"Pornography"

YOUR BOYFRIEND'S PORNOGRAPHY

Investigating the Effects of Pornography on the Psyche and Relationships




The other evening a female friend and I were having a conversation about pornography. She admitted to me that she feels that it's best for a man in a committed relationship to abstain from the use of pornography, as it may hinder his ability to get off by regular, conventional means. This really got me thinking. How does a man's use of pornography interfere with his intimate relationships? During sexual intercourse, does he require pornographic thoughts and memories to successfully get off? Can the use of pornography help or hurt physical relationships?
So, I set off and did a bit of research. I unconvered the following statistics:

*The pornography industry is larger than the revenue of the top technology companies combined: Microsoft, Google, Amazon, eBay, Yahoo!, Apple, Netflix, EarthLink

*25% of the total number of internet sex engine requests are pornographic in nature

*42.7% of internet users view pornography online

*Hollywood release 20 times more adult movies than mainstream productions

*87% of university students admit to having sex over webcams, instant messenger, and the telephone

*17% of all women struggle with porn addiction

*42% of adults admit to feeling less attractive due to their partner's use of pornography

*47% of adults say that pornography has become a problem in their home

*60% of all websites visited daily are pornographic in nature

*70% percent of Christians admit to struggling with porn in their daily lives

After looking at these numbers it is easy to conclude that the majority of men, and quite a few women, access internet pornography on a regular basis. Is this considered normal? How much is too much? When does curiosity become an obsession?

We are all aware that masturbation is a very healthy practice, physiologically and psychologically. There is nothing wrong with having fantasies, so as long as these fantasies don't manifest into a harmful reality. But what effect does over-exposure to pornographic material have on us?

Porn addiction has become an epidemic lately, similiar to drug-abuse and alcoholism. Many experts are in debate over this subject, saying that this problem is a compulsion rather than an addiction. Common signs of porn addiction/compulsion include:

1. An inability to stop the behaviors and porn use despite previous attemts to do do

2. Anger or irritability if caught or asked to stop

3. Hiding or attempting to keep secret either part, or all, of the porn use

4. Continuing the behavior despite obvious consequence, such as a relationship loss or job loss

5. Getting lost in the porn use, spending more time than intended looking at pornographic images, videos, etc.

Of course there are more serious effects of the overuse of porn for those already possessing mental disorders with a gravitation towards promiscuity, abuse, etc. Sexual therapists and psychologists have defined the following five stages of pornographic addiction:

1. DISCOVERY: This happens by accident or curiosity. This stage usually refers to initial exposure, rather than over a prolonged exposure of time. The thrill and arousal is viewed as a rush because the event represents entering an area that is taboo, forbidden, or simply sensually arousing.

2. EXPLORATION/EXPERIMENTATION: This is the stage where the person rationalizes exploring or experimenting with the material. Usually this is accompanied with masturbation.

3. DENSENSITIZATION: At this stage what was once seen as shocking, becomes either normal to the viewer, or even mundane, setting the stage for escalation.

4. ESCALATION: During the stage, the material becomes rougher and more explicit. Kinkier and more shocking material is needed to achieve the same rush that was discovered in Stage 1.

5. PERFORMANCE: The person will begin to reinact the sexual behaviors he or she may have seen depicted in the pornography. In some cases, they will perform these with their partner, or if married, look for a partner outside of the marriage.

Just to set things straight, I'd like to state that enjoying pornographic material will not turn you into a sexual deviant. Pornographic addiction is a form of sexual addiction, and does not effect everyone.



I'll be the first to admit that I love pornography, like so many other males do. I have a collection, and a number of websites that I visit on a regular basis. I don't feel that I am self-medicating in anyway through pornographic use, or that I am using it to substitue any type of regular sexual practice. I've always been very open and honest about it with my sexual partners, and feel that it can even add some excitement into the bedroom.

But, what are the boundaries of being able to safely enjoy it? How can it destroy or harm relationships? In your own opinion, is regular use of pornography a healthy or dangerous practice? I'm really interested in hearing some feedback on this topic. So, I impose upon you the following questions:

1. Do you mind if your partner views pornographic materials?

2. How much time spent looking a pornography is considered too much?

3. Have you ever caught your partner in the act of looking at adult materials? How did you react?

4. How would you react if you caught your lover viewing gay pornography, or pornographic materials outside of his/her assumed sexual orientation?

