"Is There Really True Love?"

What is True Love?

Love is one of the most mysterious feelings that everyone has. Love is just a word until someone comes along and gives it the meaning. Love has been given many meanings like affection, adoration, friendship, lust, passion, tenderness, feeling, fondness or devotion. We are often confused in our life if the feeling we have for our loved one is really love or not. People often confuse physical desire, passion or strong liking for another person for love. However, the same people view such strong desire merely as infatuation once they come out of love.

Though love is often understood as the bonding between opposite sexes, yet it can have several manifestations in human lives. Love between mother and child is considered to be most sacred and true as it is devoid of any physical desire and often called affection. The love for God or for a revered person takes the form of devotion which is highly spiritual as it is totally independent of physical attributes. One can also love his country so much that he can lay his life for it. We all seem to love many people in or life and often assign all form of attraction the name of love. However, only when we come out of the forces of attraction then we realize that we were not in love. People also call friendship with love.

What then is the true love? How is it different from other forms of attractions and liking? Is there any litmus test which we can have to test if our love is real or merely illusion? Gandhi said, "Love never claims, it ever gives. Love ever suffers, never resents never revenges itself"

What is Love?

Is it possible that one part of the body is having pain while other part of the body have pleasure. Can you enjoy your favourite movie, if you tooth is aching badly or you are having fever. Is it possible that one part of the body have temperature while other part of the body remains normal?

We all know that it is impossible because all parts of the body are connected to each other and any problem in one part of the body automatically get registered and felt by other parts of the body. Most of the diseases can be easily identified by simply taking one tissue of the body and testing in the lab as all tissues reflect the same behaviour in our body.

Yet when any physical ailment happens with any other person, our body is hardly affected. You don't get temperature if your neighbour or even your parent or child gets temperature. No one test the blood of the family of the person to diagnose the disease of any other member of his family.

However, the same can not be said for the mental ailment of the person. If one member of your family is troubled, the pain seems to be born by all members of the family. When you see pain and suffering in even an unknown person on the road or even in movies, you can't control your feeling, which invoke similar pain in you. Psychologists call it sympathy or even empathy as we seem to be capable of having the same feeling as the other person.

What does it means? This shows that even if the body of all people is different, yet there is something that joins all the creatures of this world and which is common is all beings. Such common entity is non-physical since it has never been seen or measured by any one. However, its presence can never be doubted as we do get affected by the emotion of other person, particularly the person whom we love.

This common nonmaterial reality between people is often called "universal soul" or "spirit" or God.

Scriptures believe that the individual soul of the person is a spark of this all pervading universal spirit just like a drop of an ocean is the part of the ocean. Yet the soul of the individuals being a nonmaterial entity does not occupy any space. The influence of the soul is often limited in the body of the person.

Yet by the magic of love, the soul can expand and expand so that it can encompass the whole world in the Self and love them as one love the Self. Similarly by the emotion of hatred the individual soul can shrink and shrink till the person love none even start hating one's own Self.

Love and Passion

Indian philosophers believed that Soul is the cause and origin of body and mind of all living creature. This individual soul is the part of the Universal Spirit or God. Hence the physical and mental functions of the person are governed by the soul.

The essential difference between love and any other form of attraction is that love is not physical or mental but spiritual. Love is purely an spiritual experience as it originates from the Soul. However since Soul is the master of body and mind, it also looks physical as well as logical.

Therefore, when the person is in love, his attraction toward his love may look physical if the soul so desires. Love also looks perfectly logical also since mind itself is controlled by the soul.

However, the essential character of love is that it is spiritual. If a man love someone, his soul is extended to encompass the soul of his loved one in a way that both the soul becomes one and develops a bond with each other.

They both love their original nature and transform themselves to become complementary to each other to make a single entity. In this way love is like the bond between two or more atoms of waters i.e. Hydrogen and Oxygen which when bonded together become one and lose the nature of the individual atom.

The properties of water are radically different than that of hydrogen or oxygen. Thus when in love, the individuals lose their identities as the bond is developed not at the level of body or mind but at the level of soul, the essence of the persons.

