No Offense To Feminism, But Some Women DO Need A Man

Girl Talk: What If You DO Need A Man?


“Some women are just happier in a relationship.”

As my shrink said this, my jaw dropped to the floor. Did she really just say that? The woman who had feminist literature on her bookshelf and never failed to induce a pep rally of self-empowerment at the end of each session?

We were, of course, discussing (OK fine, I was complaining) about my lack of a boyfriend, and inability to get over some of the ones I did have. For me, I surmised from my psychotherapy high horse, the issue was about loneliness and, therefore, about some childhood father complex. I thought I sounded smart; it seemed like something my psychiatrist would say herself.

But her response was both jarring and a relief. Some women are just happier in a relationship. Huh? Isn’t the modern woman supposed to be totally amazing on her own? But at the same time, the tension in my heart unclenched as I considered the phrase that potentially answered all of my romantic issues.

Was I one of those women? And do they really exist? Looking back, I began to think it might be true. When in committed relationships, I was happier. When single, I was depressed. Perhaps this was chance, but I realized that I took better care of my life with a boyfriend by my side. I kept things cleaner to show respect for his presence in my living space. I bathed more often and took care of my acne-prone skin.

I dug up a paper I wrote during my senior year of college when I was living with the man I planned (at the time) to marry. Based on Daniel Miller’s A Theory of Shopping, I had explored the author’s hypothesis that purchasing could be motivated by love, and proved it by shamelessly charting a week’s worth of my purchases. At the time, the list was comedic (I had a friendship with my very giving professor). But now looking at my list, I see a zeal and motivation I don’t always find in my life now. In buying skim milk, bran cereal, flax bread, I was taking pride in eating healthy. With the new dishes and wine glasses, I added sophistication to our home. I recalled feeling satisfied and grown up when we began enjoying food on matching plates and not drinking Pinot Grigio out of mugs.

When I recently asked my friends about this idea of “being better with a man” or “needing a man,” a good handful of them confirmed this belief. (Definitely not all, mind you.) One said, “I’m more organized, in control, and positive when I’m receiving male attention ... a relationship is enough to keep me motivated and excited.” Another friend, Olivia, told me, “In a relationship, I have someone else to answer to. There is another person who is close enough to me to know when I’m being lazy or not living up to my potential, so that pushes me to actually be more active.”

For Olivia and me, efforts of self-sufficiency outside of relationships can sometimes fall short, or more often, turn into faking that whole “I’m an awesome single woman” thing. And I’m sorry, I do know that I’m awesome, but getting there is exhausting. I’m not saying this is everyone, but that perhaps there are women—and men!—who need sex with trust, or who rely on spouses for friendship rather than large social networks. And perhaps “needing a man” is an indication of the more basic human instinct—not for reproduction, but for companionship.

The idea still doesn’t sit right with me as someone who has put so much energy into making me happy. But, then again, there’s a lot to say for someone who chooses to be happy. Even if it means the choice includes a man.

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Are you someone who needs someone to be happy? If not, why not?If so, how so?

"Do Men Usually Lie?"

MEN NEED TO LIE

"Do you think she's prettier than me?"

"Does this dress make my butt look big?"

"Were you staring at that woman's chest?"

Dishonesty. It can erode the fabric of even the strongest relationship. But there are times when a man is put in a position where he really has to lie. It's the only choice. And why does he have to lie? Because women ask stupid questions.

Practice with me, boys. "No one is prettier than you, sweetie." That's all you have to say. It doesn't matter if you really secretly DO think Heidi Klum is ten times more beautiful than the woman you're with...if you want to avoid a lifetime of suffering, you will just say what she wants to hear. If she doesn't want you to lie, she shouldn't have put you in that position in the first place.

In all my time on this planet, I've never had a man ask me

A stupid question like that. I imagine if he did ask me if a pair of pants made his butt look big and I said yes, he'd simply go change pants. He wouldn't hold it against me for the next four years or take it as a sign that I no longer love him. He asked me a question, I gave him the answer, he solved the problem.

