"Equal Respect"

What you think of yourself is reflected in the way you treat others.

A very effective way to raise your own level of confidence

is by acting positively toward the people around you.

Rudeness toward others, whether intentional or not,

is a sure sign of a lack of confidence.

When you have no respect or consideration for others,

it's difficult to have much confidence in yourself.

Ironically,one of the worst things you can do for yourself

is to think only of yourself.

The more genuine respect, consideration and

courtesy you express toward those around you,

the more your own confidence will grow.

If someone is rude to you,

make every effort to be sincerely pleasant

and courteous in return.

Just because someone else is allowing rudeness

to drain away their own energy,

doesn't mean you must do the same.

Have the confidence to be courteous,

and the confidence to act with genuine

respect toward others.

Your positive attitude and positive actions will

empower you with even more confidence and energy.

"Dream,Believe & Achieve"

The Magic Hundred

I know you'll find this hard to believe but I've a pretty good idea about what brought you to this blog page today.

I know that, like many, many thousands of people around the world you've been searching for that one thing that will give you the answers to the question you've been asking yourself for most of your life.

The question that is first on your mind when you wake up and last on your mind before you go to sleep at night.

When Will I Finally Be Happy?

Now, you probably don't ask the question in those exact words, in fact, I'm fairly certain you ask yourself more 'ordinary' things like:

"Why can't I lose this weight?"

"Why am I always struggling to pay the bills?"

"Why am I always arguing with my kids or spouse?"

"Why has my life become so boring?"

"Is this all there is?"

You might ask any of these things or a thousand other variants of them but regardless of how you actually phrase it, you're basically asking "When will I be happy?"

I know, because I used to ask myself questions like these every single day.

In fact, up until around 7 years ago my life was a mess. I didn't always like to admit it at the time, but it really was.

I had a lovely wife and four beautiful children and wanted to give them all the great things that life had to offer but I also had a dead-end job that paid me peanuts, no money in the bank, bills up to my eyeballs and was living from paycheque to pitiful paycheque. It would be more than fair to say I was scratching a living instead of truly living a life.

That was bad enough but what made things even worse was that I couldn't figure out how things were going to get any better for me.

You see, I had left school early to join the army so I had no academic qualifications, no money to put myself back through college and get any and no obvious way out of the hole that I felt I had dug my life into.

I must admit, it seemed to me at the time that I would somehow be doomed to a life of 'getting by' just like my parents and their parents before them, being forced to stand by and watch 'the privileged few' seemingly effortlessly get everything they wanted from life.

But Fast-Forward 7 Years...

...and the picture is very different.

I own five businesses that generate over half a million pounds a year, I'm regularly featured in national and international press, I write for numerous magazines, appear at international conventions and on television and am counted by many as one of the leading experts in the world in my field.

I own my own 4 bedroom home just 5 minutes from a beauftiful forest, I drive the car of my dreams - a brand new Landrover Discovery series three - I take vacations all around the world with my family to jungles, deserts, the Arctic Circle and the Australian 'Outback' and have seen amazing sunrises and sunsets over temples and tropical paradises that I'd only ever seen in photographs until 7 years ago.

I'm So Grateful That My Life Has Taken This New Course But I Also Know How Easy It Could Have Been To Have Kept Things Exactly As They Were Because Of Fear, Frustration And Lack Of Belief

You see, I know EXACTLY what it's like to feel like you're never going to make it, like you're never going to be, do or have the things that you really want from your life.

I know!

Who hasn't felt this way?

Yet I also know that giving in to that feeling doesn't help. Not a single bit.

In fact, giving in to the thought that 'things are the way they are and there's nothing I can do about it' is the surest way to condemn yourself to a life of unhappiness.

After all, how can you be happy when you're 'settling' for what you're getting from life rather than going after and getting what you really want?

You can't!

But I also understand that it's not always easy to dream big dreams about being successful when the evidence that surrounds you every day reminds you that you're anything but.

Telling yourself to 'remain positive' or 'have faith' just doesn't help when life is giving you negative examples of how little your faith has helped you, does it?

There's only one way to break free from the inertia that's keeping you from the things you want for your life and that's to commit to a structured plan that will take you from where you are to where you want to be.

Sounds too simplistic, I know, but nevertheless it's true.

Of course, the difficult part in this is to find that structured plan in the first place!

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"SURVIVAL"

Survival of the fittest

Some times I wonder what will become of the human race. In nature, survival depends on a few basic rules. The best adapted and healthiest survive long enough to parent a next generation. They have to be fast enough, strong enough, camouflaged enough, healthy enough, or they won't live long enough to breed. Diseases, weaknesses and birth defects will result in a quick death, so that they do not pass on those bad genes to there offspring. It is natural selection.




Humans have also lived by these rules for a long time. The smarter humans made adaptations that allowed them to live longer than the dumber ones. The ones born with serious defects and diseases did not live long enough to give birth. Thus the human race developed into the intelligent species we are today. But intelligence came with a price.

We became smart enough to develop medicine. We became smart enough to make life easy enough to allow even the sick and weak to grow up and pass there genes on. Through protection of the community and growing adaptations, the sick and weak no longer were doomed to die.