Thus when in love, the self of the person get extended to the self of the loved person such that they become one.

The individuality of their body and soul is lost and a new soul is created by the synthesis of the souls of the loved ones. Therefore, you feel happy when the your loved one is happy and you feel sad when your loved one is sad, as you have no separate identity than your loved one. Robert A. Heinlein has rightly said,

"Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own."

In the same way you can not see your loved one unhappy as that makes you in the same emotional stage. If you love a person, you were most afraid of losing him or her. It is rightly said,

"Every man is afraid of something. That's how you know he's in love with you; when he is afraid of losing you."

Passion: The Physical Attraction

Passion on the other side is purely physical and governed by the laws of physics. Even though the attraction is very real, often much stronger than love, it does last long. It may be lost as soon as the physical union takes place. It is governed by the laws of induction in physics. When two objects are having opposite charges, they attract each other strongly. However, as soon as they are brought into the contact with each other, they neutralize each other and the attraction is eliminated. If one charge is more than the charge of other, they get charged into same charge which creates the forces of repulsion rather than attraction.

This is what happens with all physical attractions. You fall in love with a beautiful person and achieving her seems to the most desirable thing of the world. Yet once you possess her, the attraction become less and less and soon loses its force. Unless the physical attraction leads to the union of the soul, love get shattered soon and both persons try to get out of it with as much force as they realized when they felt when they have fallen into love.

Friendship: The Mental Attraction

Friendship too is often confused with love, particularly it the friendship is between the people of opposite sex. The necessary nature of friendship is that it is purely based on the meeting of mind. People become friend when they like the thoughts of other person. Yet friends are replaceable, as there is no spiritual union between the friends. When the people develop different thoughts, the friendship is broken. The change of friends does not bear any permanent mark on the soul as friendship is never based on union of soul.

However, friendship is automatic between the people who love. When there is an union of soul, the physical and mental union is automatic. The only difference is that people in love are friends without even being aware of it. You can't make yourself a friend of yours since you are one. Same is true with love. However, when the separation occurs, then only the force if the attraction is realized and people understand, how much they love and need other person. Lovers are thus true friends as such friendship is free from adjustments as the lovers have understood each other so well that they know the mind of their loved one from their own mind. Therefore, the question of misunderstanding and confusion does not arise.

The Quest of True Love

It is thus evident that love is a spiritual experience of the human beings that is manifested in the meeting of the souls. However, since the body and mind are the manifestations of the soul in the physical realm, love does take the form of passion and friendship. The attraction at the level of body and mind are the creation of the nature that brings the loved one together and join their soul. Therefore, every love may start from physical or mental level but soon, it must reach to the level of spirit which is the true cause and the source of the love.

"Are Men Afraid To Be Engaged With A Serios Relationship?"

Engagement

Why are men so afraid of COMMITMENT?

If you think men are afraid of commitment, there's something you should know.

Some other women don't ever run into this problem with men.
In fact, some other women have the exact opposite problem- all the men they meet are stumbling over themselves just to try and have more of their timeand attention.

Guess what?

Men aren't afraid of commitment.

Men are falling in love and proposing and getting married every day.
The truth is that men are secretly craving thelasting love and affection of the right woman.
Especially women they feel attracted to, and whothey feel would make their lives better and happier if they were with.

How do men feel with you when things start getting"serious"?

How do you make them feel when the subject of commitment comes up?

And how do you feel talking about this with a man?

Men become uncertain and get confused about what to do and what they want when they're with a greatwoman for 3 reasons:

1) They really are "messed up" emotionally (inwhich case, I think you already know the deal andwouldn't want to be with him in the first place)

2) The woman they're with either doesn't get howand why he wants to commit

3) The woman starts accidentally showing him thatshe's actually NOT the right woman by feeling or acting strange around the state of the relationship and where it's headed

If you've ever had a great man in your life suddenly change his mind after he was wild foryou before - and it wasn't because he was truly emotionally disturbed...

