"Importance Of Our Families"

Families are always there to stand by you no matter what they will always protect you and the best thing you can do is to watch out for your family aswell as them watchin out for you they will always be there when you need them the most they will always listen to you if you have got a problem they will help you through it.

you may sometimes have arguments in the family but they will always be there and you will eventually say your sorrys and pretend it never happened they will also be there to support you if you need the support.

sometimes you have bad things happen in your family which sometimes you cant explain but whether some of your family is watchin over you or nt they will always be there for you when you need them the most when you go through the really bad times.

How to Remain a Loving Family While Fighting

Happy families work to find a solution that’s good for everyone.

Everyone wants to be a member of a loving family and every loving family has disagreements, arguments and silly little quarrels. Some disagreements lead to a better understanding, and others, well, no one remembers after the fight is over what started it in the first place. Loving families create a safety zone where anger can be expressed without anyone getting hurt. Such a family is not threatened by disagreements, they know that families can argue, learn something new and still get along. They’re aware of each member’s strengths; they value different points of view and consequently they won’t let anger fly out of control. They take care of each other even when they’re fighting. Here’s how you can do that too.

Things You’ll Need:

A willingness to understand

Step1

Physical violence is not allowed. Loving families have an irrevocable rule against physical violence. They may get into shouting matches, but they would never hit each other, throw things or destroy each other’s property. There’s a mutual respect for each other’s point of view, and even when they’re in the heat of an argument, there are places they won’t visit. They don’t insult each other or call each other names.


Step2

Handle disagreements in a way that's best for all members. A happy family knows that the goal of arguing is to clarify what’s happening. If one person is upset, family members want to find out what is going on rather than winning. They know that proving yourself right tears a family apart, but trying to understand what life is like from your family member’s perspective solidifies your connection. Happy families work to find a solution that’s good for everyone.


Step3

Assume positive intention. Happy families use anger as a signal that they need to sort through the muddle and find clarity. When one family member is angry, instead of assuming the worst, they come to each other in a spirit of cooperation. This provides a better chance of a positive outcome.


Step4

No blame allowed. When one family member is angry or upset, every member feels it. Instead of blaming the person who is angry, happy families commit to resolving the problem so that each member feels better.


Step5

Appreciate the differences. Instead of erasing differences, a loving family finds ways to incorporate elements of both points of view. There’s nothing wrong with feeling frustrated that your family member doesn’t do things the way you would do them, but avoid the trap of thinking that the reason your life is difficult is because of them.


Step6

Instead of saying, “We can’t get along,” say out loud, “We’re having a disagreement, but we’ll figure out a better solution.”

"Being A Father"

MYTHS OF FATHERHOOD

Myth No. 1 : Newborn's do not really need fathers False The intense connection between the mother and child during breastfeeding may leave you wondering whether he really needs you. Yes he does ! Rather research has shown that father who are given unrestricted contact with their children after birth will raise their children in a more constructive way. The children turn out to be far more confident than others. Paternal bonding is as important as maternal bonding. Very often birth of a baby helps a man to express and enjoy emotions that society primes him to repress.

You can help feed your baby if your partner expresses milk into a bottle. You can help change the diapers too. Touch too helps a lot in bonding you can ease off a bit of your spouses workload. Remember, you make a difference to the whole family.

Myth No.2 : Only expectant mother feelings are important

False

Your partner needs to hear your feelings. Do not feel ashamed or shy to express them. Research has shown that if men are involved from the moment pregnancy is confirmed. They become active and enthusiastic fathers. There is no greater help to a pregnant women than an interested to sympathetic partner. There is no better help with a newborn baby than an active, passionate dad. The labour itself can be just as remarkable an experience for the fathers. Give yourself permission to express both your feelings of vulnerability and excitement.


Myth No.3 : Men do not know to take care of young children

False

There is no such word as do not or cannot in the father's dictionary. If you make a sincere attempt, you would definitely be able to take an active and positive role in your child's life. In the USA, there are so many working mothers and the fathers take care of the child. It depends on the kind of relationship that you build with your child . If you spend time with your baby you will become sensitive to his needs.