5. Do you consider cybersex/phonesex to be the same as infideltiy?

6. Do you believe that pornography can be appreciated as a couple, thus adding spice to intimate relationships?

7. Are you morally opposed, seeing the use of pornography as either sinful, or immoral?

I appreciate your feedback on this one peeps!

"Satisfy Your Man Anytime,Anywhere & Any Position"

How can you satisfy your lover in bed?

If you really want to know what makes a woman good in bed it is really just four things.... Passion, Desire, Love and Trust... If you find a woman with those four quailties then everything else will fall into place...

Sometimes, being physical with your man whom you love dearly, becomes dull and monotonous. Why so? This is a fact, everything in this world seems to get dull, though it is not so, it is the style or manner with which we handle certain things and situations that become dull. And for that, one or the other has to make some efforts to make things exciting around you.

And if your sexual activity with your man is getting quite predictable, then its the time to bring some changes. Do not always take your man for granted, I mean, do not always expect him to initiate the love-making, why can't you begin to express what you desire for?

This will make the environment really hot!!! Your man will feel the happiest ever!
As surprises are always welcome to make your relationship happening!

Wake him up with sex, giving his body your hot sighs and sensuous gestures anywhere and everywhere you like! This is the hottest thing a woman can do to arouse her man to the climax. I bet! Never lie down on bed with your man like a dummy, instead take the initiative to make your man happy.

Just ignore other distractions around or outside your bedroom- At the time of love-making, if there is happening something outside your house or the voices of your family members trying to distract you. Just look into each other's eyes and have a laugh and continue.

Also, do not hesitate to tell your man indirectly, that what and how you want him to treat you when in bed. Its your duty to make your partner aware of what kind of sexual pleasure you want and in what manner. With this, both of you will enjoy the act of love-making without any desires unfulfilled.

And please, please, never make your man feel that he is or was wrong somewhere while having sex with you. As this will shatter his self-confidence thereby making the things worse for both of you. If you felt that he was lacking something or gone wrong somewhere, then have a chat just after sex.

Ask him in a different way if you were wrong somewhere in making him happy or was lacking something, then he will tell you that. And in return,he will also ask you the same thing, and then you tell him what you felt about his performance in bed.

This way, you will understand each other better.

"Benefits In Sexual Intercourse"

Top 10 Reasons To Have Sex

1. Sex Relieves Stress

A big health benefit of sex is lower blood pressure and overall stress reduction, according to researchers from Scotland who reported their findings in the journal Biological Psychology. They studied 24 women and 22 men who kept records of their sexual activity. Then the researchers subjected them to stressful situations — such as speaking in public and doing verbal arithmetic — and noted their blood pressure response to stress.

Those who had intercourse had better responses to stress than those who engaged in other sexual behaviors or abstained.

Another study published in the same journal found that frequent intercourse was associated with lower diastolic blood pressure in cohabiting participants. Yet other research found a link between partner hugs and lower blood pressure in women.

2. Sex Boosts Immunity

Good sexual health may mean better physical health. Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections. Scientists at Wilkes University in Wilkes-Barre, Pa., took samples of saliva, which contain IgA, from 112 college students who reported the frequency of sex they had.

Those in the “frequent” group — once or twice a week — had higher levels of IgA than those in the other three groups — who reported being abstinent, having sex less than once a week, or having it very often, three or more times weekly.

3. Sex Burns Calories

Thirty minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Doubling up, you could drop that pound in 21 hour-long sessions.

“Sex is a great mode of exercise,” says Patti Britton, PhD, a Los Angeles sexologist and president of the American Association of Sexuality Educators and Therapists. It takes work, from both a physical and psychological perspective, to do it well, she says.

4. Sex Improves Cardiovascular Health

While some older folks may worry that the efforts expended during sex could cause a stroke, that’s not so, according to researchers from England. In a study published in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health, scientists found frequency of sex was not associated with stroke in the 914 men they followed for 20 years.

And the heart health benefits of sex don’t end there. The researchers also found that having sex twice or more a week reduced the risk of fatal heart attack by half for the men, compared with those who had sex less than once a month.

5. Sex Boosts Self-Esteem

Boosting self-esteem was one of 237 reasons people have sex, collected by University of Texas researchers and published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior.

