Wednesday, April 30, 2008

"Right attitude will guide you towards success"


..... Attitude.....

What can change your day?

It's just simply the way…

That you start it out…

That's with out a doubt…

You see how I start my day…

By sending something positive your way…

I know it surely does have an effect on me…


I get a smile just to see…

How many people can relate to the verses I let flow…

Where they come from… I still don't know…

We all have our gift…

Guess mines the ability to uplift…

Even if its just the corners of your lips…


Or making you turn the music up

and start shaken your hips…

A brighter day…

Just seems to be a click away…

Hope you will stop back by…

And you know those times I make you cry…


I really do feel bad…

Because them stories are so sad…

But they have more meaning that way…

And you learn a lot more that day…

It opens your heart up to so much more…

And you find your self looking forward

to what's through the next door…


Your attitude determines where you will go…

Guess that's all I really wanted you to know…



"Inspiration is MY Goal, with Poetry for the Soul"









Hope you enjoy the reading Ive put together.
Its here to help ME get through the cloudy weather.
Inspiring quotes and phrases are like vitamins to the soul.
They can touch your heart and make you feel whole.
Some times they can even inspire you to change your ways,

So that you can have much brighter days!

So take the time to read them through,

As you might just find that special something to inspire you!
Hope you take some thing away from your visit here
Might be some thing small or might be some thing dear.
But either way I hope it touches a piece of your heart.
Because thats where all good things get their start!

My punctuation and spelling might not be very good.
But hopefully my point might be understood.

It you find something that touches you in some way.
Please Share it as it would brighten my day,
Just to hear what you have to say.
May all your days be bright, and your nights warm!
And that you stay safe and far from any harm!


TWELVE POINTS ON ATTITUDE



1.It is your attitude at the beginning of a task more than anything else that will determine your success or failure.

2.It is your attitude towards life that will determine life's attitude towards you.

Despite many people's belief to the contrary, life pays no favorites.

3.You control your attitude.

If you are negative it is because you have decided to be negative and not because of other people or circumstances.

4.Act as if you have a good attitude. Remember actions trigger feelings just as feelings trigger actions.

5.Before a person can achieve the kind of results he wants, he must first become that person.

He must then think, walk, talk, act and conduct himself in all of his affairs, as would the person he wishes to become.

6.Treat everybody as the most important person in the world.

7.Attitudes are based on assumptions. In order to change attitudes one must first change one's assumptions.

8.Develop the attitude that there are more reasons why you should succeed than reasons why you should fail.

9.When you are faced with a problem, adopt the attitude that you can and will solve it.

10.We become what we think about. Control your thoughts and you will control your life.

11.Radiate the attitude of confidence, of well being, of a person who knows where he is going.

You will then find good things happening to you right away.

12.In order to develop a good attitude, take charge first thing in the morning. Do you say, "Good morning, Lord" or "Good Lord, morning?"

Read these twelve points every day for the next thirty days

and see how your life changes.


ATTITUDES ARE MORE IMPORTANT THAN FACTS


"Falling Water Renews My Eyes"


Falling water renews me





I feel something new is coming on the way.. Maybe it's the winter feeling. Maybe it's something else's feeling.. I do not really know. But I do know that I'm now preparing myself for it.


I do feel new myself. I'm not the same as before. Everytime I take a shower, a bad character of mine -or at least that's what I think- falls down with the water, though there are still some that dwells deep within me.


So hopefully the coming winter will leave no trace of my bad habbits and will renew me partially to strengthen me with a little bit more responsibility for my whole new life.


So all I have to wish for now is that the coming winter would rain so heavily on me and on all who need it.



"How to Love Unconditionally"

How can I love unconditionally and unlimitedly?

The first step in being fully loving is that you must fully love your Self. And this you cannot do so long as you believe that you were born in sin, and are basically evil.


If you believe that humans are by nature non-trustworthy and evil, you will create a society that supports that view, then enact laws, approve rules, adopt regulations, and impose restraints that are justified by it.


If you believe that humans are by nature trustworthy and good, you will create an entirely different kind of society, in which laws, rules, regulations, and restraints are rarely required. The first society will be freedom limiting, the second, freedom giving.


God is fully loving because God is fully free. To be fully free is to be fully joyful, because full freedom creates the space for every joyful experience. Freedom is the basic nature of God. It is also the basic nature of the human soul. The degree to which you are not fully free is the degree to which you are not fully joyful and that is the degree to which you are not fully loving.


To be totally loving means to be fully free.


We should allow everyone to be able to do anything they want.


That is how God loves. God allows everyone to do anything they want.


It is normal in your society to punish. It is abnormal in your society to simply allow a consequence to assert itself to reveal itself.


