Showing posts with label humanity. Show all posts
Showing posts with label humanity. Show all posts

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

"Negativity Is The Shadow Of Mysery"

Many Of Us Use To Pull Others Down Just To Give Justification To Their Miserable Life


Don't put others down just because you're not happy with the way things are in your life.Most of us always try to find someone to put the blame with all our failures & myseries. We tend to dwell on the negativity rather than finding the root of the problem & accept what should have been done that might bring us to a better situation.We always complain & pity for ourselves that all we see is the negative part of life not taking action to make a change.All of us,generally speaking wants all the good things in life,want change but afraid to step forward to make the CHANGE we need.

  • Glibness and Superficial Charm


  • Manipulative and Conning
    They never recognize the rights of others and see their self-serving behaviors as permissible. They appear to be charming, yet are covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an instrument to be used. They may dominate and humiliate their victims.


  • Grandiose Sense of Self
    Feels entitled to certain things as "their right."


  • Pathological Lying
    Has no problem lying coolly and easily and it is almost impossible for them to be truthful on a consistent basis. Can create, and get caught up in, a complex belief about their own powers and abilities. Extremely convincing and even able to pass lie detector tests.


  • Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt
    A deep seated rage, which is split off and repressed, is at their core. Does not see others around them as people, but only as targets and opportunities. Instead of friends, they have victims and accomplices who end up as victims. The end always justifies the means and they let nothing stand in their way.


  • Shallow Emotions
    When they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive. Outraged by insignificant matters, yet remaining unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person. Since they are not genuine, neither are their promises.


  • Incapacity for Love


  • Need for Stimulation
    Living on the edge. Verbal outbursts and physical punishments are normal. Promiscuity and gambling are common.


  • Callousness/Lack of Empathy
    Unable to empathize with the pain of their victims, having only contempt for others' feelings of distress and readily taking advantage of them.


  • Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive Nature
    Rage and abuse, alternating with small expressions of love and approval produce an addictive cycle for abuser and abused, as well as creating hopelessness in the victim. Believe they are all-powerful, all-knowing, entitled to every wish, no sense of personal boundaries, no concern for their impact on others.


  • Early Behavior Problems/Juvenile Delinquency
    Usually has a history of behavioral and academic difficulties, yet "gets by" by conning others. Problems in making and keeping friends; aberrant behaviors such as cruelty to people or animals, stealing, etc.


  • Irresponsibility/Unreliability
    Not concerned about wrecking others' lives and dreams. Oblivious or indifferent to the devastation they cause. Does not accept blame themselves, but blames others, even for acts they obviously committed.


  • Promiscuous Sexual Behavior/Infidelity
    Promiscuity, child sexual abuse, rape and sexual acting out of all sorts.


  • Lack of Realistic Life Plan/Parasitic Lifestyle
    Tends to move around a lot or makes all encompassing promises for the future, poor work ethic but exploits others effectively.


  • Criminal or Entrepreneurial Versatility
    Changes their image as needed to avoid prosecution. Changes life story readily.

Thursday, February 5, 2009

Still Learning to Love



The second is this: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”


Jesus was asked by one of the teachers of the law, what is the greatest of God’s commandments? Jesus did not give the answer he was probably looking for, Jesus gave two new commandments. Jesus said in Mark 12:30-31 (NIV); “Love the Lord your God with all heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: love your neighbor as yourself.” There may be some of us who look at this and think I need to love others as I love myself but that is no favor to them. There have been times in my life I have not loved myself at all. I have felt guilty, shameful, and have felt lower than dirt. Loving others was easier than loving myself.


As I have matured as a Christian I have learned what it means to love myself. I have learned how much God loves me and that he has even loved me before I was born. God sent his own son, Jesus to die for us. John 3:16 (NIV) says; for God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. God loves me that much. Psalms 139:13 (NIV) says: “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb.” God knit me together in my mother’s womb. I am a creation of God knitted together not mass produced. God knitted me and you together with love and care with each stitch.


God has loved me before I was born; he created me with care and love. We were stitched together with our own personalities, gifts and talents. We were created to bring God glory. God loves us so much he sent his only son so we could have eternal life. God sent his own son to pay our sin debt because he wants to spend eternity with us. God loves us so much. I have to look within my own heart to see what it is God loves so much. In this way I have matured and learned to love the personality, gifts and talents God has given me. In bringing him glory I learn to love myself. I look to Jesus and how he loved us and I am now learning to love others as he loves us. I am also learning to love myself as Jesus and my heavenly father love me. My relationship with God has really brought great love to Him, others and even myself. Love has grown as I mature.