That finding makes sense to Gina Ogden, PhD, a sex therapist and marriage and family therapist in Cambridge, Mass., although she finds that those who already have self-esteem say they sometimes have sex to feel even better. “One of the reasons people say they have sex is to feel good about themselves,” she tells WebMD. “Great sex begins with self-esteem, and it raises it. If the sex is loving, connected, and what you want, it raises it.”

6. Sex Improves Intimacy

Having sex and orgasms increases levels of the hormone oxytocin, the so-called love hormone, which helps us bond and build trust. Researchers from the University of Pittsburgh and the University of North Carolina evaluated 59 premenopausal women before and after warm contact with their husbands and partners ending with hugs. Tey found that the more contact, the higher the oxytocin levels.

“Oxytocin allows us to feel the urge to nurture and to bond,” Britton says.
Higher oxytocin has also been linked with a feeling of generosity. So if you’re feeling suddenly more generous toward your partner than usual, credit the love hormone.

7. Sex Reduces Pain

As the hormone oxytocin surges, endorphins increase, and pain declines. So if your headache, arthritis pain, or PMS symptoms seem to improve after sex, you can thank those higher oxytocin levels.

In a study published in the Bulletin of Experimental Biology and Medicine, 48 volunteers who inhaled oxytocin vapor and then had their fingers pricked lowered their pain threshold by more than half.

8. Sex Reduces Prostate Cancer Risk

Frequent ejaculations, especially in 20-something men, may reduce the risk of prostate cancer later in life, Australian researchers reported in the British Journal of Urology International. When they followed men diagnosed with prostate cancer and those without, they found no association of prostate cancer with the number of sexual partners as the men reached their 30s, 40s, and 50s.

But they found men who had five or more ejaculations weekly while in their 20s reduced their risk of getting prostate cancer later by a third.

Another study, reported in the Journal of the American Medical Association, found that frequent ejaculations, 21 or more a month, were linked to lower prostate cancer risk in older men, as well, compared with less frequent ejaculations of four to seven monthly.

9. Sex Strengthens Pelvic Floor Muscles

For women, doing a few pelvic floor muscle exercises known as Kegels during sex offers a couple of benefits. You will enjoy more pleasure, and you’ll also strengthen the area and help to minimize the risk of incontinence later in life.

To do a basic Kegel exercise, tighten the muscles of your pelvic floor, as if you’re trying to stop the flow of urine. Count to three, then release.

10. Sex Helps You Sleep Better

The oxytocin released during orgasm also promotes sleep, according to research.

And getting enough sleep has been linked with a host of other good things, such as maintaining a healthy weight and blood pressure. Something to think about, especially if you’ve been wondering why your guy can be active one minute and snoring the next.

"Increase Sexual Stamina For a Better Sexual Life"

Sexual Health Secrets Special Report For Men

Dear Friend,

Did You Know that most women have several elaborate fantasies about meeting a man who will give her a hot, wild night of intense lasting passion?

Oh They May Not Openly Admit it, But It's True.

And the only way for her to feel free to express this wild side of her is for you to bring it out in the bedroom with your own physical prowess.

Why do you think new romance novels show up on grocery store shelves every week or every month?

Why does cosmo magazine always seem to have "hot tips" about how to "make your man want top lease you", in almost every issue?Think about it. Women are always craving a powerful eroticexperience, they just need you to bring it out of her.

The Hidden desire that almost all women have - Which Is To Be Lead Through a Powerful, Passionate Experience - has been around for a long time (thousands to milions of years),and it isn't going away anytime soon.

Going all the way back to the early days of humankind, women have always been more attracted to men with high sex drives, because it increases our chances for survival AND adds a higher level of intensity and intimacy to the whole sexual experience.

These days, however,our technological advancements have had a hidden, dark side effect that almost nobody talks about.

Most men have become lazy because machines do most of our survival work for us.
Our modern diets are so filled with quick-fix junk that most have come to believe that we can deprive ourselves of good foods and still function normally.

It isn't until there's a serious problem with our sex drive that we start to wonder.
These poor habits,combined with a massive daily bombardment of misinformation, garbage supplements, prescription drugs with dangerous side effects, useless magazines, and diet fads, have all taken a massive toll on our sex drives.

Because of this, Most men are TERRIBLE at taking care of their health, and are PHYSICALLY UNABLE to please a woman in the way that she so desperately needs.

