Faith Is Our Light

A Faithful Heart

God measures your success not just by results but by the Faithfulness of your Spirit.

The worries of this life, the temptation of wealth, and many other evil desires keep the teaching from growing and producing fruit in their lives.

Would you consider someone highly successful who was conceived out of wedlock?
Who was born into a poor family? Who lost his father at an early age? Who was looked down on because of his race? Who was a simple manual laborer? Who was from a small town that was barely a dot on the map? who was scorned by the religious and political leaders of his day? Who was arrested and imprisoned? Who was executed as a criminal?

Jesus, from an obscure country and city at the edge of the greatest kingdom in the world of its day, was all those things--and yet He changed the world.

Jesus set aside all the trappings of worldly success in order to bring glory to His Heavenly Father (John 10:17).

He even warns His followers that loving Him may result in persecusion (Matthew 10:17), loss of family,and even death (Luke 21:16)

But He also assures us that there is no greater reward than doing the will of the Father in heaven (Matthew 16:27).If you are discourage with some of the results of your lablor, remember that God spells success differently than the rest of the world.

He spells it F-A-I-T-H-F-U-L-N-E-S-S.There's nothing wrong with experiencing the kind of success that the world recognizes. Paul says, "In all the work you are doing, work the best you can"(Collossians:323). That will lead to accomplishments.But if the choice before you is the applause of the people whom you call as FRIENDS, than the applause of heaven, and your loveones, only one reward is worth pursuing.

I personally tried to please everybody in everyway. I am not trying to do what is only good for me and my spirit, but what is good for most people I've met in real life and through the net.

To share something greatly changed them to be a better person is what matter most eventhough to some people look at it negatively.

Don't worry if happens... someone in your life despised, and accusing you for doing something you never did. **** That will test how strong your love, trust, and faithfulness. Working harder to prove your innocence is an indications of authenticity as person.

Don't work too hard if all your motives may results pain, sadness, and regrets, that will disbanned from your loveones. PROMISES:

God will...

...make great those who serve willingly...bless those who work hard for the welfare of his family,friends, and the needy....bless those who commit their work to him. ....NEVER BLESS THOSE WHO LOVE AND WORKED HARD FOR ANYONE'S MOTIVES TO HARM SOMEONE.

[ He even warns His followers that loving Him may result in persecusion (Matthew 10:17), loss of family,and even death (Luke 21:16)]


FRIENDS WE NEVER KNOW, BELIEVE ME, WHEN WE HAVE SUCCEEDED BEST.

"LEARN TO TRUST AGAIN"

"I believe that the most important 'key' to a successful relationship would have to be 'trust'. I believe that with trust, love will follow. However, what I have noticed is that many people think trust, or expect that trust is to be earned by the other person, when in all actuality it is something that comes from within yourself. All too many times people will say they don't trust due to past experiences. What they don't realize is that they have built up those proverbial walls to protect them from the very thing they are searching for... yes, there is a risk in trusting someone, but when you finally find that 'right' person, it makes all the past experiences and lessons learned very much worth the risk. All of life's little lessons do not have to be painful... even when they seem so at the time. You just have to chalk it up to experience and move on.Nothing is worth closing your heart. Nothing is worth living in a world of fearing what bad 'may' come to you. Without trust, you close your heart to the happiness and joy that true love brings. It's only my experience... and it's what I believe has given me the wonderful gift of 'true' love. It's a hard thing to do, a scary thing, but very much worth it. This is not to go without saying that some people may betray your trust... that's the risk... but why allow past betrayals to prolong the pain by building a fortress around your heart that not only protects you from pain/betrayal, but also denies you the ability to experience happiness and joy? Most have been hurt enough by one person, why allow them and their actions to stop us from finding what we search for? I say open your hearts to trust and bask in the beauty, happiness, and joy, of the true love that will follow. For everyone there is a someone, you just can't find them if you hide away all your life..."

What is love?

"Love is a funny thing". You expect it to be easy. You expect it to be a world of roses and laughs and perfect moments that you find only in movies. You expect him to always say the right thing, and always know exactly how you feel, or exactly how to react to it. You expect him to calm you down when you're yelling or to chase you when you run away. You expect so much that you feel entirely and utterly defeated when something doesn't exactly match up with all your plans. But that's the thing, love isn't a plan. It doesn't have a certain beginning and it certainly has no end or visible finish line to those deeply in it.

