My WONDERWOMAN

Let's Not Fight

You are my Sweetheart

With you I don't want to fight

Life is too short

It doesn't matter who is right

Let's resolve our problems

I think this we should do

Let's talk things out

I hope you feel it's time too

If we let things go

And go with the flow

We can make a new start

And that's the BEST PART!

I really need you In My Life

I really need you

My dear sweetheart

Please my darling

With me don't part

I know we've had problems

You and I

Give it a chance

Please don't ever say goodbye

"Keep Your Guy Totally Turned On"

Catch Him & Keep Him


Once you’ve been dating the same guy for a while, it’s easy to relax … maybe more than you should. Noted psychiatrist Dr. Keith Ablow reveals seven sins of too-comfy couples and offers advice on how to keep sexual allure alive.

In the first blush of romance, no effort seems too great. Intoxicated by love or lust or both, you swipe your lips with delicious gloss or shell out a ton of money for a bottle fragrance no larger than your big toe. You forego any carb in sight and wax every inch of flesh until your body has less hair than an Olympic swimmer’s. You take extreme yoga just so you can wrap your legs around his neck. And it pays off. Sex is mind-blowing!

Then at some point you begin to feel … comfortable. Perhaps even too comfortable. Maybe it’s six months into the relationship when you’ve started spending every weekend at one another’s place or when you’ve actually gone ahead and moved in together.

You’ve decided to skip the contact lenses more and more often and just put on your funky glasses — they feel so much better. You gain 5 pounds and don’t sweat it — you’ll get back to the gym one of these days. As for him, he’s hitting the bathroom with the door wide open.

Temptingly easy to commit, such small insidious acts can lead to a big problem: an overdose of familiarity. These are the little, (or sometimes not so little) behaviors you can so easily drift into that together have the potential to kill off a relationship’s magnetism, mystery, and sex appeal.

“Keeping the spark alive is nearly impossible after a certain amount of time,” says psychiatrist Dr. Keith Ablow, host of his own nationally syndicated TV show. Dr. Ablow has counseled both individuals and couples for more than 20 years, witnessing first hand how familiarity can breed, if not contempt, then certainly a loss of excitement by partners who assume that intimacy must mean letting it all hang out. But why sacrifice the erotic side of your relationship if you don’t have to?

Here, Dr. Ablow shares his wisdom on how to avoid committing those too-comfortable crimes. “These things are not musts,” Dr. Ablow emphasizes. “You can blow them all off, commit each sin, and be loved anyhow. You just may not end up in bed as much.” Who wants that?

What smart girlfriends never do

1. Giving gifts his mom would buy. Ever notice how guys don’t take it on themselves to surprise you with your favorite deodorant? Yet many women seem to glory in presenting their lover with a three-pack of boxer shorts or a toothbrush. You may think it shows how close you are and that you’re thinking of him, but you also risk morphing from lover into mother. (Ewww!) Since everyone can shop for him- (or her) self, confine gift giving to objects that speak of romance or are at least unique to your man.

2. Flossing together. Do you really want to watch your dream lover picking the night’s meal from between his teeth? Worse, do you want him to see you do it? How about witnessing you wax the 5 o’clock shadow beneath the pert little nose he loves to kiss? Just close the bathroom door and maintain as much mystery as possible. Let him see you at your best. Don’t even think of doing anything on the toilet in his presence — a sin that men are far more likely to commit. (You should, by the way, nicely encourage him not to. The sins of intimacy work both ways.)

3. Drifting into a sex rut. It’s a classic scenario. You’ve discovered what works for each of you in bed, so you cut to the chase and do only that. “Do not believe that just because you’re sexual with your partner, you know exactly what that man wants in bed,” warns Dr. Ablow. “If it becomes obvious that you’re going to be in his life for some time, he may become nervous about telling you what really turns him on.” He doesn’t want to risk rejection. Often, men who cheat on their girlfriends end up having one kind of sex at home, and another, more adventurous kind of sex with their other women.

4. Baring all, all the time. In an old Seinfeld episode, Jerry grumbles that his new girlfriend spends too much time in the nude. That seems like a strange complaint for a guy to make, but think about it. Few of us truly want to see a naked person squat to pick a sock up off the floor … or, for that matter, experience a coughing fit, strain while opening a pickle jar, or fix a bicycle.
Overexposure may anesthetize your man to how provocative your nude form is. So make an effort to keep the vision of your unclothed body special. “I’d go as far as to say that nudity should be connected only to sex,” says Dr. Ablow.

