Wednesday, July 30, 2008

"Goals & I deals

Our ideals

What is the most QUINT-ESSENTIAL quality that defines us as human beings? It is to remain faithful to our beliefs.




The spirit of fidelity in a human being is like a fish being in deep water. Just as fish will die if its water disappears, if people lose faith in their convictions, they will cause harm to society and other people (one way or another). That is why YOU MUST BE FAITHFUL to your ideals and convictions... In this way, your aspirations will be achieved and YOU WILL GAIN A FINE REPUTATION-AS A H.U.M.A.N BEING!!!

We are the FUTURE of this generation, hence, must have high aspirations and NOT LEAD EMPTY MEANINGLESS LIVES... I ALWAYS SAY, "If your will is not strong and invincible,if you are bereft of passion, you will idle away your life without attempting anything of note, imprisoned by feelings of emptiness, forever trapped in the ORDINARY,never escaping from the LOWLIEST LEVEL OF LIFE EXISTENCE.

ARE YOU THE TYPE THAT AVOID ALL EFFORT AND ONLY SEEK EASE AND COMFORT? Your life will stagnate!!! Do you KNOW that 77.3% of people the world over are afraid to push their brains to the limit? During their entire life time, they only use one sixeeth (1/6) of their brains...THE REST GOES TO, ASHES 2 ASHES, DUST 2 DUST not having being used!!!

Come on guys, lets not lead EMPTY LIVES, (such as forming cliques & factions and getting envious of, and slandering people of OUTSTANDING CHARACTER... or PIPO who sow confusions thru exaggerations and misrepresentations, or, pipo who try to manipulate others out of self-interest or desire for personal gain, or, pipo who care only for their own advantage and forge secret alliances with enemies(for lack of a better word) to disadvatage others)...LET US DEDICATE.



OUR LIVES TO THE HIGHEST GOOOOOOOOOD, and realising our individual MISSIONS in life.. But taking on this CHALLENGE IN LIFE, we shall definately, without doubt, lead lives of great hope,fulfillment,and value-creation...

REMEMBER,WE ARE PRODUCTS OF OUR ASPIRATIONS. BY PURSUING OUR ASPIRATIONS AND IDEALS THROUGHOUT OUR LIVES,WE CAN LEAD GENUINELY GREAT LIVES.

"Bulid A Strong Foundation"


Build a building, don't plant a tree
Good deeds are nice, but if not planted in the right spot, they may crumble to dust. Just like the good thoughts of ending poverty. I saw a movie the other day about an African man who just got a better job, but when he wanted to buy something, they asked more money of him. Even if you earn a little, the people notice you earn a lot.

The movie was very poorly done, but effective enough, and it just shows how not much changes after centuries in some countries. If someone would actually go build a building in a poor neighborhood, people would come to live there, if the price is right, of course.

So, next time you think about ending poverty in countries less developed, I think it's time to act beyond governments or charities and go build a building, rather then send money or end deficits of budgets.

If you can plant a tree, what good is a tree if someone lives near it? If you'd build a building, someone would live there, and the tree would not be a thorn that everyone surrounds it. Trees live forever, people do not!

" Wishes "

My Wishes


If I would have 3 wishes,
And I know it will come true;
I wont wish for fortune or fame,

I'll only wish for you...
My second wish won't be,

To become beautiful sexy or smart;
I'll only wish for you to be,
Here by my side right now.
My third and final wish would be,

For you to tell to me ;
That finally I have a place in your life,
Co'z you already have my heart.

"Finding Big Love"


FINDING LOVE

For every day there must be a night. For every question there must be an answer. For every dream there must be a realization. Where's love? Who is love? or question is, what is love? If you ask someone about love, they might give you all the craziest answer that you can even imagine. I, myself can't even find a perfect definition for love, but there must be an answer.

I've been alone realizing what's love for me, have I found my true love? You know you're in love when all you think about when you go to bed is that special someone, when all you do in your spare time is write their name on a piece of paper over and over again, when you're with that special someone, you get butterflies in your stomach and you get all excited.

You know you're in love when they walk by and you try not to stare but you can't help it, all you talk about, to your friends, is that special someone; you talk on the phone for hours and send SMS a million times. These are my definition when I was a little younger ( since I was 14, all the craziest things that I can ever imagine.)

Finding my greatest love wasn't so easy. I have loved so many times and got hurt million times. Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before finding the right one, so that when we finally find the right one, we will know how to be grateful. How would we know that he's the true one; if there's a million fish in the sea?

In my case, I never rush into falling in love, because love never runs out; let love be the one to knock at your door.If someone knocks, take the risk. Listen to your heart for it will lead you to the person you are looking for. Trust me; "I was once with a man that could never give me enough, now I'm with a man I can never get enough of.

Love is like hide and seek. People spend their whole lives looking for love, but when they finally forget to look for it, they find it. you'll find yours too.
In time...

Monday, July 28, 2008

"Be Successful Wiht Women"

10 Reasons Why Very Intelligent Men Fail With Women

I've been teaching men how to become moresuccessful with women and dating for several yearsnow... and one "problem scenario" just keepscoming up OVER AND OVER... and OVER and OVER andOVER again......and it really amazes me.I'm going to refer to it as "The Genius FailureParadox".

"The Genius Failure Paradox" is the tendencyfor UNUSUALLY intelligent men to have very LOWlevels of success with women and dating.

After contemplating this particular paradox,discussing it, and working on it for an awesome amount of time, I'd like to share my thoughts about it with you.I assume that if you've read this far, then you probably see yourself as smarter than the average guy.You know that you're a little different than other guys.You probably realized at a young age that you saw things differently and thought differently than others in school...And you've probably realized that your smart mind gives you an advantage over others in many areas of life...