People who were not able to survive diseases, now survived thanks to better medicine. Instead of just passing on the genes of surviving resistant and strong individuals, they passed on the genes of those who were unable to survive even a simple pneumonia without medicine. The human race grew weaker and weaker, as medicine grew stronger. And the humans multiplied, the populations exploded.

When a population of animals grows too large in nature, nature intervenes. Disease spreads and weakens the population, killing large enough numbers to restore a healthy number. We have killed so many of the natural predators in our forests, that we now have to take the place as top predator and hunt a certain number of moose and deer every year, to prevent the populations to grow too large. We know what will happen otherwise, we hunt to keep the populations strong and healthy.

Several times in human history, it seems like nature has tried to intervene our growth as well. The Spanish Flu, the Plague of Justinian, the Black Death, and many others, all killing humans by the millions. All atacking violently and spreading rapidly, designed to kill in crowded populations.

Now a new kind of pandemic is spreading, HIV and Aids. As if nature understood that a flu or a plague just won't get the job done, it created a virus that we could not stop. But we have found treatments, a way to stop HIV from developing into AIDS. Most of the time. The infected get to live on and spread there disease to others.

Cancer is a growing problem, it seems that almost everyone nowadays gets cancer in one form or another during there lifetime. In the past, people who were vulnerable to cancer died. Now they live on, maybe get cured, and pass on there genes to their children. I am a child of a cancer-survivor myself. It is not a good feeling nowing that the genes that gave my mother cancer now live on in me. And are passed on to the next generation. Generations before me, and the generations that follow me, pass on the weakness.

Why is it, that people born with the most horific birth defects and fatal diseases must survive no matter the cost? I understand that people love their family, and I understand that even sick and disabled people can live a good life. I don't say that they do not deserve a chance of life. But I do have some feelings on this matter that may upset and disgust many of you.

When my animals give birth to young with defects, I do not let them live. The young end up as meat. And the parents get neutered. Animals with serious diseases and weaknesses also get terminated. As a result, my stock has been healthy and strong the last 9 years. I only allow the best males and females to mate, the rest get neutered.
The human race is weakening itself. We should not allow the terribly defected to give birth to children. We should not allow the geneticly diseased to pass on there genes. Passing on genetic diseases and defects to the next generation is not only cruel, it is not natural. People who were not meant to survive should not pass on those genes to their children. There should have been a testing of the children after birth. If they do not live up to a certain normal physical standard, they should be sterilized. And genitic defects should be tested for, with the same result if they do not pass.
It is not natures way to pass on bad genes to the next generation. Have you ever seen a blind moose in the wild? Have you seen an adult deer with just three legs? Have you seen a bird with crippled wings? Have you seen the defected give birth? No. They get eaten or die of disease before they ever get to reach the age of sexual maturity.

Nature eliminates the weak and let the strong survive. In Africa, there are some prostitutes who are immune to HIV. Nature has given them the strong genes needed to resist the virus. Those are the women that should give birth to new generations of Africans. Scientists should collect their eggs and pass on those good genes through artificial insemination to new generations of Africans.

And the people with HIV and AIDS should either be put down or isolated. A mandatory blood test for everyone would find the infected so that we could isolate them from the healthy. We could stop tje virus from spreading further. But no one is willing to do this. Why sacrifice a few for the many?

We are too many people on this planet. But maybe I have thought about this in the wrong way.

Our intelligence may have given us medicine and a weird sence of moral. But we are also intelligent enough to have created enough nuclear bombs to wipe out all life on this planet several times over. And not a medicine in the world can heal that. So maybe nature gave us intelligence for a reason. It made us intelligent enough to make the bomb, but not wise or moral enough to not use it.

Humanity will get extinct sooner or later, let's just hope that we don't take everything with us in the fall...

"Aiming For Success"

Productivity


Aim for success, not perfection.Never give up your right to be wrong,because then you will lose the ability to learn newthings and move forward with your life.

Remember that fear always lurks behind perfectionism.Confronting your fears and allowing yourself the rightto be human can, paradoxically, make yourself ahappier and more productive person.

"You Are The Reflection Of Your Thoughts"

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Smooth Road'z Never Make Good Driverz:
Smooth Sea Never Makes Good Sailorz:
Clear Skies Never Make Good Pilot:
Problem Free Life Never Makes a Strong & Good person:
Have a Tough But Winning Day Ahead:
Be Strong Enough To Accept The Challengez Of Life....
Dont Ask Life "Why Me"?
Instead Say "Try Me"
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Health:
1. Drink plenty of water.2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.5. Make time to practice meditation, yoga, and prayer.6. Play more games.7. Read more books than you did in 2008.8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.9. Sleep for 7 hours.10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day. And while you walk, smile.

Personality:
11. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.12. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.13. Don't over do. Keep your limits.14. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.16. Dream more while you are awake.17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your resent happiness.19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.23. Smile and laugh more.24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
Society:
25. Call your family often.26. Each day give something good to others.27. Forgive everyone for everything.28. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.30. What other people think of you is none of your business.31. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:
32. Do the right thing!33. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.34. GOD heals everything.35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.37. The best is yet to come.38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy

Does Size Matter?

Women Men Want - Does Size Matter?

"Honey, does my bum look big in this?" If there's any line that is a tribute to the evolution of the modern relationship, it would be this one. Behind the stale humor of this sentence lies a problem that has grown exponentially over time: does size matter to a guy?

