Mr.Nice Guy

How do you define a Nice Guy?

From EK: How do you define?

A nice guy.
always helpful....
looks out after you....
likes you but is too chicken to do anything about it....
fearful of getting hurt/not a risk taker....
makes her more important than him....
doesn't like his job all that much…nor his car, nor his apartment. He settles.....
Spends two hours helping you put your gfs wedding party favors together....
listens and coaches you endlessly on all the jackass, old bf issues....
comes to pick you up when you've walked out on jackass…again....
consoles you on the 2am jackass text message that you just received even though he has a big meeting the next morning....
allows the gf of the girl he likes to tag along on dates....
becomes best friends with the mom of the girl he likes thinking that will give him an edge....


is easy going to the point of being indecisive ....
holds your purse at the mall....
fuck, he actually goes with you to the mall!....
Buys you tampons
a good man.
winner! we want one of these!....
Solid....
Consistent....
good morals, values, ethics, has integrity....
balanced....
respects her....
respects himself....
clear communication....
knows that its not all about him....
knows that if he gives a little, he gets back a little, plus interest....
humble and modest....
doesn't boast about his penis size, wallet, or car....
has a penis that knows how to get the job done, has a wallet that takes care of the essentials, has a car that you would be proud to put dad in the back seat, but doesn't brag about any of it.....

Actually knows that he doesn't know everything....
Cherishes you, on his terms, not yours.....
Holds your hair for you when you have to throw up....
With 3,000 different daily coffee orders, he knows your Starbucks order....
Declares you a saint because you can suck a golf ball through a garden hose....
Gives you tailpipe because he knows that is what you like....
Loves you even more because you haven't given him any shit for getting drunk, hanging out with the boys, and various other daily fuck ups (shy of cheating)....
Gets your stamp of approval. "Honey, im gonna do x. what do you think?"....
Makes decisions (this is a big one). Does NOT play the typical, male, passive-aggressive shit. ....

Pays attention to the little things
Is pretty damn good but always thinks he can improve
If something's wrong, he won't just walk out, he tries to fix it, even if it turns out that the problem is rooted in him. ........
Makes it known that hes the luckiest man alive to have you....

He doesn't give you what you want, he gives you what you need (emotionally)
a player.
someone who lies or deceives a girl for the purpose of getting sex
a jerk.
someone who thinks the sun rises and sets on him....
Selfish....
Selfish. Did I say selfish? Ya, selfish!....
Someone who thinks hes gods gift to women....
Someone who thinks you're gonna do him just because he has an 8" inches....
Someone who thinks you're gonna do him just because he is 24 years old (if youre older)....


Someone who thinks they know everything....
Someone who thinks he is somehow different and doesn't act like most men (trust me, he does act like most men)....
Someone who thinks women think the exact same way he does just because he thinks that way
Gosh, as I was writing this list, the one about....
He doesn't give you what you want, he gives you what you need (emotionally).

really got to me. this particular quality really makes me fall and fall hard. I'm not talking about material things, like he gives you a toaster because you need a new toaster. That's sometimes an ew, as men commonly give practical things. Im talking about emotional things.

It means he listened to such a good degree that he knows exactly what you need. Sometimes, its something you don't wanna hear. Sometimes, its something you haven't thought of. He doesn't give you what you want, as that is patronizing and catering to you, which would kick him back down to Nice Guy status. In order to do this skill effectively, he is CONFIDENT, CONNECTS WITH YOU, AND CARING. A trifecta! The guy who comes to mind who did this skill perfectly I only got let go because he didn't have the CONSISTENCY factor going on.

He took too long between calls, like 2-3 weeks, ya, I know he was super busy, but still. Also, he would run hot and cold. Sometimes he was deep and very intimate other times he was aloof and callous. Otherwise, a guy who has this quality, I would value you and never let go.
So there you have it. Now you know what keeps you in nice guy (friend) status. Use the list wisely.

"Forever Love"

Love stays when it would be easier to go. Love endures long past the point of lost patience. Love sees past physical imperfections and age to the beautiful heart of a person. Love says I'll stay with you even if your body is ravaged by disease, even though I feel like I might die of wanting to make love under a clear blue sky, but never will because you can't do it with me and I'll never leave.

Love stays past the point of frustration. Love tries again and again and again. Love is patient.

Love isn't infatuation or lust or a fuzzy, feel good thing. It's not comprised of candy coated words, nor does it need endless affirmation. Love can hurt like hell. It can sting. It almost always involves doing the hard thing and not what's easy.

Forever love only happens when two people endure and MAKE IT forever love. It's not something one can fall into or out of. It's something that we create over time, again and again, every time we choose to stay, until eventually the line between us blurs and we're so "one" we can't tell where you end and I begin and the skin on our hands is paper thin and spotted.

©Just Kate

I obviously can't encapsulate "forever love." This is simply how I see it today. ♥

"How To Secure Your Relationship'

Do you feel uncertain about the future of your relationship?

Would you feel more confident in your relationship if you knew exactly what to say and do so thatyour man would ALWAYS feel that being with you and staying in a committed relationship with you was worth it, no matter what kind of challenges you're having?Challenges like tough financial times, stress,temptations from other women, and disagreements?

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Do you sometimes wish that men could just be moreHONEST with you?Do you feel discouraged by dating because the menyou meet actually LIE about what they want fromdating, what their background is, what they do fora living and sometimes even lie about whether ornot they're AVAILABLE?

To where sometimes you end up involved with a man who is already seriously dating another woman, orworse - is married?

Not good.If these are situations that you run into a little more than you'd like, then keep reading because in this topic I'm about to reveal the "MAGIC ATTITUDE" that actually inspires a man to be completely up front and honest with you about such things as:--

If he's looking for something serious or casual-- If he's seeing other people -- If you're the kind of woman he's drawn to -- If he's ready to"settle down" or not As a matter of fact, with this magic attitude, you may be able to get a man to reveal a lot more than he would ever reveal on his own, without prompting, and the ADDED BENEFIT of this is tha the will feel more "connected" with you because he'll feel he can tell you just about ANYTHING.

He'll feel more attracted to you because he'll feel more understood and appreciated by you.This is why I call this attitude "magic." It not only inspires honesty from a man, it makes him feel
more connected to you at the same time.Nice.I

If you're single and dating right now, this mindset or attitude can actually help you qualify the right man and avoid Mr. Wrong as early in thedating process as possible, perhaps even before youmeet in person for the first time (if you'reonline dating).And if you're in a relationship, it can help you get to the bottom of what he's thinking and feeling, so you can know why he's with drawing, ifhe's open to taking things to the "next level," orwhat's holding him back from fully committing to you.But first, there's a fundamental question that seems to bother a lot of women.

