"How to Reduce Levels of Disappointment in Life"

How to improve our chances of contentment and how to deal with disappointment when, inevitably, we have to face it.

First and foremost, it’s important to realize that, whilst our disappointments often come from outside sources, the reason that we experience them is because of internal beliefs and expectations.

We are disappointed when the company refuses to offer us that job we wanted and hoped for so much.

We are disappointed when friends, lovers, family let us down and fail to treat us in a fashion we had believed they should.

We are disappointed when something does not work out the way we had hoped.

Yet we cannot go through life without expectations. And we cannot protect ourselves by holding negative expectations. Hope is a fighter…no matter how much we try to squash it down, it pops back up again…often in the sneakiest fashion.

So….perhaps we simply have to be brave enough to hope, honest enough to assess our expectations realistically, and courageous enough to accept that sometimes, no matter how hard we try, we are going to be hurt by disappointment. Maybe we have to make the choice to risk ourselves, and accept that, sometimes, we will get let down…..

So on a day that is ruled by the 5 of cups, don’t go looking for disappointment….rather, spend some time assessing your expectations. Look for imbalance, or lack of realism, in your expectations of people and situations. If you find any, then be true to yourself, and adjust those expectations till they serve you better.

Look for negative expectations (nothing good ever happens to me; I am always going to be lonely/miserable/unhappy; I am too weak/inadequate/uninformed to achieve what I need) and tackle these with gusto….they create darkness in your life, and serve no earthly purpose. Drive them out of your head with determined use of the affirmation, and agree to go after them every single time they surface.

And finally….expect a nice surprise in every single day you live. Expect to find something that fills your heart with joy and gratitude every single day. Go looking for these things….make it part of your daily routine to discover something which makes joy arise within you…….



Affirmation: I expect happiness to flow through my life, driving out negative thoughts and emotions.

Expectations

There are a lot of people who are depressed to think in deep about results their good work,secred emotions,sacrifices and belongingness for their friends, nearest and the dearest.

If, we ask the reason, they just express the reason as 'Not reciprocation of thier expected response in the same manner they want to OR a good result. Are they correct? Are they thinking in a right way?

I think, they are not,cause all are not of the same nature what u are OR what you expect from the world.

In my opinion, this is not a matter to worry. Why should worry, if u done a good thing to the persons u love? This is not a mistake on your part that you shower your best to him.

Just think, Your expertise in driving does not guarantee you to escape from any accident on the road, since it is not sure that the driver opposite u is also an expert.

And the same thing applied on every person.So, you are the only person can control yourself but not to others.You have to control or advise your mind to accept the advise of comes from your soul because relation and feelings are made by your heart and let the heart to decide.

Keep your mind away from the decision in such soft matters.Your soul will show you the right way to act.Brain may distort the justice.

Do not let your mind to any clash or disappointment.

Let you think your own way in a good manner and thats all. What u get in return is depends on the healthy thoughts of the others. You need not to worry for the mistakes u did not make.

Let it be rest on the God who is the natural and real Judge to decide the good and bad. Among your friends also there may be some misunderstandings some time.

You have to evaluate the past,where there may be some mistakes or mis-happenings between him and you.Try to resolve the matter at your own keeping safe your self- esteem and listen what your soul asks you.

However, if you find no positive results and even after your deep evaluation you did not find any known mistakes,u need not to worry. Just forget the matter and leave the result on God and Nature.

iF U ARE ON A RIGHT PATH ,CERTAINLY U WILL GET JUSTICE IN FUTURE and IN YOUR FAVOUR too.

In India,Shrimadbhagvad Geeta contains the holy saying of Lord Krishna that why should u worry.The all thing is well planned and goes in a manner what has been decided by God.You need concentrate on work only and forget about the results.

So, don't worrry for the results let it be rest upon me(The God).I will see what is ok and what is not.

I, strongly have the same opinion,however this is very much difficult for a human being but, one must be think it easy.Be easy.

Time will pour all the wounds and if you find a way closed, it means that u have a new path open there for you and you will find this path a shinning one.

Concluding myself i would like to submit further that the nature has every quality.caliber and more than sufficient capacity to create and provide a new world for you-Just explore it. It has every power to give u relief and you need to feel it.

Hope,this will serve the purpose for those who in need of some guidance since, it depends on the experiences faced by me in the life.

Are you losing hope

Are You Losing Hope, Discouraged or Sick & Tired of Facing Life's Problems?

The joy of life comes from the wisdom of counting your blessings, never your troubles. Focus on what you have and maintain a thankful heart.

If you are facing any trouble, don't ask God, why me? Instead, ask "what do You want me to learn?". Then trust God and keep on doing what is right. Don't give up, just grow up!

