on.
Be a little needy. Ask him to fix your car, unplug the toilet, put your entertainment center together. Everyone wants to feel loved and needed- not used! Let him know that he is your macho man. This will only work if you are self-sufficient and independent. He will be complimented that you trust him enough to lean on him. Use this technique sparingly, it can be an extreme turn-off if used too often. Remember for a man: It's only sexy to be needed by someone who doesn't need him. The turn-on is the fact that you chose him.
7. Be his best friend, lover, girlfriend, wife and business consultant wrapped into one person. Listen to him when he talks about his day, friends, problems, concerns. Go have a drink with him at the bar and if a good-looking woman strolls in, you be the first to compliment her. Confidence is sexy.
8. Make love with the lights on no matter what size or shape your body is. When it's dark you can be substituted for any woman. Let him see your nipples rise to his touch, the goose pimples that cover your skin as he kisses your neck, and the expression on your face when he becomes a part of you. He can't see this at the restaurant or while you are watching television together. Let him see what he does to you as a woman.
9. Before you be irresistibly sexy to your male partner, you must first learn do your homework to learn his definition of sexy. Make it a game if you can but you must find the answer to these questions: What helps him relax; what makes him feel close to you; what stimulates his senses; what arouses him sexually; what gives him pride. Learn what stimulates his five senses, touching, smelling, hearing, seeing and tasting. He is a unique individual, all men do not enjoy the same activities. The more you learn about how to please him; the more special you will become to him. Do your homework.
10. Lighten up, have a sense of humor and learn how to create a naughty mood. Flirt with him. They say the basic male instinct is to hunt, and when the chase is over, the romance dissolves. Send him on a hunt and just when thinks he can't win, coyly, offer him your lips and body. Give him eye contact when talking to him. Seek to connect with his soul. This may include a warm bath or a slice of pie while he is watching his favorite sport on television. Learn how to balance his delicate need for tenderness, love and acceptance with challenge, excitement and adventure.

How to Have Sex Appeal
When you see someone that is very social and strangely seductive, maybe they are not that good looking, but they have something that makes you feel attracted and jealous of them. Yeah, that's sex appeal. Want some? Read on!

Steps
Care and love your looks. It is good to look nice, it can really make you feel better about yourself. Try to try something new, like a new haircut or new wardrobe. Do something new on your looks, but you have to feel beautiful and find yourself pretty.
Don't be afraid to approach people. Being shy won't help you anyway. If you want to meet new people, it's easy when you make the first move. Go up to them and have a talk, but be enthusiastic and real, and please, wipe off all your awkwardness and insecurities, and express yourself freely.
Have a sense of style. It is important to know what is hot and what's not but don't over do it. Remember, fashion is about wearing only what flatters you, since then you will feel comfortable and act more naturally.
Connect with people. Look at strangers and make eye contact with them and smile easily. Greet them. It will give you more confidence, besides, doing it is a way of connection that will make it easier to get to meet people.
Be sure of your qualities. Being confident in yourself, not only in your looks, but also in your own person, is always important. When you like yourself and you are sure that your qualities are cool, then you will be able to let them be noticed and don't hide them. Tell yourself that you're beautiful and think of why people should like you for you.
Always have a good sense of humour. Don't take things too seriously, try to smile easily and laugh more often. Even if you don't feel your best, try to think of positive things more often.

Tips
Confidence is the most important - it can give you the necessary presence, charm, charisma and sex appeal you want.
Meet new people for fun! Don't force yourself to appear sexy or something, just have a good time and don't hide your natural sex appeal.
Always keep a positive attitude and smile. Sexy people usually smile often.
Having a nice glow / tan always helps your sex appeal, it will also boost your confidence.
Bathe. Often.
Stand tall and be observant if you find someone that may have been glancing your direction, walk over and start a conversation. *The best line to use is "Hi my name is (state your name clearly and confidently) and how are you?"
Most importantly to top it off.....don't try to be someone you're not..Be yourself

How to Be Charming

Charm is the art of having an attractive personality. This characteristic can only be achieved over a period of time. While everyone is born with differing amounts of natural charm, much can be acquired and honed through practice and patience. As with dancing, the more you practice, the better you will become. Effort and careful attention to the needs and desires of others will ensure that charm becomes a permanent part of your character.