Then it's time you know what it is that makes aman want to commit to you, and how to make surehe sees you as the right woman for him.

Hint- does he think committing to you will trulymake his life better and easier?

Or is there something about you and your relationship that feels tough, limiting andchallenging for him?

"Compatibility & Having The Same Values Are Very Important In Keeping A Marriage"

Perform a Love Test Before You Engage in Marriage

Love is the feeling of affection towards someone. In the love field, you simply do not choose who to love. You might choose who to live with for convenience but not who to grow fond of. A marriage for convenience needs a lot of patience and tolerance. To live happily the couple must device a way of dealing with things. In the love field, extremes are not encouraged. The opposite of love is hate. If you do not love your spouse, if he wrongs you he experiences a lot of hatred. This is a dangerous exercise since there is a possibility of harm. Love acts as a mediation factor in many disputes. Lack of it creates fights out of simple disagreements. Hard times in a relationship acts as a great love test.

Why are people murdering their spouses all the time? It is mostly out of bitterness. There are people who venture into marriage not because they are in love but because they have some other interests. They hook up with some one because they are hoping to be associated with something great. A wealthy and powerful man is always a target for many women. What happens when after marriage the money is gone with the wind? When the power goes down the drain? The marriage is shattered. In such a case the calamities act as a good love test. The love field becomes full of revenge activities. The pretense comes to an end and the true colors are revealed. It is under such circumstances that suicide and murder usually occur.

People should know that money and power are things which were once attained and can also go down the toilet. Love conquers all the troubles. It acts like a bond that keep many couples together. With money or no money, with power or no power a marriage that is genuine should stand firm. A love test will always be there and if you are keen to observe you will know whether your marriage relationship is purely based on love. In the love field of a malicious marriage, there are a lot of plotting games that go on. For example if you notice that your spouse withdraws fat amount of cash from an account and becomes rude when you ask for explanation, you should be cautious.

If you watch a love field of couples with an admirable marriage, they play the game with a lot of enthusiasm. There is no much effort in making things work out. Nature takes its course. They stand together and strong when they are undergoing a love test. Have you ever found yourself laughing when it is least expected? True love overshadows all the problems. When your partner is sick it is the perfect time to express all your love and concern to him/her. It should actually bring you together as a couple. Love is sweet when it is genuine so try your best not to force it. There is off course the unfairness of love where it is one sided. If the other party is unwilling, please relax and wait for your own true love.

"The Undying Love"

"Titanic Love"

Persistence is the inevitable key of triumph in love. A lover does not care about his/her ego or materialism while in love. All energy is focused towards winning his/her partner for eternity. Such love is huge in interpreting all meanings of love and can be termed as titanic love. A few useful suggestions for achievement of titanic love are given here.

1.Loyalty and faithfulness earns respect and trust of your lover.

2.Honesty is simple yet possesses far reaching consequences in any relationship and specially in love.

3.The ultimate urge to give love. The formula is lucid enough for everyone, that is , give love and get love.

4.Hate is lethal poison which brings vanity and downfall of even a good solid relationship.

5.Counseling looks funny to some and others feel hesitant over its utility in practical sense. In fact counseling is very vital as it brings a professional opinion to provoke reforms in your relationship. It is clear that when you are advised in any case, actually you are availing an opportunity of sharing someone's wit, along with your own , which helps you to make worse things better.

6.The most loathsome affair involved here is money and materialism. The involvement of some business profit, any type of gain, avarice of money and going for materialistic stuff ruins a relationship for sure. In such case, love is replaced by some kind of proposal to gain money or any other benefits.

7.The concept of love is universal with all its implications and demands. Titanic love is independent of devilish thinking and behavior.

Conclusion:

It is quite transparent that the general needs of titanic love does not rely on lust or greed. The meaningful adaptation of such form and method will definitely help is bringing a distinctively fruitful change in your relationship and will push you towards better understanding of love.

"Do Men Usually Lie?"

MEN NEED TO LIE

"Do you think she's prettier than me?"

"Does this dress make my butt look big?"

"Were you staring at that woman's chest?"