Of course size does matter, but not in the way that you might think. Three of the most common "disadvantages" have it's pluses from a guy's point of view.

Short - Us guys don't see you as short, we see you as petite. No one talks about it, but it's a general rule that a guy is taller than a girl in a relationship. Heaps of guys dig short girls, just because it makes them feel more of a man. They feel like they can better protect their girl. Besides, being short hasn't stopped heaps of females from being bombshells in the bedroom. So don't feel down if you're not as tall as you'd want to be, a lot of us guys are looking for girls like you.

Fat - Us guys don't see you as fat, we see you as curvy. Your hips and other feminine features are accentuated and secretly, many guys dig a bit of meat on their girl. Girls are skinny, women are curvy.

Skinny - Us guys don't see you as skinny, we see you as slender. Having less fat on your body means that there's less between the man and the woman. Touches are more electric and similar to being petite, a light girl makes us guys want to protect you mor
Hopefully, you are now more confident in whatever shape that you were born. Ideal guys are looking for you, if you just flaunt what your momma gave you with not a care in the world, he will find you.

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Beauty Radiates From Within

Confidence Brings Out True Beauty

TELL ME I'M BEAUTIFUL. NOW!

She'd spent hours preparing for their night out. From getting her nails done to shopping for the perfect dress to carefully arranging her hair and makeup, the end result was that she looked great. They'd hired a sitter and for the first time in months, they would be a couple again. Not parents, but a couple. But it would only be one night.

She emerges from the bathroom to find him sitting on the bed, adjusting his watch band. It has been years since she's looked this beautiful. The baby weight is gone now and she looks almost as good as they day they met. In some ways, even better. She knows the instant he looks at her, he'll be blown away.

"Did you leave the emergency numbers for the sitter?" she asks, knowing that will prompt him to look up.

With a slightly confused expression, he lifts his gaze. He focuses on her, squinting a little, then shakes his head. Without a word, he gets up and goes to the kitchen to put the numbers on the fridge.

She follows him. Obviously he was distracted by her question. It hurts a little that he wasn't blown away by her on first sight, but she'll give him another chance to redeem himself.

"Did you call to make the reservation?" he asks as she enters the kitchen. He walks from the fridge and stops at the edge of the counter. He's looking directly at her but she may as well be wearing the sweatpants and plain T-shirt that have become her daily wardrobe around here.

"Seven o'clock," she confims with a nod. And she waits. And waits. Still no compliment. The sitter arrives and they head out for the evening. As he opens the car door for her, she becomes all too aware that this evening can go two ways. She can throw a fit and ruin the evening or she can just push back her pain and try to forget that her husband no longer even looks at her anymore.
We all know which option she will choose.

Sometimes it seems as though a man would be better off murdering the family kitten than neglecting to tell his wife she's beautiful. Or going more than three months without sending her roses. Or calling her when he's going to be late coming home. I'm going to be the first woman in history to outwardly admit, we don't want to be hysterical about these things. We really don't.

We know even as we're saying the words just how nutty we sound, but we can't seem to help ourselves. You didn't say we were beautiful and in that moment we have an almost exhilirated anger with you because we know...

For this, you shall pay. And you shall pay dearly.

In preparation for this blog, I consulted my friend Bud, who has been happily married for years. He and his wife have learned a few things the hard way. Whenever a situation like this arises, instead of saying, "You didn't compliment me," which just puts him on the defensive, she'll say,

"Tell me how beautiful you think I am, in your own words." Or, "Tell me how much you love me." Instead of starting an argument, it becomes a fun little game, and it keeps him from feeling like she's saying he's a bad husband.

Men are not mind-readers. They just aren't. Sometimes life gets in the way, sometimes he takes a look at you and thinks, "Wow, she's so beautiful," but he can't quite find the words to express how he's feeling. Or maybe something happens that distracts him from telling you. Whatever the case, the woman feels taken for granted. She longs for those early days when you did tell her you thought she was beautiful. Back then you didn't assume she knew it. Back then you actually felt you had to tell her for her to know.

If I'm dressed up for the evening and he hasn't complimented me, I'm not sure there's anything I could do that would turn it around. The thing about romance is, if someone has to be told to do it, it loses its luster. But what I'm suggesting is that maybe men just need a little nudge every now and then.

Something that lets them know you need something that he isn't providing. And since temper tantrums only serve to completely destroy the evening, maybe simply asking for what we want is a more productive solution. How about saying, "Look at me and tell me what you think." Or, better yet, how about complimenting him and seeing if he says something in return?

But whatever you do, asking, "Do I look fat?" is NEVER a good idea!

"Believe In The Influence Of Feminity"

Who Better Inspire Women,

Than Women Themselves

It's so easy for women to slip into self-doubt and feeling inadequate.

After all, we shoulder a lot of responsibilities - being supportive of our mates, nurturing our children, stating in touch with extended family, holding down jobs while holding down the effort at home.

No wonder we sometimes feel anxious, exhausted, and insecure.
We Need To Know We Are Not Alone. We need to hear that other women share ourexperiences.

We need reassurance that there's someone who understands - someone who's been there, done that.

As women, we take turns encouraging, supporting, and cheering one another on.