Punishments are your announcement that you are too impatient to await a natural outcome.

Punishments are someone else's decision that one has done wrong.

Consequences are one's own experience that something does not work. That is, it did not produce an intended result.


In other words, we do not learn quickly from punishments, because we see them as something that someone else is doing to us. We learn more readily from consequences, because we see them as something that
we are doing to ourselves.


The biggest punishment that you have devised is the withholding of your love. You have shown your offspring that if they behave in a certain way, you will withhold your love. It is by the granting and the withholding of your love that you have sought to regulate and modify, to control and to create, your children's behaviors.


This is something that God would never do.


True love never withdraws itself. And that is what loving fully means.


I
am love. One does not have to practice what one is, one simply is it.


I am the love that knows no condition, nor limitation of any kind.


I am totally loving, and to be totally loving means to be willing to give every mature sentient being total freedom to be, do, and have that which they wish.


Even if you know it will be bad for them?


It is not for you to decide that for them.


Not even for our children?


If they are mature sentient beings, no. If they are grown children, no. And if they are not yet mature, the fastest way to lead them to their own maturity is to allow them the freedom to make as many choices as possible as early as practical.


This is what love does. Love lets go. That which you call need, and which you often confuse with love, does the opposite. Need holds on. This is the way you can tell the difference between love and need. Love lets go, need holds on.


So to be totally loving, I let go?


Among other things, yes. Let go of expectation, let go of requirements and rules and regulations that you would impose on your loved ones. For they are not loved if they are restricted. Not totally.


Nor are you; you do not love yourself totally when you restrict yourself, when you grant yourself less than total freedom, in any matter.


Yet remember that choices are not restrictions. So do not call the choices you have made restrictions. And lovingly provide for your offspring, and all your loved ones, all the information that you feel you may have, to help them make good choices - "good" being defined here as those choices most likely to produce a particular desired result, as well as what you know to be their largest desired result: a happy life.


Share what you know about that. Offer what you have come to understand. Yet do not seek to impose your ideas, your rules, your choices upon another and do not withhold your love should another make choices you would not make. Indeed, if you believe their choices to have been poor ones, that is precisely the time to show your love.


That is compassion, and there is no higher expression.


What else does it mean to be totally loving?


It means to be fully present, in every single moment. To be fully aware. To be fully open, honest, transparent. It means to be fully willing, to express the love that is in your heart full out. To be fully loving means to be fully naked, without hidden agenda or hidden motive, without hidden anything.


And you say that it is possible for human beings, for regular people like me, to achieve such love? This is something of which we are all capable?


It is more than that of which you are capable. It is that which you are. This is the nature of Who You Are. The most difficult thing that you do is to deny that. And you are doing this difficult thing every day. It is why your life feels so difficult. Yet when you do the easy thing, when you decide to come from, to be, Who You Really Are - which is pure love, unlimited and unconditioned-then your life becomes easy again. All the turmoil disappears, all the struggle goes away.


This peace may be achieved in any given moment. The way to it may be found by asking a simple question:


What would love do now?


This is a marvelous question, because you will always know the answer. It is like magic. It is cleansing, like a soap. It takes the worry out of being close. It washes away all doubt, all fear. It bathes the mind with the wisdom of the soul.


What a good way of putting that.


It is true. When you ask this question, you will know instantly what to do. In any circumstance, under any condition, you will know. You will be given the answer. You are the answer, and asking the question brings forth that part of you.


Do not second-guess this answer when it instantly comes to you. When you second-guess is when you fool yourself - and can make a fool of yourself. Go into the heart of love, and come from that place in all your choices and decisions, and you will find peace.


I am in love and I need to shout it out to the world!



endless-love.jpgYes folks, I am in love. There’s no more denying it - in fact I want to race up to the top of the nearest mountain and scream it out to the world! I LOVE YOU! I haven’t known you for all that long but in that short time you’ve affected my life dramatically - now with you in my life nothing will ever be the same.

When I touch you, you react. I love the sleek feeling of you in my hands. I love that you always know exactly what I want to hear and what I want to see. I don’t like that it takes you 8 hours to charge your batteries but I’m willing to forgive that one trivial fault.

A review is forthcoming.


"The Meaning of Love"


Love is any of a number of emotions and experiences related to a sense of strong affection or profound oneness. Depending on context, love can have a wide variety of intended meanings. It is commonly conceived of romantically, as a deep, ineffable feeling of intense and tender attraction shared in passionate or intimate interpersonal and sexual relationships. Love can also be conceived of as Platonic love, religious love, familial love, and, more casually, anything considered strongly pleasurable, desirable, or preferred, including activities and foods.This diverse range of meanings in the singular word love is often contrasted with the plurality of Greek words for love, reflecting the concept's depth, versatility, and complexity.