Men can be kind of...logical and rational that way.

A woman, on the other hand, does these things for approval. YOUR approval. She is feeling a little insecure for one reason or another and she's looking for you to reassure her that you still find her beautiful. It's not that she wants you to lie, it's that she wants you to compliment her. Which sucks, but that's the way it is. You choose to be with us, so this is what you're stuck with.

Just so you know, women, your little needy questions make you less appealing to the man you're with. Men are drawn to confidence. If you shove your booty into those size sevens and strut around with pride, he won't even notice your butt is bulging out all over the place. Because YOU think you're beautiful, he'll see you as beautiful.

Interesting how that works.

Then there are the things you men say that are just...not wise. "Wowzer. Look at the hoo-hoos on that broad." Any woman who has ever been a "hottie" in her life knows what you men do when your woman isn't looking. You're checking out other women. We know you do it. It's human nature. But it's just wise to try to make it a little less obvious to us. Trust me on this, men. Some of you are NOT subtle. I always feel kind of bad for the woman who is walking through the mall, holding her husband's hand and talking merrily away, while all the while he's staring at another woman and paying not a single bit of attention to a word she's saying.
Just be subtle, boys. That's all we're asking.

So...what do you think? Are little white lies in a relationship deceptive or...necessary?

"Increase Sexual Stamina For a Better Sexual Life"

Sexual Health Secrets Special Report For Men

Dear Friend,

Did You Know that most women have several elaborate fantasies about meeting a man who will give her a hot, wild night of intense lasting passion?

Oh They May Not Openly Admit it, But It's True.

And the only way for her to feel free to express this wild side of her is for you to bring it out in the bedroom with your own physical prowess.

Why do you think new romance novels show up on grocery store shelves every week or every month?

Why does cosmo magazine always seem to have "hot tips" about how to "make your man want top lease you", in almost every issue?Think about it. Women are always craving a powerful eroticexperience, they just need you to bring it out of her.

The Hidden desire that almost all women have - Which Is To Be Lead Through a Powerful, Passionate Experience - has been around for a long time (thousands to milions of years),and it isn't going away anytime soon.

Going all the way back to the early days of humankind, women have always been more attracted to men with high sex drives, because it increases our chances for survival AND adds a higher level of intensity and intimacy to the whole sexual experience.

These days, however,our technological advancements have had a hidden, dark side effect that almost nobody talks about.

Most men have become lazy because machines do most of our survival work for us.
Our modern diets are so filled with quick-fix junk that most have come to believe that we can deprive ourselves of good foods and still function normally.

It isn't until there's a serious problem with our sex drive that we start to wonder.
These poor habits,combined with a massive daily bombardment of misinformation, garbage supplements, prescription drugs with dangerous side effects, useless magazines, and diet fads, have all taken a massive toll on our sex drives.

Because of this, Most men are TERRIBLE at taking care of their health, and are PHYSICALLY UNABLE to please a woman in the way that she so desperately needs.

How many times do you hear about women complaining that their man can only last for a few minutes in the bedroom?

All too often.

And yet how often do you hear about any REAL ANSWERS that truly get to the heart of the solutions tothis problem?

Keep reading, it get's even more interesting.
Here are some quick points to consider take note of.
Fact. Most Women lead lives of quiet desperation, wishing for a man with real sexual prowess to completely ravish her with immense passion for what seems like hours on end.

Fact. Because such a man is so rare, some women have honestly given upon the idea of finding a man with the physical prowess and stamina to have her completely screaming with pleasure. It's a sad reality, but it does not have to be this way.Fact. If you boost up your sexual abilities from a deep level (i'm talking physically and mentally, here), you'll be able to please your woman more powerfully than any other man, no matter what techniques you use.

If You Have A Powerful Sex Drive, Almost Anything You Do In the Bedroom Will Create An Enormously Pleasurable Experience For Her.