Dishonesty. It can erode the fabric of even the strongest relationship. But there are times when a man is put in a position where he really has to lie. It's the only choice. And why does he have to lie? Because women ask stupid questions.

Practice with me, boys. "No one is prettier than you, sweetie." That's all you have to say. It doesn't matter if you really secretly DO think Heidi Klum is ten times more beautiful than the woman you're with...if you want to avoid a lifetime of suffering, you will just say what she wants to hear. If she doesn't want you to lie, she shouldn't have put you in that position in the first place.

In all my time on this planet, I've never had a man ask me

A stupid question like that. I imagine if he did ask me if a pair of pants made his butt look big and I said yes, he'd simply go change pants. He wouldn't hold it against me for the next four years or take it as a sign that I no longer love him. He asked me a question, I gave him the answer, he solved the problem.

Men can be kind of...logical and rational that way.

A woman, on the other hand, does these things for approval. YOUR approval. She is feeling a little insecure for one reason or another and she's looking for you to reassure her that you still find her beautiful. It's not that she wants you to lie, it's that she wants you to compliment her. Which sucks, but that's the way it is. You choose to be with us, so this is what you're stuck with.

Just so you know, women, your little needy questions make you less appealing to the man you're with. Men are drawn to confidence. If you shove your booty into those size sevens and strut around with pride, he won't even notice your butt is bulging out all over the place. Because YOU think you're beautiful, he'll see you as beautiful.

Interesting how that works.

Then there are the things you men say that are just...not wise. "Wowzer. Look at the hoo-hoos on that broad." Any woman who has ever been a "hottie" in her life knows what you men do when your woman isn't looking. You're checking out other women. We know you do it. It's human nature. But it's just wise to try to make it a little less obvious to us. Trust me on this, men. Some of you are NOT subtle. I always feel kind of bad for the woman who is walking through the mall, holding her husband's hand and talking merrily away, while all the while he's staring at another woman and paying not a single bit of attention to a word she's saying.
Just be subtle, boys. That's all we're asking.

So...what do you think? Are little white lies in a relationship deceptive or...necessary?

"How To Make Men Fall In Love Wiyh You"

What makes a man FALL IN LOVE REAL HARD?

Admit it or not, men & women falls in love so easily. But men put walls so they cannot easily fall for someone head over heels,they pretend that they are not into you but in reality they are dying to be with you.I can say most guys have this denial within themselves,men are equally emotional than woman,it is just that they are good in hiding their emotions. Is SEX really necessary just to prove a woman's worth?


1.Being yourself
2. Value yourself, so he can value more.
3. Don't be too available all the time.
4. Don't be jealous.
5. Don't show too much interest.

Sex is not the same these days Men in todays world are looking for more than sex. You have to find out what other things you have to offer. a man wants you to be able to just more that to have sex.They are looking for the total package now because sex is to easy to get now. And if you have what it takes your man will fall hard in love with you.

Men are built in with an alarm. when it sounds they will and do fall in love really hard. If you don't sound that alarm then there is nothing that you can do to change that. if you do sound the alarm then he will let you know that you are the one. Women need to stop sleeping around with every guy they "like". No man with take a relationship seriously with a women they can get into bed, as my male friend once said " If I can get her into bed, so can the next guy". Save your sex for the one guy that lets you know through words and actions that he can't and won't live without you.

Just "be" yourself. it sounds kind of cliche, but it's the truth. when someone truly sees you for who you are and sees the beauty inside. love will develop. a relationship is like a plant. you have to water it, feed it, and give it sun to blossom into something wonderful. if you over do it or give it too little, it won't grow. so give it time and show him your inner beauty and things you would only share with someone you consider very special. it's the love that'll last that you want and not the physical attraction love that lasts but a minute. sex is a key thing in a relationship, but not the basis of a relationship. there are many things that a relationship should be based upon. sex gets thrown around in today's society as something so non-chalant. sex is a bond two people share and it shows comfort, confidence, and expresses how you truly feel towards one another. so a woman's worth or even a man's worth isn't based on SEX, but how two of you feel towards each other when you do have sex.

