Showing posts with label expressing your emotions. Show all posts
Showing posts with label expressing your emotions. Show all posts

Saturday, May 15, 2010

Honesty & Integrity

I want to talk for a minute; to be open with you. Something that is very important to me is integrity and honesty. I always strive to be as honest and open about myself as I can. Perhaps this is a throw-back to my Christian background and Jesus’ harsh stance against hypocrisy: the last thing I ever want is to be a hypocrite.

Anyone who has followed my blogs for a while has hopefully learned that each and every blog of mine is honest. It is a record of my honest opinions/thoughts/beliefs at the time of writing. I have never deleted a controversial blog, because I want to show that I have the integrity to stand by what I’ve written, and own any wrong calls I’ve made. I also don’t make a habit of deleting comments because I think that it also shows integrity that I allow opposing opinions to be there for all to see.

I’ve made a commitment to you and myself to try and write more positive and uplifting blogs. And I do want to do that, but I don’t want anyone thinking that I am always happy or that I put on a mask for the sake of proving a point. I’m sharing this with you because I want to continue to write whatever is on my mind and that includes when I am in a bad mood. I want you to know that I still stand by my commitment to spread positive ideas, but in order to show my integrity I feel it’s necessary for me to also show that I am human.

Plus, the greatest purpose my blogs serve is ultimately for my enjoyment. They are my therapy, my way of processing my thoughts and my way of providing further meaning to my life by spreading ideas I think will help make the world a better place. And I have learned so, so very much from the people who comment on my blogs. Thank you.

Sunday, January 25, 2009

"I Want To Kiss Your Sex"

Are You Quite Disappointed?


I hope not!



Hello! Now that I have your attention I’ll admit that this blog has nothing to do with sex, or wanting it, getting it, trying to get it, or keeping it. As I search out ‘worthy’ blogs to read, ‘raunchy sex blogs’ appear to be a topic which will land many bloggers fame-for-a-minute on Blogspot. Honestly, I can’t say that I waste my time in reading this garbage as it is often written using foul language and in poor taste. But hey, sex sells! - Even if it is poorly written, makes little sense and is highly offensive at times.


Nope, I’m not here to judge anyone who wants to write about sex. They are the ones who are the top bloggers unlike me, so who am I to condemn that? Yet as a published author of one novel and a freelance writer of articles I use blogging as a way to unclog ‘mental constipation’ which often seems to find me.




My blogs may sometimes be silly but I do attempt to write things worthy of your time, because your time is valuable, as is mine. Thanks to all of you who do read my blogs, and I hope never to waste a few minutes of your life.


YOU ARE WHAT YOU READ


Remember that.


Wednesday, December 10, 2008

"Emotions Unfold"










emotional contagion

One midnight, I had just finished another shift at a job I didn’t like so I was alive with energy. I smiled, my eyes were open, I felt good about myself. I said my usual goodbyes to a friend and sprung into my car. My friend reversed his car just before I had the chance to leave my car park so he had beaten me this time – it was an unspoken game that took place each time we left from work. I waited for him to get out of the way before I reversed to make my way home.

As I was leaving, the open car park gave me an invitation to have a little fun with my car. If landscapes could talk, this one was whispering into my ear that I should spin the wheels. “Besides, it’s late at night. No one is around and you’re feeling great. It’s an open car park with no danger. Do it!” said the persuasive voice. Like a vulnerable teenager succumbing to peer pressure, I accepted the invitation.

The car became an extension of my body as it began to mimic my ecstatic mood. I put my foot down hard on the accelerator as I spun the wheel left around the first corner. As the rear tires lost their stability and the car went side-ways, I entered the next turn and spun the wheel right. The sound of screeching tires was like water fertilizing my increasing smile. Smoke filled the rims of my tires and a shot of adrenaline filled my body.

Following the consecutive drifts, I straightened the car and approached a set of traffic lights on the main road that would take me home. Had this been during the daytime, about seven cars would be in front of me before the upcoming traffic lights. I decided to keep complying with the road’s persuasive voice as it told me to “be a little adventurous” so I decided, or rather I let the road decide for me, that I should turn left instead of my usual right turn. Not exactly an Indiana Jones adventure, but it was different.

My friend who had left before me had just gone through the traffic lights a few seconds before me so the lights were still green. Keeping in the mood, I put my foot down on the accelerator to catch the green light. I would make it. I turned around the corner with a soft screech of the tires and there, 20 meters in front of me, on the side of the road were two police officers beside their vehicle.

They pulled me over. Opposite to what you might be thinking, I was not concerned. I was still in my elevated state. I wound down my window and an angry officer came charging at me, yelling, “What the hell are you thinking? What the hell is going through your mind?” I paused momentarily, unaffected by his aggressive state. I said smilingly, “I’m just happy, I guess”. Not a smart response.

It just hit me that I was out of it. I knew I should have said something else. I gulped. My mind rushed to think of some communication techniques I could use as a life boat to save me from drowning in the conversation. The moment was intense and all that came to mind were some techniques on getting out of a speeding-ticket. I thought to myself that I’ll give the techniques a shot. After all, I had annoyed the officer enough already.

