Fate or Destiny?

"People often meet their destiny on the road they take to avoid it" - French Proverb

Many people talk of Fate and Destiny as if they are one and the same thing, but it may be interesting to examine the subtle difference between the two.
It is believed by many that before we are born we make definite choices as to what we wish to learn, and the aim we want to fulfill during the coming life. It is a Spiritual decision which is rarely remembered once we are born, but in hindsight we often see that events and circumstances have led us unknowingly onwards towards our chosen destination.
So our Destiny could be classified as our own personal Star.

It is the Spiritual Will of the person; a deep inner need; something that drives us to do what seems impossible. It nurtures us with hope in our darkest moments; enables us to dream of better things, and resides in a place where we are destined to find our fulfillment.
Destiny is what we are here on earth to achieve. It is the Sacred Inner Star that guides us; our aspirations; our need to "go" somewhere and make our mark on the world
If we all seriously went about fulfilling our Destiny there would be no need for Fate, for our Star is the Magical Gift of our moment in time which is personal to us alone, and belongs to every single person on this planet.
The problem we are faced with, of course, is what exactly is our Destiny, and how do we go about fulfilling it? And that is where Fate has a significant part to play, for most of us have little memory of what we have committed to do, and are so caught up in the material world that we lose sight of our own unique qualities and potential.
So Fate could be classified as our own personal Guardian.
It calls us to attention, and just knocks us back onto the path when we stray from our true purpose. It is a friendly nudge in the right direction.
Many people feel that Fate is unkind and whimsical in approach, but in fact it is both generous and extremely mindful of the needs of our soul. Sometimes it hurts, but sadly it is often only through hardship that we discover our inner strength and capabilities to achieve great things.
There are so many of us who are wandering around aimlessly through life, wondering where we are meant to go, and dangerously looking at other people's Stars and wishing they were ours.
We ask a multitude of questions about our Destiny, but rarely if ever hear or even listen for the answers, for they don't come as a sudden flash of lightening out of a cloud.
Answers can only be heard by getting to know ourselves really well; finding out what we really want and going after it with complete commitment; believing in ourselves and our capabilities, and learning to listen to own intuition - the secret inner Spiritual voice or ourselves - that is trying to show us the way to personal success in life and happiness in our hearts.
The responsibility for finding our Destiny is ours alone. It can never be given to us by anyone else for it doesn't belong to them, it only belongs to us.
Destiny is something we choose to go after.... Fate is something that happens to us, and seemingly takes away our choices, but in fact actually leads us back towards the choice of Destiny we already made before we were born.

Do you believe that our lives are pre-destined? Perhaps you subscribe to the idea that whatever will be will be, that fate rules all that happens to us. But what about free will? If the idea that no matter what our personal destinations are decided for us before we are born, read on. Perhaps it is your destiny to do so.

I do believe in destiny we are all born pre-destined by GOD but we have the choice to take the rigth path or go against the will.God given us the freedom to choose for our lives,the same thing that he had gave Adam & Eve the freedom to follow their hearts & that is the test that we had to take,the purpose as a human being here on the earth to seek the right path even there are obstacles along the way.This will test our faith in him as children of God.Most of us forgot the primary reason why are we here being blind with material things.They praise the works of man,ignoring the true meaning of life.Material things is not our lives we should conquer our greediness to have it all to the extent that lead people to kill,ruins ones life bec. of what?money!Material wealth!Try to think about it!Is it worth it?Can we be happy with money alone?How can someone sleeps with all the wealth they had if that wealth is acquired of cheating & greediness that kills,could you still sleep at night?is it worth it?To all who acquired their wealth by taking advantaged of other people,cheating,stealing,murdering,stealing ones rights & power grabbing!All i can say is shame on you all!How can you celebrate your victory in the miseries of other people.The world admires all the world's rich & famous society to them they are the GODS living on earth,i'm not stating all of them i know there are exemptions.The people acquired their wealth by playing dirty,the masses admired this people,don't be fooled!Why would you admire people with power & wealth,seeing them as perfect that all are a big JOKE.All are fools,that they don't know how to identify the true meaning of intelligence & true wealth that all should have.In my point of view,both RICH & POOR society are compose of individuals that are living in prejudism,opportunist & thirst of power.The RICHMAN controls the POORMAN of their same kind,both are brainless to be manipulated my MONEY for what?If you are the RICHEST PERSON in earth with fame & surrounded by friends,fake friends to be exact!If you die this very moment can you bring all your wealth in your grave.The your relatives & friends will mourn for a day & rejoice the day after for the wealth you had left.There will be a celebration of abundance,fortune that they had inherit & you will be forgotten bec. all your worth is the wealth that they are aspiring to have.For me,i'll live my life in the way that i won't be manipulated by money,my main goal is to be happy not to the expense of other myseries.I'll find my happiness,the true meaning of life.We can dream to be rich & reached that dream but not to the extent that our conscience is clouded by our greed.All i can say is.....LIVE RIGTH,LIVE RICH,LIVE CLEAN,LIVE HAPPY BECAUSE WE LIVED IN GOD & WE REST IN OUR FAITH.