5. Flaunting your flaws. Your well past formal dating. His razor is at your place. His dog sleeps over too. This is a critical time, according to Dr. Ablow, when couples are at risk of getting sick of each other. “We want to be accepted by our longtime lovers as completely as we are by our own families,” he explains. So you think, what difference does it make if I tell him about my dental problems? The guy loves me. Well, maybe he does. But would you talk about the horrible black cavity you need fixed on the first date? How much does your man need to know about it seven months in?

Of course, no one’s perfect, but there’s no positive side to sharing what you consider your body’s imperfections with your guy. Take the maddening whine of many women: “I’m fat!” Keep complaining that you’re trying to lose 10 pounds and he may think, Jeez, the woman has no willpower or Is it just going to get worse?

You’re focusing his attention on an imperfection he may not have noticed or didn’t consider a problem in the first place. Self-confidence is sexy. Either accept yourself confidently or diet quietly. Bottom line regarding flaws: Either fix ‘em or forget ‘em.

6. Dressing down, down, down. “Once you’re a couple, it’s easy to wander around the house wearing sweats and an old tee shirt, or some comfy stuff you picked up at the second hand store,” says Dr. Ablow. We want to believe we’re so well loved it doesn’t matter, he explains. The problem is you can be very well loved and yet not remain sexually attractive to your partner. “It ruins the allure, and makes the bedroom a less magical place.”

7. Spending every night together. The deadliest sin of all, Dr. Ablow believes, is crowding one another. Even if neither of you feels a pressing need to get away, too much togetherness is a surefire way to cool passion. “A woman may have to insist that her man take some individual time, because not all men know how,” says Dr. Ablow. “If he gloms onto you, every so often tell him ‘This weekend I’m unavailable.’”

Whether you keep your own apartments or have moved in together, reserve at least one night a week to go out with your friends. Taking separate vacations is another fun way to add an air of mystery, explains Dr. Ablow, ” because you don’t know the other person’s every move.” Hey, it’s also a great opportunity for phone sex.

"Be What Men Wants....To Nail Them"

He wants a woman who…

1. Can be his best friend (with boobs).

Notice I didn’t write “IS his best friend” – that scenario is about as rare as its chances are of succeeding, but it happens. What I mean here is that in addition to romantic dinners, going out on the town and the slow passionate love-making – occasionally, you’ll pull his finger. Yes, I’m saying you need to bring yourself down to our level – sometimes. Wear a baseball hat, high five us, trash talk with the best of them, have a beer instead of a cosmo and truly appreciate a nice ass in a short skirt when it walks by – in other words, be “one of the guys” SOMETIMES. More importantly, know when to switch off the girlfriend and switch on the best friend. Guys can be deeper than you think and sometimes we just want to talk and not have every reply going through the “girlfriend filter”. Show him you’re really with him through all of his manly moments and he’ll truly love you for it.

Note: Sorry girls, this is one you can’t fake. Either you’re this type of girl or you’re not – and if you’re “acting” we’ll spot it a mile away. You know, when you take your man to the mall and you ask him what he thinks of that great pair of shoes, he says, “they’re great honey” and you’re pointing at a dress. Yeah, like that.
2. Has outside interests.

Go out with the girls. Go to lingerie parties. Go play ice hockey. Just go somewhere. Neither sex likes having the other up their ass 24/7. In other words, don’t make ME your hobby. We ALL need space – sometimes it would be nice if we could actually GO to space and drink our own recycled pee for 30 days on the International Space Station. Those of you that have been there know EXACTLY what I’m talking about. “Me time” is very important to the success of any relationship.

3. Has an original thought.

I love personal ads. It’s always fun reading the different ways people try to sum themselves up in the allotted space. I have read a LOT of them. I have to tell you that NINETY percent of them are damn near identical.

QUOTES: “Must love dogs” – “Live life to the fullest” – “Love like you’ve never been hurt” - “Dance like nobody’s watching” blahdy blah blah blah. My favorite: “I’m SUCH a Carrie!!” Really? That’s the best you can come up with? You’re out there looking for a date and hopefully you have a lot to offer and the best you can come up with is “I’m such a Carrie”?? I really doubt “Carrie” would write a personal ad describing herself as some pre-packaged TV character from a show that at its peak was mediocre at best.