Your smart mind gives you a particular type of advantage that can be very, very powerful in life:YOU'RE USUALLY RIGHT.Smart people get used to being "right" because they usually ARE right.And when you're RIGHT more often than others,you can get ahead in many situations. But unfortunately, this smart mind of yours canactually be WORSE than USELESS when it comes to akey area of life:WOMEN AND DATING.By the way, I did say WORSE than useless.

It can actually be like having a hammer when you need to tighten a bolt. If you use the tool you have for the job, you'll most likely make the situation WORSE.Of course, it's hard for a smart guy to even IMAGINE a situation where his smart mind could HURT his chances for success...But trust me, this is one of those situations.So relax, open your smart mind, and let me share with you the ten reasons why smart guys fail with women... and what to do about it.

REASON #1: THEY'RE WRONG, BUT THEY CAN'T OR WON'T SEE IT OR ADMIT IT.I mentioned that smart guys are used to beingRIGHT in most situations.And what do most smart guys do when they comeacross a situation where they're WRONG?

They find a new situation... one that fitstheir strength. They know they'll be right nexttime, so they just walk away... knowing that itwon't be long before they're right again.(OR they let the "problem situation" destroythem... more on that later.)Well, the BITCH about being wrong when it comesto women and dating is THERE'S NOWHERE TO RUN ANDHIDE.

There's no quick "I'm right" around the nextcorner to make you feel better.It only takes "failing" with a few women in arow for a smart guy to see the pattern... andrealize that something isn't working.Solution? Think harder.A smart guy just assumes that his logic must begood... so he just keeps thinking harder.

But when no success comes, it really starts tobecome mentally difficult.Accepting that you're wrong is a VERY hardthing for a "smart guy" to do.Accepting that you're not only wrong, but youhave NO CLUE WHERE TO EVEN START is even moredifficult.

Ultimately, many smart guys come up with thefollowing logical conclusion:

I AM A SMART GUY, THEREFORE IF I CAN'T FIGURE OUTHOW TO BE SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN AND DATING, THENTHE PROBLEM MUST NOT BE SOLVABLE OR WORTH SOLVING.Try that on for a self-defeating idea.

REASON #2: THEY'RE BLIND AND ARROGANT.In short, many smart guys refuse to accept that a good, solid, workable answer could come from someone "dumber" than them, so they discount any idea that comes from an "obviously less intelligent person" before trying it.

Let me ask you a question:If you were going to be walking across Africa on foot, would you rather have your guide be theguy on this planet with the highest I.Q., or a caveman who lived a million years ago that had an I.Q. of about 50... but who grew up being chased by lions and all kinds of animals that wanted to eat him all his life?It's an interesting question.

Now, hopefully you'd like to have the guide who isn't the smartest guy around... but who has escaped from many, many dangerous situations with deadly animals...

But now let me ask you:If you'd like to learn how to be more successful with women and dating, would you take advice from a guy who isn't very intelligent, but who knows how to attract women?

There's something about being smart that makes some guys unwilling to accept input, ideas, or instruction from anyone who isn't either as smartor smarter than them.Well, any SMART GUY can see the folly in this particular approach... once it's examined closely.If you've been making this mistake, then youneed to STOP IT.

Stop being an arrogant bastard,and open your eyes.Look around.Learn from some "dumb" guys... and let themteach you how to get what you REALLY want.

REASON #3: POOR SOCIAL SKILLS.It BLOWS MY MIND how many smart guys I meet that just don't GET IT when it comes to basicsocial skills.It's as if they have logically reasoned that social skills are for lower beings who need to play games... and not worth the time it would take to learn them.In fact, I believe that there are a lot of smart guys running around this planet who don'teven have "social skills" and "be a cool guy that people like" in their MENTAL MODEL of what it could possibly take to be successful with women and dating.Social skills are just that... SKILLS.They're not social INFORMATION.They're not social THEORIES.

They're social SKILLS.And you don't get them by THINKING about them.You get them by GETTING them.Excellent social skills are the foundation forgood communication with other humans... and if youdon't have good social skills, you dramaticallylower your chances for success with women.

REASON #4: THEY PSYCH THEMSELVES OUT.
Smart guys do something that fascinates the hell out of me...They come up with all the reasons why everything WON'T WORK when it comes to women and dating.They actually figure out why what it is that they would like to do will probably fail...They use their amazing creative imaginations to imagine all kinds of horrible pictures and scenes... and then they use those imaginary outcomes to create negative emotions... which ultimately stop them from having success with women and dating.

THEY DON'T EVEN TRY.Now, if you've thought something through and come up with a good reason why it would fail, itmakes sense to not do it, right?I mean, why would you want to do things that are going to fail?It is sound logic, but HORRIBLE thinking whenit comes to the REAL WORLD... and success withwomen.Because smart guys don't UNDERSTAND women, andthey don't UNDERSTAND what it takes to besuccessful with women, they are working with bad figures.

They're wrong before they even startfiguring!Using your mind to come up with all the reasonswhy things won't work in this area of your lifeleads to ULTIMATE FAILURE.You must learn to overcome this habit if youhave it.

REASON #5: THEY SEEK ONLY "INFORMATIONALSOLUTIONS"What does a smart guy do when he runs into a problem... or he needs to figure something out?He looks for INFORMATION to help him solve theproblem.MORE INFORMATION is always the answer.Information is the friend of a smart guy.Got a strange virus on your computer? Just hop on the Internet and search for how to eliminate it.Don't know how to change the alternator on your car? No prob. Just buy the manual and turn to page147.

Don't know the definition of a word? Open upyour dictionary.MORE INFORMATION solves the problem.So what do smart guys do when it comes toovercoming a problem with women?They want MORE INFORMATION.They think the answer lies in learning just ONEMORE TECHNIQUE... or one more magic concept.

