"Take Time In Seeking Mr. Rigth"

Is HE the ONE?
THE RIGHT ONE
First we must allow our Heavenly Father to do the picking. And second, the decision for a mate must be made on a spiritual and intellectual basis before it's made on an emotional one.

"What about love? Shouldn't that be the third? you ask. No, and I'll tell you why. "The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? (Jeremiah 17:9).

The heart is willful and is driven by its own agenda. It does not consider things rationally and intelligently it just loves to love! Therefore you have to point it in the right direction: "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life" (Proverbs 4:23).

Whenever you meet a man, you need to get clearance from God, check out his attributes, and then allow your heart to engage.

Dating exists not for mating ; it exists for collecting data. I believe that the biblical design would be friendship, courtship and then marriage.

Friendship is two people walking together in agreement and accountability, learning and growing together.


Courtship follows the mutual agreement to commit to one another exclusively - it is the decisive turning toward the agreed-upon goal of the marriage altar. It is a period of laying a foundation and preparing your life together after marriage.

But dating? Well, if you do date, use the time wisely to gather these facts.

1. Check out the fabric. Is the person mate material? Does this man have an intimate relationship with the Father through Jesus Christ? Does he care what God thinks about his behavior? Is he accountable to God as well as another co-laborer in the faith? Accountability is an important factor. It is imperative to maintaining a committed relationship. Is your potential spouse a member of the same family - the family of God?

You need to have common interests and values and agree on the essentials of living day to day. You have a similar spiritual walk. You eat the same spiritual diet. You enjoy a lot of similar things. You have like interests, like goals in life, like opinions on basic life issues.

You have had like experiences in your background. Though there is some truth to the idiom that opposites attract, like-minded folks fare better together.

Furthermore, does he want to get married? If you want to be married and your dreamboat isn't interested, don't waste your time.

Remember, women fall in love and get married. Men decide to get married and then look for a wife. Note the difference in order. So if a guy says he's not looking for anything serious, take his words seriously. If he's not going in your direction, get off the bus and wait for the right one.

2. Does this man want you? Is he pursuing you? The man who is right for you will pursue you, and God's hand in the relationship will be clear. No guessing, no fleeces, no dead ends.

Scripture says: "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord" (Proverbs 18:22).

Note -who finds whom? THE MAN FINDS THE WIFE. From the beginning of time, God has transported men and women across the world in order to put them together.

At the RIGHT TIME, He will bring that man on the scene and he will find you. In God's perfect design, the man is the one who recognizes his mate. Adam has no problem recognizing that Eve was his missing rib. You do not need to strategically place yourself anywhere. You don't have to help a guy out because he's shy!

Men will do whatever they have to do to get what they truly want. The man in your life should recognize you as the pearl of great price in his life and be willing to do whatever he must in order to gain your hand. If he is passive about gaining your affections, take it as a sign that he is not interested.

Many a woman's mother has suggested that it is a good idea to marry a man who loves you more than you love him. As cold as that sounds, it actually might be scriptural if you stop to think about it: "We love him because he first loved us" (1 John 4:19). Until then, take the ultimate chill pill. You don't need a bunch of men in your life to make you feel all right about yourself.

You need only one man - your man, the one God has selected to select you. And trust me, the right man at the wrong time can be just as awful as the wrong man at any time. So trust God's timing in this. He is the ultimate matchmaker. Relax, sit pretty and allow yourself to be found. Again - WAIT until the man voices his intentions. He should take the lead in establishing the relationship. You may have an inkling that he is the one, but God will use the man to set the tone of the relationship. Allow him the opportunity to woo you - this is your first act of submission. Jesus set the standard for all men to follow. They should love us first. And they should lead the relationship.

3. The man in your life should not desire to move into your house, only into your heart. A man who prepares for your future has made his intentions clear. A man who is husband material has the means to take care of a wife. He is a responsible human being who understands he needs to have something to offer. In short, a man should have the means to be a suitable lover for you.

4. Check out his buddies. Everyone knows birds of the same feather flock together, yet most women fail to see the connection between a man and his friends. A man's pals tell you a lot about the person that you haven't seen yet. They reveal things about the guy's character that might be hidden when he is on good behavior. Everyone knows how to put his best foot forward. Don't stay focused on the foot, check out the rest of the body!

5. Check out his relationship with his mother. How does he treat her? This is your preview of how he will treat you. There are lots of men who, because of a negative relationship with their mothers, really don't like women, yet say they do. Unresolved issues between mother and son continue between husband and wife.