Imagine the powerful advantage you will have over other men when your woman runs off to tell all of her friends about the wild nights in bed she had with YOU, and NOT anyone else. Don't worry, Even if the word gets out and this book becomes semi-famous, most guys are simply too lazy to put what they learn into action;

But I know YOU will, and because of this YOU will have the advantage.
Women Love to Gossip and talk to each other about all of the juicy details of their sexual encounters with their boyfriends and husbands.

And something very interesting and "under-the-radar" occurs while these women are talking to each other about these experiences.

It's something that all of the women know is happening, but may not ever admit it, even to each other, because it's almost too taboo.

So What is this dirty littlesecret?

A Woman becomes more sexually attracted to a man whenever one of her friends brags about how good he is in bed.

It's True.

And You can be that man - IF you are willing to solve your own sexual dysfunctions first, and then move on to boosting your sex drive.On that Note, Check This Out....Did you know that it's possible to solve practically any sexual dysfunction, and have an amazing sex life, at any age, using very economical all natural methods that do not involve drugs or surgery?

It's True.And while in cases of serious sexual health problems, there is no suitable replacement for a qualified medical doctor, for most intelligent reasonable people like yourself, a few simple techniques can DRAMATICALLY boost up sexual performance and stamina, all while maintaining sexual health for long term success in relationships.

"True Beauty"

BEAUTY is not based on how attractive we are to everybody else, but how attractive we are to ourselves, for one cannot think other people think they are full of beauty unless they know they are beautiful too. I believe the personality and the soul is what makes a person beautiful,it does not always have to be the physical appearance. Sometimes the best guy isn't always the hottest guy or the richest... sometimes he's the ugliest or the poorest. Don't go through life wearing shutters,learn to take them off. Beauty has to take a back seat to whatever else may lie in your heart. Sometimes love or something like it takes a form such as a thought across the internet. Real beauty is the beauty of soul and Beauty is like a tree; it grows from the inside out.. Try to put that in your heads.

"How to Get Men Eating Out of Your Hands"

Well, we all know that big breasts mesmerize men, and for those women who are small-chested, this is a very unfair situation! Of course,nowadays rich women are able to afford the thousands of pounds it costs to have surgery to increase the size of their breasts. But that just makes it even more unfair, doesn't it?

How can an ordinary woman compete with the pictures of huge celebrity boobs which are plasteredall over women's magazines? And that's not even counting the thousands of magazines for men with pages and pages of breast photos.

Sometimes it seems that every day and in every way, normal women are made to feel inadequate and your self-esteem just goes down and down, doesn't it? So, what's the answer then? Well, a quiet little revolution is going on behind the scenes and now thousands of women are getting to know about the new herbal combinations that, ' fool', your body into creating more breast tissue, as happens when a woman is pregnant.




This quite naturally increases the size of your breasts and makes them more dense and firm to the touch! You won't see these products advertised in lavish advertising campaigns that cost millions of pounds to convince people to part with thousands of pounds, because it's not necessary!

They are being sold online by highly reputable specialist stores, who are happy to rely on 'word of mouth' personal recommendations from thousands and thousands of satisfied women, (and their husbands!). There is no health risk, because all of the ingredients are natural.

The product is manufactured to a very strict protocol and is tested and checked by all of the necessary government procedures. There is no financial risk, because all of the available products carry a 100% money back guarantee if you are not delighted with your new shapely, breasts.

Therefore,as we all know, if you want to get men eating out of your hand you just need to have a 'good pair of boobs'. How to get them? Just treat yourself to a surprisingly cheap course of treatment. After all, what have you got to lose?

How to Make Yourself Irresistible to Men

Have you ever wondered why some women never seem to be able to find or hold on to one man while some others attract men wherever they go-school, work, church, parks, grocery stores…even the vet's office-and never seem to have a shortage of them? Do you think some women are natural born man magnets and others are man repellents?

The truth of the matter is some women simply have a nearly infallible ability to attract men. Some women have this ability naturally. But there's no need to despair if you aren't one of those lucky ladies, because any woman can be taught how to make herself irresistible to men.