As bad as this sounds, the quickest way to make a man fall for you is to flatter him and build up his ego. Let him know he's important to you. Women who makes friends with men and show that they appreciate the guy often find that the guy falls for them.

When a man falls for a woman, he falls hard. Men love to be in love. While men often get stereotyped as single-minded sex-seekers, the truth is that a man's stomach churns like a slushy machine when he's in those initial stages of the perfect relationship.

When you consider that half of men say that they're currently not with their soul mates, that means a heck of a lot of slushy machines are waiting to be turned on. What are they waiting for? What makes a man fall in love? After you rule out the obvious intangible laws of chemistry, attraction, and being in the right place at the right time that kick-start many a relationship, I think the question really becomes this: What makes a man fall -- and stay -- in love? About 60 percent of men deem friendship the most important thing in a relationship (sex comes in at a skimpy 8 percent, according to a national Harris Interactive poll), but let's delve a little deeper. What exactly does that mean, and what kind of woman does a man really want? With full acknowledgement that men's tastes in women are as unpredictable as the plotline of "24," these are some of things that many men value in "the one."

A Woman with a Passion in Something Other Than Him

Yes, it's nice to be doted over. Yes, it's nice to be pampered. Yes, it's nice to be with a woman who showers you with compliments, neck kisses, and all of her attention. But there's a virtual Great Wall of China between a fleeting, flirtatious glance and the kind of attraction that can last a lifetime. Many men say they like a woman who's immersed in something else other than the relationship -- be it her work, or her sport, or whatever her "thing" is. Why? The passion she shows for something else confirms her inherent goodness, her personal drive, her independence. All pluses in the woman we're hoping to spend a few decades with.

A Woman with No Problem with Guy Time

Every relationship has to choreograph the time-together dance. Once a couple elevates from casual to serious, it goes through that period when most waking and sleeping minutes are spent together. But at some point in the dance, one person will call a time out from the music of coupledom, and try to spend more time with his or her friends -- while still being careful not to step on any feet in the process. Even when they're with the most perfect woman, men still crave the occasional space to spend golfing or drinking or doing whatever (64 percent of men are happy to have the time to themselves when their wives or girlfriends have plans). Men love, appreciate, and are thankful for women who respect and endorse (and not complain about) his need to have a few testosterone mixers. Don't worry, March Madness will be over in just a few weeks!

A Woman with a Strut

Her strut in the bar may have been part of his initial attraction. The strut from the bedroom to the bathroom after the first night together may have been pure visual ecstasy. But the strut that happens day in and day out is one of the major attractors for a man. What do I mean by the strut? It's that attitude, that sassiness, that confidence, that charisma, that charm that shows she can be a little bold and little daring. In a recent post I talked about the line between a woman being confident and a woman being so aggressive that she turns men away, but the truth is that in certain aspects of relationships, men want women who have the strut. Men want to be with women who challenge them, who push them, and who take the lead some of the times. And that's as true in the bedroom as it is in planning their next weekend getaway. The danger? While it can be insanely attractive, that strut of confidence can also swing a man 180 degrees -- if she uses it in other places, like to flirt with other guys, to become a relationship dictator, or to pick a fight with his mom in front of the whole family. He'll point that kind of strut right out the door.

A Woman with a Good Taste in Ties

Okay, so we don't really care about the ties per se. But what we care about is a woman's ability to give us a little-and this is a key word-gentle guidance. I know Freudian followers will say that it's a man's need to be mothered, but it's more than that. Every relationship is a give and take, and guys will definitely take women who can warn us when our new soul patch looks stupid, who can guide us to the perfect suit and shirt combo for an upcoming job interview, who can help them make decisions without being harsh or judgmental. Guys like to project that they know what they're doing and that they don't need any help. Women who can help steer us, without aggressively grabbing the wheel, are the most treasured copilots.

