"Pornography"

YOUR BOYFRIEND'S PORNOGRAPHY

Investigating the Effects of Pornography on the Psyche and Relationships




The other evening a female friend and I were having a conversation about pornography. She admitted to me that she feels that it's best for a man in a committed relationship to abstain from the use of pornography, as it may hinder his ability to get off by regular, conventional means. This really got me thinking. How does a man's use of pornography interfere with his intimate relationships? During sexual intercourse, does he require pornographic thoughts and memories to successfully get off? Can the use of pornography help or hurt physical relationships?
So, I set off and did a bit of research. I unconvered the following statistics:

*The pornography industry is larger than the revenue of the top technology companies combined: Microsoft, Google, Amazon, eBay, Yahoo!, Apple, Netflix, EarthLink

*25% of the total number of internet sex engine requests are pornographic in nature

*42.7% of internet users view pornography online

*Hollywood release 20 times more adult movies than mainstream productions

*87% of university students admit to having sex over webcams, instant messenger, and the telephone

*17% of all women struggle with porn addiction

*42% of adults admit to feeling less attractive due to their partner's use of pornography

*47% of adults say that pornography has become a problem in their home

*60% of all websites visited daily are pornographic in nature

*70% percent of Christians admit to struggling with porn in their daily lives

After looking at these numbers it is easy to conclude that the majority of men, and quite a few women, access internet pornography on a regular basis. Is this considered normal? How much is too much? When does curiosity become an obsession?

We are all aware that masturbation is a very healthy practice, physiologically and psychologically. There is nothing wrong with having fantasies, so as long as these fantasies don't manifest into a harmful reality. But what effect does over-exposure to pornographic material have on us?

Porn addiction has become an epidemic lately, similiar to drug-abuse and alcoholism. Many experts are in debate over this subject, saying that this problem is a compulsion rather than an addiction. Common signs of porn addiction/compulsion include:

1. An inability to stop the behaviors and porn use despite previous attemts to do do

2. Anger or irritability if caught or asked to stop

3. Hiding or attempting to keep secret either part, or all, of the porn use

4. Continuing the behavior despite obvious consequence, such as a relationship loss or job loss

5. Getting lost in the porn use, spending more time than intended looking at pornographic images, videos, etc.

Of course there are more serious effects of the overuse of porn for those already possessing mental disorders with a gravitation towards promiscuity, abuse, etc. Sexual therapists and psychologists have defined the following five stages of pornographic addiction:

1. DISCOVERY: This happens by accident or curiosity. This stage usually refers to initial exposure, rather than over a prolonged exposure of time. The thrill and arousal is viewed as a rush because the event represents entering an area that is taboo, forbidden, or simply sensually arousing.

2. EXPLORATION/EXPERIMENTATION: This is the stage where the person rationalizes exploring or experimenting with the material. Usually this is accompanied with masturbation.

3. DENSENSITIZATION: At this stage what was once seen as shocking, becomes either normal to the viewer, or even mundane, setting the stage for escalation.

4. ESCALATION: During the stage, the material becomes rougher and more explicit. Kinkier and more shocking material is needed to achieve the same rush that was discovered in Stage 1.

5. PERFORMANCE: The person will begin to reinact the sexual behaviors he or she may have seen depicted in the pornography. In some cases, they will perform these with their partner, or if married, look for a partner outside of the marriage.

Just to set things straight, I'd like to state that enjoying pornographic material will not turn you into a sexual deviant. Pornographic addiction is a form of sexual addiction, and does not effect everyone.



I'll be the first to admit that I love pornography, like so many other males do. I have a collection, and a number of websites that I visit on a regular basis. I don't feel that I am self-medicating in anyway through pornographic use, or that I am using it to substitue any type of regular sexual practice. I've always been very open and honest about it with my sexual partners, and feel that it can even add some excitement into the bedroom.