"OUR DESTINY IS ON OUR HANDS,

WE CAN CHANGE IT FOR BETTER,FREE WILL."

"MIND OVER MATTER,HAVE FAITH &

GOD WILL DO THE REST."

12 Keys To Living The Psychic Life

Discover the Secrets of Developing Your Own Psychic Powers

What is a Psychic?A psychic is a person who is believed to possess extra sensory perception and is regarded as a highly intuitive individual. A psychic is used as a source to help provide information about the future. A clairvoyant is a person who is believed to have the ability to clearly see objects or events that cannot be perceived by the senses. A clairvoyant can help you gain perspective so you will be able to see and think things through more clearly.
Psychic AbilityA clairvoyant or psychic ability is seen as a spiritual gift and there are ways we can all develop these powers and unlock our own potential. Have you ever considered whether you have a psychic gift? Did you realise absolutely anyone can develop psychic powers and latent psychic abilities with the right information, training and of course determination, dedication and commitment.
Do you have times when you think about someone you haven't seen in a long time and then you suddenly bump into them? Do you have dreams that often come true? Do you know who's ringing you before you answer the phone? Each and everyone of us possesses a degree of psychic ability, often without even realising it. Most of us call upon our intuition on a daily basis to tell us about a situation or a person. Using your 'gut feelings' can be a wise move and more often than not those hunches turn out to be 100% correct. When we learn how to utilize these powers fully, we can use them to give us a first class advantage when it comes to getting what we want in life.
Don't let anyone tell you that you have to be special or gifted to enjoy the benefit of psychic powers; it simply is not true. The unfortunate fact is that most of mankind in modern society has come to rely on material things, thereby turning its back on our true Spiritual reality, and therefore these abilities have long been forgotten. However, forgotten does not mean lost.
Your natural psychic potential still exists as strongly as ever, simply lying dormant waiting to be awakened, developed and exercised. Once awakened, as with any ability, the more you use your psychic ability the stronger it becomes.
One of the secrets to success in developing psychic powers is a profound belief that they work. You have vast psychic potential that will enable you to enjoy a wide range of valuable abilities, but it is so important to start on the right foot and get the right training.
Developing Psychic PowersDeveloping psychic powers, as with any inner ability, should be a very serious and extremely rewarding process, not something that ends with disillusionment. In the past, the real knowledge required to develop your own genuine psychic powers, has only been known to a very few people who have used it to their own powerful advantage. Once you have developed your Psychic Powers you will want to continue to develop your natural abilities.
What Psychic or Clairvoyant Powers can you develop?
Spiritual Healing
Telepathy
Mind Reading
Astral Projection
Clairvoyance
Clairaudience
Psychic Mediumship
Telekinesis
Crystal Gazing
Remote Viewing

Do you wish you were more psychic? Some basic tenets for living the intuitive life

1. Don't worry about what other people think. Don't worry about fitting in. (Chances are you don't fit in; but remember that other people don't necessarily hear or see the amount of things you do.)
2. Stay connected to a higher power. Connect with Source. Practice the Presence. (This is where our information comes from and what ultimately makes the difference and keeps us sane.)
3. Spend time in nature. It will keep you connected with higher vibrations and right priorities and help you remember who you are and what you are. It keeps connection to Source alive and real. (And remember, if you have a high level of sensitivity, you are constantly processing so much information of which you may not even be consciously aware.)
4. Don't worry about being right. Simply tune in and express what you get. Things don't always make sense in the moment and are proven out over time.
5. Meditate: Withdraw from group speak and connect deeply with higher vibration. Sensitive people sometimes lose their focus around too much noise. This is another reason for spending time in nature. Nature has a sound but it's more restorative than degenerative.
6. Don't force information on people who haven't asked. It wears you both out. You can't give someone something they don't want. People used to get angry at me for the same information they now pay me for.
7. Have patience.
8. Practice kindness.
9. Sleep is restorative. Record your dreams.
10. Process or interact with your dreams. Taking an active part in your inner life helps develop and nurture a true sense of self. We do NOT want to be projecting our issues onto others. There's a big difference between projecting and sharing.
11. Be amused.
12. Feed your senses with art, literature, music, earth and trees. It's hard to extend your senses if they're undernourished. You can't give from an empty or anorexic cup. Imagine an overflow.