Thoughts on Life: Be thankful that you don't already have everythingyou desire. If you did, what would there be to look forward to? Be thankful for the difficult times because during those times, you grow. Be thankful for your limitations coz they give you a chance to become better. May you always have a day filled with gratitude.

Life is a matter of perspective, either you complain because roses have thorns or you rejoice because thorns have roses. It all depends on how you look at it.

Sometimes God breaks our spirit to save our soul. Sometimes He break sour heart to make us whole. Sometime He sends us pain so we can bestrong. Sometimes He sends us failure so we can be humble.

Sometimes He send us illness so we can take better care of ourselves. Sometimes He takes everything away from us so we can learn the value of everything we have.

Look at the babies sleeping, it makes us realize how fragile life is. Look at the shooting star blazing, it makes us realize how temporarylife is. Look at the sun rising, it makes us realize how beautiful life is. Look at a person dying, it makes us realize how important life is.

Life is beautiful in its fragility, important on itstranscience. Live life to the fullest. Laugh, love and be grateful.

If you have food, clothing and a home, you are richer than the 75% ofthe world's population. If you have some money in the bank, you ar ebeing among the top 8% of the world's wealthy.

If you wake up healthy this morning, you are more blessed than the 1 Million people who will not survive this week.

If you have exprience peace and freedom, you are ahead of the 500 Million people in the world. And if you can read these messages, you are more blessed than the 1 Billion people who cannot even read at all.

Like birds, let's leave behind what we don't need to carry - grudges,sadness, pain, fear and regrets. Fly light, life is beautiful. Have a blessed day.

Whenever you don't understand what's happening in your life, you just have to close your eyes, take a deep breath and say "Lord I know it'sYour plan, I put my trust in Your hands".

Has life been good? Let God hear your "Thank you". Has it been bad? Let Him hear you say "I trust in You". Has it been unfair? Shhhh....just have Faith.

Always remember the 5 simple rules to be happy 1-Free your heart from anger, 2-Free your mind from worries, 3-Live simply, 4-Give more, and5-Expect less

3 reasons why laughing is good for your health: 1-Your Heart - laughingmakes your blood pressure good while increasing the amount of oxygencarried in your blood. 2-Your lungs - a deep level - laughing lowers level of the stress hormones,cortisol-reducing tension.

"The Power of Desire, Belief and Expectation"

How to Get in the Right Mindset toManifest Your Intentions

In the last lesson you learned a technique to help you properly apply the Law of Attraction into your life to draw towards you the things, events and circumstances you seek to build a life you desire. The technique involved spending a few minutes a day in meditation and creative visualization.

Learning the technique is the first step. But how do you approach your goals AFTER you come out of your daily visualization session? What attitudes, feelings and emotions do you need to maintain or create?

To make your intentions come into your life with greater frequency and consistency it's important to understand the three forces of power, those forces are -- desire, belief, and expectation.

Before anything that you want to happen can happen, you have to have a desire that it will happen. You have to believe that it can happen. And you must expect it to happen.

Sounds simple? Perhaps. But there is a lot more to it.
In this lesson we'll explore each force of power in detail and understand how you can apply these forces into your life.

The First Force of Power - DESIRE

Your right to life means your right to have the free and unrestricted use of all things which may be necessary for your physical, mental and spiritual unfolding - in other words, your right to be rich. We have the RIGHT to choose, we have the POWER to choose what we’re going to have … "Ask and it will be given." … Our problem is - we don’t really believe it.

And so we are often content to stay in the current reality. We don't attempt to push for or indeed achieve anything new. In short - we don't DESIRE much more than what we already have.

Let’s think about this in regard to earning money … Although the differences in what you’ve earned over the last 12 months and what you choose to earn over the next 12 months might be great, the change in your personality is usually very small … it’s all a matter of CHOICE – you'll simply change your thought patterns.

"Burt Goldman shares the following story..........."

Consider the story of the disciple who went to his guru one day and asked, “Master, how do I achieve enlightenment?” The wise old guru directed the disciple to the bank of the Ganges River and had him kneel with his head over the water. Then the guru put his hand on the young man’s neck and pushed his head below the surface of the water. After a minute and a half the young disciple was frantic. He pulled and heaved and flailed his arms, but the grip was like iron. He could not get his head back out of the water. After two minutes, when it seemed as though his lungs would burst, the grip was released.
The young man’s head jerked out of the water and he took great gulps of air into his tortured lungs. The guru smiled. “Tell me,” he gently asked, “ what was your greatest desire just then?”
“To breathe,” the young disciple stated emphatically.
“Ah,” the guru said. “When you desire enlightenment to that degree, it shall be yours.”
The first key to attracting good things in your life - is to DESIRE them.
Here are Some Ways to Build and Maintain Desire
Think About How Others Will Benefit
Think about what you can do with the money you earn to benefit the world. Perhaps you're environmentally conscious, pro-peace, care about education for under-privileged kids...think about what you can do with the money you earn to promote and fund these causes.