Saturday, January 3, 2009

ALL WE NEED IS LOVE AND HUMANITY............

Humanity Is Learning To Respect The Rigths Of Anyone Regardless Of Their Social Status


Man has developed well in many aspects but he started forgetting the basic things that are required to survive peacefully........i.e he is forgetting to love his neighbors and he gradually stated decreasing the humanity in him and if this continues, one fine day he will be none other than a well groomed beast. so, wake up my dear friends, let us not become the beast.... come on, let us start loving..........

Tuesday, July 8, 2008

"Don't Rush Into Conclusion"

THINK TWICE
One night there was a woman at the airport who had to wait for several hours before catching her next flight. While she waited she bought a book and a pack of biscuits to spend the time. She looked for a place to sit and waited.She was deep into her book, when suddenly she realized that there was a young man sitting next to her who was stretching his hand, with no concern whatsoever, and grabbing the pack of cookies lying between them.

He started to eat them one by one.Not wanting to make a fuss about it she decided to ignore him. The woman, slightly bothered, ate the cookies and watched the clock, while the young and shameless thief of biscuits was also finishing them. The woman started to get really angry at this point and thought "If I wasn't such a good and educated person, I would have given this daring man a black eye by now."Every time she ate a biscuit, he had one too.


The dialogue between their eyes continued and when only one biscuit was left, she wondered what was he going to do. Softly and with a nervous smile, the young man grabbed the last biscuit and broke it in two. He offered one half to the woman while he ate the other half.Briskly she took the biscuit and thought, "What an insolent man! How uneducated! He didn't even thank me!" She had never met anybody so fresh and sighed relieved to hear her flight announced.


She grabbed her bags and went towards the boarding gate refusing to look back to where that insolent thief was seated.After boarding the plane and nicely seated, she looked for her book which was nearly finished by now. While looking into her bag she was totally surprised to find her pack of biscuits nearly intact. "If my biscuits are here", she thought feeling terribly, "those others were his and he tried to share them with me." Too late to apologize to the young man, she realized with pain, that it was her who had been insolent, uneducated and a thief, and not him.How many times in our lives, had we know with certainty that something happened in a certain way, only to discover later that it wasn't true?


How many times has our lack of trust within us made us judge other people unfairly with our conceited ideas, often far away from reality. Abdullah bin Abbas (radi Allahu anhu) reported that the Prophet(sallAllahu alaiyhi wassallam) said:do not be envious of one anotherdo not artificially inflate prices against one another do not hate one another do not shun one another do not undercut one another in business transactionsand be as fellow-brothers and servants of Allah. A Muslim is the brother of a Muslim. He neither oppresses him nor humiliates him nor looks down upon him. Piety is here - and he pointed to his chest three times. It is evil enough for a Muslim to hold his brother Muslim in contempt. All things of a Muslim are inviolable for another Muslim: his blood, his property and his honour.

Thursday, July 3, 2008

GLOBAL PEACE MOVEMENT


Developing a new Grass-roots Public Movement

The idea of world peace is not new. Utopian and liberal thinkers have been pondering such issues for a long time, but it is only today that we have the means to achieve them. The globalization phenomenon, rapid changes in the international communications technology, and the drastic expansion of the Internet has provided us a window of opportunity, as never before.



We can, and even do, network for global causes. The primary example is the global environmentalist movement of our own age which happens to be a remarkable movement in its own right. But the global peace movement has not yet caught up to its potential. Given the necessary scope of global citizen action, how can it achieve peace? This brings us to the perplexing question of what is fundamentally required to bring it about.

There are many reasons for the turmoil in our age, with feelings of alienation the foremost passion fueling this violence. A fundamental shift in the world at large would be needed to achieve world peace. We must change ourselves in drastic ways for that to happen. We must all recognize that the greatest sentiment fueling the extremist phenomenon is alienation with modernity, crass materialism.

A powerful sense of injustice, which includes social injustice also, is fueling resentment against Western culture and civilization, especially in the Muslim world and other parts of the developing world. The Muslim world is in a crisis of unimaginable proportions. Corruption, injustice, misrule, and lack of visionary leadership are wreaking havoc on these societies, and things are not that much better in other Asian, African, and Latin American societies. Capitalism and western hegemony have their downsides, so to speak.

