Tips to Create a New Wardrobe Without Spending Much

Three Tips to Create a New Wardrobe Without Spending a Dime of Your Own Money

If you check the newspapers, it seems that clothing sales were down during the past holiday season. Retailers are trying to figure out how to market new clothing, shoes and accessories without deep discounts. I say, ignore the retailers, at least for now, and create your own new wardrobe without spending a dime out of pocket.

Tip Number 1: Clean out your closet. This may seem not only a daunting task, but you may be saying so what? How does cleaning out my closet help me get a new wardrobe without spending a dime of my own money? Patience, patience.

Cleaning out your closet will not only provide you with new outfits, but also more money. Bear with me here. Clothes you choose not to wear have energy attached to them, energy of the past. So, let's get moving!

Day One: remove all your shoes, purses, belts and scarves from your closets. Have two large plastic bags available. Check out each pair of shoes. If you like them, wear them often and they are in great shape, keep them. If you do not wear them and they are in great shape, put them in the Consignment bag. Place the other shoes in the Good Will bag. Keep great black, taupe and brown shoes; also keep great boots, both high (knee) and low (ankle) cut. Any doubts about a shoe, purse or belt, throw it out! Place in one bag or the other, but get rid of it.

If you are saving those 5-inch heels to wear to some special occasion, just to let you know, you will never wear them if you have to walk upright. Get rid of them. Note how you feel at the end of the day. Tired probably, maybe emotionally drained. Just notice what's going on with you.
Day Two: You may need a friend to help you be a little wrathful. This is the day for tops - blouses, sweater, tanks, (not suits - keep them together) and anything else in your closet that you would wear above the waist. Follow the same procedure as in Day One, i.e., two plastic bags, one labeled Consignment, the other Good Will or any charity of your choice. If you have an Image For Success office nearby, contact them as well.

If the top does not fit, get rid of it right now. Stay in the moment with everything you try on. If it does not fit this minute, dump it. Let someone else enjoy it. If it looks like the 70s, 80s or 90s, get rid of it. If the style is not age appropriate, get rid of it. Remember, we only wear about twenty percent of our clothing anyway.

Whew! That was hard work and acknowledge yourself regarding this state of being. Don't cry when you look at the bags and your closet. Remember, we have a goal in mind and that is to create a new wardrobe without spending a dime out of your pocket.

Day Three: A toughy. Time to try on anything below the waist - pants, jeans, skirts and any other article of clothing you have been wearing that passes for a skirt or pant. Maybe a sarong or two? You would be amazed at the type of fabric women pass off as clothing. If the pants are too short, too tight, too loose, have pockets, pleats or waistbands, get rid of them. If your skirts are too long, say over the calf, or too short, say above the knee, get rid of them. Remember to stay in the moment and keep what you would wear today, right now, out in the world.

Day Four: This is the day for coats, outerwear and suits. As stated prior, suits that do not fit, top and bottom, get rid of them. If the jacket is useful, keep what works and get rid of the other piece. As to coats and other outwear, try them on and make sure they fit. Body's change and what fit last year may not fit this year. Remember, dress in the moment.
You are probably, or should be, very tired right now. But wait! Now we are onto the creative part.

Of the remaining keepers in your closet, place everything on your bed, tops and bottoms for now. Look at shapes, colors, styles and mix and match to create new outfits with a good friend by your side to help you. You will be surprised at how that old thing from the back of the closet that fits you so well looks on you now. Try on new outfits complete with shoes to see what you will now be wearing. At no financial cost, you now have a new wardrobe. If you want to deal with your emotions regarding this process, keep a journal.

Tip Number Two: Time to make money. Take the Consignment bags to the best store that is in alignment with your style. Research may be involved here. I recently moved to a new location and went through two stores before I discovered the one that worked best with my clothes and the owner was willing to work with me on prices. The basis of consignment is that you bring in a gently used article of clothing, tell the owner what you paid for it and they will sell it from 30-50 per cent of original retail; maybe less, maybe more. It depends on the market, time of year and the store's owner. If an item does not sell within thirty days, the owner may reduce the item by fifty per cent. By the way, those Good Will bags? Take them, get a receipt and you can claim them as a deduction on your income tax returns. Talk to your accountant about this. Money and resources everywhere.

So what's in it for you? You get about 40-50 percent of the final sales price. You now have cash in your pocket. If you choose to add items to your wardrobe, purchase them at this same consignment shop! No out of pocket expenses in buying retail ever again. Another word; every type of person brings in their clothes to sell on consignment. How do you think the rich get rich? By paying retail? Please.