Myth No.4 : Men who focus on their children cannot be successful businessmen.

False

Previously, it used to be said that men who make sacrifices and chose family over career advancement do it since they cannot succeed at work - It was no longer believed so. Rather today's man has realised the value of spending time with his family. They feel being a good father is a significant accomplishment as being a successful business man.

"Family Bonding"

Top 10 Ways to Spend Quality Time with the Kids

Whether you are a traditional dad in a traditional family, a non custodial dad, a stay home dad, a step dad, or whatever your role, the most precious thing a dad can give his kids is his time.. A personal investment in your children is much more important to them than any toy, video game or electronic gadget. Here are some great, and sometimes creative, ways to get together with your kids in a positive way.

1. Tell them a story

Younger children especially love stories. And it is a fun way for you to invest time in their lives. Find out how to become a great storyteller and enjoy making believe with your kids.

2. Plan a picnic

During the spring and summer time, kids love to be outdoors with their dad. Here are some great ideas about planning a family picnic—food, games and fun.

3. Take a vacation

While it is great to hit the big amusement parks during summer vacation, families tend to spend more time apart than together in that kind of setting. Find out how you can plan an effective, positive and rewarding summer vacation and really be together.

4. Turn off the TV

It is frightening how important the television has become in some families. Sitting together and watching TV is entertaining, and sometimes educational, but it doesn’t foster quality together time and interaction. Here are some great ideas for what to do when you turn off the TV and focus on your family.

5. Spend the evening together

Our family has had a great experience over the years with setting aside one night each week for the family and only the family. Learn how many families around the world are getting the benefit from the family night concept, and what you can do to make family night work for your family.

6. Grow a garden

It’s outside and you get your hands dirty! What can be better than that for a great dad-child activity? Explore the world of gardening and find ways to involve your children in this interesting and positive activity.

7. Eat together

So many families struggle to find time to interact. Many families have found one key to more time together—planning mealtimes for family involvement and commitment. Here are some ways to make mealtime a together time.

8. Help with homework

At our house, we have two teen sons left at home, and it seems like most of my hours after work are consumed with homework. Find some great resources and tips for being a top flight homework helper.

9. Enjoy the cold weather

Even during the winter months, there are things dads and kids can do together. Check out some great ideas for fun outside in the cold, or inside around the table in wintertime.

10. Hit the road

Consider loading your family up for a road trip. While time cooped up in car is not considered quality time by some, it can create great memories and a chance to talk and interact in a different and enjoyable activity.

"PEOPLE TO BE REMEMBER"

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Those Nice One Who Love Us.

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Care about Us.

Those Nice One Who Meet Us.

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They keep Asking about Us.

Those Nice Creators Who Makes Life Wonderful For Us.

Those Nice Inventor Who Makes Life Easier For Us.

Those Nice Designer Who Makes Life Beautiful For Us.

Those Nice Scientist Who Makes Life Better For Us.

Those Nice Educators Who Makes Life Understandable For Us.......................

"BESTFRIENDS"

You are the best friend that i ever had & i will keep you in my heart forever!
Because you are my bestfriend i want to hug you to let you know how much i miss you.............


I want to give you a kiss on your chicks to say i do care for you & to let you feel that you are special



If you will allow me i want to kiss you on your hand to let you know that i respect you & i looked up to you as my inspiration



I want to hold your hand tight to let you know that i'm always there for you....................



You need to trust me............I'm not letting go.........NEVER in your dreams.

"FRIENDS FOREVER!"

The Gift of Sacred Marriage

"When Two Become One"

The gift of sacred marriage is one of God's greatest blessings. In today's world, the understanding of sacred marriage has been limited by concepts and customs that were created in an earlier age. Today, at the cusp of humanity's transformation into a planet of light, the nature of all relationships, including those of sacred marriage, are being raised to a new level of consciousness and awareness.

