Saturday, November 21, 2009

The Truth Behind The Smile

Behind my smile

People in my life lately always want to know why i'm so happy or curious as to why I look for the best in everything ....Well I have had my fair share of mistakes like everyone else and I am far from perfect but I am learning and growing each day. I realized the importance to me in life is to truly follow my heart and surround my self with great people.I like to have that karisma around me that way people can always remember that glow. I also came to the realization I want to be a true leader not a follower and impact people/ the world in a beautiful way. I value my health, faith , motherhood and helping others as far as donating my time to charities or where ever I can make a small difference; a helping hand never hurt anyone. The small things in life are too often over looked when really they are some times the most important . Cherish your health don't take life for granted . Live, Love, Learn, forgive you will find your heart and eventually You will find clarity/truth because you are the only one that has to look your self in the mirror each day. I found my self or I should say I am still seeking my self not only through life experience's but I actually sat down and wrote my own obituary scary thought kinda morbid..But it makes you realize how you want to be remembered. We all have an inner beauty in us so let it shine.


True Friend Is Rare To Find

Ok, this blog took a lot of time and effort, thanks to all of you who helped with your input and thoughts:

Kayla, Kristin, Shannon, Gorilla, Sherri, Jay, Trey and Lover Lovingston.

What makes a good friend to me??

This was a hard question for me to answer and I want to pose this question to all of you at the end here....


In my eyes a real friend is tried and true. They are there when you need someone to talk to and they understand your feelings or at the very least act understanding even when they don't understand fully. They sympathize with you and they always take your feelings into consideration. They understand that things in your life need to be accomplished as well as they would take care of their own things. They don't get angry or mad if you have something important that needs to be done before all else. They will not talk about you in public and they will always have your back.
A good friend will offer you advice and stand by your side even if they do not agree with the decisions you may make. A good friend will offer encouragement and offer prayers or good thoughts/words to help you through a situation.

A good friend will call you when they know you are having a bad day to make sure you are ok, to do the best they can to offer a shoulder or an ear. A good friend will not only think of themselves, but always take care of can't be a good friend to someone, that offers good advice, if you aren't all together yourself...
A good friend will laugh at you AND with you, they will tell you when you mess up or they may keep their thoughts to themselves, but either way, they'll love you regardless of your failures or decisions. They'll question your thoughts, beliefs or feelings, to make sure you think from all angles, not just to be an ass. They may say something you don't like to hear or don't want to hear, but they do it in YOUR best interests.

A true friend will never be offended by another friend’s advice or questions…maybe if there was an offense taken it was only because it was the truth and it made them mad to hear it said aloud, maybe it only reconfirmed their fears. True friends don’t say those things out of spite, but out of looking after the ones they care about and protecting the ones they love.

Real friends don’t publicly fault their friends. They are grown up and can act mature enough to handle things like an adult. A real friend doesn’t stab you in the back when you are only trying to be helpful. A real friend won’t ignore you over something trivial and insignificant.

A real friend will understand your need to take care of the things in your life above all else. If they are a real friend they won’t fault you for taking a few minutes to get something important taken care of. They will understand and still be there once you have taken care of necessary business.

A real friend will sense when there is something wrong in your attitude or personality, they will call you up to see if you are ok, they will send you a message saying that “I’ll be there for you, when you want to talk.”

A real friend will not do something to help you out, then turn around and use it against you. Especially when the action that supposedly helped you was not one that you had even asked them for.

They let you have space, but don’t let you go too far from their sight. They keep you in mind and always have your best interests at heart. They understand that your family will always come before them and are not selfish in their desire to take up all of your time and energy. They appreciate the efforts you make at friendship, even if you are not able to lend out hours of your time at the time they need you.

There are exceptions to this of course. If a friend is in a car wreck or tragically ill and on their deathbed, then yes, a real friend will put their life on hold to help the other one make it through and cope. They will drop it all and give everything they have towards making the friend's situation more comfortable or tolerable. However, if it is the same situation over and over again, for example an asshole significant other or a drug problem, then the friend in need should understand that the things in your life will take importance over their matters at hand. It doesn’t mean you don’t care, it just means you have to take care of something, you WILL get back to their problems as soon as you can, but experiencing the same problem over and over because you don’t want to change things only means one thing…insanity.


Walking The Walk
(a short story)

Interesting how excited she became when I asked if she would like to go for a walk. A simple pleasure I thought would be nice for us to partake in. We set forth into the night air which was clear, crisp, and cool. Bright stars looked down upon us while a mild wind brushed over our faces, infusing our minds with the pure joy and satisfaction of togetherness. The smiles on our faces brightened the dark sky much more than the moon ever could as we shared short kisses filled with affirmations.

We talked about how our pasts shaped us in to the persons we are today. About the hopes for how our present day activities will shape our future. We shared our beliefs, our perspectives on several things and with each step, each word, each moment of silence we became closer, actually becoming a part of each others own body. Walking yet finding calm within the ruckus of life that we were surrounded by. I could feel the emanation of her love as we held hands. This love I felt, this love she wanted me to realize that she held for me, was far beyond anything she had ever spoke of.

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

When To Find True Love?

Just Another Love Story

Once, there was a guy, who was in love with a gal. She wasn't the most beautiful and gorgeous but for him, she was everything. He used to dream about her, about spending the rest of life with her. His friends told him,"why do you dream so much about her, when you don't even know if she loves you or not? First tell her your feelings, and get to know if she likes you or not". He felt that was the right way.

The girl knew from the beginning, that this guy loves her.One day when he proposed, she rejected him. His friends thought he would take to alcohol; drugs etc. and ruin his life.To their surprise, he was not depressed. When they asked him how was it that he is not sad, he replied,"why should I feel bad? I lost one who never loved me & she lost the onewho really loved and cared for her.

"Never Cry for One Who Makes You Cry!