As I was thinking how to approach this difficult situation, I was still happy of course. My happy mood seemed to pour fuel on his already raging fire. “Bloody hell mate! I could just give you a ticket right now!” My smile began to lower. I no longer made eye contact with the officer. The officer’s raging mood began to infect me and cause me to feel angry. It was as if my body had been overcome by an emotional virus the officer had given me.

I thought of the techniques to get out of a speeding-ticket and realized I was already beginning to use them. Well, it was too late to make the officer feel safe as he approached the car, but I needed to no longer act oblivious to my mistake. I needed to show respect as officers are in a clear position of authority and often experience disrespect throughout their day that only makes them more determined to convict guilty citizens. “You’re right.” I replied. “I was stupid and careless.”

The officer was still enraged and continued to threaten me with a ticket. I knew he could easily write me a ticket, but he wasn’t writing one possibly because officers hate the paperwork created from citizens breaking the law. I kept myself aligned with the officer’s reality by remaining in a “Yes I’m wrong, stupid, and shouldn’t have done that” mood. I continued to play psychological judo, and match my mood with his own, until two minutes later he said to drive off. And oh, I got no ticket!

I drove off – though feeling pleased I had beaten a reckless driving ticket – in an irritated state. The officer had destroyed my happy mood. It took two minutes of talking with the officer to completely transform my happy state into a joyless, gloomy mood. All it took was two minutes to convert my mood and there I was, in an unhappy state for the remaining two hours until I went to bed.

Everyday you are interacting with people at different mood levels. Sometimes you’re happier than people you are talking to, other times they are happier than you. Whatever the case maybe, emotions are being transferred to various people. This is a fascinating peculiarity with emotions. Have you ever noticed how we feel in our interactions is not just dependent on our internal state?

  • How did you feel when someone really annoyed began talking to you? You became more annoyed.
  • How did you feel when someone unhappy began talking to you? You began to be unhappy.
  • How did you feel when a charismatic person talked to you? You felt his energy and you began to feel happier.

Sunday, November 9, 2008

"Expressive Eyes"

"Look Into My Eyes"


They infected in her soul

A malicious disease to hate

What she loves most

Her pride of being unique,

Was judged accordingly,

To their grammars

Of being characteristically misunderstood punctuation

They forgot that she is an extraordinary woman

Who needs no Dick to rationalize her emotions?

Nor Tom to try and fulfill her aspirations

And not even Harry to make her

A phenomenal woman

They are just in her eyes the passing sun rays

Of the rain droplets caressing her soul

With the strength to be justly judged as a phenomenal woman

And be trialed by those who believe innocence doesn't exist

In their dreams of wanting her naked and bare

But it is her love remembered

By us who remembers our ex's,

Axed by our inability to have patience

Strongly bonded in time to remind us

We have lost our own redeemed minds.

By failing to listen why we respond to a prayer

That blesses those we hate the most

With greatest passion of forgetting

The ones we simply love.

Thursday, November 6, 2008

"Enough"

" Having Enough "

The only difference between needing more and having enough is your attitude.

At any time, in any circumstance, you always have the option of deciding that you are enough, and that you already have enough for the moment you’re in.

Always longing for more will eventually wear you down into a painful, frustrating and overwhelming sense of disillusionment.

Having enough, on the other hand, puts you into a peaceful, positive and productive state of mind.

Just imagine how completely satisfying it would be to suddenly have everything you need.
You can know that satisfaction right now, in this very moment, just by allowing yourself to have enough.

It costs you nothing to decide that you have enough.

For having enough does not preclude you from creating more abundance in your life.
In fact, having enough sets your creativity free and allows your effectiveness to soar to new heights.

When you get away from the stifling mindset of lack and limitation, truly magnificent things will happen.

By having enough, your struggles disappear and are replaced with countless opportunities for real joy.

See right now that you have enough, and delight in the warm and genuine richness it brings.

"Importance Of Emotional Intelligence"

Emotional Intelligence

We usually believe that intelligent people succeed in life. However, according to psychologists, the intelligence, in its place, is undoubtedly important, but the success does not depend solely on intelligence. In fact the success depends on a hidden talent which guides us to lead a successful life and makes us capable of achieving better prospects in life. The social psychologists believe that for an individual, to be intelligent only, is not sufficient, but it is also necessary that his own personality should be such that it may be helpful for best utilization of the intellect.

Also, it is a fact that these two capabilities are present together in very few individuals. Individuals who are capable of controlling their emotions and intellect at the same time, in fact, know the art of remaining happy and successful for long periods of time and simultaneously they execute their virtues on the social attitudes.

Those who possess the capability of controlling their emotions, act according to the circumstances, become famous for their hard work and confidence and gain the trust of others. On the other hand, those who are very enthusiastic, impatient, emotional and unstable regarding their temperament, are usually not only successful, but, due to their obstinacy in their practical life and by implementing their own ideas and desires, soon fall prey to a feeling of deprivation and accept the failure quickly.

Those, who, instead of making haste in achieving their needs, practise patience, as a matter of fact, conquer their emotions by their wisdom. This act is the manifestation of emotional intelligence, by virtue of which, an individual compromizes with even worst circumstances.