In God's reality, all is One and all individual souls are part of the One that is God. From the perspective of our individual, human consciousness, we often feel alone and long for connection, companionship, and fulfilling relationships. The aloneness that we feel is a part of the consciousness of individuation that humanity has evolved since taking physical form, and at the current time in our evolution, there is now a much greater possibility to move beyond this to tap into the depth of god's love through our relationships and connections with others.

What makes more possible now in human relationships is related to the expansion of spiritual light on the Earth, which has accelerated humanity's transformational process. This influx of light has begun to awaken the hearts, minds and bodies of many people who are beginning to have a direct experience of god's love and light. This kind of direct experience can transform a life, and can heal that which may have felt impossible to heal.

In previous eras, the nature of sacred marriage was connected with duty, or related to practical necessities. Nowadays, as human relationships transform and become more conscious, the nature of sacred marriage enters a whole new domain of possibility that is related to two souls who become One in God, without releasing their individuality or unique identities.

This new form of relationship is the culmination of humanity's transition process, first from beings of light in the spiritual realms, who then took physical form while retaining their connection to the One... and then as increasingly physical beings, who became immersed in matter and became less aware of the spirit. Now, the circle is completing so that souls who attained the maximum individuation and separated consciousness are beginning to awaken to the remembrance of spirit.

when a soul begins to reconnect with their divine origins, a whole new world opens up before them. Many "needs" that were felt from the ego level of personality begin to disappear once the soul realizes its divine connection with the source of all love. As the soul begins to relax into its spiritual identity, doorways begin to open both emotionally and on the spiritual levels. A divine flow begins that weaves the threads of God's love and light into all aspects of daily life. Relationships take on a new brilliance and fullness, and there is less ego attachment which promotes the open exchange of greater levels of spiritual light.

As more souls begin to reconnect with their divine origins, the possibilities for relationships multiply exponentially. Love becomes the guiding force which breaks through all barriers of fear from the ego level of the self, and takes on a life of its own. It can be said that in a divine partnership, two become One within God. In such a divine partnership, two souls come together in surrender to God's will, which directs the relationship.

A sacred marriage comes about when two souls are guided through their love for each other, to join their hearts, minds, bodies and daily lives together into a new entity that is greater than either individual alone. A sacred marriage bond creates a synergy and a blessing that radiates outward to the world, and that can be seen and felt tangibly as the presence of light and love.

Sacred marriage exists in all cultures and religions, for it is not the beliefs or customs related to as marriage which create its sanctity, but rather the sacred intentionality of the participants. In today's world which sees both the dissolution of many marriages, and also much pain and confusion about the nature of intimate relationships, there is little guidance or information available to help those who wish to enter into such a partnership.

Sacred marriage requires an ongoing commitment from each participant, to love fully each day, and to release ego attachments and negativity that would cloud communication and create disharmony within the relationship. This kind of commitment is in essence a spiritual one, which brings the soul into alignment with God's love and divine purpose for that soul. Sacred marriage is a blessing and a gift, which models the way home, to a place and time when all of humanity lives in sacred relationships with each other and with all of life.

How to Spice Up Your Married Life

Improve Your Marriage

Improve your marriage by fostering a better relationship with your partner. This alone might tell you that it takes some effort as well as time to improve your marriage. After all, marriage is a lifelong contract and making it work means nurturing and keeping the relationship between the husband and wife always alive and well.

Making a marriage last takes more than just love alone. Other factors also come into play when it comes to making marriage count. Communication is just one important factor that can help improve your marriage. Keeping the communication lines always open is important for married couples so that they can express what they really feel. And it is not just communicating by expressing what you feel.

In trying to improve your marriage, you also need to have a good ear to listen to your partner. And in the same manner, your partner should learn to listen to you. It is all a matter of give and take. That is what effective communication is all about.

Another tip to improve your relationship with your better half is by trying to keep the fire of intimacy burning. Having a great deal of intimacy in a relationship is an indication that the attraction and love is still there. On the other hand, if intimacy has diminished a great deal, it is a sign of an impending failure in the relationship.

