"Self Thougths"

A HOLE IN THE SOUL

"A small hole in the body is the result of a big hole in the soul." -- Kotzker Rebbe

This esteemed 18th century kabbalist known for his penetrating wisdom is giving us an important lesson. Anger, depression, regret, revenge - and all forms of negative emotions - are holes in the soul that create holes [illness] in the body.

As the kabbalists have been teaching for 5,000 years, whatever shows up in our physical bodies is a branch - not the root. If we wish to treat and prevent illness, we must work on the cause level, which according to Kabbalah, resides between our two ears.
What goes on in your mind is what goes in your body.

Remember the spiritual rules of the game of life I spelled out in The Power of Kabbalah: the source of all chaos in our life is caused by our reactive thoughts and behavior. If we have illness, we can't think that something broke in our body. We have to know it started with our negative thoughts and actions.

If we don't realize we are the cause, there is no way to heal our life. I've got a student who is fighting cancer right now. The doctor tells him it's a deadly form the likes of which he has seen only twice in his career.

Being a spiritual person, my student has come to the realization that he has two choices at this point: bitterness or gratitude. With all of his might, he is choosing gratitude. He is not letting the negativity creep into his mind. He's keeping a positive mental image.

And though he is not out of the woods yet, his doctor is shocked at how quickly he is healing.

The Zohar teaches when you fight the negative fragments running through your head, the Light comes to assist you. But you've got to fight. What does it mean to fight? It means when you are feeling desperate or lost or terrible, you scream to the Light, "Light please help me! I don't want to feel negative today! I don't want to be depressed today! I don't want to blame others today! "Remember, we're in a war with our doubts.

Again, this is all in The Power of Kabbalah. If we just accept the thoughts that pop into our mind, we are doomed to fail. We must continually counter our negative automatic thoughts with positive ones, as well as cries to the Creator.

God helps those who help themselves.In addition, there are metaphysical tools to give us the fuel to do the inner healing that will result in physical healing. Zohar study. 72 Names of God visualization. Ana Bekoach meditation. Tikun Hanefesh. And you have to do these with enthusiasm, knowing that there is no other choice but to convert your thinking.

There are openings for healing every second of the year, but especially this week. We are in the portion of Pinchas, which the Zohar reveals as the secret to all forms of healing [personal and global.] Take this thought piece to heart this week because there is healing energy flying through the air. Use your consciousness to catch it. Doing so will help you, and the world, because we are all connected. I can't stress that enough. And you can join us in person or online for Shabbat Pinchas, the healing event of the year. It is this Saturday, July 19th.

Finally, I recommend spending as much time as you can meditating on this week's 72 Name of God. Use it when you feel that nothing can help. Beg, pray, and plead for change and healing. Visualize the Light coming out of the letters, visualizing the Light coming into you.

It doesn't matter if you don't know what you are doing. Just invest the right effort. The Kabbalists teach that the moment we invest enough effort, someone or something will come and help us.

I have now been bestowed with the emotional strength to stand after I've stumbled, to rise after I have fallen, and to endure when the path seems unendurable.

"We Can Lie But We Can't Decieve Ourselves"

OUTWARD EXPRESSION OF THE INWARD IMPRESSION.

Dear, I thank God for this wonderful opportunity we have for a chat. More so, I thank you for this honor for the audience you gave me. It had delayed for to long because of the lack of access, and this has been golden. Let me begin by saying that the heart of man is hidden and full of confusing attitudes at manifestation. Secondly it is greatly deceitful, filled with schemes and calamitous craftiness. Yet it is what is is the inside controls what is on the outside for out of the abundance of the heart does the mouth speak.

Little wonder it is said that out of the heart flows the issues of life or death because it is the well spring of life. Thus it becomes very difficult for an individual to discern what is on the inside from what is on the outside (the physical attributes of the person such as beauty, education, wealth, position in office or government, etc.). More often the issue has been the inability to establish a prospering and enduring stable relationships. Therefore in order not to hurt oneself, it becomes imperative that we will be diligent and gradual in each and every relationship we are about to venture into. Ordinarily people consider mainly physical attractions - the things that eye see - more important than the intrinsic values/ value system of the people who are about to enter into such partnership. But truly the reverse should be the case resulting undesirable outcomes.

Consequently, we have seen many a relationships that had all those things we thought that makes a relationship work, yet to their greatest dismay each day of the venture brings them untold sorrow, agony, misery, shame, disappointment, embarrassment, discouragement, failure and ultimately separation/divorce. In view of this, though I see that everything on ground is indicative of the fact that a relationship could work out between us, I have to advise that we should take it easy because there is so much work yet undone. I am not suggestive of anything for now but I believe that honesty, dedication, commitment, faithfulness, open heartedness, accommodation, understanding, wisdom, (and so - and so on) are the essential ingredients that make relationships work. These and a lot more we have to find in ourselves and establish as the foundation of a lasting relationship.

