"Something To Blog About"

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Whenever I read a good blog, I feel a certain yearning inside that makes me want to write one. If I wasn’t prescribed to so many great bloggers, I don’t think I will be persuaded to make more than 1 blog per week. I felt the yearning thrice this morning : One blog was from Deborah about Max, Second from Scarlett about the rules of being a woman, and the third from Queen of Coins about a blog being a party.

So my blog for today is in many ways an inspiration from these 3 blogs… Grazie ladies!!!

If I try to describe who I am to you, my definitions will differ from day to day. I am... complicated, to say the least. If my friends describe me to you, you will hear a lot of versions that will leave you confused if they were talking about the same person. I can honestly say that I have the non-psychotic version of Multiple Personality (MP – which is my real name initials n real life btw).

I am full of contradictions. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don’t. I can be hot and then cold. I can be the sweetest person or the vilest bitch. I
have experienced so many different extreme emotions that sometimes just recalling them is traumatizing. No one could honestly say they knew me through and through. No ONE.

I lived a very interesting life, and one I am sure not an average girl would ever go through. Rich to poor. Ugly to pretty. It seemed that I am what I am today because I was on both sides of the coin. The proverbial wheel of my life seems to be turning and churning all the time. My saving grace was being able to adapt and excel as things go wrong and worse.

I was born rich, spoiled rotten as a princess.

Chaufferred cars,exclusive schools, Rolex watches. My dad owned a successful construction company, and a few banks. I was also an ugly child. Stick-sick thin, round
angular face, dark skinned, screwed-up teeth, limp bland hair. I wasn’t popular in school during my elementary days. My childhood friends were all pretty as can be and as rich – even richer. Boys picked on me, girls bullied me.

This is also the time I found out that I was an illegitimate child. I grew up feeling ugly, unworthy and had tremendous bouts of insecurities. I always felt .. inferior somehow.

When I turned 14, in sophomore year of highschool, I became attractive. Still not the Barbie-perfect looking popular girls, but somehow, more beautiful. I liked to think that because I had more character, and that because I was once an outcast, I was also nicer. Soon I became a part of the most popular
clique in highschool. I started winning beauty contests and joined modeling shows. During this time though, my family went bankrupt. My parents separated, and my mother was left to figure out how to feed us all with no job in her name. All she knew was how to travel and shop extensively. And she did it so well. Steadily, all assets – vacation homes, cars, stocks, jewelries, were sold off one by one as the years went by to maintain the façade of still being rich. I refused to let anyone know outside the family. I still went out, smiled a lot. In fact I smiled more. And though by now I was beautiful and popular, I was poor.. And I felt insecure.

This went on for a couple of years. Me being beautiful. And me being poor. I was very good by this time in leading a double life. None of my friends realized the fucked-up situation I was going through. I was scared that I would be an outcast again. Looking back, I should have told them. They would have understood and supported me. But I felt at that time, that my pride was the only thing keeping me from going insane. It was as if my beauty will be lessened if they found out that if I didn't hitch a ride with then, I would have had to take public transportation. Que horror!

After highschool,I went off to college, far away from the city. I was relieved to not have to keep pretending anymore. I was to take up a pre-med course and money was tight and getting tighter still. But socially, I was blooming. I was voted the freshman queen, eventually a college hearthrob. Boys were falling all over themselves to bed me. And I bed a few. By this time, I have come to learn the power of being beautiful. I learned to use to my advantage every chance I got. And I got away with a lot. And though I did not have to pretend to be rich with all the down-to-earth adoring people surrounding me, I still felt I needed to
maintain a certain air of affluence and indifference. I would never let anybody in my real life. They will never accept me if they found out I wasn't perfect. I had to be BOTH beautiful and rich, I just had to be.

I was dismissed from college because I was partying too hard.

I took a job to support my party-animal lifestyle which did not give me any time to study thus the dismissal. So by 18, I was a college drop-out. If that was not bad enough, I found myself pregnant a few months after dropping out. My boyfriend at that time (who I just recently married) supported me all throughout the pregnancy and the subsequent year after giving birth. Issues with our relationship were rampant but I was in love
with him. Really in love with him. But I did not how to love anyone else. I was yet to love me.

About 6 months after giving birth, I started my career. I started from the bottom and boy did I
scrape that bottom. But in a few years, I was earning enough. After a few more years, I was comfortable. And then I was rich again.

I was ruled by the hunger for more money, more power, more beauty. That even when I got it, it still did not feel good. So I started gambling, throwing away the money I worked so hard
for. I started obsessing over stupid things. I was looking for something, someone, anyone to validate my importance. Never knowing I was looking for me. When my mother and father died, something in me snapped. I lost all the reason on maintaining a stable life. I began to sabotage all the jobs I have one after another. But I kept getting new ones, higher paying ones. I did not deserve it! I kept thinking, why the hell are they willing to pay me this much money!? They must be insane. So I ruined every single one of them.

Until the day came, finally when things wre familiar. I had no job and no money AGAIN. THIS I knew how to handle. It felt like home.

This was 2 years ago.

When you hit rock bottom, and you take an innocent kid with you (my son), it is not something to be proud of. somehow, no matter how screwed up you are, as a mother - you will see that this not right. When I lost that 6^th
job in 1 year, I realized that there is nothing wrong with the economy – there was something terribly wrong with ME. I was no longer that rich ugly toddler nor that pretty poor teenager. Something has GOT to give on how I looked at myself. How unworthy I perceived myself to be for all the good things that was happening. I realized that I have always believed that I did not deserve to be happy. That somehow I was not allowed to be. Something very very bad will happen if I become happy.