"Never Ever Doubt Your Worth"

I am worth a lot

Your Self-worth depends on how you value yourself.If you have a high respect in yourself you are considered a rare gem & great catch by the opposite gender.

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question "What kind of man are you looking for?

"She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking, "Do you really want to know?"Reluctantly, he said, "Yes."She began to expound...

"As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that I can't do for myself.I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man...or woman for that matter.

I am in the position to ask, 'What can you bring to the table?'"The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought and stated, "I am not referring to money. I need something more.

I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life."He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain.She said, "I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation.

I don't need a simple-minded man. I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for perfection financially because I don't need a financial burden.

I am looking forsomeone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I am looking for someone who I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him.

I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business.I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy.

God made woman to be a helpmate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself."When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face.

He said,"You are asking a lot.
"She replied, "I am worth a lot."

"Be A Women Of Confidence"

CONFIDENT WOMAN

Head held high,A smile filled with surprise;
A swing in my step,
As I flash my Baby Blue Eyes!

Strut in rare form,
Lipstick to match my nails;
Strong personality to bare,
Creativity within my tales.

I turn heads in my path,
As each step I take with pride;
I am sexy within my confidence,

No longer the need to run and hide.
You come close to know my name,

Eager within your words;
I am a sheer mystery,
Dancing inside songs you've never heard.

Smile at me as I walk by,
Remembering the sway of my walk;
Falling asleep to the sound of my voice,
And the sweet way I talk.

"Dream & Discover What Your Future Holds"

K E Y S__T O__L I F E_________

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MY DEFINITE KEYS TO LIFE IS TO KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND DO NOT LET ANYBODY TELL YOU THAT YOU CAN'T DO SOMETHING WHEN YOU KNOW YOU CAN...YOU CAN BE ANYTHING IN LIFE AS LONG AS YOU KEEP PUSHING FORWARD AND STOP TAKING THE BABY STEPS IN LIFE..LIFE IS A SERIOUS MATTER SO THERE FOR YOU SHOULD ALWAYS TAKE LIFE SERIOUSLY SO THAT MEANS MAKE THE BEST OF TODAY BECAUSE TOMORROW ISN'T A PROMISE....LIFE IS LIKE WATER..IT TRAVELS ON AND ON UNTIL YOU LET IT GO OR THROW IT AWAY BY NOT MAKING THE RIGHT DECISIONS...I HAVE DEDICATED MY LIFE SO MY LIFE IS IN GODS HANDS SO I LIVE MY LIFE TO THE FULLEST EVERYDAY AND TRY TO DO MY BEST...SO JUST HOLD YOUR HEAD HIGH A KEEP GOING.

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Knowing the "Hidden Power" of Fonts Spells Success

Knowing the "Hidden Power" of Fonts Spells Success
Does font choice reveal something hidden in your personality?


I'm a font fanatic. I can't begin to type anything unless I find a font that feels right. My favorites are the trusty Times New Roman, Courier New, Comic Sans, and Arial. I wondered what my font choices say about me, so I did some research and found out that there's more than meets the eye when it comes to fonts.

"Perception of Fonts: Personality Traits and Uses," a 2006 psychology study done at Wichita State University, revealed that people associate fonts with particular moods.

After going through the study's survey charts, I was amused to find out that my font choices present me as a "stable conformist" who could also be funny and "cuddly." (Me? A conformist?) Go figure. Check out the study and see how you might be judged by your favorite fonts.

In any case, the Wichita State University study confirms that fonts have indeed become significant elements of communication. In the old days, a person's handwriting was thought to be the key to his or her personality. Now--with technology as the great equalizer and a blessing to those with horrible penmanship--a person's font choices are supposed to show the world how his or her mind works.

As such, knowing the right fonts to use could spell the difference between the failure and success of communication.

It seems that the advertising industry has tapped into this "hidden power" of fonts. John Doyle, a marketing researcher at Cardiff Business School in the U.K. says that "consumers prefer consistency" and that "congruence between a typeface and an ad's message results in a more memorable product."

To illustrate his point, Doyle presented some of his findings:

1. Ornate, scripted fonts are associated with elegance.

2. A font that is slanted to the right connotes action. It's best for fast, high-paced products.

3. Products meant to exude strength and power are best shown off with heavy, block-like fonts.
Then again, I think we should all remember that the message we want to communicate or the product we're selling should be substantial enough to begin with.

While fonts do pack a subtle-yet-powerful psych punch, they can only enhance a good idea or a wonderful product. People won't believe what you're saying or buy what you're selling if it's not any good--never mind if you used the right font in your marketing letter.

Knowing the "Hidden Power" of Fonts Spells Success

Side Note from MJ: Great stuff, Bean. The Direct Marketing world universally seems to agree that the standard serif fonts (12 pt. Times New Roman and 10 pt. Courier) will have a very positive impact on the response rate of any print ad.

The theory is that these fonts increase readability and it's only logical that this would increase the response rate of your ads. You can have the best-written ad in the world and if no one reads it, it just doesn't matter. On the web, since serif fonts don't render so well in browsers, the preferred font tends to be Arial, Verdana, and Tahoma.

Of course marketers will argue this point from every which direction, but the above seems to be the most universally agreed upon standard in the Direct Marketing world. The brand marketers are looking at things from an entirely different lens, so for them short ads with fonts selected for emotional impact can make good sense.