Having gone this far, I suggest that we open a dialogue and as we progress along the line we will be able to see what happens. Once more thank you for everything. Feel free to ask me whatever question that comes up in your mind ranging from personal, work, family, social, religion to whatever. I promise that I will be careful to answer them very accurately to the last details. Cheers and God bless. I love you for this great open door, privilege and honor.

"Lessons In Life,Live Life,Enjoy Its Meaning"

Audrey Hepburn wrote when asked to share her 'beauty tips.' It was read at her funeral

years later. For attractive lips, speak words of kindness... For lovely eyes, seek out the

good in people. For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry. For beautiful hair, let
a child run his/her fingers through it once a day. For poise, walk with the knowledge that

you never walk alone... People, even more than things, have to be restored,

renewed,revived, reclaimed, and redeemed; never throw out anyone.

"Be Bold,Be Brave,Be Different"

Avoiding Mediocrity: Do You Dare to Be Different?

I don’t know about you, but one of the things I’m afraid most in life is mediocrity. For me, life is too precious to be lived in mediocrity. Life is a golden opportunity, and we should use it as good as we can. Living in mediocrity means we do not use the opportunity as good as we should.

Unfortunately, many people are trapped in mediocrity. I believe one of the main reasons is they do not dare to be different. You need to be different if you want to be above the average. The question is:

Do you dare to be different?

This question might not be easy to answer, but how you answer it will make the difference between excellence and mediocrity.

Here are some more specific questions to help you check yourself and take actions:

1. Do you have a dream?

This is the first question you should ask yourself. I believe one of the main reasons people just follow the herd is they don’t have a dream. If there is nothing to pursue then why bother being different?

But a dream is what sets you above the average. Not having a dream means going to mediocrity on autopilot.

If your answer for this first question is “no” then start searching. I’m sure you have a dream deep inside of you. It might be something from your childhood. Maybe for long time you have been too busy to let the little voice of your dream be heard. This is the right time to heed that little voice.

If you have found your dream, the next question is whether or not you have the courage to follow it. Questions two through five will deal with that.

2. Are you doing what you want or what you should?

There are often implicit “rules” about what someone should do in a particular situation. For example, when there are two job opportunities, the “rule” says that you should take the one with higher pay.

But is that what you want? I mean, does it help you achieve your dream? Maybe the job with less pay will help you achieve your dream while the one with higher pay doesn’t. Do you have the courage to be different and follow your dream?

3. Do you worry more about being loved than being what you love?

Another reason why we don’t dare to be different is because we are trying to meet other people’s expectations. We often worry more about what other people say than about what matters to us. But living someone else’s life is a bad way to live your life. Why should you lose opportunity just because of what other people say?

4. Do you choose what is safe rather than what is right?

Maybe you are not trying to meet other people’s expectation. Maybe you just don’t want to take risks and therefore you choose to play safe. But this is exactly what many old people regret.

When they were asked in a study about what they regretted most and what they would do differently, most of them answered: “I wish I had risked more.” Don’t let the same regret happen to you.

5. If you had only six months left to live, would you do what you are doing now?

You can only answer “yes” to this question if what you are doing matters to you. Doing what matters to you is a sure way to excellence since you will do it with all your heart. But you need the courage to be different and follow your heart. Do you have it? I hope your answer is yes. Life is too precious to be lived in mediocrity.

"Seizing Every Moment Of Our Lives"

What is real pleasure ?
I have been on net for past one year actively involved in net socializing. i have interacted with many people. some were just seeking sex, some wanted company to share loneliness.... some wanted relationship...the interaction with each and everyone added something new to my perspective towards life.But out of all these interaction, interaction with one changed whole course of life. I got new vision to look at life. i introspected myself a lot , applied all skills of psychology in knowing myself.... as i believe if i know myself i can understand anyone in the world without colouring my perception towards him/her with my own wishes and desires...

Everyone in this world is lonely, unsatisfied,... feeling of vacum, incompleteness is hovering everyone, despite of thier sound social position, fanances,and many realtionship they enjoyed. but no one could achieve the desired level of satisfaction, feeling of being complete.

Almost everyone has similar story.Every one is searching pleasure, in pursuit of this they tried to grab top most position in there professional world, they earned name, fame, money and many good physically satisfying relationship. enjoyed the pleasure out of all achieved things.... but every pleasure was momentry, it lost its worth, charm and charisma with time. again search for pleasure started.........

Somehow i feel, we people fail to define pleasure because we don't undrestand who we are? what we actually want out of life..? I beleive in maslow, who says life is a journey..ultimate aim of this life is self actualization.... in this journey we need to first achieve the satisfaction for biological and social needs thn we can achieve ever lasting pleasure by self actualization.

Its so easy to satisfy biological needs but satisfaction of social need especially need for belongingness and association has become so impossible now a days..we try to associated with our parents but this association breaks when they depart.. then we make friends.. but this momentry feeling of belongingness doesn't last long , they have their own life.... we make gal/ boy friend.... here we get satisfaction, but it also fades whn they leave you for someone else.then search of permanent relationship i.e. soul mate starts..... but getting soul mate and making him belive in his feeling for u is also very difficult.