Well what if there were a situation in lifewhere the "get more information" strategy actually made things WORSE?How would you even know that it was makingthings worse?Now, I don't want to suggest that learning more about how to be successful with women is a bad thing. It's not.But if you have a problem that is EMOTIONAL or PHYSICAL in nature, then reading five million theories on it probably isn't going to help youvery much.You need to get out in the real world and try some stuff!

You need to look at the REAL problem... the ROOT of the problem.When it comes to women and dating, there's a very good chance that you have MORE than enough"information".Smart guys often use "more information" to distract them from TAKING ACTION.I've heard this referred to as "Creative Avoidance".Nod silently if you've ever figured out a creative way to avoid facing something in your life.Good, thank you.

REASON #6: THEY FOCUS ON LOGIC INSTEAD OF EMOTION.NEWS JUST IN: Women don't feel ATTRACTION formen who make them THINK.Women feel ATTRACTION for men who make themFEEL.So what do most smart guys do when they first meet a woman?EXACTLY!They get into a LOGICAL CONVERSATION.I'm shaking my head right now...

Smart men try to engage women in LOGICAL conversations and interactions because that'swhere THEY feel comfortable... not knowing thatthey're SHOOTING THEMSELVES IN THE FOOT by doing it!Get this: A monkey sitting at a typewriter will type the collected works of Shakespeare before youwill make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you by engaging her in logical conversation.

When you start a logical conversation with awoman you've just met, you are basically takingout a NEON SIGN that says, "I don't get it when itcomes to women" and putting it on your head.Typical "logical" conversations include talkingabout work, family, school, and jobs... discussingpolitics, religion, weather... and anything thathas to do with math, science, or INTELLIGENCE.

On the other hand, if you start talking to awoman and you say, "OK, so tell me something...Why is it that all women say that they want sweet,nice guys... but they all date sexy, selfish, badboys?" (and then make fun of any answer she gives)Now you're having an EMOTIONAL conversation.If you don't know what I'm talking about, keepreading. You need more help than I thought.

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REASON #7: THEY'RE NOT USED TO THE CHALLENGE OF THE MOMENT
Smart people usually have time to THINK aboutthings.If you're taking a test, you can sit there and work out the answers.If you have a math problem, you can work on ituntil you've figured it out.If you're trying to fix something, you can keep working on it until it's fixed.Smart guys are used to being able to take at least a LITTLE bit of time to prepare and show off their "good sides" in most situations.Not so with women...If you don't know what to do at every step along the way, you'll be shut down very quickly.Women have an AMAZING "He doesn't get it" radar system.

Women have all kinds of subtle and ingenious tests that they throw at men to separate the "getits" from the "don't get its".And if you don't get it, then you're going tofail one of these tests VERY quickly.But the worst part is that you won't ever KNOWthat you were being tested... OR that you failed.Smart guys aren't used to dealing with complexEMOTIONAL and COMMUNICATION challenges in the moment... and especially the "women and dating"kind.

One of the keys to becoming more successful with women and dating is learning to handle all ofthe tests that women throw at you effortlessly.But before you can learn how to deal with thetests, you must first learn how to communicate onan emotional level, how to demonstrate that youhave fundamental social skills, and how to keep your cool in the moment.

REASON #8: THEY THINK THAT DOING "NICE" THINGS ISTHE "SMART WAY"OK,
let me ask you a trick question:If I told you that you were going to have adate with the super model of your choice, which ofthe following would you choose as a "smart" way of preparing:

1) Find out what her favorite type of flowers are,and show up with a dozen of them so she would be"wowed".

2) Learn about her favorite travel destination so you could discuss it with her.

3) Find out what her favorite type of food is so you could take her to dinner... and she could see that you cared enough to choose something that she enjoyed.OK, time's up. Which did you choose?Now, I already mentioned that this was a TRICKquestion.

The answer is NONE OF THE ABOVE.But WHY?These three options all seemed logical, right?I mean, why WOULDN'T you want to show up with her favorite flowers?Why WOULDN'T you want to talk about to herabout her favorite places to travel?Why WOULDN'T you want to take her to eat herfavorite foods so she enjoyed herself?

Go with me here...Smart guys think that they're being CLEVER when they do things like buying a woman her favoriteflowers... and bringing them to the FIRST DATE.Right?In their minds they're thinking, "I'm going tobe the guy who is thinking ahead... and I'm goingto show up with the flowers that I KNOW sheloves... and she's going to see them and like memore because of it".

Makes sense... good math, right?Well the one teensy-weensy mistake that these"smart" guys make is not realizing that it doesn'tactually take a smart person to think like this!In fact, ANY jackass can figure out how to kissa woman's ass.And guess what?WOMEN KNOW THIS!And guess what else?

EVERY WUSSBAG DOES THIS STUFF.An intelligent guy, in his proud arrogance,will think he's being such the charmer by usingthis "thoughtful" approach......and the woman he is chasing will interpret it as just another Wussy who's trying to MANIPULATE her.Ouch. Another blow to intelligence.

MISTAKE #9: THEY ALWAYS NEED TO BE THE EXPERT
Have you ever met a smart guy who always needed to be "right"?Have you ever met someone who would actuallyargue with you about something they knew nothing about... and make a fool of themselves because they just couldn't shut their "smart mouths"?Over the last few years helping guys improve their success with women, I see this one pattern over and over again...Smart guys don't like to be "beginners" atANYTHING.

They don't like the idea of screwing up...especially if others are watching.They want to maintain this "smart guy" image ofthemselves... so they try to always be "TheExpert" at whatever they do.Instead of saying, "Hey, you know what? I'm abeginner at this... how do I do it? What should Ido first? What next?"... and instead of being totally OK with screwing up, making mistakes, and making a fool of themselves in front of others in order to LEARN......they won't risk embarrassment, failure, orothers thinking that they're beginners... so theywind up ultimately FAILING.MORE NEWS JUST IN:

It's OK to be a beginner.MISTAKE #10: THEY CAN'T DEAL WITH FEAR AND OTHEREMOTIONSA smart guy's STRENGTH is his MIND.His WEAKNESS is often his EMOTIONS.Smart guys are often IMMOBILIZED by FEAR.Totally stopped.FROZEN.And since many smart guys aren't comfortable dealing with things they're not good at, they justrepress or RUN away from fear.Many men would rather DIE in lonely isolationthan admit that they don't know how to deal withtheir emotions... or, GOD FORBID, ask for help!

