"Wild Emotions"

A Passion Never Forgotten

relax, sit down & take this journey with me
imagine all those things your eyes burn 2 see

the reasons why ur heart rapidly beats strong
the gases & fumes ur lungs depend on

textures ur fingers need to caress & explore
only those flavor ur palate forever longs for

the memories that make butterflies in ur gut shiver
all the erotic actions that make ur lips quiver

how great it is to see these images circles in ur mind
intense desire & emotions make all my senses blind

amazed @ at the eruption of this volcanic collage
for some moments, again, I am within this mirage

together sharing it all, filled with ur every emotion
an open house to the secret equations to ur love potion

happily knowing I am special & I deserved to see
but I have a slight problem.... In this, I can't find me

confusingly searching, knowing I had to be there
everything I see, described me & the times we shared

this trip was so similar to the one in my mind
I was never what u really desired is what I begin to find

I see u got the only thing u wanted with lies & slime
pretending I was the one u needed, that should be a crime

sweet talk, patience & gentleness all hid ur grime
I was to be the map of this journey, what waste of time

"Take Time In Seeking Mr. Rigth"

Is HE the ONE?
THE RIGHT ONE
First we must allow our Heavenly Father to do the picking. And second, the decision for a mate must be made on a spiritual and intellectual basis before it's made on an emotional one.

"What about love? Shouldn't that be the third? you ask. No, and I'll tell you why. "The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? (Jeremiah 17:9).

The heart is willful and is driven by its own agenda. It does not consider things rationally and intelligently it just loves to love! Therefore you have to point it in the right direction: "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life" (Proverbs 4:23).

Whenever you meet a man, you need to get clearance from God, check out his attributes, and then allow your heart to engage.

Dating exists not for mating ; it exists for collecting data. I believe that the biblical design would be friendship, courtship and then marriage.

Friendship is two people walking together in agreement and accountability, learning and growing together.


Courtship follows the mutual agreement to commit to one another exclusively - it is the decisive turning toward the agreed-upon goal of the marriage altar. It is a period of laying a foundation and preparing your life together after marriage.

But dating? Well, if you do date, use the time wisely to gather these facts.

1. Check out the fabric. Is the person mate material? Does this man have an intimate relationship with the Father through Jesus Christ? Does he care what God thinks about his behavior? Is he accountable to God as well as another co-laborer in the faith? Accountability is an important factor. It is imperative to maintaining a committed relationship. Is your potential spouse a member of the same family - the family of God?

You need to have common interests and values and agree on the essentials of living day to day. You have a similar spiritual walk. You eat the same spiritual diet. You enjoy a lot of similar things. You have like interests, like goals in life, like opinions on basic life issues.

You have had like experiences in your background. Though there is some truth to the idiom that opposites attract, like-minded folks fare better together.

Furthermore, does he want to get married? If you want to be married and your dreamboat isn't interested, don't waste your time.

Remember, women fall in love and get married. Men decide to get married and then look for a wife. Note the difference in order. So if a guy says he's not looking for anything serious, take his words seriously. If he's not going in your direction, get off the bus and wait for the right one.

2. Does this man want you? Is he pursuing you? The man who is right for you will pursue you, and God's hand in the relationship will be clear. No guessing, no fleeces, no dead ends.

Scripture says: "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord" (Proverbs 18:22).

Note -who finds whom? THE MAN FINDS THE WIFE. From the beginning of time, God has transported men and women across the world in order to put them together.

At the RIGHT TIME, He will bring that man on the scene and he will find you. In God's perfect design, the man is the one who recognizes his mate. Adam has no problem recognizing that Eve was his missing rib. You do not need to strategically place yourself anywhere. You don't have to help a guy out because he's shy!

Men will do whatever they have to do to get what they truly want. The man in your life should recognize you as the pearl of great price in his life and be willing to do whatever he must in order to gain your hand. If he is passive about gaining your affections, take it as a sign that he is not interested.

Many a woman's mother has suggested that it is a good idea to marry a man who loves you more than you love him. As cold as that sounds, it actually might be scriptural if you stop to think about it: "We love him because he first loved us" (1 John 4:19). Until then, take the ultimate chill pill. You don't need a bunch of men in your life to make you feel all right about yourself.

You need only one man - your man, the one God has selected to select you. And trust me, the right man at the wrong time can be just as awful as the wrong man at any time. So trust God's timing in this. He is the ultimate matchmaker. Relax, sit pretty and allow yourself to be found. Again - WAIT until the man voices his intentions. He should take the lead in establishing the relationship. You may have an inkling that he is the one, but God will use the man to set the tone of the relationship. Allow him the opportunity to woo you - this is your first act of submission. Jesus set the standard for all men to follow. They should love us first. And they should lead the relationship.