"Love happens; and it is so incredibly messy". People around you can't comprehend why you do the things you do, or why you fight so hard for something that seems to cause you so much pain, because simply, they can't see. They can't see the invisible ring of insanity that surrounds you when you're in love. It's inconvenient and painful and devastating at times, but we can't live without it. We can't breathe the same way or function quite right without it. See, that's the thing about love. You hold it up to all these images you've learned to attach to the word 'love' since you were little.

"We learn so many things about love before we are even capable of falling". Don't rush in, keep steady, prince charming will fix everything. What you don't learn is how hard love is. How much work it takes. How much of ourselves we have to put into it. How it isn't worth it until we are complete and utter idiots about it. Don't rush in? I practically dove with my eyes closed; fully aware that I had drowned before. "Love is a battlefield", never really made sense because it is contrary to everything we have been taught to believe how 'love' is supposed to be. But it is so entirely different. Love isn't him calming you down when you yell. It's him yelling, just as loud, just as hard, right back at you, and right in your face to wake you up and to keep you grounded. It isn't him bringing you roses everyday or pretty things that make your relationship appear more presentable. It's after a long fight, that drains the life and bones right out of you both, and yet him showing up at your door the next morning anyway. It's not him saying all the right things or knowing exactly how to handle you.

"We are human beings". We don't handle one another, and we can't be handled. We are mutable creatures that need something different everyday. Need something more or less to keep us going, to keep us believing that it's not all for nothing. So no, it's not him caressing your hair and telling you everything is going to be all right. It's him standing there, admitting he's just as scared as you are. You have to remember that with love, you're not the only one involved.
You've unknowingly put your life, your heart into the palms of another persons hands and said, here, do what you will. Mash it into mince meat, or forget I ever handed it to you. As long as you have it, that's the thing about love.

"It makes us crazy". It makes reality invisible and it erases all the lines that we shouldn't cross. Because love isn't about fencing ourselves in; feeling safe, feeling sure about the future. It's about scaring the life out of every nerve in our body, but pushing forward anyway. Because all the fighting, the tears, and uncertainty is worth it. And it's a hell of a lot better, than being one hundred percent happy without someone to show us that there is a world of a difference between feeling 'happy' and feeling whole.

Once betrayed friendship can't be regained

"FRIENDSHIP IS LIKE A CRYSTALLINE GLASS THAT SHOULD BE TAKEN CARE OF,BECAUSE ONCE BROKEN IT CAN NEVER BE RESTORED NO MATTER HOW WE TRY TO PUT BACK THE PIECES,WE MAY FIXED IT BUT WE CANNOT BRING BACK IT'S TRUE BEAUTY."

It is priceless, it is a treasure, it is a gift.

The value of true friendship is infinite and priceless. Nothing can compare or ever replace the genuine, caring connection between two people who not only understand, but want only the very best of all things in life for the other. It is a gift, it is a treasure.
A deep sustaining, timeless friendship is rare and at times can feel difficult to find, maintain, or believe in. But, the more that you believe in yourself, the more love you can give to yourself, the more genuine connections you will be able to attract, manifest, and hold onto.



SHATTERED, furious, resentful, heartbroken, numb, humiliated, rejected, hurt, and NOT SAFE – these are just some of the feelings we experience when we’ve been betrayed.

Unfortunately, betrayals appear to be on the rise. It helps to know that we are not alone as broken trust is a universal experience. The human need to belong and be part of a relationship makes us open and therefore vulnerable to these painful emotions.

Help

The Heal from Betrayal website offers a fresh approach for dealing with emotional injury. This site is oriented to self care with the ideas/suggestions provided freely to anyone who is open-minded and looking for relief.

An act of betrayal can hurt as much as, if not more than, a physical injury, but the trauma resides not in the body but in the mental/emotional/spiritual realm – our subtle energy fields. If we think of betrayal as a wound to the energy system, it follows that to heal; we must acknowledge and work with this same energy system. The Techniques page on this website offers energy healing suggestions to help with this inner work.

As an added benefit, once the betrayed has regained peace of mind and heart, healthy decisions can be made about the damaged relationship (s); forgiveness becomes a possibility.

What is betrayal?