Finally most of human being reverse back to biological needs and try to exract satisfaction out of sex or physical relationship...but with every harmonal cycle the so called achieved satisfaction fades out... and we humans just get entangled into this vicious circle... find ourself stressed out and burned out frequently... this also results in many psycho somatic illnesses like, BP, heart illnesses, frequent attcks of allergic reactions, insomania, diabeties etc......

Finally we depart from this world without knowing ourself , fail to accomplish god's work to serve others, find pleausre out of giving pleausre to others... helping god in making this world beautiful and livable .The reason is simple we fail in junior class of needs after easily passing primary class of needs....

When company of soul mate can give long lasting pleasure, can satisfy need of belongingness, why don't we believe in our feelings and emotions when we get aquainted with our soul mate? what's the point in living in pain, getting struck to the lower level of heirarchy of needs? why are we wasting another birth in understanding and accepting the soul mate send by god....why are we going against god and living in pain? every soul has been gifted with one soul mate... but we humans fail to catch the signals. understand our mate because of our ego, self inflicting values and barriers...

Until the time two souls wont unite long lasting pleasure , sense of completeness, cann0t be attained without union we cannot progess spiritually.... let's not waste this birth as well ... let's help God in making this world beautiful...let's overcome all barriers and unite with the soul mate and achive higher goals unite with the supreme power, forever.......

Cheating

When Does Cheating Happens?

Cheating happens when you start looking for what you don't have. Somewhere along the way, you will meet someone who will be more charming or sensitive than the one youre already with.

More sexy, More thoughtful, wealthier, better in bed, and you will meet someone who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your boyfriend/girlfriend ever did. No boyfriend/girlfriend is perfect, because your boyfriend/girlfriend will only have 90 percent of what you're looking for.

So, cheating happens when you look for the missing 10 percent. Lets say your girlfriend is melancholic by nature. You may find yourself drawn to the pretty girl next-door who has a cheerleader laugh no matter what she says: I broke my arm yesterday, ha ha ha...

Or because your girlfriend is a couch potato who is always in pajamas and smelling of garlic and cooking oil, you may fall for the CK-One-smelling colleague who comes to work in a sharp pinstripe blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt.

Or because your boyfriend is the type who never shuts up even when you've tried using duct tape, your heart may skip a beat when you sit next to a brooding, mysterious Latino on the bus.

But wait! Thats only 10 percent of what you don't have. Don't throw away the 90 percent that you already do! add to the 90 percent the 100 percent that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together.

The many adjustments you have made to better understand each others little quirks and idiosyncracies. The wealth of memories that you have accumulated as lovers. The old sparks that can always be rekindled by the walk on the beach, barefoot and underneath the stars...

Cheating happens when you start looking for what you don't have. But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already do.

"Ways Of Love"

RULES ON LOVE

1. Do not fall in love everytime you fall in bed.
2. Learn to detach emotionally.
3. Sex does not equal commitment.
4. Do not revolve your entire life around him/her.
5. Addiction is bad for your heath.
6. Do not cling, act needy or demand.
7. Doormats are for your feet, NOT your heart.
8. It's OK to say NO.
9. Do not grill them, or their friends for information.
10. Master the art of LISTENING.
11. Treat him/her as you would your bestfriend.
12. Friendship creates long term love, and comes before sex.
13. Forget about fixing your partner. IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN.
14. Your choice of partner is a reflection of who you are and who you are not.
15.Enjoy the moment first. Live in the present.
16. Don't worry about the ex's, or start naming your future children.
17. Never read their journal or go through their paperwork.
18. If you have NO TRUST, you have NO RELATIONSHIP.
19. Allow space and freedom between you.
20. Do not always be available.
21. Calling frequently is a turn-off and signals insecurity, neediness and control.
22. Open your eyes to lies and cheating, OR close them, justify the bad behavior, and live with the consequences.
23. Little or no eye contact? Start walking away. They won't notice you are gone.
24. Anyone preoccupied with their physical appearance usually have very little or nothing to offer from within.
25. Look beyond the physical.
26. NEVER compromise your values.
27. DO NOT LOSE YOUR IDENTITY.

28. December-May relationships are great! However, seasons change and the May lover will sooner or later hear the call of Spring.
29. If someone really wants to be be with you, he/she will be.
30. If they ask to be just friends, be just that and look elsewhere for a love partner.
31. If they keep giving reasons for not calling, or say they are extremely busy, GET THE HINT and leave them alone.
32. DON'T EVER give up your friends for him/her.
33. IF YOUR PARTNER ONE DAY LEAVES YOU, BE SURE YOU HAVE FRIENDS, MONEY, A CAREER AND A LIFE OF YOUR OWN WHICH YOU NEVER GAVE UP. If you don't, who do you have to blame but yourself.