Is It Real Love?

How Do You Recognize Real Love?

Does your friend or partner walk around with a sticker on their head to tell you they're in a loving or in a non-loving mood? Do you walk around with a badge on your chest that says "Please love me, I need it NOW!"

So what does real love look like? How do you know when you've given it or when you've received it?

It sounds so obvious but it's not. Let's check that out. Make a mental list of your answers to the following questions.

Who have you loved today? (List them in your mind - maybe your boss, a colleague, a customer, a friend, your parents or your children, your spouse or family?)

How do YOU know that you loved them. How can you be sure it was love? (Was it love in your attitude towards them? Was it perhaps caring choices that you made towards them? Was it a tender touch or a kind word that you communicated? What did you do?)

You may have sent love, but did they get it? Did they see it as loving? This is the tough part, because we have little or no control over other people's reactions to our love deeds.

It is so easy to presume that because we loved, they automatically felt loved. You may even feel that they now owe it to love you back, but perhaps they didn't even notice your loving. Have you ever felt that your loving was ignored, as though you were invisible. That no-one notices how loving you are - especially if you are a mom!

If at the end of your day you can list who it was that you loved and how - you are fortunate. For most of us one day just blends into the next, and we are hardly aware of when loving is happening or when it is not, simply because we live without feedback about how we are doing with our loving.

I want to challenge you to change this by taking some constructive action!

For the next five nights, starting tonight, I want you to do three things to help you review your loving. You'll be amazed how this feedback will take your loving to a new level.

Firstly, take a piece of paper and on it list all the people you tried to love today, leaving some space between them for comments.

Secondly Next to each name note what you did to love them, whether it be an action, a prayer, your attitude, your words, your touch, your gifts or your time.

Thirdly next to each one list how you think they received your loving, and what makes you think that - for example what they said, their body language, how they reacted. Then pray for them that they will feel loved and blessed by your loving.

Do that for the next five nights and you'll suddenly recognize love in places and ways you have never seen it before.

Remember that much of the impact of your love is lost, if your loved ones do not FEEL loved by your loving actions. If in doubt, why not ask them whether they felt loved or not by what you did, and try new ways to communicate your love to them.

Love and Logic

Love Thyself

It is a fact that if you can't love yourself you cant love anyone else. Self-esteem is also a key ingredient for a healthy relationship. It is good to lean on your partner for reassurance but you, as an individual should be strong to support your relationship through any kind of crisis.

Mutual Love

First of all for a relationship to exist, two people should like each other. And love of all relationships is not static one. If you are in love with each other and agree on what each of you think and behave then a relationship will not have too many problems. Encouraging words help in supporting and building trust and respect.

Spend Quality Time

These days the importance of things can be measured with the amount of time spent on it. It so happens that couples more time initially in a relationship. Later they get busier with other things in life. When this happens it is time for both to sit down and make a priority list. Spending less time together can cause couples to drift away.

Communicate

Communication is the core of any relation ship, more so in the case of a love relationship. It is through communication that you can tell your partner what you are thinking, what you want. Talking can also make a relationship strong as there will also be intellectual bonding as well. It is also important to say things openly and honestly. Communication also includes listening to your partner patiently.

"Love Life"

The Balance of Love

A woman dies after living a long, dignified life. When she meets God, she asks him something that has long bothered her. "If man is created in God's image, and if all men are created equal, why do people treat each other so badly?"

God replies that each person who enters our life has a unique lesson to teach us. And it is only through these lessons that we learn about life, people, relationships, and God. This confuses the woman, so God begins to explain...

"When someone lies to you, it teaches you that things are not always as they seem. The truth is often far beneath the surface. Look beyond the masks people wear to know their heart. And remove your own masks to let people know yours."

"When someone steals from you, it teaches you that nothing is forever. Always appreciate what you have, for you never know when you might lose it. And never, ever take your family and friends for granted because today is the only guarantee you have."

"When someone inflicts an injury upon you, it teaches you that the human state is fragile. Protect and take care of your body as best you can because it's the only thing you are sure to have forever."

"When someone mocks you, it teaches you that no two people are alike. When you encounter people who are different from you, don't judge them by how they look or act. Instead base your opinion on the contents of their heart."

"When someone breaks your heart, it teaches you that loving someone does not always mean that the person will love you back. But don't turn your back on love because when you find the right person, the joy that one person brings will make up for all the past hurts put together."

"When someone holds a grudge against you, it teaches you that everyone makes mistakes. When you are wronged, the most virtuous you can do is to forgive the offender without pretence. Forgiving those who have hurt us is the most difficult, the most courageous, and the noblest thing man can do."

"When a loved one is unfaithful to you, it teaches you that resisting temptation is man's greatest challenge. Be vigilant in your resistance against all temptation. By doing so, you will be rewarded with an enduring sense of satisfaction far greater than the temporary pleasure by which you were tempted."

