"Be Constructive At Work"

Top Five Ways to Dish Out Bitter Truths at the Office

It's tough when you get negative feedback, but imagine how difficult it is to dish it out without hurting anyone's feelings. So how do you criticize someone nicely? I myself have yet to learn to do this. That's why I'm so thankful I'm not the boss.

While criticism is necessary for quality control and to ensure productivity at the office, it could disrupt the work flow when it's taken the wrong way. "We are universally reluctant to trigger the hurt feelings, angry defenses, or counter attacks that criticism so frequently arouses," observes psychologist Judith Sills, author of Excess Baggage: Getting Out of Your Own Way.

To make sure that criticism is truly constructive, Sills lists five ways to deliver negative feedback in the most positive light:

1. Don't be one-sided. You have to pair every negative with a positive. You can say: "You are an amazing problem solver, but you aren't following up with the paper work."

2. Stick to the facts. Give feedback on observable behavior only--don't speculate on internal attitudes. At the very least, wait for or encourage the person in question to tell you what's really causing him or her to turn in less-than-excellent work.

3. Make it clear. You have to be very specific about both the problem and the expected solution: "When you do X, it creates problem Y. Next time, try this..."

4. Go the distance. Extend yourself to maintain the relationship. After being criticized, most people withdraw. Counter that by making friendly conversation.

5. Look for the silver lining. Remember that reward is the most powerful change agent. Point out what's wrong and be heavy-handed with what's working will work in the future.

In light of these tips, Sills adds that you have to make the recipients of criticism understand that they can use the negative feedback as guides to being more efficient or productive.

Moreover, she advises that you have to make them understand that "the more they matter, the more managers will try to polish their strengths and file their rough edges."

Last but not least, keep in mind that courtesy and honesty go a long way when it comes to dishing out criticism. Most people will welcome the truth, no matter how bitter it is--as long as you don't force it down their throat.

"Right attitude will guide you towards success"

..... Attitude.....

What can change your day?

It's just simply the way…

That you start it out…

That's with out a doubt…

You see how I start my day…

By sending something positive your way…

I know it surely does have an effect on me…

I get a smile just to see…

How many people can relate to the verses I let flow…

Where they come from… I still don't know…

We all have our gift…

Guess mines the ability to uplift…

Even if its just the corners of your lips…

Or making you turn the music up

and start shaken your hips…

A brighter day…

Just seems to be a click away…

Hope you will stop back by…

And you know those times I make you cry…

I really do feel bad…

Because them stories are so sad…

But they have more meaning that way…

And you learn a lot more that day…

It opens your heart up to so much more…

And you find your self looking forward

to what's through the next door…

Your attitude determines where you will go…

Guess that's all I really wanted you to know…

"How To Be A Natural People Magnet "

How To Be A Natural People Magnet - Astound Everyone With Your Astonishing Presence

What does it really take to become successful in life? What is one trait which is never taught in any school or college around the world? It's the art of managing people effectively. You see if you can master the art of managing people you have almost mastered your life. As people affect your life in several ways. The better you are with people the more successful you will be as people affect your personal, professional and spiritual life. Read on to discover some of the most effective ways to become a people magnet and achieve what you want in life...

Learn to listen-

Who is the most important person to you? It's you yourself. You see we value ourselves more than we value other people in life. Everyone wants to be heard and in the present day and age people just don't have enough time or patience to listen to others. If you can be the person who is an active listener and pays a lot of attention towards what the other person is saying than people would be naturally attracted to you.

Learn to compliment-

Everyone wants to feel good about himself or herself. You see a small compliment can make someone's day absolutely phenomenal and if you can make someone's day great they would give you what you want. You see it's normally a mutually beneficial relationship.

Learn to inspire-

Do you know the reason why people listen to a lot of motivational tapes? Do you know the reason why every motivational speaker out there is considered a star? It's simply due to the reason that they have the ability to inspire people to really push towards their goals. Therefore learn to inspire people by being positive.