It's not often that we come face-to-face with the man of our dreams. If you meet a man that you instantly click with it's easy to let your imagination take the lead. As women, we dream about finding the perfect mate and when we think we have, we'll do almost anything to ensure he feels the same way. Making a man fall in love with you is really a mixture of many different things. There obviously needs to be mutual attraction and timing plays an important role too. There are specific things you can do though that can help guide him in the direction of falling in love with you.

No two men are alike but many men find certain qualities in a woman attractive. It's not impossible to make yourself irresistible to virtually any man if you understand what men find appealing. Making a man fall in love with you should begin with presenting yourself in the best possible light. This includes your appearance. This certainly doesn't mean that you need to lose weight or have any nips or tucks done. It does mean you need to accentuate what you have. This means dressing appropriately for your body shape and for your age. It also means taking a little time to style your hair and apply some make up. If you show the man you adore that you value yourself, he's bound to value you more as well.

This holds true when it comes to your individual pursuits as well. If you are passionate about your career or furthering your education you are going to be more attractive to the opposite sex. Making a man fall in love with you includes showing him that you are someone worth loving. Men love women who have their own interests and who aren't willing to compromise those things just because a man enters the picture. The man in your life should feel as though you are making room for him, not replacing your life for his. Never give up the things you love just because you fall in love with a man. If you do this you'll eventually become boring to him. Stay focused on your own goals and the things you enjoy.

You should also be willing to compromise if you are trying to make a man fall in love with you. Even though you may have your heart set on a dinner out, he may decide he wants to go see a game. Men love women who are flexible and spontaneous. Never try and steal him away from his friends or guilt him into choosing you over them. If you are supportive of the other people in his life, he'll be incredibly attracted to how giving and understanding you are. Show him that you love every part of him and he'll do the same in return to you.

Specific things you say and do can make a man feel helplessly drawn to you. If you are convinced he is the one there are things you can do to ensure he only has eyes for you.

"Interracial Relationship love does not define race"

"INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIPS"

Would you ever date outside of your race?

Definitely yes,I don't see anything wrong dating someone from different race or someone who has a different ethnicity than yours.It is just a matter skin color & physical differences.It is the compatibility that counts.Physical appearance is just one factor you have to consider if you are looking for someone you can have a relationship.There are more important factors to consider to make a relationship works.What important is the respect that you are both willing to give to make things work out for your relationship.You need to ask yourself what are your reasons why you are into or no into interracial dating?Then you can decide what can be the best for you.

Thoughts on interacial relationships? I am in one and just wonder what people think these days...

I think there is nothing wrong with it,it is just a race.What matters more is the person inside,how is he/she as a person.I believe that racists are someone should be avoided for that reason you can see what kind of person they are.

How do yo feel about interracial couples?

I'm happy for them,because to fall in love with someone far different from you...seems strange but definitely interesting.....i love adventure & learning different things so marrying someone from different race will give me the exitement that i'm looking for.

I wanna start dating white men, but I dont think they like black women so white boys would you date me?

In my point of view & from my experiences,attraction really don't depend on ethnicity,anyone can attract anyone...it is a matter of self-trust & uniqueness.Try to be different from others.But don't try to attract men bec. the more you try to attract the more they are likely to repel

Would you ever marry outside of your race?

Yes,why not...marrying someone whether it is the same race or not is noth the matter of question here.Sometimes we planned or have been mindset to marry someone that we dreamed or choose to marry but out of the blue this might all changed when you fall for the person you feel to be with for the rest of your life.Marrying is never been planned bec. if it is you can never be truly happy...in my point of view i believe in destiny that there is someone out there for you.It is up to you if you are willing to wait for that special someone.Remembere True Love can move mountains.

Do you believe in interracial relationships?

Yes,Of course..there had been many successful interracial relationships that lead to marriages.

What are the good things about interracial dating?

All relationships have PROS & CONS it is how you handle your relationship.It depends on different individuals,how they see things,how they see their future & how they want it?

Interracial Dating is for someone to learn more in life,someone who can respect others point of views & beliefs.

Interracial Dating is for someone who is attracted with someone different from his/her race.

Interracial Dating is for someone who is interested to widen his/her knowledge about different culture aside from his own.

