Beautiful women in the eyes of Indian men

In India, the fashions, the History, and the culture affirm man's fascination with narrow waist line of a woman. Men in all cultures world wide have lusted women for their hour glass shape involving the narrow waist.

I will limit discussion to the body, not the skin color, or facial features. My teen years were spent in Rajasthan. The hormones were at peak as I used to eye slender young women wearing Choli and Lehanga revealing their bellybutton, carrying water in an earthen pot on their heads.

Fashions
In India women wear a Choli to cover the top. Below the waist, they would wear a long skirt-like Lehanga, Ghagra, or a Petticoat. Saree is wrapped around the petticoat. Choli is a tight fitting short blouse that ends just below the bust. These combination outfits are designed to expose bellybutton and bare waistline for the pleasure of men. Original Choli were open in the back to reveal more skin.

History
The sculptures outside the Ancient temples, and the pictorials in Kamasutra depict woman with narrow waist, firm round breasts and slightly protruding hips. Old Hindu epics such as Mahabharata, and Ramayana mention the narrow waistline of some of the Goddesses to describe their beauty.

Culture
In the olden days, parents chose the brides with narrow waist for their sons. It was believed that narrow wasted brides will bear sons to carry family names. The larger hips will make it easier to fetus during pregnancy. Larger bust will hold plenty of milk to feed the infant. In a way they were right. Estrogen levels effect the size of hips and thighs. Larger hips have higher level of estrogen, and estrogen influences the fertility. Androgen effects the waistline. For the same waist size, a woman with larger hips is more fertile.

Parameterization of Hour glass shape
Beauty Ratio Calculator

The bust, waist, and hips form the so called hour-glass shape. These three characteristics form two ratios: Waist Hip Ratio (WHR), and Waist Bust ratio (WBR). The waist is measured around the narrowest section below the rib cage and just above the bellybutton. Hip circumference is measured around the largest protrusion of the buttocks. The bust circumference is measured around its largest protrusion.

In 1993, Professor Singh set WHR ratio as 0.70. This is a well accepted preference in United States. Other studies have set ideal WBR as 0.76. After analyzing sculptures in Khajuraho and other temples in South India, one may conclude that Indian men prefer slightly more protruding hips and bust. I would suggest the following parameterization:

American preference
WHR = 0.70, WBR = 0.76

Indian preference
WHR = 0.66, WBR = 0.72


Body Mass Index

The BMI reflects the fertility and health of the women. BMI less than 18.5 is underweight and not acceptable for health reasons. Elevated BMI can cause menstruation and fertility problems. In United States, the models are tall and skinny. Indian women are not tall. Indian beauties are neither skinny, nor fat. Indian beauties are slender. For American preference, I suggest optimum BMI of 19. For Indian woman, I would suggest an optimum BMI of 19.5.

"Majority Of Males Go For Cool Chics"

Traits of a cool chick part 1

A Cool chick doesn't get BORED because she knows how to use her own brain and have fun whether she is wealthy and has all kinds of creature comforts and gadgets or if she is broke and living in a place less than desirable. In fact a person that is lacking, it seems, would have more drive to DO something than someone who already HAS done and thus has. So please don't tell me that u r bored cause I may throw a book at u. lol......+..

A Cool chick realizes that there is something bigger than herself; not only GOD but also the people that are suffering in this world, the sick, starving, deprived, wrongfully incarcerated, and others in need.....
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A Cool chick is one that stays in shape who realizes her body is like a temple and must be cherished, have a lovely fragrance, and kept in shape for she never knows when service might be performed on her grounds.....
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A Cool chick knows when her partner/friend isn't feeling well or is sick and that even if he says he's ok and that she doesn't have to stay with him that is only cause he is being a hard ass like most men but really still want the love/caring of the chick to help encourage him to feel better.......+..

A Cool chick knows how to be respectful and think about what she says before she says it. She chooses her words with care and wisdom.....

A Cool chick is not quick to argue but would rather defuse than infuse anger and destruction.....
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A Cool chick does not tell u one thing and then do another; like say she's going to give u that awesome back rub or other thing perhaps more freaky and then doesn't follow through with it cause she's too tired or some other bs. Hahaha, if ya say ya gonna do it, then ladies, DO IT! Think of NIKE.
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A Cool chick doesn't say she loves u, that she could see being with you forever, and that the Lord above must have sent u 2 her, when really all she wants to do is F#ck. Come on, us real men can take the truth, if that's all u want, most won't look down on u 4 it. We don't have time for mixed up lil girls that have horni lil bodies which they can't control and thus say whatever they can to try and get what they want. I know lil boys play this game 2 but girls u should know better than to play this way. How would u feel if a dude did this to U!? "I love u baby oh so much" and then the next day he act as if those words didn't mean a damn thing?

Tips on How to Get Girls to Notice You

Reasons Why Girls Can't See You - 5 Tips on How to Get Girls to Notice You

You're not a ghost are you? But why do the girls seem to see right through you? If you've always been the guy women never seem to see or the only guy in the group everyone hardly remembers, it's time you try to get a little acknowledgment. Or get noticed at least.

You need poise, you need confidence, and you need to build rapport! You have to have that X-factor that makes you more noticeable. It's time you know how to get girls to notice you. Eliminate all the possible aspects of your personality that makes you a victim of being unnoticed. Here are give of the worst traits you wouldn't want to have and get rid of them one by one.

1. You're probably too shy. If you are too shy, you will definitely have a difficult time attracting girls. Girls are prone to not noticing guys who hardly make noise or are hardly heard so if you want to be on their radar, try to be more active and more confident. Walk with poise and make people know that you know how to handle yourself and you are fun to be with. Try to be less timid and joke around with people sometimes.

2. You lack a sense of humor. Your seriousness could probably be getting in the way of being noticed. Not a lot of guys have the perfect sense of humor and you could be one of them, but try to be lighter and happier than your usual self. Share jokes sometimes, learn to laugh at other people, as well as yourself, but if you want to keep an intriguing side of yourself, do so. Instead of always being the clown, be funny sometimes while on other days, be serious also. In short, keep a balanced personality.