INTERESTS: “Desperate Housewives” (vomit), “Sex and the City”(overrated), “Grey’s Anatomy” (yawn…ducking), Dave Matthews Band (ducking and running) “Long walks on the beach” - Long walks on the beach??? You live in NEBRASKA. Now if you lived on Long Island or any other COASTAL REGION, I could buy it.

Ok, I’m kidding. Sort of. By all means, have your girly shows and interests, but show me your brains too. I want to know you’ve read something other than the latest issue of US! Weekly. I want to (rarely) be able to intelligently discuss world events, politics or even Shakespeare without the phrase “oh, he reminds me of Big” ever coming into the conversation. Smart women are sexy as hell. For me personally, I am a total trivia dork and any girl that can hang with me gets mad bonus points. The flip side of this coin? ESPECIALLY when it comes to politics – don’t be one of those stubborn people that believes your views are the only RIGHT views. That is just complete ignorance and a total turn off. I like to call it “being confident in your ignorance”.
4. Knows how to pick her battles.

Everybody fights at some point. I refuse to ever be in a relationship (again) where arguing or fighting is a regular occurrence. Any of you that are in a relationship right now where that is “normal”. Get out. It’s not. Stop justifying it. But, since even the best of friends, family and loved ones will eventually throw down – make sure it’s something that’s worth it. If I tell you I’ll be home by 11 and I show up at 12:30 and I didn’t call, let it go. If I tell you I’ll be home by 11 and I show up at noon the next day with a hickey – pick THAT battle. Now that’s a little extreme I guess – so let’s go with the old toilet seat. Now I was raised (for the most part) by my mother – so I am very well trained. But seriously, is a split second glance to make sure it’s down is that so difficult? Now if it’s down and he’s just peeing all over it – pick THAT battle. It seems so simple to me but for some people it’s damn near impossible. Stop and think to yourself if what your mad about is REALLY worth the argument, the harsh words, the hours or days of silent treatment – most of the time, it isn’t. Most of the time you’re actually mad about something entirely different that is a much bigger problem than what you are picking this fight about. Which leads me to…

5. Is an excellent communicator.

Oh this one is HUGE. You women LOVE to think we can read your mind. I’m going to let you in on a little secret: We can’t. I was dating this girl once and she came out of the bathroom completely naked and says to me, “What do you think?” I began to have an immediate panic attack. Here’s what went through my head in 1.2 seconds flat:

“oh fuck. I’m usually really good at this game, but she’s naked. So it’s not the shoes, not the outfit. Hair is the same. She hasn’t been tanning. Nothing new looks pierced. No tattoos. It can’t be as simple “I think you’re hot let’s fuck”….naaaah….don’t fall for that one dumbass. Nails done? Nope. Waxed? Nope. Shit hurry up she’s GONNA KNOW YOU DON’T KNOW….”

And then it was over. I took too long.

She says, “oh my god, how can you NOT notice??”

She had tweezed a few eyebrow hairs.

Seriously.

Again, I use the silly example. Communication is so important. If you aren’t going to tell me anything and everything that I need to know in order to better understand you and you leave me to make my own assumptions, chance are high that I’m gonna get some shit wrong. Tell me immediately if I’ve said something that has hurt your feelings and tell me why if it’s not obvious and I’ll apologize on the spot. Don’t give me the “whatever” and go off and pout and expect me to “just know” and then scream at me 5 hours later because I left the toilet seat up. Also, the same goes for sex. And on the “non-arguing” end of it, don’t be afraid to engage me in a debate.

As a matter of fact, PLEASE DO! I love a good debate and I’m open to being taken to school by somebody and learning new things and possibly changing my point of view. An intelligent debate makes a mighty fine aphrodisiac…
6. Loves herself.

This one is pretty simple. You ladies like confident men. Well it goes both ways. We are all our own worst critics and you women are spoonfed – check that – dumptruckfed nearly impossible images of the female form everywhere you turn. So it’s tougher for you, I get that. But if we’ve made it to date #2 – chances are very high that you’ve passed the physical portion of the dating audition. Now if we get to date #whatever date we get naked – and I pull off your dress and find you squeezed into an XS wetsuit that I unzip and suddenly there’s 3 of you where there once was just one – we may have a problem. Seriously though, curves are sexy, freckles are cute, scars are even hotter and any woman worthy of calling herself a real woman has a few stretch marks – we really don’t care.