Tip Number Three: Find that dramatic, bold piece. We have yet to touch on your jewelry. First, go through it and find some super piece that you love, is maybe a little dramatic, and you would wear everyday. Choose this and start doing it now. If you do not have single piece of jewelry that inspires you, use this same consignment money to purchase it at the store. Wearing the same thing everyday is not bad thing. When I saw the Sex and the City Movie, Sara Jessica Parker's character, Carrie Bradshaw, wore the same belt with over five different outfits of varying styles. It worked for her and it will work for you.

For now, ignore the high retail prices, throwaway clothing and ugly, dated styles in the store. Find your own new wardrobe right in your own closet and make money, buy new-to-you apparel without spending a dime of your own money.

The Perfect Hairstyle That Fits Your Face

Tired of being always with the same hairstyles? It's time to change your image. Before you go to experiment, make sure which hairstyles fit best with your face shape. The hair is a linchpin for the female image.



Hairstyles say a lot about the personality of the women. The celebrities know that and carefully choose the best professionals to define their look. You can do the same. Find out what your traits are and choose your new look.

Square Face The characteristic of this face type is the wide jaw. The best option is a long open bang to divert the attention. Best are hairstyles with volume, not very long. The volume is your friend. Comb your hair loose, forget the super smooth hairstyles and never collect the hair completely.

Oval Face You are lucky because every hairstyles suit you. Experiment and change your look. Curly, smooth, very short hairstyles or super long, everything goes.

Face in the form of hazelnut You have a marked chin and the lower part of your face is slender then the front. In this case it is ideal for you to choose a haircut with much volume to the chin, to widen the base of the face. You can try without fear layered medium hairstyles to achieve a multiple layers to give freedom and movement to your haircut. If your face is long, you must give volume to the hair. In addition, you can round up more your face with a bang.

Triangular Face The best thing for you is to wear a very heavy bang. Ensure that the strength of your haircut focus on the top of your face and cheeks are much more highlighted. Dare with a very short hair and nothing structured. You'll get a freshness and a very modern touch. If the short hair is not your choice, don't worry, take a long hairstyle but always with great volume.

Rectangular Face You need a lot of volume and movement at the top of your head. This powers your cheekbones and shortens the length of your face. Try not to wear very long hair. You have to choose a hairstyle that stylize your face. Try loose hairstyles with movement.

Round Face If you want to refine your factions lead your hair below the shoulders and very smooth, slight layered. The volume must be concentrated in the middle of the face and the sides should be flat. Although the bang is fashionable, you have to forget it!

Make a decision to be happy, learn how in less than 1 minute

Being happy is simple. Here is how with one page.

People always ask me why I am so happy and easy going. Its simple, very very simple. Take control of your life. You decide what it takes to make you happy then make decisions to get there. You decide what you will and won't allow in your life then you dictate just that.

Tell the truth and surround yourself with people that are ok with that. You can't imagine how much of a burden lies are in your life. Just one more thing keeping you from true happiness.

If there are people in your life who cant accept the truth, do not defend your words and actions to make them believe you. Let them choose if they want to believe you or not, them believing you is not your problem. In my last relationship I spent so much energy trying to get her to see that I am an open book that it turned me into a person I didn't like.

I was continually trying to make her see that I am a genuine person without motives. Its amazing how much bending on what you know is right for you does to your life. I'll never do it again.

Decide what is right for you and your life and stick with it. How people react or accept that should not factor into your decisions of what is right or wrong. This can be hard, but being easy or hard doesn't factor into right/wrong.

Those are two completely separate things, don't confuse them. If its right then do it, no matter how hard it is. Trust me, once you do this enough and see the results it becomes very easy. Its all about confidence.

Embrace confrontation. However, you can't truly embrace confrontation until you are confident in what you believe. Once you are confident in yourself and your thoughts, confrontation actually becomes very easy.

Never get personal with confrontation, just state the facts. Amy, I don't like when you say and do xyz. Now its up to her, not you, to decide if she wants to stay in your life. That's why my life is easy. I make the rules for my life, you can either follow them or not be in it. Its that simple.

Once you are confident in what is right for you, set boundaries to maintain that. Life becomes black and white after that, if someone crosses the boundary you confront them and let them know. If they keep crossing them then they don't get to be part of your life anymore. Its that simple. Do not let other people influence or effect your happiness.

I'm going to say that again, do not let other people influence or effect your happiness.

Be consistent. Stick with what you believe and stick with it every time. Your surroundings do not affect what you believe to be right for yourself. If people aren't accepting of you, don't change, just state who you are and live accordingly. Them liking it doesn't factor in to any part of the equation.

Be real, don't be fake to gain acceptance or approval from anyone. Think about it, if you do gain their acceptance or approval then you have to maintain the fake person you pretended to be to keep them. So you are signing up for not being yourself and adapting your beliefs when you are around them.