Emotional intelligence, in fact, comprizes of qualities such as good attitude, better behaviour with others, civilized habits and decency, patience and sobriety. Therefore it may be accepted that we can make our conduct better and mature, by virtue of the above-mentioned qualities. Besides, these qualities also prove helpful for achieving better relations with others, better performance, successful married life, and higher goals regarding social and economic aspects of life.

Out of us, those who are capable of understanding that what may be the reaction of others in response to any matter, can lead their lives in a better way. Many of us, in states of anger, anxiety, frustration and hardship, do not care that such frank expression of emotions may cast what type of impressions on others who are associated with them. But those who possess the emotional intelligence can exercise self-control in such situations and if there is a need of emotional expression, they do adopt a suitable way for expressing their emotions To express anger, is an easy job, but Aristotle says
‘’ On the right person, at right time and for a right purpose, it is not easy to express anger in a right manner.’’


If we observe ourselves collectively , we would find that we are such a nation which is least capable of expressing emotional intelligence. We do not have the moral courage for accepting realities. Our tendency to fulfil our needs and wishes, over night,, leads us to the indecent and dishonest acts. And we must appreciate that by adopting such undesireable actions, the success and happiness which is achieved is not long lasting. Nothing is achieved except bad reputation and repentance .

We have many shortcomings regarding moral and conduct, because we want our will to be implemented in all matters and do not allow others to have their due rights. We do not attach any importance to the likings or dislikings of others. We do not respect others and do not pay regards to them. We are gradually running short of many virtues as conduct, decency and gentleness.

To find out the faults of others and dig out the secrets about their short comings, has become our favorite past time. We are deceitful, accuse others and are negligent in routine responsibilities. Inspite of doing all this, we, instead of feeling ashamed, about our wrong, indecent and illegal acts, we think that we are on the right path. All this , is a definite proof of our inferior emotional intelligence. Nevertheless , we should remain hopeful, because, according to psychologists, by making firm decisions and practising perseverance , we can improve the emotional intelligence.

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Who I Am Makes a Difference


WHO AM I?

A teacher in New York decided to honor each of her seniors in High School by telling them the difference each of them had made. She called each student to the front of the class, one at a time.First, she told each of them how they had made a difference to her, and the class. Then she presented each of them with a blue ribbon, imprinted with gold letters, which read, "Who I Am Makes a Difference."Afterwards, the teacher decided to do a class project, to see what kind of impact recognition would have on a Community.

She gave each of the students three more blue ribbons, and instructed them to go out and spread this acknowledgment ceremony. Then they were to follow up on the results, see who honored whom, and report back to the class in about a week.One of the boys in the class went to a junior executive in a nearby Company, and honored him for helping him with his career planning. He gave him a blue ribbon, and put it on his shirt.

Then he gave him two extra ribbons and said, "We're doing a class project on recognition, and we'd like for you to go out, find somebody to honor, give them a blue ribbon, then give them the extra blue ribbon so they can acknowledge a third person, to keep this acknowledgmentceremony going.

Then please report back to me and tell me what happened."Later that day, the junior executive went in to see his boss,who had been noted, by the way, as being kind of a grouchy fellow.

He sat his boss down, and he told him that he deeply admired him for being a creative genius. The boss seemed very surprised. The junior executive asked him if he would accept the gift of the blue ribbon, and would he give him permission to put it on him. His surprised boss said, "Well, sure." The junior executive took the blue ribbon and placed it right on his boss's jacket, above his heart.As he gave him the last extra ribbon, he said, "Would you take this extra ribbon, and pass it on by honoring somebody else.

The young boy who first gave me the ribbons is doing a project in school, and we want to keep this recognition ceremony going and find out how it affects people."That night, the boss came home to his 14-year-old son, and sat him down. He said, "The most incredible thing happened to me today. I was in my office, and one of the junior executives came in and told me he admired me, and gave me a blue ribbon for being a creative genius. Imagine! He thinks I'm a creative genius! Then he put this blue ribbon that says, "Who I Am Makes a Difference", on my jacket above my heart.

He g ave me an extra ribbon and asked me to findsomebody else to honor. As I was driving home tonight, I started thinking about whom I would honor with this ribbon, and I thought about you. I want to honor you. My days are really hectic and when I come home, I don't pay a lot of attention to you. Sometimes I scream at you for not getting good enough grades in school, and for your bedroom being a mess. But somehow tonight, I just wanted to sit here and, well, just let you know that you do make a difference to me.Besides your mother, you are the most important person in my life. You're a great kid, and I love you!

"The startled boy started to sob and sob, and he couldn't stop crying. His whole body shook. He looked up at his father and said through his tears, "Dad, earlier tonight I sat in my room and wrote a letter to you and Mom, explaining why I had killed myself, and I asked you to forgive me. I was going to commit suicide tonight after you were asleep. I just didn't think that you cared at all. The letter is upstairs. I don't think I need it after all." His father walked upstairs and found a heartfelt letter full of anguish and pain.