6. Remember that a man's family reveals the cloth from which he's cut. Take note and decide whether you want your future with the man in your life to look like
his present family situation.

7. Check out the patterns of his life. Do you see repeated cycles of drama in his personal kingdom? Broken relationships? Problems in making commitments --including the job market? Mood swings? Is a problem always someone else's fault? Does he embrace responsibility or shirk it? Does he keep his promises? Is he a man of good reputation? Remember all garments look wonderful hanging in the store, but with wear, some begin to unravel. Give yourself time and space to check out the man in your life. Time will always reveal whether or not he is made of the right stuff.

8. Does this man have a vision for his life? Is he running with that vision? Remember, God decided Adam needed help once Adam got busy DOING his assignment. As we saw Adam, a man doesn't need help until he is busy doing what he was created and called to do. Is the man in your life guided by sense of destiny and purpose, or does he just allow life to happen around him? A man who is not certain of his mission can be a most miserable person - and you'll be miserable too if you know where YOU want to go in life.

A man who has vision is not intimidated by a woman whose mission statement is clear. He will be your best ally, cheerleader and assistant because he wants you both to make it! A man who cannot be supportive of your achievements because he is floundering in a sea of uncertainty over his own life is not a healthy partner to have and to hold forever.

Creating dependencies or feelings of obligation is not the way to get the best out of your man. Somewhere along the way, he will resent you and flee from the smothering burden of obligation he associates you with. You want a man who is firmly anchored in his identity in Christ. Remember, we are looking for a man who will be priest and leader of his home. His first instinct should be to want to cover you, redeem you, and provide for you. Your job is to decide if this is the man God has ordained for you to complement.

9. Complimentary. Do your talents and gifts complement his? Do his gifts, compliment yours? What about your temperaments? Do you see the two of you as an effective team capable of bringing blessing to the lives of those around you? Do your futures mesh? Can you coordinate your gifts in an attractive and effective way?

This is why knowing your purpose is so important. Make sure your hearts beat for mutual causes. When I go shopping I always consider the fabric, the fit and what I already have in my closet. Will my next purchase be a complimentary addition to what I already have? If I find that I am going to have to buy shoes and matching accessories to go with a new outfit, I leave it right on the rack. It is too expensive a proposition.. If the man you meet makes you feel that you need to completely reinvent yourself, something is wrong.

This is where I ask you to consider the relationship in terms of cost. Is this relationship expensive spiritually, emotional or physically? Does your longing for a mate make you willing to forfeit who you are in the process? Or does he see you as the gift that you are? The man in your life should consider you a rare find, a priceless jewel-because of you he is getting ready to get blessed big-time! Any relationship that causes you to feel unworthy, unlovely, unacceptable, undesirable or that you have to work for love, is too expensive!

God has called the man to cover, protect and provide not only materially for a woman, but emotionally and spiritually as well. You should be richer in mind, body and spirit for your union with the man of your dreams. The man in your life should make rich deposits into your heart and spirit, not withdrawals.

10. Does he have a healthy love and acceptance of himself? Make sure the man in your life has taken time to heal from past relationships and has made peace with himself. How he cares for himself is how he will care for you.

A man's relationship with God is crucial here.. His love for himself will only be as strong as his love for God. This is not something that you can impart. You cannot be his savior or teacher. That is out of spiritual order. In his rightful place as your personal priest, he should be leading you to a richer relationship with Christ.

If he is causing you to compromise your faith and destabilize your walk, if he is leading you into sexual sin or causing you to be distracted from your commitment to God, the relationship is too expensive. Offending the Lover of your soul, who promises you eternal love, is too high a fare to pay for a ride that has a limited run. If you and your man can't soar in the Spirit, when the force of your love for another is tested by the pull or gravity of the world, your union will not be able to survive.

So you decide. How much is your life worth? How much is your love worth? You will be able to accept only what you believe you deserve. God himself calculated the worth of your love and decided it was worth His life. He now pledges you His love for eternity. Yes, Jesus sets the example for all others to follow when He paid a ransom for His bride. Should you expect less from a mortal man? Throughout the Biblical age, men were willing to pay the cost for what they truly desired. The truth of the matter is, everyone knows that anything worth having, costs and no one gets a ride in this life for free.

"MEN IN WOMEN'S LIVES"

If a man wants you....

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant.. to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy...
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve
then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better."
You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women...
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything... He will use it against you later...(..Amen)..

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are.........even if he has
more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord!? If he cheated with you, he'll cheat.on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending.....
compromise.. is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships.........there is nothing cute about..
baggage..... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you.....a relationship consists
of two WHOLE individuals.........look for someone complimentary.......not supplementary.
Dating is fun.........even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right...