We REALLY don’t. If we’re naked, I’m not contemplating a Vanity Fair cover shoot – I want to connect with you. But I also want to feel and explore every inch of you before I do and it’s YOU that made me want you…and that’s hard to do with someone that is constantly putting themselves down, pointing out their flaws or fishing for compliments. Take pride in the woman you are and I promise I’ll make you feel like one.

7. Loves me.

I kind if have to make this one personal because I can’t speak for every guy. By “loves me”, I mean you really have to love ME. The whole package. I’m well aware that there are some men out there that have it all – looks, personality, hot body, loaded – I am not one of those guys. I never have been and never will be. But don’t mistake that for a lack of confidence. I am very confident in what I DO have to offer.

I consider myself to be slightly better than average looking if I’m being honest with myself and I’m built like the Pillsbury Dough Boy with about the same shade of white for skin color. And yes, I make that noise if you poke my belly. Beyond the average looks and the lack of shape I’m in – I LOVE ME.

I have gone through more up and downs and lived the shit out of my life and I have finally become the man I want to be. I’m a little bit funny, have a larger than life personality, just about everyone I meet thinks I’m a pretty damn cool guy, I’m very smart, creative, I’m an awesome listener, I have huge arms that will make you feel tiny and safe, an excellent lover, awesome kissable lips and I can write ridiculously long run-on sentences. Oh, and I’m quite modest.

So you see, the upside of me far outweighs the downside of me – and I need someone that sees that and ultimately will love me for it.
8. Has a high sex drive and a firm grasp of her inhibitions (or lack thereof).

Great sex is one of the best things in the world. “Great” being the keyword. Anybody can go through the motions, roll over and go to sleep. However, variety, experimentation and having an open mind in the bedroom/kitchen/balcony/elevator/public library can go a long way to making a great relationship that much better. Role-playing, laughing at a trashy porno, fantasy fulfillment, and garden tools are all perfectly healthy for your sex life and encouraged so as to avoid the dreaded “routine”. Routine can kill even the best of relationships. In other words ladies, you don’t have to keep your toys hidden in your panty drawer or that special box under the bed anymore. We wanna watch! Really, we do.

9. Is capable of and understands compromise.

This one is pretty self-explanatory. A day at the mall = a day at the ballpark. A chick flick = a guy flick. Take turns sharing each other’s interests. It’s not all about either of you. It’s about both of you. If I plan a weekend consisting of driving the countryside, a picnic, antiquing and a bed & breakfast somewhere romantic for you – it’s your turn – figure out all by yourself a weekend of things I enjoy and you plan it. If I like the hunter green paint for the den and you like the periwinkle, we get the seafoam. The best relationships thrive on small sacrifices and compromise – without complaint.

10. She wants “the swing” too.

That says “the” swing not “to” swing. However, more power to swingers – I know a few and their relationships seem to work better than most. But that’s another blog entirely. Anyone that is a TRUE "T. Blog" fan will remember what “the swing” is. I posted a blog a LONG time ago trying to answer a similar question: “(T. Brad) What are you looking for in a woman?) I call it “the swing”. I’ll admit it sounds uber-cheesy, but it’s true. I am looking for someone that I can be with 20 years from now sitting on a porch swing overlooking the water and holding hands and making out or just rocking back and forth in silence with a sly grins on our faces because we both just “know”. If my grandfather were still alive today, he’d be on that swing next to my grandmother at this very moment and they’d be holding hands and smiling…

They were married for 50 years – till death did they part. They are my proof that great lifelong relationships can happen. So yeah, I call it “the swing”. I want that.

A ladies guide to men...truth about men.

It's not what's in her that makes a man fall in love, it's what happens in him that makes a man fall in love with her. Men feel a woman on many levels, but are usually unable to express it in words. for those men who disagree, I'm sorry that your gay or a player.

A woman is a whole being sensation; not just the body, but the heart and soul as well.

Our body:

Our hearts race. we start to sweat. we get butterflies, even when we're not hungry. our fingers and toes a get numb. our breathing stops. our shoulders feel lite, almost like we're flying. It's no wonder we fall all over our selves when you're around.

Our mind:

Around you; we get nervous, and our minds flood with the feelings we have for you. making us forget any rational thought. It's no wonder we haven't the right answers when it's needed. we're not always absent-minded, if anything our minds are overloaded. sometime love is too strong for one man's mind to handle.