3. You probably need to do something about your hair, or your attire. You appearance can say so much about you and if you want to be considered as someone who dresses well, then simply, dress properly. Be neat at all times, wear color coordinated clothes, and try to keep your hair and teeth clean. Women can notice you by your appearance alone, because first and foremost, attraction starts with one's physical appearance. Put a thought into your looks before setting out to meet people; however, don't be vain. Remember, moderation is key.

4. You don't converse with people. If it is hard for you to lose shyness, it'll actually be harder for you to simply converse with people; and talking with people is a big way for you to get noticed. You must know how to talk to people and how to befriend them. Remember, people who hardly make a sound are most likely easier to forget and if you don't want to fall under that unfortunate list of the forgotten, then start talking and start making friends.

5. You lack originality. A lot of guys lack the most important trait of all and that's simply by being themselves. They tend to pretend they're someone famous and some might even dress like a celebrity, but end up to be a big turn-off for women instead. Women hate imitators of a certain person and would most definitely want someone to act like himself instead. To impress women, you must act as yourself and not as anybody else.

It's time you get rid of these 5 distracting traits if you want to know how to get girls to notice you. If you want your presence to be appreciated, then try to befriend people while at the same time, acting like your own usual self. The key on how to get girls to notice you is simply confidence and acting yourself.

"Keep Your Guy Totally Turned On"

Catch Him & Keep Him


Once you’ve been dating the same guy for a while, it’s easy to relax … maybe more than you should. Noted psychiatrist Dr. Keith Ablow reveals seven sins of too-comfy couples and offers advice on how to keep sexual allure alive.

In the first blush of romance, no effort seems too great. Intoxicated by love or lust or both, you swipe your lips with delicious gloss or shell out a ton of money for a bottle fragrance no larger than your big toe. You forego any carb in sight and wax every inch of flesh until your body has less hair than an Olympic swimmer’s. You take extreme yoga just so you can wrap your legs around his neck. And it pays off. Sex is mind-blowing!

Then at some point you begin to feel … comfortable. Perhaps even too comfortable. Maybe it’s six months into the relationship when you’ve started spending every weekend at one another’s place or when you’ve actually gone ahead and moved in together.

You’ve decided to skip the contact lenses more and more often and just put on your funky glasses — they feel so much better. You gain 5 pounds and don’t sweat it — you’ll get back to the gym one of these days. As for him, he’s hitting the bathroom with the door wide open.

Temptingly easy to commit, such small insidious acts can lead to a big problem: an overdose of familiarity. These are the little, (or sometimes not so little) behaviors you can so easily drift into that together have the potential to kill off a relationship’s magnetism, mystery, and sex appeal.

“Keeping the spark alive is nearly impossible after a certain amount of time,” says psychiatrist Dr. Keith Ablow, host of his own nationally syndicated TV show. Dr. Ablow has counseled both individuals and couples for more than 20 years, witnessing first hand how familiarity can breed, if not contempt, then certainly a loss of excitement by partners who assume that intimacy must mean letting it all hang out. But why sacrifice the erotic side of your relationship if you don’t have to?

Here, Dr. Ablow shares his wisdom on how to avoid committing those too-comfortable crimes. “These things are not musts,” Dr. Ablow emphasizes. “You can blow them all off, commit each sin, and be loved anyhow. You just may not end up in bed as much.” Who wants that?

What smart girlfriends never do

1. Giving gifts his mom would buy. Ever notice how guys don’t take it on themselves to surprise you with your favorite deodorant? Yet many women seem to glory in presenting their lover with a three-pack of boxer shorts or a toothbrush. You may think it shows how close you are and that you’re thinking of him, but you also risk morphing from lover into mother. (Ewww!) Since everyone can shop for him- (or her) self, confine gift giving to objects that speak of romance or are at least unique to your man.

2. Flossing together. Do you really want to watch your dream lover picking the night’s meal from between his teeth? Worse, do you want him to see you do it? How about witnessing you wax the 5 o’clock shadow beneath the pert little nose he loves to kiss? Just close the bathroom door and maintain as much mystery as possible. Let him see you at your best. Don’t even think of doing anything on the toilet in his presence — a sin that men are far more likely to commit. (You should, by the way, nicely encourage him not to. The sins of intimacy work both ways.)

3. Drifting into a sex rut. It’s a classic scenario. You’ve discovered what works for each of you in bed, so you cut to the chase and do only that. “Do not believe that just because you’re sexual with your partner, you know exactly what that man wants in bed,” warns Dr. Ablow. “If it becomes obvious that you’re going to be in his life for some time, he may become nervous about telling you what really turns him on.” He doesn’t want to risk rejection. Often, men who cheat on their girlfriends end up having one kind of sex at home, and another, more adventurous kind of sex with their other women.

4. Baring all, all the time. In an old Seinfeld episode, Jerry grumbles that his new girlfriend spends too much time in the nude. That seems like a strange complaint for a guy to make, but think about it. Few of us truly want to see a naked person squat to pick a sock up off the floor … or, for that matter, experience a coughing fit, strain while opening a pickle jar, or fix a bicycle.
Overexposure may anesthetize your man to how provocative your nude form is. So make an effort to keep the vision of your unclothed body special. “I’d go as far as to say that nudity should be connected only to sex,” says Dr. Ablow.

5. Flaunting your flaws. Your well past formal dating. His razor is at your place. His dog sleeps over too. This is a critical time, according to Dr. Ablow, when couples are at risk of getting sick of each other. “We want to be accepted by our longtime lovers as completely as we are by our own families,” he explains. So you think, what difference does it make if I tell him about my dental problems? The guy loves me. Well, maybe he does. But would you talk about the horrible black cavity you need fixed on the first date? How much does your man need to know about it seven months in?

Of course, no one’s perfect, but there’s no positive side to sharing what you consider your body’s imperfections with your guy. Take the maddening whine of many women: “I’m fat!” Keep complaining that you’re trying to lose 10 pounds and he may think, Jeez, the woman has no willpower or Is it just going to get worse?

You’re focusing his attention on an imperfection he may not have noticed or didn’t consider a problem in the first place. Self-confidence is sexy. Either accept yourself confidently or diet quietly. Bottom line regarding flaws: Either fix ‘em or forget ‘em.

6. Dressing down, down, down. “Once you’re a couple, it’s easy to wander around the house wearing sweats and an old tee shirt, or some comfy stuff you picked up at the second hand store,” says Dr. Ablow. We want to believe we’re so well loved it doesn’t matter, he explains. The problem is you can be very well loved and yet not remain sexually attractive to your partner. “It ruins the allure, and makes the bedroom a less magical place.”