When you wish to improve your marriage, you also have to find time to spend with each other. What would become of any relationship if partners don't see eye to eye? Although absence may make the heart grow fonder at times, prolonged absence may also be a surefire way of making the heart lose interest in the relationship. Make it a point to enjoy and spend time with each other's company.

Another important ingredient to a good marriage is humor. This may sound funny (pardon the pun) but humor can really help a marriage. Laughter can easily help break the ice. Cracking a joke can also help calm a volatile situation. If you know how to share a laugh with your better half, then you know that you can get through anything.

If you want your marriage to last, you have to place it on top of your priorities. You must learn to put it above anything else in your life. It takes effort on your part to improve your marriage. It may seem hard. But it is all worth it.

How To Marry The Right Woman

Wouldn’t you like to know how to meet and marry the right woman? As a relationship expert and author, I find there are distinct qualities that attract women who possess inner beauty that radiates externally.

With the materialistic bombardment from the media and society, it is easy to loose sight of what qualities are really important to women. A man of character and honor will attract the most amazing woman over the man of material wealth and questionable character.

To attract and marry the right woman begins internally. By developing the following qualities, you will discover the key to living an abundant and personally fulfilling life with the love of your life.

1) Generosity of your time and attention.

The right woman will be strongly attracted to a man who freely and willingly shares his time with her. Sincerely conveying an interest in her goals and dreams and what she wants to accomplish in life is very appealing to the right woman. She knows you are focused on your career, but remember that life is all about love - not how many material goals you attain, how far you go in your company or landing the next big deal. She wants your undivided attention when she’s sharing her personal dreams with you. Take the time to pull yourself away from the newspaper, CNN news, the football game, and/or the internet and listen to her share her day with you. It’s the emotional connection that makes the right woman want to do more for you day in and day out. When you give your attention to her, you instill a feeling of worthiness.

The right woman desires to express her hopes, dreams, concerns and worries to you without fear of condemnation. Ignoring her is the worst thing you can do when she's sharing this information. Nothing makes her feel unappreciated and unloved faster than being shut out by the man she loves. She doesn’t want you to find a solution or fix the issues she discusses with you. She only wants you to acknowledge her feelings and offer your emotional support.

2) Making her your priority in life.

Your generosity of your time and attention conveys a sense of security and a belief that she is your main priority in life. It is your responsibility within the relationship to build her confidence up, not tear her down. When her self-esteem is high, she will in turn have the capacity to shower you with her love, attention, devotion and time.

The right woman is not attracted to a one-dimensional man who is focused primarily on his career and furthering his agenda. The right woman will not share her life with a man who makes her feel as if she’s near or at the bottom of your priority list.

3) Love of family and friends.

The right woman wants to share her joy and happiness with family and friends alike. A man who treats his family and friends with respect, loyalty and love knows the importance of relationships and how they enrich and enhance life.

4) Trustworthiness.She wants to know that you will be there during all times, not just the times when everything is going well. Open and clear communication instills a sense of security. The right woman values the relationship and friendship qualities of sincerity and trustworthiness. Trust takes time to develop and by being a man of your word you are building the foundation for a solid relationship.

5) Positive attitude.The right woman is attracted to a man with positive energy. A man who can align his thoughts, words and actions is someone who is not self-centered. The right woman is attracted to a man who backs his positive words with action. He does not wear his feelings on his shoulder or allows every little perceived slight get under his skin and ruin his whole day. He does not get mad every time he gets in the car and encounters bad drivers. He does not go around believing that the world is against him. He knows how to pick his battles and stands up for his beliefs without creating strife for no reason at all.

He gives people the benefit of the doubt and does not take everything so personally. He does not dissect every inflection and tone of voice in what is said in his conversations, looking for an attack on himself and a reason to fight back. He is man enough to forgive, forget and move on. He does not allow negative thoughts to take root in his heart, leading to grudges against others.

