How do we know what our men are doing out there behind our backs.As i was growing up i always had guy friends so i know how they think and at when there girlfriends are not around.

Beleave me some guys are good but you got those ones that cant help themselves , and why do we beleave mostly everything they say . Why do you ask its because we so deeply in love with them and they can be such smooth talkers. Well am gonna give you an idea of how to tell if hes cheating.

10 signs that he is cheating on you

1. Privacy concerns: Does your guy flip his laptop closed or change screens on the computer when you walk into a room? Does he get mad when you look at his cell phone or nervous when he leaves it alone with you? Does he get defensive when you go through his pockets before washing his clothes? These are all signs that he is hiding something. Normal, well adjusted guys do not care if you find their pocket lint or know that they called to order a pizza last night.

2. The Disappearance Act: Does he “go out with the guys” more than he goes out with you? Is he late coming home from work EVERY night? Is he feeding you lame excuses like “I have to visit my grandma”? (If he was really visiting grandma, why not take you with him?) Does he go more than a few hours without returning your phone call and no explanation? Does it seem like he always has his phone off? Do even his friends and family members not know where he is? These could be all signs that he is cheating on you.

3. Distance and Less Affection: When someone is not being fully honest with you and not giving 100% into a relationship, you will start to notice that you are growing distant. He may be less affectionate, less communicative, and less responsive than he was before. If any of these things start to happen to you, it’s important to find out why. It could also show signs of depression or other problems, so do not ignore it if it seems like he is withdrawn or less interested in you.

4. Sudden Over Attention: If for three weeks you went without hardly seeing him, chances are he will want to make it up to you, and you will naively believe that it’s wonderful and it makes you feel special. You might get unexpected presents or romance. While some guys might do this out of honestly being too busy and feeling like you deserve it, it can be one of the signs he is cheating on you if it is motivated by guilt.

5. Jealouse: All of a sudden, your guy starts getting upset when you talk to another friend of the opposite sex. He cares who you’re talking to on the phone and what you’re doing on your computer. He may even accuse YOU of cheating even with no evidence or proof. These are the cheater’s way of projecting the guilt on you.

6. Small Lies Usually Equal Big Lies: The cheater is often full of many lies. The big ones you will believe, but the smaller ones you might start to notice. Chances are you will probably just shrug them off as him being forgetful, but if you notice a lot of inconsistent stories, you may want to do a little more research. Saying he was at his grandma’s last Tuesday to you and that he went fishing that same day to someone else shows that he’s not being honest.

7. New Hobbies or Friends: It should have been a huge red flag to me when my ex, an avid fan of alternative and rock music, said to me “Did you hear that new Britney Spears song? It’s pretty good…” It can be one of the signs he is cheating on you if he starts developing new hobbies and interests that seem a little unusual to his normal personality. He might talk about places he went to with his friends that seem kind of strange – like a coffee spot when he does not typically drink coffee. You may also notice he’s met some new friends – but you have no idea how he met them.

8. He tells you to take some time for yourself: He might start encouraging you to have an all girls night out or to spend a day shopping or some other type of self-indulgent activity. This could be his way of keeping you occupied while he is tending to the other relationship.

9. Mutual Friends Act Differently: Your cheating guy might have not hid his secret from his friends if they are more loyal towards him. They might not talk as much as before, or they may try to avoid seeing you altogether since they do not want to be caught in the middle of having your heart broken.

10. Your Intuition: If you are looking for the signs he is cheating on you or asking yourself “Is My Man Cheating on Me”, then chances are you already know the answer. Our bodies are hard wired to sense these kinds of things – yet most of us choose to ignore and deny them. If you feel suspicious, there’s a good reason for it.

"Keeping The Passion Alive For Married Couples"

Red! Hot! Married Couples!

Some regular commentors have mentioned that Americans rail against their "puritanical" mindsets by delving into pornography, going to strip clubs, or seeking escapism in romantic movies that glorify extramarital sex. Certainly these forms of "entertainment" do go against the express puritanical ethic -- they send the clear message that "Sex is FUN! Sex is HOT! ... oh, but only if it's with someone other than your spouse." The word "puritan," used as a pejorative to express a conservative sexual ethic, is typically enough to make anyone shudder. Salem, anyone?