That is the reason I moved to another country. To where I was born. where it all started. Singapore. To start anew. To take a good look at my life and fix it. Away from the things that destroyed my innocence. Away from the pretensions. I have found myself here. And I realized. that I was not too bad.

So now here I am. I married the man I was supposed to marry a long long time ago. I have a job that I have stayed in for 11 months now. I still do find a few things to obsess about (as you guys know), but it's all manageable and I am still here.

I am not saying I am not insecure anymore. Or that I have no issues about being happy. But at least I know now what my problem is.

I have never loved myself. I should have loved myself when nobody else found me pretty, when I was poor, when I was weak. I should have loved myself NO MATTER WHAT.

So now, I am beginning the most important love affair of my life. With myself.

Ways to Honor Yourself

10 Ways to Honor Thyself

Take the self-love challenge and discover the beauty within.

By Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway"

To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness." - Robert MorelyLove is one of the most powerful energies on the planet. We are born with love in our hearts, and it lives within us all. But some of us put so much focus on finding love and approval "out there" that we never get a chance to truly develop it within ourselves. We look for it in the external world--from parents, partners, friends, bosses, new people we meet, people we admire.

If any one of them disappoints, devastation follows.How many times have you been hurt because of someone else's opinion of you? When we experience self-esteem only through the eyes of others, one unkind word or a bad mood in another can shatter our sense of self.Are you feeling the love? If not, it is time to take our self-love challenge--10 tips and techniques to help you enhance your life by cultivating love from within.

1. Create a Self-Love "Curriculum"

Lack of self-esteem can grab hold in times of stress and challenge, and self-loathing is fueled by exhaustion and hopelessness. Self-love can be reborn by making a commitment to add life-affirming activities to daily life. It is crucial that we nourish ourselves--body, mind, and spirit. This does not mean going to a spa every few years. It has to be blended into our lifestyles and treated with as much importance as a doctor's appointment or worship service. Many of us are very generous with those around us.

We give of ourselves to friends, family, coworkers. We twist ourselves into pretzels to accommodate the needs of others. But when it comes to ourselves, we can be stingy.The First

Step: Chart a course to improved self-image that stimulates all the senses. This will fill you with a sense of hopefulness and potential! Make a list of 10 things that will enhance your feelings of self-esteem. Incorporate everything from meditation and prayer, to taking yourself out on dates, to activities that bring you joy, and enhance your well-being on all levels. Above all, "follow your bliss"!

2. Replace Self-Defeat with Self-Love

Being kind to yourself is a healthy habit to get into. Work to release feelings of regret, angst, fear, and anxiety, and instead fill up with love, joy, possibility, and spirit. For example, does your current morning meditation include sipping coffee while berating yourself for a goof-up at work, worrying about something that happened between you and a friend, or giving yourself guilt because of that chocolate cake you ate? If someone else were beating up on you the way you beat up on yourself, you'd fight back. In this case, you have to learn to fight the urge to defeat your own purpose in life and replace repetitive, negative thinking with that which uplifts you heart and soul. The First Step: Begin with a prayer to be filled with Divine Presence and possibility--positive, hopeful thoughts and ideas. Create a new intention that if you slip into negative self-talk you will switch your focus. Try a special mantra or affirmation that can redirect your energy. Some possibilities to get you started: I am one with God. I am a good person. Light fills my being. I radiate good energy and thoughts.

3. Open Your Heart

We may say we want love, success, and happiness, but we don't always back up our dreams with self-honoring actions. Without self-love, we have no foundation to uphold or contain love, self-esteem, and true potential. Someone can love you with more heart than you ever imagined, but where will it go if you have no internal mechanism for recognizing pure love? The universe can shower you with opportunities, but you will miss the best plums on the tree because you won't think you deserve to reach for them.The First Step: Take 10 to 20 minutes every morning to meditate to a piece of music that feels heart-opening to you. One that I like is this moving and soul-stirring chant, "Open My Heart," by Ana Hernandez and Ruth Cunningham, from their CD HARC: Inside Chants. Hear more at http://www.myspace.com/anahermusic.

4. Write a New Mission Statement

Loving ourselves can be a learning process for some of us, and we all learn best when the topic we are dealing with is presented to us in plain language. The First Step: Craft a "Self-Nurturing Mission Statement" for your life. The statement should put forth the intention and vision for a fulfilling life in which honoring yourself is key. Your mission statement might look like this: I am a beautiful person, and I have so much to share with the world. Honoring myself and my needs is my first priority. My life is enhanced daily by simple acts of self-nurturing, and my world is in balance. I have excellent boundaries, and I wake up each morning with a deep sense of self-love, self-esteem, and the knowledge that I deserve good things in my life. It is my birthright to be happy, successful, and loved.

5. Redefine the Word 'Selfish'

What if Selfish became self-ish? Try taking this word, which has a negative connotation, and giving it a positive spin. It is time to be a little more self-ish! The First Step: There is a kabblistic tradition taught by Rabbi Joseph Gelberman that tells us to take each word and imbue each letter with a new, fuller meaning. Try this on for size:S Nurture your SPIRIT.E ENJOY moments alone.L LOVE yourself.F Keep FIT and FEEL good.I Make your unique needs IMPORTANT.S SHOWER yourself with gifts.H Be HAPPY and open-HEARTED.

6. Email Yourself Love Notes

Send yourself an email every day (for at least 30 days) with a new message of encouragement and love. Think it's goofy? Think again. If you were falling in love with another person, how would you feel if he or she emailed you some loving words of encouragement every day, just because they care? You would feel high on life, happy, whole, and thrilled. You would feel like something magical is happening. You would be uplifted and empowered because someone had chosen you and was honoring you by constantly letting you know how they feel about you. In this case, you are creating all the same feelings--by yourself, for yourself.The First Step: You can write anything you choose. Some examples to get you started: Tell yourself how beautiful you looked today; give yourself laurels for any job well done; thank yourself for all the good things you do for others in a day; write yourself a romantic note extolling the virtues of...you!