The boss went back to work a changed man. He was no longer a grouch, but made sure to let all of his employees know that they made a difference. The junior executive helped several other young people with career planning, and never forgot to let them know that they made a difference in his life......one being the boss' son. And the young boy and his classmates learned a valuable lesson, "Who you are DOES make a difference".

Thursday, October 30, 2008

"Uniqueness In Her"


It is widely known that a group of women who live together in close quarters will, over time, witness the syncing of their menstrual periods with each other. It is also thought that artificial light may play a role in this as well. While some have speculated that their natural scents may be a source of this syncing, the truth of this natural, and beautifully intriguing feminine wonder is only a step into the spiritual nature of women...a step which is as beautiful as the physical, emotional, and mental aspects of their being, and yet unique as to be something only a journey in knowing them can provide...

But what is it about women that quickens the pulse, captures the hearts and minds, slows the breathing, and invokes longings and emotions? I have struggled with trying to answer these questions, and this writing represents my own attempt to do just that. Whether it's the charm of a little girl's loving, innocent smile, or the seductive sparkle deep within a woman's eyes, the tugging they create inside of us is undeniable.

No woman can be placed in a box--each is unique; yet these are things that I believe are common to many. They are thoughts intended to express what I have seen, and continue to see, in the beauty of the feminine.

How often have you heard the word "emotional" used to describe a woman in a positive way? Yet while we all have emotions, women are gifted in the ways they feel, connect with, and express them.

"A woman's intuition" has been used to describe the natural ability to see what men often cannot...it can cut through false pretenses, motives, and may feel other's hidden emotions and pain. There is no scientific evidence to use as proof, but reading and deciphering even the most subtle body language is perhaps where the power from which this intuition stems. While not every woman may lay claim to this, it is nevertheless common among women, and is perhaps sharpest in those whose feeling, sensing personalities are in tune with their femininity. Mothers are perhaps the best example of all these characteristics; sensitivity, concern, compassion, love, and perception.

Girls naturally show their emotions; whether it's excitement about something good that happened to them, or expressing fears or concerns, they are not inhibited from letting it out. Society does not place any pressure or false expectations on them when they do; no-one questions them for it. If they have been deeply hurt, they are free to cry, and shed their tears. Men long to be physical by nature because they find no comfort whatsoever in other men; women can hug each other and be physical in a friendly sense, and that is comforting to them. With men, bonding consists of activities such as watching a basketball game.

There is perhaps no more common ground to the world of the feminine than that of a new-born baby. New mothers will often be approached by other women--even complete strangers--but instantly a bond is formed with the appreciation and joy a baby brings. It is a pride; a joy that each instinctively knows and finds wonderful to share in.

Communication flows freely, whether it's a group of young girls, or a gathering of older ladies. There is more excitement, quick comprehension and sharing of thoughts and opinions, and often while other tasks are being done. There are various defining factors that seem to clear the air of uncertainty when this is considered, such as larger groups of girls together than men or boys, which seems to indicate an open atmosphere of acceptance and bonding.

While truth never changes, women's views and response to them is unique; and for good reason. Within situations and circumstances, there may be hidden motives and agendas...and what may not seem obvious or apparent is rarely hidden from a woman.

It's a long established fact that girls handle stress better; including repetitive/long-term tasks. Women complain less and continue working hard at tasks that most men would never want to deal with.

Why is it that girls and women seem to naturally know what looks good when it comes to clothing, what colors match and which don't? Is it instinctive, or is it something they learn as a result of having a strong interest from a young age? Whatever the answer, those in marketing understand the ties a woman has with her appearance, and clothing is no exception.

Pride doesn't get in their way...the male ego can be a hindrance when it comes to getting things done; the jokes about not asking for directions when lost, or not reading the instructions didn't materialize out of thin air.

There is an overwhelming unity and blending of curves that contrasts with the ordinary, boxy shape of a man's body. You will rarely find art showing the "beauty" of the male body like it does with the female. The compact nature, curves, and smoothness of the female body simply makes the male body look quite poor in comparison--and rightly so. The truth is that you'll find the vast majority of men and women being physically attracted to women. I say "physically attracted" because most women are attracted to men, but usually in ways other than the physical. Advertisers know this, and women are used to not only attract men, but also women. So the issue of beauty is obvious. This is true regardless of hormonal-based male attraction; their basic physical makeup is intricately honed to be intensely physical and beautiful in nature.

We know that physical beauty is only skin deep, but it is most often the first thing that garners our attention, and stirs our desire. Without it, there would be less reason to further our interest in searching the soul of the one we're attracted to. The physical differences of a woman are a powerful drawing point, but they are only one aspect to consider. Likewise, hormones also play a part in attracting us, but when they fade, there are elements that retain their uncanny lure.

Differences attract, and perhaps the most subtle and unrecognized is the feminine voice. What father can resist melting when he hears his daughter's voice; her innocent and needy cry that is heard when it reaches his ears? Or what man can deny the seductive nature of a woman who is expressing her desire, or the deep pull he feels as she genuinely pours her heart out to him?