"When someone cheats you, it teaches you that greed is the root of all evil. Aspire to make your dreams come true, no matter how lofty they may be. Do not feel guilty about your success, but never let an obssession with achieving your goal lead you to engage in malevolent activities."

"When someone ridicules you, it teaches you that nobody is perfect. Accept people for their merits and be tolerant of their flaws. Do no ever reject someone for imperfections over which they have no control."

Upon hearing the Maker's wisdom, the old woman becomes concerned that there were no lessons to be learned from man's good deeds. God tells her that man's capacity to love is the greatest gift he has. At the root of all kindness is love, and each act of love also teaches us a lesson.

As the woman's curiousity deepens, God once again explains...

"When someone loves us, it teaches us that love, kindness, charity, honesty, humility, forgiveness, and acceptance can counteract all the evil in the world. For every good deed, there is one less evil deed. Man alone has the power to control the balance between good and evil, but because the lessons of love are not taught often enough, the power is too often abused."

"When you enter someone's life, whether by choice or chance, what will your lesson be? Will you teach love or harsh reality? Each one of us has power over the balance of love. Use that power wisely."

The real friend is the one who gives you pepper, not butter.

Dear, 'friendship' is just a simple word, but not simple to make.

When I try to make this with a stranger, I can't resist, I feel... as if distraction of mind is roving behind my eyes. I think, why I'm doing this- may be, I am so much in confusion; what you decide that noway depends on me, but, it is true that I have to change my views on a way to feel.

I am an authentic gentleman. I can never pretend to be something else. What I am going to tell you, you may be surprised, but I don't have any option without telling you the truth. Before making friendship why don't you face the reality?

It doesn't seem incredible, if there are few matters in this life about which it is safe to dogmatize or lay down the law. And there are, as we all know, practically no rules without exceptions. But if one safeguards the statement by this proviso, it can be laid down as a rule of life that real friendship between man and woman is impossible.

Now this statement is not derogatory either to man or to woman. It is simply a fact based upon the laws of Nature. It is inevitable. What friendship contains, we know better. And that is where the trouble comes in.

A girl who is keen on sport, for instance, finds a man who shares her tastes. They are thrown together by their common interests, and they become friends. She is the kind of girl, perhaps, whom men call a 'ratting good sort'.

There is 'no nonsense about her', they say.

And by that they mean a very high compliment. They mean she is not the sort of girl who wants to flirt with every man she meets; that she is the kind of girl to whom a man can talk without her imagining that he is in love with her; and that she is a girl who can talk intelligently about the things that interest men.

There is a great virtue, from a man's point of view, in being able to talk about things, and not people. There are hundreds of women who have no interest in a conversation unless it is personal.

Well, this 'jolly good sort' and the man whom we will also suppose is a 'good sort' become friends. They play games together and see as much of each other as they can. What happens? Well, first of all, even if they have no idea of love-making themselves, the idea is soon put into their heads by the remarks of other people. "Oh, they are always together," says one. "Are they engaged?" says another. "If they are not they ought to be," says a third. You know the kind of thing.


At any rate, the man soon realizes that by his friendship he is compromising the girl, and only two courses are open to him- either to propose to her or gradually to cool off and drift away. Perhaps, in a rare instance, both part unscathed.

But how often does this happen? In 99 cases out of 100 either the man or the woman suffers. He cares and she doesn't, or vice versa. And when, as we see is more frequently the case, it is the woman who comes to care as a result of this platonic friendship, she has to suffer in silence.

We believe there are exceptions to every rule, as these have been seen in numerous history and biography records of noble men and women who have a genius for friendship. We don't always know both sides of the story. But cases there are, no doubt.

It must be admitted that a man can feel this platonoc friendship very often for a plain or unattractive woman who has no physical charm for him or makes no appeal to his senses. If a man sees a pretty woman often and he becomes at all attached to her, it is natural that he should wish to take her in his arms and kiss her. If he has no such inclination he is something more or less than man.

When can one be sure of a platonic friendship? The answer is, Never. When these friendships do go on, apparently successfully, for long years, it is often because each sex is trying to be both sexes at once. The result is a confusion more untruthful than any convention. It is built upon pretence.

Enfin!

But things sometimes change more than we think. Few days ago one of my friends, a beautiful lady, wrote me a nice letter, I want to share with you.

"Friendship is a special gift given to us all. The smile of a friend is sunlight on a cloudy day, and every smile given to a friend is returned. A friend is one whom you can talk to, and listen to, without judging.

A friend doesn't ignore your faults but accepts them as part of you. A friend is a shoulder to lean on when you need support, A pat on the back when you do well, and a sympathetic ear when you fail. A friend is a person you can laugh with about everything, you can cry with without shame, and whom you trust completely. A friend is a partner in life and a part of you always and forever..."

At last, I want to tell you one thing. I very much dislike the word- 'flirtation'. However, a self-introduction to a lady can only be classified as a flirtation when it is characterised by undignified manner, by a lack of gentlemanliness. You will agree with me instantly that there was nothing ungentlemanly in my approach.