Why does this even have to be an issue, anyway?

Why can't a guy just be up-front and honest with you?Why, for example, is it so hard for a man to tell you why he's not calling as often or why he stopped asking you out, especially when he seemed so "into you" in the beginning?

You go out on a few dates with a guy, and you think everything is going great.then he stops calling. He doesn't respond to your emails ortexts. It's like he's dropped off the face of the earth. Maybe you even realized that he was a nice enough guy, but you didn't know him well enough yet to fall in love or anything.But still.you wish you could at least hear WHY he stopped calling, stopped asking you out, stoppedr esponding to your messages.You just wish he could be HONEST with you.

It's no big deal - you can handle it. Right?Hmmm.perhaps, but that's not how HE may be seeing things.

WHY MEN WILL LIE TO YOU

Imagine this scenario:You're on a first or second date with a man and it's going really well.You're laughing, you're having a great conversation and you seem to have a lot in common, it's almost scary how similar your attitudes are about certain things.You feel an intense "chemistry" between you.



He's staring at you with that "look" that tells you he is very attracted to you.He even talks about places he'd like to take you to someday.You are almost positive that this is the beginning of something meaningful with this guy.But a day or two goes by after the date and you don't hear from him. Then a week, then two weeks.You send him a message, "Haven't heard from you in a while. How are you?"But he doesn't respond. You never hear from him again. You beat yourself up, analyzing everything you did and said on the dates to see if maybe you accidentally put him off.

Months later, you find out the truth from someone else. During the time he was dating you, he was also dating another woman, and was now getting more "serious" with her.You feel confused and disappointed, and a bitannoyed that he didn't just tell you the TRUTH about what was going on.Why didn't he tell you the truth - either before,during or after he went on a date with you?

The truth would have been a whole lot better than days or weeks WONDERING and beating yourself upover nothing. Right? Of course it would.So why does a man lie to you? Why does he avoid telling you the truth about a situation?The answer is simple.A man will lie to you because he hates confrontation.He FEARS your emotional response. He fears your rejection of him. He fears that HE won't be ableto "handle" your response.He's imagining that you're going to cry, scream,be disappointed, argue, or complain.

He fears being put on the spot or "attacked."Understand - I'm not saying you would do any ofthose things.I'm just telling you what that guy - who maybe doesn't know you all that well yet - is thinking.You may be a cool cucumber. Totally able tomaturely handle whatever he tells you.It doesn't matter - somewhere in his past, there was a woman or two who did in fact overwhelm him with her emotional response, and it FREAKED himout.He could have just said, "Hey, I am dating anotherwoman right now, and I've decided that I want toget to know her better. I think you're great, butI also feel that I want to give this other situation a chance.

"Instead, he tells you NOTHING--he avoids you,stops calling, and hopes that he won't ever haveto face your criticism and judgment.It's not a particularly mature and considerate thing to do, but that's the reality of how it is with a lot of men. Not all, but definitely a lot.They don't even realize in the moment how YOU'RE feeling.all they know is that they have to do whatthey must do to avoid that confrontation they fear.

Despite this, there's reason to be hopeful that you can create the space for a man to be honest with you with really no effort.And here's something else you need to know.there's a "window of opportunity" for getting the most honesty right away, so you can screen out the men who are Mr. Wrong from the start.Be sure to know when that window is open for you,and take advantage of it.

WHY FIRST AND SECOND DATES ARE CRITICAL TIMES FOR HONESTY his is an interesting fact: a man will be MOST HONEST with you when he is NOT YET emotionally engaged or invested in your relationship yet.In other words, you can probably learn a LOT abouta man on a first or second date, when you're just getting to know each other.This is a time when he's not so afraid to share,because he's not afraid of disappointing you(since you don't know each other well enough yet).

This is when you should be listening VERY closelyto what man tells you.This is when he'll tell you things like, "I'm just looking for something casual and fun right now. Ijust got out of a long-term relationship and not into getting into the same situation anytime soon."Or he might laugh and say, "I'm a lifetime bachelor. Settling down doesn't interest me in theleast."Or, he might reveal some other dark secret, "My ex was an unhappy woman. Always complaining about onething or another about me."And that's when you need to HEAR what he's saying.And take him seriously. Know what you're in for.The man you choose is the man you get.

THE ATTITUDE & THE THREE MAGIC WORDS THAT INSPIRE HONESTY

When you want to inspire honesty in a man, so that you let him know that he is "safe" when he shares with you, you have to have what I call the"Anything is OK" attitude.Now, this doesn't mean that anything is OK for aman to do, and that you're supposed to acceptanything he does and have no boundaries or limitations.The attitude is more like you thinking, "Anythingis OK for you to share with me, but I know what Iwill and will not tolerate in my life, and what Iwant. But you can TELL ME anything. I can handle it.

"How do you communicate this attitude?

Easy.With the three little words: "I'm just curious."It can go like this."Are you seeing anyone right now? I'm justcurious?""What kind of relationship are you looking for?I'm just curious.""What kind of woman do you most admire? I'm justcurious.""Where do you see yourself in the next five years?I'm just curious."Using these three words not only lets a man knowthat you'll be OK with whatever he tells you, butthat you're not needy or too aggressive, and hecan feel safe telling you just about anything.Just don't stare at him, holding your breath,waiting for his answer. That defeats the purpose -BIG TIME.

Here's the deal.It's not that a man is afraid of certain questions. It's just that the WAY a womanasks those questions makes him feel strange.If a woman warns, "You're not seeing anyone elseright now, are you?"

It almost automaticallyinvites DISHONESTY in a man.If you want to inspire sincerity in a man, youmust have the "Anything is OK" attitude and usethose 3 magic words to get the most honestresponse possible.That way, you won't waste a lot of time going ondates with "unavailable" men, men who haveskeletons in their closet, aren't over their ex,or are actually interested in a different kind ofrelationship than you are.