But, what are the boundaries of being able to safely enjoy it? How can it destroy or harm relationships? In your own opinion, is regular use of pornography a healthy or dangerous practice? I'm really interested in hearing some feedback on this topic. So, I impose upon you the following questions:

1. Do you mind if your partner views pornographic materials?

2. How much time spent looking a pornography is considered too much?

3. Have you ever caught your partner in the act of looking at adult materials? How did you react?

4. How would you react if you caught your lover viewing gay pornography, or pornographic materials outside of his/her assumed sexual orientation?

5. Do you consider cybersex/phonesex to be the same as infideltiy?

6. Do you believe that pornography can be appreciated as a couple, thus adding spice to intimate relationships?

7. Are you morally opposed, seeing the use of pornography as either sinful, or immoral?

I appreciate your feedback on this one peeps!

"Satisfy Your Man Anytime,Anywhere & Any Position"

How can you satisfy your lover in bed?

If you really want to know what makes a woman good in bed it is really just four things.... Passion, Desire, Love and Trust... If you find a woman with those four quailties then everything else will fall into place...

Sometimes, being physical with your man whom you love dearly, becomes dull and monotonous. Why so? This is a fact, everything in this world seems to get dull, though it is not so, it is the style or manner with which we handle certain things and situations that become dull. And for that, one or the other has to make some efforts to make things exciting around you.

And if your sexual activity with your man is getting quite predictable, then its the time to bring some changes. Do not always take your man for granted, I mean, do not always expect him to initiate the love-making, why can't you begin to express what you desire for?

This will make the environment really hot!!! Your man will feel the happiest ever!
As surprises are always welcome to make your relationship happening!

Wake him up with sex, giving his body your hot sighs and sensuous gestures anywhere and everywhere you like! This is the hottest thing a woman can do to arouse her man to the climax. I bet! Never lie down on bed with your man like a dummy, instead take the initiative to make your man happy.

Just ignore other distractions around or outside your bedroom- At the time of love-making, if there is happening something outside your house or the voices of your family members trying to distract you. Just look into each other's eyes and have a laugh and continue.

Also, do not hesitate to tell your man indirectly, that what and how you want him to treat you when in bed. Its your duty to make your partner aware of what kind of sexual pleasure you want and in what manner. With this, both of you will enjoy the act of love-making without any desires unfulfilled.

And please, please, never make your man feel that he is or was wrong somewhere while having sex with you. As this will shatter his self-confidence thereby making the things worse for both of you. If you felt that he was lacking something or gone wrong somewhere, then have a chat just after sex.

Ask him in a different way if you were wrong somewhere in making him happy or was lacking something, then he will tell you that. And in return,he will also ask you the same thing, and then you tell him what you felt about his performance in bed.

This way, you will understand each other better.

"Keeping The Passion Alive For Married Couples"

Red! Hot! Married Couples!

Some regular commentors have mentioned that Americans rail against their "puritanical" mindsets by delving into pornography, going to strip clubs, or seeking escapism in romantic movies that glorify extramarital sex. Certainly these forms of "entertainment" do go against the express puritanical ethic -- they send the clear message that "Sex is FUN! Sex is HOT! ... oh, but only if it's with someone other than your spouse." The word "puritan," used as a pejorative to express a conservative sexual ethic, is typically enough to make anyone shudder. Salem, anyone?

In reality, the Puritans of New England were encouraged to enjoy sex, as long as it was within the boundaries of marriage. In fact, if spouses did not live up to their marital "obligations," they could be punished by the church; marriages could even be disavowed. So hell yeah, the Puritans were *all* about having sex.

The Puritans were all about the family, too, where women played a dominant role. A man could be a man all he liked out in the fields, sowing crops or chopping down lumber, but he left his pants at the door of the family home, where his wife was Big Boss. Sounds like a fair deal to me.But getting back to the sex thing.

Again, I think about modern media, especially film. Do you ever see any movies that make married sex seem hot and exciting? If you can find one film, please let me know, because I've racked my pea brain and can't come up with one shining example. On the other hand, I can count on my fingers and toes movies -- big blockbusters -- that make the extramarital affair glisten like unholy gold."The English Patient," whoa!