3. The man in your life should not desire to move into your house, only into your heart. A man who prepares for your future has made his intentions clear. A man who is husband material has the means to take care of a wife. He is a responsible human being who understands he needs to have something to offer. In short, a man should have the means to be a suitable lover for you.

4. Check out his buddies. Everyone knows birds of the same feather flock together, yet most women fail to see the connection between a man and his friends. A man's pals tell you a lot about the person that you haven't seen yet. They reveal things about the guy's character that might be hidden when he is on good behavior. Everyone knows how to put his best foot forward. Don't stay focused on the foot, check out the rest of the body!

5. Check out his relationship with his mother. How does he treat her? This is your preview of how he will treat you. There are lots of men who, because of a negative relationship with their mothers, really don't like women, yet say they do. Unresolved issues between mother and son continue between husband and wife.

6. Remember that a man's family reveals the cloth from which he's cut. Take note and decide whether you want your future with the man in your life to look like
his present family situation.

7. Check out the patterns of his life. Do you see repeated cycles of drama in his personal kingdom? Broken relationships? Problems in making commitments --including the job market? Mood swings? Is a problem always someone else's fault? Does he embrace responsibility or shirk it? Does he keep his promises? Is he a man of good reputation? Remember all garments look wonderful hanging in the store, but with wear, some begin to unravel. Give yourself time and space to check out the man in your life. Time will always reveal whether or not he is made of the right stuff.

8. Does this man have a vision for his life? Is he running with that vision? Remember, God decided Adam needed help once Adam got busy DOING his assignment. As we saw Adam, a man doesn't need help until he is busy doing what he was created and called to do. Is the man in your life guided by sense of destiny and purpose, or does he just allow life to happen around him? A man who is not certain of his mission can be a most miserable person - and you'll be miserable too if you know where YOU want to go in life.

A man who has vision is not intimidated by a woman whose mission statement is clear. He will be your best ally, cheerleader and assistant because he wants you both to make it! A man who cannot be supportive of your achievements because he is floundering in a sea of uncertainty over his own life is not a healthy partner to have and to hold forever.

Creating dependencies or feelings of obligation is not the way to get the best out of your man. Somewhere along the way, he will resent you and flee from the smothering burden of obligation he associates you with. You want a man who is firmly anchored in his identity in Christ. Remember, we are looking for a man who will be priest and leader of his home. His first instinct should be to want to cover you, redeem you, and provide for you. Your job is to decide if this is the man God has ordained for you to complement.

9. Complimentary. Do your talents and gifts complement his? Do his gifts, compliment yours? What about your temperaments? Do you see the two of you as an effective team capable of bringing blessing to the lives of those around you? Do your futures mesh? Can you coordinate your gifts in an attractive and effective way?

This is why knowing your purpose is so important. Make sure your hearts beat for mutual causes. When I go shopping I always consider the fabric, the fit and what I already have in my closet. Will my next purchase be a complimentary addition to what I already have? If I find that I am going to have to buy shoes and matching accessories to go with a new outfit, I leave it right on the rack. It is too expensive a proposition.. If the man you meet makes you feel that you need to completely reinvent yourself, something is wrong.

This is where I ask you to consider the relationship in terms of cost. Is this relationship expensive spiritually, emotional or physically? Does your longing for a mate make you willing to forfeit who you are in the process? Or does he see you as the gift that you are? The man in your life should consider you a rare find, a priceless jewel-because of you he is getting ready to get blessed big-time! Any relationship that causes you to feel unworthy, unlovely, unacceptable, undesirable or that you have to work for love, is too expensive!

God has called the man to cover, protect and provide not only materially for a woman, but emotionally and spiritually as well. You should be richer in mind, body and spirit for your union with the man of your dreams. The man in your life should make rich deposits into your heart and spirit, not withdrawals.

10. Does he have a healthy love and acceptance of himself? Make sure the man in your life has taken time to heal from past relationships and has made peace with himself. How he cares for himself is how he will care for you.

A man's relationship with God is crucial here.. His love for himself will only be as strong as his love for God. This is not something that you can impart. You cannot be his savior or teacher. That is out of spiritual order. In his rightful place as your personal priest, he should be leading you to a richer relationship with Christ.

If he is causing you to compromise your faith and destabilize your walk, if he is leading you into sexual sin or causing you to be distracted from your commitment to God, the relationship is too expensive. Offending the Lover of your soul, who promises you eternal love, is too high a fare to pay for a ride that has a limited run. If you and your man can't soar in the Spirit, when the force of your love for another is tested by the pull or gravity of the world, your union will not be able to survive.