"Things You Can Do to Boost Emotional Energy"

4 Simple Things You Can Do to Boost Emotional Energy

Feeling drained? Surprisingly, it might be your spirit -- and not your body -- that needs a jolt. "Just as physical energy comes from diet, exercise and rest, emotional energy comes from the ways you take care of yourself emotionally -- living in a way that makes you feel inspired, hopeful, self-confident, playful, loving and in touch with what you care about most," says Mira Kirshenbaum, author of The Emotional Energy Factor:

The Secrets High-Energy People Use to Beat Emotional Fatigue. Letting others walk all over you or failing to do things that make you happy zaps your emotional energy -- and can leave you feeling unmotivated and even physically tired. To avoid such weariness, here are Kirshenbaum's four tips for boosting your emotional energy:

1. Stop living to please other people. In other words, marry the charming social worker whom you love instead of the rich doctor mom is pushing on you. Move to Europe if it will make you happy, even if your girlfriends are making you feel guilty about putting distance between you. Say no when someone asks you to do something you really don't want to do. Be who you want to be, do what you want to do and the rewards will be plentiful, says Kirshenbaum. "When you live your life for other people, you put out the effort, but they get the benefit," she adds. "This creates an energy drain, just the way it would if you did the work on a job and someone else got the paycheck." You'll free up energy you didn't even know you had once you quit worrying about what mom, your friends and other family members think about your decisions.

2. Bring positive people into your world. You need to surround yourself with people who care about and support you even in your darkest hours. Avoid those who nag, complain or involve you in their problems, says Kirshenbaum. Toxic people, who put you down to lift their own spirits, suck the life right out of you. Spending more time with those who make you feel good about yourself or inspire you in some way will revive you. Maybe it's time to start ignoring your so-called friend who leaves messages on your machine only when she needs help with something.

3. Always have something big and new on your agenda. Plan that next vacation or start writing that novel you have in your head. Looking forward to milestones and events stimulates people. It gives you a reason to get out of bed in the morning, and that increases your desire to work toward your goals. "You gain energy from the hopes you have for your future? making your present feel more manageable, and that, too, frees up emotional energy," says Kirshenbaum. Actually putting the wheels in motion (for example, calling the travel agent, writing the outline for the book) will also make you feel better -- and excited to keep it up.

4. Never live in the past. Quit dwelling on what might have happened with that old boyfriend if you had just stayed together, why you quit one job in favor of another, what would have been if you made different decisions. Instead, focus on the here and now and what you need to do to move forward. Do you want to go back to school? Find a husband? Change careers? Be more adventurous? Put the spark back in your romance? "You are in charge of the meaning in your life," Kirshenbaum writes in her book. Although you can't predict everything that will happen to you, you can make a flexible plan to accomplish your goals. Things like your career path, relationships in which you'd like to invest and how you would like to spend your free time are all under your control. You can decide your own destiny, an important task that will be much easier now that you have more energy.

"Reach For The Stars"

believing yourself.....

a man is what he thinks he is. if he thinks he is weak ,he will be weak, if he thinks he is strong ,he will be strong. why am i saying this is that of late i have become very positive in my approach and thoughts .this has helped me to gain the confidence of people around me and i have also started believing in myself. professional life , be it private life i see that change with me. its just a small thought that i wanted to share .

All dreams come true if you believe in this.
Step by step and your wishes will be realise.

Push the limits.

I want to make that something impossible make possible.

It is like I am finding water in the desert....

After a while I learned the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul. I learned that kisses aren't contracts and presents aren't promises. I learned that loving doesn't mean leaning and company doesn't always mean security, and I learned that even sunshine burns if you get too much.

After a while I learned to build all my dreams on today because tomorrows ground is to uncertain for dreams, and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.

After a while I learned to accept my defeats with my head held with the grace of a woman and not the grief of a child.

After a while I learned to plant my own garden and decorate my own soul instead of waiting for someone else to bring me flowers. And I learned that I really am strong, that I really do have self worth, and I can endure, and I learn and learn, with every "goodbye" I learn.

"Closing circles, shutting doors, ending chapters - whatever we call it, it doesn't matter. What matters is that we leave in the past the moments of our life that are over."

"How To Stay Track During Stressful Days?"

5 Ways to Stay on Track

When stress and anxiety threaten to take energy away from what truly matters, ask yourself these five questions.

The one who asks questions doesn't lose his way.--African proverb

One of the most basic but difficult things when trying to grow is simply to keep yourself on the right track, to make sure your mind doesn't take a wrong turn. However, in day-to-day life your ambitions and dreams may be forgotten among all your responsibilities and old habits. One thing that's been useful for me is to continually ask myself questions in various situations throughout my week. By asking yourself helpful questions you'll get helpful answers.


Here are five of my favorite questions. Adding these – or your own favorites – to external reminders such as a bracelet or posted notes can be very useful when your mind is headed down a slippery slope of negativity.

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1. Is this useful?

This is a good way to weed out thought habits that may not be so useful. Your mind may, for instance, fool you into believing that it's the right thing to go around being angry at someone because, well, you're right. Or that it's right to dwell on a problem because you had such bad luck.Both thought patterns are quite seductive because they can fool you into believing that you are doing the "right" or "normal" thing. But are such thoughts useful to you? Probably not. They'll just create suffering in your life, waste your time and do little to solve a practical situation. By asking if something is useful you can stop yourself while heading down a negative path and turn toward the light again.