Make him miss you sometimes.........when a man always know where you are,
and you're always readily available to him-he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar.. but get to know others.

Share this with other ladies.... You'll make someone SMILE, another
RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate..
them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

"True Relationships"

Relationships from God Never Fail

By Jerry (Guardian Angel)

If a person claims to be saved and yet allow evil grudges to rule through spiteful acts then they are rejecting the leading of the Holy Spirit.

A Believer is to never to act out of spite. Root out grudges and plant a healthy crop of obedience to the Lord. If a person refuses to practice this, then they do not walk with God.

Unfortunately, this is frequent in relationships and marriages between men and women, they bring suffering to eachother through spiteful acts and selfishness, which is why in these cases do the relationships become not of God, and hearts are wounded. The Bible says-----"We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves" (Romans 15:1), and this should most definitely apply to male/female relationships. The following verse should also be engraved into the heart as well-----"Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong" (1 Corinthians 12:10). And where does such strength come from? It comes from LOVE. When a man and a woman commit themselves to become ONE flesh, which begins with the love they claim for the other, then let that love never fail. The Bible clearly says-----"4 Charity (Love) suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, 5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; 6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; 7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things" (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). However, going by the divorce rate and how many relationships end so bitterly among Christians, it doesn't seem that 1 Corinthians 13 is within the hearts of these people very much, and I think its an utter tragedy, and it definitely does not line up with God. There are of course those who will twist scripture, out of pure pride and hypocrisy, to justify their corrupt actions within a relationship, but that means they do not stand in true love, and are very deceived people, only concerned with pleasing their own flesh! Remember Romans 12:9 which says-----"Let love be without hypocrisy." Woe to them who twist Gods greatest gift for selfish reasons!

The deception that plagues so many relationships (including those who are supposed to be Christian ones) is that they are in LUST and not in LOVE! They may seek to justify their actions all they wish, even twist scripture to seemingly make it righteous, but it is NOT righteous! The Bible says-----"The heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked!" (Jeremiah 17:9). And what is it that deceives the heart then? It is the FLESH because the human heart IS of the flesh! God is a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth (John 4:24), and to worship God, also means to live as He requires us all to live, which means also how we treat eachother! All we do, if we claim to be Children of God, should be done through Gods will, not our own will. The human heart will afflict a human heart, but the heart of GOD will heal the human heart and restore it back to life! The reason so many relationships die, is because the human hearts that inspired them were already dead. This is because they are guided by the FLESH and not the SPIRIT. True love is of the Spirit, and true love never fails, so why then do relationships fail if they are supposed to be of Love? Because they are NOT of love, but are from LUST of the human heart! Galatians 5:16-17 says-----"16....Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. 17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would." But if a man and a woman walk together in Spirit, they will not fulfill the lust of the flesh, and God will truly be the light of who they are as ONE in God. This cannot be however, if people are led by the flesh, and walking NOT in love, but in LUST. You will only truly come to know eachother if you LOVE one another, not LUST one another! Please, if you truly want to save your relationships, then together stand in LOVE. Love will never fail you, but lust WILL fail you! Lust dies because it comes from the flesh, which DIES. Love never dies because God is eternal, and true Love is also eternal because GOD IS LOVE!

True love also sees beyond ones failures, it does not become discouraged then walks away. This is why so many have broken hearts, because they once believed that those who walked away loved them. Love never abandons but remains at ones side as a comforter, is it a refuge and a deliverer, and it will never cause one to become wounded. This is what is lost when a couple become broken, because Love is like a refiners fire, one in the other. Where patience becomes nonexistent does the flesh rule, because love is patient. Would a surgeon save so many lives if he was impatient? Therefore, how then is a relationship saved if there is no patience? Patience also doesn't distance itself but it bonds stronger, because when two become bonded they overcome as ONE. This is what love is! Love is also repentance, and a loving heart is a repentant heart, and this is known through the Spirit. If a person has a repentant heart they will overcome pride and confess they are wrong, just as I confess tenfold that I have been wrong, and my heart knows it was hardened, but I also wish for God to restore me! I wish for God to restore me, because I want LOVE to rule me, not my flesh!

I pray that ALL come to know this, and apply it to themselves, because ALL deserve to have ALL that God wishes to give. Your flesh rejects the gifts of God, but the Spirit will receive Gods gifts. Receive and your bond between You and your significant other will never end, but always see new beginnings. This is what love is, and love is God. True love comes from Gods perfect will, not flawed human choices! The unfortunate reality though, is that flawed human choices come from the FLESH and the union of a man and a woman needs to be much more then the physical.