That movie sizzled, didn't it? Count Laszlo de Almásy (Ralph Fiennes), a Hungarian mapmaker, goes bonkers over sexy, married Katherine (Kristin Scott Thomas) in Africa just prior to WWII. Her husband, Geoffrey (Colin Firth), is an affable enough chap, but apparently the lust of the loins wins over congeniality, and the Count and Katherine are fucking in bathtubs, on bed tops, in the middle of parties, until they finally fly off together in a teensy plane to go to some cave.

The movie visually astute at portraying the alternately hostile-tender interactions between the Count and Katherine, but you, the viewer, really wonder, why does she love him so much? He didn't exactly insist that she get a divorce so that he could marry her, did he? In the end, Katherine dies. So does the Count. "The End of the Affair," another WWII period film. Ralph Fiennes again, as hot novelist Maurice Bendrix, falls for sexy Sarah Miles (Julianne Moore), who is married to Maurice's friend Henry (Stephen Rea).

If you can get over the "ick" factor resulting from this humongous betrayal of man against best friend, you can sit through the movie. Again, there's the unexplained possessive and -- dare I say it? -- obsessive attraction between Maurice and Sarah, but you never quite know why it exists; certainly they don't seem to really love each other; they are merely ships passing in the night.

And you never know why, either, Sarah chose to marry a man for whom she has only tepid feelings of friendship at best. In the end, Sarah dies too. The closest thing we get to portraying marriage as a positive institution is found in the movie "Fatal Attraction." Michael Douglas is family man/asshole Dan Gallagher, who takes the opportunity to seriously boink the living daylights out of a sexy, single work colleague, Alex Forrest (Glenn Close), while wifey's away visiting her folks.

I don't need to tell you the ending, but just in case you've been living under a rock, Alex dies. There's a hint that there might have been marital mischief at some point in the past when Dan, feeling remorseful for the affair, gazes lovingly at his wife Beth (Anne Archer) as she's brushing her hand and slapping on face cream. He tenderly sneaks his hand between her legs and she ... giggles.

I guess that it would have invoked too big of an "Ewww!" factor to show Dan boinking the living daylights out of his wife, too. She was his Madonna, the perfect wife and mother. You don't boink the Madonna. The crown jewel of all creepily obsessive lust movies has to be "Wuthering Heights," based on the book by Emily Bronte. The original film featured Merle Oberon as Cathy and Laurence Olivier as Heathcliff, with a bemused-looking David Niven trailing cast as emotional cuckhold Edgar Linton.

There's no "sex" onscreen, but we know what Cathy and Heath cliff were doing in those stables, don't we, kids? Heathcliff storms off after being rejected by Cathy only to return years later, richer than God, to find her happily married. He then proceeds to make the rest of her brief life hell, never failing to rub in the fact that she had the gall to -- gasp! -- marry someone else. Because Cathy's a silly git, she accepts this shitty treatment. She loves Linton, we know that because she tells him over and over.

Obviously in a sexually nonthreatening way, or else they would have had a passel of brats running around. In the end, Cathy dies not in her husband's arms, but in Heathcliff's. And he's still whining and railing at her until the end. She's such a silly git, in fact, that even her *ghost* comes back to haunt him. A novelist friend of mine defines "Wuthering Heights" as an exercise in pure sadomasochism. Oh -- I did mention that Cathy dies, right?By the way, Ralph Fiennes was Heathcliff in the remake of "Wuthering Heights."

Gives a true meaning to the word "typecast," doesn't it? There's my favorite horror flick, "What Lies Beneath." Harrison Ford and Michelle Pfeiffer are Norman and Claire Spencer, a couple whose marriage is unknowingly tarnished by his affair. The Other Woman, Madison (Amber Valletta), was bonked over the head by Henry and fed to the fishes, so she's already dead. But because the Other Woman always tells, she comes back to "tell" Claire in her own creepy-nasty, otherworldly, Other Womanly way.

