How to Love Unconditionally

Instructions

Step 1:Take responsibility for how you react to a person or situation. You are the one that determines if you are happy or sad. Prevent the blame game and gain control over your life and love.

Step 2:Approach your love relationship without any predetermined mindset. Know that nobody is perfect and everyone has her own gifts and shortcomings.

Step 3:Give the space and freedom the other person needs. To love someone deeply is to grow together in the spirit. Controlling the other person does not assure you of a secure relationship. The feeling of your partner's love is enough security.

Step 4:Believe that love given in its truest form comes back one way or the other. Give yourself wholeheartedly without any boundaries. Love is possible without hurt only when ego is dropped completely.

Step 5:Accept your partner and their limitations without any judgment. Grow in the relationship based on trust and sacrifice instead of self-satisfaction alone. Love the other person for their existence in your life than for what they do for you.

How to Survive a May-December Relationship

Step 1:Know your true feelings. Ask yourself if you really love your partner or is this person just reminding you of your younger years. If you are the younger of the two, ask if you are just looking for someone that can act as a mother or father figure. Re-think your relationship and think about the future.

If you are the older of the two, would you be able to keep up with your partner's energy many years down the road? On the other hand, if you are the much younger person, would you be able to see yourself loving this person as the grey hair and wrinkles start to show?

Being in a May-December relationship has a lot of challenges but what you need to assess first is if you are willing to really spend the rest of your life with this person from a different era or generation.

Step 2:Consider commonality. You may have a huge age gap but there is something there that sparks when you two are together. It is possible that you have a lot of things in common. Whatever it is, try to nourish those things and do the things that you both enjoy and like about each other.

Step 3:Be open to changes. There may be times that you may not agree with each other when it comes to tastes and styles. For example, if you are not into the same type of music that your partner likes, you can try to compromise with each other. Besides, would it really kill you to hear a bit of his 1980's music while he drives you home?

In the same manner your partner would surely enjoy dancing with your hip-hop music knowing that you listen to his. Being able to compromise is a key to succeed in having a May-December relationship. The object here is not to change the other person to adjust to your likes but to be able to work something out and find that happy middle ground.

Step 4:Remain an individual; do not lose your self identity. Do not change or make yourself look so old or young that you would look awkward. If you are the older one, do not be too bossy.

Oftentimes, the older person tends to be bossy, restricting the younger partner's freedom. Remember that you need to let your love grow by giving it enough space or air in between. Even plants that are planted too crowded together do not grow as fast as those with enough spacing in between.

This is the same with any relationship, so much more with a May-December one. Do not be afraid to give your partner the freedom to be himself and to do what he likes, and trust that in the end it is you who he loves. Do not be too smothering if you are the older one, you will scare your partner away and she may think you are being too controlling.

On the opposite side, if you are the younger one you should not force yourself to act so old or mature that you lose you own personality. At the other end of the spectrum you also would not want to be too childish for this can put a strain in the relationship, especially if you are too clingy and too demanding of your partner's time.

Step 5:Communicate and trust your partner. It is important to have open communication with each other. Make a pact about telling each other your true feelings. Make it a point to talk it out and not just ignore things until they become an issue. Trusting each other is really important. If your much younger

girlfriend wants to hang out with her gal pals, let her.

Do not constantly call your girlfriend to check up on her. Give her space and respect that. In the same manner that you would not want your girlfriend to always bother you with phone calls when you are out playing golf with your buddies or if you are on a business trip.

Step 6:Take care of yourself. You want to be together for as long as possible. If you are 10 or more years older than your partner, make sure that you keep yourself in tip-top shape. Eating healthy food, regularly exercising and getting your regular check-ups help ensure longevity. Take care of your skin and your total appearance.

Step 7:Gain acceptance of your relationship. The biggest challenge that people who are in a May-December relationship are faced with is how to gain acceptance from loved ones, family members and

friends. Be open about your relationship to others. The sooner you come out in the open, the sooner you will gain acceptance of your relationship.

It is true that some people who care about you would give their own opinion and maybe dissuade you or dismiss this relationship and try to convince you that you are just going through a phase in your life. Whatever they say, do not act too defensive. No need to strain family relationships; give them time to understand.