"Use Reminder Tokens"

Want a new car? Your desire may be high when you first set the goal, but like many people, it may wane as time goes on. This of course, does not help with the Law of Attraction.
To keep the thought of the new car constantly on your mind try creating reminder tokens. Get a set of keys made - generic keys - and carry them in your pocket.

These simple reminders help keep the thought of the new vehicle fully fresh in your mind.
Another common technique is using a mock check. Tear out a check from your bank book. Make a check out to yourself, writing to yourself the amount of money you wish to manifest into your life.

Daily Focus

Yet another way to keep desire strong is by practicing the manifestation process we outlined in Lesson 5. The daily practice of visualizing your goals and feeling the positive emotions associated with them will help keep the desire strong and flowing.

The Second Force of Power - BELIEF

After you have built up your desire to attract something into your life the next step is to strengthen your belief system.

Why is Belief so Important to the Process?

Your thoughts, when directed towards a certain thing - will bring that thing to you. But the reverse also occurs - if you worry and experience anxiety about getting something, in other words the thought of lacking something, this has the effect of pushes it away from you.
This is why belief is so critical. If you do not believe you can attain something, your worries and anxiety will counter any positive thoughts you have of the goal and neutralize the workings of the Law of Attraction.

"The man I want to become,if I BELIEVE myself to be,I will become"
~ Gandhi

Whatever you seek to achieve MUST be within the realm of what you believe to be possible.
Belief is a powerful tool and doctors are still often astounded by what belief can do to a patient's health

In the summer of 1994, a surgeon named J. Bruce Moseley conducted an amazing experiment. Doctors had long been aware of the 'placebo effect' - the idea that you can give a patient a placebo, a fake pill, tell the patient that this pill is real and will cure their pain, cough or sore throat. Sure enough, because the patient believes the pill to be real, they often end up cured.
Mosely wondered just how strong the power of the placebo effect could be. Would it work on something more than pills for minor aches and illnesses? Would it work for more serious medical conditions that involved surgery?

Moseley had 10 patients scheduled for an operation intended to relieve the arthritis pain in their knees. The patients were middle-aged men. All 10 were wheeled into an operating room at the Houston Veterans Affairs Medical Center. They were draped, examined and anesthetized. They went through all the elaborate procedures designed to make them BELEIVE that they were about to go through a serious medical operation. They were then dispatched to the recovery room and the next morning sent home, equipped with crutches and a painkiller.
But there the similarities ended between all 10.
For while two of the men would undergo the standard arthroscopic surgery for their condition -- the scraping and rinsing of the knee joint -- and three would have the rinsing alone, five would have no recognized surgical procedure at all. Their surgery would be a placebo, a make-believe surgery designed to fool the patient.

The result: All 10 patients reported that their arthritis has been considerably healed.
Mosely's experiment was repeated by a team of surgeons in Texas on 180 patients with osteoarthritis in the knee. Two-thirds got the actual surgery. But for a third, the surgeons faked it – they went through the motions of giving a tranquilizer, making three incisions and pretending to do the surgery.

According to the New York Times

"The researchers found patients who underwent the placebo surgery were just as likely to report pain relief as those who received the real procedure. It seems for osteoarthritis patients, the relief is all in patients' minds."

Belief is a powerful thing. And it can be channeled to do more than help you recover from serious illnesses.

Belief, when combined with Desire is a powerful tool to help you use the Law of Attraction to draw to you events and circumstances you wish to bring into your life.

Without Belief, you simply will not be able to properly use the Law of Attraction. The lack of belief will cause thoughts to emerge in your head that are counter to the events you wish to attract.

This means that if you're currently broke, setting a goal to be a billionaire within 5 years may be too tough on your belief system. You may desire a billion dollars, but you may not honestly believe you can acquire it so fast. Without that belief that goal is pointless.

It takes a strong soul to be able to channel so much belief into huge goals. But anyone can TRAIN their belief system to grow and become stronger.

You can start by setting a goal that excites you, that you strongly desire, yet is also something you believe is possible. Going from broke to a billionaire may be too much of a stretch. But aiming to go from being broke to having $10 million in the bank is certainly within the realm of possibility. If you can believe it's possible - it is.

You'll know if the goal you're setting is right based on your inner feelings. If you feel a certain amount of dread or worry - you might be too far away from your current belief system. But if you have positive feelings of excitement and possibility then you're setting the right goal.