The Spiritual World Of Crystals

The power of crystals, gemstones and minerals to increase intuition, enhance psychic abilities and strengthen the connection to the spirit world has been known for centuries. The following list provides a brief guide to the psychic ability enhancing powers of many popular gemstones and minerals
Agate – Agate is able to enhance intuitive senses, produce a peaceful state of mind, and help to connect to spiritual energies
Amethyst - Amethyst enhances psychic anilities and offers some protection from negative energies within a close radius.
Angelite - Angelite is thought to aid in astral travel and telepathic abilities
Andalusite – Andalusite acts as a type of psychic energy dampener, this is useful for those with overactive psychic energies.
Apatite - Apatite stimulates psychic energies and produces inner visions.
Azurite – Azurite is a powerful psychic ability enhancer.
Chrysocolla - Chrysocolla improves psychic abilities and can induce prophetic dreaming and trances.
Coral - Coral is known to increase intuition.
Emerald – Emerald enhances the clarity of dreams and spiritual insights.
Howlite - Howlite has a calming effect on the mind. It assists in opening the mind to receive spiritual information.
Iolite - Iolite opens the mind to psychic visions and creative insight.
Kyanite - Kyanite is known to provide greater psychic abilities as well as assist in lucid dreaming, astral travel, telepathic skills and clairvoyance.
Labradorite - Known as the Wizards Stone Labradorite increases intuitive abilities.
Lapis lazuli - Lapis Lazuli enhances psychic ability.
Moonstone – Moonstone aids in developing psychic abilities and enhances ones own intuitive skills.
Obsidian – Obsidian is often used as for divination and it can increase psychic abilities.
Sapphire - Sapphires increase telepathic abilities.
Sugilite - Sugilite is known to dramatically increase psychic abilities as well as offer protection from negative energies.

People have always been drawn to crystals, primarily due to their visual attraction, exquisite purity, fantastic interplay of colors and "crystal-clear" transparency. Crystals, semi-precious and precious stones, however, have other outstanding features, making them very much suitable to be used as tools in various metaphysical, spiritual, and healing practices.
The spiritual science considers crystals and all the other members of the mineral kingdom as living beings that are at the basic level of evolution of consciousness. This is in contrast to the wide-spread belief based on the parameters of nowadays science, by which crystal are not classified as living entities.
Possessing various vibrations crystals are capable of accumulating energy in accordance with their inherent nature. Furthermore, they can amplify the absorbed energy and bring it back to us and our environment through resonance and vibration. Their help can be invaluable, provided that we treat them like living entities. Once we have mastered the skill of communicating with our crystals, they are going to reveal to us much more - their hidden virtues and qualities.
It is believed that the spiritual basis of working with crystals originates from Atlantis, where a powerful technology for obtaining crystals synthetically had been devised, enabling production of crystals of extended proportions to be used for different purposes.
Amid the great number of crystals that are available, it might be difficult for us to choose the right crystal. There are some important points of choosing crystals that should be considered before making up our mind, such as visual appeal, intuitive attraction and attraction at mental level, and crystal's practical values.
Once the particular crystal has been chosen and purified, for instance, by using the help of one of the four elements (water, fire, earth and air) we can charge and program it. By charging, we associate it with the types and qualities of energy we would like to put within our crystal. By programming, we implant our selected thoughts, feelings, and intentions into the crystal's energy pattern, and afterwards our crystal will amplify and irradiate them back to us.
The color of crystals can be a good indication as to what kind of metaphysical practice or healing practice their specific energies are suitable for.
For example, colorless, white or violet crystals open the door of perception; bring unity with the Universe and transcendental love. Red crystals are symbols of life, vitality, power. They move energies, they worm up. Orange crystals encourage life energy, self-control and regulate the functioning of the sexual glands. Yellow crystals help the indigestion, influence the normal functioning of the liver, gallbladder, kidneys and spleen. They release subconscious fears, and promote balance. Green crystals represent the color of love, health, harmony and creativity. They help with heart disorders, regulate the blood pressure, calm the nerves and stimulate love.
Finally, it is important to remember that for eons have crystals been absorbing the omnipresent Cosmic love, amplifying it, and spreading their steady energy vibrations all around them. They have been supporting God's creation, by outpouring their love and spirituality into the world, transmitting the Sun's light, love, and warmth, and along with it, their structural stability. Therefore, it is comforting to know that they can be our devoted friends, counselors and teachers.