So you decide. How much is your life worth? How much is your love worth? You will be able to accept only what you believe you deserve. God himself calculated the worth of your love and decided it was worth His life. He now pledges you His love for eternity. Yes, Jesus sets the example for all others to follow when He paid a ransom for His bride. Should you expect less from a mortal man? Throughout the Biblical age, men were willing to pay the cost for what they truly desired. The truth of the matter is, everyone knows that anything worth having, costs and no one gets a ride in this life for free.

"MEN IN WOMEN'S LIVES"

If a man wants you....

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant.. to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy...
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve
then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better."
You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women...
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything... He will use it against you later...(..Amen)..

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are.........even if he has
more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord!? If he cheated with you, he'll cheat.on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending.....
compromise.. is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships.........there is nothing cute about..
baggage..... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you.....a relationship consists
of two WHOLE individuals.........look for someone complimentary.......not supplementary.
Dating is fun.........even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right...

Make him miss you sometimes.........when a man always know where you are,
and you're always readily available to him-he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar.. but get to know others.

Share this with other ladies.... You'll make someone SMILE, another
RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate..
them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

"True Relationships"

Relationships from God Never Fail

By Jerry (Guardian Angel)

If a person claims to be saved and yet allow evil grudges to rule through spiteful acts then they are rejecting the leading of the Holy Spirit.

A Believer is to never to act out of spite. Root out grudges and plant a healthy crop of obedience to the Lord. If a person refuses to practice this, then they do not walk with God.

Unfortunately, this is frequent in relationships and marriages between men and women, they bring suffering to eachother through spiteful acts and selfishness, which is why in these cases do the relationships become not of God, and hearts are wounded. The Bible says-----"We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves" (Romans 15:1), and this should most definitely apply to male/female relationships. The following verse should also be engraved into the heart as well-----"Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong" (1 Corinthians 12:10). And where does such strength come from? It comes from LOVE. When a man and a woman commit themselves to become ONE flesh, which begins with the love they claim for the other, then let that love never fail. The Bible clearly says-----"4 Charity (Love) suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, 5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; 6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; 7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things" (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). However, going by the divorce rate and how many relationships end so bitterly among Christians, it doesn't seem that 1 Corinthians 13 is within the hearts of these people very much, and I think its an utter tragedy, and it definitely does not line up with God. There are of course those who will twist scripture, out of pure pride and hypocrisy, to justify their corrupt actions within a relationship, but that means they do not stand in true love, and are very deceived people, only concerned with pleasing their own flesh! Remember Romans 12:9 which says-----"Let love be without hypocrisy." Woe to them who twist Gods greatest gift for selfish reasons!

The deception that plagues so many relationships (including those who are supposed to be Christian ones) is that they are in LUST and not in LOVE! They may seek to justify their actions all they wish, even twist scripture to seemingly make it righteous, but it is NOT righteous! The Bible says-----"The heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked!" (Jeremiah 17:9). And what is it that deceives the heart then? It is the FLESH because the human heart IS of the flesh! God is a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth (John 4:24), and to worship God, also means to live as He requires us all to live, which means also how we treat eachother! All we do, if we claim to be Children of God, should be done through Gods will, not our own will. The human heart will afflict a human heart, but the heart of GOD will heal the human heart and restore it back to life! The reason so many relationships die, is because the human hearts that inspired them were already dead. This is because they are guided by the FLESH and not the SPIRIT. True love is of the Spirit, and true love never fails, so why then do relationships fail if they are supposed to be of Love? Because they are NOT of love, but are from LUST of the human heart! Galatians 5:16-17 says-----"16....Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. 17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would." But if a man and a woman walk together in Spirit, they will not fulfill the lust of the flesh, and God will truly be the light of who they are as ONE in God. This cannot be however, if people are led by the flesh, and walking NOT in love, but in LUST. You will only truly come to know eachother if you LOVE one another, not LUST one another! Please, if you truly want to save your relationships, then together stand in LOVE. Love will never fail you, but lust WILL fail you! Lust dies because it comes from the flesh, which DIES. Love never dies because God is eternal, and true Love is also eternal because GOD IS LOVE!

True love also sees beyond ones failures, it does not become discouraged then walks away. This is why so many have broken hearts, because they once believed that those who walked away loved them. Love never abandons but remains at ones side as a comforter, is it a refuge and a deliverer, and it will never cause one to become wounded. This is what is lost when a couple become broken, because Love is like a refiners fire, one in the other. Where patience becomes nonexistent does the flesh rule, because love is patient. Would a surgeon save so many lives if he was impatient? Therefore, how then is a relationship saved if there is no patience? Patience also doesn't distance itself but it bonds stronger, because when two become bonded they overcome as ONE. This is what love is! Love is also repentance, and a loving heart is a repentant heart, and this is known through the Spirit. If a person has a repentant heart they will overcome pride and confess they are wrong, just as I confess tenfold that I have been wrong, and my heart knows it was hardened, but I also wish for God to restore me! I wish for God to restore me, because I want LOVE to rule me, not my flesh!