There's one smokin' sex scene between Henry and Claire during which time her body is possessed by Madison. It involves an apple. Guess if you take the wife out of the body, the body's finally good to go. When I first saw "When a Man Loves a Woman," I thought, okay, finally. Michael Green (Andy Garcia), an airline pilot, indulges in a bit of role-play by pretending to pick up wife Alice (Meg Ryan) in a bar. There are some fun, sexy scenes between the two. But alas, Alice is a consummate drunk. Nobody in the film dies, but after Alice goes sober, she turns into a bitter, frigid Ms.

No Fun who divorces poor Michael for no good reason other than he "just doesn't get her." Is the message here is that your spouse is only fuckable when you're wearing beer goggles? I can tell you what I'd do if I were married to a guy who looked like Andy Garcia, and alcohol would not be necessary.Do people really think that married couples don't have red hot sex? I can assure you, they do. I have. In fact, that's the *only* time I have.

That's what you're supposed to be doing, you're supposed to be going at it as much as you can, in all positions, anyplace, anytime. You can get away with the most extravagant shit when you're married, too -- ask a certain police officer who happened to stumble across a certain green Porsche that was parked along a dark highway. There's a certain liberation to being married that permits you to cast away inhibition. You don't feel so greebly if you ask your spouse if he wants to, oh, maybe watch a little porn that night. Or "try out" the new chopping block. When another couple calls to ask you if you want to meet them for dinner, you can say, "That's nice of you to ask, but tonight's 'Twister' night, if you know what I mean. Maybe another time?" They'll understand.

The only time sex is boring in a marriage is when you're not getting it. Married sex is hot, but it's hot because it is also tender; it has its foundation in "forever yours." There's a permanence you feel in your lover's arms, knowing -- even though it might not turn out to be true -- that person is also the one and only residing in your heart.

Knowing that no one else will ever own you in that particular way. The feeling that the two of you are unique, and that your exclusivity makes you so. Puritanical? Maybe. Pure? Yesssss! No movie made could ever depict that.

"Benefits In Sexual Intercourse"

Top 10 Reasons To Have Sex

1. Sex Relieves Stress

A big health benefit of sex is lower blood pressure and overall stress reduction, according to researchers from Scotland who reported their findings in the journal Biological Psychology. They studied 24 women and 22 men who kept records of their sexual activity. Then the researchers subjected them to stressful situations — such as speaking in public and doing verbal arithmetic — and noted their blood pressure response to stress.

Those who had intercourse had better responses to stress than those who engaged in other sexual behaviors or abstained.

Another study published in the same journal found that frequent intercourse was associated with lower diastolic blood pressure in cohabiting participants. Yet other research found a link between partner hugs and lower blood pressure in women.

2. Sex Boosts Immunity

Good sexual health may mean better physical health. Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections. Scientists at Wilkes University in Wilkes-Barre, Pa., took samples of saliva, which contain IgA, from 112 college students who reported the frequency of sex they had.

Those in the “frequent” group — once or twice a week — had higher levels of IgA than those in the other three groups — who reported being abstinent, having sex less than once a week, or having it very often, three or more times weekly.

3. Sex Burns Calories

Thirty minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Doubling up, you could drop that pound in 21 hour-long sessions.

“Sex is a great mode of exercise,” says Patti Britton, PhD, a Los Angeles sexologist and president of the American Association of Sexuality Educators and Therapists. It takes work, from both a physical and psychological perspective, to do it well, she says.

4. Sex Improves Cardiovascular Health

While some older folks may worry that the efforts expended during sex could cause a stroke, that’s not so, according to researchers from England. In a study published in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health, scientists found frequency of sex was not associated with stroke in the 914 men they followed for 20 years.

And the heart health benefits of sex don’t end there. The researchers also found that having sex twice or more a week reduced the risk of fatal heart attack by half for the men, compared with those who had sex less than once a month.

5. Sex Boosts Self-Esteem

Boosting self-esteem was one of 237 reasons people have sex, collected by University of Texas researchers and published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior.