Hey, I went for YEARS like this.I know what it's like.But the reality is that any guy can learn to handle and even MASTER his emotions (even fear)...if he just takes the time and effort to learn HOWto do it.If this is you, then do yourself a big favor...take the time. Take the effort.Don't worry about what anyone else thinks ofyou... it doesn't matter.

What matters is you doing the things that YOUneed to do FOR YOU....I think the reason why I'm so fascinated with "The Genius Failure Paradox" is because Ihave had to struggle with all of these issues for a lot of years of my life.

Now, I'm not saying that I'm the smartest guy on the planet...But, I don't think mamma raised no fool.And it always bothered the hell out of me that even though I was so good at figuring things out,I couldn't figure WOMEN out.Something tells me that you know what I'm talking about.

Well, after beating my head against the wall for a few years... trying all kinds of crazy"logical" stuff... I finally got the "bright" idea to start studying guys who were "naturally" goodwith women.Of course, I found out that you could be bothNOT SMART and VERY SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN at thesame time.I also learned that you can be SMART and VERYSUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN too.

By carefully studying what the "naturals" didwith women... and learning how they "thought"about the topic, I began to realize that successwith women wasn't entirely LOGICAL.Much of what I learned was very tough for me toaccept... because my logical brain just didn'twant to buy into it.One thing I saw was guys pushing women away from them... and having the women then chase themin response.

Made no sense at all.I saw guys tease beautiful women and make jokesabout them to their faces... and then watchedthose women become "little girls" in response...unable to maintain their composure and therefore unable to maintain their manipulative power...It took me quite a long time, but I continuedto learn, test, and refine what I was learninguntil I personally figured out how to approachwomen in any situation... get any woman's number Iwanted anytime I wanted... date any type of womanI wanted......and most importantly, GET RID of that"empty" feeling that

I carried around my wholelife because I didn't know how to attract women.And once I got this area of my own lifetogether, I decided to help other guys get thisarea of THEIR lives together.The first "major" result of all this time,effort, and energy is my "Fire of Seduction" Program.It's 300 pages of me personallyteaching all of my very best concepts, secrets,and step-by-step techniques.If you're ready to finally get this area ofyour life "figured out", then you need to getyourself a copy of this program.

All the details are here:http://www.new-alpha.com/seduction.htmAnd if you haven't downloaded my online eBook"Unleashing The Phoenix", then you need to go and dothat now. You can download it and be reading itwithin a few minutes from right now. You candownload it here:http://www.new-alpha.com/unleashing_the_phoenix.html


"Control Your Thoughts"

Change Your Thinking
(It will take just 37 seconds to read this and change your thinking)

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.

Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window. The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside. The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats.Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fineview of the city skyline could be seen in the distance. As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man onthe other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine this picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon, the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man could not hear the band - he could see it in his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. Days, weeks and months passed.


One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away. As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone. Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window besides the bed.



It faced a blank wall. The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window. The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall. She said, 'Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.'


Epilogue: There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations. Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled. If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can't buy.

'Today is a gift, that is why it is called The Present.'

"Hidden Emotions"

L O V E R S

Does the idea of having a secret lover cause a rush of adrenaline in your system? Here are things you need to keep in mind if you’re heading for a clandestine relationship. Secret relationships can seem fun and exciting in the beginning. More than just the joy of being with someone, it is the thrill of keeping something hidden from your close ones. There are many reasons why you may choose to keep a relationship under wraps. It could be that your lover is not good-looking or of a different religion or it could be a workplace romance. Whatever the case, the fact is you have chosen to be with him/her.


Such relationships generally start as a physical attachment but they can sometimes turn into something more. Most people feel more open and relaxed in a secret relationship as they don't have to worry about external influences. However, maintaining a secret life can be hard work. You have to avoid getting caught together, for if you do, the magic of the relationship could disappear. The other possibility is that the longer you spend with your partner, the more likely you are to fall for him/her.


However, if you do feel that a clandestine relationship is what you want, here are a few things you need to bear in mind: You can’t share your thoughts Those involved with secret lovers realise that while their friends can explicitly discuss their romantic life, they themselves cannot do the same. In such a situation you have to be careful about what you say and to whom. Very often you may also be forced to lie about your activities to family members so that they do not discover your secret. Being in such a bond could cause you additional frustration and stress. Love barriers Research shows that those in secret romantic bonds have lower levels of relationship satisfaction. While they can be enjoyable in the beginning, such relationships can become problematic later. You cannot tell anyone about your secret lover and have to be careful not to be seen together in public places. In such situations, you or your lover may get annoyed as neither of you can get possessive of each other.

Long term possibility Most of us get carried away in the rush of the moment but sometimes we have to consider the long term effects of being in such a relationship. If you really like your partner, you have to accept that it may turn into something serious. Therefore, you have to be prepared to break the news to your family and friends. Try and be ready to make a decision as to whether he/she is someone you want to spend more time with or if it is just a passing phase. You will not be able to consult your friends about the decision so it's really up to you to make the choice.

Be realistic There are a large number of people who prefer to keep their love affairs under wraps. For many it is about escaping from society and questions from peers and family. However, having a secret lover is not as easy and as perfect as a 'Romeo and Juliet' love story. You need to be practical about such relationships as you can end up hurting someone's feelings. Talk to your partner from time to time about your relationship and make sure that your lover is clear about where you both stand and to avoid any disparity.