We cannot have world peace without justice for the deprived, the hapless, and the poorest of the poor and the wronged. Here we are talking of politics and not just varieties shades of economic deprivation. In the Islamic world present injustices are breeding resentment, alienation, frustration and radicalism. In some societies, like Pakistan, Afghanistan, Iraq, Egypt, Somalia, and Bangladesh all of the above are now present. However, the glaring issue for Muslims is political. Their political perceptions are what primarily fuel radicalism in a way that history has never witnessed before.

The globalization phenomenon is making it easier for radicalism to spread all over the world. Muslims, especially the romanticizing youth, are enraged as never before. They resent Western cowardice, duplicity, wrongful deployment of military force and the patronage of callous and corrupt governments ruling over them. The troubles are conveniently exported also as Muslims get politicized on the issues of Muslim helplessness, a lack of institutional mechanisms to voice their protests, and the culpability of their own leadership to Western powers. Muslim political issues have galvanized a strong minority to action and violent protest.

For example, injustices meted to Muslims in Palestine, Kashmir, southern Thailand, China, Iraq and erstwhile USSR are the primary causes of Islamic radicalism.

It is a common perception that poverty breeds radicalism. It does not. Injustice does. Therefore, justice is the key to peace.

Perceptions shape reality in complex ways. For example, the West (read United States and NATO) have been spreading vast amounts of treasure, military force, and police action in the Muslim world to stop militancy, yet it is growing at an alarming rate. The Global War on Terror has an undue emphasis on the use of force to the detriment of other available nonviolent options.

There is not much push for solving intractable problems likely to cause anti-Western resentment in Muslim masses. There is an intellectual failure here. The Western powers are missing the forest for the trees. This myopic vision cannot work.

The simple fact is that without tolerance there can be no peace. Peace must first start inside each of us in order for us to create peace in the world. We see a total lack of tolerance towards other belief patterns, ideas and ways of life. It must be considered fundamental that without mutual tolerance there can be no peace.

We also have to network globally to achieve world peace one region at a time, meaning that one must primarily focus on his own region. Action begins most easily here, obviously.
For example, in the greater
Middle East peace is indeed problematic.

The question is why. We have been convinced that peace in the Middle East is beyond the governments in power in both the West and the Middle East itself. A very strong public pressure is needed to nudge the world’s political leadership to quick action. Unfortunately, the global peace movement is now largely dormant. Therefore, an attempt has to be made to do something about it.
The people must take it upon themselves to move in a networked fashion, in which thousands of local peace groups are meshed into a global alliance. As a loose network of shared ideas, this does not need a structure, and information is enough. The key is public involvement. Ordinary citizens must resolve to take the matter into their own hands.

First, they have to realize the gravity of the situation. Enough is enough. We need to knock some sense into the minds of the world’s leaders and especially the leadership of the Western world. The public must galvanize and rise to force the elected leadership to change course from needless military action to launch a strong global peace agenda. How, and where, do we begin?
The key is education. There is simply no alternative. The mindset of real politics needs to be changed. Certainly, this is no easy task. But where there is a will there is a way. Ordinary citizens need to rise up and grasp the opportunities that are available today. The cry for action beckons to all of us.

A worldwide education is needed to instill new values based on toleration of others, compassion for others, and foremost we must all begin to believe in humanity. The bane of the dominant modern Western civilization is a new level of selfishness, callousness, indifference and seclusion never seen before. Tragically, this is producing self-denial and ostrich-thinking.

Western civilization cannot be stable, peaceful, and prosperous when its neighbors are living in hell. That cannot, and will not, happen. It is time we all realized the gravity of the situation. Although things are bad in many other parts of the world, it is the Muslim world that needs immediate attention as it is breeding the worst type of radicalism seen anytime in history. Things are bad in the Muslim world. There is no sense in denying it. In other parts of Africa and Latin America, and even Asia, things are not that good either.

We must begin to realize that immediate action is needed. The slogan of the environmental movement, think globally and act locally, is very apt for this situation. Muslim resentment has roots in sentiments of injustice. Let us begin to give justice where it is due. Strong public pressure on state administrations can yet save the day. The key is to network to achieve global peace. This is possible today. Given the infrastructure, we can do it.

Everyone must try to make a contribution in bringing peace in their own region. Another aspect is to change the individual and make him or her more conducive to the peace message. We must shed our garb of progress, and materialism for simplicity, sharing with others, compassion for the weak, and primarily love for all.

Love is the prerequisite of peace.