2. What's good about this situation?

Often you'll find a lesson within a negative experience or a way to reframe the situation and create some positivity and enthusiasm within yourself.Asking yourself this question may seem silly at first. You may not find anything positive or good initially. But after you've started to ask yourself the question more and more, you'll probably find something to learn from the situation.And the more positive and good things you can find in experiences, the more your mind starts to accept that you can indeed find something good in just about any situation. You just have to get used to thinking about things in this new and unfamiliar way.

3. How can I give value in this situation?

This is a good way to improve your relationships and interactions. Here are reasons to give value in your everyday life:

It makes you feel good.
You tend to get what you give.
It makes your life a whole lot more fun.

It makes it easier to start new relationships.What value can you give in a situation/to another person? Well, a few suggestions would be: bringing a positive attitude, lending a listening ear, cheering someone up, offering useful advice, or creating fun or excitement for people in your life.By asking yourself this question, you can add more value to other people's lives--and yours.

4. Am I taking this too seriously?

This is a wonderful question to ask yourself to lower stress levels and be able to feel better and perform better in a situation where you have created a lot of internal pressure on yourself. It takes much of the self-imposed seriousness and weight off on your shoulders. It makes life lighter.

5. Will this matter five years from now?

This question can really put things in perspective. It can make just about any difficulty that you are having right now seem a bit trivial and not as important and heavy as you had imagined over the last few days, weeks, or months. You may discover that you've expanded and made the problem a lot more terrifying than it actually is.Asking yourself a combination of these questions may help you to put just about anything in your life into a more healthy and relaxed perspective.

"Improving Your Self-esteem"

How to Start a Self-Esteem File
"They conquer who believe they can."

10 steps to help you set up a repository for affirming, loving words from the important people in your life.

By Therese Borchard

Three years ago I walked into my therapist's office feeling like a Krispy Kreme donut: I had no center. Everything I attempted, both professionally and personally, seemed to flop. I had no sense of self, no confidence, and no faith in myself. I found nothing of value in my DNA.So she assigned me a project that turned out to be a meaningful, lasting tool in my mental health toolbox. I call it "The Self-Esteem File." Here are 10 steps for starting your own.

Step 1: Identify 10 Strengths in Yourself

My therapist first told me to try to identify 10 of my strengths--10 positive qualities about myself--and to write them down on a piece of paper. This first step, trying to recognize your own assets, and to begin, ever so slightly, to believe in yourself again, is the most important. And the most difficult.Think hard about what people have told you in the past: things that you do especially well, or personality traits they admire. Think about your job. Why are you good at it? Or about your hobby. What makes you enjoy it? What is that something special about you?You might also go through old birthday cards, or report cards, or annual reviews (excerpting ONLY the positive), think back to past conversations with friends, page through photo albums and scrapbooks--anything to recall those times when people recognized your talents and assets and expressed appreciation for them.

Step 2: Come Up with Four People to List Your Strengths

If you were unable to come up with 10 positive traits about yourself, I totally understand that. Because the first time I tried to do it, I couldn't get there either. I stopped at two: I had a nice-shaped nose and thick fingernails. And those two qualities weren't exactly making me feel whole again.So here's the next step: come up with four people who will write that list for you. Now, I know what you're thinking: if I had four people in my life who would tell me why I am wonderful, then I wouldn't have low self-esteem...right? Of course, it's not that simple. But I'm thinking that there are four people in your life who could do this for you. Not necessarily friends, but maybe coworkers, or siblings, or teachers, or pastors, or mail carriers. Think about people who have complimented you in the past. Go there.

Step 3: Make Four Friends

If you still can't think of four people in your life who could identify and list 10 of your assets, then you need to make more friends. And I have some ideas on how to do that!Go read my post "12 Ways to Make Friends," in which I mention a few strategies like: joining a book club, volunteering with a charity or civic association, getting involved with your church, going online and joining a group like "Group Beyond Blue," seeking a support group, taking a night class, getting a dog (pet owners stick together), "stealing" friends from other friends (my favorite), carpooling to work, attending a conference, connecting with your alumni associations, and talking to strangers (which is how I met my guardian angel, Ann).

Step 4: Ask Your Friends to Make the List

Now that you have at least four people who can ideally compile a list of positive traits for you, what do you say to them?I know. This is not easy. Because it is admitting that you are, well, in a bit of a rut. Which is why you can make up something like the following (which isn't a lie, really!): "For a project I'm doing with an online group, I need to assign four people with the task of listing 10 positive traits about me. I thought of you since you're such a positive and complimentary person. Would you ever consider doing that for me?"If you know the friend well, you might say something a tad more revealing: "Hey, you know, I've been feeling really down on myself, and someone suggested that I have my friends compile a list of my character strengths, because I can't really see any. Would you mind doing that for me?"

Step 5: Buy a Folder and a Label

Next comes one of the easier steps: simply drive (or walk) to the drugstore or to an office-supply shop and buy a folder. Any color. Any style. Write the words "Self-Esteem File" on the front. Make it so obvious that you would be embarrassed if anyone found it.Why? Because if your home catches on fire, you want to be sure to grab the right file: the one with all the warm fuzzies inside.