The Difference Between What Men and Women Want From Relationships

There is an old saying that men use love to get sex and women use sex to get love. There is definitely truth in that old adage. Men and typically, at least at the beginning of a relationship, want very different things. Most single heterosexual women want to be in a healthy, permanent, committed and monogamous relationship with a man who treats her like a goddess and loves her relentlessly. On the other hand, most single heterosexual men want to avoid commitment at all costs, and want to go out and have fun (i.e., sex) with as many attractive, sexy, uninhibited women as they possible. Are you beginning to envision women with nets chasing after men who are running for their freedom?

Obviously, this presents a dilemma. Fortunately, it is not an insurmountable one. Most men eventually come around to actually desiring to be in a committed relationship at one point (using just as their hairlines begin to noticeably recede). Some men become good husband material and get ready to settle down sooner than others, and some, of course, never do. But that's alright, there's no point in wasting your time, effort or energy on men who don't share your relationship objectives. Think of managing relationships as a business; avoid markets that have no potential for profitability.

What Men Want In A Woman (Besides A Nymphomaniac)

You might think that you'd need to look like a supermodel to attract a man. Fortunately, this is not true, or there'd be a lot of average- and less-than-average-looking women who wouldn't have a snowball's chance in you know where of ever landing a man. But the truth of the matter is a lot of women who would never be crowned Miss America (or even be named a runner up) are blissfully in love with men who love them deeply and passionately. Be assured that regardless of what you look like you can experience the love and romance you desire and enjoy a wonderfully fulfilling relationship with a man who will love you for the rest of your life.

So what do men want in a woman?

Men want a woman they can love, cherish and respect, and who will love, cherish and respect them back. Men want a woman who exudes confidence. Men want a woman who thinks she's all that because she is all that. Men want a woman whose inner beauty eclipses her outward appearance. Men want a woman who knows who she is, and who is comfortable in her own skin. Men want a woman who loves them unconditionally, who respects them immensely, who has eyes only for him and who satisfies him sexually.

In other words, men want a woman who they can respect and be proud of, and who makes him feel like the smartest, most handsome, sexiest, most virile man alive! What will ultimately make a man fall in love with you (and stay in love with you) is how you make him feel about himself.

How to Make Yourself irresistible to men

Now that you know what men really want in a woman, you can do what it takes to make yourself irresistible to the men you find desirable.

Here's what you need to do to make yourself irresistible to the men you're interested in romancing:

-Be approachable.
-Be generous with your warm smile.
-Let your pleasing personality shine through.
-Share your contagious sense of humor with him.
-Accentuate your best features.
-Where clothing that flatters your figure.
-Let your every action and movement reflect your intelligence, poise, charm, integrity, grace and confidence.
-Treat your man like the king he is.
-Tell your man how much you love, cherish, adore, respect, need and value him.
-Be sexually adventurous, uninhibited and insatiable

These strategies will help you become as attractive to men as honey is to bees. Go ahead and implement them, and enjoy the love and romance you so richly deserve!

Are you the Type of Woman that Men Desire?

Figuring out what men really desire is never easy, since men come in different variations. However, regardless of what category a man falls in, there are standard things that every man is looking for in a woman. Are you the type of woman that men dream about being with? We all want to be an object of desire- the kind of woman that men talk about, dream about and long to be with. We all want to be chased and admired by men and to be appreciated, respected and admired for our existence, appearance, personality and accomplishments.
So what do men really desire in a woman and are you that woman? Well, the first and most important thing to remember is to:

Be Real- be who you really are, rather than try to be what you think you should be or who you think people want you to be. It is easy to sense a real person from an artificial one and one of the main turn offs for a man is a woman who is not herself and gives off a fake vibe.

Have Confidence: Nothing is more attractive to a man than a woman who is confident and feels comfortable and happy in her skin. A woman who feels good about herself is a woman most likely with a good head on her shoulders, rational, focused and has good direction in life. If a woman does not have confidence in herself, then a man feels and sees no reason to have confidence in either and he will not want to invest his time and effort in a woman he will have to baby sit emotionally all the time.

