What makes a guy decide to marry?

I know this is a broad question that may not be easy to answer in full detail, but little bits of 'truth' would be enlightening, and even better since they're concise.This is 2008, and seriously, people I know personally are getting married left and right (this has not happened before, either that or I'm blind?!). There'd be 4 marriages this year for my friends (and to think I don't have THAT many..)

So, to cut to the chase, why do some people marry early, and some marry late, or date without marrying at all?I know this may be assuming that the guy makes all the marriage decisions, which ain't the case always, but being one-half of the couple duo, on the female side, I'm curious as to what guys think regarding marriage.

In essence: What makes a marriage-minded man and a bachelor-or-in-a-relationship-type man? This puzzles me, because I know 2 of my friends already married at 23-24, with their husbands not really much older.So, is it the girl that makes men decide to marry, or is it their innate "marrying" mechanism activating?

Men in general get bored easily & wants continuous adventure.They would want someone who could cope up with their energy.Someone would stimulate them intellectually,sexually,emotionally,physically & spiritually.Men wants a woman who will keep them guessing someone who is a little bit naugthy & mysterious.

Marriage trends go in waves, and it's peaking at it's crest once again. I swear, weddings are spreading like viruses! Everywhere you turn, someone is engaged, or a wedding commercial is on TV. I'll be honest here. The truth is, some men are more likely to settle down than others. Sure, you have your "Romeo and Juliette" couples from high school, but the fact is that most people are not easily lucky in love.

You may find that "soul mate", but most of us find a compatible partner that we happen to love. I'll exclude baby daddy dramas, lonely military men, friends turned lovers, and shotgun weddings for this next part. I'm talking about what it takes to find a husband with a blank slate.The main factor for men in deciding to marry is first readiness, second is YOU.

A man wanting to marry usually is:

-Got a good job-Done school and has a career.
-Has his own home
-Has had time to figure out what he wants in life, and for some, has "sowed" his oats.
-Religious men and men from certain cultures are often more likely to marry or want to marry sooner.
-Has friends that are married or engaged.

A man wanting to marry YOU usually wants you to be or have:

-Attractive, fit, and well kept.
-Educated or in school, and/or employed with career goals.
-Good personality.
-Someone who will get along with his family and friends.
-Similar social background, beliefs, and interests.
-Someone who respects themselves.
-Someone who will be a good wife and mom (in general, since different guys have different ideas of what this is).
-High sex drive, or willingness for lots of sex (if still a virgin and waiting until marriage).
-Some men prefer virgins, some prefer experience, some care less.

Most men just want a sensual and willing partner.Bottom line: Your man has to *be ready* to commit, and you have to have what he is looking for.

A man will marry when he knows that his ready and has found the one true person he knows he wants to spend the rest of his life with, sometimes thats not the case, sometimes the man is ready and the woman is the one that does not want to commit or the other way around and thats normal it happens.

A man will know the rigth time for him to setlle down & get married if he will meet the woman who will steal his heart and he knows deep down that no matter what else happens in his life, he would want that person to be in his life until the end. That's how I figured it out, and I guess I was raised that marriage is the final showing of commitment, other than being faithful for the rest of his life. Yet I believe living with someone first is the only true test as to how you actually get along with that person.

"Are Men Afraid To Be Engaged With A Serios Relationship?"

Engagement

Why are men so afraid of COMMITMENT?

If you think men are afraid of commitment, there's something you should know.

Some other women don't ever run into this problem with men.
In fact, some other women have the exact opposite problem- all the men they meet are stumbling over themselves just to try and have more of their timeand attention.

Guess what?

Men aren't afraid of commitment.

Men are falling in love and proposing and getting married every day.
The truth is that men are secretly craving thelasting love and affection of the right woman.
Especially women they feel attracted to, and whothey feel would make their lives better and happier if they were with.

How do men feel with you when things start getting"serious"?

How do you make them feel when the subject of commitment comes up?

And how do you feel talking about this with a man?

Men become uncertain and get confused about what to do and what they want when they're with a greatwoman for 3 reasons:

1) They really are "messed up" emotionally (inwhich case, I think you already know the deal andwouldn't want to be with him in the first place)

2) The woman they're with either doesn't get howand why he wants to commit

3) The woman starts accidentally showing him thatshe's actually NOT the right woman by feeling or acting strange around the state of the relationship and where it's headed

If you've ever had a great man in your life suddenly change his mind after he was wild foryou before - and it wasn't because he was truly emotionally disturbed...

Then it's time you know what it is that makes aman want to commit to you, and how to make surehe sees you as the right woman for him.

Hint- does he think committing to you will trulymake his life better and easier?

Or is there something about you and your relationship that feels tough, limiting andchallenging for him?