In reality, the Puritans of New England were encouraged to enjoy sex, as long as it was within the boundaries of marriage. In fact, if spouses did not live up to their marital "obligations," they could be punished by the church; marriages could even be disavowed. So hell yeah, the Puritans were *all* about having sex.

The Puritans were all about the family, too, where women played a dominant role. A man could be a man all he liked out in the fields, sowing crops or chopping down lumber, but he left his pants at the door of the family home, where his wife was Big Boss. Sounds like a fair deal to me.But getting back to the sex thing.

Again, I think about modern media, especially film. Do you ever see any movies that make married sex seem hot and exciting? If you can find one film, please let me know, because I've racked my pea brain and can't come up with one shining example. On the other hand, I can count on my fingers and toes movies -- big blockbusters -- that make the extramarital affair glisten like unholy gold."The English Patient," whoa!

That movie sizzled, didn't it? Count Laszlo de Almásy (Ralph Fiennes), a Hungarian mapmaker, goes bonkers over sexy, married Katherine (Kristin Scott Thomas) in Africa just prior to WWII. Her husband, Geoffrey (Colin Firth), is an affable enough chap, but apparently the lust of the loins wins over congeniality, and the Count and Katherine are fucking in bathtubs, on bed tops, in the middle of parties, until they finally fly off together in a teensy plane to go to some cave.

The movie visually astute at portraying the alternately hostile-tender interactions between the Count and Katherine, but you, the viewer, really wonder, why does she love him so much? He didn't exactly insist that she get a divorce so that he could marry her, did he? In the end, Katherine dies. So does the Count. "The End of the Affair," another WWII period film. Ralph Fiennes again, as hot novelist Maurice Bendrix, falls for sexy Sarah Miles (Julianne Moore), who is married to Maurice's friend Henry (Stephen Rea).

If you can get over the "ick" factor resulting from this humongous betrayal of man against best friend, you can sit through the movie. Again, there's the unexplained possessive and -- dare I say it? -- obsessive attraction between Maurice and Sarah, but you never quite know why it exists; certainly they don't seem to really love each other; they are merely ships passing in the night.

And you never know why, either, Sarah chose to marry a man for whom she has only tepid feelings of friendship at best. In the end, Sarah dies too. The closest thing we get to portraying marriage as a positive institution is found in the movie "Fatal Attraction." Michael Douglas is family man/asshole Dan Gallagher, who takes the opportunity to seriously boink the living daylights out of a sexy, single work colleague, Alex Forrest (Glenn Close), while wifey's away visiting her folks.

I don't need to tell you the ending, but just in case you've been living under a rock, Alex dies. There's a hint that there might have been marital mischief at some point in the past when Dan, feeling remorseful for the affair, gazes lovingly at his wife Beth (Anne Archer) as she's brushing her hand and slapping on face cream. He tenderly sneaks his hand between her legs and she ... giggles.

I guess that it would have invoked too big of an "Ewww!" factor to show Dan boinking the living daylights out of his wife, too. She was his Madonna, the perfect wife and mother. You don't boink the Madonna. The crown jewel of all creepily obsessive lust movies has to be "Wuthering Heights," based on the book by Emily Bronte. The original film featured Merle Oberon as Cathy and Laurence Olivier as Heathcliff, with a bemused-looking David Niven trailing cast as emotional cuckhold Edgar Linton.

There's no "sex" onscreen, but we know what Cathy and Heath cliff were doing in those stables, don't we, kids? Heathcliff storms off after being rejected by Cathy only to return years later, richer than God, to find her happily married. He then proceeds to make the rest of her brief life hell, never failing to rub in the fact that she had the gall to -- gasp! -- marry someone else. Because Cathy's a silly git, she accepts this shitty treatment. She loves Linton, we know that because she tells him over and over.

Obviously in a sexually nonthreatening way, or else they would have had a passel of brats running around. In the end, Cathy dies not in her husband's arms, but in Heathcliff's. And he's still whining and railing at her until the end. She's such a silly git, in fact, that even her *ghost* comes back to haunt him. A novelist friend of mine defines "Wuthering Heights" as an exercise in pure sadomasochism. Oh -- I did mention that Cathy dies, right?By the way, Ralph Fiennes was Heathcliff in the remake of "Wuthering Heights."