The essence of the global movement has to be love for humanity.

We must instill new values in our youth that calls for massive retooling of our educational institutions, especially higher education.

It must be considered fundamental that a new beginning can be made. Surely we all wish the world was a better place, but maybe one good heart at a time can change all the bad in the present world.
It is for all the people to act on their beliefs.
There is no other choice.

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

"Everyone Should Treat People With Respect"

"Because we like to be treated kindly,
We ought to treat people in the same way."

The First Sermon
In the Name of God, the Compassionate, the Merciful

Leniency means to be sensitive to the feelings of others, so as to convey your ideas to them in a kind and peaceful way that opens their hearts, and minds, without resorting to any harsh words that might turn them away or even become aggressive.

Similarly, when you deal with others, even within your own family, whether your wife children, or parents, you ought to respect their feelings and be kind to them, for this is the way that makes your ideas enter the mind of the others, and make them emotionally ready to be understanding and compassionate.

As for violence, which in this case might be demonstrated by cursing the other, or the of use harsh words that drives him to feel that you are despising or challenging him, or talking to him in a conceited manner that humiliates him, just because you feel that you are in a position of power...

This idea, the need to be kind in your relations with others, whether at home, at work or in any other social dealing has been asserted in several verses in the Glorious Quran. We read" say to My servants that they speak that which is best". If you want to speak to others say the best worlds word, that unite and not disperse words that endears them and not provoke hatred. Words that takes into consideration the intellectual level of those who are hearing them… Just as you choose the best house, the best clothes and the best food, you have to chose the best words for they are for more significant than food or clothes… They might make you enter in a war or drive you into a contict :surely the Shaitan sows dissensions among them; surely the Shaitan is an open enemy to man.

Goodly exhortation

If you want to engage in a dialogue with others, with whom you are of different religious political and social affiliations them , you should Call to the way of your Lord with wisdom and goodly exhortation, and have disputations with them in the best manner; surely your Lord best knows those who go astray from His path, and He knows best those who follow the right way.
Even with the people of the Book, we are commanded to adhere to this method of dialogue, Enemies too should be turned into friends through this manner (_And not alike are the good and the evil. Repel (evil) with what is best, when lo! He between whom and you was enmity would be as if he were a warm friend).


But there are those who are not ready to enter in a dialogue with you. They depended on the flexing their muscles in a show of force. That is why Allah has excluded those who are unjust among the People of the Book an asked us to treat them as they treat us {If then any one transgresses the prohibition against you transgress ye likewise against him}. This is also what Allah taught His prophet, Noah, to do when his people made fun of him.

If you ridicule us now we can look down on you with ridicule likewise.

As for those who would have a dialogue with you treat them with good exhortation. For Allah puts everything in its place.

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

"Nothings Permanent,All We Have Are All Borrowed"

Judge People By What They Can Do,
Not By How They Look!

People in this society like to say "No condition is permanent" - which is a fact. And it implies that the fact that someone is sweeping floors at 11.59pm today in your company today, does not mean s/he cannot be the owner of his/her own successful business the next morning!
Many of us have also heard the saying that "Appearances can be deceptive". I once heard someone say in an American sitcom that "clothes don't make a man". Then there is the dictum "You cannot judge a book by its cover". This last one makes me ask why therefore people who should know better STILL insist on judging others by how they look at a point in time.

This problem persists despite many instances in which the folly of thinking that way has been proven. Some people just refuse to stop judging the ability or competence of others by their looks or appearances.

Society provides us ample evidence as we grow up, to support this NEED for us to always "look below the surface" before drawing conclusions. It reminds us of the need to avoid being superficial in our thinking. Yet, quite frequently, human beings fail (or forget...or refuse!) to take the cue.

In case you wonder how this habit/tendency constitutes a problem, I ask you to consider the possibility that a person(s) fond of judging people by outward appearances are chosen to help select "youthful talents" to represent a particular state in some competitive sporting events.
What is likely to happen is that the initial screening stages would be characterised by random assumptions being made about the abilities of the boys and girls who show up or apply. This could result in non-inclusion of some uniquely talented youngsters whose "looks" or unusual style do not impress the "officials".

Some examples may help here: Historical records tell us that Julius Caesar was an epileptic, yet his name is etched in history till today; Charles Dickens was lame, but that did not stop him from becoming a successful author; Plato was a hunchback, yet today many of us find it apt to quote him on various subjects that he chose to comment on.