6) Respect and honor.

Your life will be blessed in accordance to the amount of respect and honor you show your relationship partner. The more you hold her in your highest regard, the more your life will be full of favor. We all know of men who treat the woman they love with the least amount of respect, honor and consideration over others. She has to fend for herself. To really experience an abundant life, she should be the one person you treat the best.

7) Shared faith.

The most important component of a lasting, loving and fulfilling relationship is a shared faith in God. It is the tie that binds you together. Sharing your spiritual journey is a vital, fulfilling and joyful aspect within your relationship.

Striving to be a man of good character will attract a woman who enhances your life, a woman who builds you up and enriches your life. Together you will create a relationship that generates positive feelings for each other. Both your lives will be blessed! Love is so wonderful and life is too short to not fully experience the blessings the right relationship will have in your life.

There is no substitute for sharing your life with the right partner. That person is waiting for you. Your job is to trust that at the right time this person will enter into your life.

Be ready to accept the goodness and blessing of this gift of the right relationship in God’s perfect timing!

Family Upbringing is a very Important Foundation on how they would make their lives more Meaningful

Individuality, Integrity, Industry, Knowledge, Compassion, Family, Optimism.

The seven Learning Family Values are universal, built upon common principles found in nearly every culture in the world. Identifying our values clearly can help guide us to becoming the people we want to be. Our values tell others what kind of people we are, and can help them understand our behavior.

Each value provides specific encouragement and direction. Together, they help us realize individual happiness and collective peace. We encourage all Learning Families to memorize these values, and put them into practice. The values are the topic of the first activity in the Learning Family Academy.

Individuality
I am happy to be me.
I accept other people just as they are.
I like to share my ideas with others, and like to learn what other people like to do.


Integrity
I can do what is right.
I am responsible for my own actions and always try to do what is right,
when I'm with others and when I'm alone.

Industry
I always do my best.
I work hard to achieve my goals and always do my best.
Others can rely on me to do my work from start to finish.

Knowledge
I like to learn new things.
I can understand the truth by asking good questions and working to find the answers.
I feel happy when I use my knowledge to make good choices.


Compassion
I like to help others.
I listen to what others have to say and try to understand how they feel.
I use my talents and energy to help others who are in need.


Family
I love my family.
My family is special and unique.
There are ____ people in my family: (name each family member, youngest to oldest).
We do things together and help each other to be the best we can be.


Optimism
I think the world is a wonderful place.
My influence may be small, but working with others.
I can find happiness and help make the world a better place.

Individuality

We're happy with who we are. We honor those who work to secure freedom to express our individuality. We respect others by accepting their race, religion, culture, opinions, hobbies or other interests as valuable to them. As we develop and express our various talents we enrich each other's lives as well as our own. Wouldn't life be boring if we were all the same?

Integrity

Integrity means being the same person inside and out, all the time. Whether in public or in private, we keep our commitments, accept responsibility for our own actions, and are honest and fair with everyone. And yes, it means always telling the truth and being good, just because it is the right thing to do. We know that personal integrity is required to earn another's trust, and is therefore the basis of all human relationships.

Industry

Only through hard work and dedication can we realize our goals and dreams. We are diligent in our work, using all our talents and always doing our best, no matter what the task. We expect fair compensation for our labors but avoid excess. We strive to be self-sufficient, never expecting others to do for us what we can do for ourselves.

Knowledge

The joy of learning can last a lifetime. Seeking knowledge begins with asking questions, then pursuing the answers with energy and creativity. We learn when we can accept the answers, even if they are not what we expect. The freedom and understanding gained by knowing the truth are our rewards for the pursuit of knowledge.

Compassion

All of us have needed help at some time in our lives. As well, our success always comes with the help of others. So we freely give our time, talents and resources to those who are in need without reservation or expectation. We patiently seek to understand the needs of others, and offer our assistance whenever we can without waiting for someone else to help.