When God brought Eve to Adam in the first marriage, she was made from his "flesh and bone" (Genesis 2:31), and they became "one flesh" (Genesis 2:23-24). That is a concept that is lost in our modern society. Becoming one flesh means more than just a physical union. It means a meeting of the mind and soul to form one unit. This relationship goes far beyond sensual or emotional attraction and enters into the realm of the spiritual "oneness" that can only be found as both partners surrender to God and to each other. This is a relationship that is not made up of "me" or "my" but of "us" and "our." This is one of the secrets to having a positive relationship which then becomes a long-lasting marriage. Making a marriage last until death parts one from the other is something that both partners have to make a priority. Solidifying one's vertical relationship with God goes a very long way to insuring that the horizontal relationship between a man and a female is a lasting one and one that also glorifies the LORD. But sadly, couples pair themselves up with more of the "self" in mind, rather then having God in their hearts. The true key to being evenly yoked as a couple is by placing GOD before yourselves! If God is first, all that comes second will never forsake you nor fail you, and will last forever because He who came first is forever. If God is first in your life, then your life is a real life. If God is not first in your life, then you never truly lived. This goes for those who are single, as well for those who are coupled. Keep the truth in your lives, and that very truth will set you free!

Amen.

" I Love The Way You Look At Me , It Makes Me Weak"

How to Attract and Seduce Single Sexy Women With Your Eyes

They say the eyes are the mirror to the soul. And you can use the power of your eyes to influence single women to be attracted to you. You can even literally seduce single women with your eyes. Follow these guidelines to use your eyes to capture the hearts of single sexy women for love, sex, and romance: Use your eyes to attract single women.

Gaze into her eyes as you smile at her. It will make your message much more personal.

When you see single women who look interesting, turn toward them and let your gaze linger a little longer. A suggestion of a wink while you're smiling gives an unmistakable come-hither look.

In conversation, look into the eyes of the woman you're talking with. Direct eye contact says, "I'm listening. I want to hear more." To show agreement and interest, occasionally raise and lower your eyebrows.

When she's talking, listen with your eyes as well as your ears. If you look away, you may signify, "I'm bored" or "I don't agree." The result will usually be a short and unfulfilling conversation.

However, to look away while speaking is natural. It's a sign that the topic is being shifted or that thoughts are being collected. A pause while glancing away usually means an uncompleted thought, signaling, "I haven't finished. Don't interrupt."

Are Your Eyes Right With Single Women? Be cautious lest your eye gestures be misunderstood. Avoiding eye contact can make both parties feel uncomfortable. If you avert your eyes out of shyness, you may be interpreted as saying, "I'm dishonest" or "I'm ashamed" or "I'm not interested in you." Too much eye contact is as bad as too little. It's impolite to stare.

As a cultural rule, a man should not look steadily at a woman for longer than a few seconds - unless she gives him license with a smile, a backward glance, or a direct meeting of eyes. When a man gazes without smiling, women may think, "He's looking right through me." If you narrow your eyes in a frown, you may inadvertently be saying, "I'm suspicious."

If you roll your eyes upward, she could think you're yawning, "Ho hum!" If you glare at a woman under arched eyebrows, most women will hear you growl: "I'm angry." Work Up To It It can be difficult to gaze into a woman's eyes for some men.

To get used to making eye contact, focus your gaze a little below or between her eyes. For a few seconds look into the pupils, and smile. To ease the tension, look into one eye at a time.

To relax, let your gaze travel over the features of the face: the lips, cheeks, nose, ears and hair. After a few moments, go back to looking at her right in the eyes.

>From time to time, ask yourself, "Where are my eyes?" Out of habit, you
>may find your gaze has drifted onto the floor or out in the audience.
>Increase the amount of time that you experience direct eye contact. As
>you become more practiced, you'll be able to look directly into her
>eyes without even being conscious that you're doing it.

How To Know If He's The One For You

The Right One

Marriage and commitment is about love, but it's also about compatibility. Two people can be deeply in love with one another, but their marriage will still fail miserably. The sad truth is that sometimes love is not enough. There comes a time when you ask yourself the ultimate question: Is he the one?

Why it's important to ask yourself this question?

The dismal statistics state that over 33% of marriages end up in divorce and there is a 50% infidelity rate among couples. Why is this happening? All these couples used to be in love, otherwise they wouldn't have gotten married. That's why you have to ask yourself this question. If you don't want to get married only to wake up years later and realize that you married the wrong man, you have to know that he's the right one for you. Otherwise, you may have a few years of love and happiness, but you're likely to see those years end in a bitter and expensive divorce.