Movement is perhaps the hardest to define and describe, but it is the combination of animated physical attributes and how they relate to each other in that movement that so rapidly and powerfully draws, captures and harnesses attention. From the sometimes humorous, yet movement of a woman's breasts as she runs, or the swaying of her hips and luring twists of her buttocks as she walks, women easily command the art of their animation.


While pregnancy is often thought of as a curse, and something to be dreaded, it remains a deep and powerful ability of a woman to bear and give birth to children. We all have mothers, and the maternal connection is as undeniably a part of us as people as the air we breathe. As men, I believe recognize but rarely admit to the fascination of conception, birth, and procreation of both sexes, as though their inability to be mothers themselves has silenced their voice...as though their pride was once again defeated. Women go through nine months with heaviness, sickness, dramatic changes in their hormones and emotions, cravings of foods and womanly desires...and yet these things seem shunned or put away despite the wonder that is taking place within her as a mother and recipient of a unique beauty.

The female body is full of enriching contrasts, such as the small waist and wide hips; the fullness of breasts and the sensual openness and modesty of her sensuality, comforting and relaxing, yet seductive and arousing. The old masters of art captured the curves and blends of the female body in another contrast that stands the test of time and mindset; rubenesque and sensual--making a dramatic statement that defies what today's culture attempts to claim as the only beauty. The truth is that a woman's curves are elegantly crafted with an intricate design...there is nothing random about their placement, or combination.

Any view of a woman from front, back, side, top down, toes up, and everything in between, interweaves and adds new wonder and variety to each part of her body. Taking in every detail; the feminine form, from the top down...

And now as I am almost tempted to describe in detail each female body part, I decided otherwise…I want to leave something for your imagination

Cheers to all the women out there..Everyone of us is beautiful in her own way.

Saturday, October 25, 2008

E.Q.

Definition of emotional intelligence

Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize, acknowledge, manage and handle your emotions in such a way that promotes personal growth. Think of someone who projects his anger on his small child just because he had a fight with his manager or think of a driver who shouts at other drivers in the street just because the hot weather was irritating for him, both are examples of people who aren’t emotionally intelligent.

Emotionally intelligent people know the real reasons for their emotions and thus they don’t confuse them with other factors nor do they get their past involved in the decisions they take. If your best friend betrayed you in the past and then you developed a fear of trusting anybody then you are not applying emotional intelligence in your life.

Emotional intelligence is a way of identifying and managing your emotions in such a way that promotes a happier and a healthier life.

Failing to recognize your emotions

Lots of people feel bad without knowing why and the majority of them blame incorrect reasons for the bad feelings they are having.

Why do you think some people become bad tempered when they are stressed? Those people have weak stress management abilities yet they always think that other people are are the ones to be balmed instead of acknowledging their own weaknesses. If those people were to understand that they have became bad tempered because of their lack of stress management abilities then they would have taken the first step towards becoming emotionally intelligent.

Some people think that they are bored because the place they live in is boring but the truth is that they are bored because something inside them needs a fix and not the place they live in.

some people spend years suffering from a breakup thinking that they loved that person while the truth is that they only needed him to compensate for one of their personal weakness. In my book How to get over anyone in few days I described how can some people keep suffering from a breakup for a long time even if the reason for suffering was something else other than loving the person.

Some people feel depressed thinking that their life style promotes depression while the truth is that there is a deeply buried issue in their minds that they are afraid to bring to the surface.(see when he deceives you)

There are lots and lots of examples of people who failed to recognize the real reasons for their unwanted emotions and the result in all cases is the same, becoming unhappy and dissatisfied.

how to become emotionally intelligent

The steps for becoming emotionally intelligent are clear and well known but applying them requires lots of hard work in addition to a solid discipline. The first thing you should do in order to become emotionally intelligent is to learn how to identify the real reasons for your emotions instead of blaming other innocent factors for them. After recognizing your emotions its then the time to handle them in an intelligent way, knowing that you are angry because you had a fight with your manager should help you prevent yourself from shouting at your small child and should help you to think of a way to express your anger peacefully without harming innocent people.

In summary, if you understood your emotions then learned how to channel them in a way that doesn’t cause harm to you or to the people around you, then you will become an emotionally intelligent person.

Wednesday, October 22, 2008

"Power Can't Bring True Happiness"


I'm sorry but I don't want to be an emperor.

That's not my business. I don't want to rule or conquer anyone.

I should like to help everyone if possible ; Jew, Gentile, black men, white.

We all want to help one another. Human beings are like that. We want to live by each others' happiness, not by each other's misery. We don't want to hate and despise one another.

In this world there is room for everyone. And the good earth is rich and can provide for everyone. The way of life can be free and beautiful. But we have lost the way.

Greed has poisoned men's souls ; has barricaded the world with hate ; has goose-stepped us into misery and bloodshed. We have developed speed, but we have shut ourselves in. Machinery that gives abundance has left us in want. Our knowledge as made us cynical ; our cleverness, hard and unkind. We think too much and feel too little.

More than machinery we need humanity. More than cleverness, we need kindness and gentleness. Without these qualities, life will be violent and all will be lost. The aeroplane and the radio have brought us closer together.