Family

We all belong to a family. Our family bonds gives us identity; a way to recognize ourselves with a culture and heritage all our own. We support each other, depend on each other, respect each other and comfort each other. We are also members of larger families; our community, the human family, and the family of life on Earth. We accept the responsibilities of being a part of these families, only receiving what we need so that others may have their share, and helping to strengthen the family through our service.

Optimism

Life is full of promise. We have goals that motivate us, and look to the future with a sense of purpose, knowing that we can make a difference. Though our individual influence may be small, it will spread from our family to others, and to future generations. Our purpose is to work together to bring about personal fulfillment in our lives and peace in the world.

What are family values

What exactly makes up a strong family that possesses good family values? A strong family is one that sustains its members — that supports and nourishes the members throughout the span of that family .

What exactly makes up a strong family that possesses good family values? A family that sustains its members — that supports and nourishes the members throughout the span of that family. A strong family unit creates a safe, positive and supportive place for all members to thrive. They are able to utilize resources and to live together in a fairly healthy manner.

The adults in a strong family set the tone. They are good role models that lead by example. They reach out to friends and community and teach their children the importance of doing the same -- and that becomes part of who the children are. They work together to solve problems, and they pass their skills on to the next generation. Some important elements of a strong family system are family cohesion, family flexibility and family communication.

Cohesion- In families cohesion would be defined as the feeling of being loved, of belonging to the group and being nurtured by it. Although closeness is good in a family unit, there must be a balance between being together and being separate. A person must be able to develop their individuality, while being supported and confident within the family. A few things that bring a family together are the commitment of other family members, and the spending of time together.


Flexibility- There must be a structure in a family or it will become chaotic and will not be a peaceful setting for a family. Conversely, there must be flexibility or the family becomes rigid and the authority figures become resented. We could compare a successful family to a democracy. There are leaders, but the whole group is involved in the decision making process. Although the leaders are in charge all members develop the ability to cope with stress, and at times lead. While the family works to avoid stressful situations they work together to solve problems, without blaming, criticizing and finding fault with each other. Families that tend to have a strong spiritual base seem to have a sense of well-being that facilitates this working together in times of stress.

Communication- Ever hear the saying, “What we have here is a failure to communicate?” A lack of communication can rip a family apart and destroy them. Things that facilitate communication are the things mentioned so far -- family closeness, flexibility, time spent together, spirituality. All members must feel a freedom within the group to express themselves freely.

Trust-trusting each member of the family is very important because they will feel that they are really part of the family,that their presence is important.Not only in material matters,you should always let them feel that you believed in them that they can do better,trust their abilities & develop them.Don't find what they don't have but inspire what they had.

Appreciation-to appreaciate every member of the family will help them boost their self-esteem & confidence to be better to achieve for the best.Don't ever discourage them with their ambitions however may it look so impossible to happen,maybe for now but who knows.Always remember that there is no impossible for those who dream & work hard to achieve it.Just always be there to support them in the way they could be better person not only within the family but also within the community that they are living.

Teach Values & Principles-it is very important that this things should be taught from home within the family bec. this will help them to be strong as a person.The foundation should be strong so that if they move in the real world they would not be easily influenced by others.
Being a good person is not just having a good life,a good job,being a good provider & being so industrious.It is how you make use of your life & how you can influence others to be better not by giving money but how to interact with others with honesty & pure intentions.

There is a piece of advice to all!

"If you could not do anything good to your fellow just don't do anything that would harm."
"If you help it should be just because the reason of helping & not for any other reasons."
"Don't help if you will be also the one who will dragged them down."
"Always try to be honest with all your dealings,if you don't like a person show it let them know,for they know who their enemies are."
"Don't choose your friends by social standing instead based it with what kind of person they are,don't judged them by what others tell what they are but see them from their intentions.




Another very important factor is the relationship between the “head” couple. In a family that is parented by a happily married couple, people are able to express themselves more freely. What they might say isn’t filtered through the problems of the “guardians.” A happy marriage seems to set the tone in the house. It spills over from the family to the community and a healthy family will be reaching out to help others. They do not tend to isolate themselves from the rest of the world.