The definition of love is the subject of considerable debate, enduring speculation, and thoughtful introspection. In ordinary use, love usually refers to interpersonal love, an experience felt by a person for another person. Love often involves caring for or identifying with a person or thing, including oneself (cf. narcissism). Dictionaries tend to define love as deep affection or fondness. In colloquial use, according to polled opinion, the most favored definitions of love involve altruism, selflessness, friendship, union, family, and bonding or connecting with another.

T
he different aspects of love can be roughly illustrated by comparing their corollaries and opposites. As a general expression of positive sentiment (a stronger form of like), love is commonly contrasted with hate (or neutral apathy); as a less sexual and more mutual and "pure" form of romantic attachment, love is commonly contrasted with lust; and as an interpersonal relationship with romantic overtones, love is commonly contrasted with friendship, although other connotations of love may be applied to close friendships as well.


The very existence of love is sometimes subject to debate. Some categorically reject the notion as false or meaningless.[citation needed] Others call it a recently-invented abstraction, sometimes dating the "invention" to courtly Europe during or after the Middle Ages.


C
ultural differences make any universal definition of love difficult to establish. Expressions of love may include the love for a soul or mind, the love of laws and organizations, love for a body, love for nature, love of food, love of money, love for learning, love of power, love of fame, love for the respect of others, etc. Different people place varying degrees of importance on the kinds of love they receive. Love is essentially an abstract concept,[citation needed] easier to experience than to explain. Because of the complex and abstract nature of love, discourse on love is commonly reduced to a thought-terminating cliché, and there are a number of common proverbs regarding love, from Virgil's "Love conquers all" to The Beatles' "All you need is love".


Scientific views
Biology of love

B
iological models of sex tend to view love as a mammalian drive,[citation needed] much like hunger or thirst. Helen Fisher, a leading expert in the topic of love, divides the experience of love into three partly-overlapping stages: lust, attraction, and attachment.

L
ust is the initial passionate sexual desire that promotes mating, and involves the increased release of chemicals such as testosterone and estrogen. These effects rarely last more than a few weeks or months. Attraction is the more individualized and romantic desire for a specific candidate for mating, which develops out of lust as commitment to an individual mate forms. Recent studies in neuroscience have indicated that as people fall in love, the brain consistently releases a certain set of chemicals, including dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin, which act similar to amphetamines, stimulating the brain's pleasure center and leading to side-effects such as an increased heart rate, loss of appetite and sleep, and an intense feeling of excitement. Research has indicated that this stage generally lasts from one and a half to three years.


S
ince the lust and attraction stages are both considered temporary, a third stage is needed to account for long-term relationships. Attachment is the bonding which promotes relationships that last for many years, and even decades. Attachment is generally based on commitments such as marriage and children, or on mutual friendship based on things like shared interests. It has been linked to higher levels of the chemicals oxytocin and vasopressin than short-term relationships have.

Psychology of love
F
urther information: Human bonding

Psychology depicts love as a cognitive and social phenomenon. Psychologist Robert Sternberg formulated a triangular theory of love and argued that love has three different components: Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. Intimacy is a form by which two people can share secrets and various details of their personal lives. Intimacy is usually shown in friendships and romantic love affairs. Commitment, on the other hand, is the expectation that the relationship is going to last forever. The last and most common form of love is sexual attraction and passion. Passionate love is shown in infatuation as well as romantic love. This led researchers such as Yela[citation needed] to further refine the model by separating Passion into two independents components: Erotic Passion and Romantic Passion.

F
ollowing developments in electrical theories, such as Coulomb's law, which showed that positive and negative charges attract, analogs in human life were developed, such as "opposites attract". Over the last century, research on the nature of human mating, such as in evolutionary psychology, agree that pairs unite or attract to each other owing to a combination of opposites attract, e.g. people with dissimilar immune systems tend to attract, and likes attract, such as similarities of personality, character, views, etc. In recent years, various human bonding theories have been developed described in terms of attachments, ties, bonds, and or affinities.


S
ome Western authorities disaggregate into two main components, the altruistic and the narcissistic. This view is represented in the works of Scott Peck, whose works in the field of applied psychology explored the definitions of love and evil. Peck maintains that love is a combination of the"'concern for the spiritual growth of another", and simple narcissism. In combination, love is an activity, not simply a feeling.



For Love


Find someone who knows the Lord,
someone you can be friends with
forever, someone who knows
what love is and knows how to love,
someone who is giving & caring,
someone you can have some fun with,
someone you enjoy talking to, someone that
supports you but does not enable you,
someone who will compromise, a person that will
speaks words of affirmation and encouragement,
that is compassionate, that is clothed
with humility, that does not gossip or slander,
someone who prefers you over themselves,
and someone that will pray together with you.