Steps
Improve your posture. Good posture will give the impression of self confidence (even if you don't feel that way on the inside). While walking, maintain a relaxed yet definitive upright posture: spine long, shoulders back, head level with the ground. This may feel awkward or overpowering to you when you first practice it, but keep trying.

Relax the muscles in your face to the point where you have a natural, pleasant expression permanently engraved there. Face the world and show everyone you're not afraid.
Make a connection. When your eyes come in contact with another person's, nod and smile subtly with a subdued joy shining forth. Don't worry about the other person's reaction and don't overdo it.
Remember people's names when you meet them for the first time. This takes an enormous amount of effort for most people. Repeat the person's name when stating your name to that person will help you to remember it better. For example: "Hi Jack, I'm Wendy." Follow through with small talk and repeat the person's name. Repeat it once more when you say goodbye. It's not just about helping you to remember that person. The more you say a person's name, the more that person will feel that you like them and the greater the chance they'll warm up to you.
Be interested in people. If you meet a new acquaintance, for example a coworker, a classmate, a friend of a friend, etc. find out about their immediate family and interests. Be sure to ask after the names of family members and remember them. Be careful in that subject though you don't want to be nosy. If you ask too much they will become uncomfortable. Also ask after their particular interests in life. These two topics will ensure much better small talk than just harping on about school or work. Most people don't like to think about those things at social occasions unless they have to. Even if it is about networking, you should understand fully the worth of taking a break from talking shop. It is important to refrain from talking up about yourself. Be purely interested and impressed by the person with whom you are speaking.
Orient topics toward the audience. This means taking into account topics that interest those around you, even if you are not so keen on them. If you are in a sporty crowd, talk about last night's game or the meteoric rise of a new team. If you are amongst a group of hobbyists, draw out their hobbies and make remarks related to fishing, knitting, mountain climbing, movies, etc. Nobody expects you to be an expert. It is your level of interest and willingness to engage in topics that makes you an interesting person to be around. Exercise an open mind. Let others do the explaining. If someone mistakenly thinks you know more about the topic, be genuine and simply say that your knowledge is limited but that you are hoping to learn more about it.
Praise others instead of gossiping. If you are talking with someone or you are talking in a group of people, and up pops the subject of another person in a positive or negative way, be the one to mention something you like about that person. Hearsay is the most powerful tool in gaining charm because it is always viewed as 100% sincere. It has the added benefit of creating trust in you. The idea will spread that you never have a bad word to say about anyone. Everyone will know that their reputation is safe with you.
Don't Lie. A lie is something you say for which there is some direct evidence somewhere out there that contradicts it. If you tell Mary that you like Jane and Billy that you don't like Jane, Mary and Billy will talk and your reputation will be ruined. No one will believe a word you say.
Issue compliments generously, especially to raise others' self esteem. Try to pick out something that you appreciate in any situation and verbally express that appreciation. If you like something or someone, find a creative way to say it and say it immediately. If you wait too long, it may be viewed as insincere and badly timed, especially if others have beaten you to it. If you notice that someone is putting a lot of effort into something, compliment it, even if you feel that there is room for improvement. If you notice that someone has changed something about themselves (haircut, manner of dress) notice it, and point out something you like about it. If you are asked directly, be charming and deflect the question with a very general compliment.
Be gracious in accepting compliments. Get out of the habit of assuming that the compliment is being given without genuine intent. Even when someone makes a compliment out of contempt, there is always a germ of jealous truth hiding in their own heart. Be effusive in accepting the compliment. Go beyond a mere "thank you" and enjoin this with "I'm glad you like it" or "It is so kind of you to have noticed." These are "compliments in return." Avoid backhanding a compliment. There is nothing worse to a person complimenting than to receive the response "Oh well I wish I was as ______ as you/that situation." That is tantamount to saying, "No, I am not what you are saying I am, and your judgment is wrong."
Control your tone of voice. The tone of your voice is crucial. Most people feel insecure somewhere inside and have an inability to accept praise. For this very reason, when you praise, do it subtly and glibly. When you say, "you look nice today" it should be in the exact same tone that you would use to say "it's a nice day." Any variation from your normal tone will arouse suspicion about your sincerity. Practice giving compliments into a recorder and play it back. Does it sound sincere? Practice until you get it right..