That finding makes sense to Gina Ogden, PhD, a sex therapist and marriage and family therapist in Cambridge, Mass., although she finds that those who already have self-esteem say they sometimes have sex to feel even better. “One of the reasons people say they have sex is to feel good about themselves,” she tells WebMD. “Great sex begins with self-esteem, and it raises it. If the sex is loving, connected, and what you want, it raises it.”

6. Sex Improves Intimacy

Having sex and orgasms increases levels of the hormone oxytocin, the so-called love hormone, which helps us bond and build trust. Researchers from the University of Pittsburgh and the University of North Carolina evaluated 59 premenopausal women before and after warm contact with their husbands and partners ending with hugs. Tey found that the more contact, the higher the oxytocin levels.

“Oxytocin allows us to feel the urge to nurture and to bond,” Britton says.
Higher oxytocin has also been linked with a feeling of generosity. So if you’re feeling suddenly more generous toward your partner than usual, credit the love hormone.

7. Sex Reduces Pain

As the hormone oxytocin surges, endorphins increase, and pain declines. So if your headache, arthritis pain, or PMS symptoms seem to improve after sex, you can thank those higher oxytocin levels.

In a study published in the Bulletin of Experimental Biology and Medicine, 48 volunteers who inhaled oxytocin vapor and then had their fingers pricked lowered their pain threshold by more than half.

8. Sex Reduces Prostate Cancer Risk

Frequent ejaculations, especially in 20-something men, may reduce the risk of prostate cancer later in life, Australian researchers reported in the British Journal of Urology International. When they followed men diagnosed with prostate cancer and those without, they found no association of prostate cancer with the number of sexual partners as the men reached their 30s, 40s, and 50s.

But they found men who had five or more ejaculations weekly while in their 20s reduced their risk of getting prostate cancer later by a third.

Another study, reported in the Journal of the American Medical Association, found that frequent ejaculations, 21 or more a month, were linked to lower prostate cancer risk in older men, as well, compared with less frequent ejaculations of four to seven monthly.

9. Sex Strengthens Pelvic Floor Muscles

For women, doing a few pelvic floor muscle exercises known as Kegels during sex offers a couple of benefits. You will enjoy more pleasure, and you’ll also strengthen the area and help to minimize the risk of incontinence later in life.

To do a basic Kegel exercise, tighten the muscles of your pelvic floor, as if you’re trying to stop the flow of urine. Count to three, then release.

10. Sex Helps You Sleep Better

The oxytocin released during orgasm also promotes sleep, according to research.

And getting enough sleep has been linked with a host of other good things, such as maintaining a healthy weight and blood pressure. Something to think about, especially if you’ve been wondering why your guy can be active one minute and snoring the next.

"Satisfying Your Lust"

If you're like most people, on at least a few occasions you've found yourself in the situation where sex isn't equally fulfilling for both partners. The good news is, this is not an uncommon problem. And the better news is, it's also not incurable. Mutually satisfying sex, the kind that leaves both partners basking in that post-sex glow awash in bonding hormones, is possible. Here are three ways to help make sure you're both getting the best - ahem - bang for your buck.

Consider the problem

First off, if you don't know what the problem is between your sheets (pre-mature ejaculation, not enough foreplay, discomfort or bad body image are some examples) try to isolate it for yourself. The reason behind this is that only by knowing what is wrong can you fix it - and the problem will help to determine your approach.
From there, it's time to think about what a great sex life would entail for you - or at least what you think it would look/be/feel like. Before you can remedy a mediocre routine, you've got to know where to aim. Opening with a goal like, "Honey I'm thinking I might like to try this," might just be the opening you need, which brings us to, tip two.

Talk about it

One of the most common troubles couples have when it comes to a single-sided (or no-sided) sex life is unwillingness to discuss the matter. It's considered embarrassing or improper. But that's silly! Sex is a necessary and vital part of any relationship. And odds are, if it's not working in bed, it's not working someplace else, which is why you need to open your mouth. No pun intended.
The thing is, the topic of sex is as tender as it is natural. You want to be sure your mate doesn't feel criticized, or you're apt to make things even worse. So consider the previous advice. Suggest something you'd like to try that's designed specifically to address the problem. For instance, in the case of premature ejaculation, maybe you want to really take it slow and try a long, drawn out fantasy. Another approach? Ask if your partner wants to know something you'd like. If the answer's yes, once you've told them, ask to know something they'd like in return.