7. Spending every night together. The deadliest sin of all, Dr. Ablow believes, is crowding one another. Even if neither of you feels a pressing need to get away, too much togetherness is a surefire way to cool passion. “A woman may have to insist that her man take some individual time, because not all men know how,” says Dr. Ablow. “If he gloms onto you, every so often tell him ‘This weekend I’m unavailable.’”

Whether you keep your own apartments or have moved in together, reserve at least one night a week to go out with your friends. Taking separate vacations is another fun way to add an air of mystery, explains Dr. Ablow, ” because you don’t know the other person’s every move.” Hey, it’s also a great opportunity for phone sex.

"Attract Men, Be Different"

Be A Man Magnet

1. GET OUT OF THE HOUSE.

First things first...you can't attract a man if he can't
find you, so you've got to pry yourself away from those
"Friends" reruns and get out into the world. I know that
it can be scary and sometimes it seems much easier to
stay in your protected little bubble, but the reward you
stand to gain is definitely worth taking the risk. So put
your shoes on and let's go!

2. STEP OUT IN STYLE.

If you really want to attract men, you might need to
step up your style a notch... and NOT for the reason you
may think. I recommend wearing a colorful and flattering
outfit not just because you'll turn heads (though you
WILL), but because of the way it will make YOU feel.

Here's an illustration: When I get up at the crack of
dawn to walk my dog, I usually roll out of bed into a
sweat suit, throw my hair into a ponytail, and hide
behind my biggest, darkest sunglasses. I KNOW I look
like crap, so I pray that I don't run into any neighbors
who want to strike up a conversation or pet my dog. And
usually, no one even looks my way. When you put less
than your best effort into your appearance, not only will
you blend into the background, but you probably won't
feel up to meeting someone new anyway.

When you look your best, however, it changes your whole
demeanor. You know the phrase "take PRIDE in your
appearance?" Well, when you're proud of how you look,
your posture will straighten up, you'll feel more
confident, you'll be much more likely to make eye contact,
smile, and possibly even strike up a conversation with
someone new. That energy (fueled by self-esteem) will be
incredibly ATTRACTIVE to others.

3. WALK THE WALK.

Have you ever seen the way New Yorkers walk? They stride
very quickly, head down, eyes on the ground (or anywhere
that will prevent them from making eye contact of any
kind), and plow through anyone and anything in their way
to get to their destination as quickly and directly as
possible.

Now I don't mean to pick on New Yorkers. In fact, there's a REASON why most Manhattanites seem to walk the same way. With overwhelming crowds,
crime, people begging for money, and solicitors trying
to sell them something on every street corner, they
don't want to ATTRACT any attention.

However, if you're in a safe, well-lit area and are
familiar with your surroundings, I want to encourage you
to remember the words "Don't walk like a New Yorker."
Try walking this way instead: shoulders back, head up,
straight posture, moderate (not fast!) pace, arms
swinging slightly. You want your walk to say "I'm
confident" and "I'm open to possibilities."

If you're finding it difficult to cultivate a confident
walk, try this exercise. (It might sound a little goofy
but believe me, it works!):

Pick a song with an upbeat theme and a good, moderate
beat. This is going to be your theme song. (Can't think
of one? Here are 3 suggestions: "Put Your Records On" by
Corinne Bailey Rae, "Suddenly I See" by KT Tunstall, or
"The Sweet Escape" by Gwen Stefani.) Load the song on
your iPod or pop the CD in your walkman and take it with
you for a "practice walk." Walk to the beat (this is
subtle- you're not DANCING, you're just getting a good
pace to your steps), breathe, enjoy the lyrics, think
positive thoughts, and smile. You'll be amazed at how
walking to your theme song will give you a boost.

Now the next time you're out and about, I want you to
remember how you felt with your theme song. Hear the
song in your head and walk as if it's playing. Pay
attention to how your face feels. Are you scowling
without even meaning to? If so, soften the muscles in
your face and allow your mouth to curl up ever so
slightly into an almost-smile. Widen your eyes just a
bit so that you appear awake, interested in your
surroundings, and excited about the world around you.

Now notice how people who pass you begin to take notice
of you. It's subtle, but I guarantee that those who
aren't completely lost in their own little worlds will
acknowledge you in some way. Men might even smile back
or say hello! (If this doesn't happen right away, don't
be discouraged. Just practice this confident walk
wherever you go from now on, and you will soon notice a
difference.)

4. BE A BILLBOARD FOR HAPPINESS.

When you're excited about life, it shows... AND it rubs
off on others. People gravitate toward happy people
because they want the contentment that they have. So wipe
that scowl off your face, curb the cynicism, and radiate
the most positive energy you can muster. (If you're
finding this difficult to do, start the day by making a
gratitude list of 5 things you're thankful for - it can
be your health, your charmingly crooked smile, or even
your dog's unconditional love. This will definitely
change your outlook.)

Men are much more likely to approach a woman who is
smiling, laughing, and happily engaged with her
surroundings (rather than the frowning, hunched over
lady muttering complaints under her breath... who'd want
to spend time with HER?). Like the "Got Milk?" ad
campaign, try being a walking billboard for "Got Joy?"

5. BE CONSCIOUS OF BODY LANGUAGE.

I read a surprising statistic the other day: only 7% of
communication is verbal (that means 93% is nonverbal
body language).

In other words, your actions (very literally) speak
louder than your words.

If a man spots you across the room but you have your
arms folded across your chest, that sends the
subconscious signal "Stay away. I'm closed off."

Conversely, if your posture is good and your shoulders are
back, opening up your frame, it sends the message that
your heart is open to possibilities (even if he's not
consciously aware of it).

When you're engaged in conversation, leaning in toward
him conveys interest (that's when being in a loud, crowded
bar can work to your advantage! It gives you a legitimate
reason to lean in and speak in one another's ear, which
creates a connection).

If you're seated, crossing your legs and pointing them
toward him also sends the unspoken message that you're
interested. Very literally, it is the act of aligning
your body with his that signals, "we're in line with
one another."