Just tell them your true feelings and let them know that you will proceed with your relationship, with or without their blessings. In due time, everyone will see that what you have is real love and that age doesn't really matter.

Tips & Warnings

If you are the younger one, ensure that you make yourself presentable and clean at all times, especially if you are meeting your partner's business acquaintances. Do not go to the company dinner party wearing inappropriate clothes, always dress appropriately whatever the occasion may be.

Do not have a relationship with a minor for there would be legal consequences if you do.
Do not be ashamed to be seen out in the open together. Show that you are proud of your partner by not hiding him and pretending that he is not your boyfriend.

"Satisfy Your Man Anytime,Anywhere & Any Position"

How can you satisfy your lover in bed?

If you really want to know what makes a woman good in bed it is really just four things.... Passion, Desire, Love and Trust... If you find a woman with those four quailties then everything else will fall into place...

Sometimes, being physical with your man whom you love dearly, becomes dull and monotonous. Why so? This is a fact, everything in this world seems to get dull, though it is not so, it is the style or manner with which we handle certain things and situations that become dull. And for that, one or the other has to make some efforts to make things exciting around you.

And if your sexual activity with your man is getting quite predictable, then its the time to bring some changes. Do not always take your man for granted, I mean, do not always expect him to initiate the love-making, why can't you begin to express what you desire for?

This will make the environment really hot!!! Your man will feel the happiest ever!
As surprises are always welcome to make your relationship happening!

Wake him up with sex, giving his body your hot sighs and sensuous gestures anywhere and everywhere you like! This is the hottest thing a woman can do to arouse her man to the climax. I bet! Never lie down on bed with your man like a dummy, instead take the initiative to make your man happy.

Just ignore other distractions around or outside your bedroom- At the time of love-making, if there is happening something outside your house or the voices of your family members trying to distract you. Just look into each other's eyes and have a laugh and continue.

Also, do not hesitate to tell your man indirectly, that what and how you want him to treat you when in bed. Its your duty to make your partner aware of what kind of sexual pleasure you want and in what manner. With this, both of you will enjoy the act of love-making without any desires unfulfilled.

And please, please, never make your man feel that he is or was wrong somewhere while having sex with you. As this will shatter his self-confidence thereby making the things worse for both of you. If you felt that he was lacking something or gone wrong somewhere, then have a chat just after sex.

Ask him in a different way if you were wrong somewhere in making him happy or was lacking something, then he will tell you that. And in return,he will also ask you the same thing, and then you tell him what you felt about his performance in bed.

This way, you will understand each other better.

Your Happiness Will Bounce Back

H A P P I N E S S

I've never stayed awake at night over a chance I took that failed, but I've stayed awake over chances I didn't take.

-Garth Brooks

From "Taking That Big Risk May Not Jeopardize Your Long-Term Happiness" reprinted from Spirituality & Health magazine (May/June 2005):A study recently published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology shows that most people have stable levels of happiness. Psychologists Frank Fujita, Ph.D., of Indiana University in South Bend, and Ed Diener, Ph.D., of the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign and the Gallup Organization, examined data from a large representative sampling of individuals in Germany over a 17-year period, and concluded that three-quarters of those studied have fairly firm levels of life satisfaction that return to a baseline even after life-changing events.

Psychologists call this phenomenon a "life satisfaction set point." The concept is much like the body weight set point, the notion that a person's weight may fluctuate over time but tends to stabilize at a certain level. Similarly, the authors claim, "Some people seem to remain relatively satisfied with their lives over long periods, and others seem to have low or fluctuating [life satisfaction] even over a period as long as 17 years."

The psychologists suspect that genetically determined factors and life circumstances play a role in the ability to maintain both weight and satisfaction levels. In other words, if you feel satisfied with your life, you will likely continue to feel satisfied, come what may. Therefore, if you are considering taking a big risk, go ahead. Even if you fail, your happiness will likely bounce back. And if you are among the one-quarter of individuals who do have a fluctuating life satisfaction set point, you also might want to take the risk. Because if you succeed, you really may feel much happier.