Collin Powell started as a floor mopper but is today retired having served in one of the most exalted positions in the American Armed Forces and Government. And then there is the story of Helen (in my opinion "Superwoman") Keller, who was supposed to be multiply handicapped and yet recorded MORE achievements than most "normal" people...The list goes on - underscoring the fact that people can overcome their (seeming) outward limitations to succeed in ways not expected by those who see them.

Maybe I should bring it even closer home. If YOU were asked to pick from a group of ten(10) people, one person who looks like an International athletics champion, would you pick a skinny, frail looking guy with (seemingly) sunken eyes (which incidentally is the typical appearance of many world champion class long distance runners), or would you choose the fierce/aggressive looking guy with rippling muscles(a description befitting most short distance/sprint athletes)? At the risk of sounding presumptuous, I want to say that I am reasonably certain that MANY people would pick someone fitting the latter description!

And yet, in real life, few sports persons in the sprints can boast of having the phenomenal endurance and stamina possessed and displayed during races by long distance runners. To those of us who are uninitiated, they however seldom look the part at first glance. It is only when they demonstrate their innate abilities on the tracks or field that we recognise their genius and THEN begin to believe!

Genius does not show itself on a person's face so that others can see it and then respect or recognise him/her for it. That's why we must NEVER write people off without FIRST (and as often as possible afterward) giving them a FAIR and IMPARTIAL opportunity to SHOW what they can do" - Tayo K. Solagbade

But the problem with this attitude many of us have of wanting to SEE first, without giving the person a chance to SHOW what s/he can do is that since we are often initially unwilling to give them a chance because their "looks" or appearances suggest they CANNOT, the chances of such geniuses getting past a "screening" stage talk less of being allowed to contest for places in the real competition will be VERY slim.

Just as it is with sports, so it is in life. We need to learn to stop using people's outward appearances to JUDGE what they can or cannot do. It would be so much better - for us, those we assess, and the rest of society - if we focus on "teasing" out people's FULL potentials so we can draw accurate assessments of the value they can add to us at any point in time.

Treat people as what they were what they ought to be, and you help them become what they're capable of being" - Johann Von Goethe

Self-Development/Performance Enhancement Specialist - Tayo Solagbade - works as a Multipreneur, helping individuals/businesses develop and implement tools/strategies to achieve their goals, faster and more profitably.


"Intelligence Is Not Intelligence Without Humility"

How to Be Humble

"In reality there is perhaps no one of our natural Passions so hard to subdue as pride. Disguise it, struggle with it, beat it down, stifle it, mortify it as much as one pleases, it is still alive, and will every now and then peep out and show itself...For even if I could conceive that I had completely overcome it, I should probably be proud of my humility." - Benjamin Franklin

"It's hard to be humble," says an old country
song, "when you're perfect in every way." Very few people, of course, actually think they're perfect in every way, but it can still be pretty hard to be humble, especially when you live in a society that encourages competition and individuality. Even in such a culture, however, humility is an important virtue. Learning to be humble is of paramount importance in most religions and spiritual traditions, and humility can also help you develop as a person and enjoy richer relationships with others.

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Appreciate your talents. Being humble doesn't mean you can't feel good about yourself.
Self-esteem is not the same as pride. Both come from a recognition of your own talents and qualities, but pride--the kind of pride that leans toward arrogance--is rooted in insecurity about them. Think about the abilities you have and be thankful for them.

Understand your limitations. No matter how talented you are, there is almost always somebody who can do something better than you can. Even if you are the best in the world at doing one thing, there are other things--important, worthwhile things--that you cannot do, and you may never be able to do some of these things. Add to this the fact that there are a great many things that no person can do, and you can get some idea of your limitations. Recognizing your limitations does not mean abandoning your dreams, and it doesn't mean giving up on learning new things or improving your existing abilities. It does mean coming to terms with the very real limits of your abilities.

Recognize your own faults. We judge others because it's a lot easier than looking at our own faults. Unfortunately, it's also completely unproductive and, in many cases, harmful. Judging others causes strife in relationships, and it prevents new relationships from forming. Perhaps even worse, it prevents us from trying to improve ourselves. We make judgments about others all the time, and we often don't even realize it. As a practical exercise, try to catch yourself in the act of judging another person or group of people, and whenever you do, judge yourself instead and consider how you could improve yourself.

