"Think Right , Live Well"

"7 Deadly Sins We Need To Avoid"

Pride is excessive belief in one's own abilities, that interferes with the individual's recognition of the grace of God. It has been called the sin from which all others arise. Pride is also known as Vanity.

Envy is the desire for others' traits, status, abilities, or situation.

Gluttony is an inordinate desire to consume more than that which one requires.

Lust is an inordinate craving for the pleasures of the body.

Anger is manifested in the individual who spurns love and opts instead for fury. It is also known as Wrath.

Greed is the desire for material wealth or gain, ignoring the realm of the spiritual. It is also called Avarice or Covetousness.

Sloth is the avoidance of physical or spiritual work.

The table below lists The Seven Deadly Sins (vices) in the traditional order with the virtues against which they are sins.

The history of this list goes back at least to Pope St. Gregory the Great and St. John Cassian, but while the list itself is not strictly biblical, the Bible proscribes all seven. If one or more of these doesn't seem like a big sin to you, it almost certainly means you have already rationalized it. Work on that one first. By the way, there is no set list of Virtues corresponding to these.

Vice	Virtue against which it sins	Brief description
Pride (1)	Humility	Seeing ourselves as we are and not comparing ourselves to others is humility. Pride and vanity are competitive. If someone else's pride really bothers you, you have a lot of pride.
Avarice/Greed (5)	Generosity	This is about more than money. Generosity means letting others get the credit or praise. It is giving without having expectations of the other person. Greed wants to get its "fair share" or a bit more.
Envy (2)	Love	"Love is patient, love is kind…" Love actively seeks the good of others for their sake. Envy resents the good others receive or even might receive. Envy is almost indistinguishable from pride at times.
Wrath/Anger (3)	Kindness	Kindness means taking the tender approach, with patience and compassion. Anger is often our first reaction to the problems of others. Impatience with the faults of others is related to this.
Lust (7)	Self control	Self control and self mastery prevent pleasure from killing the soul by suffocation. Legitimate pleasures are controlled in the same way an athlete's muscles are: for maximum efficiency without damage. Lust is the self-destructive drive for pleasure out of proportion to its worth. Sex, power, or image can be used well, but they tend to go out of control.
Gluttony (6)	Faith and Temperance	Temperance accepts the natural limits of pleasures and preserves this natural balance. This does not pertain only to food, but to entertainment and other legitimate goods, and even the company of others.
Sloth (4)	Zeal	Zeal is the energetic response of the heart to God's commands. The other sins work together to deaden the spiritual senses so we first become slow to respond to God and then drift completely into the sleep of complacency.

Origins

The Seven Deadly Sins never occur as a formal list in the Bible. Some people say they can all be found in Matthew's Gospel (chapters 5 through 7), but they are not in a simple list there. Others submit Proverbs 6:16-19, but this is a different list, covering pride, lies, murder, evil plans, swiftness in sin, lies again, causing conflict. Clearly not the same.

These sins were identified as a group around the same time as the Bible was being translated into a single language. Rather than these sins being identified in a single place in the Bible, they are found all through it, from Genesis to Revelation. The letters of the New Testament mention all of these, and many others as well. The Catechism has many Scriptural references in the section that lists the "Seven Deadly Sins." It is well to remember that the Scriptures come from the Jewish and Christian Churches, not the other way around. In both cases, faith preceded the writing.

How To Know If He's The One For You

The Right One

Marriage and commitment is about love, but it's also about compatibility. Two people can be deeply in love with one another, but their marriage will still fail miserably. The sad truth is that sometimes love is not enough. There comes a time when you ask yourself the ultimate question: Is he the one?

Why it's important to ask yourself this question?

The dismal statistics state that over 33% of marriages end up in divorce and there is a 50% infidelity rate among couples. Why is this happening? All these couples used to be in love, otherwise they wouldn't have gotten married. That's why you have to ask yourself this question. If you don't want to get married only to wake up years later and realize that you married the wrong man, you have to know that he's the right one for you. Otherwise, you may have a few years of love and happiness, but you're likely to see those years end in a bitter and expensive divorce.

Why are so many couples drifting apart?

The main thing that couples fail to do is ask each other the right questions before rushing into a commitment. I'm not talking about superficial questions such as how many brothers and sisters your man has or where was he born, but deep and penetrating questions. Most women wait until they are married to find out what their man thinks about the important issue in life such as:

* Religion
* The way to bring up children
* Whether or not he even wants children
* Does he believe in marriage
* How he handles money
* What are his long term goals

And many more important issues. It is the difference of opinion in these issues which causes couples to break up.