Gives a true meaning to the word "typecast," doesn't it? There's my favorite horror flick, "What Lies Beneath." Harrison Ford and Michelle Pfeiffer are Norman and Claire Spencer, a couple whose marriage is unknowingly tarnished by his affair. The Other Woman, Madison (Amber Valletta), was bonked over the head by Henry and fed to the fishes, so she's already dead. But because the Other Woman always tells, she comes back to "tell" Claire in her own creepy-nasty, otherworldly, Other Womanly way.

There's one smokin' sex scene between Henry and Claire during which time her body is possessed by Madison. It involves an apple. Guess if you take the wife out of the body, the body's finally good to go. When I first saw "When a Man Loves a Woman," I thought, okay, finally. Michael Green (Andy Garcia), an airline pilot, indulges in a bit of role-play by pretending to pick up wife Alice (Meg Ryan) in a bar. There are some fun, sexy scenes between the two. But alas, Alice is a consummate drunk. Nobody in the film dies, but after Alice goes sober, she turns into a bitter, frigid Ms.

No Fun who divorces poor Michael for no good reason other than he "just doesn't get her." Is the message here is that your spouse is only fuckable when you're wearing beer goggles? I can tell you what I'd do if I were married to a guy who looked like Andy Garcia, and alcohol would not be necessary.Do people really think that married couples don't have red hot sex? I can assure you, they do. I have. In fact, that's the *only* time I have.

That's what you're supposed to be doing, you're supposed to be going at it as much as you can, in all positions, anyplace, anytime. You can get away with the most extravagant shit when you're married, too -- ask a certain police officer who happened to stumble across a certain green Porsche that was parked along a dark highway. There's a certain liberation to being married that permits you to cast away inhibition. You don't feel so greebly if you ask your spouse if he wants to, oh, maybe watch a little porn that night. Or "try out" the new chopping block. When another couple calls to ask you if you want to meet them for dinner, you can say, "That's nice of you to ask, but tonight's 'Twister' night, if you know what I mean. Maybe another time?" They'll understand.

The only time sex is boring in a marriage is when you're not getting it. Married sex is hot, but it's hot because it is also tender; it has its foundation in "forever yours." There's a permanence you feel in your lover's arms, knowing -- even though it might not turn out to be true -- that person is also the one and only residing in your heart.

Knowing that no one else will ever own you in that particular way. The feeling that the two of you are unique, and that your exclusivity makes you so. Puritanical? Maybe. Pure? Yesssss! No movie made could ever depict that.

"Increase Sexual Stamina For a Better Sexual Life"

Sexual Health Secrets Special Report For Men

Dear Friend,

Did You Know that most women have several elaborate fantasies about meeting a man who will give her a hot, wild night of intense lasting passion?

Oh They May Not Openly Admit it, But It's True.

And the only way for her to feel free to express this wild side of her is for you to bring it out in the bedroom with your own physical prowess.

Why do you think new romance novels show up on grocery store shelves every week or every month?

Why does cosmo magazine always seem to have "hot tips" about how to "make your man want top lease you", in almost every issue?Think about it. Women are always craving a powerful eroticexperience, they just need you to bring it out of her.

The Hidden desire that almost all women have - Which Is To Be Lead Through a Powerful, Passionate Experience - has been around for a long time (thousands to milions of years),and it isn't going away anytime soon.

Going all the way back to the early days of humankind, women have always been more attracted to men with high sex drives, because it increases our chances for survival AND adds a higher level of intensity and intimacy to the whole sexual experience.

These days, however,our technological advancements have had a hidden, dark side effect that almost nobody talks about.

Most men have become lazy because machines do most of our survival work for us.
Our modern diets are so filled with quick-fix junk that most have come to believe that we can deprive ourselves of good foods and still function normally.

It isn't until there's a serious problem with our sex drive that we start to wonder.
These poor habits,combined with a massive daily bombardment of misinformation, garbage supplements, prescription drugs with dangerous side effects, useless magazines, and diet fads, have all taken a massive toll on our sex drives.

Because of this, Most men are TERRIBLE at taking care of their health, and are PHYSICALLY UNABLE to please a woman in the way that she so desperately needs.