A very important thing for families to teach their children is how to make good decisions. If they have watched their parents making well thought out decisions over the years, they will tend to be good decision makers themselves.

A healthy, happy family benefits our whole society. Among the children of strong families their is less crime, less divorce and less emotional problems. They tend to go on and have strong, healthy families of their own, having learned from their folk’s example.

It's Christmas Time,happiness is within yourself

So, the Christmas gift giving season is bearing down upon us and it is time to begin considering what gifts you will get for each special someone on your list. Wouldn’t it great to be considered the best gift-giver in your family?

You want to find just the right gift for each person on your list. You don't want to be run of the mill and you don't want the typical, boring gifts that get stuffed into a closet and forgotten until it is re-gifted to someone else. You definitely don’t want to be the person who’s known as a great source of re-gifting.Stores can be crowded, but you can easily walk out with your gift in hand. Online shopping can be convenient and simple to find a great deal, but the shipping can be delayed and you may find that the gift giving time comes and you are empty handed.

If you can conduct your online shopping very early in advance, then it is a really good option. Or if you can find gifts that can be delivered by expedited mail, then you’re good to go shopping online. But if you are a last minute shopper you need to hit the stores.

The Budget Conscious GiftOften times it is prudent to have a budget before you start your holiday shopping. This could be due to a limited income or large family or simply an agreement among the participants that no one will spend more than a certain amount. Of course “budget” means different things to different people, but the following strategies can help anyone.

1. Digital Camera - there are tons of very affordable digital cameras on the market, some as cheap as $20. Kids love getting this type of gift and children as young as 9 or 10 can handle their own camera these days.

2. Movie Tickets - if you have a movie buff on your gift giving list, this is always a hit. You can buy tickets to their favorite theater or a gift card from a popular video rental store. Create a bundle all wrapped up that includes some microwave popcorn, a couple cans of soda, and the movie gift certificates, and you could be a hero to a few of the kids on your list.

3. Tea or Coffee Drinker - Pick up a couple of types of tea or coffee and a small container of honey. Get a couple of tea cups from your local dollar store; put it all in a basket and the tea or coffee drinker on your list.

4. A Romantic Evening - Place in a basket two champagne glasses, a bottle of champagne/brut/asti spumanti and a couple of candles make a great gift for a couple and usually runs $20 to $25.

5. Grab Bags - Package several affordable gifts in individual packages and put them all in one bag. Kids and teens love this idea, but so do many adults. For kids select items like bubbles, silly putty, sidewalk chalk and a travel game. For adults, stuff the bag with a DVD, a CD, a book and a bottle of wine.

Gifts for a Little More Money

1. Event Tickets - These are always a great hit. Professional sports game tickets to the NFL, NASCAR, NHL or MLB or a college sports game tickets are great gift ideas. Concert, opera or Broadway tickets are fantastic ideas for the culture set. If you know where they’re headed for vacation, you may even what to buy them a pair of tickets to a musical in the city they’re visiting, you’d be surprised how many cities offer high quality theatre.

2. Sports Car - OK, you aren't actually buying them a sports car, but you can rent a snazzy sports car for a day. This can be a great gift, but could run you a few bucks.

3. Bed & Breakfast – Take your pick of areas and purchase some time at a bed and breakfast for the person on your list who needs to get away from it all. A peaceful weekend can run you a few dollars, but it is a gift that is thoughtful and, in a sense, practical.

4. Interesting Bookends - If you have an avid reader who needs something whimsical to hold up their books, consider buying fishbowl bookends. You fill each bookend with water, rocks, plants and, you guessed it, fish, and you have a neat way to hold up your books. If you look around, you can find other interesting bookends, but these really stand out as unique and fun.

5. Lobster Gram – Wondering what to get the person who’s got it all already? If they are a connoisseur of fine dining, why not send them a Lobster Gram? The cool thing about this gift is that you can send a set of lobster tails, some surf and turf or the tried and true live lobster. Of course, bibs are included with every order.