"Fearness"

S H A D O W O F D A R K N E S S

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

Marianne Williamson

"Beyond Ordinary"

NADI JYOTISHYAM

Nadi (pronounced 'naadi') Jyotishyam, is a unique way of unravelling a person's past, present and future. Popular in Tamil Nadu, this is a system where any person who gives his or her thumb impression, can know details of previous birth(s), sins, virtues, the rationale behind one's present birth, one's future in this birth and also details of future birth(s).


It is claimed that sage Agastya had the knowledge and vision of the reasons for the birth of each human being. He wrote this down on palm leaves called Yedugal, meaning books, in Tamil. During the reign of King Sarabhoji of Tanjavur (circa 18th century A.D.), these were rewritten and referred to as Volai Chchuvadugal, meaning leaf prints. These prints form the keys to the thumbprints in the prediction process.

Today a few families, from places like Chidambaram and Kancheepuram, in Tamil Nadu, have inherited these palm leaf prints, for generations and are involved in predictions for seekers, both within the country and from abroad.

D. Balasubramaniam, 39, of Sri Agathiyar Nadi Jothida Nilayam, from Kancheepuram, is one such Nadi Astrologer. Chennaibest.com spoke to him in this exclusive interview:
Why is this process of Prediction called "Nadi"?


Normally, any astrologer can go to any place, refer to a palm or a horoscope and predict. However, our system involves referring to the ancient palm leaf scriptures, which are in one place and cannot be moved frequently. Hence the person, who wants to know of his or her birth details, has to come to our place and "seek" these details from us. In Tamil the word "nadi" means seeking, among other things.

What is the system of your prediction?

Any person, who seeks this information, has to come to us on any day, except Tuesdays, before 8.00 am, and give us his or her thumbprint. Right thumbprint for men and left thumbprint for women. Based on their thumbprints, we search and refer to the correct collection of palm leaves that belong to that particular person's details.

There is a palm leaf print for every type of thumbprint. As per our system, the thumbprints of human beings are classified into 108 major varieties. Among these 108 varieties, there always are differences. So, we study the prints carefully and pick the concerned palm leaf print/s. Then we check with the concerned person, on parameters like their names, their parents' names, their place of birth etc., which are indicated either directly or indirectly in the palm leaves. If all the parameters are met with and accepted by the person seeking, as correct, we shall proceed with the predictions.

In what language do you predict?

I read from the scriptures, which are in ancient Tamil and not comprehensible by many, today. Hence we also give definitions for certain words and try to explain in understandable Tamil. Today, we are also able to help people with predictions in English, Hindi and a few South Indian Languages.

How about predictions to foreigners?

They may be from different places, religions and of different languages. We have received seekers from many foreign countries. But, today, most of our foreign clients are from Japan. They always bring their own interpreters and we never found it difficult to predict to them. Even if they are from different places and belong to different religions, there are indications in the palm leaves and while checking for the parameters, we found that they do match.

How long does this procedure take?

It takes about 4 hours to search for the correct palm leaf print. Then depending on the person's request for information, it may take another few hours, to predict and explain. If it is in Tamil, we may process in about 4-5 hours. For other languages, it takes more time.

What is the accuracy of your predictions?
99% accurate, as claimed by my clients.
How long have you been practising this?


To my knowledge, our family has been into predicting from the palm-leaf scriptures for about three generations. I had been initiated into studying the palm leaf prints in my teenage. It took me about four years to understand and decipher the ancient script (which is very miniscule and looks like flowing scrawl). It took me a further six years to understand the content of the scriptures, to enable me venture into predictions.

Have you learnt this on your own or did you learn it under anybody's tutelage?
I have learnt the art from my father's younger brother Sri V. S. Arul Siva Arumugam, who became my guru.


Are you training anybody now?

Yes.
Normally this art is found in and around Chidambaram.
How come in Kancheepuram?


I hail from a small village called Valathan Pattinam, near Mayuram of erstwhile Tanjavur and today's Nagai Qaid-e-Millat district of Tamil Nadu

However, I had a foreboding that I will be comfortable in a place, which is an abode of Goddess Amman. Since Kancheepuram is the abode of the Goddess Kamakshi, I came here in the year 1987 and have settled here.

The way clients, from far and wide, throng Sri Agathiyar Nadi Jothida Nilayam, it appears that Balasubramaniam's prediction, for himself, has indeed come true.

My love


M Y L O V E

I and he together are like two peas in a pod. We are complete opposites; we were also brought up very differently. But you know whatthey say opposites attract. Even though we both has different life styles we always try to make it work. Josh and I had our ups and downs but that’s what builds a relationship. And our communication may not be all that great but its what keeps us going… and we may have fought over the sillest things but that’s how were different. That’s what makes our relationship, that’s who and how we are.We have been through so…much good and bad that our love is too strong no one can stop us now. Because we are just getting started we may have not gone out that long. But we both know that we just cannot live without each other. We both cant hang we it comes to breaks. We were destined to be together, whether people like it or not we could care less. Because Josh and I care more about each other than we have for anyone else before. Hey, what else can we say, Were in Love!

Poem for My Beloved Husband


You Are The Air That I Breathe

I Can Feel You You are so far away, but I can still feel you.
The essence of your being is in everything I say and do.
The nearness of your spirit takes my breath away.
I feel you in every beat of my heart as I go throughout my day.

When I close my eyes, I get such feelings of bliss.
I can see your gentle face and feel the fire in your caress.
You tiptoe across my mind in the gentlest ways.
You're in the softness of a rose and the warm wind on my face.
You're the sunbeams from heaven shining brightly in my soul.

A sweetness of serenity that fills my heart with gold.
You're always inside my mind, even though we are far apart.
I can feel you with me always tugging gently at my heart.
There is the sweetest devotion, I know you love me too.
We'll be together in spirit and I'll be forever loving you.