How to Be a Classy Girl

Want to be a classy girl? Show you are a high-society lady material? Isn't that hard, you just need a little help, this article will help you. Read on, lady!

Steps

Have a sense of style. Being in fashion is a must. Try to read more fashion magazines and know what's hot and what's not at the moment. Create your own fashion and have your own style, because it's not right to wear something that just isn't you. It's often better to have a basic personal style than to always be chasing the latest "fad" look.

Have good taste in clothing: Be modest in clothing and avoid clothing of bad taste. Extremely low necklines, too short skirts, belly-bearing tops and revealing clothing can make a girl look like she does not respect her body and herself. Shirts with inappropriate sayings, logos or sexual innuendos can make a girl look like she's desperate for attention. Classy ladies are not desperate for attention.

Have good hygiene. Remember to always be clean; brush your teeth and bathe/shower. Being clean is important; being grubby isn't classy and isn't pleasing.
Speak calmly. This shows politeness. If you talk very loudly, it will seem that you're desperate for attention.

Never slouch. Having good posture is an important, and rare, trait.
Behave. It's fun to be in a party and dance a lot, but that's not always classy behavior. If you're at a party, the classy behavior is to socialize, but speak calmly, not monopolizing all the attention.

Develop conversation skills. Classy ladies don't talk about sexual immorality. They tend to talk about fashion, but they should also talk about intellectual topics (books, art, politics/current events) more.

Increase your vocabulary, and stay away from slang terms. Never swear or say racist comments.

Smile. Classy people must always seem to be in a good mood.

Be nice. If you're classy and want to be liked, you have to be nice, unless you want to be the snobby style of classy. But of course, it's much better to be liked by people, so being nice and treating others well helps.

Always be kind and friendly to the people serving you (waiters, etc.). If you really want to know who is well brought up and classy, look at how they treat their inferiors (the people below them on the social ladder), not their equals or superiors.

Tips

Be intelligent. A classy girl should have good topics to talk about . So study about things that you find interesting and important for life. Read books and improve your vocabulary, and don't use the word "like" all the time; it's a sign of poor education and nervousness. People will admire you because you're smart and have confidence that may be very convenient to you.
Value your virtues. If you have any good skill or kind of talent, such as drawing, or dancing, singing or playing any musical instrument, do not hide it, work it. Let people see how good you are by exposing your pictures, or maybe playing a musical instrument in front of someone. If you're good at acting, look for a part in any play at theater.

Tattoos and Body Piercings- Appearances convey a strong message to others; you can be judged by an individual or right before an event that will play a prominent role in your future (e.g. a perspective employer, acquiring a higher position in a reputable company, etc.). Therefore, take careful consideration when deciding if it is a good ideal for you to get visible tattoos or body piercings. Even though a person’s outward appearance does not automatically show his or her true inner qualities, appearances can reflect how a person is willing to be perceived by the world. Also keep in mind that although tattoos and piercings are individual expressions, they can be permanent or difficult (even costly) to remove if you change your mind in the future. If you are in doubt about how tattoos and piercings may impact you in the future, forget about getting them and find other ways to show self expression, such as creating works of art, poetry, hobbies, etc.

Self-Improvement

Intellectual wellbeing involves ongoing education. This includes attending seminars and workshops, reading, and expanding your awareness of the world around you. Learning new things such as an exercise routine or a new recipe can also be intellectually stimulating.

Discussing new ideas with people from unique and different backgrounds helps us advance in all aspects of life.

This includes:

-critical thinking, problem solving skills
-mental status, abilities, challenges
-stimulation, creativity
-education, learning background
-educational goals
-adaptation to change
-knowledge of, and ability to, access resources

Tips for optimal intellectual wellness:

-take a course or workshop
-learn (or perfect) a foreign language
-seek out people who challenge you intellectually
-learn to appreciate art

Have you ever, or more importantly, have you recently:

-taken a course to challenge your mind and and keep it well?
-taken part in a discussion or debate?
-gone to see a documentary?
-traveled to a foreign country?