7. Literally Bathe in Self-Love

We all need to recharge and regenerate ourselves. And there is nothing like giving yourself some "me time" in a warm, wonderful bath. Use it as a way to clear your mind, reclaim yourself, heal, and transmute blues and blahs. The First Step: Draw a bath. Play relaxing and sensual music. Slip into the warm water, daydream, and allow yourself to bask in the energy of love. It truly creates an impression in your own mind and spirit that you are someone who deserves royal treatment and who is willing to receive it! You can power your bath with your own special salts and scents, or use these special formulas:1. Basil Bath--Just a tablespoon or two boiled in a tea holder and poured into the bath promises a sense of well-being. Studies show that basil relieves stress, and the Hindu culture used basil to stimulate fertility and good fortune.2. Rose Bath--Using rosewater and fresh rose petals, this is a bath the ancient Romans used to evoke the love goddess, Venus.3. Salty Sea Bath--Conjure the healing of the ocean with one or two cups of coarse sea salt, which will restore your electrolytes. Feeling achy? Use some Epsom salts too.Fully immerse yourself to clear your energy field. Dunk nine times and say a prayer with each. At the most primal human level, a nice warm bath gives you a chance to get a new perspective on life.

8. Put Healthy Things into Your Body

We all know by now that certain foods, chemicals, and substances like alcohol can work against us in all areas of life. It is time to truly acknowledge that your body is your temple and treat it as sacred. If you are having any kind of imbalance or dis-ease--depression, illness, self-hating blues--see if you can find an external "chemical" cause for it. Start with what you are eating. Then look at what you are drinking, as well as chemicals you are taking in. For example, sugar, wheat, yeast, processed foods, certain carbs, and alcohol can all add together to make an I-Don't-Feel-Great stew and a grumpy you. The First Step: There are many things we can do to lighten up and alleviate the cause and effect of the things that may make us cranky, ill, and feeling hopeless--which can all add to lack of self-love and self-esteem. Experiment with eliminating different potential trigger substances from your life. Delete things from your general diet that cause you to turn on yourself. Make a choice to find out what foods empower your well-being--perhaps more fruits and veggies, or your body might need more lean meat to keep your head clear--and add in the things that help you feel great.

9. Perform a Self-Love Ceremony

When I teach relationship readiness seminars, I have people look into a mirror into their own eyes and recite vows to themselves. The First Step: The following is an abbreviated sample ceremony, just to get you started:

1. Light a candle and bring light into the room.

2. Say a brief prayer: Divine Spirit of all there is, please fill this place with your sacred presence. Support me in my efforts to express my love for self. Help me see my own divinity. Amen.

3. Sit down and meditate on the qualities you most honor in yourself.

4. Write down three vows that are personally meaningful to you: " I adore you...I love your strength and wisdom...I will promise to love and honor you..., etc."

5. When you feel ready, look into the mirror and connect with your own eyes and read the vows to yourself. It may be uncomfortable at first, but you can transcend that. Your self-love vows will send a powerful message to your subconscious mind.

6. Celebrate your union with self with a sip of something sweet.

7. Play celebratory music.

8. Dance...and feel the love. Need a shorter version? Every time you pass a mirror, smile and look deeply into your own eyes.

10. Choose a Personal Theme Song

We all need a self-love anthem, a song that makes us feel good about ourselves and snaps us into a state of higher self-esteem and hopefulness immediately.Some people come alive when they hear Frank Sinatra. Some relate to an awesome gospel song or religious hymn. Others connect to anything by Natasha Beddingfield, such as the song "Unwritten."

The First Step: Pick a personal theme song that makes your heart sing and always brings a knowing smile to your face. Music has the power to lift our deepest spirits as well as our self-esteem. Ultimately, the more we love ourselves, the more love we can share with those around us. And the more love we bring to our families and friends, the more love we add to our world.

living in grateful world

Learning From Experienced

be grateful to those who have hurt you,
for they have reinforced your determination.

be grateful to those who have deceived you,
for they have deepened your sight.

be grateful to those who have hit you,
for they have reduce your karmic obstacles.

be grateful to those who have abandoned you,
for they have taught you to be independent.

be grateful to those who have made you stumble,
for they have strengthened your ability.

be grateful to those who have denounced you,
for they have increased your wisdom and concentration.

be grateful to those who have made you firm and resoluteand helped you in your achievement.

"We may not be perfect but we can always change for the better"

The Sunny & Stormy days in Life Is Something We Need To Appreciate How Beautiful Life Can Be!

I have learned that days are long, but life is short.
I have learned that being a success at the office is not worth it if means being a failure at home.
I have learned that you can teach yourself anything by reading.
I have learned that children are the best teachers of creativity, persistence, and unconditional love.

I have learned that you learn most from people who are learning themselves.
I have learned that when Mommy and Daddy shout at each other, it scares me.
I have learned that when bad times come, you can let them make you better or use them to make you better.

I have learned that women with double first names usually know how to make a terrific peach cobbler.
I have learned that humming a tune you’re upset can ease you mind.

I have learned that when making a decision, “no” is more easily changed to “yes” than “yes” is changed to “no”.

I have learned that I don’t feel my age as long as I focus on my dreams instead of my regrets.
I have learned that the simple things are often the most satisfying.
I have learned that you should never sign a contract with blank spaces.
I have learned that if you allow people to make you angry, have let them conquer you.
I have learned that when I eat fish sticks they help me swim faster because they’re fish.
I have learned that encouragement from a good teacher can turn a student’s life around.
I have learned that I have never regretted being too generous enough.
I have learned that when I wave to people in the country, they almost always stop what they’re doing and wave back.

