5 Ways to Get a High Quality Boyfriend

Women constantly complain that they cannot find quality men. Only last night I listened to a long time friend of mine mouth the recurring theme of "no good men left."

Well the truth be told, high quality things are not easy to find. High quality, valuable stones are not only expensive but very rare. Their value is proportionate to their scarcity. Gold, diamond and other precious stones are premium because they are not easy to come by.

Accept that quality men are a rare breed

My first suggestion in finding a quality man is to accept that he will not be waiting for you around the street corner or knocking on you door tomorrow. Understand and be prepared to sift through the rubble to find your diamond of a man. Most diamonds actually come in the rough. They have to be cleaned, cut and polished. I do believe that you may have to kiss many frogs to find your prince.

Quality men are not always "ready made."

Although many women would not admit many women behave as if the man they want has to be "ready made." That is they should possess with most if not all of the qualities they dream about.

"I don't want someone I have to work on," Ashley told me in no uncertain terms, after I pointed out that Chris is a work in progress. Ironically I do think the she needs some polishing herself as she can be very brash and blunt.

Be a high quality person

Well that brings me to my third point; in order to get a high quality man, you need to be a high quality woman. You cannot be a pig and expect to attract a peacock. That is not the way it works in real life. If you want an intelligent person, you need to cultivate your intellect. If want a person of class and dignity you need to be classy and dignified. I think it was Ghandi who said you need to be the change you want to see in the world.

While opposites attract it is similarity that binds people together.

Have many high quality friends and associates

A corollary point to this is that you need to have quality friends. Birds of a feather not only flock together but they attract similar birds that also bring their friends and family along. The important point here is simply to have friends and associates like the person you want to attract in your life. Each of these people, have a network of friends, one of whom may be the person you are looking for. Many people admit that they met their husband through a friend, colleague or family. Someone once said that you are only six persons away from what you want. In other words someone you know, knows someone, who knows someone else, etc who can put you in touch with who and what you want. Start expanding your base of friendship to include people of the same ilk of the person you desire.

Lastly but certainly not least, if you are looking for a high quality man, you need to go to high quality places. High quality places should not be interpreted to mean expensive places. It simply means you should frequent places where many of these types of people hang out. For example if you want an ambitious man you should going inspirational and motivational meeting or even meetings where investment and money making ventures are discussed and taught. If love and admire people who can speak elegantly maybe you should join Toast Masters International. The chance of you finding a compatible person in these meetings is significantly increased.

In summary, to find a quality man:

1. Accept that the process is not going to be a piece of cake. Good things are not easy to acquire. Good men are hard to get. Accepting this makes the process a lot easier.
2. Realize that the gem you are looking may not first appear like a polished diamond.
3. To get a quality man you must also be a quality woman.
4. To increase the probability of meeting a quality man have lots of quality friends and associates
5. To heighten your chances of meeting a quality man visit places where quality men gather.

Tips on How to Get Girls to Notice You

Reasons Why Girls Can't See You - 5 Tips on How to Get Girls to Notice You

You're not a ghost are you? But why do the girls seem to see right through you? If you've always been the guy women never seem to see or the only guy in the group everyone hardly remembers, it's time you try to get a little acknowledgment. Or get noticed at least.

You need poise, you need confidence, and you need to build rapport! You have to have that X-factor that makes you more noticeable. It's time you know how to get girls to notice you. Eliminate all the possible aspects of your personality that makes you a victim of being unnoticed. Here are give of the worst traits you wouldn't want to have and get rid of them one by one.

1. You're probably too shy. If you are too shy, you will definitely have a difficult time attracting girls. Girls are prone to not noticing guys who hardly make noise or are hardly heard so if you want to be on their radar, try to be more active and more confident. Walk with poise and make people know that you know how to handle yourself and you are fun to be with. Try to be less timid and joke around with people sometimes.

2. You lack a sense of humor. Your seriousness could probably be getting in the way of being noticed. Not a lot of guys have the perfect sense of humor and you could be one of them, but try to be lighter and happier than your usual self. Share jokes sometimes, learn to laugh at other people, as well as yourself, but if you want to keep an intriguing side of yourself, do so. Instead of always being the clown, be funny sometimes while on other days, be serious also. In short, keep a balanced personality.

3. You probably need to do something about your hair, or your attire. You appearance can say so much about you and if you want to be considered as someone who dresses well, then simply, dress properly. Be neat at all times, wear color coordinated clothes, and try to keep your hair and teeth clean. Women can notice you by your appearance alone, because first and foremost, attraction starts with one's physical appearance. Put a thought into your looks before setting out to meet people; however, don't be vain. Remember, moderation is key.