Amulets,Charms & Talisman

Amulets, Charms, Fetishes and Talismans
These are essentially items that act as mini-spells housed in an object or a combination of objects, all of which are easily carried around. All get their power from a combination of symbolic value attributed to the item(s), the faith, belief and energy provided by the User and Creator.
Typical components used in Amulets, Charms, Fetishes and Talismans are metals, stones, plants, fabric, candle wax, pins, fruit, coins, and anything else of symbolic value. These can be as simple as merely carrying around a coin, feather or piece of metal to creating something as elaborate as a Dream Catcher or taking more time to handcraft. Often times, those sources saying there are certain requirements or taboos when making such items; such as abstaining from food or sexual activity for a time or it has to be made on a certain day; this was/is done for the sake of purifying one’s spirit or to help put them into the proper frame of mind for doing magick.
An amulet varies slightly from the others in that it’s typically thought of as being worn such as a necklace or ring. A charm varies as well from the others in that they can be quickly spoken or are a quick gesture. Fetishes are often thought to be small objects of a magical nature. However, thisdoes not hold true to the full definition of a charm. According to the "Funk & Wagnalls Standard Desktop Dictionary," the following definition is offered:
Something worn to ward off evil or ensure good luck; an amulet.Any formula or action supposed to have magical power.
The "Encyclopedia of Witches and Witchcraft" further explains this definition by including: magical words, phrases, chants, incantations, inscriptions, and actions which can be used separately or in combination to make a charm.
Acorn
Attracts the opposite gender, increases income, divine powers, and prosperity.
Akhet
Ancient Egyptian amulet representing the rising sun. It is held to give the wearer the vigour of the sun god Ra.
Alligator Teeth
Protection from sorcery and danger.
Animals
Any statue, symbol or image of an animal can be used as a talisman. The meanings will change accordingly to the type of animal, it's meanings and any cultural significance surrounding them. This even includes fantasy or mythological animals as well.
Ankh
An Egyptian amulet meaning life or soul. It symbolizes enduring life and grants the wearer one hundred thousand million years of life.
Bell
An amulet used by primitive and Western people whose sound was intended to ward off the evil eye and dispel hostile spirits. In the Middle East bells were attached to the harness of horses and camels for the same purposes.
Billiken
A good luck ornament in the shape of a human figure.
Cat Whisker
Carrying a cat whisker in the glove box of the car protects against car theft, troubles, accidents and traffic tickets.
Chai
A symbol of life. Usually made from gold or silver. It supposedly grants the wearer longevity.
Coffin Nails
In was said that a ring made from three nails that had been used in a coffin and dug up in a churchyard would act as a charm against convulsions and fits of every kind.
Cross
Life and divine protection. The Christians believed it to be a supreme amulet against all forces of evil. The sign of the cross was thought to cure illness and drive off demons.
Cylinder Seal
A seal cylindrical in shape made of clay, precious stones and limestone worn around the neck by the Sumerians and other ancient people as a signature to authenticate business agreements.
Deities
Symbols and images of Gods, like animals will also have varying meanings depending on the God or Goddess used and the particular attribute wanted or needed.
Dream Catchers
According to the Sioux, the legends speak to us of the Dream Catcher. It is believed that each carefully woven web will catch your dreams in the night air. Placed over the bed or centered in a window, the bad spirit dreams will become entangled in the new day. The good spirit dreams will always find their way through the center opening, and will gently float down the sacred feather to bless the dreamer with peaceful dreams. Note: If you buy or make your Dream Catcher, make sure the center hole is not covered by a stone or fetish as that traps all dreams.
Eye of God
Amulet used to counteract the evil eye. Made of sticks and coloured yarn by Huichol Indians of Mexico and attributed with power of protecting people, homes, and fields.
Eye of Horus
Egyptian Eye of God made of gold, copper, silver, clay, faience, or wood and worn to acquire strength, vitality, and protection against the evil eye.
Four Leaf Clover
Good luck amulet. The four leaves going clockwise from the left side of the stem represents fame, wealth, love, and health.
Fox Tail
Good luck amulet attached to personal possessions. Primitive people believed that it endowed the owner with the cunning of the animal.
Heart
An amulet worn by many people around the world. It's a symbol of love and devotion. Ancient Egyptians thought the heart was the abode of the soul. In Europe a heard amulet was reputed to prevent heart disease.
Hexagram
A figure of six lines forming a six pointed star. It is worn in many parts of the world as a protection against evil. A widely worn symbol of the Jewish faith called Morgen David, shield or, popularly, star of David.
Horn of Plenty
A contemporary amulet symbolizing prosperity, modelled on the legendary cornucopia overflowing with flowers and fruit.
Horseshoes
Nail a horseshoe above the door way leading into a home, keep it pointed upwards so as to keep the luck from running out.
Knot
An amulet usually of knotted string or cord that was believed to hold the love of a sweetheart or ward off illness.
Lizard Tail
In many species, as seen by geckos especially, the tail drops off when seized by a predator, allowing them to escape and a new tail grows to replace the old one. For this reason, lizard tails are regarded as good luck talismans.
Magic Triangle
Cabbalistic amulet based on the belief that by reducing the size of an inscription, line by line, and evil spirit could be eased out of the sufferer.
Mezuzah
Doorpost amulet designed to keep a house safe from evil spirits, demons, ghosts. and good fortune in travel. To assure good fortune it should be worn as a waxing, not a waning moon. That is, with the points to the left.
Mirrors
The mirror is the quickest way to send back negativity or to absorb it. In ritual, cleanse, consecrate and empower the mirror for protection. Hang the mirror in a central place of the house where it will absorb the negative energy of the house. This is also the source of the term: "Break a mirror, you'll have seven years bad luck" as the person who breaks the mirror, takes all the negative energy absorbed by the mirror into themselves.
Nefer
An amulet worn by the Egyptians. It represents beauty and goodness. It probably is a form of the heart and windpipe, and was thought to bring youth and happiness. Very popular for making necklaces.
Pennies
"See a penny, pick it up and all day long you'll have good luck." Popular to this is if the penny is heads up when found, it's good luck. Tails it's bad luck. To avert this, place the penny in your left shoe to counter the bad luck and give a day, 24 hours of good luck. Pennies placed in the left shoe were also a ward against the magicks of fairies, particularly the harmful ones.
Pentagram
A five pointed star representing the five elements of air, fire, water, earth, and spirit. Also represents the figure of a human being. It is thought to protect the wearer from all kinds of evil spirits. Can also be used by magicians to control spirits. Should be worn with one point up.
Porcupine Quills
Supposedly charms against the evil eye.
Sma
An amulet representing the shape of lungs. Was used by Egyptians to give breathing power to the dead by placing on their mummies.
Tassels
Tassels or Fringes, as used during the medieval ages and after have been used as protective devices, because they confuse and distract evil or negative entities