Wouldn't you benefit from knowing exactly how to use the "anything is OK" attitude to screen out the right man from all the wrong ones? How to know if the man you're with now is really being honestwith you about where the relationship is headed?Or if he's lying?In my CD/DVD program, "Meeting The One," I explainhow to use the Anything is OK Attitude to maximizeyour success in dating and relationships.You'll learn how to screen for potential jerks byknowing what to do and say even BEFORE you agreeto meet on a first date.And in this program, I'll teach you what to do andsay to create amazing chemistry with the RIGHT MANand how to constantly be increasing the level ofATTRACTION between you. You'll learn:--

How certain phrases you speak can be a DEAL-BREAKER for a man when he hears it the first fewtimes he dates you.and how to avoid these at allcosts-- How to make a man see your VALUE by the thingsyou say or not, so that he will believe your"status" to be high and therefore will benaturally attracted to you-- How to make a man feel ATTRACTION from thefirst five minutes all the way through the firstfive dates using specific "counterintuitive"actions-- The secret to drawing a "non-committal" mancloser to you by making yourself a "challenge" inhis eyesIt's all right here, totally risk-free. You cantry my Meeting The One program free for a monthand learn all my best secrets to flirting, datingand attracting a man to you from the moment youmeet him:http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/MeetingTheOne

If you have a handle on dating and flirting, butyou are often confused by what men do and say,then there's something I want to ask you.Wouldn't you love to have more insight into whymen do the things they do, so that you could feellike you UNDERSTAND men better (and therefore havebetter relationships)?

Over the years, women have asked me the same kindof questions over and over about men, dating andrelationships:-- What makes a man "fall" for a woman? What's thesecret?-- How can I get him to really listen to me andget me?-- Why do men cheat? Do all men want to cheat?-- How can I affair-proof my relationship?-- What do men look for in a woman before they decide she's "The One"?--

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In my "Inside the Mind of a Man" program, I helpyou understand what a man's words and actionsreally mean, and I bust the common "man myths"that are keeping you from truly and completelyconnecting with a man.To learn instantly what the 3 most common anddestructive myths are about men that are holdingyou back from love, and can tear apart anotherwise great relationships, click here and readthis:http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/IMM

I know that the easiest way to help you find and connect with a GOOD man is to teach you the skills to get the most honesty possible from a man, and then know what it takes for a man to feel deeply in love with you.

Do you ever wonder why a man will spend time"zoning" out in front of the TV or totally absorbed in sports, or tinkering in the garage orbrowsing the Internet? Or why he hates to "talk"about the relationship?Men have different needs when it comes to relaxingand unwinding. They also have different needs whenit comes to intimacy and getting physical.You probably know what those are. Or do you? Findout by reading about the 3 Man Myths and the truthbehind what men REALLY need and want:http://chkhmail2.com/click.html?x=a62a&lc=0zpS&mc=6&s=DWei&y=u&

"Majority Of Males Go For Cool Chics"

Traits of a cool chick part 1

A Cool chick doesn't get BORED because she knows how to use her own brain and have fun whether she is wealthy and has all kinds of creature comforts and gadgets or if she is broke and living in a place less than desirable. In fact a person that is lacking, it seems, would have more drive to DO something than someone who already HAS done and thus has. So please don't tell me that u r bored cause I may throw a book at u. lol......+..

A Cool chick realizes that there is something bigger than herself; not only GOD but also the people that are suffering in this world, the sick, starving, deprived, wrongfully incarcerated, and others in need.....
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A Cool chick is one that stays in shape who realizes her body is like a temple and must be cherished, have a lovely fragrance, and kept in shape for she never knows when service might be performed on her grounds.....
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A Cool chick knows when her partner/friend isn't feeling well or is sick and that even if he says he's ok and that she doesn't have to stay with him that is only cause he is being a hard ass like most men but really still want the love/caring of the chick to help encourage him to feel better.......+..

A Cool chick knows how to be respectful and think about what she says before she says it. She chooses her words with care and wisdom.....

A Cool chick is not quick to argue but would rather defuse than infuse anger and destruction.....
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A Cool chick does not tell u one thing and then do another; like say she's going to give u that awesome back rub or other thing perhaps more freaky and then doesn't follow through with it cause she's too tired or some other bs. Hahaha, if ya say ya gonna do it, then ladies, DO IT! Think of NIKE.
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A Cool chick doesn't say she loves u, that she could see being with you forever, and that the Lord above must have sent u 2 her, when really all she wants to do is F#ck. Come on, us real men can take the truth, if that's all u want, most won't look down on u 4 it. We don't have time for mixed up lil girls that have horni lil bodies which they can't control and thus say whatever they can to try and get what they want. I know lil boys play this game 2 but girls u should know better than to play this way. How would u feel if a dude did this to U!? "I love u baby oh so much" and then the next day he act as if those words didn't mean a damn thing?

5 Ways to Get a High Quality Boyfriend

Women constantly complain that they cannot find quality men. Only last night I listened to a long time friend of mine mouth the recurring theme of "no good men left."

Well the truth be told, high quality things are not easy to find. High quality, valuable stones are not only expensive but very rare. Their value is proportionate to their scarcity. Gold, diamond and other precious stones are premium because they are not easy to come by.

Accept that quality men are a rare breed

My first suggestion in finding a quality man is to accept that he will not be waiting for you around the street corner or knocking on you door tomorrow. Understand and be prepared to sift through the rubble to find your diamond of a man. Most diamonds actually come in the rough. They have to be cleaned, cut and polished. I do believe that you may have to kiss many frogs to find your prince.

Quality men are not always "ready made."

Although many women would not admit many women behave as if the man they want has to be "ready made." That is they should possess with most if not all of the qualities they dream about.

"I don't want someone I have to work on," Ashley told me in no uncertain terms, after I pointed out that Chris is a work in progress. Ironically I do think the she needs some polishing herself as she can be very brash and blunt.

Be a high quality person

Well that brings me to my third point; in order to get a high quality man, you need to be a high quality woman. You cannot be a pig and expect to attract a peacock. That is not the way it works in real life. If you want an intelligent person, you need to cultivate your intellect. If want a person of class and dignity you need to be classy and dignified. I think it was Ghandi who said you need to be the change you want to see in the world.

While opposites attract it is similarity that binds people together.

Have many high quality friends and associates

A corollary point to this is that you need to have quality friends. Birds of a feather not only flock together but they attract similar birds that also bring their friends and family along. The important point here is simply to have friends and associates like the person you want to attract in your life. Each of these people, have a network of friends, one of whom may be the person you are looking for. Many people admit that they met their husband through a friend, colleague or family. Someone once said that you are only six persons away from what you want. In other words someone you know, knows someone, who knows someone else, etc who can put you in touch with who and what you want. Start expanding your base of friendship to include people of the same ilk of the person you desire.

Lastly but certainly not least, if you are looking for a high quality man, you need to go to high quality places. High quality places should not be interpreted to mean expensive places. It simply means you should frequent places where many of these types of people hang out. For example if you want an ambitious man you should going inspirational and motivational meeting or even meetings where investment and money making ventures are discussed and taught. If love and admire people who can speak elegantly maybe you should join Toast Masters International. The chance of you finding a compatible person in these meetings is significantly increased.