Would you let your child marry a person with a different skin color?

Yes,why would'nt i.It is just a skin color.I'm an Asian In Love with a European we have different skin color but that is not a valid reason not to fall for someone that has a different skin color than yours.Individuals that believe that you should not marry someone who differs from you is someone whose ignorant & has a little understanding about the true meaning of Love & Humanity.In love we are all equal...

I won't interfere with my childrens decision regarding that matter.I'll respect their decision because it is their life & they are the one who should choose who they want.I will give them the right to decide bec. it is what i want for myself.I wouldn't want to be dictated by others.

This my life & i will live the way i wanted it to be.

RESPECT is the KEY.

I’m more attracted to women outside of my own ethnicity. Is it wrong to have an appearance preference?

All people has different preferences on how they see physically attractivenes.There is absolutely nothing wrong to have some preferences or personal standards.All people do have preferences ust some are not that vocal with there choices & some just keep their to themselves bec. they don't want to be criticized or judged by others that they are aspiring something that they don't deserve.All people are attracted in beautiful things that includes physical appearance of the opposite sex.We all have the right to choose what person we are attracted, whether that person is tall or short,some are attracted to asians ,some to europeans...all have their personal choices in means of physical attractiveness.But remember physical attributes is just a skin deep that fades in time.What you need to consider is the personality & character that makes the person more attractive than just his/her physical attributes.

For me beauty is empty without a brain & a soul that would accompany this,true beauty is not just having a perfect symetrical face & figure.

How do people really feel with black men/white women relationships? Seriously...

Speaking frankly many people see this odd but it is none of our businesses anyway.If they are happy with their relationship it really doesn't matter what other think about a white woman dating a black man.What really is important, is how they feel for each other & the rest just let them stare & analyzed.Don't live your life minding what may others think or say about you!As long that you know that you are not doing anything wrong...just follow what you really want in life bec. at the end of the road it is only you that matters.

Would any women here date an indian guy, i'm being serious here?

Yes,there is nothing wrong dating an Indian Guy.I personally can say most Indian Guys do have a nice eyes & sharp nose that are attractive but i'm really not that attracted with Indians but if i would fall for someone who is an Indian,i will let myself fall even head over heals.It is not about ethnicity it is about falling in love with someone you really don't expect seeing yourself with.

I dont understand why interracial relationships are so horrible to some people, is it ignorance or have the times really not changed as much as we say?

It has nothing to do with time or century.The problem is the ignorance of the people who practiced being a racist without a valid reasoning that can justify their ignorance.We had said it that this people are ignorant then how will we expect them to understand things that their minds can't reach.Just don't join them,stand for what you believe, do the right thing...

Respect & always put yourself in the shoes of others before you judge them.

How do you feel about a man with an accent?

It is sexy....to be unique & unfamiliar with the things you are used to is very interesting.

Why do white guys likes asian girls and white girls doesn't like asian guys?

Some do & some don't it depends with each individual it has nothing to do with the ethnicity.All races have gorgeous men & women that it is not impossible that two different races be attracted with someone who belongs to another race

Does not dating outside of one's race constitute that person being a racist?

Not necessarily,you can marry someone from different race & be still a racist.Being a racist is a perception on how you discriminate people from different races,it has nothing to do with or without marrying someone from different race it is how you accept all individuals as a person & the equality that all has the right to experienced & to be treated as they should be.

Do you believe more people would date/marry interracially as time passes on? Do you think society would accept people mixing interracially by then?

Yes,If all individuals all over the world would learn to fight for the one they chose to marry not the one that the society decides what's right for them...then i believe time will come that interracial relationships will be more accepted by the society.If all will stand for what they want & not just sat down & cry.Speak out for the name of Love then you can be truly happy.
Don't let others decide for your own happiness,don't be scared to be judged & humiliated by others.

Are you interracially married/dating, or do you know anyone who is interracially married or dating?

Yes,I'm dating someone who differs from my ethnicity & i'm very nuch happy with him.We both belong to different races but i really feel at ease with him.He is the one who i can say knows me best.