"Awakening Facts For Women"

Real Information For Women

Lets get to the POINT, every female want a man to be real and respect her as a women,Right. But yet they don't respect themselves,why i say that.... good question because the first thing that a women look at, is a male looks, that's the first thing she look at, then she look at how he dress. But a man do have to dress nice, that shows he care about his appearance ,and he have to look presentable if you know what i mean.

A women want a man to love her and only her with unconditional love but yet they don't love themselves. Cause if they love theirselves, they won't keep allowing men to get their heart broken countless amount of times even though they know the guy ain't know good. Just for the tittle that i've got a man, Well that's most females, Tell me why the female most of the time fall for the man first knowing that his feeling are not as strong as the women and they wonder why they always having bad relationship, Real talk a man going to treat you on how you carry your self when he first meet you.

A man going to judge you on what you wearing, when he FIRST meet you, For example if you wearing little shorts with small top or whatever the cast might be, the man is going to think damn she must want me to see it ,why else will she be showing it off and women always wonder why men treat you like you a piece of meat, the first impression is everything. Same to men first impression is everything that mean be up to part. Many women wonder why men cheat that's the big question right, from MY POINT OF VIEW....

1)AFTER THE THRILL OF THE CHASE IS GONE they START TAKING FEMALES 4 GRANTED AND THINKING THEY AIN'T going NOWHERE,which LEADS 2 them GIVING HER LESS ATTENTION.

2)GIRLS WITH LITTLE CLOTHES ATTRACT A lot of men, CAUSE they JUST WANT TO GET YOU IN BED OR whatever the cast might be ,But my question is, why the female wear little clothes any ways she must want them too look..but from a men prospective, they DON'T WANT there girls DRESSING LIKE THAT CAUSE they DoN'T WANT OTHER men TO THINK OR LOOK AT HER LIKE THAT.

3)NEITHER the woman or the man having sex MORE THAN ONE PERSON IS NOT OKAY IN MY PERSONAL POINT OF VIEW & IN GOD's LAW, BUT yet SOCIETY SAYS IT COOL IF a man DO IT AND GIRLS ARE HOEING IF THEY DO that,THAT'S JUST HOW IT IS FOR SOME odd REASONS.

4)some men STOP TALKING too GIRL CAUSE they WON'T LET them BRING HER TO BED, that's because SHE WASN'T WORTH BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH, AND SEX WAS THE ONLY THING the man FELT SHE WAS GOOD FOR(DON'T JUDGE ME ) i'am just stating the facts, that's not how i treat a women but HEY thats how it happen most of the time.

5)MOST GIRLS DO CHEAT ON there man (TRUST ME I KNOW) never happen too me cause i know how to please a women mentally and physically if u know what i mean..but if you JUST PLAY THAT LIL FRIEND ROLE, SEE IF that END UP happen ,that the same with a man.....THE SHYT MIGHT NOT SOUND GOOD BUT ITS DA TRUTH AND THAT'S WAT U WANTED to hear, this real talk...

So don't judge a man on how he look and how he dress to a certain point u know what i mean , first see if he really wanna get to know you as a person not just cause of your body. Any man can talk to countless amount of females and don't have a care in the world but it take a real man to stay with one female and love her unconditional and step up too the plate. Everybody talking bout swag and money they the one's that got the least of both.

Don't get me wrong it's good to have swag its another word of being difference in my eye's and its good to have money but i weather have Love then money any day. CAUSE any body can get money but not everybody can find LOVE.. I'am not talking to every female when i say this but sum...

Most men are DOG'S it's true but there a few good men out there. A women dont need to seek and find a man. GOD will send that mate/soul mate of a man your way, and it's the women to take on the dutie ... that if she see it right in her eye's sometime they pass on the one thats really rite for them, with out struggle there no progression, some time you got to go threw sum hard times just to see the light.

LIVE, LEARN, GROW..................

12 Things A Woman Does That Men Find Irresistible

What exactly does a man find attractive… attractive enough to find a woman completely irresistible even deep into a long-term relationship?

And why are men so quick to dismiss a woman over just the smallest things?

I’ve had the privilege of dating some beautiful women and I’ve been in relationships with some pretty amazing women.

I’ve been in “circle” relationships (relationships with two or more bisexual woman) one on one relationships, open, closed and everything in between relationships.

Yeah, I was that guy… that idiot jerk.

I’m not saying this to “brag”, but no matter how beautiful a woman is, no matter how intelligent, no matter how fun, unless she understands how to be completely IRRESISTIBLE to a man, she will continue to have men pull away from her, close down and think about leaving her.

By the way, before I get to the 12 things, if you’re interested in learning the 5 addictive habits that most women get addicted to that ruin a perfectly good relationship, I wrote an awesome FREE report called “Relationship Rehab” that you can get in your inbox right now just by filling in your details right below and you’ll be redirected back to this page immediately:

1. Sense of Humor

There isn’t one guy I know of who doesn’t appreciate a girl who laughs at his stupid jokes simply out of a sensitive humorous bone.

When a woman laughs, it’s like there’s a beam of light that comes across a guy’s face… and if he hears loud laughter, say, from a woman from across the room for another man, it has the power to make him jealous… and want that laughter to be for him.

Humor is “childlike” energy and is like a BILLBOARD mounted to a woman’s forehead that says “Open Heart!” Men feel this on a gut level.

I’m not talking about faking a sense of humor, because you don’t want to throw red flags.

A person who laughs to gain some sort of approval and validation is easy to mark.

No.

A woman who is really sensitive to humor is a great find for a man.

2. Youthfulness

This goes along with #1 because it comes from a playful heart... and when I say youthfulness, I don’t mean age. I mean a state of being and living.

Youth is an energy and you can spot a person who’s had it “ruff from the world” and who’s become DEAD inside… and somebody who is youthful and fresh and has kept their sense of self separate from the negativity of other people’s opinions.

A child playing on the play ground hasn’t been corrupted by the world yet.

All she cares about is PLAYING… in the sand, swinging on the swings and having fun THIS moment.

She is fresh.

I’ve been amazed when I see 18 year old girls who feel 40, and then when I see 40 year old women who feel 18

3. Body Language

Body language is 55% of all communication (vocal tone 38%, language 7%).

Hips loose and tilted a bit forward, weight on the lower back, shoulders and upper back relaxed, chest present, chin up… (there’s more to this having more to do with “energy”, but I won’t get into that right now).