Personality Developement

5 Ways To Stay Focused On Your Goals No matter how excited you are about your business, with so many distractions and things that may be going on in your life, you can easily find yourself losing focus on your goals and what you want to accomplish. Below you will find 5 things that will help you stay focused on your goals.FINISH WHAT YOU STARTEDYou probably have heard the saying, "So many things to do and not enough time to do them." Even though that may be true, you still have to complete them all, especially if these things help you to reach your goals. To make it easier for you, just take 1 thing you have to do and complete that task until it is done. When it is done, you will feel a sense of accomplishment and it will motivate you to move on to your next task.ORGANIZE TO MAKE THINGS EASY AND SIMPLETake a moment to put things in order. If people write to you or send you orders in the mail, make 3 piles. Put the letters that need to be answered right away in the 1st pile. Letters that can be answered at a later date you can put in the 2nd pile and letters that have orders in them, you can put in the 3rd pile. Doing things like this in other areas of your life will help you keep things in priority and keep you focused on your goals.CHANGE THE WAY YOU LOOK AT THINGSIf you find yourself at times having a negative attitude, you must realize that the way you look at things can make all the difference when it comes to reaching your goals. Even when obstacles stand in your way, maintaining a positive attitude, not a negative one and knowing that things can and will get better, will help you stay on track in reaching your goals.UNDERSTAND GOALS WILL TAKE TIME TO REACHEverything in life, if it is worth it, will take time. This goes for the goals you set for yourself. When you set goals, you should set 2 types of goals. A short term goal such as 6 months and also a long range goal, such as 3 years. You must realize that you are not going to reach your long term goals in 2 weeks. Whatever your goals may be, only through hard work, determination and keeping yourself focused, this is the way you will eventually reach your goals.STUDY AND READ ARTICLES ON MOTIVATIONReading articles, books or even listening to cassette tapes on motivation is a must if you want to keep yourself focused on your goals. Many successful people will tell you that even when they wanted to give up and throw in the towel, a paragraph in a book or something a motivational speaker said put them back on the right track and helped them reach their goals. So if you want to stay focused on your goals, take these 5 points and put them into action today.Can You Hear Yourself Lead? --------------------------------------------------------------------------------Do you find days turning into weeks, which turn into years and suddenly you're not sure where it's all gone? Does it seem like your no longer navigating your own life but your life and your schedule are navigating you instead? Can you hear yourself lead? If this describes you, stop. Just stop. Stand still, be still, and let yourself remember what the silence feels like. So often in the world we call business, we go so fast we lose our ability to keep up when, in fact, keeping up is impossible. Simply put, if you're caught up, you're out of business. Business is the competitive pull and push that can kick our navigational system clean out of whack. To get back in control, you have to stop and listen.We are taught to listen to everyone else. That listening is the greater asset. However, we are never taught to listen to ourselves. Creativity dies in the face of too much noise. Without creativity everything in your life suffers, including your business. Sometimes the most important person to listen to is ..you. Yes, you have something to say but if you never stop to listen you won't ever get back to navigating again. So here's what you can do to put yourself back in the driver's seat :1. Start the day by emptying your emotions into a journal. Let all the emotional garbage out on paper. Now, don't read it. Ever. Too hard to do? Rip it up and throw it away. This is just a tool to get the frustrations processed and out of your life so you can move on. So you can hear yourself think again. Sometimes our lives get filled up with everyone else's chatter. This helps us empty that out. 2. Take 15 minutes out of the middle of your day and rest. Just stop everything. Go to a room; take off the phone, the fax, the instant messenger and the ringer on your email. Find a place where you won't be bothered and stop. Take ten deep breaths. Let your mind empty. Try to spend at least five minutes of the fifteen thinking of nothing. Don't laugh, it's really hard to do. Think of nothing. Empty your brain and give your soul a rest. 3. Walk. Walking doesn't just exercise your body, it relaxes your soul. Walk with a friend, or walk alone, but walk. This isn't about exercise, it's about letting your mind breath, outside, in the rain, in the sun, in the snow..in the fresh air. It works! 