"A Friend Is A Gift To Treasure"

WHY GOD GAVE US FRIENDS

GOD knew that everyone

needs companionship and cheers. ..
He knew that people need someone

whose thoughts are always near

He knew they need someone kind
and lend a helping hand..

someone to gladly take the time.


to care and understand.


GOD knew that we all need someone

to share each happy day...
to be a source of courage...
when troubles come our way..

Someone to be true to us ..
whether near or far apart..

Someone whose LOVE we'll always
hold and treasure in our HEART
that why GOD gave us FRIEND.


"Self Thougths"


A HOLE IN THE SOUL


"A small hole in the body is the result of a big hole in the soul." -- Kotzker Rebbe

This esteemed 18th century kabbalist known for his penetrating wisdom is giving us an important lesson. Anger, depression, regret, revenge - and all forms of negative emotions - are holes in the soul that create holes [illness] in the body.

As the kabbalists have been teaching for 5,000 years, whatever shows up in our physical bodies is a branch - not the root. If we wish to treat and prevent illness, we must work on the cause level, which according to Kabbalah, resides between our two ears.
What goes on in your mind is what goes in your body.


Remember the spiritual rules of the game of life I spelled out in The Power of Kabbalah: the source of all chaos in our life is caused by our reactive thoughts and behavior. If we have illness, we can't think that something broke in our body. We have to know it started with our negative thoughts and actions.

If we don't realize we are the cause, there is no way to heal our life. I've got a student who is fighting cancer right now. The doctor tells him it's a deadly form the likes of which he has seen only twice in his career.

Being a spiritual person, my student has come to the realization that he has two choices at this point: bitterness or gratitude. With all of his might, he is choosing gratitude. He is not letting the negativity creep into his mind. He's keeping a positive mental image.

And though he is not out of the woods yet, his doctor is shocked at how quickly he is healing.

The Zohar teaches when you fight the negative fragments running through your head, the Light comes to assist you. But you've got to fight. What does it mean to fight? It means when you are feeling desperate or lost or terrible, you scream to the Light, "Light please help me! I don't want to feel negative today! I don't want to be depressed today! I don't want to blame others today! "Remember, we're in a war with our doubts.

Again, this is all in The Power of Kabbalah. If we just accept the thoughts that pop into our mind, we are doomed to fail. We must continually counter our negative automatic thoughts with positive ones, as well as cries to the Creator.

God helps those who help themselves.In addition, there are metaphysical tools to give us the fuel to do the inner healing that will result in physical healing. Zohar study. 72 Names of God visualization. Ana Bekoach meditation. Tikun Hanefesh. And you have to do these with enthusiasm, knowing that there is no other choice but to convert your thinking.

There are openings for healing every second of the year, but especially this week. We are in the portion of Pinchas, which the Zohar reveals as the secret to all forms of healing [personal and global.] Take this thought piece to heart this week because there is healing energy flying through the air. Use your consciousness to catch it. Doing so will help you, and the world, because we are all connected. I can't stress that enough. And you can join us in person or online for Shabbat Pinchas, the healing event of the year. It is this Saturday, July 19th.

Finally, I recommend spending as much time as you can meditating on this week's 72 Name of God. Use it when you feel that nothing can help. Beg, pray, and plead for change and healing. Visualize the Light coming out of the letters, visualizing the Light coming into you.

It doesn't matter if you don't know what you are doing. Just invest the right effort. The Kabbalists teach that the moment we invest enough effort, someone or something will come and help us.

I have now been bestowed with the emotional strength to stand after I've stumbled, to rise after I have fallen, and to endure when the path seems unendurable.

Sunday, July 27, 2008

"We Can Lie But We Can't Decieve Ourselves"


OUTWARD EXPRESSION OF THE INWARD IMPRESSION.

Dear, I thank God for this wonderful opportunity we have for a chat. More so, I thank you for this honor for the audience you gave me. It had delayed for to long because of the lack of access, and this has been golden. Let me begin by saying that the heart of man is hidden and full of confusing attitudes at manifestation. Secondly it is greatly deceitful, filled with schemes and calamitous craftiness. Yet it is what is is the inside controls what is on the outside for out of the abundance of the heart does the mouth speak.

Little wonder it is said that out of the heart flows the issues of life or death because it is the well spring of life. Thus it becomes very difficult for an individual to discern what is on the inside from what is on the outside (the physical attributes of the person such as beauty, education, wealth, position in office or government, etc.). More often the issue has been the inability to establish a prospering and enduring stable relationships. Therefore in order not to hurt oneself, it becomes imperative that we will be diligent and gradual in each and every relationship we are about to venture into. Ordinarily people consider mainly physical attractions - the things that eye see - more important than the intrinsic values/ value system of the people who are about to enter into such partnership. But truly the reverse should be the case resulting undesirable outcomes.

Consequently, we have seen many a relationships that had all those things we thought that makes a relationship work, yet to their greatest dismay each day of the venture brings them untold sorrow, agony, misery, shame, disappointment, embarrassment, discouragement, failure and ultimately separation/divorce. In view of this, though I see that everything on ground is indicative of the fact that a relationship could work out between us, I have to advise that we should take it easy because there is so much work yet undone. I am not suggestive of anything for now but I believe that honesty, dedication, commitment, faithfulness, open heartedness, accommodation, understanding, wisdom, (and so - and so on) are the essential ingredients that make relationships work. These and a lot more we have to find in ourselves and establish as the foundation of a lasting relationship.

Having gone this far, I suggest that we open a dialogue and as we progress along the line we will be able to see what happens. Once more thank you for everything. Feel free to ask me whatever question that comes up in your mind ranging from personal, work, family, social, religion to whatever. I promise that I will be careful to answer them very accurately to the last details. Cheers and God bless. I love you for this great open door, privilege and honor.