In summary, to find a quality man:

1. Accept that the process is not going to be a piece of cake. Good things are not easy to acquire. Good men are hard to get. Accepting this makes the process a lot easier.
2. Realize that the gem you are looking may not first appear like a polished diamond.
3. To get a quality man you must also be a quality woman.
4. To increase the probability of meeting a quality man have lots of quality friends and associates
5. To heighten your chances of meeting a quality man visit places where quality men gather.

Tips on How to Get Girls to Notice You

Reasons Why Girls Can't See You - 5 Tips on How to Get Girls to Notice You

You're not a ghost are you? But why do the girls seem to see right through you? If you've always been the guy women never seem to see or the only guy in the group everyone hardly remembers, it's time you try to get a little acknowledgment. Or get noticed at least.

You need poise, you need confidence, and you need to build rapport! You have to have that X-factor that makes you more noticeable. It's time you know how to get girls to notice you. Eliminate all the possible aspects of your personality that makes you a victim of being unnoticed. Here are give of the worst traits you wouldn't want to have and get rid of them one by one.

1. You're probably too shy. If you are too shy, you will definitely have a difficult time attracting girls. Girls are prone to not noticing guys who hardly make noise or are hardly heard so if you want to be on their radar, try to be more active and more confident. Walk with poise and make people know that you know how to handle yourself and you are fun to be with. Try to be less timid and joke around with people sometimes.

2. You lack a sense of humor. Your seriousness could probably be getting in the way of being noticed. Not a lot of guys have the perfect sense of humor and you could be one of them, but try to be lighter and happier than your usual self. Share jokes sometimes, learn to laugh at other people, as well as yourself, but if you want to keep an intriguing side of yourself, do so. Instead of always being the clown, be funny sometimes while on other days, be serious also. In short, keep a balanced personality.

3. You probably need to do something about your hair, or your attire. You appearance can say so much about you and if you want to be considered as someone who dresses well, then simply, dress properly. Be neat at all times, wear color coordinated clothes, and try to keep your hair and teeth clean. Women can notice you by your appearance alone, because first and foremost, attraction starts with one's physical appearance. Put a thought into your looks before setting out to meet people; however, don't be vain. Remember, moderation is key.

4. You don't converse with people. If it is hard for you to lose shyness, it'll actually be harder for you to simply converse with people; and talking with people is a big way for you to get noticed. You must know how to talk to people and how to befriend them. Remember, people who hardly make a sound are most likely easier to forget and if you don't want to fall under that unfortunate list of the forgotten, then start talking and start making friends.

5. You lack originality. A lot of guys lack the most important trait of all and that's simply by being themselves. They tend to pretend they're someone famous and some might even dress like a celebrity, but end up to be a big turn-off for women instead. Women hate imitators of a certain person and would most definitely want someone to act like himself instead. To impress women, you must act as yourself and not as anybody else.

It's time you get rid of these 5 distracting traits if you want to know how to get girls to notice you. If you want your presence to be appreciated, then try to befriend people while at the same time, acting like your own usual self. The key on how to get girls to notice you is simply confidence and acting yourself.

"Be What Men Wants....To Nail Them"

He wants a woman who…

1. Can be his best friend (with boobs).

Notice I didn’t write “IS his best friend” – that scenario is about as rare as its chances are of succeeding, but it happens. What I mean here is that in addition to romantic dinners, going out on the town and the slow passionate love-making – occasionally, you’ll pull his finger. Yes, I’m saying you need to bring yourself down to our level – sometimes. Wear a baseball hat, high five us, trash talk with the best of them, have a beer instead of a cosmo and truly appreciate a nice ass in a short skirt when it walks by – in other words, be “one of the guys” SOMETIMES. More importantly, know when to switch off the girlfriend and switch on the best friend. Guys can be deeper than you think and sometimes we just want to talk and not have every reply going through the “girlfriend filter”. Show him you’re really with him through all of his manly moments and he’ll truly love you for it.

Note: Sorry girls, this is one you can’t fake. Either you’re this type of girl or you’re not – and if you’re “acting” we’ll spot it a mile away. You know, when you take your man to the mall and you ask him what he thinks of that great pair of shoes, he says, “they’re great honey” and you’re pointing at a dress. Yeah, like that.
2. Has outside interests.

Go out with the girls. Go to lingerie parties. Go play ice hockey. Just go somewhere. Neither sex likes having the other up their ass 24/7. In other words, don’t make ME your hobby. We ALL need space – sometimes it would be nice if we could actually GO to space and drink our own recycled pee for 30 days on the International Space Station. Those of you that have been there know EXACTLY what I’m talking about. “Me time” is very important to the success of any relationship.

3. Has an original thought.

I love personal ads. It’s always fun reading the different ways people try to sum themselves up in the allotted space. I have read a LOT of them. I have to tell you that NINETY percent of them are damn near identical.

QUOTES: “Must love dogs” – “Live life to the fullest” – “Love like you’ve never been hurt” - “Dance like nobody’s watching” blahdy blah blah blah. My favorite: “I’m SUCH a Carrie!!” Really? That’s the best you can come up with? You’re out there looking for a date and hopefully you have a lot to offer and the best you can come up with is “I’m such a Carrie”?? I really doubt “Carrie” would write a personal ad describing herself as some pre-packaged TV character from a show that at its peak was mediocre at best.

INTERESTS: “Desperate Housewives” (vomit), “Sex and the City”(overrated), “Grey’s Anatomy” (yawn…ducking), Dave Matthews Band (ducking and running) “Long walks on the beach” - Long walks on the beach??? You live in NEBRASKA. Now if you lived on Long Island or any other COASTAL REGION, I could buy it.

Ok, I’m kidding. Sort of. By all means, have your girly shows and interests, but show me your brains too. I want to know you’ve read something other than the latest issue of US! Weekly. I want to (rarely) be able to intelligently discuss world events, politics or even Shakespeare without the phrase “oh, he reminds me of Big” ever coming into the conversation. Smart women are sexy as hell. For me personally, I am a total trivia dork and any girl that can hang with me gets mad bonus points. The flip side of this coin? ESPECIALLY when it comes to politics – don’t be one of those stubborn people that believes your views are the only RIGHT views. That is just complete ignorance and a total turn off. I like to call it “being confident in your ignorance”.
4. Knows how to pick her battles.