If a guy is a former racist and was dating interracially, and later married that girl, would it be alright if he confessed to his partner of another race that he used to have racial tendencies, like in the past?

Yes, absolutely there is nothing wrong to admit that you are sorry for being a racist,all commit mistakes,change is never too late after all.We all do have this tendency what is imporatant is the honesty between you & your partner.You should have the courage to admit it because keeping it to yourself will just add up to your burden.Discussing it out with your partner will clear the bridge that connects you both that will strengthen your foundation as a couple.So,to all please take my advice it is better not to be a racist because you might be the one who will eat your words & end up marrying someone from the race you hated most.

Statistically, are interracial relationships more or less likely to succeed compared to 'traditional' relationships?

I don't think so,relationships does not depend on ethnicity whether it is interracial or traditional relationship.It is how we value the word relationship & commitment.The success of any relationship depends on both couples on how they want their relationship to work out.

Would you date somebody of a different race even though your friends and family disapprove?

Yes,why not it is me who will be having the raletionship with him not them.I'm old enough to know what is good & what is not.God gave as all the power to think so why rely your future to others.They think that he is not good for you...that is what they think!what is imporatant is what you think follow what your heart tells you.Remember love is a gamble you should play the game for able to win.Love is win all or loose all whatever happens the important thing is you had loved rather not love at all.

Girls: Which guys of ethnicity do you find most attractive, and what is your race?

For me i think Hispanic & Europeans...I'm an Asian & i want a Guy who can carry me & treat me like his little sister that is why i would prefer this ethnicity for me most men from this races are very manly & sexy.

I am far deep in love with this amazing guy who is black. I'm white, but he feels the same way and wishes to come visit me from out of state. My parents know, but disagree with the idea of interracial relationship. Any advice?

If you truly love this person & you think he is worth figthing for,go for it!Just think first if you are really ready to sacrifice for this person.Ask yourself are you willing to depend this person no matter what.Talk to your parents & try to explain your side & ask them to respect your decision.

Im in love with my friend of 4 years, hes a white guy and im an asian girl of mixed ethnicity. I really like him and he likes me too. Just recently we exchanged I love yous. Its just sometimes he says "stupid asians", isnt this odd? Does he have issues

Yes,maybe he must had some bad experiences from the past or maybe he had encountered some asians that does not have pleasant personalities.Discuss things out tell him that you respect his point of view but he should realized that not all asians are stupid after meeting you that he should not generalized because it is not just asians who have stupid individuals , all races have this type of person.

What are some things a person should never say or bring up if they were in an interracial relationship?

All person has their sensitive side,just don't tell someone things that might hurt you bec. it could be the same thing for them.Learn his culture & race & try to respect his point of views.you can discuss things without hurting someone it is learning how to deliver your speech,how you say it & what particular words you should use.

Sensitivity is the Key.

My sister is dating a man from India and she is nervous about his intentions. She read a lot of stories about Indian men having relationships with white women and later dumping them for an arranged marriage. Does anyone have any experience with this?

Don't let the negative thoughts eat you.If you love someone you should learn to trust them.

Remember that what occured to others may or may not happen to you,why think the things that are not yet happening & may not happen.We are different people with different destiny why compare yourself with someones life.Just trust & have faith is you are meant it will be if not then that is destined to happen.

If you was interracially married, would you move a far distance from your parents if they were racist?

Yes,because negative remarks wil affect your personal outlook no matter how you ignore it,It will just create a bigger problems for both of you.That might contribute in ruining your marriage,your other half will have a hard time because he/she knows that he/she is not accepted by your family & living near them will just make the situation intense that will caused pressure for both parties.

Should a woman think of dating a guy that is ten years younger? He thinks that the woman is only about three to five years older (due to her appearance and style of dress)?

Age really doesn't matter as long you love the person.Age is not a basis of maturity it depends on each individuals,their point of views & perspectives.I known some 60's men who act like a irresponsible teenager & there are some on their 20's yet act like they are in their 40's.

So maturity does not come with age.