4. You don't converse with people. If it is hard for you to lose shyness, it'll actually be harder for you to simply converse with people; and talking with people is a big way for you to get noticed. You must know how to talk to people and how to befriend them. Remember, people who hardly make a sound are most likely easier to forget and if you don't want to fall under that unfortunate list of the forgotten, then start talking and start making friends.

5. You lack originality. A lot of guys lack the most important trait of all and that's simply by being themselves. They tend to pretend they're someone famous and some might even dress like a celebrity, but end up to be a big turn-off for women instead. Women hate imitators of a certain person and would most definitely want someone to act like himself instead. To impress women, you must act as yourself and not as anybody else.

It's time you get rid of these 5 distracting traits if you want to know how to get girls to notice you. If you want your presence to be appreciated, then try to befriend people while at the same time, acting like your own usual self. The key on how to get girls to notice you is simply confidence and acting yourself.

"Are You Living With A Purpose Or You Need A Purpose To Live?"

How High Can We Get

Did you ever contemplate taking your life? What leads a person to commit suicide? Why do some people fall into a deep state of depression? Doctors and psychiatrists can only speculate the reasons to these questions from examining thousands of case studies. But how can a doctor or any person really know what goes on in someone's mind? Our minds aren't equal.

Doctors can diagnose cancer, and through scientific studies and research, provide a treatment to put it into remission. But our minds can't be examined in the same fashion as a disease. Our thoughts, with their underlying fears and motivators, are intricate and unique; therefore, not measurable.

If ten people were asked to describe the color red in an apple, I'm betting that each person's description would be a bit different. Perception is key, isn't it? But here's what got me thinking. What makes a person self destruct? Where does their wiring go wrong? Can we legitimately blame our parents for the way we feel?

I'm going to go out on a limb and say, no. I believe that we are subject to their habits and personalities, and as a result, can learn their behaviors, but there's more to it. The mechanics of what makes a person tick is multi-faceted; and why people fall into depression has a lot to do with feeling unfulfilled.

We've all heard the stories about Jim Morrison, Janice Joplin, Jimmy Hendrix, and so many other famous artists and actors, who've overdosed on drugs at a very early age. Some of these people deliberately took their lives while others died accidentally.

Their successes, and the rush that accompanies it, was achieved so early in life that they felt the need to experience something that would take them higher. What does a person do to achieve this rush after they've exhausted all other possibilities? What do you do after you've had it all and done it all? How high can we go?


People, like you and me, try our best to make our lives better, yet millions of us suffer from deep depression. Some are battling an addiction, while others are feeling so useless that they want to die. They wake up, take a good look around, and ask the frightening question that has plaqued the greatest of minds since the beginning of humanity. They ask, is this all there is?

Now, I understand that everyone doesn't have these thoughts. We're not alike. But through reading and observing, it appears that deep thinkers and artists suffer more than the everyday person. Like these great minds, I too, have asked myself if this was all there was. Now, I'm not just saying the phrase "is this all there is" as a generic statement. I'm serious. For me, the feeling of being useless, and questioning my existence, pushed me into asking this very question.

I was unhappy with my life and felt that I didn't have anything to look forward to. I didn't have an interest in things. I was bored with the club scene. I was bored with hearing the talkers talk. I was bored with the game. When I examined what was left, I asked the question that I was afraid to get the answer to.

I felt that there had to be more than merely existing. There had to be more than acting robotically. There had to be more than what I was doing--getting up, going to work, acting out the part and not receiving the applauds.

It was during this period of my life when I relapsed into a disorder known as agoraphobia. All the questions that plagued me for years, the very same questions that I asked but was afraid to get the answers to, were surfacing to my conscience.

These questions made me think--they made me pick apart my life and curse my existence. I didn't want to face these questions because facing them meant facing the answers that went along with them.

Finally, out of desperation to rid myself of the disorder, I turned to the one thing that I didn't believe in, and that was God. I begged Him to show me my purpose. I begged Him to tell me if there was more to life than what I was experiencing? I had to know if there was more. And I found out that there is more. We can go higher if we look past the material things.


Follow me on this. Buying cars and boats, and jewels and vacations, only gives a temporary high. After they're gone, how do you get another rush? Most people keep buying. They buy bigger cars and boats, bigger houses and more jewels. If you have money, you keep buying. Finally, when you have obtained it all, what's next? Drugs? Gambling?

Listen. We can only go so high. The money can only give us so much gratification. When you've done it all, you have to find something else to give you that high, and drugs isn't the answer. But reaching out to others, is. When you have it all, it's time to start giving back. Helping people, in any capacity, is the way. It's the only way.