When you're not around our minds get lost, like there's something missing. most men don't realize that it is "you".

Our heart and soul:

At first we let you into our lives, then our heart, and the our soul. You reach farther into us then just the body and mind, you become part of our soul. I guess that's why it hurt so much when we break-up. most men think that if we show you how we feel about you in it's entirety, that it would kill us when it goes away. probably self preservation of sorts, maybe I don't know.

I believe the we're born only half hearted, and the other half of us is out there waiting to be found.

WARNING: Feelings may vary from man to man, but it's usually like that.

"How To Get Him "Addicted" To You"‏

LOVE SPELL , GET HIM ADDICTED

Did you know that getting a guy
"addicted" to you won't happen JUST BECAUSE
you're:

-- the most beautiful woman he knows
-- or the smartest
-- or the most "together" and successful?

Nope, it doesn't work that way.

It happens because of the way he experiences
you on an EMOTIONAL level, not necessarily JUST
on a physical or intellectual level.

A man's not going to think, "I have to have this
woman in my life!" because you've impressed him
with your intellectual prowess or because you
have great abs.

Ok - maybe he'll want you "for now" because he'll
be physically attracted to you, but he's not going
to be thinking about a long-term "serious"
relationship with you because of those reasons.

There's only one reason a man will become
literally addicted to you for life... And that's
because he feels a strong EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION to
you.

And the way to create that is explained in detail
right here:

http://www.catchhimkeephim.com/NALA

I've got a fascinating story for you.

Tell me if it sounds familiar...

You're hanging out talking with some friends,
when all of a sudden the conversation turns to a
common topic - love and relationships.

And each woman at the table starts talking
about the situation she's in and all the amazing
things about it.

At first you're enjoying the stories and you're
happy for your friends.

But then it hits you -

You are the only person there who ISN'T in an
ongoing positive relationship.

Everyone else at the table has someone in their
life who they're excited and optimistic about.

Everyone else has something "real."

Everyone except you.

You're ALONE... and that guy who you "date",
without the relationship going anywhere, well - he
doesn't cut it.

So you stop for a second and think,

"Maybe it's me..."

"Maybe it's not all because of the way men are,
but how I am. That explains why I don't have real
love in my life."

As you think about this for a second, you can't
help but feel a little lonely all of a sudden, and
a small twinge of sadness wells up inside.

But as these feelings start to grow, you know
inside that you deserve better, and you wish the
feeling would just go away.

But it doesn't... and the last thing you want
to do is "go there" in front of your friends.

Especially since they just got through telling
all of their great stories.

You don't want them to know how you really feel
right now... and you wish this feeling and problem
would just go away.

You think to yourself:

"Why does love and a relationship have to be so
difficult?"

"If only men weren't so difficult to be with."

But then your "protective" side kicks in, and
you start fighting these feelings and tell
yourself:

"I don't need a man."

"I'm happy with my life as it is."

"I'm happy to be single and focus on myself
right now, instead of wasting my time and energy
in a dead-end situation with a man."

"Men are all screwed up and trouble anyway, and
I don't need that in my life right now."

Ahhhh... it starts to work and you calm down
and regain your "cool."

But somewhere deep down inside, you know why
you felt sad -

Seeing all your friends happy in their love
lives reminded you of something...

For all the reasons you have to be happy, and
all the ways you can convince other people (and
yourself) that you're fulfilled, you REALLY DO
want something much, much better.

You want a REAL CONNECTION.

You want to share REAL LOVE and BE LOVED.

And you wonder how long you can avoid the
reality that these things are MISSING from your
life by staying busy and taking care of other
areas of life.

You know you can't go on this way forever.

Something has to change.

There HAS to be something better out there for
you. Or else what's it all for?

But then you remember...

It's been months, maybe even years, since
you've actually made the time and space in your
life to meet and connect with the kind of man who
could bring great things back into your love life.

And in fact, the idea of "dating" sounds like a
complete and utter NIGHTMARE.

Sitting through a date listening to some bozo,
who has no idea how to really connect with you,
ramble on about himself, would just make you feel
even more hopeless and alone.

So you've basically shut out of your life the
idea of dating and going out with men for more
than friendship.

But then how are you supposed to meet and
connect with a great guy?