Everybody fights at some point. I refuse to ever be in a relationship (again) where arguing or fighting is a regular occurrence. Any of you that are in a relationship right now where that is “normal”. Get out. It’s not. Stop justifying it. But, since even the best of friends, family and loved ones will eventually throw down – make sure it’s something that’s worth it. If I tell you I’ll be home by 11 and I show up at 12:30 and I didn’t call, let it go. If I tell you I’ll be home by 11 and I show up at noon the next day with a hickey – pick THAT battle. Now that’s a little extreme I guess – so let’s go with the old toilet seat. Now I was raised (for the most part) by my mother – so I am very well trained. But seriously, is a split second glance to make sure it’s down is that so difficult? Now if it’s down and he’s just peeing all over it – pick THAT battle. It seems so simple to me but for some people it’s damn near impossible. Stop and think to yourself if what your mad about is REALLY worth the argument, the harsh words, the hours or days of silent treatment – most of the time, it isn’t. Most of the time you’re actually mad about something entirely different that is a much bigger problem than what you are picking this fight about. Which leads me to…

5. Is an excellent communicator.

Oh this one is HUGE. You women LOVE to think we can read your mind. I’m going to let you in on a little secret: We can’t. I was dating this girl once and she came out of the bathroom completely naked and says to me, “What do you think?” I began to have an immediate panic attack. Here’s what went through my head in 1.2 seconds flat:

“oh fuck. I’m usually really good at this game, but she’s naked. So it’s not the shoes, not the outfit. Hair is the same. She hasn’t been tanning. Nothing new looks pierced. No tattoos. It can’t be as simple “I think you’re hot let’s fuck”….naaaah….don’t fall for that one dumbass. Nails done? Nope. Waxed? Nope. Shit hurry up she’s GONNA KNOW YOU DON’T KNOW….”

And then it was over. I took too long.

She says, “oh my god, how can you NOT notice??”

She had tweezed a few eyebrow hairs.

Seriously.

Again, I use the silly example. Communication is so important. If you aren’t going to tell me anything and everything that I need to know in order to better understand you and you leave me to make my own assumptions, chance are high that I’m gonna get some shit wrong. Tell me immediately if I’ve said something that has hurt your feelings and tell me why if it’s not obvious and I’ll apologize on the spot. Don’t give me the “whatever” and go off and pout and expect me to “just know” and then scream at me 5 hours later because I left the toilet seat up. Also, the same goes for sex. And on the “non-arguing” end of it, don’t be afraid to engage me in a debate.

As a matter of fact, PLEASE DO! I love a good debate and I’m open to being taken to school by somebody and learning new things and possibly changing my point of view. An intelligent debate makes a mighty fine aphrodisiac…
6. Loves herself.

This one is pretty simple. You ladies like confident men. Well it goes both ways. We are all our own worst critics and you women are spoonfed – check that – dumptruckfed nearly impossible images of the female form everywhere you turn. So it’s tougher for you, I get that. But if we’ve made it to date #2 – chances are very high that you’ve passed the physical portion of the dating audition. Now if we get to date #whatever date we get naked – and I pull off your dress and find you squeezed into an XS wetsuit that I unzip and suddenly there’s 3 of you where there once was just one – we may have a problem. Seriously though, curves are sexy, freckles are cute, scars are even hotter and any woman worthy of calling herself a real woman has a few stretch marks – we really don’t care.

We REALLY don’t. If we’re naked, I’m not contemplating a Vanity Fair cover shoot – I want to connect with you. But I also want to feel and explore every inch of you before I do and it’s YOU that made me want you…and that’s hard to do with someone that is constantly putting themselves down, pointing out their flaws or fishing for compliments. Take pride in the woman you are and I promise I’ll make you feel like one.

7. Loves me.

I kind if have to make this one personal because I can’t speak for every guy. By “loves me”, I mean you really have to love ME. The whole package. I’m well aware that there are some men out there that have it all – looks, personality, hot body, loaded – I am not one of those guys. I never have been and never will be. But don’t mistake that for a lack of confidence. I am very confident in what I DO have to offer.

I consider myself to be slightly better than average looking if I’m being honest with myself and I’m built like the Pillsbury Dough Boy with about the same shade of white for skin color. And yes, I make that noise if you poke my belly. Beyond the average looks and the lack of shape I’m in – I LOVE ME.

I have gone through more up and downs and lived the shit out of my life and I have finally become the man I want to be. I’m a little bit funny, have a larger than life personality, just about everyone I meet thinks I’m a pretty damn cool guy, I’m very smart, creative, I’m an awesome listener, I have huge arms that will make you feel tiny and safe, an excellent lover, awesome kissable lips and I can write ridiculously long run-on sentences. Oh, and I’m quite modest.

So you see, the upside of me far outweighs the downside of me – and I need someone that sees that and ultimately will love me for it.
8. Has a high sex drive and a firm grasp of her inhibitions (or lack thereof).

Great sex is one of the best things in the world. “Great” being the keyword. Anybody can go through the motions, roll over and go to sleep. However, variety, experimentation and having an open mind in the bedroom/kitchen/balcony/elevator/public library can go a long way to making a great relationship that much better. Role-playing, laughing at a trashy porno, fantasy fulfillment, and garden tools are all perfectly healthy for your sex life and encouraged so as to avoid the dreaded “routine”. Routine can kill even the best of relationships. In other words ladies, you don’t have to keep your toys hidden in your panty drawer or that special box under the bed anymore. We wanna watch! Really, we do.

9. Is capable of and understands compromise.

This one is pretty self-explanatory. A day at the mall = a day at the ballpark. A chick flick = a guy flick. Take turns sharing each other’s interests. It’s not all about either of you. It’s about both of you. If I plan a weekend consisting of driving the countryside, a picnic, antiquing and a bed & breakfast somewhere romantic for you – it’s your turn – figure out all by yourself a weekend of things I enjoy and you plan it. If I like the hunter green paint for the den and you like the periwinkle, we get the seafoam. The best relationships thrive on small sacrifices and compromise – without complaint.

10. She wants “the swing” too.

That says “the” swing not “to” swing. However, more power to swingers – I know a few and their relationships seem to work better than most. But that’s another blog entirely. Anyone that is a TRUE "T. Blog" fan will remember what “the swing” is. I posted a blog a LONG time ago trying to answer a similar question: “(T. Brad) What are you looking for in a woman?) I call it “the swing”. I’ll admit it sounds uber-cheesy, but it’s true. I am looking for someone that I can be with 20 years from now sitting on a porch swing overlooking the water and holding hands and making out or just rocking back and forth in silence with a sly grins on our faces because we both just “know”. If my grandfather were still alive today, he’d be on that swing next to my grandmother at this very moment and they’d be holding hands and smiling…

They were married for 50 years – till death did they part. They are my proof that great lifelong relationships can happen. So yeah, I call it “the swing”. I want that.