Emotional wellness is awareness and acceptance of a wide range of feelings in one's self and others. An emotionally well person understands personal limitations and knows how to effectively deal with stress; an emotionally well person has the ability to form satisfying relationships with others.

This includes:

-self-awareness and self-esteem
-positive attitudes, values and beliefs
-communication skills
-coping skills and assertiveness
-decision making skills
-caring, healthy relationships
-mental health and illness management

Tips for optimal emotional wellness:

-tune in to your thoughts and feelings
-cultivate an optimistic attitude
-seek and provide support
-learn time management skills
-practice stress management techniques
-accept and forgive yourself

Have you ever, or more importantly, have you recently:
-performed a random act of kindness? Why not do that today?
-sent a "just thinking of you" handwritten letter to a family member or friend?
-kept a journal?
-apologized to someone you have meant to?

Your Way to Total Empowerment

Plan and simple, empowerment is having all faith that you have no limits as to what you can be, do, and have...and taking total responsibility for every single, little thing that has been manifested in your life. It's about putting an end to blaming circumstances and others for all of the that aren't going right in your life. You can sit there and feel sorry for yourself or just trying to understand things (which what difference does it really make if you understand them or not, everything still remains the same and it's up to YOU to make things better, not for anyone but yourself.)

Empowerment is about the decisions you make every day... the decisions you make about everything in your life.... It's about taking control of who you allow into your life, what you watch on tv, or what you read, where you go.It's a wonderful process of weeding out the bad and bringing in the good... being in control of your life because there isn't anyone else in the whole world who knows better than you what it takes to make you happy (you do want to be happy, don't you?).

To learn empowerment is to learn that you do have choices. You have the God-given right to be the happiest, wealthiest, most fulfilled person that it's possible for you to be. It doesn't matter what's in the past, it's a part of your history. It played a part in making you who you are, but it's behind you now... you lived it, you learned from it (I hope), and you evolved because of it. Now it's time for you to let it go and move on to bigger, better things. The things this path was meant to take you to.

Place your vision on what you can do at this very moment to bring you to this peaceful place where you can have an abundance of all of the awesome things that you so much deserve. Make the decision to empower yourself right NOW ... what are you waiting for? As you exercise your choices and take responsibility and action, you will gain amazing control over your life. Don't try to hide from your problems or make excuses about why things in your life are the way they are...just change it. You do have that power and it is unlimited!

Empowerment comes from within.. It cannot be found on the outside That is where millions of people are going wrong. When we activate this power within ourselves we have the strength and courage to make choices and act on issues that are important to us. It doesn't just have to do with money either, it has to do with every area of your life...love, success, and yes, of course, wealth. Don't you want all of that?

The empowerment process may be made easier and supported through outside sources such as engaging the assistance of a person specializing in life coaching, learning energy healing and mind techniques, attending self-help groups and seminars, home study programs, reading books, etc.

Learn from these programs and people who are brought into your life and find your independence Empowerment is a process that develops as we work through it. It is impossible to dabble in empowerment expecting life changing results. It must become a path, journey, life style or way of life for complete liberation of all pain and suffering.

With empowerment comes wisdom and by wisdom I do not mean knowing the facts so much as the ability to perceive and understand facts, and to judge soundly and act right in all matters relating to life. Wisdom is the power to perceive truth, and the ability to make the best use of the knowledge of truth.

With wisdom comes poise, and the power to think right, to control and guide your thoughts, and to avoid the difficulties which come from thinking in the wrong way With wisdom you will be able to decide on the right courses for your particular needs, and to guide yourself in all ways as to achieve the best results.

The great thing about empowerment is the ripple effect. Once you get your mindset in the right direction and see the changes taking place in your life, it acts as a magnet for more wonderful things to come into your life and it also makes you an example to the ones you love that they, to, can be, do, and have all that they desire in life. How awesome is that!