"Cleaning The House Together Makes Things Easier"

" 4 Reasons Your Family Won't Help Clean and How to Solve the Problem "

Many people feel that their spouses and/or children don’t help out enough around the house. In addition to a general dislike of household chores, there may be significant factors influencing your family’s decision not to pitch in. If you feel like a lone warrior in a war against dirt and debris in the home, it may be time to look at the reasons your family is failing in the fight.

Reason #1: Their way isn’t the right way.

If you are the type of supervisor who is never satisfied with other peoples’ results, you may be teaching your housecleaning recruits to fail. Make sure your demands are reasonable. Your husband may not want to use the same method to scrub a tub that you do. If the tub gets clean and you did not have to do it, does it really matter? If your family is failing at accomplishing the job, they may not fully understand what you expect. “Clean the bathroom” can be a vague request. Consider posting a list of what cleaning the bathroom really involves. Try the 15 Minute Cleanups for steps to clean any room in the house. Your family will understand what is required and you will be more likely to have a job well done.

Reason #2: They do not know how.

Sometimes we forget that jobs that are easy for us, may be a mystery to the rest of our family. (Especially if they are used to having someone else do all the work.) Just as jobs outside the home have training periods, incorporate teaching chore requirements to your children. Consider a few days of side-by-side cleaning, followed by supervised cleaning. Be sure not to fall into the trap of over criticizing. You will risk a workers revolution. Training your help will alleviate the frustration of them being overwhelmed by what to do. Besides showing them how to accomplish certain chores, also show them how to make chores fun.

Reason #3: It’ll get done eventually.

Nothing will happen if they don’t do it.
Consider your family member's motivation to clean. Do they have one? If you have consistently cleaned their messes for them, suddenly asking them to take responsibility may come as a shock. Soften the blow by holding a family council and discussing the responsibilities associated with each family member. This is a great time to bring up consequences for not following the plan.

There may be natural consequences. If laundry is not brought to the laundry room every Monday, people will not have clothes to wear. Other families may tie treats, allowances, or TV time to chore completion. It may take them experiencing these consequences a few times to get the idea across.

Reason #4: Everyone is too busy and overscheduled.

If your family is overscheduled and overwhelmed, you are probably feeling the pressure of not enough time in the day. You can look to your family to help pick up the slack, but are they just as busy as you are? Many families today have few minutes left over in the day to tackle ordinary household chores.

If your family is trapped in a time crunch it may be time to reevaluate priorities to insure that necessary maintenance for your home is included. Don’t forget to incorporate leisure time inside the home into your schedule. Help your family learn that their efforts at accomplishing chores can remake their home into an oasis from the chaos of the outside world.

The 7 Stages

Follow "The Healer's Way" to recover from physical or emotional injury.

I have used this line for decades: "When talking of human well-being all there is is love and love denied." It seems to me that all the emphasis on work in the world, without the balance of genuine love, leaves us deformed as hell.

Without love, a person can become a magnificent work machine but have no kind of a life. On the other hand, a person whose solid foundation has been built by love automatically works to contribute to the fabric of society.This is what brings us to the Hoop, my friend.

Our topic is healing. The need for healing is created from the wound of love denied.Study the Hoop I'm about to describe. See if it makes sense to you. Test it out on your own experience, the ultimate yardstick. Once you begin to recognize this process, this Hoop, you will find that you can jump in at any point and still not be lost.

Any slice of life, any experience you encounter or come to recognize in yourself, will fit along one of the strands of this Hoop. Sit with it reverently, and it will tell you its secret.

1. Get Started

The most basic human need always takes priority. Our most basic need is for love and belonging, and healing is always about finding, or rediscovering, that central core, that island buried deep within all of us that is most of who we are. In terms of well-being, all there is is love and love denied.

2. Get Lost

If the need to love and be loved is not adequately met, the individual can't develop. That's the essential meaning of the word "lost." Lost means not knowing where you are or where you are headed. Lost means sitting alone in the dark because there isn't a scrap of light anywhere to follow.