How many times do you hear about women complaining that their man can only last for a few minutes in the bedroom?

All too often.

And yet how often do you hear about any REAL ANSWERS that truly get to the heart of the solutions tothis problem?

Keep reading, it get's even more interesting.
Here are some quick points to consider take note of.
Fact. Most Women lead lives of quiet desperation, wishing for a man with real sexual prowess to completely ravish her with immense passion for what seems like hours on end.

Fact. Because such a man is so rare, some women have honestly given upon the idea of finding a man with the physical prowess and stamina to have her completely screaming with pleasure. It's a sad reality, but it does not have to be this way.Fact. If you boost up your sexual abilities from a deep level (i'm talking physically and mentally, here), you'll be able to please your woman more powerfully than any other man, no matter what techniques you use.

If You Have A Powerful Sex Drive, Almost Anything You Do In the Bedroom Will Create An Enormously Pleasurable Experience For Her.

Imagine the powerful advantage you will have over other men when your woman runs off to tell all of her friends about the wild nights in bed she had with YOU, and NOT anyone else. Don't worry, Even if the word gets out and this book becomes semi-famous, most guys are simply too lazy to put what they learn into action;

But I know YOU will, and because of this YOU will have the advantage.
Women Love to Gossip and talk to each other about all of the juicy details of their sexual encounters with their boyfriends and husbands.

And something very interesting and "under-the-radar" occurs while these women are talking to each other about these experiences.

It's something that all of the women know is happening, but may not ever admit it, even to each other, because it's almost too taboo.

So What is this dirty littlesecret?

A Woman becomes more sexually attracted to a man whenever one of her friends brags about how good he is in bed.

It's True.

And You can be that man - IF you are willing to solve your own sexual dysfunctions first, and then move on to boosting your sex drive.On that Note, Check This Out....Did you know that it's possible to solve practically any sexual dysfunction, and have an amazing sex life, at any age, using very economical all natural methods that do not involve drugs or surgery?

It's True.And while in cases of serious sexual health problems, there is no suitable replacement for a qualified medical doctor, for most intelligent reasonable people like yourself, a few simple techniques can DRAMATICALLY boost up sexual performance and stamina, all while maintaining sexual health for long term success in relationships.

"Health Benefit of Sex..... "

Health Benefit of Sex.....

To all SEX Lovers......... Here are some of the benefits of SEX in our health..... So for those of you asking if Sex really necessary the answer is a BIG YES....

1. Reduce risk of heart disease - having sex 3 or more times a week we reduced the risk of heart attach by half.
2. Weight Loss, Overall Fitness - sex burns about 200 calories per session
3. Reduced Depression - sexually active couple were less subject to depression.
4. Pain Relief - orgasm releases endorphins which alleviate the pain of everything
5. Less frequent colds & flu - Having sex once or twice a week show 30% higher level of immunoglobulin.
6. Better Bladder Control - the muscle we use everytime we stem our flow of urine also worked during sex.
7. Better teeth - Seminal plasma contain zinc, calcium and other minerals shown to retard tooth decay.
8. A happier Prostate - Men in their 20s reduce 1/3 chance of having prostate cancer by ejaculating 5x/week.

This is for real....... you can check the site below for further reading.....

http://www.forbes.com/health/2005/10/05/cz_af_1005healthslide_2.html?thisSpeed=12000

"Making Love is a special thing that shared by two people bonded by LOVE"

All students & individuals who are capable in engaging sexual intercourse........ your attention please.....

Pre-marital sex is very common now-a-days.

Are you in favor of this set-up or not?

You may say it depends on the situation, but try to listen

Sex is a very wonderful thing a man and a woman can do.......

You can enjoy sex even outside marriage but let us think twice before engaging in sex specially STUDENTS

Your parents have dreams on us, let us not frustrate them.....
You are still young and we can do many things other than SEX
You need to stabilize ourselves before committing to somebody

Remember it feels good to have your own money rather than having someone providing it to you.

If you cannot control yourselves in engaging in pre-marital sex, be RESPONSIBLE

To the outcome of your decision
Learn to be a good parent to your coming child

Try to strive hard to prove to your parents that you are mature enough to handle this problem

Be strong enough to face all the comments that you might heard from others
and Remember that a baby is an angel give them a chance to live like you......

What ever your decision remember that it is only you who are responsible in the outcome of your life....