And how did EVERYONE ELSE around you manage to
become CLOSE and COMMITTED with a good guy, while
you're having an impossible time finding a guy who
isn't totally clueless?

Do they know something you don't?

Are you just UNLUCKY in love... and not meant
to have a great relationship for yourself?

Are they somehow more attractive than you are?

Why does it have to be so difficult?

And why does it have to be such a "game"?

***End of story**


Ok, I know I got a little "heavy" on you
there, but it's for your own good.

This story is basically a myth... a collection
of common situations, fears, beliefs, etc., that
women experience.

And in case you didn't notice, a lot of what
was going on here in the story had to do with a
woman's own limiting thoughts, frustrations and
negative beliefs about men, dating and
relationships.

If you identified with a few of these thoughts,
fears, etc., then I want you to recognize
something.

Some women have VERY FEW of these negative and
limiting thoughts.

While other women have TONS.

I'm talking 10, 20, 30 and 50 times a day here.

And what do you think that does for a woman?

Or for you?

Let's try something new today - an exercise.

Take a second and imagine something for me...

Picture in your mind a woman you know who's
either single or in a "troubled" relationship.

Make sure you have a clear picture of her in
your mind.

Now I want you to imagine her having negative
thoughts and fears like the ones we've been
talking about here.

In fact, I also want you to give her some of
the fears and negative thoughts that you have.

And now... concentrate on how these thoughts
make her FEEL and ACT.

See how they affect her emotions, her attitude
and even her body language.

I'll give you a second to picture this clearly
in your mind...

Ok, now imagine a situation comes up for her
uncertain situation with the man in her life.

Picture her emotions, her thoughts and how she
communicates to the man in her life in your head.

I'll give you a second to think about this and
imagine it happening in your mind.

...

...

I'll give you another minute.

Ok, come on back.

Now, I want you answer a question for me:

How did all of her negative thoughts affect how
she interacted with her guy?

Did they help guide her to positive and
constructive communication that brought them
CLOSER together?

Or did it tend to make communication with him
MORE DIFFICULT and create DISTANCE?

I'm sure you came up with all kinds of
insights and realizations, but here's what I want
you to see:

Communicating with a man from a place of fear
and insecurity will more often create DISTANCE
than it will bring you and him together.

Unless the guy you're with is ALREADY an expert
at communicating and dealing with these things
himself.

If only men were experts when it came to having
open, lasting relationships and communicating in
ways that would bring you closer, right?

Wouldn't that be nice.

Well, the truth is men are RARELY experts in
these areas.

And sure... a man COULD come along and be such
a wonderful and amazing guy that he would help
make relationships and communicating easier.

But if that doesn't happen, or the great guy
you do find doesn't happen to have these natural
skills and abilities (and by the way, most men
don't)...

Then guess what?

It's up to YOU.

He's not going to make it work FOR YOU.

In fact, the reality is that as you are first
becoming close with a man, he's more likely to
trigger your own fears than to help resolve them.

I'm not telling you about this right now just
because I'm trying to teach you some "mumbo jumbo"
about how thoughts, energy and intention work
together...

(Which they do.)

But for another simple reason -

There's something you can do right now to
DRAMATICALLY improve the level of connection and
intimacy you have in your love life.

It all starts in one place.

Paying attention to HOW YOU THINK.

On a basic level, your own patterns of THINKING
and FEELING lead to the ACTIONS you take and the
BEHAVIOR you display.

And guess what can create a "negative filter"
on your THINKING and FEELINGS?

FEAR.

And if you're finding that your actions and
behaviors aren't "naturally" attracting good men
and creating healthy long-term relationships...
then you've got something to look at right now:

Your own thoughts and emotions, and your own
fears.

And, of course, you could worry about HIS
ISSUES too, but let's save working on him for
later when you're up to speed on all this for
yourself.


GETTING PAST FEAR, "CONNECTING" ON A DEEP LEVEL,
AND MAKING MEN ADDICTED TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP...

Ok, let's get to some real ANSWERS here.

What do you DO when you have negative, fearful,
limiting thoughts and situations going on in your
mind that are affecting your love life?

Well, I'm not going to tell you that all women
who are single or in "dead-end" relationships are
in that place in their life JUST BECAUSE they
think and feel in "fear-based" and "self-limiting"
ways.

But do the math.

What kind of women do you think men "naturally"
gravitate towards?

What kind of women do you think men
"instinctively" feel good when they're around,
even if they don't know why?