Be willing to compromise

On that note, it's important to remember that mutually satisfying is the goal, thereby you want to think about more than just yourself. How can you please your partner while still getting what you want? Make it your aim to be the best giver you can be as well as the best receiver. Sex is just like everything else, it's dependent on the energy all the participants put into it! Don't settle for dissatisfaction. Sometimes, it's easy to let your own satisfaction go by the wayside once your partner has found theirs. That's one surefire way to guarantee you don't get what you need. Instead, be clear on what you like and want and insist that you get it, however gently you have to do so. It may involve giving your partner some lessons or asking more than once, but you'll find that once you've broken down that barrier and shared, you'll be closer and more turned on by each other, for it. http://www.californiapsychics.com/c/c.aspx?lid=103258">click .................

"HORSCOPIST"

Once you have opened this bulletin, there's no turning back. Below are true descriptions of zodiac signs, with traits from a book written 35 years ago by an astrologist predictions. Read your sign, then repost this in a new bulletin with your zodiac sign and label. If u don't repost this, u will have bad luck for as long as it says in your description!!!

SCORPIO:The Freak in Bed

Very pretty. Very romantic. Nice to everyone they meet. Their Love is one of a kind. Silly, fun and sweet. Have own unique sexiness. Most caring person you will ever meet! AMAZING IN BED..!!! Not the kind of person you wanna fuck with...u might end up crying... The most irresistible. Rare 2 find. Funny. Talkative. Erotic. Smart. Loves sports. Gets what he/she wants. Loves to be in a relationship.

VIRGO: The Lover

Dominant in relationships. Sexy. someone loves them right now. Freak in bed. Always wants the last word. Caring. Smart. Intellectual. Attractive. Loyal. Easy to talk to. Hard to forget. Love at first sight. Everything you ever wanted. Easy to please. The one and only. Ultimate sexiness.Great kisser.

LIBRA: The Bitch

Can be mean sometimes, and will Probably knock your ass out, if crossed the wrong way!! EXTREMELY sexy. Intelligent. Energetic. Predict future. Most erotic. (Freak in bed.) (GREAT kisser.) Always get what they want. Sexy. Attractive. Easy going. Loves being in long relationships. Talkative. The sexiest ever....Romantic. Caring.

ARIES: The Sexiest

Outgoing. Lovable. Spontaneous. Not one to fuck with. Erotic. Funny. Take you on trips to the moon in bed. Excellent kisser EXTREMELY sexy. Loves being in long relationships.=) Addictive. Loud. best in bed.

AQUARIUS: the strongest

Trustworthy. Sexy. professional kissers. One of a kind. Loves being in long-term relationships. Extremely energetic and funny. Unpredictable. Will exceed your expectations. Loves music. Not a Fighter, But will Knock the fuck out of u. The best and biggest freak in bed! Strong. Considered to be a "Spartan." The most intelligent. falls in love too easily. Doesn't show it but is easy to hurt.

GEMINI: passionate

Nice. Love is one of a kind. Lover not a fighter, but will still knock you the fuck out. Trustworthy. Always happy. Loud. Talkative. Outgoing VERY FORGIVING.Horny. Freak in Bed. Loves to make out. Has a beautiful smile. Generous. Strong. ULTRA SEXY. THE MOST IRRESISTIBLE.

LEO: wild in bed

Great talker. Sexy and passionate. Laid back. Knows how to have fun. Is really good at a lot. Great kisser. Unpredictable. Outgoing. Down to earth. Loyal.Addictive. Attractive. Loud. Loves being in long relationships. Talkative. Not one to mess with. Rare to find. Great when found.