I have learned that nothing tastes as good as vegetables from your own garden.
I have learned that to love and be loved is the greatest joy in the world.
I have learned that children want their parents’ attention and will go to extreme lengths to get it.

I have learned that how you do your work is a portrait of yourself.
I have learned that successful living is like playing a violin-it must be practiced daily.
I have learned that whenever I decide something with kindness, I usually make the right decision.

I have learned that you can make someone’s day by simple sending them a little card.

"As we Grow Old We Learn New Things That Polishes Us To Be A Better Person"

"THINGS IN LIFE"

We all had the choices,but it is still up to us if we would want to take the rigth path or go the wrong way!There is no one to blame but ourselves bec. we make choices for our lives.


So,don't let others decide for your future bec. it is only you that should manuever your life.




I have learned that when you have an argument with your spouse, the one who says, “I’ m sorry I hurt your feelings; please forgive me; is the winner.
I have learned that everyone is attractive when they smile.


I have learned that brushing my child’s hair is one of life’s great pleasures.

I have learned that it’s a lot easier to react than it is to think.
I have learned that although parents and elders may lecture and discipline you, you will later realize that it was because they cared.


I have learned that you never ask a tire salesman if you need new tires.

I have learned that wealthy people are no happier than those of modest means.
I have learned that to experience the wonder of life through the eyes of a child is the most rewarding feeling in the world.



I have learned that the person with big dreams is more powerful than one with all the fact.



I have learned that a sunroof is worth the extra cost.



I have learned that any activity becomes creative when you try to do it better than you did it before.



I have learned that toy should never pay for a job until it’s completed.



I have learned that you can’t hug your kids too much.



I have learned that people are about as happy as they decide to be.

I have learned that the best and quickest way to appreciate other people is to try and do their job.

I have learned that “Today’s Featured Items” is a euphemism for “Things We Need To Get Rid Of.”

I have learned that it’s easier to stay out of trouble than to get out of trouble.
I have learned that when you have the choice of eating at a table or at the counter in a coffee shop, choose the counter. The service will be faster, the food hotter, and the conversation livelier.

I have learned that there are four ages of a man: (1) When he believes in Santa Clause, (2) when he doesn’t believe in Santa Clouse, (3) when He Is Santa Clause, and (4) when he looks like Santa Clause.



I have learned that singing “Amazing Grace” can lift my sprites for hours.



I have learned that you must fight for the things you believe in.



I have learned that in the stock market, bulls make money and bear make money, but hogs get slaughtered.



I have learned that you shouldn’t marry someone who has problems more than you.

"Small good things can mean so much"

What gives meanings to our lives is how we share it with others

The more generous we are, the more joyous we become.

The more cooperative we are, the more valuable we become.

The more enthusiastic we are, the more productive we become.

The more serving we are, the more prosperous we become.

The more outgoing we are, the more helpful we become.

The more curious we are, the more creative we become.

The more patient we are, the more understanding we become.

The more persistent we are, the more successful we become.

"Living your Life Meaningfully is more Fullfiling than any Riches in the World"

When a new day begins,
dare to smile gratefully.
When there is darkness, dare to be the first to shine a light.
When there is injustice,
dare to be the first to condemn it.

When something seems difficult,
dare to do it anyway.
When life seems to beat you down,
dare to fight back.

When there seems to be no hope,
dare to find some.
When you're feeling tired,
dare to keep going.
When times are tough,
dare to be tougher.

When love hurts you,
dare to love again.

When someone is hurting,
dare to help them heal.

When another is lost,
dare to help them find the way.
When a friend falls,
dare to be the first to extend a hand........

"Principles of Life"

10 Rules for a Good Day

1. TODAY I WILL NOT STRIKE BACK:
If someone is rude, if someone is impatient, if someone is unkind...
I will not respond in a like manner.

2. TODAY I WILL ASK GOD TO BLESS MY "ENEMY":
If I come across someone who treats me harshly or unfairly, I will
quietly ask God to bless that individual. I understand the "enemy"
could be a family member, neighbor, co-worker, or a stranger.

3. TODAY I WILL BE CAREFUL ABOUT WHAT I SAY:
I will carefully choose and guard my words being certain that I do
not spread gossip.

4. TODAY I WILL GO THE EXTRA MILE:
I will find ways to help share the burden of another person.

5. TODAY I WILL FORGIVE:
I will forgive any hurts or injuries that come my way.

6. TODAY I WILL DO SOMETHING NICE FOR SOMEONE,
BUT I WILL NOT DO IT SECRETLY:
I will reach out anonymously and bless the life of another.

7. TODAY I WILL TREAT OTHERS THE WAY I WISH TO BE
TREATED:
I will practice the golden rule - "Do unto others as I would have
them do unto me" - with everyone I encounter.

8. TODAY I WILL RAISE THE SPIRITS OF SOMEONE I
DISCOURAGED:
My smile, my words, my expression of support, can make the
difference to someone who is wrestling life.

9. TODAY I WILL NUTURE MY BODY:
I will eat less; I will eat only healthy foods. I will thank God for my
body.

10. TODAY I WILL GROW SPIRITUALLY:
I will spend a little more time in prayer today: I will begin reading
something spiritual or inspirational today; I will find a quiet place
(at some point during the day) and listen to God's voice!

if u have a good days in your life so apply that friendship ..i m also your friend..
Be Creative..

"Happiness is a journey not a destination"

Measure wealth not by

the things you have,

but by the things you have that

you wouldn't sell for money.

We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids are not old enough and we will be more content when they are. After that, we are frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, when we are able to go on a nice vacation or when we retire. The truth is there is no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when? Your life will always be filled with challenges.