The very nature of these inventions cries out for the goodness in man ; cries out for universal brotherhood ; for the unity of us all.Even now my voice is reaching millions throughout the world, millions of despairing men, women, and little children, victims of a system that makes men torture and imprison innocent people.

To those who can hear me, I say "Do not despair." The misery that is now upon us is but the passing of greed, the bitterness of men who fear the way of human progress. The hate of men will pass, and dictators die, and the power they took from the people will return to the people. And so long as men die, liberty will never perish.Soldiers !

Don't give yourselves to brutes, men who despise you and enslave you ; who regiment your lives, tell you what to do, what to think and what to feel ! Who drill you, diet you, treat you like cattle, use you as cannon fodder !

Don't give yourselves to these unnatural men --- machine men with machine minds and machine hearts ! You are not machines ! You are not cattle ! You are men !

You have a love of humanity in your hearts ! You don't hate ! Only the unloved hate ; the unloved and the unnatural.Soldiers ! Don't fight for slavery ! Fight for liberty ! In the seventeenth chapter of St. Luke, it’s written “the kingdom of God is within man”, not one man nor a group of men, but in all men ! In you !

You, the people, have the power, the power to create machines, the power to create happiness ! You, the people, have the power to make this life free and beautiful, to make this life a wonderful adventure.

Then in the name of democracy, let us use that power. Let us all unite.Let us fight for a new world, a decent world that will give men a chance to work, that will give youth a future and old age a security.

By the promise of these things, brutes have risen to power. But they lie ! They do not fulfill their promise. They never will ! Dictators free themselves but they enslave the people ! Now let us fight to fulfill that promise ! Let us fight to free the world ! To do away with national barriers ! To do away with greed, with hate and intolerance !

Let us fight for a world of reason, a world where science and progress will lead to all men’s happiness.Soldiers, in the name of democracy, let us all unite !Hanna, can you hear me ? Wherever you are, look up Hanna ! The clouds are lifting ! The sun is breaking through ! We are coming out of the darkness into the light !

We are coming into a new world ; a kind new world, where men will rise above their hate, their greed, and brutality.Look up, Hanna !

The soul of man has been given wings and at last he is beginning to fly. He is flying into the rainbow. Into the light of hope ! Into the future ! The glorious future !

That belongs to you, to me, and to all of us.Look up, Hanna ! Look up !Hanna ! Did you hear that ?

Tuesday, October 21, 2008

"My Life , My Pains & My Joys"

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I have my own goals to achieve,
I have my own destination to reach,
No matter how hard it seems,
I have my own world to conquer.

Till yesterday I had someone to wait for,
Today I have my own path to tread,
Till yesterday I had faith in someone,
Today I cud only trust myself.

Its my fight, fight for Existence,
That I have to carry on,
I've understood the bitter part of life,
The pain of parting and being alone.

In this conquest for a world of my own,
I have left the memories behind,
Memories for which I shed tears,
Wanna start a new journey,
Towards a new Horizon,
Where all my dreams turn to reality.

Those darkest periods of disbeliefs are gone,
paving way to bright daylight of life,
Alighting the new path of hopes and dreams,
of a future filled with happiness in loneliness...

This is time when old is to be forgotten,
and new ones to be embraced,
new dreams and this new chance,
I have to excel from here..for myself.

Its the time to think about,
about a world of my own,
how to make it and how to use it,
to stand up alone and to prove myself...

What was life till now?
I don't know,
But how will life turn on me from now,
That I do Know,
coz I learned to tackle, all the games played by life.....
coz I learned............to live


I may not be there in your
happiness,
But, I will be there when your
heart will ache.
I may not be with you when there's
a sunny day
But I will be there when you are alone
in gloomy one.


I won't be there when
you will laugh,
But be sure that I will be there when
you will cry.
Not to assure you but to
cry with you.
I may not be able to give you
all happiness,
But I won't leave you when
there's sad.


I may not be able to fulfill all
your needs,
But I won't make you
feel bad.
I may not be there when your
life is excited,
But be sure I will be there when
you are depressed.


Not to assure you but to give you
the inspiration,
I may not be there in front of you when
I need you.
But I will be there in front of you when
you need me.

Saturday, October 11, 2008

TrueLove Inspires

True meaning of love...

Love does not want superiority,respects the difference in equality,It is not cruel, arrogant, or mean,True Love is kind, caring, considerate and clean.

True Love is not found with lust or power trips,it can't be found in butts or hips.

We know that 'Looks' are not important,and know that a good heart matters most.

When love is sought in silly superficialities,the only thing that's found is emptiness,
But when truelove is found,you know in it you'll always want to be entwined.


With wisdom we learn truths,

True Love is sympathetic and it lets you be free,anyone who knows true love... will agree.True Love lives in caring and sharing,that I can guarantee and swear.

True Love is giving but not excessive,Truelove listens well and is expressive.Truelove is just and wise,it doesn't allow unfair abuse,that comes from crazy girls or guys,True Love really can live alone and still feel love,It usually chooses to share itself with others,it fills you with comfort,it always lives... its always love.