Why are so many couples drifting apart?

The main thing that couples fail to do is ask each other the right questions before rushing into a commitment. I'm not talking about superficial questions such as how many brothers and sisters your man has or where was he born, but deep and penetrating questions. Most women wait until they are married to find out what their man thinks about the important issue in life such as:

* Religion
* The way to bring up children
* Whether or not he even wants children
* Does he believe in marriage
* How he handles money
* What are his long term goals

And many more important issues. It is the difference of opinion in these issues which causes couples to break up.

You wondering how to know if he is the one for you? Ask the right questions on the important issues and you'll find out.

How to Tell If He Wants to Marry You

Is He The One Whom You Will Give Your Vow?

Have you been wondering if the man of your dreams is ever going to propose to you? Well there are ways that you can tell and there are things that you can do to help him prepare for the next step of commitment.

This article will discuss some of the many ways you can tell if a man is going to pop the question and what hints he may drop to let you know that he is thinking about it.

He approaches you first. This is an easy way to know that he "diggs" you. Apparently you have something going for you that attract you to him. Now don't get too excited. Most men approach women anyways, even if they are looking for a good time or a one-night stand.

But it is also a good thing for him to be interested enough in you that he wants to share some of your time with you. Sometimes a man will wait and watch a woman patiently when he is head over heels for her. He will study her every move and wonder about her personality. When he is finally ready, he will approach her.

Many women do not realize that their husbands were watching them closely before they got together. Don't get discouraged if the man of your dreams doesn't walk up to you because you can't make someone fall in love with you or even be attracted to you.

When the right man is around the corner he will make his move. I have to admit; I actually approached my husband first.

Sometimes, being confident in yourself and not being afraid of rejection allows a man to see your true beauty whether he is attracted to you or not.

So I wouldn't completely say to rule out the approaching him first, however, if he does approach you, you got something special that he finds irresistible about you.

He calls you first. Remember back in high school when you would get the cute guy's number and call him obsessively? Well don't do that.

More than likely you got on the guys nerves and he eventually called the relationship quits. You want to make sure that he is really into you, so let him call you first. If you seem too desperate, then he can sense it. But if you play it cool and wait for him to dial your number then you know that he is still thinking about you and wanting to know more about you, hopefully.

Don't be fooled by jerks, and yes they are out there. They are the ones who say all the right things at all the right times, but all they want is to get into your pants. If during the first conversation, he starts asking what you are wearing, then know that he probably isn't planning on getting married to you.

But if he wants to know more about you and he is able to share some of his goals with you, then don't be afraid to take the relationship a step further.He wants you to be comfortable when you are with him.
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The first date or meeting with a new guy can be awkward if he is too touchy feely, too shy, or too weird. If you do not feel comfortable around him what makes him think that you are willing to stick around.

If a man is really into you and he is thinking about finding a wife, then he will want to make you as comfortable as possible in his presence. This may mean pulling out a chair for you, paying for dinner, having a nice subtle conversation, and keeping his hands to himself. If a man is touchy feely, then expect that he probably wants a sexual relationship and not a commitment. He doesn't rush you into sex.

Personally, I think that sex before marriage is wrong, however, I know that people feel differently about the subject than I do. But if he respects you he will not try to force you into getting in bed with him shortly after meeting him. You can tell if a man really wants to marry you if you tell him no sex before marriage, and he agrees and he stays. Some men can't help themselves and if there is no sex, then the relationship is doomed.

However, there are plenty of men who are really looking for a life partner, and if it means waiting to share that intimate moment with you after you tie the knot, then they will be more than happy to wait.

If he wants to marry you he will never want to try to take you out of your element and do things against your will. He wants to satisfy you and take care of you. He wants you to feel comfortable around him so that when he pops the question, you will say yes. It can be extremely uncomfortable for a man to constantly be pressuring you into doing something you don't want to do.

He doesn't rush to play house with you. Many couples make the mistake of playing house with one another. The man asks for his girlfriend to move in and they pretend as if they are married. She cooks, cleans, and she accepts the fact that he hasn't placed a ring on her finger. These types of relationships usually end up in destruction.

When a woman is willing to play house with a man she allows him to have the luxury of married life wit out the commitment and the luxury to still have a single life with in house lovin'. Some women want to feel loved so badly that they are willing to play house with a man. After many many years the man still will not pop the question and the woman still waits for the day when he is going to.