A smile will show a man you’re open to him on a gut level and no smile will show him you’re “untouchable” and a cold ruthless bitch… It just depends on who you want to attract.

Body language is just like a person’s “energetic pulse” to the outside world saying if they feel good about themselves or like a ship wreck.

Whether you love or hate her, Paris Hilton has awesome body language. Check her out.

4. Emotion

Insecure men will be repulsed by the emotions of a woman… and the confident man will be attracted.

Remember, this isn’t about faking… like tantrum, emotional outburst etc. etc.

But rather just allowing your “yin nature” to flow through you. I know it sounds weird, but go with me here.

Emotion is spontaneous.

And the unemotional man is attracted to its opposite, it’s POLAR opposite… to the emotional yin feminine by the force of magnetism.

5. Patience

It is RARE to find a woman who is patient.

\I’m serious, men are truly grateful for a woman who is patient because many women are simply ADD. I can’t tell you how annoying this is to most men. It’s the final nail in the coffin a lot of the times.

What I’m talking about is authentic, compassionate patience that comes from being relaxed.

Men ,the yang masculine (my weird way of telling between men and woman) is path or goal oriented… and when a man finally finds a woman who is can relax with his path, it’s “two thumbs up”.

This is the very first step to what I call “Manhandling”.

6. Self-Care And Beauty

Beauty, hair, skin, makeup, weight; the superficial things men adore.

These are the more OUTWARD expressions of yin energy.

A past girlfriend once told me “there is NO such thing as an ugly woman, only a lazy one.”

Now, where I think most women go wrong in this department is putting ALL of their weight on physical beauty.

When that “leg” is weak and maybe they don’t think they look that great today, their entire self image is destroyed.

And when they look particularly great one day, their entire self image is built around it.

This is not good because you become a ROLLERCOASTER.

Here’s what I believe is needed ===> Balance, balance, balance.

Put some weight onto the other leg of the INNER yin energy as well.

Beauty is only the most superficial, outward expression.

7. Intelligence

When I say the word intelligence, I don’t mean book intellect or street smarts.

I mean the ability to be CREATIVE in the moment.

I’m talking about a woman who is PRESENT and “here now”.

You can look into her eyes and tell that she is with you right now, not zoning off into space or thinking about something in her head. She responds to the moment… and this is an ability that everyone has.

You too are very intelligent. You just need to know how to access it…

8. Not Needing But Wanting

Guys can smell out a needy, clinging girl which usually causes them to run the other direction.

And they can also sense a girl who WANTS rather than needs.

Being needed will stroke a guy’s ego and make him feel good about himself, but there’s a great possibility he’ll eventually freak out and run.

Being wanted, on the other hand, will make him feel even better, but he won’t run… he’ll feel compelled (unless he’s a serious dumb ass).

A girl who has the self-confidence enough to want, to desire, and not be attached to those wants is pure gold.

Then adventure, playfulness and challenge come naturally.

There’s a fine line between being a slave to needing, or being free to want.

9. Nurturance

A man wants to be independent, but likes to feel that he is taken care of as well.

They say that “every man’s life is a journey to find the happiness he once felt inside the womb of his mommy.”

Nuturance is one of the most basic female instincts… and most guys DO want that little tiny bit of mommy in a girlfriend… but not too much or both you and him will probably get annoyed!

And just like #8, this is nurturance out of want not need… a very fine line indeed.

10. Sexually Adventurous

Sexual repression makes people very, very… VERY angry. Nuf’ said.

11. Love

A woman filled with love in her heart is one of the most beautiful things.

She is fearless and hatred falls away.

A woman who sees the world through loving eyes has no enemies… even if people dislike her.

Love is not weak, it is POWER.

Love comes out of relaxation and when that restless need for approval falls away.

You just need to know HOW to control love so that you don’t lose yourself to it completely.

12. Integrity

A woman who has real values and sticks up for herself is like a beacon of light.

Many of the gals I have consulted with are pushed and pulled by the wind at every moment.

They have very little security in life and they worry continuously. Is this you?

If you know how to control this insecurity, it can actually be a GOOD thing (weird I know).

But usually she has no stability to her at all and she lives life in what I call the “Soap Opera Matrix”.

Integrity is what creates some sanity. It’s one of the few things you come into the world with, and its one of the easiest things to take for granted and sell for sparkly looking toys.

Security is good, But if you build too many walls around yourself and try to become “all powerful” you lose your delicacy, your female beauty. I’ve seen this happen to quite a few women.

It’s a delicate balance.

Here’s a simple list I suggest you start with (and I follow myself):

a. Your health. Your mind, body and soul come first. Without you there is nothing else so you must be kept in good shape and happy.

b. Love. Love is one of the highest values. Love comes BEFORE pleasure although most people always reverse them. Ever ask yourself “Is it love or lust?” They can’t tell because pleasure has always come first.You must know how to bring LOVE to the front.

c. Freedom. Never be a slave to anybody, even if you feel like you want to. You are a free being, and most men want this in a woman.

d. Pleasure. Celebration comes naturally after all of these things are taken care of. Most people try to put pleasure as their number one. They will abuse their bodies to have it, weaken their integrity to have it and sell their soul to have it. Most people are not in pursuit of happiness, they are in pursuit of PLEASURE… but that pleasure is always accompanied by pain. There’s an endless rollercoaster of pleasure/pain when it becomes number one. However, pleasure comes naturally when it comes after some other more important things… like having the “know how” to sustain a long LASTING relationship (if you have my book than you know exactly what I’m talking about).

Don’t expect this stuff to come over night.

Does Size Matter?

Women Men Want - Does Size Matter?

"Honey, does my bum look big in this?" If there's any line that is a tribute to the evolution of the modern relationship, it would be this one. Behind the stale humor of this sentence lies a problem that has grown exponentially over time: does size matter to a guy?

Of course size does matter, but not in the way that you might think. Three of the most common "disadvantages" have it's pluses from a guy's point of view.

Short - Us guys don't see you as short, we see you as petite. No one talks about it, but it's a general rule that a guy is taller than a girl in a relationship. Heaps of guys dig short girls, just because it makes them feel more of a man. They feel like they can better protect their girl. Besides, being short hasn't stopped heaps of females from being bombshells in the bedroom. So don't feel down if you're not as tall as you'd want to be, a lot of us guys are looking for girls like you.