In fact, in the accepted sense of the word, there was really no 'approach'.

Don't trust a man if he says these 5 things!

MEN & LOVE RELATIONSHIPS

Relationship experts say that women should be wary if a guy says any of the following things:

BUT I WILL TRIED TO CALL.Know this, ladies: if he wants to reach you, he will. That"s all there is to it.

I DID"NT GET THE MASSAGE.This may be feasible once. Perhaps twice, but unlikely. While it used to be safe to blame technology for our inability to connect, with today"s rapid-fire means of communication (who doesn"t have at least a cell phone and email these days), it"s highly unlikely he didn"t know you were trying to reach him. That said, it is possible. Just trust your gut… and if you"re questioning his words, your gut is telling you it"s a lie.

I DID'NT NOTICE WHAT SHE LOOKED LIKEAs much as we"d all love to be the only woman our guy sees, it"s just not the way things are. Think about it, you probably notice when a super hottie is in your proximity… and it doesn"t mean you want to cheat on your man with him. So ease up a little on your guy"s tasteful appreciation of women (ogling"s another story). However, if a beauty is in your radar and he says he "didn"t notice what she looked like," male dating experts say beware, he"s probably lying.

WE"LL TALK ABOUT IT LATER.Like I didn"t get the message could be true, so could this oft-heard saying from the mouths of men. However, if all you hear when serious subjects come up are promises that the issues will be addressed down the road, you can rest assured they won"t be. If it comes down to it, tell him to put up or shut up (or get out, more accurately). You can"t have a relationship with two people if only one side is communicating. Keep in mind however, you don"t need to talk about every single little thing. The ultimatum is meant only if conversations are always being put off or circumvented. And if you say it, you"d better be prepared to make good!

I COULD FALL IN LOVE WITH U IN A MINUTE.Translation: I"m not in love with you now. One guy dating some1 suggests that if a lady hears this whopper, she should wait a minute then ask him how he feels now. Guys will say a lot of things if they want to keep you around and you can usually tell whether or not they"re sincere (actions, ladies, that"s where it"s at). Take your blinders off for a moment and see things clearly. I think I"m falling in love with you usually means something… I could fall in love with you means very little in most situations.

NEW LIFE, NEW HOPE and a BEAUTIFUL BEGINNING!!!!!!!!!

A BEAUTIFUL BEGINNING!!!!!!!!!
There are times in our lives when we are swept away by raging emotions,times when we are overwhelmed by sadness,over come by misery,times when we feel that we are LOVE only for the worth others could get from us and not for who you really are, it is natural to feel this way,sometimes we all need to be alone to feel blue, to feel lonely,to listen to a song and cry. Then we ask our selves, why does the song have to end?..


Why do we have to cry when love has taken away from us? Why does it have to hurt when we let go of someone we LOVE!!!!!

In a relationship we treasure the hardest thing to do is saying GOODBYE and letting someone free, for in every last embrace, a part of us dies, every teardrops that falls, washes away our hopes, then we are left with pain and bitter memories, because we have lost love, never knew how and will probably never know WHY!!!!!!

We try to get away but every move we make, somehow has its way of reminding us of the past, all over again, every turn of our heads and every blink of an eye remind us of LOVE lost in eternity and it make us so empty, so alone, so desitate, every song no matter how beautiful it is,it will have to end on its last note,like every day has its night, all that has started will have to end sometimes.

Sometimes we can not control and just a fact that we have to accept to live up with.Let us remember our lives does'nt have to end where our heartaches BEGIN, somewhere, someone will come along and sing us his song of love.

Someday, someone will fill lives with joy and happiness, somehow, we will find LOVE again and it will wipe away our tears and bring us promise of a NEW LIFE, NEW HOPE and a BEAUTIFUL BEGINNING!!!!!!!!!

"Missing You Everyday"

I miss you……..

Each morning I wake up,You’re the first thought on my mind.

Looking to put my arms around you,But there’s nothing to find.

I realize you’re not thereAnd again sadness sets in.It’s a bad situation,Neither of us can win.

I miss you so badly,The smile on your face.The warmth of your body
I miss the look in your eyesIn the bright morning sun.

Thinking of how to make you happy,A smile on your face tells me I’ve won.

As you can probably tell,I’m not having a great day.I keep thinking how much I miss youIn each and every way.

Words aren’t enoughTo say how I feel.There’s never a doubtMy feelings are real
I know that I love youI miss you so much.The feelings of your kiss,The feel of you touch.
I promise not to take for grantedThe love that we shareI promise not to forgetTo show how much I care

I want and need youAs part of my lifeIt’s the reason I asked youAnd want you to be my wife.
I miss you todayAs much as the day before.You’re the only oneI want to adore.

Have I made my point,Can you understand?I need your love,I want your hand.
Thinking of youIs all that I do.I’ve told you many times,This is nothing new.

So I’ll finish this up

Just hoping that you knew

I love you so much

I miss you……......