I pray that ALL come to know this, and apply it to themselves, because ALL deserve to have ALL that God wishes to give. Your flesh rejects the gifts of God, but the Spirit will receive Gods gifts. Receive and your bond between You and your significant other will never end, but always see new beginnings. This is what love is, and love is God. True love comes from Gods perfect will, not flawed human choices! The unfortunate reality though, is that flawed human choices come from the FLESH and the union of a man and a woman needs to be much more then the physical.

When God brought Eve to Adam in the first marriage, she was made from his "flesh and bone" (Genesis 2:31), and they became "one flesh" (Genesis 2:23-24). That is a concept that is lost in our modern society. Becoming one flesh means more than just a physical union. It means a meeting of the mind and soul to form one unit. This relationship goes far beyond sensual or emotional attraction and enters into the realm of the spiritual "oneness" that can only be found as both partners surrender to God and to each other. This is a relationship that is not made up of "me" or "my" but of "us" and "our." This is one of the secrets to having a positive relationship which then becomes a long-lasting marriage. Making a marriage last until death parts one from the other is something that both partners have to make a priority. Solidifying one's vertical relationship with God goes a very long way to insuring that the horizontal relationship between a man and a female is a lasting one and one that also glorifies the LORD. But sadly, couples pair themselves up with more of the "self" in mind, rather then having God in their hearts. The true key to being evenly yoked as a couple is by placing GOD before yourselves! If God is first, all that comes second will never forsake you nor fail you, and will last forever because He who came first is forever. If God is first in your life, then your life is a real life. If God is not first in your life, then you never truly lived. This goes for those who are single, as well for those who are coupled. Keep the truth in your lives, and that very truth will set you free!

Amen.

MUSIC, MUSIC, MUSIC

Everyone’s life follows the vein of his upbringing. Some people tell stories about a different way of life: experiences, traditions, customs, and routines that are often times exclusive to their families, cultures, or nationalities. While there are many differences among us, we have at least one great thing in common: Music. We all share music. We enjoy music, music, music. Irrespective of language, culture, customs, traditions, nationality, and religion, everyone makes a place for music in his life. Some of us write music. Some of us dance to music. Some of us sing music, and some just listen to it. Music is the thread that weaves our lives together in some way or another.

Consider a party guy who loves Disco, Pop, and Techno. From Donna Summer’s “Last Dance” to Jonas Brothers’ “Burnin’ Up” to MIA’s “Bamboo Banga,” he has no shortage of fun music to which he can shake his…Hmm! When he’s feeling more subdued and in the mood for a little culture, he appreciates Luciano Pavarotti’s Opera singing, Gustavo Dudamel & Simon Bolivar’s Classical “Fiesta,” and perhaps tops it off with a little Ella Fitgerald, the greatest Jazz songstress of all time. He listens to “Ella Sings Gershwin” and moves on to her lively “Rain on My Parade.” But he’s instantly trapped by her incredible scat, and he throws in her “Black Magic” for good measure. How can he stop there when there’s so much more to "Walk this Way" to? by Run DMC and Aerosmith.

If you walk into an elevator, you’re likely to hear smooth Jazz or Classical music. If you walk into a club, you’re met with a cocktail of funky sounds—Rock, Soul, Hip Hop, Latin, Ska, Metal, Punk, and Rap. If you stroll through a mall or an airport anywhere in the world, there is music in the air. When a baby is put to sleep, the music of a soft lullaby soothes his spirit. There’s music in the streets, churches, synagogues, schools, concerts, clubs, hospitals, homes, restaurants, shopping malls, banquets, and weddings. There is even music at funerals. Music consumes our lives from birth to death, and what a beautiful thing to be cradled by music, music, music!

"Satisfy Your Man Anytime,Anywhere & Any Position"

How can you satisfy your lover in bed?

If you really want to know what makes a woman good in bed it is really just four things.... Passion, Desire, Love and Trust... If you find a woman with those four quailties then everything else will fall into place...

Sometimes, being physical with your man whom you love dearly, becomes dull and monotonous. Why so? This is a fact, everything in this world seems to get dull, though it is not so, it is the style or manner with which we handle certain things and situations that become dull. And for that, one or the other has to make some efforts to make things exciting around you.

And if your sexual activity with your man is getting quite predictable, then its the time to bring some changes. Do not always take your man for granted, I mean, do not always expect him to initiate the love-making, why can't you begin to express what you desire for?

This will make the environment really hot!!! Your man will feel the happiest ever!
As surprises are always welcome to make your relationship happening!

Wake him up with sex, giving his body your hot sighs and sensuous gestures anywhere and everywhere you like! This is the hottest thing a woman can do to arouse her man to the climax. I bet! Never lie down on bed with your man like a dummy, instead take the initiative to make your man happy.