Dress Fashionably: Wearing the most expensive apparel is not the most important thing to a man, but it is important that a woman keep up with her appearances. A woman who dresses sharply comes off as a woman who is successful and who treats herself with love and respect and therefore a man will not want to do less for her either- he will love and respect you too. So be sure to keep yourself updated with fashion and keep yourself well groomed. This will not only draw men to you, but you will also feel good about yourself- which is the first priority before you please anyone else! And remember, dress sexy, but classy as well- and always leave something to the imagination.

Express Intellect - Being desirable to a man is not just about having a pretty face or shapely figure. A woman with intelligence is important to and a man wants to be with a woman who will have something to talk about and who will teach him new things, just as he will teach you new things. Everyone is unique and has their own personal talents and areas of higher intelligence than others- so be sure to express that side of yourself to prove that you do have the whole package- an attractive appearance along with other intellectual surprises. Share your hobbies, share things you have learned through your life experiences and show what he has been missing out on before he met you!

Be Sweet and Feminine - Okay, today women are more independent and career oriented, but that does not mean we should have to give up and forget our feminine roots. Women are delicate creatures after all- we are sweet and giving and it is important for a man to see these qualities in a woman. It is not weak to show a man that you are sweet and care taking- after all, this is the type of woman a man dreams coming home to- someone who will lovingly welcome him home with a sweet feminine smile and take care of him. Never lose your special feminine roots- show him your sweet and romantic side.

Tell him what you want - It is understandable that you want a man who will treat you beautifully without you having to give him directions- and you should never lower your standards when it comes to this. However, you also have to remember that men cannot read minds and let’s face- we women are emotionally unpredictable creatures and are not always easy to read. Men love it when a woman has the strength and confidence to tell him what she wants. Men want to please women, sp do not be afraid to open up and let him know what it is important to you.

Stay Glamorous - This does not mean that you should walk on eggshells and worry about your looks all the time. You should feel secure enough in your relationship to know that even when you are not made up, your man will still adore you and will not look at other women. However, this does not mean you should let yourself go and not care about the things that were once important to you. Relationship usually start going downhill when one or both partners stop caring about the little things, such as dressing up for each other, little romantic gestures and so on. So, remember the little things and always keep your self-confidence in tune by taking care of yourself- and your partner will automatically keep admiring you!

Like Your Body - Men love a woman who loves her body. A woman who walks around feeling good about her body and knowing that her body is beautiful is incredibly sexy to a man and make him curious and eager to get to know that woman. So be sure to build your physical confidence and focus on bringing out your best features. Nobody is prefect- everyone has flaws, but that does not mean that you should advertise your flaws. Get to know yourself and find your strong physical points and bring them out for the world to see and admire. If there are parts of your body that you believe could use some help, then do something about rather than complain.

Finding the right necktie for him

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Although it may be expensive, a great necktie may just be the key to winning your dream date. Discount mens neckties exist for just this purpose. So, how do you recognize a discount mens tie?

Some unrecognized fashion designers attach popular logos to their ties and place them on Internet sites or in stores for sale at a price that would surprise anyone. Even an original may not look as good on you as a discount tie that you choose smartly.

In the store of your choice, select a tie with good colors and clever patterns. Do you favor in-your-face design for your tie? Stripes may appeal to you. The current fashion trend should however reflect on the tie that you choose or you could find yourself a laughing stock.

Do not ignore professional assistance that you can get for free in a magazine. A men's magazine like GQ should not be overlooked while attempting to shop for a discount designer tie. You can also learn from fashion specific sites on the Internet.

Having learnt the new vogue, look for colors that match the season. Due to the intense heat and sunshine associated with summer, a color as bright as, say lemon, or even yellow is best suited for you. Armed with a picture of what the originals look like, you can commence your search for the designer tie that suits your purpose.

Without the knock-off industry, this would have been virtually impossible to get good designs at discount. Bear in mind that you can still get some better quality ties even at this cost.