How many times do you hear about women complaining that their man can only last for a few minutes in the bedroom?

All too often.

And yet how often do you hear about any REAL ANSWERS that truly get to the heart of the solutions tothis problem?

Keep reading, it get's even more interesting.
Here are some quick points to consider take note of.
Fact. Most Women lead lives of quiet desperation, wishing for a man with real sexual prowess to completely ravish her with immense passion for what seems like hours on end.

Fact. Because such a man is so rare, some women have honestly given upon the idea of finding a man with the physical prowess and stamina to have her completely screaming with pleasure. It's a sad reality, but it does not have to be this way.Fact. If you boost up your sexual abilities from a deep level (i'm talking physically and mentally, here), you'll be able to please your woman more powerfully than any other man, no matter what techniques you use.

If You Have A Powerful Sex Drive, Almost Anything You Do In the Bedroom Will Create An Enormously Pleasurable Experience For Her.

Imagine the powerful advantage you will have over other men when your woman runs off to tell all of her friends about the wild nights in bed she had with YOU, and NOT anyone else. Don't worry, Even if the word gets out and this book becomes semi-famous, most guys are simply too lazy to put what they learn into action;

But I know YOU will, and because of this YOU will have the advantage.
Women Love to Gossip and talk to each other about all of the juicy details of their sexual encounters with their boyfriends and husbands.

And something very interesting and "under-the-radar" occurs while these women are talking to each other about these experiences.

It's something that all of the women know is happening, but may not ever admit it, even to each other, because it's almost too taboo.

So What is this dirty littlesecret?

A Woman becomes more sexually attracted to a man whenever one of her friends brags about how good he is in bed.

It's True.

And You can be that man - IF you are willing to solve your own sexual dysfunctions first, and then move on to boosting your sex drive.On that Note, Check This Out....Did you know that it's possible to solve practically any sexual dysfunction, and have an amazing sex life, at any age, using very economical all natural methods that do not involve drugs or surgery?

It's True.And while in cases of serious sexual health problems, there is no suitable replacement for a qualified medical doctor, for most intelligent reasonable people like yourself, a few simple techniques can DRAMATICALLY boost up sexual performance and stamina, all while maintaining sexual health for long term success in relationships.

"Hot Tips About Kissing"

Kissing Explained A first kiss should always be done while the two of you are alone. This will help to avoid any unnecessary nervousness and embarrassing situations. The best type of kiss is one that uses different variations... such as starting with a small kiss, working into a French Kiss, maybe sucking on your partner's upper or lower lip...

And don't just leave kisses to the lips. Kiss their cheeks, their chin or their eyelids. This can be very seductive and romantic.

Basic Kissing Tips Great Breath - This is very important. Make sure you brush your teeth before going out on your date. There is nothing worse than kissing someone with bad breath.

If your date consists of having something to eat before the actual kiss, make sure you have a mint on hand to take right after you finish eating. Don't take the mint just before the kiss or chew on gum. You don't want to have something in your mouth when you kiss. Moist Lips - You want your lips to be slightly moist when you kiss. Run your tongue over your lips once before you kiss. Don't wear lip gloss because that tends to make the kiss too gooey.

And don't wear a lot of lipstick unless you want your partner to wear it too after the kiss. Slightly moist lips makes it easier to move your lips over your partner's and gives both you and your partner a more pleasant experience.

Positioning - Stand close to your partner. As the two of you move closer together tilt your head slightly. If you can see which way your partner's head is tilting, tilt your head slightly in the opposite direction.

Close Eyes - Just before your lips meet, close your eyes. Some people prefer to leave their eyes open during the kiss. But until you know what your partner prefers, it is best to close your eyes.

Open Lips - Open your mouth slightly and place your lips over your partner's lips. Do not hold your breath! Breath through your nose. As your lips meet, press them gently over your partner's. You may wish to move your lips in a slow, circular motion or just leave them still over your partners.

Closed Lips - This is like the type of kiss you'd give your grandma or aunt. Instead of opening your mouth when your lips meet, keep them closed. This is also a good way of letting your partner know this is as far as it goes. It also makes a great hello/good-bye kiss or a great first time kiss if you're nervous.