What kind of women do you think men understand,
on a subconscious level and make great long-term
partners?

Right again.

Women who are in CONTROL of their own fears and
emotions when it comes to men, dating and
relationships.

Why?

It's NOT because feelings and emotions
themselves are bad...

Feelings and emotions are probably the most
beautiful part of what makes us human and allows
us to experience the world in a deep and
meaningful way.

But, what I'm talking about here are NEGATIVE
feelings.

Because negative feelings, more often than not,
lead to NEGATIVE EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCES.

And women who are in CONTROL of their EMOTIONAL
EXPERIENCES and who have a handle on their own
emotional state, know how to do something that
other women can't and will never be able to
fake...

They know how to consistently create more
POSITIVE EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCES with men.

On one level, it really is that simple.

In practice, it's much harder.

In my "Catch Him & Keep Him" eBook I've devoted
3 ENTIRE CHAPTERS to the subject of creating the
optimum "emotional fitness" for a successful
relationship.

You'll learn the SCIENCE behind emotions, how
to take your own Emotional Ownership, and
Emotional Display Rules - the "do's and don'ts"
for creating new emotional AND intellectual wisdom
before you act in certain situations.

You can download it and be reading it right now
by going here:

http://www.catchhimkeephim.com/eBook


So let's get on now to ATTRACTION.

The truth is that men are attracted to one
woman and not another largely because of the way
that one woman makes them FEEL.

And NOT because of what logically sound
qualities each person and the relationship has.

ATTRACTION and CONNECTION have their own
"logic."

I'll say it again so you can really hear it
this time -

A man is attracted to a woman and wants to be
with her, and only her, because of the way he
FEELS when he's around her.

And not for any other reason.

Not even if the women is the most loving,
caring, sweet, generous, and intelligent woman in
the world.

I'm even going to "translate" this for you so
you're sure to start seeing it more clearly -

Translation: The emotional experiences that a
man has when he's around a woman are the single
most powerful reasons why he either wants a long-
term relationship, or doesn't.

And to make this even more clear, let me tell
you what this DOESN'T mean...

It DOESN'T mean that a man wants to be with a
woman because he VALUES a relationship and having
true love in his life.

Or that a woman can be so good to a man and do
so many loving and generous things for him that he
recognizes the LOGICAL value of staying with her
and makes the "right" decision.

Feelings and emotions have their own logic,
which has NOTHING to do with what makes "sense" or
what is "fair."

And the sooner you accept this as true about
men, the easier EVERYTHING in your love life and
relationship will become.


CREATING A DEEP LEVEL OF "EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION"
THAT WILL LEAD TO A LASTING RELATIONSHIP

So how do you make a man FEEL when he's around
you?

What are the conscious and subconscious
emotional reactions and responses he's likely to
be having with you, based on your emotions and
your behavior?

Take a minute and think about it.

...

...

Here's the bottom line:

A woman who can communicate to a man on a
deeper level that she's AWARE and IN CONTROL of
her own experience and "emotional" state will make
a man feel INTENSE ATTRACTION for her on that same
emotional level.

She's an "emotionally attractive" woman, which
can tell a man all kinds of things about her
BEYOND the PHYSICAL ATTRACTION and interest he
might have.

On the other hand...

Women who DON'T have a handle on these things
have quite a different effect on men...

These women can still usually make men feel
PHYSICAL ATTRACTION - but they often set off all
kinds of conscious and subconscious "warning
signs" in a man's mind.

Signals that then become FEELINGS and EMOTIONS
inside the man that tell him to RUN.

And under no circumstance commit himself and
attach his emotional experience to hers.

Here's the strangest part about women who send
off these "warning signals" to men...

Most women do this largely BY ACCIDENT.

That's right. Lots of women actually trigger
negative responses inside a man's mind while doing
things they think are FOR THE GOOD of the
relationship.

How's that for COUNTERPRODUCTIVE?

And hey... I know it might bother you to hear
some of what I'm saying. And that you probably
have been more caring and generous with your
thoughts and emotions in your past situations with
men than they were with you.

I get that.

But someone needs to tell you how men really
and truly think when it comes to women and
relationships.

And of course men have their own specialized
set of "baggage" and fears, too.

But let me ask you:

What do you know, FROM EXPERIENCE, will happen
if a man doesn't deal with his own fears about
women and relationships?

DISASTER.