To be considered a hero around the holidays you don’t need to spend a lot of money. Rather, by truly listening to the person’s hobbies, interests, opinions and tastes, and then buying something that supports these things is the solution.

Love is in the Air

Today, I would like to look at what love is. The English language only has one word for love and it is used interchangeably for almost everything. We can say I love my husband and I love Chocolate. Both are using the same word and it is only by the context that we can ascertain the difference. The Greeks, on the other hand, have four different words to describe love. Each word gives a different nuance to the word that helps us understand more fully what is being spoken of.

I want to look with you at the four Greek words for love. These are:1) Eros2) Storge3) Philia4) AgapeEros:The first type of love we are all familiar with. Our English word Erotica is derived from this word. Sadly, some people never get passed this type of love and base their relationships purely on sexual attraction. This is the type of love that merchandisers tend to play on with the public trying to get us to buy their products to make us more attractive to the opposite sex. Unfortunately, aromatherapy is being misrepresented by these same people also to traffic their products. You would be surprised to see how many products are being offered specifically to attract the opposite sex using aroma.Studies have been done trying to prove the theory of attraction through Pheromones based on animal instincts. I personally feel that attraction of a life partner is much more than the basis of his/her smell. In fact, it was impossible for me to fall in love with my fiancé based on smell as we met through ICQ on the Internet. It was impossible for smell to play any part in our meeting. Our relationship was based on character and friendship which later developed into love. You can say we met each other and we just clicked ;-) (pun intended) So, the point is that erotic love is not a deep meaningful love but superficial and based on sexual attractiveness only.2) Storge:This type of love is what we find in families between the different members. It is the love of mother, father, brothers and sisters. This is a much stronger type of love and involves commitment. “Blood is thicker than water” and most people will do all they can to stand behind their families.3) Philia:This type of love is pertaining to what we might call a brotherly love. Not brotherly in the sense of family, but in the sense of kinsmenship. This is the type of love that makes us want to help the little old lady cross the street safely and watch out for our fellow man. It is a good type of love and helps us to see others as needing our love but, sadly, it can often also be a selfish love. Many people only show love to others if they can get something out of it.  Thankfully, most people love out of pure motives.4)Agape:The fourth type of love is called Agape love. This is the highest form of love there is. This is an unconditional love for others in spite of their character flaws and weaknesses. It is a difficult love to obtain simply because we, as humans, are usually concerned more with ourselves and how the world and people around us affect us. In order to love in the agape way, we must overcome our selfishness and look to the needs of others. Prime examples of this type of love are people like Mother Theresa, Cardinal Leger etc. These are people who look out for others interests above their own. It is a special kind of love that needs to be cultivated for it to grow. We can only achieve this type of unselfish loving as we put the needs of others as a priority.Without getting religious here, I just want to tell you there is a verse from the Bible that fits well with this concept. It is called the Golden Rule. Luke 10:27, says “Love your neighbour as yourself” and "Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets." -Matthew 7:12 . All relgions of the world share in this same philosophy. One thing that stuck out to me as I read these is that it says to love your neighbor as yourself. Sadly, many people in this day and age, don’t love themselves. If you don’t love yourself how can you love others? Unconditional love needs to start with you. You must learn to accept the fact that you are a special and unique person. Yes you have flaws, we are all human, but these flaws do not make you less of a person. Learn to love yourself in spite of your shortcomings and accept yourself for who you are. As you love yourself you will find it easier to love others.The second thing that stands out is that the Golden rule says to do what you want others to do to you. This is not the same as “Don’t do to others what you don’t want them to do to you.” It is not a position of avoiding doing evil or harming others but an actual DOING of something for others. This requires action on your part. It says “DO unto others”. It is when we realize that we reap the rewards of love as we involve ourselves in the lives of others, making their lives easier and more pleasant, as we would want our own lives to be. Enjoy the month of Love and remember always to love yourself and to DO something for someone each day.

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