It is best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. Happiness is the way. So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time with…and remember that time waits for no one.

So, stop waiting… Until your car or home is paid off.
Until you get a new car or home.
Until your kids leave the house.
Until you go back to school.
Until you finish school.
Until you lose 10 lbs.
Until you gain 10 lbs.
Until you get married.
Until you get a divorce.
Until you have kids.
Until you retire.
Until summer.
Until spring.
Until winter.
Until fall.
Until you die.

There is no better time than right now to be happy.

Happiness is a journey, not a destination.

"Sri mata Amritananadamayi interview"

When we acquire knowledge with the wrong attitude, it only creates misery, unhappiness and loneliness.............

Q1: Why do you think love, compassion and peace are becoming rare commodities even as we modernize and globalize at a frenetic pace?


Amma: People always act according to their intellectual convictions. In today's society, since progress is being equated with the wealth one possesses, people all over the world have come to believe that money is everything that "Without money you are nothing". It's only natural then that the slogan has become: "Make money by hook or by crook". It is absolutely fine to have money. But money should not control man; man should control money. Unfortunately, man has become money's slave. It's like the tail wagging the dog, instead of the dog wagging the tail! In a society where money is king, everything becomes business -- even love, compassion and human relationships like marriage. Why? Because dharma, the fundamental principle of life, has been thrown completely out of the window.

Q2: We are becoming modern. We are becoming techno-savvy. We are getting material comforts that previously we never could have dreamed of. Why are we then growing increasingly intolerant and egoistic?

Amma: [smiling] Due of lack of proper understanding. People think that without ego achievements are impossible. But this is a misunderstanding. Behind all great achievements, including ground-breaking scientific inventions, something beyond the ego and mind comes into play. Effort is ego, but the right result comes only when we let go of the ego. We must put in effort. However, one should also know how to drop the ego and when. Imagine a kingdom where everyone wants to be king and nobody wants to serve There are only takers and no givers so the intolerance and conflict.

Q3: As we witness this paradox -- scientific advancement, material comforts and modern lifestyles, yet more of unhappiness, loneliness and misery, what does India have to offer to the world?

Amma: When we acquire knowledge with the wrong attitude, it only creates misery, unhappiness and loneliness. Look around and you can see that the number of schools, universities, students and teachers are increasing daily. But is knowledge growing? Right-knowledge brings right-understanding and right-understanding brings beauty, joy, peace and contentment in life. In the old days, our schools imparted true knowledge. Only true knowledge can rectify such problems. But today are our children acquiring right-knowledge from our schools, colleges and universities? If they are, then why are youngsters today so immature? Why then is there so much conflict, chaos, violence and war in our world? Why are today's wars much more brutal than ever before? India used to not be like this. If we look back, we see that here even war used to adhere to dharma.

The Mahabharata War, fought 5,000 years ago, had clear rules and regulations. Ground soldiers were to fight only with other ground soldiers. Similar was the case with soldiers fighting on horseback and on elephants. Women, children and the sick and elderly were not to be harmed under any circumstance. The war began at sunrise and ended at sunset, after which soldiers from both sides would sit and have dinner together. That is why the battle of Kurukshetra was known as a dharma yuddha. One should observe dharma even at the warfront. India has the right-knowledge but unless we develop the right attitude it will not be of benefit to us or to others.

Peace and happiness will not come through scientific advancements, education and by increasing physical comforts. If so, why do even people who live in five star facilities commit suicide in their air conditioned rooms? Why do people have to consume sleeping pills to get sound sleep in the midst of all physical comforts? In order to experience peace and happiness we should air condition our minds. That is what the practice of spirituality helps us to attain. And that indeed is the greatest contribution that India can offer to the world.

Q4: We are witnessing the emergence of a globalized world. How important are concepts like nation-states and national boundaries today?

Amma: What is wrong with nations, states and boundaries? Let them be there. What is really needed is the capacity to behold the oneness that is beyond these differences, to see the underlying unity to see the whole world as a beautiful flower. Each petal is a nation. If one petal is infested with parasites, won't the others be affected? We shouldn't allow that to happen. We should accept and love all nations, all cultures, all human beings, all languages... When there is such love and compassion, you'll find all differences disappear and you behold oneness. In fact, compassion is a one-word solution for almost all the major problems our world is facing today. The different cultures and nations are like the different flowers blooming in a garden -- it is the variety that lends beauty and life to the garden.

Q5: What should today's India be known as: the world's economic super-house, the world's knowledge hub or the spiritual reservoir of the world?

Amma: This ancient country, Bharat, was never against science and commerce. However, we always considered spirituality as part-and-parcel of all areas of life. We never segregated science and spirituality. They always went hand-in-hand. Actually, it is high time that we return to that ethos. Neither science nor spirituality alone can solve all the problems humanity is facing today. Only an integration of both will create the needed miracle. And Amma would say that the only country capable of integrating science and spirituality -- and thereby set an example for the entire world to emulate -- is India. We can create a perfect balance between materialism and spirituality. So, India should be known as a pioneer in both.

Q6: You are a Guru who has brought solace to thousands of distraught people. Other spiritual Gurus, too, are trying to contribute in their own way. How do you assess the role of the state, the media and politicians? How can they all contribute more meaningfully towards people's happiness?

Amma: Whoever you are and whatever be you field of action, follow dharma. Do that which brings the maximum happiness to the maximum number of people. Don't do that which creates maximum misery for maximum people. Try to minimize sorrow, suffering and problems through love, compassion and concern for your fellow beings.

Q7: What is the relation between religion and spirituality?