He should desire your presence. He may want you around all the time, but without the marriage commitment he understands that the relationship may fail. He is willing to wait to carry you over the threshold instead of letting you sleep in the bachelor pad.

He is always loyal and honest. He always tells you the truth. He never looks at other women. He adores you. These are ways to tell if he really loves you. If a man is constantly making up excuses as to why he didn't call you, or you suspect that he lies, then know that he is not marriage material.

If he is lying before marriage, what makes you think that he won't lie after marriage? The man that is serious about loving you will never want to disappoint you, and when he does he will be sincere and honest about the situation. He is afraid of losing you, and one lie or sign of dishonesty could make him lose it all.He proves that he can provide for you. He works, he has a home, and he shares with you. A man who is selfish will not make a good husband. A man who is greedy and always taking from you will not make a good husband.

The man that wants to marry you lets you know that he will provide for you and he proves that he can. If a man is playing video games all-day and he is steady asking you for money, then he probably will not be a good provider. But it he works a good job, he takes care of his responsibility and he is able to provide you with things you need, know that he has husband potential. He will love making sure you have a little money in your pocket (not talking about a sugar daddy), he will love to buy you new clothes when you need them, and he won't mind paying a bill or two for you.

This is because he truly loves you and he wants you to know that he can and he will take care of you when you become his wife.He talks about marriage with you. Men who are afraid of marriage will try to avoid it like a bad case of the flu. They will run away from the subject whenever you or someone else brings it up.

The man that wants to marry you may mention it first. He will let you know how many kids he plans on having and how his life isn't complete without a partner. He may say it often or get excited if you bring it up. He doesn't run from the idea of marriage because he has the same feelings as you about it.

He respects your parents. Getting past the parents can be a hard deed, however, it is not impossible. Even if your dad shows obvious signs that he doesn't like him, your man will still show respect to him.

He wants to prove to your parents that he is willing to take the next step with you and he doesn't want to disappoint you, so he tries to love your parents to keep you happy.He protects you. He never disrespects you, hits you, or curse at you.

He never lets anyone do those things to you either. He always has your back no matter what. I hope that God willing this article will give you a little insight on if a man is ready to make you his wife or not.

How to Marry the Man of Your Choice

How to Marry the Man of Your Choice

Before there was The Rules, there was How to Marry the Man of Your Choice, filled with proven strategies that helped thousands of "nice" women get to the altar. Now completely updated to lead a new generation down the aisle, this timeless yet thoroughly modern guide shares the successful tactics used by other singles (including the author, who took her own advice and, at the age of 42, married the man of her choice), and reveals:

• The top 20 places to meet more than a few good men (hint: bars are not among them!)
• The keys to male behavior and how to use them to your advantage
• The 50 crucial questions every woman should be asking her man-and herself
• How to interview a man for the job of husband before you audition for the job of wife
• The best ways to dress for your body type and age
• How to recognize love when it happens
• How to enhance and maintain your relationship with the man of your choice
• How to defuse "dastardly acts"-male, and sometimes female, behavior that can sabotage a relationship on its way to the altar.

So forget the myth that you can't find love when you're looking for it. Complete with special sections on Internet dating, second marriages, stepchildren, and advice on living together, this strategy-packed guide is both fun and very, very effective.

The more you know about men in general, the easier it will be to learn about individual men. The more you know how men think and behave, the more success you'll have with the men you meet. There are three keys to male behavior:

The typical man has been predominantly influenced by women during his formative years. As a result, he has predictable reactions to women.

A man bases his sense of sexual worth and acceptance as a male on his teenage experiences. He carries that sexual acceptance or rejection to the grave.

The male ego is enormous, but eggshell-fragile. Learn about the male ego. Your knowledge of his ego is one of the best tools for leading the man of your choice into a long-term relationship.

WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW

Is men's behavior a mystery to you? Here's the three-step process to unlocking this mystery and using it to your advantage:

Learn about usual male behavior.

Use this knowledge to predict the behavior of the men you meet.

Use a man's own behavior as a means of leading him into a long-term relationship with you.

WHY MEN ACT THE WAY THEY DO

Males are under the authority and guidance of females from the beginning. They are born of woman and are helpless from birth until years later. From his earliest moments, the young boy is forced into behavior that pleases his mother, female relatives, and female teachers. Each one has a turn at subjecting the boy to her ideas of acceptable behavior, demeanor, and thoughts. As a youngster, he is dependent on his mother and other female relatives for his comfort and survival.
He remains dependent on women for much of his comfort and survival throughout his life.
Schooling generally is painful for the boy. His female teachers embarrass him with their authority, his subjugation to them, and his mental limitations. His female classmates impress him with their maturity and perhaps faster understanding of the classwork.