This is destructive behavior to yourself and the people you are around. That's why life gets complicated, you have to be different people around different crowds. If you can be the same exact person around everyone and have the same exact story around everyone, imagine how easy your life would be?

Imagine how easy your life would be if everyone played by your rules? Not possible? I disagree. There are always rules you have to follow when you are dealing with other people and the world, but when you are dealing with you and other people are dealing with you then its absolutely true.

Be fair at all times. You'll be amazed at how much people appreciate it and once again how easy it makes your life.

Just so you know, this kind of life is not easy. When someone does something i don't appreciate, I tell them. This does not mean I am mad or don't like you, I am just letting you know that you did something I don't like. That has nothing to do with the person you are.

People will have a hard time believing this. But again, that's not your problem, if you try to make other peoples problems yours then go ahead and sign up for unhappiness.

Just a few things that popped in my head.

"Identify The Player,The Gamer,The Heartbreaker"

T h e P l a y e r

1.) The Player is charming. He has spent most of his existence learning what women like to hear. He will tell you that you are beautiful, and sexy and smart. He is sweet and considerate and pays rapt attention to everything you say so that he can bring it up again later, to impress you with how well he listens and remembers what is important to you. He more than likely pulls out chairs and opens doors. He is every romantic character you have ever seen in a chick flick. The Player knows how to make you feel special. After all, he has never met a girl like you, and he will be sure to tell you that.

2.) The Player is handsome. He takes care of himself and is well groomed. You can dress him up, dress him down, or undress him, and he is going to look good. He doesn't act conceited and may even be a little self deprecating. (Which could also fall under 'charming'.) His living space will also be immaculate. No socks on this guy's bedroom floor. Odds are, he has never missed a dentist appointment or a day at the gym. Appreciate the aesthetics, he works hard to look this good for you. It's the grownup version of playing with your Ken doll. Enjoy.

3.) The Player is smart. He has to be. It's like he is playing six games of chess at once, he has a lot of details to remember. He is knowledgeable. He knows a little bit about everything and a lot about a lot of things. If you have an interest, he will be prepared to discuss it with you. If he is not, he certainly will be the next time you see him. He isn't boring and will not embarrass you in front of your friends by saying something stupid. He is perfectly suitable to take to your parent's house or to your company party, where he will make you look good, by being his intelligent self. And the handsome and charming parts don't hurt either.

4.) The Player is adaptable. He is exactly what you want him to be. You like the outdoorsy type? He lives to hike and camp and fish. He has a standing once a year hiking trip with his buddies, and a million funny stories about the time they got chased by a bear and his friend got poison ivy in his boxer shorts. You like a family man? He adores his mom, and makes her breakfast every Sunday. You like good wine and fine dining? He can tell you the best and least known specialties of every chef and restaurant in the tri-state area, and probably a few in other countries as well. No matter what your ideal man is, he's it.

5.) The Player doesn't pressure you. Though he will more than likely tell you that the reason he has never settled down is because he hasn't found the right woman yet. He won't try to push you into a commitment because he never develops actual emotions, he is too busy trying to be who you want him to be to give a second thought into caring who you actually are. And a truly sophisticated player may very well be running his game on half a dozen other women also. That's a lot to keep track of. He also won't pressure you into sleeping with him, saying he is "patient". Which is easy enough if you are getting it elsewhere also. Which leads me to....

6.) The Player is good in bed. The man has skills. He has had lots of practice! He's got the moves down and probably a few signature tricks up his sleeve. It's all about you, Baby. He knows where, when and how often to touch you. He knows what works in general and is quick to figure out what works for you. He can be rough and kinky, or sweet and romantic. Whatever you are in the mood for, the Player can skillfully oblige. If you are looking for someone who can rock your socks and make your toes curl (multiple times), this is your man. Prepare to be pleasantly exhausted.

I highly recommend dating a player at least once in your life. Personally, I prefer the ones with dimples. They are the ideal guy to date when you are coming out of a romantic relationship and want an ego boost and just need to have some fun. However! There are a couple of rules to remember when dating the Player. DON'T expect him to be permanent.

This is a fun-for-awhile type of guy. Packaged for a few months of pleasure, max. DON'T fall in love. He isn't real, and you must remember that he really is just like that romantic character in the movie, he's an actor. (Yes, yes, we all fell in love with Hugh Jackman in Kate & Leopold. My point exactly.)

DON'T start to think you might actually be the woman to change him. Not possible. And even if you did succeed, he wouldn't be that guy anymore. He'd be the guy that does leave his socks on the floor and is more interested in watching the game than getting it on in the shower. He's the guy that forgets your anniversary.