I'm talking withdrawal, break-ups, cheating,
lying, etc.

The list goes on.

But if a guy takes the time and develops the
"emotional maturity" to think about the negative
and limiting fears HE HAS about women and
relationships...

And finds a healthy level of AWARENESS and
CONTROL around these...

Then this is the kind of guy that women will
"naturally" be drawn to and enjoy being with.

Your first step to creating a situation with a
man where you BOTH feel the level of connection
that will create and support a lasting
relationship is to accept that MEN DON'T MAKE
SENSE.

Why?

Because remember, our EMOTIONS don't follow a
logical or "rational" path.

If you're interested in learning more about
what I call "Emotional Attraction" - which is the
kind of attraction and desire in a man that goes
BEYOND PHYSICAL ATTRACTION, then I'd suggest you
go check out my "Natural & Lasting Attraction"
CD/DVD program.

This program is the world's first complete
guide and reference on how to create both that
initial "connection" and LASTING LONG-TERM
ATTRACTION...

While showing you how to deal with all of the
common relationship-ending obstacles you'll run
into with men, and within yourself, along the way.

Inside this 7-hour program, I cover everything
from the psychological foundations of how and why
a man becomes connected and attracted to a woman
for a lasting relationship...

To exactly what to do in the frustrating
situation where you start getting closer and more
connected, but then he starts to withdraw and act
MORE DISTANT as time goes on.

By the way, the material in this program is all
NEW MATERIAL that wasn't covered in my eBook, if
you've already read it.

But let me ask you...

Wouldn't it be great to know the specific
emotional and verbal "strategies" of women who
seem to effortlessly and "naturally" attract men?

In this program I get deep into these areas and
teach you how to keep that deep level of
connection and intimacy growing - in a way that
will have HIM initiating the growth, too.

That way you're not always feeling like you
have to "drive" your relationship to get where
you're going.

You'll know how to help him "take the wheel"
too... and love every minute of it.

I also focus on the common negative or
counterproductive "strategies" that LOTS of women
use when things don't seem to be moving forward.

Seeing these common negative strategies,
learning where they come from, and figuring out
how to avoid them is CRITICAL.

Knowing exactly what NOT TO DO will bring you
the CLARITY you've been looking for with men, and
save you tons of wasted time and energy in your
love life.

Here's the thing...

I spent a good portion of this program focusing
on helping you to identify YOUR OWN specific fears
and frustrations with men and relationships that
are holding you back right now -

Some of which I've already had you take a short
look at here.

Inside this program I walk you through powerful
guided exercises to help you clearly recognize
your own important "trouble spots."

Then I show you how to immediately turn them
into POSITIVE action steps and INSTANTLY change
your old relationship and communication patterns
into positive results and outcomes.

But you don't have to listen to me - some GUY
telling you all this.

You can watch REAL VIDEOS of REAL WOMEN, who
experienced this program live, tell you their
stories and what they got out of the program as a
woman.

Follow this link, go to the bottom of the page
and watch the videos there - and let me know what
you think:

http://www.catchhimkeephim.com/NALA


I'm so sure you're going to get MASSIVE RESULTS
and take your love life, perspective, and
AWARENESS to the next level with this program that
I'll do something special here...

I'm going to let you try out the program for 30
days without paying a thing.

Zero.

I'll ship you your copy of the CDs or DVDs for
to you work with for 30 whole days.

If you don't get everything you thought you'd
get out of the program and more, simply let me
know and you won't pay a thing.

No hassles.

So what do you have to lose?

Not much.

But what you have to gain could mean everything
to your future love life and relationship.

http://www.catchhimkeephim.com/NALA

One more quick question:

What's your biggest frustration
with men, relationships and dating?

Do you find it easy to meet men, but hard to keep
their attention and interest as soon as things
start to get "serious"?

Are you wondering how to approach your
boyfriend about commitment, because you've
been together a long time now and HE isn't
bringing it up on his own?

Are you worried that the man you're with will
cheat on you?

I actually put together a list of "Top 10"
questions that I most commonly get from women
like you, who are wondering how to get past
certain "bumps" in the road when it comes to
their love lives.

Find out what to do in each of these situations,
and see if YOUR specific relationship or dating
question is one that I answer in the letter that
appears on this page:

http://www.catchhimkeephim.com/Catalog

Power Of The Mind Seduction

S e d u c e h i s m i n d

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