You wondering how to know if he is the one for you? Ask the right questions on the important issues and you'll find out.

Why Some Men Fear To Commit

Understanding a Man's Fear of Commitment

Every relationship has a romantic beginning-two people meet, start dating, and fall in love. They become each other's appendage, doing nearly everything jointly. As they grow closer together, so the relationship deepens, and reaches a plateau. This is the time when most couples evaluate how committed they are and make decisions as to which direction the relationship should go. For some, this critical point results in an even stronger relationship; for others, however, it signals the end. Commitment issues have blighted even the most stable of relationships, and while women have been known to suffer cold feet, men are more notorious for buckling under the commitment pressure.

Most men, though professing love for their partners, refuse to take relationships to the next level, even if it means hurting-and losing-their loved ones in the process. These men are known as commitment phobes-men who can't or won't commit. What are the reasons for this paralyzing fear of commitment? Why does a commitment phobe behave the way he does? To find the answers, we need to look at his past and how it has shaped his view of relationships. A child who grew up in an insecure family environment is likely to grow up wary of commitment. He might have witnessed the unhealthy state of his parents' marriage, which planted the seeds of doubt on the veracity of any relationship in his young mind.

Parental divorce would have rooted the doubts firmly, and the fear of ending up like his parents would have slowly taken place. An abused child is also prone to commitment phobia as an adult. Child abuse is usually perpetrated by those with whom the child has implicit trust such as a mother or a babysitter. If that trust has been breached in childhood, a child may grow up vowing never to have faith in a woman again. A man who has been in destructive relationships can develop commitment phobia even without the underpinning history. Someone who has just gotten out of a bad relationship or is undergoing a divorce is understandably cautious of jumping into any kind of romantic obligation.

This kind of commitment phobia, however, has more chances of resolving itself than the one deeply-entrenched in childhood. Another plausible reason for fear of commitment is one's perception of it. The term carries several unsavory connotations such as loss of freedom, loss of "manly space", and forfeit of sexual diversity. The thoughts of not being able to go out when and where he wants to, losing the space where he stores his junk, and having sex with the same woman for the rest of his life are enough to make some men quake in commitment-fear. A more practical reason involves financial stability.

It is a known fact that divorce rates worldwide are on the increase and men, especially those who have much to lose financially, are justifiably worried that the women they are romancing today could end up romancing away their hard-earned assets. Evidently, commitment phobia is a complex emotional disorder. It's not that men won't commit, it's that some of them just can't. The interplay of childhood trauma, relationship experiences, and preconceived ideas all influence a man's view of "settling down". Understanding what compels his fear of commitment is the first step towards ensuring that the relationship plateau becomes the starting point of another journey in the relationship, and not the end.

Does He Think You Could Be His Wife?

Understanding Men

Back up. You're with your boyfriend but that doesn't mean he's thinking about a long-term commitment with you.

A man can have the most amazing experiences with a woman and still not commit to her in a way she wants. Men take their time when it comes to giving up their freedom.

I don't want to insult your intelligence, you have most likely gone through relationships with men and wonder about how strange they could be when it comes to relationships.

Like when they say they'll call..and don't.

Like when they sleep with you and don't call.

Like when they hang out with you, treat you like their girlfriend but still don't commit to you.

Like when they expect you to move in with them, act like a wife and not give you a ring.

Strange creatures.

And sometimes you gotta just leave them alone to figure out who they are and what they want.

If you've been seeing your man for a while and he hasn't brought up the idea of commitment, take a hike from him and disappear.

The less you are around, the more he'll think about you - that is if you meant anything to him at all.

Men who want commitment are consistent in their approach. They will want to be around you, make the time, do what they say they'll do and go the extra mile.

That kind of man is worthy of your attention, anything else and you've got an emotionally unavailable boy who just wants to have his cake and eat it too.

Why Your Boyfriend Won't Marry You

Will He Marry You?

Your boyfriend wont marry you if you're not the kind of woman who burns such a deep image on his brain of being so unforgettable that he can't live without you.

Yes, that is how he wants to feel.

He wants to feel an intense desire for you, not just for sex. Sex alone will not make him commit and if you're trying to bring him to commitment through the physical, you've got it all wrong.

He'll only commit when his soul is on fire. This is when he feels beyond a shadow of doubt that you've so captivated him and has become more than his idea of a dream woman.

He'll only marry you if he has grown enough love in his heart for you that he decides that he could never go back. This feeling will make him give up his single status because he'll want to feel this way all of the time with you.