3. Get Hurt

Once we get lost, we get hurt. We desperately try to cope, to cover up, each of us according to our different personalities. But in spite of that they are all just sticks thrown into the River, the restlessly ongoing effort to be found and so to find or rediscover what we were all made for.

4. Get Stuck

Follow the Hoop and see what happens next: we get stuck. Stuck means "can't move". The dynamics of stuck invade our innermost parts and become familiar. Whether it's being abused in a relationship, dying around food in one way or another, filling our bodies with drugs, shutting down all feelings, surrendering to violent rage, or isolating or hiding. These behaviors become our pimps, so to speak, and we jump when they beckon.

5. Get Called

How can there be healing if there is not first a call, an invitation to break through all the emotional and intellectual concrete holding us stuck in some dreary expression of diminished life? Any knock that invites us to move deeper into our humanity comes from the hand of God. The knock has a thousand different faces and forms, yet the invitation is the same. Once the call is heard, it is time to get up!

6. Get Up

To "get up" means just that: you make a start. Getting up doesn't mean all of a sudden you turn into a world-class sprinter. It just means that you are standing up, like a tender blade of new grass, reaching for the sun. After the call, there is a getting up, but no one ever gets up alone. There is surely a part of this process that no one can do but us but the problem of love hunger simply can't be addressed alone.

7. Get Going

Once we finally get up, once we see the wound and the systems that keep the wound active, the next step is to get going and keep going. By getting going, I mean just that: get moving and don't stop. That's the trick-keeping it up. An occasional companion on my morning walks says, "It's all practice. Simple as that. We are what we practice. You want to change something, practice it until you are there."

Expectations

There are a lot of people who are depressed to think in deep about results their good work,secred emotions,sacrifices and belongingness for their friends, nearest and the dearest.

If, we ask the reason, they just express the reason as 'Not reciprocation of thier expected response in the same manner they want to OR a good result. Are they correct? Are they thinking in a right way?

I think, they are not,cause all are not of the same nature what u are OR what you expect from the world.

In my opinion, this is not a matter to worry. Why should worry, if u done a good thing to the persons u love? This is not a mistake on your part that you shower your best to him.

Just think, Your expertise in driving does not guarantee you to escape from any accident on the road, since it is not sure that the driver opposite u is also an expert.

And the same thing applied on every person.So, you are the only person can control yourself but not to others.You have to control or advise your mind to accept the advise of comes from your soul because relation and feelings are made by your heart and let the heart to decide.

Keep your mind away from the decision in such soft matters.Your soul will show you the right way to act.Brain may distort the justice.

Do not let your mind to any clash or disappointment.

Let you think your own way in a good manner and thats all. What u get in return is depends on the healthy thoughts of the others. You need not to worry for the mistakes u did not make.

Let it be rest on the God who is the natural and real Judge to decide the good and bad. Among your friends also there may be some misunderstandings some time.

You have to evaluate the past,where there may be some mistakes or mis-happenings between him and you.Try to resolve the matter at your own keeping safe your self- esteem and listen what your soul asks you.

However, if you find no positive results and even after your deep evaluation you did not find any known mistakes,u need not to worry. Just forget the matter and leave the result on God and Nature.

iF U ARE ON A RIGHT PATH ,CERTAINLY U WILL GET JUSTICE IN FUTURE and IN YOUR FAVOUR too.

In India,Shrimadbhagvad Geeta contains the holy saying of Lord Krishna that why should u worry.The all thing is well planned and goes in a manner what has been decided by God.You need concentrate on work only and forget about the results.

So, don't worrry for the results let it be rest upon me(The God).I will see what is ok and what is not.

I, strongly have the same opinion,however this is very much difficult for a human being but, one must be think it easy.Be easy.

Time will pour all the wounds and if you find a way closed, it means that u have a new path open there for you and you will find this path a shinning one.

Concluding myself i would like to submit further that the nature has every quality.caliber and more than sufficient capacity to create and provide a new world for you-Just explore it. It has every power to give u relief and you need to feel it.

Hope,this will serve the purpose for those who in need of some guidance since, it depends on the experiences faced by me in the life.