Reasons for Getting Married

The Top Eleven Reasons for Getting Married

Dating is a chance to practice relating to a number of different people, before committing to the intense intimacy and the responsibility of a true relationship. The whole point of dating is to experience your new friend without making a commitment. No matter how intense your feelings might be, don’t expect that your date is interested in a commitment until the subject is discussed.If your dating experience lasts a while with this person, you will hopefully have an opportunity to disagree, to solve some problems, and to spend enough time together, in enough different situations, to figure out whether your relationship will work.You’d think the positive signs in a date would be obvious, but with all the excitement, the most important clues can be overlooked. What makes for a great date may not be all you need for a great relationship. This checklist of positive signs will help you evaluate your date in a realistic manner. If you get a lot of these positives, this date might be a good choice for marriage.

1. Sense of HumorOf all the characteristics that are essential for getting through life successfully, a sense of humor has to be in the top ten. But, what kind of a sense of humor?Joking at someone else’s expense or at inappropriate times can be counter-productive. Using jokes to avoid taking responsibility for one’s behavior can prevent you from solving problems. The sense of humor you’re looking for is the generous, positive kind that makes life more fun and the tough times easier. If your date can make your laugh, and lift your spirits, that talent may help you through some future difficulties.

2. Cares What You ThinkA date who asks for and listens to your opinions and feelings, and better yet, who remembers what you say and builds on it later, and who responds with empathy, sincerity and caring, is someone you can communicate with and therefore, more likely to be able to form a partnership with you.If you pay attention, you can quickly notice the difference between the appearance of caring and real caring. If your relationship is successful, you’ll have years of talking to each other, so find someone who is interesting to talk to and also interested in talking with you. Your date should be able to carry on an interesting discussion on a variety of topics, and at least show interest, even if the topic is not something he or she is familiar with.

3. Has An Opinion, TooA truly good conversationalist not only listens to your words and responds, but also has ideas and opinions. Your date should not hesitate to disagree with you or to bring up new topics.

4. Can Work Things out with YouRecent research shows that the single most important quality which determines whether a relationship can succeed is how well the couple solves problems. If you have a disagreement while dating, welcome it as an opportunity to see how well the two of work it out together. If you can discuss your differences without becoming defensive or sarcastic, and you can listen to each other and work together toward a solution, your relationship has an excellent chance.

5. Accepts Who You AreA popular book asserts that “Men are from Mars, and Women are from Venus”, but I think it’s more that we’re all from different planets. You and your date are unique, special and individual and need to be able to understand each other, and accept that you’ll perceive things very differently. Even when you and your date see things differently, you should be able to agree to disagree.Remember, the security and comfort in your relationship will come from where you and your partner are similar, and the excitement and growth in the relationship are generated from your differences. Different interests, opinions, attitudes and ideas will keep things fresh and alive between you. If your date does not become defensive or threatened by your differences, you can be interesting to each other for a long time.

6. Openness: Discloses SelfThe whole point of dating, as we said before, is to get to know each other. While you both may want to take a little time before disclosing too much, your date should be comfortable talking about him or herself, and it should not be like tooth pulling to find out what you need to know.

7. A Together Life: Job, Friends, Family Relationships, InterestsA date who has a full, interesting life you would want to be a part of is more likely to be a healthy, balanced person. While it’s important to have some relaxation time, and time to meditate or think, a life that includes a good career, hobbies or sports, community service and friends and/or family is reassurance that your date is motivated, focused and able to relate.

8. IntelligenceYour date doesn’t need to be a member of Mensa or a mathematical genius, but look for enough intelligence that you can respect and admire each other. There are several kinds of intelligence, from school learning to independent education by reading, working, traveling, and life experiences.An “airhead” who looks good and may be fun to play with, will not keep you interested for long. A date who is not interested in learning and growing intellectually may not be able to keep up over the long haul.

9. Modesty, Humility, Ego (In Balance)As you learn about this new person you’re dating, observe his or her character and personality for signs of a balanced sense of self. If your date can keep success and failure in perspective, admit personal shortcomings, and rise above disappointments and losses, he or she does have a balanced personality, and the kind of resilience that can travel through life’s highs and lows and keep it all in perspective.

10. Emotionally MatureWhile it’s fun and charming to be able to be childlike when in a playful mood, it’s essential to be an adult whenever necessary. A date who is responsible, self-regulating, emotionally responsive, motivated, and in control of his or her impulses, is capable of being a supportive, fully participating partner, no matter what joys and sorrows, successes and failures you may face in the course of a lifetime.

11. Healthy History of Relationships (Not Perfect, Just Normal)Of course, if both of you are dating again, your relationship history will probably not be perfect. What counts is whether your date has learned from the problems, confronted his or her own weaknesses and shortcomings, and grown as a result of the setbacks.If your date is willing to talk openly about his or her past relationships, and can explain what went wrong and how he or she is learning to correct the problems, the difficulties in past relationships can be an asset rather than a liability. If your date expresses a willingness to seek counseling in the event that problems should occur, score that in his or her favor.Remember, a smart date will be watching for the same characteristics in you.To do well in a relationship, learn to be the partner you would like to be.