Many people hear the word, "betrayal", and think of infidelity, yet the experience is actually much broader. Yes, the hurt feelings can result from a love betrayal, but the same symptoms can also be triggered by an unfaithful coworker or boss; betrayal in a friendship; disloyalty from a workplace, community, even country; the earth appearing to turn on us; or what is sometimes described as the ultimate betrayal - a loss of trust or faith in our relationship with “something bigger, something spiritual”. Regardless of the source, the emotional distress is often severe.

A friend knowingly breaks a confidence that causes hurt and loss of reputation; this is betrayal. A spouse professes love and loyalty while involved in an emotional affair outside the marriage; this is betrayal. A boss or organization pretends to be honest and fair while manipulating employees to exploit their talents; this is betrayal.

What do these examples of broken trust have in common?
· Personal and/or cultural expectations (understood by the betrayed as “The Truth”) are present.
· Based on these expectations, whole-hearted loyalty is given to another.
· "The Truth" is shattered; often due to someone making choices despite potential, major damage to the relationship.
· Shock and intense hurt feelings inevitably result.
These types of challenging, and often bitter, betrayals are the focus for healing at this website.The betrayed assumed something to be true (actually needed to believe for emotional safety), then discovered the core belief was false. I think this collapse of a belief structure does something to the human energy state.

When trust is lost, take these steps to find it again

We've all done things we've been ashamed of, but the most humbling part is getting caught. Can we ever regain lost respect? Will we ever win back the graces of those we've disappointed, abandoned, or wronged?

The answer is maybe.

There are two elements to trust. One is being trusting--having the ability to trust others. The other is being trustworthy--measuring up to others' belief in you. If you wrong someone who has trust issues, you verify that what the person believes is true. You reinforce the person's outlook on relationships and make the person even more wary. But if you harm someone who has given you his trust, the damage can be even worse. The person will not only have lost his faith in you, but also his ability to trust in the future.

Let's take a look at trust lost and trust found. Imagine that you've done something so bad that you've lost the faith someone had in you. The breach could be a lie, an undercut, or a betrayal. Here's what could help you regain--over time--the trust you lost.

* Fess up. If you're caught, you're caught. Another lie will only dig you in deeper and make the situation worse.

* Apologize. Let the person know how truly sorry you are for what you did. Ask for their forgiveness, knowing that it may be withheld while the wound is fresh.

* Explain why you did it, if you can. Maybe you gave up a confidence to get a laugh or used it to put you in a position of someone with insider information. Try to lay out your position so the other person can see where you were coming from. If they can understand your reasoning, they're more likely to put it behind them.

* Remind the person that this lapse in character isn't you. You've been loyal and supportive in the past. It was an aberration. If this isn't the case, you're in big trouble. A person with a reputation of untrustworthiness may as well pack up their bags and leave to start anew. The chances of regaining trust when you're habitually lax in good judgment are slim ... as they should be. You need some real character work that we won't get into now.

* Offer to remedy the situation if you can. That might mean going back and retracting what you said to the people you said it to or writing a letter of apology and setting the matter straight. You might not be able to undo the breach of trust, but at least you may undo the harm it caused to the injured party. If you have to fall on your sword, do it.

* If you're getting nowhere with the person you wronged, ask for a mediator. See if someone outside the situation can soothe matters and suggest ways to rebuild the relationship. Like any professional counseling, it might not always work, but it will help you both view the situation with new eyes.

* Agree on your goals. You may agree that you'll put aside this conflict and work together to get the job done. You may decide that the relationship is more important than the event and move ahead cautiously, taking it a day at a time.

* Decide on consequences. If the other person can have some retribution, he may feel that the scales have been balanced. You could offer an apology at a group meeting or retract your statement via e-mail. Help the other person save face, even if you have to redden your own.

* Know that you'll be living under heavy scrutiny for awhile. You'll have to walk the line and possibly bear retaliatory remarks or attacks, at least for awhile. Hopefully, your new meritorious behavior will shorten this period.

* Go out of your way to show that you've reformed. Your attempts at winning the other person's good graces may be rejected at first, but you're likely to win him over with sincerity.

* Analyze why you did what you did, and learn from the experience so it will never happen again.

* Forgive yourself when you've done all you can to right the situation.
If you feel that, ultimately, the relationship is irretrievably broken, leave. You've done all you can do. Start anew, and put the experience behind you.

We all do things we're ashamed of. Many times, the shame comes from being unmasked for what we've done. Admit, atone, address, and advance. With time and good behavior, you can regain lost trust.