Step 7: Find More Friends

Most of the time, one, two, three, or four of your friends won't follow through on their promise, which is why you need a list of four additional people to serve as alternatives in case your lazy so-called friends bail on this task. So, review Step 3 on the different ways you can meet friends, and say to your additional four people something like this:"As you may or may not be aware, I need some affirmations. Lots of them. Could you please list 10 positive qualities about me? Why are you my friend? Why do you return my calls?" (If they don't, skip that one.) "What would you say at my funeral?" (But reassure them that you have no plans to die right now.) "You see, I am starting a self-esteem file, and I'd love for your positive words to be among the first pieces to fill it."

Step 8: Propose an Affirmation Exchange

If asking friends for a list of 10 positive traits still has you a bit freaked out, because it is asking something of someone, and I know how hard that can be, here's an idea: propose an exchange of affirmations. I rub your back if you rub mine. I tell you 10 positive things about you, and you tell me 10 about me. A little collaboration. That's not so scary, right?

Step 9: Continue to Collect Affirmations

Become an affirmation hoarder. That's right. Whenever anyone says anything remotely positive ("You smell interesting today"), record it: on a Post-It, legal pad, receipt, or on anything that you can shove into your self-esteem file. Pretend you are a New York Times reporter with the assignment of breaking the story that you are a precious, lovable, wonderful human being that so many people in this world appreciate, respect, and admire. Put into your file all those letters, cards, notes, emails that are complimentary in any way. Look also for "proof" in the past that you are worthy and lovable: professional feedback, birthday cards, thank-you notes, Mother's Day presents (if they are made of paper), Valentines.

Step 10: Read It!

As you watch your self-esteem file widen, fatten, thicken, and grow, a curious thing might happen...you might not depend on it so much. You'll graduate to what David Burns, M.D., author of "10 Days to Self-Esteem" calls "unconditional self-esteem." Explains Burns: "You realize that self-esteem is a gift that you and all human beings receive at birth. Your worthwhileness is already there and you don't have to earn it."That hasn't happened to me yet, and it's been three years since I started my file. I still read it fairly often, and continue to stock it full of affirmations whenever I get one. This is true, though: because of my self-esteem file, I no longer feel like a donut. I have a center, and I am loved.

"Attract Happiness Into Your Life"

You Deserve a Whole Lot of Joy

Joy is in release, so thankfully received,Joy is in sorry, so sweetly mourned and grieved,Joy is to be found, you find it through yearning,Joy is in coming and going, waiting and watching, living and learning.

-Norris Chumley

From "The Joy of Weight Loss: A Spiritual Guide to Easy Fitness" by Norris Chumley:Joy is a very glad, happy feeling. It's a radiant human emotion you get as a result of receiving pleasure, satisfaction, and comfort.

Joy is a blissful experience that happens when everything in your life is fine and you are all right no matter what comes your way.Joy is also a spiritual condition. Joy happens when you are feeling blessed.

It comes when you feel the presence of your Creator, assuring you that you belong and that you're not alone. Joy is when you know you are valued and important to this great universe.

I'm sure you've experienced joy, at least a little. But you deserve a whole lot of joy, on a regular basis. Don't wait until you lose weight in order to find joy.

Find and accept it now, and you will lose weight in the process. But first, be aware that you may be holding yourself back.Each of us has a million different joys inside.

It's simply a matter of tapping into them when you need them and creating new, positive habits of letting joy exist.

Starting now, make a constant effort to find joy in everything you do. When you work, see the positive and fruitful aspects of the job-such as the money you are paid, the help you are giving, the importance of your position.

When you're taking care of personal business, find joy in getting it done as best you can. When it's time for a meal, take joy in only eating one portion.

Feel the power and joy of having just enough. Enjoy the good feeling of eating healthy, fresh, nutritious food that's good for your body and mind. When you are active today, enjoy moving your body and freeing your muscles and joints.

Breathe deeply the fresh air and let the rays of sunshine enter your entire being. Look at beautiful nature all around you: trees, flowers, grass, birds, and bugs-they're all gifts from God for us to enjoy.

"Advice To Girls"

I just wanted to write a quick blog to express a few feelings I have that I think should be said. First off, to me, the most attractive thing a girl can to is play hard to get. Giving it all up from the start is how so many girls fall into the pattern of being a "slut" and getting used time after time.

I think EVERY GIRL no matter their color, weight, breast size, waist line, etc... has something to offer. I think that all of you girls need to realize that if you ever want to have something meaningful, you have to stop giving yourself up so easily.

A one night stand or a short span of "amazing sex" isn't going to fill the void of what you really want. I have seen SO MANY good girls turn into bad girls and I have to wonder how that has any substance or fulfillment. YOU ARE SO MUCH BETTER THAN THAT!!!!

I swear. I don't care if you have slept with ZERO guys or ONE THOUSAND guys, you can turn your life around and be something of value to someone.

I hate seeing slutty girls give themselves up so easily when they could be so much more.Fake boobs, fake smiles, pathetic pick up lines, one night stands, half naked in the club, grinding on every guy, body painted, flashing cameras...it never gets you anywhere.