I was only a young girl when Peggy Lee shot to fame with her song, Is That All There Is, and now I understand why the song went big. Ask yourself . . . is this all there is?

"If There Are Problems Because There Are Solutions"

Dealing with life's ups and downs

Life is full of ups and downs. What is life? To me, I think life is a journey. A journey to where we want to go. A journey to your dreams and goals. The path leading to our destination is not a smooth ones. Depending on where we want to go, some paths are smoother while some are harder to climb as it might be steeper and rockier than the other paths. Whether the paths are easy to 'walk' also depend on your brain power, this means that whether you have the determination and also depend on your stamina and strength. You might be wondering what I mean. I am just quoting an analogy of what our life is like. The paths refer to our daily lives and the stones or rocks refer to the obstacles that we face while we are dealing with our daily lives.

Whether you are a kid or you are a teenager or you are in your fifties, we all are faced with happiness and unhappiness in our lives. It is just normal. Some people can cope with the ups and downs of life while some cannot. For those people who cannot cope with it, they end their lives or resort to consumption of alcohol, drug abuse, and still others when cannot cope with the stress of life develop mental illness.

• So how do we deal with life's ups and downs? I think, it all come from education and your own mindset. In the school time, we are not taught of what is life, how to deal with difficulties, how to cope with stress and so forth. We are only taught on academic subjects. Excel academically is what was stressed on previously.

In school, children are loaded with piles of work to do. At home, they have to do extra work as in having tuition or attending special classes so as not to 'lose out' to their peers (as some parents would think). For working people, they are faced with pressures from work and having to cope with work and family and also parenting duties. Because of all these, a lot of people are gradually developing mental illness of some kind or another. If from young, we are taught in school about dealing with all these problems then people can at least learn from these skills. Otherwise, a lot of people now how to resort to reading and learning from themselves, seeking self-improvement books.

Depending on education alone is not enough. Learning is one thing and practicing it and doing it is another thing. A lot of things have to depend on your own. If you do not want to 'help' yourself, nobody else can help you. You can read lots of books, attend a lot of seminars, but if you don't practice what you have learnt, it would be useless. What I mean is even if you have knowledge of what to do when face with problems, you have to practice what you have learnt. You have to be brave, you have to have a clear mind. Though is easy to say but difficult to do, but it is not impossible if you have a determine mindset to do anything you are determine to do. The main thing is to persevere.

With the correct mindset, and will-power, we should persevere til the end of our life's destination, despite the rocks and stones which stand in our way. Sometimes we might get a tripped and fall down. It is painful and you might have bruises, but be brave, stand up and clean yourself up again, rest for a while if you want. There is no hurry. When you fall down, think of why you fall down. How you are going to learn from your mistake. When you are ready, you are able to bring yourself to a greater distance. This time, you have to be prepared to walk a longer distance to compensate for what you have lost or missed.

Walking alone is very lonely. Sometimes you can walk in groups or in twos. Try to associate with positive people. When you are with positive people with a positive mind, you will soon inherit their thinking also, and you too will be happier. If you are always with negative people and always harbour negative thoughts, then life would be very miserable for you and to deal with life's up and downs would even be harder for you.

It seems like I have been narrating about all the life's down moments. Life got its 'ups'. What do we do with it? People seldom remember what you do good in but always remember what you are the bad things you do. We should change our mindset. Try to see the 'good' in every people rather than the 'flaws' in people. When we are in the happy moments of our lives, treasure it, try to 'prolong' it, and when we are in the 'down' moments, that is in our sad times, we can think back of our good time, and that will give you a 'power' and strength to 'pull' you up from your fall.

To see a clearer picture, these are my views on dealing with life's ups and downs:

Dealing with Ups of life

1. Treasure it
2. Have a good friend
3. store all the good memories in your special brain (so that you can always retrieve out in times of sadness. This will help boost your energy to move on from your fall, if any.)
4. Spread and share your happiness with people around you.

Dealing with Downs of life

1. be brave
2. let it out (have a diary or friend where you can pour your sorrows, seek help from. This well help you to feel better. Talk about it. Cry if you must. You will feel better.
3. Surround with Positive people
4. Do not have negative thoughts. Always think positive.
5. Improve your knowledge. Read more books on areas you want to improve yourself.
6. Think of where you go wrong and how to be better in future
7. What you should possess: Be determined, have a strong will-power and persevere to achieve your dreams.
8. learn from your mistakes when you fall; and try not to make the same mistakes again.

It's not easy to practice the above though it is easier said. However, I believe that with determination and patience, impossible would become I M POSSISIBLE.