Some say that Love is what a soul is made of,some say its a peace of God,Some just say its truly wonderful,others say love is beautiful in everyway,When you live in love,with love you always want to stay,

It can be dependent or independent,it still has choice and free will,
but it is just and there are some rules,just like there is a wrong and right,but with true love there's no need to fightyou only fight for what is right.


When you are in love....you live in love ,you want to share it with everyone everywhere,Its Nice to know Truelove is eternal,it lives within every soul,its up to you to see it and behold...it is true comfort... Truelove is harmony.

Saturday, August 23, 2008

"The Power Of Music In Our Lives"

How Music Affects Your Life

Music is a human activity which involves structured, audible sounds and is used for artistic, entertainment or ceremonial purposes. Music is a major part of our environment. Music is often referred to as "The International Language" - a simple thought with vast implications behind it. Even if you cannot speak the language of a foreign country, you can move, dance, and most of all, enjoy the music of that country. While we may not understand the words to a particular song, we do understand the beauty of the music.

The making of music predates man's use of the written word and is deeply tied to the development and uniqueness of various human cultures. Music has influenced human beings since the dawn of civilization. Music is written and performed for a variety of purposes, including human pleasure, religious or ceremonial functions, or as entertainment products for sale in the marketplace.

Music greatly affects our personal moods. Music can calm and revitalize us in a variety of ways. It can elevate our moods above our personal fears and doubts and even reduce stress and pain levels.


Try listening to a classical music score for a sense of power. Soft, soothing music can help you unwind. And listen to medium-fast to fast music for exercising and house cleaning. Putting additional music in your life can be a powerfully enriching tool.

As with everything created by humans, there is an elemental basis for the composition of music. The basic essence of music lies with its harmony, rhythm, melody and dynamics. Harmony is the relation of notes to notes as they are play simultaneously. Rhythm, by the most simple definition, is musical time.

Melody is a musical line of single tones or pitches, heard by the
listener as a single unity. Dynamics provide the emotion behind the musical thought. Dynamics tell the performer when to play a piece softly or when to play loudly--music ranges from a mere whisper to the fullest of sound.


Just as there are a multitude of definitions for the term "music", likewise there are many divisions and groupings of music, many of which are caught up in the argument over the precise definition of music. Among the larger theme areas are classical music, popular or commercial music (including rock and roll), country music and folk music. Some genres such as bebop-era jazz, rap, punk rock and electronic music are often discounted as "real music" by member music lovers.

As world cultures have grown closer, their particular musical styles and instruments have often merged. For example, U.S.-American bluegrass music contains elements from Anglo-Irish, Scottish, German and some African-American instrumental and vocal traditions. American music is truly product of the multi-ethnic "melting pot" society.

Whatever style of music you prefer, take the time regularly to enjoy your special musical composition. Music is good for your soul!


Music is your own experience, your own thoughts, your wisdom. I think music in itself is healing. It's an explosive expression of humanity. It's something we are all touched by. No matter what culture we're from, everyone loves music. Music is the key to the female heart.



Friday, August 8, 2008

MUSIC, MUSIC, MUSIC


Everyone’s life follows the vein of his upbringing. Some people tell stories about a different way of life: experiences, traditions, customs, and routines that are often times exclusive to their families, cultures, or nationalities. While there are many differences among us, we have at least one great thing in common: Music. We all share music. We enjoy music, music, music. Irrespective of language, culture, customs, traditions, nationality, and religion, everyone makes a place for music in his life. Some of us write music. Some of us dance to music. Some of us sing music, and some just listen to it. Music is the thread that weaves our lives together in some way or another.

Consider a party guy who loves Disco, Pop, and Techno. From Donna Summer’s “Last Dance” to Jonas Brothers “Burnin’ Up” to MIA’s “Bamboo Banga,” he has no shortage of fun music to which he can shake his…Hmm! When he’s feeling more subdued and in the mood for a little culture, he appreciates Luciano Pavarotti’s Opera singing, Gustavo Dudamel & Simon Bolivar’s Classical “Fiesta,” and perhaps tops it off with a little Ella Fitgerald, the greatest Jazz songstress of all time. He listens to “Ella Sings Gershwin” and moves on to her lively “Rain on My Parade.” But he’s instantly trapped by her incredible scat, and he throws in her “Black Magic” for good measure. How can he stop there when there’s so much more to "Walk this Way" to? by Run DMC and Aerosmith.

If you walk into an elevator, you’re likely to hear smooth Jazz or Classical music. If you walk into a club, you’re met with a cocktail of funky sounds—Rock, Soul, Hip Hop, Latin, Ska, Metal, Punk, and Rap. If you stroll through a mall or an airport anywhere in the world, there is music in the air. When a baby is put to sleep, the music of a soft lullaby soothes his spirit. There’s music in the streets, churches, synagogues, schools, concerts, clubs, hospitals, homes, restaurants, shopping malls, banquets, and weddings. There is even music at funerals. Music consumes our lives from birth to death, and what a beautiful thing to be cradled by music, music, music!