4. Okay, this is the most important. At the end of the day, spend another 15 minutes writing down all the advice that was given to you today. All those noteworthy, seemingly wise bits of advice that get hurled at us everyday. It doesn't matter where they came from, a book, a phone call, a radio station.. doesn't matter. If you can remember it write it down. Now read them all. Do any of them feel adverse to your own feelings and thoughts? Great, cross them out and forget them. Learn to trust that some things will work for you and some things won't. Once you have learned this principle you will find yourself getting back into the drivers seat of your own life again. Remember you're important too and you are the only one that lives the results and consequences of your own life. Be gentle with yourself and take the time to take the time. Suddenly hours will screech back to normal speed, life will feel worth the effort, and your goals will be realized again. CONFIDENCE --------------------------------------------------------------------------------Every day is a new day in our life. There is much to do today. The early morning sun inspires us to start things freshly and put back our past. Only a handful of us make use of this fresh bunch of energy. In various walks of life this affects the way we behave and our confidence level. Confidence is a key to survive in this world. It is the only key tool to win the rat race in every walk of life. Confidence in ones own capabilities combined with sincere efforts helps one to achieve unthinkable heights. But many times we see that this basic element of confidence is missing in us. As a result of lack of confidence we perform well below our caliber. Be it in a public speech, proposing your beloved, vivas in your college or in an interview or say even on the eve before your exams. This can be due to fear of being rejected or any other reason.If we look into our hearts and think, we will come to know that fear inside us is going to get us nowhere. The confidence inside us is going to take us places. This is because with confidence we can put our thoughts into words in a better and pleasing way. So we have to get out of that shell where we think whether people will accept us as we are? Instead of living in these unending moments of fear and thoughtless analysis it is better if we project ourselves with the skills we have with the gloss of confidence. With confidence we can portray the finer points of our personality in such a way that the places where we do lack are never highlighted. Confidence should glow in us only till the point where our personality is boosted. Above this it leads to over-confidence that is harmful. Over confidence results in unsatisfied performance levels as the seed of ego grows into a plant into our mind. We then imagine and make big talks just to maintain our ego. So guys don't let the seed of ego to germinate in your mind, as this seed should be used only for you to live up to your expectations. Confidence is all about being cool, calm and composed. So guys do u have it in you? If u think u don't, boost up yourselves as your mind is your greatest mentor .You are your greatest helper Different Strokes Of Our Duties --------------------------------------------------------------------------------Life teaches us to live. To live, you have to exist. To exist, you should have a passport to this living world. Thanks your parents, who brought you into this world.Parents have taken care of us and satisfied all our needs. They helped whenever we were hungry, afraid or ill. They were always there by you, whenever you needed them. You almost assumed that they will always be there for you and never thought of how your life would be without them. But as you grow up, age also catches up with your parents and they need your help and support. Man is a child first, after which he attains his youth. After youth he again goes through the second phase of childhood, also called as old age. This is the phase where everyone needs a comfort of a sense of belonging and being taken care of. Wouldn't we all expect the same sense of security when we grow old? Even our parents are expecting us to be their caretaker, as they grow old. But they never make that obvious to us. They do their further duty by taking care of their grandchildren, paying e-bills, giving the clothes for laundry etc. Isn't it unfair on our part that we aren't giving them what they need the most? It is our prime duty to take the very best care of them. It's our pay back time. Lets give the same sense of emotional security, care and love to our parents in their old age. Some of us mistreat our parents and consider them more of a liability than an asset. Some of us move away from them, though our conscience pricks us. We err in our duties for not being dutiful. This guilty feeling is further wrapped into a sense of regret, when we will be treated in the same way by our future generation. After all you only get what you deserve. Don't you?Let's keep in mind that to be a manager, husband or father, we first have to be a son. MOTIVATE YOURSELF --------------------------------------------------------------------------------One of the greatest virtues of human beings is their ability to think and act accordingly. The emergence of the techno savvy man from the tree swinging ape has really been a long journey. This transition has taken a span of countless centuries and lots of thinking caps have been involved. Inquisitiveness and aspiration to come out with the best have been the pillars for man's quest for development. Self-motivation is the sheer force, which pulled him apart and distinguished him from his primitive ancestors. Many times, in our life, when we are reviving old memories we get into a phase of nostalgia. We feel that we could have done better than what we had achieved. Be it thinking about that nerve shattering school result, because of which you couldn't get into your favorite stream or that single mark, which could have secured you a merit seat in your engineering college. But thinking back wont rewind the tireless worker called time. All we can do is promise ourselves that we will give our very best in the future. But do we really keep up to our mental commitments? I can guess that 90% answers are in the negative. This is because of that creepy careless attitude which is slowly, but surely entering into the mind of teenagers like us. We easily forget the pains of yesterday to relish the joys of today. This