If the boy rebels, a principal dictates that his teachers, who are likely to be mostly female, place the boy under their greater control. Because of the boy's slower physical development, female classmates usually scorn him until they reach puberty. The girls can do so freely, since at that age they don't need these boys sexually. This type of intense and prolonged conditioning is hard for these boys to overcome, even when they mature.

Puberty

The male-female relationship begins to change at puberty. Girls at adolescence begin to experience sexual curiosity and desire. They start competing with each other for the attention and affection of the more desirable boys.

Adolescent males, on the other hand, are supposed to surmount their years of conditioning to subservient childhood status by nature alone. The boy is expected to become the sexual initiator. Older or faster-maturing boys in his class cause the lad to declare his emancipation from female control. These boys call the less mature youth a sissy or a mommy's boy if women continue to dominate his life. Yet these same women despise this fellow if they continue to dominate him once he becomes an adult.

His Teenage Years

The teenage years are called the formative years. Most boys feel particularly awkward and unattractive in the early teenage years. His height increases rapidly in an ungainly manner. His face is filled with pimples, and braces cover his teeth. His self-image is likely to be low because girls reject his advances. The male develops his self-image at precisely this period.

His acceptability and his acceptance among females are at their lowest. Yet it's at this time in his life that he needs female companionship the most, as sexuality begins and reaches its peak. This sharp disparity between the male's needs and his actual relationships gives the male a negative self-image.

As a survival technique, the man asserts that he is tough, invincible, and unique. The man develops his ego in part because of his rapid increase in strength and height. His ego is largely a facade. His ego is eggshell-fragile because it is self-generated.

Dating

Dating is cruel to both men and women. Consider the following: Men with high sex drives most often have unfulfilled sexual needs. Consequently, these men have especially negative selfimages. Such a man suffers most when women reject him. His sensitivity to rejection causes him a horrible predicament. He can't hide his drive; nor can he afford to spend his time dating a woman without achieving sexual satisfaction. Yet women often view his sexual aggression as an affront to their dignity. He wants her, but she'll scorn him as a boor or worse.

A woman is often more receptive to men who are well mannered and polite, men who go through life with a minimum level of hormonal disruption and conform to society's mores. But these men are often those who lack sexual interest in women. These men tend to have low sex drives and a lower level of unfulfilled needs. These men suffer less during their teenage years. As adults, these men often appear gentlemanly and patient in initiating a sexual encounter. A woman may want such a man, but then puzzle over his lack of sexual interest in her.

Reversing of Dating Fortune

Females do well in their early years for three reasons:

The higher male birthrate, which increases the demand for females for pairing.
The higher male sex drive at that age bracket.
The acceptability in our society for young women to date men somewhat older than themselves.
These factors give the man a low self-image and give the woman a high self-image. But these self-images become increasingly inappropriate as the individuals mature.

In fact, these selfimages will hinder relationships in the future unless women and men correct them. The situation reverses as time goes on because of three factors:

Women outlive men.
Women's sex drives increase later than men's.
Women face increasing competition from younger women. Women are well advised to understand these facts. Their teenage years are behind them, and so is the attention that young men paid to them.

Rites of Passage to Adulthood

When does adulthood occur? Often it's at the moment of getting the car keys, because of the freedom that a car provides. The car is the youth's first kingdom. With his car, a youth controls where he wants to be and with whom, and his degree of privacy. His car may be as important to him as the family home is to his parents. The car is a status symbol that represents power, money, prestige, and independence, and buttresses the youth's self-esteem. The fellow who lacked a car in his formative years is going to be quite a different person from the guy who had wheels as a young man. Chances are that the carless youth is burdened with even lower self-esteem.

As a rule of thumb, whatever the man lacked or thought he lacked in his formative years, he will seek during the rest of his life. If the boy could not afford to dress as well as his friends, as an adult he will strive for an expensive wardrobe. Conversely, if the boy had more than adequate clothes, as a man he won't be particularly concerned about clothing.

Familiarities and Fantasies

Women often have a very difficult time unshackling themselves from the attitude of scorn they felt toward the men whom they first knew as youngsters. It's rare that a woman marries a man she knew at that age. Even if a woman marries someone she grew up with, they were probably apart during their formative years.

On an Israeli kibbutz, the parents are particularly eager for their youngsters to grow up together and be familiar with each other from youth. These parents put their youngsters together so that they can marry more wisely. Surprisingly, the parents find that these close childhood friends rarely wed. These youngsters know each other's weaknesses. They aren't impressed with each other's facades. We must marry strangers, for only strangers appear to measure up to our illusions.