The beauty of this process is that once you hit your goal, you boost your belief system. Having hit goal after goal time after time - your belief system will expand more and more. Eventually you may get to a stage where you can believe 100% that one billion dollars is within your grasp.
Fortunately, we humans keep breaking new boundaries in our belief systems every year. In 1952, Roger Bannister, an athlete in England decided that he would set a new world record for running a mile in under 4 minutes. No athlete prior to Bannister had ever run a mile in under 4 minutes. It was a big goal, seen by many to be in the realms of the impossible. Roger Bannister hit his goal in the spring of 1954. He completed a mile in 3 minutes 59 seconds.

But Roger has set more than a world record. He has also raised the realm of possibility for thousands of other runners, many of whom had once thought that running a mile in under 4 minutes was impossible. Just 46 days after Bannister hit his goal, another runner John Landy of Australia ran a mile in 3 minutes and 58 seconds. And within one year, as many as 30 other people had completed the 4 minutes mile.

Roger Bannister showed the world that it was possible - he raised the belief systems of thousands who were inspired by him.

The Law of Attraction did the rest.

Positive Expectations

So you desire something big and you believe it's within your reach, you've already started to get the Law of Attraction working for you.

But here's the third and final step.........

You should now expect what you're asking for to come to you.
Desiring and believing something is possible is not the same as expecting it to occur.
The following example might clarify the difference.

You loaned money to a friend. It's been 3 months and he's yet to repay you. You're asking for the money but you just don't seem to be getting it back.

You certainly DESIRE the money to come back to you.
You do BELIEVE your friend could and is capable of paying you back.
What's missing is expectancy. Because you don't expect him to pay you back you're causing the Law of Attraction to act against your favor. You get stressed, feel angry at his lack of appreciation and integrity. These negative feelings hold you in a state where you're pushing away the money.

Now imagine what would happen if you suddenly got a call from your friend saying that he's come around and has decided to repay the money. He tells you he's mailed you a check using Fedex. To ease your doubts, he faxes you a copy of the check and the Fedex delivery receipt. You now have a changed attitude. You now EXPECT the check to come. As the saying goes, you can relax because "the check is in the mail".

This is what we mean by expectation!

When you've developed a proper degree of expectation, you're able to relax and allow the Law of Attraction to work for you and not against you.

As the late Sam Walton, at one point America's richest man said:

I expect to win. I go into tough challenges always planning to come out victorious. It never occurred to me that I might lose, it was almost as if I had a right to win. Thinking like that often seems to turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Let's provide another example of how this works. This is an actual example from a student of Bob Proctor's. John from New York ran a small business with his wife. They built websites for clients. One day, Andrew, an old friend of John's approached them and asked them to invest some money in a potential business idea. John was intrigued so he signed the papers and made the investment of $12,000.

John thought he was buying into a great idea but in reality the business was unsound and the so-called friend had no intention of returning John's investment. John felt betrayed and cheated. He had just lost $12,000 - he and his wife had been saving up for their future plans.
John had been chasing his friend Andrew for months to no avail. John DESIRED the money. He BELIEVED Andrew could return the money. But he just did NOT EXPECT it to come to him given Andrew's character.

What would John do in a situation like this?

After studying the Science of Getting Rich John said "The answer hit me like a brick. Because I had been CHASING the money, I was placing myself in a state of mind where I simply pushed the money away. I saw myself as someone who had LOST $12,000."
John knew he could not change Andrew's character so he decided to try a different way of earning his money back. He decided "I was going to make up mind to earn $12,000 within a month. I knew I deserved the money. I opened myself up to the possibility of the money coming to me - almost like a gift form the Universe - but through other sources. In my daily meditation - I saw myself receiving a check for $12,000. But I did not care where that check came from. I just desired it, believed it was possible and expected it to come".

John reported that within 3 weeks of changing his mindset he received a pleasant surprise. A particular client commissioned a project that was much larger than normal for John. John had to work 2 days on the project. But his payout was far greater than normal. Coincidently - the payout was EXACTLY $12,000. Prior to this John had never received a check of that size.
Coincidence? Perhaps. But that's exactly what you'll start to notice happening in your life once you begin to apply the Law of Attraction.

Desire, Belief and Expectation --- these are the 3 forces of power than you must learn to harness to allow the Law of Attraction to work for you.

Get in the habit of thinking big and desiring wonderful things for yourself and for your fellow man.

Believe that it's possible. Build your belief system by aiming for bigger and bigger goals each time you accomplish something new.

Finally, expect good things to happen. As you apply the lessons here you'll notice streams of beautiful coincidences pushing you in the directions you seek. Your expectation of good things will grow and blossom.

And when all three are aligned - good things will certainly come to you in numbers and magnitude far greater than you might ever imagine.