French Kissing This is the most popular type of kiss. This involves touching your tongue with your partner's and it can be quite a pleasant experience. There are a few tips to create a great french kiss.

Open Lips - Open your lips over your partner's slightly more than you would during a regular kiss. This makes it easier to place your tongue in your partner's mouth. Tongue - Place the tip of your tongue on the tip of your partner's tongue. Do not force your tongue too far into their mouth. If you wish, you can play with their tongue by circling theirs with your own. Have fun with it. Explore.

Lips - You may explore different ways of using your tongue. Try running the tip of your tongue over your partner's lips. Do this slowly and gently, just using the tip of your tongue.

Suck Kissing This can be a very seductive type of kiss. Instead of French Kissing with your mouth open, while your partner's lips are parted suck on their top our bottom lip with your own, just for a second or two. Then go back to another type of kiss or try the other lip.

Nip Kissing This type of kiss has to be done carefully, but when done correctly can create a wonderful effect on your date. While suck kissing, gently bite their lip, but be VERY gentle so as not to hurt your date / partner. This kiss should only be done with someone that you've kissed a few times before, otherwise you may shock your partner.

Surprise Kissing This type of kiss is done when your partner is lying down on a sofa or the ground, either asleep or just lying with their eyes closed. Quietly approach your partner and place a small, very gentle kiss on their lips. Intensify the kiss until your partner opens their eyes or awakens.

"The One Secret that Will Make Mr. Right Fall Madly in Love with You"

Let your emotional and sensual, not sexual, side to seal your bond of love with Mr. Right. You may be with a good catch who might just be your perfect match. You're wildly attracted to him, and the short-term reward of spending the night in his arms outweighs the reward of having protected your feelings by postponing sexual intimacy. If you can take the time to look ahead to the future, you'll find it easier to wait.

The decision to postpone physical intimacy doesn't mean rejecting your sexuality altogether. It does mean, however, choosing not to act on every sexual impulse. Postponing sexual intimacy allows sensuality to come to the forefront. Connecting with another person first on an emotional and sensual rather than merely physical level builds a stronger, more intimate foundation. It's the wise woman who bonds with a man emotionally, spiritually and intellectually before allowing a sexual bond to grow.

Participating in hobbies or other common interests gives intimacy a chance to grow. For instance, being aware of each other's presence as you prepare dinner together offers a chance to become used to being close by each other. Physical activities such as dancing, sports, or working out let you enjoy your chemistry while allowing you to grow closer emotionally. Board games and video games are another opportunity to enjoy each other's company at a safe and enjoyable pace.

These courtship rituals are preparation for the deeper levels of intimacy, and they allow you to feel safe because the relationship isn't racing ahead to sex before you're truly ready for it. Being present emotionally for the other person on a level appropriate to the depth of the relationship brings you closer as well. For instance, giving a man your full attention when he speaks allows him the intimacy of being himself in your presence.

Clearing the deck of sex keeps you in the present moment. Becoming sexual with a new flame takes your emotional energy away from the developing emotional side of your relationship and redirects that energy toward your sex life. Becoming sexual too soon means you haven't given yourself enough time to see how the emotional part of your relationship will develop. Becoming sexual too soon means that you're racing ahead, putting things first that should follow the emotional intimacy you two share.

When you clear the deck of sex, you get to know your new Mr. Right a day at a time. You'll feel safer and more protected, which will allow you to enjoy your new love affair. You won't project needs and desires that are inappropriate to the emotional pace of your relationship. You won't be risking your all - your emotional and physical boundaries - for someone who may be just a close runner up in your search for your soul mate. If you postpone sexual intimacy, you'll be able to see those red flags or other areas that need addressing, and you'll be able to smooth the way toward a solid foundation for a life together.

If you engage in sex too soon, you'll overlook what isn't working because you've bonded yourself so closely to him. When you let emotional intimacy grow, sex is no longer just sex. When you share a deep, emotional connection before you become sexual with him, having sex becomes making love. You won't just be acting on your attraction to each other. Instead, you'll be sharing the physical expression of the love you share. When you are willing to allow your love to grow at a pace that protects you, you'll discover that your physical bond will reflect your emotional bond. You'll discover what it means to make love with your soul mate.