Fat - Us guys don't see you as fat, we see you as curvy. Your hips and other feminine features are accentuated and secretly, many guys dig a bit of meat on their girl. Girls are skinny, women are curvy.

Skinny - Us guys don't see you as skinny, we see you as slender. Having less fat on your body means that there's less between the man and the woman. Touches are more electric and similar to being petite, a light girl makes us guys want to protect you mor
Hopefully, you are now more confident in whatever shape that you were born. Ideal guys are looking for you, if you just flaunt what your momma gave you with not a care in the world, he will find you.

For a woman of any shape or size, there is a man who looking for her. That man could be someone you already know. For more tips to connect with your ideal man, click here.

Make Your Non-Committal Man Suddenly Need You‏

How To Make A Man Addicted To You

If you'd like to know the real reasons why so many men who never thought they'd want or need a committed relationship couldn't help themselves with the right woman...

And you'd like to make it easy for your man to know that being with you is much, much better thanever being apart, without convincing, arguing, orother unnecessary stress, then you need to read this:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/FCTC

What I'm going to share with you now could lead to the most important single decision you ever make in your love life.

Yes, even more important than saying "I do."

If you're open to it, what's in this email, and the other resources I include here for you to check out could literally "change your luck" for good.

Let's get started.

As a man, I hear and understand a lot of what you might call the "inside scoop" on what men think.

As a result, and after paying attention to this kind of stuff for the last several years... I've come to hear a few of the same things over and over from men and women about love, dating andrelationships.

One particularly fascinating aspect of this are the problems and complaints I keep hearing men share about relationships with women.

Now, why should this matter to you?

Well, because I'd assume that someday you'd like to have a real, loving, lasting relationship with you-know-who:

A real live man.
Which means...
You've got a decision to make.

You can either keep feeling frustrated that things haven't gone your way, and annoyed that men don't get it, or get you, and that they are all messed up.

In that case, go ahead become the forever single "cat lady" who has 8 cats that sleep in her big empty bed.

Or...

You can choose to find out what's really going on with men and how it's totally possible for you to have a healthy and loving relationship with a bona-fide man.

These men are out there.

And for what it's worth, with all my experience I believe a great man is INSPIRED to be the right man by the right woman.

Just as a great female character in a favorite movie of mine says-

"The wrong men can make women "messy."

So the question is... how do you become thatwoman who simply inspires her man to be the greatlover and partner you want?

Here's a good place to start to answer this question.

There's one thing I've found that amazes me most about why men become restless, withdrawn and leave great women and working relationships.

And this one thing is something that women often UNDERESTIMATE when it comes to what keeps a man feeling that intense passion and desire to be with a woman, and make their relationship keep growing.

For the quick direct answer on why men will beso burning with passion at the start of your relationship, and then seem to lose interest... you need to check out the secrets about men I share in my "From Casual To Committed" program.

Discover WHY a man will feel certain he wantsan exclusive and committed relationship with you one month, then doubt if he wants a future at all the next.
And more importantly...

Learn WHAT to do about it so that your man hasthat burning desire to stay close to you and keepyour relationship growing.

Go here now to get the answers you need on why a man makes the decision to commit for thelong term with a woman, and how to set your manand your relationship up for this kind of growth:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/FCTC

Or keep reading to get some free tips you canput to use now.
A GREAT RELATIONSHIP: LUCK OR SKILL?

I'd like to know what you believe about menand relationships.
There are really only two ways I see it.

You either believe that you're basically given a certain "luck" with men, and that you've eithergot it or you don't when it comes to true love?

Or...
You believe that it takes a certain set of "skills" to meet a great guy and make a realand lasting relationship work, and that, as an intellectually and emotionally intelligent woman, you can improve your own set of "skills."

Here's the thing...

If any part of you is still holding on to theidea that you have bad luck, and that you have been, and are destined to be unlucky, then I have to be honest.

All this really isn't for you, and I don't want you to waste your time or energy here.
You're not really ready to make a change in your life, because you still don't accept the simple fact that it is YOU and only you who holds the power to change things.

But if you believe that love and really amazingand exceptional relationships, like most other things in life, are created by the luck that happens when the right situation (man) intersectswith the right person who's ready... then keep reading.

You're going to get a lot out of this.

For most men, a lasting commitment isn't justa matter of choosing a woman and saying "Yes."
It takes a specific set of ongoing experiencesto get a man to keep opening up and to learn tolove and share more deeply as time goes on.

See... some women naturally understand whatthis "thing" is that I'm talking about and nevercome across some of the other common problems thatother women run into again and again with men andrelationships.

They have an actual SKILL that they useintuitively, which causes the men they're with toactually CHASE THEM and LEAD THEM into a committed and loving relationship.
Isn't that how it's "supposed" to be anyhow?

It is.

But as you may know all too well, it doesn'talways work this way for some women.
In fact, it only works this way with men if you know how to trigger specific emotions and responses inside a man.

And then keep those things going and alive in a long-term relationship.

Most women don't like to talk about it, andthey certainly don't like to admit it about
themselves... but there's a lot of women out there who just don't get how to do these things when it comes to men and relationships.

It's as though every woman is just supposedto know this stuff because she's female.
And while I believe that woman have many, manyamazing and natural gifts... not every woman in the world is born with the skill of knowing how toinspire a man in a long-term committedrelationship.

Not every woman naturally "gets" how to keep things passionate and growing with a man more than a few months or so until the guy predictably pulls away or becomes distant and starts doubting things.

It's at this moment that, for some women, the wheels come off completely... and they have no idea what to do about it to get things back on track.

And this is when women most often feel hurt, unappreciated and start doing and saying thingsthat come from a "lesser" place inside them andultimately pulls their relationship apart.
These things usually include:

-Saying negative and critical things about the flaws they see in the man
-Feeling sad and down about themselves
-Constant worrying, analyzing and feeling bad which gives them a heavy negative energy aroundthe man
-Becoming angry and blaming a man for not loving them or treating them the way they expect
- And a whole slew of what I call "Convincing Behaviors" that only push the man farther away and kill the love and attraction he was feeling

So let me ask you a very simple question...