Amma: You cannot really divide religion and spirituality. They are interdependent. However, for the sake of analysis, we can say that religion is the surface and spirituality is the inner depth. It is like the outer shell and the fruit inside. Religion should culminate in spiritual realization. The real purpose of religion is to go beyond religious barriers.

Q8: Is secularism a Western value or Indian value? How is our idea of secularism different from the one commonly understood in the West?

Amma: Secularism is neither Western nor Indian; it is simply human. Be human and treat everyone as humans -- that's all. Maybe our interpretation of secularism is wrong, even perverted.

Q9: What more can be done to make our education system more relevant to India?

Amma: Education should have two aspects: acquiring knowledge about the external world and understanding the inner world. From this standpoint, there is a tremendous imbalance in today's educational system. We give too much importance to gathering knowledge from the outside world and we completely ignore the inner world. Love, compassion and concern for our fellow beings should become part of our curriculum. It is not enough to teach such values; we must become role models.

In fact, every one of us should become a role model because, whether we know it or not, someone is looking up to us for inspiration. Unfortunately, today's educational system is entirely based on blind and illogical competition. "Pull the person ahead of you down and climb over him!" This is what is taught. In that process, anything -- any amount of ruthlessness, hatred and revenge is justified. Today's education only teaches how to create desire, but not how to control them. It is like a beautiful car that can run at very high speeds but which does not have brakes -- an accident is imminent!

Q10: Are you happy with today's politics? How can politics be made more humane and spiritual?

Amma: [smiles] As an individual, I am always happy and content because I am only concerned with what I can offer to uplift society. But all the same when I look outside at the world, not only am I worried about politics but about everything happening around us! Is there anything taking place in the world today to give hope to humanity?

Such work is being done by a handful of people alone. Whereas the amount of cruelty, wickedness, violence, war and selfishness is reaching an all-time high. When politics is used as a way to serve society, rather than a profession it spontaneously becomes more humane and spiritual.

Q11: When the political class raises questions, like the one over the existence of Lord Ram, how should that be dealt with?

Amma: Those who have faith in Rama should continue to worship him. Let their faith intensify.

Q12: Who is a Hindu? How does one deal the problem of caste that divides and discriminates against people?

Amma: Whoever believes in love, peace and selflessness is a Hindu. People who really want to create a change should selflessly and courageously come forward to fight such discrimination. Only when we set an example will others feel inspired and support us unconditionally.

Q13: What is Hinduism? And how is the Hindutva that certain political parties try to espouse different from that?

Amma: Hinduism is a way of living. It is living in accordance with the laws of nature, observing dharma and creating a balance between the body, mind and inner-Self. However, different people have different concepts about being a Hindu. For some, selflessly serving one's nation and its people is Hindutva. Whatever it is, the most important thing is selflessness and purity in word and deed.

Q14: When does religion unite? When does religion divide? With so much religious strife around, what can India offer to the world?

Amma: When everyone accepts love and compassion as the essential principle of life that is when religion unites. And when we reject these values, religion divides. Amma would say that India, with its rich spiritual heritage, is the one and only nation that can show the right path to the entire world. India should show the world how inner and outer life can be balanced and thereby create a world of emotionally and intellectually mature people.

Q15: How do we deal with the problem of religious conversions?

Amma: Only if people change their perspective can the situation be remedied. However, this change must take place in their hearts, the inner world. This should begin with the spiritual and religious leaders. If they change, so too will their followers. Conversion has always been a curse to humanity and culture. It will not bring about any positive and creative change in people. While loving our own mother, why can't we allow others to love their mothers as well? It is simply a question of compassionately considering others.

Q16: What changes can we bring about in the Constitution to make our system more just, humane and spiritual?

Amma: I don't want to comment on this. My path is to love and serve everyone equally. However, experts, the intellectually mature and enlightened people could come together to consider such a question.

Q17: What message did you have for the RSS National Executive when you met them on the eve of Guru Golwalkar Centenary celebrations, last year? Do you think they have done enough to reform Hindu society?

I did not impart anything new. I just told them about the importance of cherishing and revering the lofty culture of our country and the greatness of this soil. Our nation's strength lies in her spiritual culture. It is the cement that firmly holds the country together. A life devoid of spiritual culture is like a building made up of just a stack of bricks without cement. Such a structure will soon collapse.

We should train the younger generation in service to the country based on an understanding and incorporation of spiritual principles in daily life. Only then will there be purity and fullness in service. For this, parents play the most important role. It is their dharma to guide their children along such lines. As for me, I don't want to divide our society into Hindus, Christians and Muslims. Whatever one section of society does should benefit the whole.

Q17: You recently deputed one of your representatives to a seminar organized by the Global Foundation of Civilizational Harmony that had a host of other spiritual Gurus. Do you think we need more such meetings of great minds, especially on issues like female infanticide, conversion and so on? What can politicians learn from this?

Such seminars will certainly help promote human values and minimize social injustice, like female infanticide, conversion, etc. But aren't there already countless such organizations? Real change will come only when the people are inspired and guided in the right direction by those practicing what they teach. What the world needs are role models. We need a better understanding of people's problems. Such understanding and role models are the real solutions to the many problems we are facing in the social and political scenario.

"Lunch With God"

LUNCH WITH GOD

A

little boy wanted to meet God. He knew it was a long trip to where God lived. He packed his suitcase with a bag of potato chips and a six-pack of root beer and started his journey.

When he had gone about three blocks, he met an old woman. She was sitting in the park, just staring at some pigeons. They boy sat down next to her and opened his suitcase. He was about to take a drink from his root beer when he noticed that the old lady looked hungry, so he offered her some chips. She gratefully accepted it and smiled at him.

Her smile was so pretty that the boy wanted to see it again, so he offered her a root beer. Again she smiled at him. The boy was delighted! They sat.