Not every man chooses to rush into sex. Instead, the man interested in marrying you will choose to court you and see where your relationship is headed. He's the type of man who'll withstand the screening process. Want to find out who he is? Then say "no" to sex. It's that simple. Because the man who remains interested respects you and likes you for who you are, and a relationship with him is therefore worth exploring. A woman with a high level of self-worth has the self-control to wait until both the relationship and the time are right before going to the next level.

How To French Kiss

“A kiss is a wonderful trick devised by nature to stop speech when words become superficial”. Ingrid Bergman was not wrong when he said this! Nothing in this world can beat the joy of being kissed by one’s beloved. It becomes all the more special if it is a first kiss. Quite many people hesitate in taking the kiss to the “next level”. Either they just don’t know how to do it, or they are simply scared.

The “French Kiss” as it is popularly known, requires a bit of tact and presence of mind. One must know how to kiss without messing up too much. All set to become a great “French Kisser”? Check out these tips and techniques, which when kept in mind will make French kissing all the more passionate and enjoyable.

The surrounding is of utmost importance. You wouldn’t want to stand on a street and start a passionate kiss, only to be interrupted by stares and worse, honking of vehicles! Agreed, the moment might come anytime, anywhere. But it is worth waiting for a few more minutes and finding a secluded and relaxed spot so that both of you are at ease.

Your hands must be embracing your partner in a passionate hug. Don’t let them rest on your partner or hang them by your side. It is rude and your partner might feel you are not interested in the kiss. A man usually holds the woman by the waist, while the woman may wrap around her arms around his shoulders or softly around the neck.

Begin softly, kiss gently, not too firm and not too aggressive. Let the passion build up slowly. It is always better to close your eyes to loose yourself completely in the kiss rather than the surroundings. Once both of you have warmed up, it is time to go to the next level.

Women usually prefer men to make the first move. So, after a long, slow kiss, gently nudge open her mouth with your tongue to explore. If she hesitates, pull back a little and start again. To relax her, you can always take her face in your hands and gently caress her cheeks.
Make sure you know the difference between passionate and aggressive kiss. Don’t do anything that might make the other person squeal! Let your tongue do the magic, not your teeth!

A French kiss is usually “wetter” than other kisses, so don’t forget to swallow saliva if it builds up. You need not pull back from the kiss; you can do it in-between while kissing. In case you really want to pull back, don’t hesitate.

Don’t pull away abruptly when you feel the kiss is over. Your partner may not feel correct. So, stop kissing gradually and pull away from the face slowly. Don’t let go of the embrace as both of you might need it after a passionate kiss! If you or your partner wants to kiss again, smile and gently bring your face forward to indicate the same.

What Do Women Want? Learn the Little Known Qualities Which Every Woman Wants in Her Man

So what do women want? This is the question which has been raised time and again but the true answer is not known yet. Do women want money? Do they desire looks? What is it exactly that women want? Read on to discover some of the little known qualities every woman desires in her man.

Looks don't count- Looking good does not always have to be exceptionally good looking but looking neat and presentable. As long as you are neat and presentable any woman would be happy to initiate a conversation with you. Therefore the age old myth that looks count is only a myth and not a fact.

Do you always pour your heart out- Well it can be good if you are talking to someone who is flooded with emotions but women like men who are mysterious and are hard to figure. If you are an open book and tell the story of your life on the very first conversation you have with any woman than forget about getting a date and work on your attitude.

Are you emotionally ill? - Some guys are very high on emotions and look for female company just to satisfy their emotional needs to be around a woman. Women always try their best to stay away from such men. Yes women are emotional but the do not prefer men who are emotional specially cry babies.

How much control can you practice? - Women like a man who can control them and the situation and behave like a true leader. You don't want to fall into the nice guy category as they are the most used and abused one's when it comes to dating. Learn to stay in total control and don't let her dominate. Remember if she dominates you she gets the power to dump you.

Tell stories and draw her in- Women love men who are good at communication specially the one's who are great with story telling and can keep them entertained. Communication is an extremely essential part and women prefer men who can talk and talk some sense. Not all men are blessed with this power but you can easily master it with time and practice. Make it a point to read and listen as much as possible. Study the way other people talk and dictate and try to follow the same.