Which situation sounds better to you-

A) Being a woman who "gets" certain things about aman that, in turn, gives you the ability to understand what a man is doing and why... and foryou to be the kind of woman in a relationship thatwill make a man KNOW, with his FEELINGS andEMOTIONS, that he wants to be close and connected with you, and only you.

Or...

B) Being a woman who just doesn't understand where a man is coming from and why everything has to beso difficult... and sensing that a man isn't"there with you"... and not having a man who"feels it" for you on an intense-passionate-gut-reaction-emotional-gotta-be-with-her-or-else kindof level.

Which situation sounds better to you?

And which has a higher potential for "success"when it comes to a real, loving, and lastingrelationship?

Obviously, the first one.

But which situation can you honestly identify with more?

Unfortunately, if you're like lots of womenI've talked to about men, dating and relationships, then you identify more with the second situation.

Well, guess what?

I've got GOOD NEWS for you...

There's a simple "skill" you can learn and become great at with men that often means the difference between you experiencing more of the first situation above, instead of the second,

Best of all, contrary to popular belief, this skill is NOT something you have to be born with or else.

The truth is, ANY WOMAN can learn these skillswho is opening to learning about men.
And any woman can quickly begin improving her dating life, or her relationship with that onespecial man with this one skill.

And how do I know this?

Because I've helped literally thousands ofwomen do exactly this - transform their love lifefrom a difficult and painful uphill struggle to anoften effortless journey filled with more love and fulfillment than they ever had before.

Regardless of where they were at to begin with.

So what is this one essential skill among the many relationship skills?

It's the skill of creating ATTRACTION insidea man, and making your man feel that intenseemotion of ATTRACTION when he's with you.

ATTRACTION, HOW IT WORKS FOR MEN, AND HOW TO CREATE IT AND KEEP IT GOING

What is attraction, and how does it work whenit comes to men?
Before you read further, I'd like you to take aminute and think about what the word ATTRACTIONmeans to you.

By the way, I'm talking about the FEELING of attraction here and what creates or destroys it.
See if you can WRITE DOWN exactly what youthink the word ATTRACTION means. (The process ofwriting down your thoughts helps you to organizethem, and I also recommend that you keep a journalof your experiences as you improve in each area ofyour life).

There are no right or wrong answers here, sothink about it for a few minutes...
And ACTUALLY WRITE YOUR THOUGHTS DOWN.
...
...
...
OK, did you do that? Good.
So what did you come up with?

A lot of women seem to think that ATTRACTION is when one person wants what another person has.

Some think of ATTRACTION as the result of beinggood-looking or otherwise "attractive". In fact, Ithink a LOT of people confuse ATTRACTION with"being attractive."

When I think of the concept of ATTRACTION, Ithink of it primarily as an EMOTION.
In other words, ATTRACTION IS A FEELING that weeither feel, or we don't.

And there's not much of anything at all in between when it comes to a man being at a placewhere he's ready to be open, loving and COMMITTEDwith a woman... long-term.

It seems to me that attraction is actually moreof a COMBINATION of powerful experiences andbeliefs that come together to form a very, veryspecial and all powerful SUPER-EMOTION.

However you think about it, there is a process that happens between men and women that keeps them connecting - to get together both physically and emotionally in relationships.
In fact, think about this...

You are reading this right now, which is a miracle.

Think of the thousands upon thousands ofgenerations of ancestors that you have had... andthink about the fact that EACH ONE WAS ABLE TOFIND A PARTNER TO MATE WITH.

And then think about the fact that you were thesole winner in a race of five hundred MILLION orso sperm trying to get to the egg and burrow inside.

You are the result of, and represent, probably the most amazing, delicate and rare process ever.

One of the parts of this process that fascinates me is how each pair of your ancestors decided to get together with THAT PARTICULARPERSON at THAT PARTICULAR TIME.

Your ancestors chose each other over other potential mates or partners for specific reasons,qualities and characteristics.

Most of which have been passed to you.

Now, I know that some women might be upset thatI'm talking about this whole concept in such ananalytical and detached way...

If you're one of those women, stop reading now!
lol...

The point here is that there is a LOT to learn from the underlying "biological processes" thathave ultimately resulted in you being here rightnow.

After working, studying and observing things in this area for several years, and listening and working with women, it finally dawned on me thatATTRACTION WAS BASICALLY EVERYTHING.

If a man feels ATTRACTION for a woman, on adeep emotional level BEYOND PHYSICAL ATTRACTION,then nothing else really matters.

Not looks, age, nationality, wealth, religion,etc.
Not peer pressure from friends and family.

Not even where a man is in his own life, which he often uses as an excuse - such as where his career is, his personal income, that he needs his freedom, he's too young, he needs to "have hisfun" before he settles down... all that stuff.

None of it matters!

On the other hand, if a man DOESN'T feelATTRACTION for a woman, then nothing else matters in that case either!

You can't "talk" a man into feeling ATTRACTIONany more than you can "talk" a person who has justeaten a huge meal into feeling hungry.

If you want to learn more about this RIGHT NOW and "fast-forward" your skills and your understanding of men in dating situations and relationships - then go here right now and readall my very best tips and secrets for creating that intense lasting attraction with a man here:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/NALA

Unfortunately, some women try all the things they can think of that would work FOR THEM,
andtry and make a man feel a certain way about them inside.

Think back to the "Convincing Behaviors" I listed earlier.

A few examples of Convincing Behaviors are:

-Calling a man when he's not calling you aftera great date and showing your frustration with him (it's an indirect emotional ploy that a manwon't positively respond to)

-Becoming upset or demanding that a man doesn't want more from your relationship because it's beenhowever many weeks or months

-Becoming intimate and sexual with a man early on and telling, rather than asking him, that this "means" that you're exclusive

All of these things are about as likely to work as a creepy guy buying bottled "pheromones" to try and pick up women.

Now, what is it that all of the things aboveare missing?
I'll tell you.

One, they don't show any thinking through of how the man is going to feel when a woman does these things.

And two, they not only won't make a man feel attraction... they'll literally kill any kind of attraction a man WAS feeling before.

In short, here's where I'm going with this-

If you don't know how to create attractionwith a man, and you keep doing things that aredriven simply out of YOUR own feelings, emotions,fears, desires, etc... you're not likely to getvery far with a man.