Just ignore other distractions around or outside your bedroom- At the time of love-making, if there is happening something outside your house or the voices of your family members trying to distract you. Just look into each other's eyes and have a laugh and continue.

Also, do not hesitate to tell your man indirectly, that what and how you want him to treat you when in bed. Its your duty to make your partner aware of what kind of sexual pleasure you want and in what manner. With this, both of you will enjoy the act of love-making without any desires unfulfilled.

And please, please, never make your man feel that he is or was wrong somewhere while having sex with you. As this will shatter his self-confidence thereby making the things worse for both of you. If you felt that he was lacking something or gone wrong somewhere, then have a chat just after sex.

Ask him in a different way if you were wrong somewhere in making him happy or was lacking something, then he will tell you that. And in return,he will also ask you the same thing, and then you tell him what you felt about his performance in bed.

This way, you will understand each other better.

How to Discover Your Passion

These five steps will help you find what you truly love to do.

What do you do with your free time? Are you so motivated with your life's tasks that you jump out of bed in the morning, eager to start your day? Does the word "task" have a negative connotation for you?

The happiest and most successful people on this planet are those with a sense of purpose, driven by their passions. But how does one go about discovering what she's passionate about?

I've read a lot on this topic over the past 20 years or so and I have a certain amount of personal life experience to back up what I’m about to say. So, without further ado, here is my step-by-step process of how to discover your passion.

1. Meditate. This might mean learning to meditate--it certainly did for me. The best way to get to know yourself, who You truly are, is to get quiet and listen to your inner being.

Be true to yourself--even if it means taking risks.

2. Observe your reactions. Take a week or so to examine and reflect on your reactions to the things around you such as television shows, newspapers, conversations, books you read, and any other stimuli that causes you to react in a passionate way.

If you come across something that has been of interest to you for a long time, make a note of it.

3. Answer some questions. What are you really good at? What specific quality do you possess that others may not? Whom do you admire? Why? Who do you know that is doing something you would love to do? What's to keep you from doing it? How could you make this world a better place?

4. Analyze your surroundings. What collections do you have in your home? Do you collect old photographs? Do you have a green thumb? There are probably many clues in your very own home or room that will provide the insight you're looking for.

We tend to hold on to things we love, so, what's in your closet?

5. Try it. You do not have to be certain about something before giving it a try. Once you get involved in something, you'll either want to stay with it and expand your knowledge, or you'll lose interest and move on to something else.

Keep in mind that our passions change throughout life. We are constantly growing, expanding, and wanting more.

Some passions remain the same for a long time, and some come and go on a fairly predictable basis. For example, my husband's passion for dentistry has remained strong for over 40 years.

Some gardeners get excited about their passion in the spring, but tire quickly as the weather warms up.

Yet, every spring, they have a strong desire to plant something. It's all good, you just have to know yourself well enough to say, "Okay, since I only like gardening in the spring, I’ll plant strawberries. That way, the harvest is over before my enthusiasm wanes."

Then, of course, there are some passions that may last for a few months or years, and then fizzle. That's okay, too.

Anything you attempt will get you closer to discovering your long-term passion. And I fully believe that for some people, their passion is constantly trying new things! I had a Life-coaching session with an incredible woman a few months ago who knew herself well enough to tell me,

"I'm a starter. I like to start companies, get them up and running, then sell them." She's done that several times and it works for her. Her "problem" was figuring out what to do next!

When you find your passion, you find your reason for jumping out of bed in the morning.When you get in alignment with your inner being, you will feel exhilarated and alive.

When your time is spent performing tasks related to something you are passionate about, you do no "work," and you have a sense of vitality that is wonderful beyond words.So find your passion. The result is worth it. YOU are worth it.

"Keeping The Passion Alive For Married Couples"

Red! Hot! Married Couples!

Some regular commentors have mentioned that Americans rail against their "puritanical" mindsets by delving into pornography, going to strip clubs, or seeking escapism in romantic movies that glorify extramarital sex. Certainly these forms of "entertainment" do go against the express puritanical ethic -- they send the clear message that "Sex is FUN! Sex is HOT! ... oh, but only if it's with someone other than your spouse." The word "puritan," used as a pejorative to express a conservative sexual ethic, is typically enough to make anyone shudder. Salem, anyone?

In reality, the Puritans of New England were encouraged to enjoy sex, as long as it was within the boundaries of marriage. In fact, if spouses did not live up to their marital "obligations," they could be punished by the church; marriages could even be disavowed. So hell yeah, the Puritans were *all* about having sex.