Monday, July 28, 2008

"Self Thougths"


A HOLE IN THE SOUL


"A small hole in the body is the result of a big hole in the soul." -- Kotzker Rebbe

This esteemed 18th century kabbalist known for his penetrating wisdom is giving us an important lesson. Anger, depression, regret, revenge - and all forms of negative emotions - are holes in the soul that create holes [illness] in the body.

As the kabbalists have been teaching for 5,000 years, whatever shows up in our physical bodies is a branch - not the root. If we wish to treat and prevent illness, we must work on the cause level, which according to Kabbalah, resides between our two ears.
What goes on in your mind is what goes in your body.


Remember the spiritual rules of the game of life I spelled out in The Power of Kabbalah: the source of all chaos in our life is caused by our reactive thoughts and behavior. If we have illness, we can't think that something broke in our body. We have to know it started with our negative thoughts and actions.

If we don't realize we are the cause, there is no way to heal our life. I've got a student who is fighting cancer right now. The doctor tells him it's a deadly form the likes of which he has seen only twice in his career.

Being a spiritual person, my student has come to the realization that he has two choices at this point: bitterness or gratitude. With all of his might, he is choosing gratitude. He is not letting the negativity creep into his mind. He's keeping a positive mental image.

And though he is not out of the woods yet, his doctor is shocked at how quickly he is healing.

The Zohar teaches when you fight the negative fragments running through your head, the Light comes to assist you. But you've got to fight. What does it mean to fight? It means when you are feeling desperate or lost or terrible, you scream to the Light, "Light please help me! I don't want to feel negative today! I don't want to be depressed today! I don't want to blame others today! "Remember, we're in a war with our doubts.

Again, this is all in The Power of Kabbalah. If we just accept the thoughts that pop into our mind, we are doomed to fail. We must continually counter our negative automatic thoughts with positive ones, as well as cries to the Creator.

God helps those who help themselves.In addition, there are metaphysical tools to give us the fuel to do the inner healing that will result in physical healing. Zohar study. 72 Names of God visualization. Ana Bekoach meditation. Tikun Hanefesh. And you have to do these with enthusiasm, knowing that there is no other choice but to convert your thinking.

There are openings for healing every second of the year, but especially this week. We are in the portion of Pinchas, which the Zohar reveals as the secret to all forms of healing [personal and global.] Take this thought piece to heart this week because there is healing energy flying through the air. Use your consciousness to catch it. Doing so will help you, and the world, because we are all connected. I can't stress that enough. And you can join us in person or online for Shabbat Pinchas, the healing event of the year. It is this Saturday, July 19th.

Finally, I recommend spending as much time as you can meditating on this week's 72 Name of God. Use it when you feel that nothing can help. Beg, pray, and plead for change and healing. Visualize the Light coming out of the letters, visualizing the Light coming into you.

It doesn't matter if you don't know what you are doing. Just invest the right effort. The Kabbalists teach that the moment we invest enough effort, someone or something will come and help us.

I have now been bestowed with the emotional strength to stand after I've stumbled, to rise after I have fallen, and to endure when the path seems unendurable.

Sunday, July 27, 2008

"We Can Lie But We Can't Decieve Ourselves"


OUTWARD EXPRESSION OF THE INWARD IMPRESSION.

Dear, I thank God for this wonderful opportunity we have for a chat. More so, I thank you for this honor for the audience you gave me. It had delayed for to long because of the lack of access, and this has been golden. Let me begin by saying that the heart of man is hidden and full of confusing attitudes at manifestation. Secondly it is greatly deceitful, filled with schemes and calamitous craftiness. Yet it is what is is the inside controls what is on the outside for out of the abundance of the heart does the mouth speak.

Little wonder it is said that out of the heart flows the issues of life or death because it is the well spring of life. Thus it becomes very difficult for an individual to discern what is on the inside from what is on the outside (the physical attributes of the person such as beauty, education, wealth, position in office or government, etc.). More often the issue has been the inability to establish a prospering and enduring stable relationships. Therefore in order not to hurt oneself, it becomes imperative that we will be diligent and gradual in each and every relationship we are about to venture into. Ordinarily people consider mainly physical attractions - the things that eye see - more important than the intrinsic values/ value system of the people who are about to enter into such partnership. But truly the reverse should be the case resulting undesirable outcomes.

Consequently, we have seen many a relationships that had all those things we thought that makes a relationship work, yet to their greatest dismay each day of the venture brings them untold sorrow, agony, misery, shame, disappointment, embarrassment, discouragement, failure and ultimately separation/divorce. In view of this, though I see that everything on ground is indicative of the fact that a relationship could work out between us, I have to advise that we should take it easy because there is so much work yet undone. I am not suggestive of anything for now but I believe that honesty, dedication, commitment, faithfulness, open heartedness, accommodation, understanding, wisdom, (and so - and so on) are the essential ingredients that make relationships work. These and a lot more we have to find in ourselves and establish as the foundation of a lasting relationship.

Having gone this far, I suggest that we open a dialogue and as we progress along the line we will be able to see what happens. Once more thank you for everything. Feel free to ask me whatever question that comes up in your mind ranging from personal, work, family, social, religion to whatever. I promise that I will be careful to answer them very accurately to the last details. Cheers and God bless. I love you for this great open door, privilege and honor.