But...

If you can step outside yourself for long enough to understand a few of the things that are going to make him feel great, guess what?

Not only will you ATTRACT a man...
You'll also start getting all kinds of amazingthings back in return.
More affection.
More praise.
More intimacy.
More passion.
More more more!
Let me ask you... Do you know why men don't ALWAYS go for and marry the "best woman"? ("Best" meaning the woman who'sthe most generous, loving, patient, thoughtful, educated, successful, etc.)

It's the same reason why women don't go forthe "nicest" guy.

The reason men don't go for or stay with the better woman is that men aren't making theirchoices "logically."
They make their choices because of the way they are FEELING.
A woman can be honest, stable, attractive, and wonderful.

But a man won't want really want and need her unless she makes him FEEL the magical feelingsof ATTRACTION inside.

Think of ATTRACTION like a drug (which itreally is). If a man is under the influence of it,then he's gone. He'll do anything to get more.

If he's NOT under the influence, then YOU'REgone. Nothing you do will matter if he doesn't feel it.

If you doubt what I'm saying, ask the next 10SUPER-HOT men you see what they think of this.Read this newsletter to them, and watch theirreactions. You'll see.

OK, now that you've heard a little bit more ofmy personal perspective, I'd like you to look backinto your life and think about all thosesituations with men that made no sense at all...

Think about the men that you treatedwonderfully that passed you up and went on to the"bitchy" woman... and think about all the male"friends" you've had... the ones who told you theywanted a "nice girl"... but kept dating the samekind of neurotic "bad girl" who didn't have herlife together AT ALL.

Is it all making sense now?

They didn't keep feeling that INTENSE ATTRACTION for you that they might have had ataste of when you first met.

And as time went on and your relationship started to seem less certain, you were not onlydoing less of the things that connected you andyour man on the physical and emotional attraction level...

You were also actually doing the things thatkilled these attraction feelings altogether.
The things you were trying to do to keep yourrelationship together were having the EXACT OPPOSITE EFFECT of what you wanted.

It's harsh to think about, but it's true.

If you don't do something to learn how tomake men feel ATTRACTION, and not just physicalattraction which won't last, then most likely,this is going to keep happening for you.

I have to point out one more thing. As Imentioned earlier, I think a lot of women confusethe idea of being "attractive" with the emotion called ATTRACTION.

You can make a man feel an INCREDIBLEATTRACTION, even though you're not what mostpeople would think of as "attractive".

But, of course, you have to know HOW.

The point is, that if you're not perfectlythin, "done-up" and "flawless" (and... who is!?),you can LEARN how to make men feel this wonderfulemotion called ATTRACTION.
It's a skill.

It's taken me YEARS to be able to even talk about this stuff in simple terms like this to make sense, and it's taken me the same time to figure out how a REAL woman, without giving herself away and wasting way too much of her time and energy, can make a man who hasn't seemed "ready" or "emotionally available", feel ATTRACTION in a way that will lead to a deep and lasting connection.

How, you ask, can this happen?

Well, you've read about avoiding the common and destructive behavior of trying to CONVINCE a manto feel any of these things "logically."

That's a part of it.
That's a small part of what NOT to do.

But there are several other pieces of the puzzle, from voice tone and body language, tosecrets of powerful and "opening" communication,to specific ways to respond and "challenge" a manto get him physically and emotionally engaged, and everything in between.

It's a system, and it all works together.

There are two KEY aspects of learning how to besuccessful with men, dating and relationships:

1) The "Inner Stuff"
2) The "Outer Stuff"

The "Inner Stuff" is all about learning how toTHINK and how to manage your thoughts, intentions,emotions and energy.

It's also about understanding how and whyattractive men feel that amazing emotion calledATTRACTION for some women, and not others.

The "Outer Stuff" is all of the how-to's: whatto say, when, how and why.

Which is more important?

Well, they're BOTH important.

But what I notice is that most women just wantthis whole "problem" of finding a great man andarriving in a close, secure, loving, lasting relationship, to go away.

They want to "arrive" into an unflinching lovewhere each person truly understands the other on a deep, deep level.

But the strange part is that they want to learn the "Outer Stuff" first because they believe that it's just a matter of saying the right things sothat there's love and understanding.

In other words, they want the female versionsof "pick-up" lines.

Except, the end goal isn't sex - like it oftenis for men with pick-up lines.

It's often wanting more of a deep, loving,lasting commitment built over-night.

Which leads us to the "Inner Stuff."
The REASON that the "Inner Stuff" is soimportant, is that attractive men don't judge youon what you can say about true love and how muchyou really want it in your life.

And just because a man talks to you, gets your phone number or email address, or takes you out on a date DOES NOT mean that he FEELS anything deep inside.

And even if you're in a relationship with a man, it doesn't mean he's feeling that "forever"feeling.

And here's where I draw an IMPORTANTdistinction for you.
There are 2 types of ATTRACTION a man can feel.

And for a man to become "serious" about awoman, he HAS to feel BOTH.
Men don't DECIDE to feel ATTRACTION for awoman.

ATTRACTION is something that happens on its own, for its own reasons.
Sure, it's relatively easy, in the grand scheme of things, for a man to feel "PHYSICAL ATTRACTION."

But having a man feel what I call "EMOTIONALATTRACTION" is a whole different story.
Earlier I mentioned that there's a reason why a man will commit himself emotionally to one woman, and not another?

This "other" kind of attraction is a BIG partof what's going on here.

The way to cause a man to feel ATTRACTION foryou is to UNDERSTAND how and why it works, andthen communicate in a way that makes it happenin a way that actually triggers the FEELING ofATTRACTION inside of a man on a deep emotional level.

In my ebook, I spend several full sectionsteaching the "Inner Stuff"... all those things that help you get the INSIDE together, so you will naturally pull the OUTSIDE (behavior and directcommunication) together.

Of course, I also pack in tons of specificsabout the "Outer Stuff" that men respond best toand that REALLY WORKS.

This stuff is CRITICAL to the quality of yourfuture love life and relationships.
I wouldn't have taken all the time, effort, andenergy to put this together unless I thought itwas important.

If you want to overcome your challenges andreally take your love life to the next level, thenyou owe it to yourself to check this out.

Go here now:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/CatchHim&KeepHimeBook