The Puritans were all about the family, too, where women played a dominant role. A man could be a man all he liked out in the fields, sowing crops or chopping down lumber, but he left his pants at the door of the family home, where his wife was Big Boss. Sounds like a fair deal to me.But getting back to the sex thing.

Again, I think about modern media, especially film. Do you ever see any movies that make married sex seem hot and exciting? If you can find one film, please let me know, because I've racked my pea brain and can't come up with one shining example. On the other hand, I can count on my fingers and toes movies -- big blockbusters -- that make the extramarital affair glisten like unholy gold."The English Patient," whoa!

That movie sizzled, didn't it? Count Laszlo de Almásy (Ralph Fiennes), a Hungarian mapmaker, goes bonkers over sexy, married Katherine (Kristin Scott Thomas) in Africa just prior to WWII. Her husband, Geoffrey (Colin Firth), is an affable enough chap, but apparently the lust of the loins wins over congeniality, and the Count and Katherine are fucking in bathtubs, on bed tops, in the middle of parties, until they finally fly off together in a teensy plane to go to some cave.

The movie visually astute at portraying the alternately hostile-tender interactions between the Count and Katherine, but you, the viewer, really wonder, why does she love him so much? He didn't exactly insist that she get a divorce so that he could marry her, did he? In the end, Katherine dies. So does the Count. "The End of the Affair," another WWII period film. Ralph Fiennes again, as hot novelist Maurice Bendrix, falls for sexy Sarah Miles (Julianne Moore), who is married to Maurice's friend Henry (Stephen Rea).

If you can get over the "ick" factor resulting from this humongous betrayal of man against best friend, you can sit through the movie. Again, there's the unexplained possessive and -- dare I say it? -- obsessive attraction between Maurice and Sarah, but you never quite know why it exists; certainly they don't seem to really love each other; they are merely ships passing in the night.

And you never know why, either, Sarah chose to marry a man for whom she has only tepid feelings of friendship at best. In the end, Sarah dies too. The closest thing we get to portraying marriage as a positive institution is found in the movie "Fatal Attraction." Michael Douglas is family man/asshole Dan Gallagher, who takes the opportunity to seriously boink the living daylights out of a sexy, single work colleague, Alex Forrest (Glenn Close), while wifey's away visiting her folks.

I don't need to tell you the ending, but just in case you've been living under a rock, Alex dies. There's a hint that there might have been marital mischief at some point in the past when Dan, feeling remorseful for the affair, gazes lovingly at his wife Beth (Anne Archer) as she's brushing her hand and slapping on face cream. He tenderly sneaks his hand between her legs and she ... giggles.

I guess that it would have invoked too big of an "Ewww!" factor to show Dan boinking the living daylights out of his wife, too. She was his Madonna, the perfect wife and mother. You don't boink the Madonna. The crown jewel of all creepily obsessive lust movies has to be "Wuthering Heights," based on the book by Emily Bronte. The original film featured Merle Oberon as Cathy and Laurence Olivier as Heathcliff, with a bemused-looking David Niven trailing cast as emotional cuckhold Edgar Linton.

There's no "sex" onscreen, but we know what Cathy and Heath cliff were doing in those stables, don't we, kids? Heathcliff storms off after being rejected by Cathy only to return years later, richer than God, to find her happily married. He then proceeds to make the rest of her brief life hell, never failing to rub in the fact that she had the gall to -- gasp! -- marry someone else. Because Cathy's a silly git, she accepts this shitty treatment. She loves Linton, we know that because she tells him over and over.

Obviously in a sexually nonthreatening way, or else they would have had a passel of brats running around. In the end, Cathy dies not in her husband's arms, but in Heathcliff's. And he's still whining and railing at her until the end. She's such a silly git, in fact, that even her *ghost* comes back to haunt him. A novelist friend of mine defines "Wuthering Heights" as an exercise in pure sadomasochism. Oh -- I did mention that Cathy dies, right?By the way, Ralph Fiennes was Heathcliff in the remake of "Wuthering Heights."

Gives a true meaning to the word "typecast," doesn't it? There's my favorite horror flick, "What Lies Beneath." Harrison Ford and Michelle Pfeiffer are Norman and Claire Spencer, a couple whose marriage is unknowingly tarnished by his affair. The Other Woman, Madison (Amber Valletta), was bonked over the head by Henry and fed to the fishes, so she's already dead. But because the Other Woman always tells, she comes back to "tell" Claire in her own creepy-nasty, otherworldly, Other Womanly way.

There's one smokin' sex scene between Henry and Claire during which time her body is possessed by Madison. It involves an apple. Guess if you take the wife out of the body, the body's finally good to go. When I first saw "When a Man Loves a Woman," I thought, okay, finally. Michael Green (Andy Garcia), an airline pilot, indulges in a bit of role-play by pretending to pick up wife Alice (Meg Ryan) in a bar. There are some fun, sexy scenes between the two. But alas, Alice is a consummate drunk. Nobody in the film dies, but after Alice goes sober, she turns into a bitter, frigid Ms.