"Lessons In Life,Live Life,Enjoy Its Meaning"


Audrey Hepburn wrote when asked to share her 'beauty tips.' It was read at her funeral

years later. For attractive lips, speak words of kindness... For lovely eyes, seek out the

good in people. For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry. For beautiful hair, let
a child run his/her fingers through it once a day. For poise, walk with the knowledge that

you never walk alone... People, even more than things, have to be restored,

renewed,revived, reclaimed, and redeemed; never throw out anyone.

"Be Bold,Be Brave,Be Different"


Avoiding Mediocrity: Do You Dare to Be Different?

I don’t know about you, but one of the things I’m afraid most in life is mediocrity. For me, life is too precious to be lived in mediocrity. Life is a golden opportunity, and we should use it as good as we can. Living in mediocrity means we do not use the opportunity as good as we should.


Unfortunately, many people are trapped in mediocrity. I believe one of the main reasons is they do not dare to be different. You need to be different if you want to be above the average. The question is:


Do you dare to be different?

This question might not be easy to answer, but how you answer it will make the difference between excellence and mediocrity.



Here are some more specific questions to help you check yourself and take actions:

1. Do you have a dream?


This is the first question you should ask yourself. I believe one of the main reasons people just follow the herd is they don’t have a dream. If there is nothing to pursue then why bother being different?

But a dream is what sets you above the average. Not having a dream means going to mediocrity on autopilot.

If your answer for this first question is “no” then start searching. I’m sure you have a dream deep inside of you. It might be something from your childhood. Maybe for long time you have been too busy to let the little voice of your dream be heard. This is the right time to heed that little voice.

If you have found your dream, the next question is whether or not you have the courage to follow it. Questions two through five will deal with that.

2. Are you doing what you want or what you should?

There are often implicit “rules” about what someone should do in a particular situation. For example, when there are two job opportunities, the “rule” says that you should take the one with higher pay.

But is that what you want? I mean, does it help you achieve your dream? Maybe the job with less pay will help you achieve your dream while the one with higher pay doesn’t. Do you have the courage to be different and follow your dream?

3. Do you worry more about being loved than being what you love?

Another reason why we don’t dare to be different is because we are trying to meet other people’s expectations. We often worry more about what other people say than about what matters to us. But living someone else’s life is a bad way to live your life. Why should you lose opportunity just because of what other people say?

4. Do you choose what is safe rather than what is right?

Maybe you are not trying to meet other people’s expectation. Maybe you just don’t want to take risks and therefore you choose to play safe. But this is exactly what many old people regret.

When they were asked in a study about what they regretted most and what they would do differently, most of them answered: “I wish I had risked more.” Don’t let the same regret happen to you.

5. If you had only six months left to live, would you do what you are doing now?

You can only answer “yes” to this question if what you are doing matters to you. Doing what matters to you is a sure way to excellence since you will do it with all your heart. But you need the courage to be different and follow your heart. Do you have it? I hope your answer is yes. Life is too precious to be lived in mediocrity.

"Seizing Every Moment Of Our Lives"


What is real pleasure ?
I have been on net for past one year actively involved in net socializing. i have interacted with many people. some were just seeking sex, some wanted company to share loneliness.... some wanted relationship...the interaction with each and everyone added something new to my perspective towards life.But out of all these interaction, interaction with one changed whole course of life. I got new vision to look at life. i introspected myself a lot , applied all skills of psychology in knowing myself.... as i believe if i know myself i can understand anyone in the world without colouring my perception towards him/her with my own wishes and desires...

Everyone in this world is lonely, unsatisfied,... feeling of vacum, incompleteness is hovering everyone, despite of thier sound social position, fanances,and many realtionship they enjoyed. but no one could achieve the desired level of satisfaction, feeling of being complete.

Almost everyone has similar story.Every one is searching pleasure, in pursuit of this they tried to grab top most position in there professional world, they earned name, fame, money and many good physically satisfying relationship. enjoyed the pleasure out of all achieved things.... but every pleasure was momentry, it lost its worth, charm and charisma with time. again search for pleasure started.........

Somehow i feel, we people fail to define pleasure because we don't undrestand who we are? what we actually want out of life..? I beleive in maslow, who says life is a journey..ultimate aim of this life is self actualization.... in this journey we need to first achieve the satisfaction for biological and social needs thn we can achieve ever lasting pleasure by self actualization.

Its so easy to satisfy biological needs but satisfaction of social need especially need for belongingness and association has become so impossible now a days..we try to associated with our parents but this association breaks when they depart.. then we make friends.. but this momentry feeling of belongingness doesn't last long , they have their own life.... we make gal/ boy friend.... here we get satisfaction, but it also fades whn they leave you for someone else.then search of permanent relationship i.e. soul mate starts..... but getting soul mate and making him belive in his feeling for u is also very difficult.


Finally most of human being reverse back to biological needs and try to exract satisfaction out of sex or physical relationship...but with every harmonal cycle the so called achieved satisfaction fades out... and we humans just get entangled into this vicious circle... find ourself stressed out and burned out frequently... this also results in many psycho somatic illnesses like, BP, heart illnesses, frequent attcks of allergic reactions, insomania, diabeties etc......

Finally we depart from this world without knowing ourself , fail to accomplish god's work to serve others, find pleausre out of giving pleausre to others... helping god in making this world beautiful and livable .The reason is simple we fail in junior class of needs after easily passing primary class of needs....

When company of soul mate can give long lasting pleasure, can satisfy need of belongingness, why don't we believe in our feelings and emotions when we get aquainted with our soul mate? what's the point in living in pain, getting struck to the lower level of heirarchy of needs? why are we wasting another birth in understanding and accepting the soul mate send by god....why are we going against god and living in pain? every soul has been gifted with one soul mate... but we humans fail to catch the signals. understand our mate because of our ego, self inflicting values and barriers...