WHAT IS A MAN?

Men generally behave in a consistent manner and share similar attitudes. Below, you'll find a list of some of these characteristics; the more typical the man, the more these general guides will apply to him. Not every characteristic applies to every man, but most will apply to most men. After all, the conventional male has been conditioned to certain conduct and behavior. As an adult man, he has consistent thought patterns and a stable self-image that make his behavior predictable. His self-image results from what others have said to him over the years, how they have acted toward him, and the limited freedom he has managed to achieve.

Depending on how closely your man fits the male pattern, here's what you can expect:

• He is a small boy at heart.
• He has a public facade that differs from his natural behavior.
• He inherently prefers a good marriage to being single.
• He is conditioned to obey women, starting with his mother.
• He will enjoy being led into marriage, except by foul and dastardly acts.
• He is polygamous by nature, but he learns to be monogamous by conditioning.
• He is very possessive about his mate and will extend himself considerably to keep her.
• He will attempt to follow the mores and the laws of the society in which he lives.
• He will follow social customs of his community.
• He is likely to believe in a higher power.
• He believes that he is inferior in many ways to other men.
• He will work to earn a living.
• His views follow popular notions.
• He likes sports-participating, watching, or both.
• He is not likely to believe in astrology or in fortune-telling.
• He wants and desires to be thought of as a lover.
• When ill, he will seek care from a woman who loves him.
• He usually will hold himself out as being better than his coworkers or peers, even when he is equal or lower in stature or achievement.
• He is slightly braver than his mate, and will defend her against physical attacks by others.
• Sooner or later, he wants children.
• He believes that he is special or unique.
• He will marry a woman only if she recognizes that he is special or unique.
• He expects more praise than criticism, but does expect both.
• He enjoys talking about himself.
• He expects convenient sex in marriage; in fact, it may be a principal reason he marries.

You can better anticipate a man's actions by learning these general features of male behavior. If a man says something that contradicts these attributes-say, that he will never marry-it may be wise to disregard his words. If most of the above statements apply to a man, he is likely to be available for marriage-unless he's married already.

A particular man will rarely have every single one of these typical attitudes. Trust that your fellow has normal behavior unless you have clear and convincing evidence to the contrary. Your man is likely to be as similar to other men, and as distinct from them, as you are similar to and yet distinct from other women as a group.

Your Man as an Individual

You might not know what behavior you can expect from a man in a specific situation. If his actions offend you because they are so different from the typical man's, he usually won't hold your response against you for long. He should understand that your reaction is a normal one. If you express ideas that he doesn't share, a common reaction on his part is to attempt to convince you of the merits of his beliefs so that you'll accept or understand him.

Determine how your man deviates from "typical" conduct by carefully observing his behavior and his choice of friends and attitudes.

For example, if your man is a nudist, he obviously has scorned society's taboos on nudity. What you then must deal with is whether you could live with or become a nudist. If your man is an atheist, could you bring up children without religious values? How much does he care what others think of him socially? Could you love him if he insists on always expressing his thoughts even if it could start a public rift or family fight? Would you want this man to be your husband?

IDEAL MATES

Our society has rules that run contrary to nature. The typical female's ideal of what she wants in a man is vastly different from the actual men she meets. Her dream man is likely to be a combination of father image, movie idol, and a character out of novels. In many instances, not just in husband hunting, people do not know what they really want. One woman had owned many homes because her husband was a contractor. She decided to have her husband build her an ideal house comprising all the features she liked best in each of the houses she had owned. The outcome was a horror, even to her, because the ideas clashed.

Chances are that if you meet your ideal mate or a better man than you could imagine, you would not truly want him for marriage! Sit down and make yourself a checklist of the characteristics you want in a man. Then list the positive and negative effects each characteristic would have on you. Think carefully about what you want or need so that your list is realistic.

You might be seeking Tony's ability to entertain, David's high sex drive, and Chuck's dedication to one woman all rolled up into your next guy. In fact, while Tony does enjoy entertaining, this might mean he'd rather be hosting a party than having a quiet cup of coffee with you discussing your private lives. Likewise, David's high sex drive can mean that he is attracted to many women, not dedicated to only one. Chuck's dedication to one woman may mean that his sex drive is on the low side, and one woman is all he can handle.

Evaluate the characteristics you insist upon in a man, then double-check the downside of each and how much will it bother you. Confirm that this is what you want in a man before you shop for one.