He wont marry you if he doesn't feel a deep soulful connection to you, one that he's never felt before and can't forget. If you can't stir him up so that he's hot on fire in his entire body and soul, he wont commit for the long haul.

So you have to look at whether you are leading your boyfriend into a commitment or away from it. If you are not the kind of woman who already possess the image of his dream girl in your heart that you can translate to his heart, you won't get a commitment and no amount of begging, pleading, sex, or mama treatment will change his mind.

Loving Someone So Much

DO YOU LOVE SOMEONE THIS MUCH?

I got this fantastic story form friend's forwarding mail.
I am pleased to share to read it.

A girl and guy were speeding over 100 mph on the road on a motorcycle...

Girl: Slow down. I'm scared.
Guy: No this is fun.
Girl: No its not. Please, its too scary!
Guy: Then tell me you love me.
Girl: Fine, I love you. Slow down!
Guy: Now give me a BIG hug.
Girl hugs him
Guy: Can you take my helmet off & put it on yourself? Its bugging me.

In the paper the next day :( A motorcycle had crashed into a building
because of brake failure. Two people were on it, but only one had
survived.

The truth was that halfway down the road, the guy realized that his
brakes broke, but he didn't want to let the girl know. Instead, he
had her say she loved him & felt her hug him one last time, then had
her wear his helmet so that she would live even though it meant that
he would die.

DO YOU LOVE SOMEONE THIS MUCH?

I do love someone before , this much that i could die for him but sad to say all was a lie...just need to walk away from this dream that is meant to be just a so called DREAM........

"Think Creatively"

Creative Thinking

Creative thinking refers to the ability of solving problems using new ways and finding different methods of accomplishing your daily tasks . Creative thinking can also lead to new insights and to new visions
which will result in achieving your goals and gaining success.

I Am Not Creative

Lots of people may think that being creative is related to genes or that creative people are gifted, but the truth is, we are all creative. Have you ever noticed a child playing? a child can almost invent a new game out of any object he finds. I am sure that as a child you used to do the same, so if you think that you are not creative , then something must have happened to you along the way. This is what we call routine.

Routine and creativity

As children, we were all creative, but the infinite instructions we recieved from o

ur parents and the restrictions that were imposed on us in our schools helped in diminishing our creativity.

“Hey, you should not touch this, its hazardous”
“Where is your tie? You cant go to school without it”
“Don’t play there or your hands will become dirty”
“You will work from 9 to 5, everyday, and if you are late for five minutes then better not come”

Moreover, systematic jobs that require you to do the same exact tasks everyday, eat out creativity. Strict time tables, like having a day scheduled on hourly basis, will do the same to your creativity. Working in closed areas, or having a desk job will reduce your creativity too. These restrictions over time will transform you into a single minded person ,So no wonder why are not as creative as you used to be.

How to Become Creative

You are probably now saying to yourself that its impossible to avoid all of these restrictions. In order to restore your lost creativity you don’t have to avoid routine but you have to have some free time every now and then. For example, you should have one day per week free of any kind of restrictions , don’t put any plans for that day and just let it flow smoothly.

The other thing is, spending time in open spaces can help you become more creative. Why not spend one day per week at the sea side? Pay visits to natural sights every now and then? This will definitely help you in restoring your creativity .

While working you should take a break and unplug your mind completely for a few minutes . Some people spend allot of free time alone, but they never stop thinking about work!! Some people even take work with them to bed, they just can’t stop thinking about what they are going to do tomorrow, a

nd the result is the deterioration of their creative abilities.

Left brain and right Brain

Your brain is divided into two main hemispheres, the left hemisphere and the right hemisphere. The former is responsible for logic and reasoning, the latter is responsible for intuition and creativity. One of the best things you can do to enhance your creativity is to train both hemispheres to work together. Some people focus on accomplishing tasks that train only their left brains , so they end up with no creative abilities. For information on how to use both hemispheres together check out this article.

Creative Thinking

If you want to think of a creative solution for a problem then you out into consideration the following points:

1-There is no exact solution to a problem, but there is definitely more than one solution to it .
2-False beliefs can limit creativity, for example if you are convinced that you will never find a solution to your problem,then you will never find one.
3-Never put restrictions on your thoughts, even if a solution seems silly or unacceptable just imagine that you have implemented it, this could lead you to a third solution that is both acceptable and feasible
4-Break out of the routine, at least while thinking for the solution
5-Brainstorming can be very helpful; two unacceptable ideas from your friends can lead you to a third acceptable idea.
6- every now and then do something that you have never done before
7- try to have some free time every now and then
8- sit with creative people,try and see how creative you in comparison to those people.