Stop comparing. Why? Because, it's just about impossible to be humble when we're striving to be the "best" or trying to be "better" than others. Instead, try describing things more objectively. Rather than saying that so and so is the best guitarist ever, say what exactly it is that you appreciate about his skills, or simply say that you like his playing style. Let go of meaningless, simplistic comparisons, and you'll be able to enjoy doing things without worrying about whether you're better or worse at them than others.

Appreciate the talents and qualities of others. Challenge yourself to look at others and appreciate the things they can do and, more generally, to appreciate people for who they are. Understand that everybody is different and relish the chance you have to experience different people. You will still have your personal tastes, your likes and dislikes, but train yourself to separate your opinions from your fears and you will appreciate others more--you will be humbler.

Don't be afraid to make mistakes. Never be afraid to admit that you made a mistake. Part of being humble is understanding that you will make mistakes. Understand this, and understand that everyone else makes mistakes, and you will have a heavy burden lifted off of you. Why do we make mistakes? Because we don't know everything. Any one person can know only the smallest bits and pieces of the tremendous knowledge that has accumulated over the past. What's more, we experience only a sliver of the present, and we know nothing of the future.
Don't be afraid to defer to others' judgment. It's easy to acknowledge that you make mistakes and that you're not always right.

Somewhat more difficult however, is the ability to acknowledge that in many cases other people--even people who disagree with you--may be right. Deferring to your spouse's wishes, to a law you don't agree with, or even, sometimes, to your child's opinion takes your recognition of your limitations to a different level. Instead of simply saying that you know that you're fallible, you take action based on that fact. Of course, if you know that a particular course of action is wrong, you shouldn't follow it. On closer inspection, though, you may realize that you don't actually know this as often as you think you do.

Rejuvenate your sense of wonder. Because we, as individuals, know practically nothing, you'd expect that we'd be awestruck more often than we typically are. Children have this sense of wonder, and it inspires the curiosity that makes them such keen observers and capable learners. Do you really know how your microwave works? Could you build one on your own? What about your car? Your brain? A rose? The jaded, "I've seen it all" attitude makes us feel far more important than we are. Be amazed like a child and you will not only be humbled; you will also be readier to learn.

Seek guidance. Contemplate moral texts and proverbs about humility. Pray for it, meditate on it, do whatever it takes to get your attention off yourself. If you're not into spirituality, consider the scientific method or vipassana. Science requires humility. It requires that you let go of your preconceived notions and judgments and understand that you don't know as much as you think you do.

Think about yourself under different circumstances. Much of what we give ourselves credit for should actually be credited to luck. Suppose you graduate from an Ivy League university at the top of your class. You definitely deserve a lot of credit for the many hours of studying and for your perseverance. Consider though, that there may be somebody just as intelligent and hardworking as you who simply had different parents, grew up in a different place, or simply had the bad luck to make one wrong choice in life. That person - you, really - might be in jail now, or they might have been killed in a war or starved to death. Always remember that with a little bad luck yesterday, your whole life could be different today and, furthermore, that today could be the day your luck changes.

Help others. A big part of being humble is respecting others, and part of respecting others is helping them. Treat other people as equals and help them because it is the right thing to do. It's been said that when you can help others who cannot possibly help you in return, you have learned humility.

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Keep in mind that being humble has many benefits. Humility can help you be more content with your life, and it can also help you endure bad times and improve your relationships with others. It's also essential to being an effective learner. If you think you know it all, you won't be open-minded enough to seek out new knowledge. Humility is also, somewhat counter-intuitively, an excellent tool for self-development in general. After all, if you feel superior, you have no incentive to improve. Most of all, being humble allows you to be honest with yourself.

[edit] Warnings
Pretending to be humble isn't the same as being humble, and often people who pretend to be humble do it in order to seek out praise. Other people will recognize this, and even if you fool some, you won't derive the same benefits as you would through actually developing humility.
Similarly, don't confuse being humble with being sycophantic (being overly-praiseful of someone for your own profit). This is a common misconception, but the two attitudes are completely different.

Tuesday, June 3, 2008

"Be Friendly No Matter What Race or Ethnicity,Friendships Has No Bounderies"

"Friendship Makes Our Lives Easier"

Its great to be able to meet people from all over the world. I love making new friends and learning more about their cultures and beliefs. I feel that if more people talked to each other throughout the the world we would be able to understand more and have better feelings towards our fellow countries.



We all may have our differences but we are all human and live under the same sky and breathe the same air. And we all have the same maker. And I know we have different beliefs in who that is. But I really hope to make many new friends. Peace and Love to all and God Bless You Always.