A ladies guide to men...truth about men.

It's not what's in her that makes a man fall in love, it's what happens in him that makes a man fall in love with her. Men feel a woman on many levels, but are usually unable to express it in words. for those men who disagree, I'm sorry that your gay or a player.

A woman is a whole being sensation; not just the body, but the heart and soul as well.

Our body:

Our hearts race. we start to sweat. we get butterflies, even when we're not hungry. our fingers and toes a get numb. our breathing stops. our shoulders feel lite, almost like we're flying. It's no wonder we fall all over our selves when you're around.

Our mind:

Around you; we get nervous, and our minds flood with the feelings we have for you. making us forget any rational thought. It's no wonder we haven't the right answers when it's needed. we're not always absent-minded, if anything our minds are overloaded. sometime love is too strong for one man's mind to handle.

When you're not around our minds get lost, like there's something missing. most men don't realize that it is "you".

Our heart and soul:

At first we let you into our lives, then our heart, and the our soul. You reach farther into us then just the body and mind, you become part of our soul. I guess that's why it hurt so much when we break-up. most men think that if we show you how we feel about you in it's entirety, that it would kill us when it goes away. probably self preservation of sorts, maybe I don't know.

I believe the we're born only half hearted, and the other half of us is out there waiting to be found.

WARNING: Feelings may vary from man to man, but it's usually like that.

"Attract Men, Be Different"

Be A Man Magnet

1. GET OUT OF THE HOUSE.

First things first...you can't attract a man if he can't
find you, so you've got to pry yourself away from those
"Friends" reruns and get out into the world. I know that
it can be scary and sometimes it seems much easier to
stay in your protected little bubble, but the reward you
stand to gain is definitely worth taking the risk. So put
your shoes on and let's go!

2. STEP OUT IN STYLE.

If you really want to attract men, you might need to
step up your style a notch... and NOT for the reason you
may think. I recommend wearing a colorful and flattering
outfit not just because you'll turn heads (though you
WILL), but because of the way it will make YOU feel.

Here's an illustration: When I get up at the crack of
dawn to walk my dog, I usually roll out of bed into a
sweat suit, throw my hair into a ponytail, and hide
behind my biggest, darkest sunglasses. I KNOW I look
like crap, so I pray that I don't run into any neighbors
who want to strike up a conversation or pet my dog. And
usually, no one even looks my way. When you put less
than your best effort into your appearance, not only will
you blend into the background, but you probably won't
feel up to meeting someone new anyway.

When you look your best, however, it changes your whole
demeanor. You know the phrase "take PRIDE in your
appearance?" Well, when you're proud of how you look,
your posture will straighten up, you'll feel more
confident, you'll be much more likely to make eye contact,
smile, and possibly even strike up a conversation with
someone new. That energy (fueled by self-esteem) will be
incredibly ATTRACTIVE to others.

3. WALK THE WALK.

Have you ever seen the way New Yorkers walk? They stride
very quickly, head down, eyes on the ground (or anywhere
that will prevent them from making eye contact of any
kind), and plow through anyone and anything in their way
to get to their destination as quickly and directly as
possible.

Now I don't mean to pick on New Yorkers. In fact, there's a REASON why most Manhattanites seem to walk the same way. With overwhelming crowds,
crime, people begging for money, and solicitors trying
to sell them something on every street corner, they
don't want to ATTRACT any attention.

However, if you're in a safe, well-lit area and are
familiar with your surroundings, I want to encourage you
to remember the words "Don't walk like a New Yorker."
Try walking this way instead: shoulders back, head up,
straight posture, moderate (not fast!) pace, arms
swinging slightly. You want your walk to say "I'm
confident" and "I'm open to possibilities."

If you're finding it difficult to cultivate a confident
walk, try this exercise. (It might sound a little goofy
but believe me, it works!):

Pick a song with an upbeat theme and a good, moderate
beat. This is going to be your theme song. (Can't think
of one? Here are 3 suggestions: "Put Your Records On" by
Corinne Bailey Rae, "Suddenly I See" by KT Tunstall, or
"The Sweet Escape" by Gwen Stefani.) Load the song on
your iPod or pop the CD in your walkman and take it with
you for a "practice walk." Walk to the beat (this is
subtle- you're not DANCING, you're just getting a good
pace to your steps), breathe, enjoy the lyrics, think
positive thoughts, and smile. You'll be amazed at how
walking to your theme song will give you a boost.

Now the next time you're out and about, I want you to
remember how you felt with your theme song. Hear the
song in your head and walk as if it's playing. Pay
attention to how your face feels. Are you scowling
without even meaning to? If so, soften the muscles in
your face and allow your mouth to curl up ever so
slightly into an almost-smile. Widen your eyes just a
bit so that you appear awake, interested in your
surroundings, and excited about the world around you.

Now notice how people who pass you begin to take notice
of you. It's subtle, but I guarantee that those who
aren't completely lost in their own little worlds will
acknowledge you in some way. Men might even smile back
or say hello! (If this doesn't happen right away, don't
be discouraged. Just practice this confident walk
wherever you go from now on, and you will soon notice a
difference.)

4. BE A BILLBOARD FOR HAPPINESS.

When you're excited about life, it shows... AND it rubs
off on others. People gravitate toward happy people
because they want the contentment that they have. So wipe
that scowl off your face, curb the cynicism, and radiate
the most positive energy you can muster. (If you're
finding this difficult to do, start the day by making a
gratitude list of 5 things you're thankful for - it can
be your health, your charmingly crooked smile, or even
your dog's unconditional love. This will definitely
change your outlook.)

Men are much more likely to approach a woman who is
smiling, laughing, and happily engaged with her
surroundings (rather than the frowning, hunched over
lady muttering complaints under her breath... who'd want
to spend time with HER?). Like the "Got Milk?" ad
campaign, try being a walking billboard for "Got Joy?"

5. BE CONSCIOUS OF BODY LANGUAGE.

I read a surprising statistic the other day: only 7% of
communication is verbal (that means 93% is nonverbal
body language).

In other words, your actions (very literally) speak
louder than your words.

If a man spots you across the room but you have your
arms folded across your chest, that sends the
subconscious signal "Stay away. I'm closed off."

Conversely, if your posture is good and your shoulders are
back, opening up your frame, it sends the message that
your heart is open to possibilities (even if he's not
consciously aware of it).