CANCER: Most Amazing Kisser

Very high sex appeal. Great in bed!!! Love is one of a kind. Very romantic. Most caring person you will ever meet! Entirely creative. Extremely random and proud of it. Freak in bed. Spontaneous. Great telling stories. Not a Fighter, But will Knock your lights out if it comes down to it. Someone you should hold on to. 12 years of bad luck if you do not repost.

PISCES: The Piece of ass

Caring and kind. Smart. Center of attention. Too Sexy, DAMN IT. Very high SEX appeal. Has the last word. The best to find, hardest to keep. Fun to be around. Freak in the sheets. Extremely weird but in a good way. Super good in bed. Good Sense of Humor!!! Thoughtful. A partner for life. Always gets what he or she wants. Loves to joke. Very popular. Silly, fun and sweet.

CAPRICORN: THE BEST IN BED

Loves being in long relationships. Great talker. Always
Love to bust. Nice. Sassy. Intelligent. Sexy. Predict future. Irresistible, awesome kisser.gets what he or she wants. BY FAR the BEST in BED. Very sexy. Coolest. Loves to own Gemini's in sports.Extremely fun. Loves to joke. Loves to be your first. So you'll never forget. Smart.

TAURUS: The sex addict

Aggressive. Freak in bed. Rare to find! Loves being in long relationships Likes to give a good fight for what they want. Extremely outgoing. Sexy as ...u no!..... Loves to help people in times of need. Outstanding kisser. Very funny. Awesome personality. Stubborn. Sexual as ......... Most caring person you will ever meet! One of a kind. Not one to fuck with. Are the most sexiest people on earth!

SAGITTARIUS: The sexy one
Spontaneous. Horny. Freak in Bed. Great when found. Loves being in long relationships. The one. So much love to give. Not one to mess with. Very pretty. Very romantic. Nice to everyone They meet. Their Love is one of a kind. Silly, fun and sweet. Most caring person you will ever meet! Not the kind of person you wanna mess with you might end up crying.

Sexcitement - How to Keep Your Sex Life Exciting

Add spice to your sex life without extraneous and artificial stimulants. Just explore and vary your intimate moments.

The secret of exciting sex lies in the mind. It is the mind that makes and keeps it exciting. Seductive externals play a secondary part. Every woman cannot be a Angelina Jolie. But any woman can try to be exciting. Women who have a sparkling selfconcept, with varied interests, and are not passive are peppy. They are exciting in life as well as in love.

Sex can be exciting and a lot of fun. Women looking to spark their sex lives must realise that there are few people who are at peak performance all the time, in every situation. Expecting sexual relations to be super every time is expecting a full moon every night. This does not happen. However, variety is possible and marital sex can be saved from becoming boring. The most important thing is to look upon it as a game. Sporting sex needs stimuli for the senses, variations, timing, and locations, and changes in conversation and articulation.

Animals have a lesson to teach. Though devoid of language, they do not make love in silence. They express their excitement in many ways. They articulate their joy in cries, grunts and exciting, joyful sounds. These expressions give vent to their happiness. Take your cue from them. Talk sex with your partner. It increases intimacy and enriches your love life. Change the menu! Happy couples do not eat the same food in the same room. They change. It may be a TV dinner in one room, a hurried snack for breakfast, or a quiet dinner in the dining room. This is another cue! Apply the variation ploy.

The wife who desires her husband passionately knows that she will pay the price for the notion that sexual happiness in marriage just comes naturally. The marital love and sex come spontaneously and impulsively without any effort. Routine takes its toll. One couple I know are both working. The husband is so engrossed to prove himself occupationally every day that he is reluctant to prove himself as marital lover at night. He waits for his wife to turn him on, but she waits for his initiative.

The working wife too is so busy proving herself as an efficient worker that she has little energy left for being seductive. The result is a stalemate. A stimulating sex life is important to such a couple. They need, at least periodically, to let their sexual activities have priority on their time, energy, and planning. They must find a slot for sex.

There are good ways to follow. Some wives do this by having a special day! Others locate a "lover's lane." Some try the bacK seat of the car for old time's sake! One couple has named a room in the house linked with sexual relations. They know "secrets" are a source of thrills and excitement in sex life. They mention the code name, look at each other, the spark ignites, and off they go to their love nest.

