"Be A Women Of Confidence"

CONFIDENT WOMAN

Head held high,A smile filled with surprise;
A swing in my step,
As I flash my Baby Blue Eyes!

Strut in rare form,
Lipstick to match my nails;
Strong personality to bare,
Creativity within my tales.

I turn heads in my path,
As each step I take with pride;
I am sexy within my confidence,

No longer the need to run and hide.
You come close to know my name,

Eager within your words;
I am a sheer mystery,
Dancing inside songs you've never heard.

Smile at me as I walk by,
Remembering the sway of my walk;
Falling asleep to the sound of my voice,
And the sweet way I talk.

"SHYNESS - ANOTHER VIEW"

SHYNESS - ANOTHER VIEW

We are all born shy, aren't we? When we see little children clinging to their parents, hiding behind Mom or Dad, we are reminded about the shyness of first coming into this World. As this early stage of our life we are not ready to be seen just yet. We want to hide until it feels safe to come out and be visible.

Becoming visible is what Life is all about. Revealing ourselves, showing ourselves and expressing our "inner self" are about becoming visible and declaring ourselves "Ready" to meet the World. Much of the World certainly seems to like the shy person. People want that person to reveal themselves, to display their talents and capabilities. The World can be generous that way. It would seem that "repression" is an aberration to that so-called "Worldy Manner" where we usually invite others to share themselves with us.

This is a good thing, I believe, where we encourage each other to come out and display our wealth of creativity. As a species we are all enriched by these contributions from our shy members. It's like we know at some level that we will benefit from their displays. And perhaps they will teach us something about ourselves, since all of us have some inherent shyness built in.

Here's an interesting fact about shy people, those that still display shyness as - s - they are Creative. Very creative, as a matter of fact. The more shy a person is, the more creative they tend to be. A lot of actors and performers are shy people. Why? Because they are creative. So why do shy, creative people show themselves? Because the joy of giving, of displaying their special abilities far exceeds the limited payoff of staying hidden and allegedly safe. It's a contradiction of course, but it is true nevertheless. Most shy people (not all) are creative, and most creative people would rather give of their talents than hold back.

Are you shy? Are you creative? Then perhaps you are ready to give of yourself too! Wouldn't that be worth pursuing? If you see yourself as a "Shy" person then here's what you can do. You can hold yourself up to the light of day and declare "I am ready to meet the world." And the world will respond. "Welcome" it will say. "Yes indeed, we need you. Please show us your stuff."

And all the shy people of the World will step forward and give of themselves unanimously. Wouldn't that be a big surprise? To see all of us out there, dancing a jig, showing off our stuff, our talents and abilities.

Yes, we can do it, we who are shy. We can show our stuff to the World. Time to come out from behind Mom's skirts, and take a peek around the corner. The World is waiting for you to "Strut Your Stuff." Don't be shy now!

"PUBLIC SPEAKING"

Conquering the Fear of Public Speaking

Sweaty palms. Upset stomach. Dizziness. Shortness of breath. Rapid heartbeat. These might sound like symptoms of the flu, but if you have a fear of public speaking, chances are you know them all too well.

A common condition

Fear of speaking in public is extremely common, says David Greenberg, author of Simply Speaking! The No-Sweat Way to Prepare and Deliver Presentations and member of the National Speakers Association (NSA).

"According to the Book of Lists, the number one fear of American adults is speaking in front of groups," says Greenberg, adding that fear of death ranks at number seven on the same list. Greenberg himself, who speaks several times a week to audiences of up to 1,000 people, admits he still feels nervous before each and every presentation.

Depending on which scientific studies you read, anywhere from 44% to 85% of people feel some level of anxiety or discomfort before speaking or performing in public, as do many professional performers, says Howard Gurr, PhD, a New York psychologist who treats professional musicians and singers for stage fright.

Causes

According to the experts, several factors contribute to the nerves many people feel at the sight of a podium and microphone, including fear of embarrassment, fear of failure, and fear of rejection.

"People just don't want to be on center stage," explains Marjorie Brody, author of Speaking is an Audience-Centered Sport.

Using Fear to Your Advantage

The ironic thing is that a touch of stage fright can actually help you be a more effective speaker. You can use the fear of failure to promote your success, if you allow it to motivate instead of discourage you.