No Fun who divorces poor Michael for no good reason other than he "just doesn't get her." Is the message here is that your spouse is only fuckable when you're wearing beer goggles? I can tell you what I'd do if I were married to a guy who looked like Andy Garcia, and alcohol would not be necessary.Do people really think that married couples don't have red hot sex? I can assure you, they do. I have. In fact, that's the *only* time I have.

That's what you're supposed to be doing, you're supposed to be going at it as much as you can, in all positions, anyplace, anytime. You can get away with the most extravagant shit when you're married, too -- ask a certain police officer who happened to stumble across a certain green Porsche that was parked along a dark highway. There's a certain liberation to being married that permits you to cast away inhibition. You don't feel so greebly if you ask your spouse if he wants to, oh, maybe watch a little porn that night. Or "try out" the new chopping block. When another couple calls to ask you if you want to meet them for dinner, you can say, "That's nice of you to ask, but tonight's 'Twister' night, if you know what I mean. Maybe another time?" They'll understand.

The only time sex is boring in a marriage is when you're not getting it. Married sex is hot, but it's hot because it is also tender; it has its foundation in "forever yours." There's a permanence you feel in your lover's arms, knowing -- even though it might not turn out to be true -- that person is also the one and only residing in your heart.

Knowing that no one else will ever own you in that particular way. The feeling that the two of you are unique, and that your exclusivity makes you so. Puritanical? Maybe. Pure? Yesssss! No movie made could ever depict that.

Trust On Palmistry To reveal your passion

It is possible to evaluate or test how much a lover is ready for love and romance. The indicators on the palm are used to reveal the responses of passion from a lover. Whether they are ready to release the passion or they need some more patience from their partner. According to nature, it is possible to tell how animals and human beings are ready for the sexual act. In humans, here are some hints to look out for. You won't go wrong while using palmistry to reveal your passion. If the palm area that extends to form the thumb has thick, soft but firm flesh, passion is underneath. The thicker the flesh the better. Thin and flabby flesh indicates that the person is not naturally blessed with the capability of releasing the passion. Love, romance and relationship status can be tested and closely analyzed of through this part of the palm.

Such people usually use their hearts to make the decision, sentimental decisions may rule over the logical ones but their intentions are good at heart. They basically use polite words, and a gentle soft voice, to express personal and emotional feelings. Such people respond to a lot of touch all over the body. It opens their spirit, mind and also taps on their body energy. All this is revealed by the fullness of the mentioned flesh. Trust Palmistry to reveal your passion. If the little finger is straight and tends to lean outwards, away from the other fingers, it indicates that the person is innovative in love and romance. Risk taking by employing new ideas and quick sharp behaviors are evident as ingredients of passion. Palmistry advises that if she is wearing a soft ring on her small finger, get your trading tools, she is ready for some hot passion. If as a woman you want some more passion, buy him a ring and place it on his small finger.

Love is always in our hearts and mind but it is shown through the hands. For palmistry to reveal your passion, concentrate on the length ratio of fingers to palm. If a person's fingers are longer compared to the palm it shows that a lot of talking and convincing works for him or her. The way to such person's heart is through lengthy talk and convincing words. This is the only way you can be able to unlock their passion. You persuade then you invade. Start the talk before you get to the bedroom such that when you get there you will go full throttled for the kill. If the fingers are comparatively short, action with less words rules for the person. No wonder nature has it that many women has long slender fingers compared to men.

Use palmistry to reveal your passion by keenly observing the length of the hearty line that ends near the index finger. If it is present then your emotions flow freely. Full range of emotions run through the body frequently. The more curvy the line is the better the person is in expressing his/her emotions. You will effortlessly stimulate her to put him/her in the mood if the line is clearly curved.

"How to Use Palmistry for Successful Relationships"

Successful romantic relationships are the key to a happy and fulfilling life. It is a better option to use palmistry for successful relationships than use fake theories which use a lot of your energy for nothing. The techniques of hand-reading are very simple and exciting since the feedback is instant. For instance the consistency of the thickness of the hand is effortless and pleasurable. The connection between the hand thickness and its consistency is very high. The resistance of the palm muscles is used to judge its consistency. Use your both hands to hold her hand tightly and press the muscle using the thumb on various palm regions. The hand consistency is broadly divided into being elastic, hard or soft.

The consistency is said to be hard if the palm muscles do not respond to the thumb finger pressure. This shows that it is composed of tough massive muscles. This is an indication that the emotional being present in that person is primitive, rigid and non compromising in any situation. Consistency is said to be elastic if the thumb pressure is counteracted with less resistance of the muscles. This is an indication of good emotions quality in that particular person. The consistency is soft when the palm muscles offer no resistance to the thumb pressure. The flabby flesh shows indolence and sensuousness at their extremes. Consistency of the palm thickness as a technique of palmistry for successful relationships works wonders in determining a dating couples destiny.