There all afternoon eating and smiling, but they never said a word.

As twilight approached, the boy realized how tired he was and he got up to leave, but before he had gone more than a few steps, he turned around, ran back to the old woman, and gave her a hug. She gave him her biggest smile ever.

When the boy opened the door to his own house a short time later, his mother was surprised by the look of joy on his face. She asked him, what did you do today that made you so happy?

He replied, ‘I had lunch with God’ But before his mother could respond, he added you know what? She’s got the most beautiful smile I’ve ever seen!’

Meanwhile, the old woman, also radiant with joy returned to her home. Her son was stunned by the look of peace on her face and he asked, ‘Mother, what did you do today that made you so happy? She replied! ‘I ate potato chips in the part with God’ However, before her son responded, she added, ‘You know, he’s much younger than I expected.’

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of.

Which have the potential to turn a life around. People come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime1 Embrace all equally!’

"Be Fearless,Be Brave"

Be Fearless :
Be not afraid of anything. You will do marvelous work. The moment you fear, you are nobody. It is fear that is the greatest of all superstitions. It is fear that is the cause of our woes, and it is fearlessness that brings heaven even in a moment. Therefore, 'Aries, awake, and stop not till the goal is reached'
Stand and die in your own strength: if there is any sin in the world, it is weakness: avoid all weakness, for weakness is sin, weakness is death.

Strength of Character :
Neither money pays, nor name, nor fame, nor learning: it is CHARACTER that can cleave through adamantine walls of difficulties.
If wealth is lost nothing is lost; if health is lost something is lost, but if character is lost everything is lost.

Success :
Take up one idea, make that one idea your life; think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is way to success.

Love :
Love opens the most impossible gates; love is the gate to all the secrets of the universe. Every step that has been really gained in the world has been gained by love.

Hard work :
Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety nine percent perspiration.

Communication :
It is only few that understand the language of brain, but everyone understands the language that comes from heart.

"7 Deadly Sins of Our Age! "

7 Deadly Sins of Our Age!

1.Poltics without Principles

2.Wealth without Work

3.Commerce without Morality

4.Pleasure without Conscience

5.Education without Character

6.Science without Humanity

7.Worship without Sacrifice.





"Mahatma Gandhi."

Face your fears,have courage...fear is only in the mind

"Everyone Has Their Own Fears... Not Just You "

To be a burden to anyoneI'm not sure if it's because I don't have the guts to put anyone in any kind of discomfort or that I am just too stubborn to depend on anyone. Either way, I don't want to…

To lose someone that I loveI know a lot of people share this sentiment but it makes me think sometimes, are we really afraid to lose these people or are we just afraid of the pain we are going to go through? Either way, I don't want to…

To die youngI am too selfish because I still want to experience and see so much or I know that I still have a lot of things to do for everyone, especially to those I owe my life to.

Either way, I don't want to…

To be helpless and useless(This doesn't go vis-à-vis with number 1. To be put in a situation where I can't help or be of any use to anyone not because of physical inability but due to circumstances that are beyond my control. ) Or because of the lack of self-respect it will cause me or because of the effect it will have on the people around me.

Either way, I don't want to be…

To end up either in a hospital or prisonAfraid of everything that I would have to go through in such a place or afraid because of the pain it will bring to those dear to me.

Either way, I don't want to…

To grow old aloneWhy? Because it is surely going to be bloody lonely or it's just because it's too damn boring to go to bed at night, wake up in the morning, do your stuff all by yourself.

Either way, I don't want to…

RegretI'm afraid of being in a situation thinking, "if only…" Maybe it's because I don't want to miss out on anything or maybe it's because I just don't have the courage to say no.

Either way, I don't want to…
To be fooled… yet againEither because I don't want to subject my heart and my soul to such kind of pain or I'm just afraid to lose my ability to trust.

Either way, I don't want to be…

Snakes, sharks and crocodiles.Just because I've seen too many movies and documentaries, read a lot of news about these creatures eating people like a piece of steak or just because they look pretty horrible to me.

Either way, I don't like them…

The Ocean Because its too vast, too mysterious and I know its beauty kills or because I freak out the moment my feet can't touch the ground due to the fact that I can't swim. Either way, I'm afraid of it…I am afraid of many things. I am afraid because these things are way beyond my control. I believe that there are aspects in my life that I can't do anything about. But for now, I only concentrate on things that I can do something about and leave the things that I can't to SOMEONE who can.

Principles in Life , Wealthiness within

Codes of Honour

Integrity. Sincerity. Honesty.
Responsibility.
Enthusiasm. Initiative. Decisiveness. Resourcefulness.
Resolve. Power of Intention. Determination. Commitment. Singularity of Purpose
Courage. Self Belief. Confidence.
Perseverence. Consistency. Persistence. Dedication. Endurance. Resilience. Discipline .
Humility. Humility comes with Appreciation of one's Strength.
It is a combination of Awe - Respect - Gratitude - Compassion - Love
Balance. Temperance
Contentment. Inner Bliss. Peace of mind. Self Knowledge.


Attract what you want to be

Be to myself what I want in another personWhy? Because if you don't, you will be everything but what your really want to be... You will be what the other person is, good or bad!I decided that this would make a great topic for today. To find out what others have to say, I entered the phrase as a search term into Google and Yahoo. To say I was appalled by the results is an understatement. Most of the results had to do with people who wanted to kill themselves, that nobody loved them, and complaints about how others had treated them badly. Maybe on second thought, it was mean't for me to see these postings to verify to myself what I already know. This is a lesson that I didn't learn until I was older, like gray hair older. Everyone a person comes in contact with affects that person. I rub dirt on my hand, I have dirt on my hand. If we associate with people who have wrong thinking, loose morals, criminal actions and such, over time it will break down our boundaries and change us. Our personalities, actions, thought processes and behaviors, are an amalgamation of all the people and social environments we have been in contact with in our lives. Of course, the more time we spend with any one individual or in a particular social environment, the more we absorb of that individual and social environment. We are a product of our social environment. So knowing this we can answer a few questions that you may have about your life and life situations.