Take-away Tips

The experts offer these tips on how to conquer your fear of public speaking:

• Organize your thoughts
  When preparing your speech, organize your thoughts and create short notes to bring with you.
• Keep it simple
  Limit yourself to two or three main points, and use your own stories to illustrate your message, recommends Greenberg, who says people will remember your stories long after they've forgotten you or the topic of your presentation.
• Practice, practice, practice
  This doesn't mean memorizing your speech word-for-word. "You want to know your material, but you don't want to be locked into some iron-clad presentation format," says Dr. Gurr. And although you should rehearse aloud, Dr. Gurr suggests you avoid "practicing the life out of your presentation."
• Think about your delivery
  Notice your rate of speech, your voice's tone and volume, your energy level and your gestures, and vary them all for maximum effect. "Always be aware of monotony," says Ty Boyd, a member of the Speakers Hall of Fame and former president of the NSA.
• Arrive early
  On the day of your presentation, arrive early, not just to address any last-minute issues but also to "meet and greet." Mingling with the audience for a few minutes can establish a friendly tone even before you begin your presentation.
• Focus on the information and the audience
  When the butterflies take flight in your abdomen, tell yourself a little nervousness is nothing to be ashamed of, and remind yourself you don't need to be perfect. In fact, unless you're a celebrity, says Brody, "realize that people are not coming to see you; they're coming to get the information." Once you take the focus off your performance and put it onto your audience, you buy yourself some breathing room and remember why you're presenting in the first place.
• Don't dwell on your errors
  What if your nightmares actually come true and you lose your spot or drop your note cards? "What's really important is recovering gracefully," says Greenberg. "If you don't call attention to it, no one's going to notice." He adds that a brief pause of a second or two can seem a natural part of a presentation to the audience, even if it seems to last an eternity when all eyes are on you. If the gaffe is so large as to be unmistakable like mispronouncing the name of your company's president or accidentally deleting your PowerPoint presentation admit you've made a mistake and move on. Making a blunder or two can actually give the audience permission to relax, especially if you handle it with humor.

"The fact is, if you aren't perfect, your audience will relate to you better," says Greenberg.

"Corporate Dressing for Women"

"Here are some useful Business Corporate Dressing tips for Women. "

"These days, when women are equally comfortable chairing boardroom meetings, corporate dressing has taken on a whole new meaning. Here are a few wardrobe musts."

1. Treat your business clothing as an investment and choose wisely. Make sure you buy classic styles that suit your body shape, are comfortable, have quality workmanship and quality material. This is no time to try the latest fads.

Take your time and shop around for the best price and the best service. Be aware of the return policy and if possible purchase your wardrobe items at a store that can do professional alternations if necessary.

2 . For business/corporate situations match your handbag , shoes and belt. Black shoes should be matched with a black handbag. This is not a time to get creative with your accessories or to wear colored shoes.

3. Do not neglect your outerwear . Purchase a good quality coat that can be worn with either pants or a skirt. For cooler weather don't neglect your outdoor footwear. For skirts choose long knee-high boots.

4. Keep shoes and boots in a good state of repair. Scuffed shoes with worn heels will ruin the look of your outfit.

5. To complete your look choose soft leather gloves that will add a nice touch as well as keep your hands from getting chapped.

6. Choose clothing material that reflects the season. Heavy fabrics and tweeds are best for Fall and Winter and will look out of place during Summer, as light linen fabrics will look out of place during Winter.

7. Always wear a belt where there are belt loops . Choose a good quality leather belt and don't be tempted to wear a flashy or plastic belt. If you don't like belts choose pants without loops .

"How To Be A Chic World Leader"

DRESS SENSE is vital for a world leader. The important thing is that they look good, because then people feel better about them. Obviously most world leaders would invite ridicule if they were simply to copy Hamid Karzai's Afghan style.

For most Western leaders, I would recommend they go for a classic well-cut suit - you can't beat it. Suits such as the ones from Savile Row are the best for this line of work: you know that you will get the most out of them. Wearing a good suit is the epitome of respectability, elegance and beauty. The vital ingredient in looking chic when you are in a position of power is to feel good yourself.

If you are always in the public eye, and travelling a lot, it is a good idea to have a collection of shirts and ties that go together in any combination. This is the easiest solution, and you can build up a wardrobe that is simple to put together but looks chic. Choose clothes with a certain reputation: for someone in the spotlight, looking sharp is a vital aspect of image- building.

When sorting out which colours to go for, there is a great deal of freedom for the leader who wants to be chic. Brightly coloured shirts and ties are everywhere now: it's the 21st century, and so it is not unusual to depart from the traditional white. Suits are certainly the hardest to get wrong and, in this case, a safe option is to be desired.

What is less safe for a leader in the public arena is to dress casually. This is where things are much more likely to go awry, and so to be stylish requires more effort. People in high-profile positions can't always wear suits, of course, but when dressing down it's important not to look as if you have tried too hard. The difficulty is that casual dress reveals more about the individual's style, and when this is under scrutiny you have to be even more careful in making sure it looks good.

My recommendation is to keep things simple. It is good for a statesman to appear relaxed, and so the style should certainly be their own, but please, please don't go overboard. It is difficult to make rules on how to approach the casual mode, but I would say that a roll-neck jumper and jeans combined with casual footwear usually looks good. Remember, though, that it all depends on the individual leader - and the most important thing is to wear clothes that you feel comfortable in. In the end, being chic as well as powerful is determined by how at ease you feel in the spotlight.