Until the time two souls wont unite long lasting pleasure , sense of completeness, cann0t be attained without union we cannot progess spiritually.... let's not waste this birth as well ... let's help God in making this world beautiful...let's overcome all barriers and unite with the soul mate and achive higher goals unite with the supreme power, forever.......

Cheating


When Does Cheating Happens?

Cheating happens when you start looking for what you don't have. Somewhere along the way, you will meet someone who will be more charming or sensitive than the one youre already with.
More sexy, More thoughtful, wealthier, better in bed, and you will meet someone who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your boyfriend/girlfriend ever did. No boyfriend/girlfriend is perfect, because your boyfriend/girlfriend will only have 90 percent of what you're looking for.
So, cheating happens when you look for the missing 10 percent. Lets say your girlfriend is melancholic by nature. You may find yourself drawn to the pretty girl next-door who has a cheerleader laugh no matter what she says: I broke my arm yesterday, ha ha ha...
Or because your girlfriend is a couch potato who is always in pajamas and smelling of garlic and cooking oil, you may fall for the CK-One-smelling colleague who comes to work in a sharp pinstripe blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt.
Or because your boyfriend is the type who never shuts up even when you've tried using duct tape, your heart may skip a beat when you sit next to a brooding, mysterious Latino on the bus.
But wait! Thats only 10 percent of what you don't have. Don't throw away the 90 percent that you already do! add to the 90 percent the 100 percent that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together.
The many adjustments you have made to better understand each others little quirks and idiosyncracies. The wealth of memories that you have accumulated as lovers. The old sparks that can always be rekindled by the walk on the beach, barefoot and underneath the stars...
Cheating happens when you start looking for what you don't have. But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already do.

"Ways Of Love"

RULES ON LOVE

1. Do not fall in love everytime you fall in bed.
2. Learn to detach emotionally.
3. Sex does not equal commitment.
4. Do not revolve your entire life around him/her.
5. Addiction is bad for your heath.
6. Do not cling, act needy or demand.
7. Doormats are for your feet, NOT your heart.
8. It's OK to say NO.
9. Do not grill them, or their friends for information.
10. Master the art of LISTENING.
11. Treat him/her as you would your bestfriend.
12. Friendship creates long term love, and comes before sex.
13. Forget about fixing your partner. IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN.
14. Your choice of partner is a reflection of who you are and who you are not.
15.Enjoy the moment first. Live in the present.
16. Don't worry about the ex's, or start naming your future children.
17. Never read their journal or go through their paperwork.
18. If you have NO TRUST, you have NO RELATIONSHIP.
19. Allow space and freedom between you.
20. Do not always be available.
21. Calling frequently is a turn-off and signals insecurity, neediness and control.
22. Open your eyes to lies and cheating, OR close them, justify the bad behavior, and live with the consequences.
23. Little or no eye contact? Start walking away. They won't notice you are gone.
24. Anyone preoccupied with their physical appearance usually have very little or nothing to offer from within.
25. Look beyond the physical.
26. NEVER compromise your values.
27. DO NOT LOSE YOUR IDENTITY.


28. December-May relationships are great! However, seasons change and the May lover will sooner or later hear the call of Spring.
29. If someone really wants to be be with you, he/she will be.
30. If they ask to be just friends, be just that and look elsewhere for a love partner.
31. If they keep giving reasons for not calling, or say they are extremely busy, GET THE HINT and leave them alone.
32. DON'T EVER give up your friends for him/her.
33. IF YOUR PARTNER ONE DAY LEAVES YOU, BE SURE YOU HAVE FRIENDS, MONEY, A CAREER AND A LIFE OF YOUR OWN WHICH YOU NEVER GAVE UP. If you don't, who do you have to blame but yourself.

"Expressions Of Love"


25 Ways To Say I Love You

Make sure you know…before you say, “I do!” Show your sweetie your heart belongs to them with one of these 25 ways to say, “I love you!”

Order a custom-made cake with, “I love you” written on it.

Call in a dedication on your partner’s favorite radio station.

Have flowers, delivered in person by a mutual friend.

Post a dedication on your partner's friend networking webpage.

Commission a billboard on your partner’s route to work.

Diamond anything, with a card, or engraved. Send them a framed photograph, autographed by you.

Leave a message on their voice mail or pager.

Leave little love notes around the house where they will find them.

Write it on the bathroom mirror in fog-proof treatment. Mail them a letter, postcard or greeting card.

Commission a sky writer to write it in the air.

Announce it over the public address system in any public place.
Send them a postcard from the heart. Write them a love poem.

Build a web site dedicated to your love.

Take out an ad in their favorite newspaper or magazine.

Make a screen saver and have a colleague load it onto their work computer.

Create any one of the simple crafts on LYC and send it to your love with a note.

Send them a box of chocolates with a card.

Have an artist draw their portrait from a photograph. Carve a heart into their favorite tree.

Buy them something they have always wanted.

Commission a love song, sung just for them.

Commission a romance novel with you both as the lead characters.

Recipe for Happiness


What is happiness?

Is there a measurement for happiness?
If there is, Is there a way for us to measure it?

Where does happiness belongs to? How can one get a genuine happiness? Does everyone have the right to be happy? What are the essentials of happiness? A lot of questions that nobody can ever answer.

What is happiness? Does happiness depend on the people around you?If that's the case, who can make you happy? Who can make me happy? orshould I say, what are the things that can make me happy?

Consider the following, we humans are social beings that we survivein dependence of others. If others are not happy, does this affect us?does these means that we cannot be happy? So hard to explain.

But, tell you what I'm not the person that knows the recipe of being happy. You know why, because it's only you who knows what can make you happy.

Happiness doesn't come from without it must come from within. It is not what we see, touch, hear or that which others do for us which makes us happy; it is that which we think and feel and do. Me, when Ithink that I'm happy, I am completely happy inside and out...