is the only time in our life, when we can control our fate, by controlling our mind. So it is time to pull up our socks and really motivate ourselves so that we can give our best shot in the future. Self-motivation is the need of the hour. Only we can control and restrict ourselves. Its upto us, how we use our mental capabilities to the best of our abilities. Here are some Funda's for self-motivation. Don't just read them digest each one of them and apply them and I bet it will make a better YOU. The ultimate motivator is defeat. Once you are defeated, you have nowhere to go except the top. Then only thing stopping you is yourself. There is no guarantee that tomorrow will come. So do it today. Intentions don't count, but action's do. Don't let who you are, stunt what you want to be. Success is the greatest motivator. Your goals must be clear, but the guidelines must be flexible.
Try to include these one liners in your scrapbook or on your favorite poster. You will be sub-consciously tuned to achieve what you want. Also do keep in mind that nothing can control your destiny but you! The Power Of Expressions --------------------------------------------------------------------------------Expressions are a way of giving some life to the thoughts and feelings inside us. When you cry, u express sadness and disappointment. When you catch a good joke, you laugh a lot and express the pleasure. Expressions are a part and parcel of every human being on this earth. Every person has the right to express himself. It is only through expressions that one can achieve a harmony between the physical exterior and the mental core. It is a way of giving life to your thoughts and feelings. But not everyone expresses freely. The main reasons are the barriers we have created within ourselves. We always think of what the world would think of us. Because of this we restrain ourselves from laughingly completely, tilting our head, or even scratching our ears! We try to be not what we are, but what we think will appeal to the world. Hardly do we realize that the world is just like us. It will be busy thinking of what we will think of it, rather than analyzing our actions. When one expresses one self freely, it's the ultimate satisfaction for the mind. This is because the physical hardware of the human body is faithfully supporting its mental software. The person then is always comfortable anywhere with anyone and at anytime! If one doesn't express properly, it wont make the sun rise in the west, but it will only lead to increased frustrations. When frustrations increase, efficiency decreases and a person starts blaming the world, god or anyone in general. Well to practically speak of expressions, once you start using them in your normal day to day life, u will get used to them. Also people around you will get used to your expressions. When the doyen of Indian film industry Mr. Amitabh Bachchan came into the movies, he had one eye smaller than the other. He however carried on without being self conscious about it and captured the heart of countless Indians dead and alive. Also Sylvester Stallone, who is the famous Mr. Big Muscles from Hollywood was actually having some mental problems in his childhood. Even now look at his eyes and you will get a rare glimpse. But then he came above all that and now you can all see how big he has become. If you are angry at some one, let him know. If you admire someone, let that person know. If you love someone, let her know, because life is too short to keep these things as secret. Express yourself and spice up your life. Watch Out Before You Speak --------------------------------------------------------------------------------Communication in any form is used for exchange of information. The links called words make communication work. Without words its difficult to imagine how we could have come so long in the history of human evolution. Word is not only a 4-letter thing, but it is something deeper than that. Whenever a word is uttered it is due to synchronization of lip movement and tongue movement. To get out that word from our mouth, a lot of thinking and analysis has been happening in our sub conscious mind. We don't realize it because all this happens in less than one millionth of a second. Most of the times we don't think over what we have uttered. Word is not only a link, but it initiates response from the listener. The word, which we have uttered, acts on every part of the listener's body. Like if u share a joke using a group of words, u make the listener to laugh. He may pound his hands and fist and then calm down. The very word which u have uttered has allowed him to flush his emotions out in the form of laughter or smile. If you talk about a tragic incident, the listener may close his eyes for a second and offer his condolences. Words uttered vibrate on the mind of the listener. It acts on his mind. Selection and thought prior to communication is very important. Sometimes we say things which we shouldn't have or we carelessly utter unwanted words (mind you I am not talking of abuses). These things may affect the other person emotionally and mentally. For us it would have been just a matter of second to wag our tongue, but for the listener it is going to be the only thing at the back of his mind. By using unwanted words or speaking more than necessary, we not only hurt someone, but we also add a spot of dust to our social image. Your future interaction with the person may be based on that single word. Using proper words while talking is just like selecting the items listed out by your mom from the supermarket. You select the best brand from the specific domain, where your item is found. So guys watch before you speak because the actions of the listener may be louder than your words!