When you're engaged in conversation, leaning in toward
him conveys interest (that's when being in a loud, crowded
bar can work to your advantage! It gives you a legitimate
reason to lean in and speak in one another's ear, which
creates a connection).

If you're seated, crossing your legs and pointing them
toward him also sends the unspoken message that you're
interested. Very literally, it is the act of aligning
your body with his that signals, "we're in line with
one another."

The Man Women Really Want

The 10 Men Every Woman Wants

(If you only knew what she wanted all the time, you’d also know how to get what you want – all the time. BINGO!)She wants a man who…

1. Thinks she’s beautiful, no matter what.Any guy can pour on the compliments when she’s wearing that little black dress with the plunging neckline and the slit up to her ribs. Or pork chops. Or whatever. But the thing that will really keep her happy is making her feel beautiful at all times, like when she’s sunburned beyond recognition, or pale and sniffly from the flu, or suffering from cramps, or after a bus has run her over.

And remember, women can tell when you’re being genuine – if they don’t have heat stroke, vomit-inducing sickness or PMS, that is. Just don’t put her on an impossibly high pedestal. She’s scared of heights, you know. Appreciate her just as much when she’s in sweats as when she’s in stilettos. Living up to some ridiculous ideal just puts undue pressure on her and never lets either of you get fully comfortable.She wants a man who…

2. Is sensitive, but not a walking Hallmark card.The “but” part is key. And that key is being sensitive in the right way. For example:- Stop to scratch a Lab’s ears when you’re out for a walk.- Mention how cute your college buddy’s little boy is.- Drop a dollar in a street musician’s cup.

These kinds of understated gestures tell her a helluva lot more than a dozen roses – and best of all – they’re a helluva lot less expensive! She wants you to be able to express yourself and read into her feelings, but don’t get all sappy on her, it just makes you seem like less of a man.She wants a man who…

3. Is her biggest fan.You don’t have to suggest a ticker-tape parade every time she gets a pedicure (unless she got it on Mars). Instead, you just need to be verbally supportive of her ambitions and her triumphs. Why? Because in high school, she intimidated guys, and because she had that one boyfriend who tried to “punish” her because she wasn’t as successful.

Every girl has had one of those – it better not have been you. Brag about her accomplishments and don’t be threatened by her. Like her for who she is and don’t try to change her, even though she’ll always try to change you. She wants a man who…

4. Has outside passions.No – not a bunch of nymphos in a van down by the river. We’re talking about hobbies here. There is nothing much more excruciating than sitting across the table from a guy who is incredibly dull. A guy who doesn’t talk about anything but his incredibly dull job and says incredibly dull things like, “So that guy in Systems?

Who got called to the carpet? By that woman in accounting..?” She cares about your day and all, but spare her the play-by-play. Because a guy that who hangs out only with work people or who brags about how he’s saved up 26 months of vacation time is NOT a sparkling conversationalist. Even if he is decked out in rhinestones.She wants a man who…

5. Won’t cheat.Obvious? Not always. You’re innocent until proven guilty, right? Not in this case. In her court, you’re guilty unless you lay down the foundations of trust first. And you’ll want to do this fast, because her interrogations will make the Spanish Inquisition look like child’s play. She’ll get you when you least expect it too.

You can be out getting a coffee and she’ll be reading the latest copy of US Weekly and say something completely innocent like, “I can’t believe someone that looks like Jack Nicholson has the balls to cheat on his girlfriends…” – and she’ll wait patiently for the next few words that come out of your mouth. You just got pop quizzed big boy. WRONG ANSWER: “Hey, he’s Jack Nicholson, he can get any girl he wants.” RIGHT ANSWER: “I don’t get why people do that. Why bother being in a relationship in the first place?” Sneaky as hell isn’t she? She wants a man who…

6. Protects her.Even raging feminists were raised on stories of knights on white horses saving the day, which is why she’ll melt if you happen to be one of those knights. If your white horse was recently sent to the glue factory, try standing up for her in ordinary situations – to your friends, to your family, the maitre’d that just gave away your table, or the annoying Starbucks punk. But don’t go too far Rambo, there’s a fine line between chivalry and assault.She wants a man who…

7. Is a little unpredictable, in a good way.When you’re in a steady relationship, things can get old fast. That’s why you hate settling down and why she can’t resist a fly-by-the-seat-of-his-pants guy. If you’re spontaneous, you always keep her guessing, and THAT keeps things interesting over the long haul. A favorite of mine is to pack a bag for her – YES, YOU SHOULD be able to pack a bag for her and get it right – IF you pay attention. Pack her bag, throw it in the trunk out of sight, and take her away somewhere romantic for the weekend.Make use of every chance you get to show her some adventure.

TIP: A typical (not every) woman’s idea of adventure is a five-star hotel that serves frozen drinks with umbrellas, not driving fast while blind drunk and giving a hand job. To a hitchhiker.She wants a man who…

8. Tolerates her freakish quirks – and even thinks they’re cute.Does she buy handbag after handbag, all in similar shades of green? Refuse to pee on anyone’s toilet but her own? Mail letters one at a time? Get her tongue stuck in bowling balls? Let your strength be in your silence. She’ll infer tons simply from how you react to her oddly obsessive behavior. There’s no reason to ever make her feel like she’s not perfect, or damned close to it.She wants a man who…

9. Has a good sense of humor. (You thought I was going to forget this one didn’t you?)Every woman longs for a guy that can laugh – at himself and at life. It’s just more fun to be around someone who’s funny and easy and enjoyable. People, in general, who are funny usually have a good, upbeat attitude, which is more appealing than being around a grump. Just avoid laughing at her, which, for some reason, she won’t appreciate.

Here’s a few additional rules for this one:- Don’t be too self-depricating.- Keep the really gross-out humor to a minimum- Farts are not funny. Ok, they are, but not always…It’s also important to recognize her brand of humor. Just because her humor isn’t your humor, it doesn’t mean she isn’t funny. Furthermore, if she is funny, stop feeling so threatened and let her at it (read #3 again if you need to).But she also wants a man who…

10. Can be serious when it counts.On the other hand, when her appendix bursts, she doesn’t want you cracking jokes while she drowns in toxic bodily fluids. In a long-term relationship, women want a guy who’s solid, especially when the chips are down. And it isn’t just how you cope with the major crises.

Even if a minor mishap rocks her world, like her goldfish dies, don’t shrug it off or laugh. Instead, make it easy on her: She wants to know she can put her head on your shoulder. Without having to first remove it from her own.Yep. I think that about covers it. Just be ALL THOSE THINGS and I guarantee you eternal blissful happiness with SOMEBODY....