For some couples, this may include even closets, as well as the front and back yards. This takes effort, but it breaks monotony as it raises expectations.

SHARE FANTASIES

Talk the trick. Have a code. One wife asks "What would you like special for dinner (sex) tonight?" Husband loves her initiative if she asks, "Is there an important committee meeting today?" Sexual unions are top experience on occasion. They can also be physically rough or even bland, and sometimes unsatisfying. Do not lose sight of its variations.

Practical couples know that growing sexually is as difficult and as joyous as growth in any other area of marriage. To grow, both partners must know what the other wants, likes, and does not. Mind-reading is out. It must be a new ball game, a new session. When you explore each other, offer and solicit raw data on what feels good and bad, to express desires and make requests, then new avenues of sexual pleasure open up.

One husband may like his wife to explore his penile territory. Another may love her nibbling his nipples. She may love tickling over her navel region. Only open communication can result in exploration and the resultant joy. Recapturing a memorable moment adds warmth to sexual relations. It may also suggest specific settings which were once (and may again be) stimulating. The more you explore, the more you discover. And the more you travel, the more you see.

Sharing fantasies can be a source of new sensual pleasures and possibilities. Fantasies of sexual activities which one would never think of really doing are often stimulating in themselves. Some couples find relating fantasies during intercourse to be stimulating. Other mental pictures may prove enticing enough to actually try out!

The range of sexual stimuli you can experience together is limitless. It includes movies, books and tapes with similar content. Sexy clothing for both spouses is not uncommon, but one should not assume that he or she knows what the other will consider sexy. A push-up bra may excite the husband while the wife may not think much of it.

SEXUAL FOREPLAY

When was the last time you showered together? Or explored each other's bodies tenderly through a perfumed massage? Have you told your husband how you like your breasts caressed? Firmly grasped? Softly stroked? And the nipples - should they be kissed, licked, or bitten? And does this vary from early foreplay to after intercourse?

This is exciting as sexuality is tied with love messages. A note with "I love you" can open floodgates of feeling. This is symbolic but highly exciting. The goal for both is to have more sexual fun, in more loving closeness. Sex is a game played between two partners. Yet, couples vary in their capacities to appreciate sex and in their feelings as to what is exciting. The only way to get it going is to make it a two-way lane. Inject novelty. One wife realised that she made every effort to plan off-beat recreation for the family, but never thought of herself as a sexual partner. Awareness is needed to begin changing the sexual scenario.

A sensitive and eager wife finds her own ways to avoid the goody groove. One found that changing the lighting in the bedroom gave her and her husband a newness which they enjoyed.

DISCOVER NOVELTIES

One husband may like to undress his wife tenderly bit by bit. Another may like her to enter the bedroom topless. Does the wife know it? Or does she persist with the conventional way?

Exciting sex on a healthy basis is possible where there is mutual trust empathy. One is stimulated by new words, new gestures, fresh sequences. But one must be reasonably sure that these novelties are mutually pleasurable.

Experimentation and variety become tiresome unless partners find ways that put them in closer touch with their own and their partner's wants and wishes. Each needs to tune in on one's own and partner's thoughts, feelings and actions to work at achieving and maintaining communication. The aim is to experiment with the 'emotional as well as the physical. The goal is reaching the gold mine of hidden happiness. One easy way is by simply touching each other and exchanging information about what is most pleasing.

Discover and try new positions. New techniques for mutual arousal, of feelings about what is happening and modifications suiting individual requirements and open those portals of love paradise earlier hidden from each other. Love becomes mutually shared and enjoyed. It promotes joy and more love. It builds on and keeps building trust, respect, concern, tenderness, caring. It enriches life.

Communication is unlikely to lead to boredom. It leads to emotional delight and sexual intimacy. The more natural you make your sexual relationship, the better it becomes. Express yourself. Make your partner express himself or herself. This mutual sensitivity to the needs and desires of your partner is a way of keeping marital sex from becoming lacklustre. You can make life sexciting!