Why am I a loser?
Why do I always fail?
Why am I always in trouble?
Why does everything always happen to me?
Why doesn't anyone love me?
Why do I never have the things I want?

Take a good look at the environment you are in and the company you keep.

Are they winners?
Are they successful?
Are they always in trouble?
Are they leading good wholesome lives?
Are they loving and respectfull to others?
Are they grateful for the things they have?

This social attraction works in both directions. If you want to attract people that are winners, successful and living good lives, you must strive to be a winner, successful and live a good life to attract those people and values into your own lives.So the choice is yours, take responsibility for yourself and pre qualify your social environment and relationships to meet the criteria of the kind of person and life you wish to lead.Its all about attraction, so...Be to yourself what you want in another person and that is what you will attract to yourself and your life.And don't blame others for your life, you attracted everything in your life to yourself.... change what you attract.

"The real winners in life are the people who look at every situation with an expectation that they can make it work or make it better."

There are no problems in life, only solutions. Remember all of the science fiction movies where they are always looking for the "source". Well,your the source. The source in within you. It starts with your mind and your approach to life. A winner achieves dispite adversity. There is a positive side to everything. I have business set backs all of the time. Because of the Principles of Life, I know that the universe is an ordered place. Therefore, everything happens for a reason. People lose because they fail to recognize this fact at a time of diversity, or they just don't know any better. Yes, it hurts and it can get one down when they have a setback or something happens that isn't expected or what you want. But the universe knows what you need. The universe will guide you if your let it. You may not know today or even next week why something went wrong. But, if you wait long enough the reason will reveal itself and you will understand why something went wrong or didn't work out.Thats why winners can face their problems and can look at every situation with an expectation that they can make it work or make it better. It isn't what just happened that matters, its what happens next that makes the difference. And, as I have said before, you only lose if you give up. The universe wants you to win, so just keep going forward.

Change is Inevitable, Personal Growth is a Choice. Just remember that change is inevitable. And if you can't grow and adjust through all of life's ups and downs, you are not likely to stand the test of time. So, instead of blaming your mother or anyone else in your like for your misery, change your attitude and beliefs, and take the steps YOU need to take to be happy.Taking responsibility for your own needs, your happiness and your life, is the most empowering thing you can do for yourself and the only way to make your relationships work.You need to take ownership of your emotions and be responsible for the choices you make. And if you don't like a situation in your life, you're the only one who can change it. Life is full of interruptions: birth, death, divorce, relocation, new job, health challenges, financial disasters, events that shape our lives and give us opportunities to evaluate, change, grow and find our purpose in life. While we can't control much of the world or the various situations changing around us, we can control how we respond.Stability is when everything is settled. But stability means there's no growth, no development, no exciting new gains that might result from unexpected pains. Some people call change progress and celebrate the improvements that it brings. Others curse those same changes and long for the good old days. Same changes, different responses. The choice is ours.There are two kinds of people; those who are changing and those who are setting themselves up to be victims of change.Our crisis’s, disasters and life problems give us an opportunity for us to change. It's a chance to choose a new path.The secret is in recognizing that major change is inevitable. Understanding and planning for that will keep us relevant in the moment while moving ably forward into the future.

To intentionally attract something, we must give up our attachment to it

The Law of Detachment, also known as The Law of Allowing. This law states that in order to intentionally attract something, we must give up our attachment to it.We already know that you get what you think about, whether wanted or unwanted. This also includes what you think about consciously and unconsciously. That's right, even your unconscious thoughts affect what you attract.Whatever you are thinking and feeling about what you desire is attached to that desire. So, if you have any doubt, fear, or negative emotion, you are actually repelling your desire, want, craving or need.To practice the Law of Detachment and receive your desire you must be willing to trust it to a higher power, or who this author calls GOD. You need to put your consciousness in a place of peaceful expectancy; a place where you feel certain that all is well and that you have received your desire. You need to believe without doubt or fear. I ask for my desire or need and than put it out of my head and just thank everyday for receiving that desire or need. The bible calls this faith, but many people do not really understand how this works. There is a three step process to realizing your dreams and desires. 1 ) ASK:You must verbally ask, with expectancy, for your desire, craving, or need to be met. You must always ask, you cannot receive without first asking. Don't think it, say it. 2 ) ANSWER:The universe or what I believe is my higher power, ALWAYS answers. That power can answer with a yes or a no. Its' not always the answer you want, but its always the right answer. But you receive the answer the moment you ask. 3 ) RECEIVE:To receive you need to be in alignment with what you are asking for, you need to passionately believe even if you have seen no evidence whatsoever that your want has been met. This is where most people fail in their prayers. They ask, the universe answered, and then they don't believe they have received. How many times in our prayers have we asked GOD for something and then every time we pray we ask again. He heard your the first time. Oh God, please, please, please. ASK ONCE and ONLY ONCE, from that point forward only THANK, thats right, THANK GOD for what you have asked for. Even if you have seen no evidence that your desire has been granted. That's faith, asking and believing that you have received. You will not get what you ask for in your time. You will always get it at the right time, and only the universe or the higher power knows what that time is. Everything happens when it is supposed to happen, good or bad, every time, and without exception. This is because the universe and GOD are perfect and do not make mistakes.So, stop repeatedly asking for GOD to give you your desire as he does not like repetitious prayer. Just start thanking him TODAY, without doubt, and with expectancy.