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1. Start by listening to him. Even if you do not agree with what he is saying make sure to listen to his point of view. This shows that you find him to be important and that it is not just about you.

2. You need to be different from other women and make sure to concentrate on him. However if it is all about him you have to be careful because you might end up with someone that does not care about you.

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3 Ways Women Accidentally Push Men Away‏

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Have you ever had a man break up with you orpull away all of a sudden? And you had no clue as to what caused it tohappen? Because as far as you could tell, everythingwas going great. You were spending tons of time together. Youhad an amazing "connection". And you KNEW that hisfeelings for you were real.

He might have even said the "L" word to youmore than a few times. LOVE. But for some reason, he just pulled away oneday. And it left you breathless and wonderingwhat had just happened. As the smoke cleared... and you startedthinking back on it, you remembered that hisbehavior HAD changed awhile back. And when it first did, it worried you.Actually, it worried you a lot. But you tried to ignore it.

And when you did say something to him about it,after it had been "eating at you" for a while, itonly seemed to make things between you worse. And he certainly didn't agree with orunderstand where you were coming from or what youwere upset about or afraid of.

So you tried to put it out of your mind andforget about it and hoped that it would just "goaway" on its own. But the more you did this, the more upset andfrustrated you got, because you STILL felt likesomething wasn't quite right underneath thesurface.

Something was going on inside him.Something was making him withdraw from youphysically and emotionally. Something had happened... and he was feelingand acting differently with you as a result. Something was wrong and you just couldn't putyour finger on what it was. And THAT is when things started to go from badto worse, and you started to feel and act OUT OF CONTROL.

The thoughts and feelings you were havingoverwhelmed you with FEAR. FEAR that he might not find you as attractiveas he used to. FEAR that maybe there was someone else he wasinterested in. And ultimately, the FEAR that he was gettingready to leave you... and you would lose him...forever.

So, to try and combat this fear, you started toact in ways that you NEVER would have actedotherwise. Ways that even YOU didn't like aboutyourself, and are probably even a little bitashamed to admit to now. You started to see that even though it wassomething you saw going on with HIM that was atthe root of the problem... YOU were the one whowas reacting in ways that were tearing yourrelationship apart.

YOU couldn't let go of the fear that wasfilling up inside you. And as a result, you shut yourself off from himand from the pain to try and protect yourself. But he wasn't able to pull you up from thisplace of anxiety and frustration by reassuring youand giving you more love and understanding. Andthings eventually got even worse as he pulledfurther away.

In a way, your feelings and actions actuallycaused the final breakup that you had feared tobegin with. Does this situation sound familiar to you?

Have you ever felt so out of control oroverwhelmed with a man that you ended up actuallyhelping along the very situation you feared most? Such as him LEAVING. When a man you're with starts to act"differently" - maybe he seems less interested inyou, or doesn't want to talk as much, or startshanging out with his friends more - it can be veryscary. Immediately you think to yourself "What did Ido to make him upset or angry?" or "How can I 'gethim back' close to me again?" That's only natural and understandable. However, acting out in a negative, emotionally-charged way only sets off a severereaction where you might begin to act or thinkin destructive ways.

Some women even try and "pre-empt" the pain orfear that they feel by pulling away or getting distant FIRST.

Here are 3 of the most common ways women letfear get the better of them and end up making menwant to pull away:

1. Becoming intensely negative, and accusing aman of abandoning them or wanting to leave when heacts "distant". This could be statements like,"You don't love me anymore, do you?""I know you're thinking of breaking up with me.""I can't stand how you're acting lately."

2. Finding ways to hurt or reject the man they'rewith inside the relationship before he can hurtTHEM (this might include belittling, name-calling,"nagging")

3. Acting out in ways that are sure to destroythe relationship... such as cheating. If you've seen other women go through this, oryou've done these yourself, then you already KNOWthat these ways of dealing with problems, fear, orinsecurity only get you farther away from what youwant - love and a more secure relationship.

And sure, there's almost nothing morefrustrating than being dedicated and committed toa relationship, and then seeing that the otherperson isn't as committed as you are. You mightfind yourself SO hurt or afraid because of this,that YOU become the one whose emotions andbehavior push you even farther apart.

It's enough to make you feel hopelesssometimes. Like you'll NEVER have a real and lovingrelationship. Well, the reality is there's something you CANdo that's CERTAIN to get rid of the fears andinsecurities that drive you and a man apart duringthe most critical of times. There's a way to get rid of that hopeless,frustrated, fearful, and reactive place inside youthat keeps you further away from experiencing truelove and a lasting relationship with a man.

And there's a proven way to make a man feel soAMAZING when he's with you that a man will KNOWonce and for all that you are THE ONE WOMAN FOR HIM.

You should need to learn how to bringout the natural and "magical" qualities youALREADY HAVE inside yourself that a man will be"magnetically" drawn to when he sees them in you(such as confidence, high self-esteem, humor,emotional "fitness")...

These are the kinds of things that BUILD attraction and connection in a relationship. I also show you exactly how to move past thefear, insecurity, and the "emptiness" you might befeeling that you think comes from not having theright relationship you want in your life rightnow. The truth is, you can't rely on a man to fillALL your needs for love and happiness. No one but you can start yourself down that path.

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Don't let what a man doesn't know, what he doesn't get, or your own fears stand in your wayof experiencing true and lasting love. It's time you start seeing past all the thingsthat are happening on the surface in your lovelife... and get to what's going on on a DEEPER LEVEL.

In my "Ready For Love" program I take youthrough exactly what you need to know and whatthis "deeper level" is. You'll learn to takecontrol of your feelings and regain the innerstrength that you may be missing right now. You know that you can't "solve" yourrelationship problems simply by telling a man howhe makes you feel - and then hoping he figures outthe rest of it.

It never works... and you KNOW it. And if you're getting in your OWN way andCAUSING the man in your life to pull away fromyou, then just trying to change the things you'resaying on the surface isn't going to make thingsthat much better, either.

You've tried all this, and it hasn't worked. It's time to get your own personal andemotional FOUNDATION together, so that when theright man is next to you, you'll not only"naturally" do and say things right, but you'll FEEL confident and make great things happen as aresult.

When you don't have this foundation togetherfor yourself, it doesn't matter WHAT you try andsay or do to a man... it doesn't come across theright way. No matter how much you want things towork he'll still be able to "see through you" andsee the insecurity, anxiety, or lack ofconfidence. And he'll walk the other way. I'm sure you've heard only 10% of ourcommunication is direct and verbal.

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