Sex sells, but are you worth the low price you are putting yourself out there for?Do you want to be someone that is treasured or do you want to be on the clearance rack?

Seriously...Yes I'm a guy. Yes I've taken advantage of situations before. But this is me being 100% honest making a please to any girl that has any sort of self-respect for themselves...know your value.

Every girls has something to offer and their is nothing attractive about being the party slut. Sure you are the center of attention for a while, but when everyone else is getting married, moving on, and you're all alone with your cats, you can't say you never read this and you can't say you were never told you were better than that.Here it is...no matter who you are...

YOU'RE BETTER THAN THAT!!!!I swear. I promise. A real guy, a good guy, a guy you will actually want to be with, isn't looking for a party slut, the girl wasted at the bar, the stripper, etc...when it comes down to TRUE desires, he wants the girl that will stay true to him and stay away from that lifestyle...

Yes there are guys that will want a slut, but do they want you as a slutty girl or any slutty girl?Wonder why you keep getting played, used, or cheated on??? I just told you.

"Yourself Is Your Personal Investment"

Procrastinate on Everything Else, But Not Self Improvement

Firstly, 'impossible' is 1 word that keeps ideas from becoming reality, and has left different persons living lives filled with discontentment as well as frightening trials.

You have to recognize what prompts you but the reality is still that no other person can discover it for you; you've to think about it correctly as it will obviously go a very long way in carving you into what you will become. You make every situation seem highly awful or also worse when you make use of phrases like 'always' or 'in no way' on your subordinates at the office. And it provides you a feeling that the persons you make use of these words on are not reliable.
It's certainly vital for anyone that's desirous about self improvement to learn about a current thing every day due to the fact that studying is a delightful exercise that not merely broadens our horizons but also provides us a lot better opportunities to better ourselves.

A coaching manager in an organization is meant to productively manage various perspectives so as to triumph with the common target of an organization; heshe is also meant to help in the level of members' expectations and also needs. Some people don't understand that the mental and emotional factors of a man or woman are highly valuable to anyone who is desirous about self improvement.

By eating just the right types of foods, increasing your level of physical fitness along with the right exercise routines, your body will obviously pick up the signals that you need to burn lots of fuel for energy and put you in the right physical frame for self enhancement.

Even teenagers can profit a lot from self enhancement; as a parent, try to constantly work on improving every aspects of your children's lives - their studies, their physical vigor, their communication knowledge, etc.

In rounding off, in the aspect of self improvement, coaches are supposed to act as your guides and motivation to propel you as hard as it's possible to go; an excellent teacherwill obviously not make life tough for you just due to the fact that you haven't yet done much or you haven't yet performed well.

"Should Men Be Intimidated By Career Oriented Women?"

.....Girls with high standards?.....

Gentlemen, do you find this intimidating and scare you off? Or is it more of a challenge? Do you have high standards for women? What do they include? And ladies, do you have high standards yourself? And if so, what do YOUR standards include?

Personality? Looks? Education? Income? Etc?

Most men find it intimidating to date a woman with strong character & pursuing a career of her own.But this should not happen because being intimidated is a negative attitude & a sign of lack of self trust.Nobody should be intimidated by anyone.We are all special in different areas all we just need is to trust ourselves & discover our own strength & use it.

Being intimidated by others is sign of a weak personality ,I must say we all have the tendency to be intimidated by someone but all we need is to overcome this fear & always put in your mind that no one is above us.We are equal & all special.

Career Oriendted women should be admired by both men & women but there is no reason to be intimidated by people who already had made themselves become a successful individuals but let them be your inspiration to achieve your goals be happy for what they had accomplished in their lives.Focus on the positive side of things,being intimidated is a negative thing that you should overcome.It will do you no good at all.

I do have high standard in choosing a woman in my life.It is important that she has a good education & good values,i just don't focus on physical traits.

Physical attractiveness is important for me because i love to see beatiful things & i want to spend my life with someone who i will never be tired of looking till year passes.But i won't take a girl just for looks without brains.I'm attracted to someone who is a good conversationalist that can discuss any topic with me

You should not be intimidated by someone who is achieving his or her goals in life but instead take it as a challenge that would make you more procdutive & aspire more in life,Being challenged is healthy for you to grow & disbover yourself but don't take challenges as acompetition because you should not compete with others.

You should take this challenge to boost your self-trust & not for competing

Don't try to prove yourself on anyone.To be truly successful is just do your thing with your own style,competition is not healthy for you & your relationship.

I prefer a woman who have confidence in herself,know what she wants & know how to achieve it..

I can say that i have a very high standard in choosing my mate because i have a high respect for myself & i want to be treated that way.I won't bgo with a girl who can't stand for herself & depend what she believes in.

I want someone unique,i won't choose a girl who immitates someone whether in fashion or career because woman who immitates does not know what is good or bad for her & she lacks the ability to decide what she wants that all she would do is go with the flow.I won't go with a girl who doesn't uses her own mind.I woman who doesn't know her difference with other girls because she losses her own i dentity.

For me i would much admire a girl who is self -made rather than a girl who inherited her wealth.

I would admire & prefer someone who is educated but well mannered.Because not all who acquired higher education acts educated.Being educated for me means much more not just proven by the means of diplomas & certificates.I prefer omeone who thinks & act educated.