"You Mesmerize Me"

I thought about you Too
Current mood: blessed
Category: Writing and Poetry

I THOUGHT ABOUT YOU TOO
IT FELT LIKE THE RIGHT THING TO DO
THE MORE I THOUGHT
THE MORE I SEEN IT TO BE TRUE
I THOUGHT ABOUT YOUR SMILE,
THAT ALWAYS DRIVES ME WILD
I THOUGHT ABOUT THE WAY YOU LIFT MY MIND
THE JOY YOU BRING IS NEVER HARD TO FIND
YOU FEEL SO CLOSE
EVEN WHEN YOU ARE FAR AWAY
I THINK DAY TO DAY
HOW YOU MAKE MY HEART'S MUSIC PLAY
A MELODY
THAT RIDES A LONG WITH THE SWEET WORDS YOU SAY
I THOUGHT ABOUT YOU SO MANY TIMES
BEFORE THE POEM AND BETWEEN EACH LINE
I THOUGHT OF YOU WITH EACH CHILL YOU SEND UP MY SPINE
I THOUGHT ABOUT YOU
AS I LICKED MY LIPS
YOUR RICH CHOCOLATE, I WOULD SLOWLY SIP
THE WAY YOUR HAND REST ON MY HIP
AS WE WALK A LONG OUR PASSIONATE TRIP
I THOUGHT ABOUT
THE FUNNY WAY YOU WOULD MAKE ME LAUGH
AND THE QUIET MOMMENTS WE WOULD HAVE
ME LAYING IN YOUR ARMS WATCHING TV
A REALITY SHOW, WATCHING US JUST BE
I THOUGHT OF YOU ALSO.... MISSING ME!

"Color of Friendship"

Once upon a time the colors of the world started to quarrel.

All claimed that they were the best.
The most important.
The most useful.
The favorite.

Green said:
"Clearly I am the most important. I am the sign of life and of hope. I was chosen for grass, trees and leaves. Without me, all animals would die. Look over the countryside and you will see that I am in the majority."

Blue interrupted:
"You only think about the earth, but consider the sky and the sea. It is the water that is the basis of life and drawn up by the clouds from the deep sea. The sky gives space and peace and serenity. Without my peace, you would all be nothing."

Yellow chuckled:
"You are all so serious. I bring laughter, gaiety, and warmth into the world. The sun is yellow, the moon is yellow, the stars are yellow. Every time you look at a sunflower, the whole world starts to smile. Without me there would be no fun."

Orange started next to blow her trumpet:
"I am the color of health and strength. I may be scarce, but I am precious for I serve the needs of human life. I carry the most important vitamins. Think of carrots, pumpkins, oranges, mangoes, and papayas. I don't hang around all the time, but when I fill the sky at sunrise or sunset, my beauty is so striking that no one gives another thought to any of you."

Red could stand it no longer he shouted out:
"I am the ruler of all of you. I am blood - life's blood! I am the color of danger and of bravery. I am willing to fight for a cause. I bring fire into the blood. Without me, the earth would be as empty as the moon. I am the color of passion and of love, the red rose, the poinsettia and the poppy."

Purple rose up to his full height:
He was very tall and spoke with great pomp: "I am the color of royalty and power. Kings, chiefs, and bishops have always chosen me for I am the sign of authority and wisdom. People do not question me! They listen and obey."

Finally Indigo spoke, much more quietly than all the others, but with just as much determination: "Think of me. I am the color of silence. You hardly notice me, but without me you all become superficial. I represent thought and reflection, twilight and deep water. You need me for balance and contrast, for prayer and inner peace."

And so the colors went on boasting, each convinced of his or her own superiority. Their quarreling became louder and louder. Suddenly there was a startling flash of bright lightening thunder rolled and boomed. Rain started to pour down relentlessly. The colors crouched down in fear, drawing close to one another for comfort.

In the midst of the clamor, rain began to speak:
"You foolish colors, fighting amongst yourselves, each trying to dominate the rest. Don't you know that you were each made for a special purpose, unique and different? Join hands with one another and come to me."

Doing as they were told, the colors united and joined hands.

The rain continued:
"From now on, when it rains, each of you will stretch across the sky in a great bow of color as a reminder that you can all live in peace. The Rainbow is a sign of hope for tomorrow." And so, whenever a good rain washes the world, and a Rainbow appears in the sky, let us remember to appreciate one another.

Whenevr u r DEPRESSED or CONFUSED or HURT don’t worry ….Stand in front of d mirror u’ll find the best person who solve ur problem , So trust Yourself …..

A Friend is one ,who 4gives before u say sorry , understand wen u say I 4got , waits 4ever wen u say 1mint , n stay with u wen u say leave me alone .