So, remember the rules, date the most experienced Player you can find, and have the time of your life. For a limited time only. ;-)

"We crave what we can't have , We ignore what we have"

I WANT U BECAUSE SHE HAS YOU

He was a friend. Just a friend. Months, maybe even years earlier, he'd entered the "friend zone" and there was no way to come back from that. Well, maybe just one way. One thing sure to suddenly kick your interest in him into high gear. That thing? Well...it's easy... It's that new woman in his life.She's prettier than you, more fun than you, and everyone adores her. Especially your male friend.
You've never seen him look at anyone the way he looks at her, not even you.

And before she came along he'd had a crush on you forever. Everyone knew about that crush but now he's turned all his attention to her. He can't seem to take his eyes off her. It's disgusting.And you are suddenly, inexplicably, drawn to him. At first you're stunned. Where did this sudden attraction come from? But then, as you become accustomed to it, you begin to realize that your attraction to this person is completely unfair.

Now that he's found happiness, you've decided YOU want him?You have no right to tell him this. So you sit by and watch as the two of them grow closer and closer. You find yourself thinking of him all the time, wondering if the two of them are really happy together.It's not fair because YOU were there first. You are the one he's meant to be with. And then, one day, your chance comes. He confides in you.

You have a chance to steal him away.Of course you do. It's not the right thing to do, but he's already unhappy, so what can it hurt to guide him a little? To show him that he doesn't really belong with her?Eventually, he leaves her.But if you CAN win him over, what are the odds you're going to live happily ever after? What happens if you realize, once you've "helped" him leave his relationship, that you aren't so crazy about him, after all?

Suddenly, now that he's away from that other woman, you see him the way you saw him before. You see that the two of you don't have all that much in common, after all.But now you're stuck.Have you ever tried to steal someone away from another woman? Once you got him, did you still want him?

how you cure the wrong in your love life

Ten secrets of Love !!!

* The first secret - the power of thought. Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about.Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships. Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about ourselves and others. If we want to love someone, we need to consider their needs and desires. Thinking about your ideal partner will help you recognize her when you meet her.

* The second secret - the power of respect. You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self-respect ask yourself, "What do I respect about myself?" To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself "What do I respect about them?"

* The third secret - the power of giving. If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The more love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself, freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. Before committing to a relationship ask not what the other person will be able to give to you, but rather what will you be able to give them. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship is to always focus on what you can give instead of what you can take.

* The fourth secret - the power of friendship. To find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does not consist of gazing into each other's eyes, but rather looking outward together in the same direction. To love someone completely you must love them for who they are, not what they look like. Friendship is the soil through which love's seeds grow. If you want to bring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.

* The fifth secret - the power of touch. Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive to love.

* The sixth secret - the power of letting go. If you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you it's yours, if it doesn't it never was. Even in a loving relationship, people need their own space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions."Today I let go of all my fears, the past has no power over me - today is the beginning of a new life."

* The seventh secret - the power of communication. When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that you love them and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those three magic words: "I Love You." Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone. Always leave someone you love with a loving word - it could be the last time you see them. If you were about to die but could make telephone calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what would you say and................ ...why are you waiting?

* The eighth secret - the power of commitment. If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions. Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.

* The ninth secret - the power of passion. Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction alone, it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Passion can be recreated by recreating past experiences when you felt passionate. Spontaneity and surprises produce passion. The essence of love and happiness are the same; all we need to do is to live each day with passion.

* The tenth secret - the power of trust. Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful and the other person feels trapped and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless you trust them completely.

Act as if your relationship with the person you love will never end. One of the way in which always you can tell whether a person is right for you is to ask yourself, "Do I trust them completely and unreservedly?" If the answer is "no", think carefully before making a commitment. The heart is the happiest when it beats for others.

My 5 Categories of the Beautiful

My 5 Categories of the Beautiful

Well this is not your common lifestyle page in the magazines or newspapers or showbiz bulletins.


I wonder how you categorize beauty. But these are my five categories of what is beautiful.

1. An image of general acceptability : There is this immediate perceptible sense of acceptability for a person's image, character and attitude.

2. Self confidence and inner beauty : Unlike the first and the rest, this is a function that is internal but projected for others to perceive.

3. Beholder's preference of certain physical attributes: This is an external function of the beholder's taste for beauty. While this is the common view of beauty, this is so influenced by popular media stereotypes of beauty, which is shaped by the dominant Western culture.

4. Warmth and capacity for good relations : Unlike the first, this is a function of interaction rather than perception

5. Zest (spirit) in life : I would include here (a) physical energy and healthy body (b) active sexual life,(c) positive view of life and joyfulness, (d) genuine interest in people, (e) devotional spiritual life, and (f) intentional care of personal image.

Obviously there is a degree of subjectivity to all these categories. Whichever you apply.

God in the Bible never gave us definitions of what is beautiful. It must be borne of our conventions of perception. When he created things, he said, "It was good." Everything was created good and thereby intended to be beautiful.