It is possible to use palmistry for successful relationships if you are keen on reading the thumb finger. It gives considerably enough information about the quality of love a partner is likely to offer. A strong thumb speaks for equally strong sentimental attributes. The thumb will expose the knowledge about one's focus in love matters. It easy to tell whether the person is monogamous or polygamous by nature. A strong thumb indicates a lot of focus and such a person concentrates his/her love on one partner. Such a man will love a woman not for mere sex but because of many good diverse factors. All the forces are oriented towards his object of love. Such a person makes a good relationship. For a weak thumb, the opposite is true.

The better the shape of the thumb, the more decency and polish is employed when it comes to making love. If the thumb is hard or course the sex will be rough and in its uncultured and most primitive form. If the thumb is not rigid or if it is flexible, this interprets to love instability. The love is not so constant. In other words the person's sentiments keep shifting. They generously give out love for little returns. As long as they love they are known to be splendid lovers. The problem is they find it hard to focus on one subject for a long period of time. Stiff thumb is more promising in constant love and stability. While using palmistry for successful relationships, remember stability varies in degree and you should not dismiss the idea of marrying the person with a supple thumb. If you are the type of people who are uncomfortable with too much attention and dating jealousy people, he is the one for you.

10 Ways How Passion Can Turbocharge the Law of Attraction

Like all laws, there is always a fundamental truth and in the Law of Attraction, it is Passion. If you want the Law of Attraction to work in your life, you need to approach it with passion and intensity. Do you believe it?

Here are 10 reasons why passionate people are able to fuel the Law of Attraction in their lives are:

1) Passion Flames Focused Action.Action takers create results but not all results are positive ones. But doing anything is better than doing nothing at all because all actions bridges the gulf between the spiritual and the physical realms. Focused actions means focused energy and activity, resulting in turgocharged results.

2) Passion Fuels Our Desired OutcomesA lack of passion results in a lack of ambition and desire to achieve optimum results. But when we do something with passion, our results are almost guaranteed to be excellent.

3) Passion Opens The Floodgates of Creative InspirationHaven't you experienced this before. When you are passionate and excited about something, your mind becomes like a creative force that cannot be stopped. You develop one amazing idea after another. But when you are lackadaisical about something, nothing creative comes to mind no matter how much time you spend on it. Like resonance, passion is a higher frequency vibration that will attract more high-frequency vibrations " like creativity and ingenuity. And when the two frequencies are in harmony, you get extreme results!

4) Passion Turbocharges Your ResultsWhether youre focused on increasing your financial abundance or creating a work of art, your strong flames of passion and emotion will usually propel your results so that you achieve what you want more quickly that you would ordinarily.

5) Passion Inspires Clear Vision On The Way AheadLife is full of choices and that includes the paths we take. No one path is correct or wrong but some paths are more difficult to tread on than others. Passion helps us to choose the right path by giving us greater clarity and insight because of its importance and meaning to us.

6) Passion Keeps You Firmly In The PresentA nature of a passionate person is that they are completely immersed in what they are doing at the moment. They do not worry about the future or dwell in the past. Look at any athlete, they live for the moment they are playing. Nothing else matters. Not the past or future games. It is the next point. Not the end score. So if we can learn to focus on our current activities, we will enjoy them more and achieve more.

7) Passion - An Escape from ComplaintsPassion shifts our attention to focus better on what we do want instead of complaining and being unhappy about what we do not want. When we indulge in our passion, we will have less time to focus on what we do not have - the unhappy and negative things. And we start attracting more of the positive things!

8) Passion Means No FearPassion fills you with an adrenaline rush that blocks out all fears and resistance. Instead of anxieties, passion drives you forward and enables you to do things you never could have done.

9) Passion Extends EnduranceJust consider. How often do we spend hours and hours on what we are passionate about and still feel that time has flown right by? Working on the car, waiting for the prize catch. We easily get lost in it willingly and because of that, we accomplish much more that what we would have otherwise. This This can also create more expansive results than you would otherwise receive.

10) Passion Begets PassionThe more we invest in our passion, the greater our passion. It is like love or any other emotion. The more we love, the more we are loved. The more we give, the more we receive. Passion begets passion and the flames will spread quickly and you will burn even brighter!

The Law of Attraction speaks about the vibrations you emit to the universe. If you emit strong emotions, like your passion, it will eventually return to you in the same or similar form. So if you want to reap what you sow, make sure your infuse whatever you do with passion and energy and just marvel when this creates a circle of love, joy and abundance in your life!