Unconditional Love

'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' Jesus Christ; Matthew 22:37-39
Love is the law, love under will. Aleister Crowley; The Book of the Law
All you need is love, love. Love is all you need. John Lennon; song lyric
As the above suggest, love is certainly important to human-kind. Its importance is confirmed by returning no fewer than 1,480,000,000 hits for a search on "Love".
What is Love?
But what is really meant by "love", and in particular by "unconditional love"?
Love is what we feel (or maybe feel we ought to feel) for our child, partner, parents, family... But we also use the word to refer to things; "I love football, I love swimming..."
To love a thing simply means to like it very much. But to love a person is to value and care for that person as much as, if not more than, ourselves.
Love is something that cannot be kept to oneself. We need to give it in order to receive it. And despite the external appearance of some, at heart we all want to be loved.
Definition of Unconditional Love
Quite simply, unconditional love is love without conditions. It is love without requiring anything in return, love no matter what. A classic example might be the undying love of a mother for a wayward son regardless of what human sins he might commit.
But isn't all real love unconditional, for if it carries conditions - "I'll love you if you love me, if you pay the bills, if you blah blah blah..." - it isn't love, but emotional blackmail.
It's easy to love those closest to us. Easy to love that with which we are familiar. But true unconditional love places no conditions such as I'll love you because you're my partner, child, parent... It is love for every part of the material and Spiritual realm. Regardless for whether we may know that which we love, regardless for how that which we love may have behaved towards us in the past.
Again we quote that great Spiritual teacher Lord Jesus, who said: "But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. If someone strikes you on one cheek, turn to him the other also. If someone takes your cloak, do not stop him from taking your tunic. Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. Do to others as you would have them do to you. If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even 'sinners' love those who love them." (Luke 6:27-32).
In Spirit we are all part of one great whole. Upon the individuation of incarnation we lose that sense of belonging - paradise lost. It is hidden from us on our quest to re-discover our true nature through the lessons of experience that are life.
Unconditional love represents our true Spiritual goal. The love of all others regardless of race, religion or deeds. For by truly giving unconditional love we recognize that we are part of that great oneness that is Spirit. In loving another we really love ourselves.
If it is hard to love a stranger, how much harder is it to love those we perceive as sinning against us? A shining example is that of Mrs Gee Walker whose son Anthony was murdered in a racist attack in Liverpool, England. Despite his killers remaining unrepentant Mrs Walker said, "Unforgiveness makes you a victim and why should I be a victim? Anthony spent his life forgiving. His life stood for peace, love and forgiveness and I brought them up that way... I have to practice what I preach." Mrs Walker is one of very few Christians who actually practice the teachings of Lord Jesus, ie to love the sinner while hating their sins.

When two become one

You are no longer a couple, you are the one, you share one life and don’t divide it no longer in two. You don’t use the word “I” anymore, there’s only “We”. You belong to him and have no doubts that he belongs to you. So two become one...
When everything suddenly goes right, and all the problems seem so miserable that you don’t even have think now, since now you don’t have to worry about a thing at all.
When you are ready to give up all your life for him and you’re quite sure that he’ll never ask for that because he’s ready to do the same.
When you don’t have to talk to understand each other, and when one starts a phrase the other finishes it.
When you can talk about everything in the world and tell each other all the secrets you’ve ever had.
When it’s never better to sleep apart, but when you sleep in one bed it’s so difficult to fall asleep at all.
When you’re together you don’t let go each others hands not for a second.
When you start acting and thinking very similar, and suddenly find out that you both copy each other even in intonations.
When you look at the world around not only with yours but with his eyes at the same time, when you note around everything that could be interesting or useful for him.
When you tell one another the smallest impressions and can always count on total understanding.
When you see your future only with him and see no future without him.
When suddenly and fully understand the meaning of the word “family”.
When you’d rather stay alone than go anywhere without him but nobody doesn’t expect you to come alone anywhere at all.
When every moment is the right moment to call him, and when you feel when he’s is going to call you.
When you look at him the color of your eyes changes and in your turn you are sure that he won’t every look at anybody with those eyes he’s looking at you.
When you are apart the letters from each other come just on time, when you most expect them to come.
When you both have one past, share the same memories and built together the plans for future, when you are rewriting all the plans you had before he came so they could suit him too.
When you learn all his weak points to avoid pressing on them.
When you are beside him you never and nowhere feel out of place.
When you want to go around the world together and at the same time settle down somewhere, build a house, grow a garden and bring up kids together. And you will be making that house a home, keeping it warm, clean, nice so that he would always feel comfortable there.
When you want to take care of him all the times and always feel that care from his side.
When you want to support and help him and do everything, even impossible only to keep him happy.
When you both start doing things you’ve never done before and when you quit doing some things that you’ve been used to.
When you can let yourself be weak.
When you stop looking at the other man at all.
When you both become better day after day because you want to be the best for each other.
When everything you’re doing is right seems to him and when everything he’s doing seems right to you.
When you want every single day to last forever.
When you are never alone.
How can one make this fairytale last forever? Is it possible at all? How not to loose such a great love, not to let it efface itself among the worries of everyday life? These are the questions on which one should work for all his/her life.