…….and then be that person yourself.


Realize that "I Love You" is an
outward expression. You may love what
somebody does for you, and you may fall
in love, but when you say those special
3 words, back it up by expressing it through
your actions. Show your love by giving it
externally. Meet your spouses or significant
others emotional needs where they need it.
Be thoughtful and take the time to do and say
the things that will communicate to them that
you love them.


" A Beautiful Love Song"

" Very Special Love "

Maureen McGovern
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wIVFPRAy-Hg


I never believed in love

I was deceived by love
I never had much luck with lovers before
And I couldn't compete
I seemed just part of the street

To be walked on by everyone but then

Then I found a very special love in you

It's a feeling that's so totally new

Over and over, it's burning inside

I found a very special love in you
And it almost breaks me in two
Squeezing me tighter



But I'm never gonna let go

You're not like the rest

I know you're one of the best
You give more than you should
and take nothing in return
(in return)

Stay always with me
And I always will be

The one person that you
can count on always to love you



And I found a very special love in you

It's a feeling that's so totally new

Over and over, it's burning inside

I found a very special love in you

And it almost breaks me in two

Squeezing me tighter


But I'm never gonna let go

But I...
Found a very special love in you
It's a feeling that's so totally new

Over and over, it's burning inside

I found a very special love in you
And it almost breaks me in two
Squeezing me tighter

But I'm never gonna let go
(repeat and fade out)



"Seduction Style"

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"Perseverance of a Dream"

" DREAM "


"May you have perseverance in all you ever do?"

"May you have the will power to continue each and everyday?"

"In all we do and say,”

"Just remember,”

"There will be times of hardships, needs and despair,”

Wondering weather we are on the right track,

Of Life!

"Keep your faith and perseverance,”

Life is filled with challenges,

If you get knocked,

Get up,

Dust yourself off,

And try again,

Keep trying, as there is a way,

To all good things that come our way

So, show a sign of perseverance,

Never give up!

Keep trying,

Never give up on a dream,

Your dream,

Have a little perseverance,

It is what true dreams and goals,

Are made of....

So, never ever give up on your dream!

Show perseverance!

As I have shown you my perseverance




Tuesday, April 29, 2008

"I'll be right here waiting..."



Life is what we make it...
Life is full of twists and turns.
We don't know what lies ahead.
But we just need to be ready before the next turn,
the next wave, the next page of the never ending
mysteries and ironies of life.


I've been living my own life for quite a long time.
Been there, done that.
Been in love, got hurt.


So where life will take me? I don't know.
What lies ahead? I'm not sure.
Will the "one" be there? I can't answer that.
We all have the questions, but we don't know the answers.


Answers that we all have been waiting for so long.

We may have it tomorrow or the other day or maybe never.
But something great will always come our way.

Just keep the faith!

I know, somebody will light

the signal fire soon....

very soon....

I'll just be here waiting for you...



"Say it Now"


"UNCONDITIONAL LOVE"


Why wait until tomorrow to tell someone you care?
For beyond the dawn tomorrow, you may not find them there.
The past now lies behind us, and tomorrow may not come.
We only have today, my friend, to beat upon life's drum.

Friend, why not say, "I love you!" to those that you hold dear,
For time is such a fragile thing that death may soon appear.
Let others know you love them so there's never a doubt.
The best time is now, my friend,to try and work things out.

If you keep your love a secret, it cannot multiply,
For love, when it's neglected, begins to slowly die.
Go, hug your wife and children - go shed a happy tear!
And love will pay grand dividends each day throughout the year....




"Love"

Love is the word that makes one go into dreams of bliss and the word that can take one into pain. It all depends, how your love turned out.

If you were stabbed in the back, pain will be the result and if you got loyalty, it will be pleasure. When one looks at the scenes of destruction of one's love, when one revisits the places where love had blossomed, below the flowering trees, one goes in to the memories of the lost love.

It hurts and it hurts very badly. Similarly the love that enriches us can be invaluable. It gives a new breath, a new life.Love can give life and when lost, life may be lost. Call it addiction to love or whatever, love is a feeling that cannot be described in words. it has to be felt.

We hear about many break-ups and separations. What happened to the love that brought the couple together in the beginning? How can ex lovers talk of revenge? In love, there is no revenge. If your beloved stabs you in the back, you will not ask for revenge, because you loved and you still love.

As I have yet to talk to someone who stabbed the beloved, I don't know about his or her thinking, but it must be that of - how could I do this? Or may be they are so evil that they applaud themselves for their backstabbing!

Love is sublime. Love gives power.Love gives determination. In love, many lovers do what they could never dream of. Empires have been sacrificed for love. Battles have been fought for love. Love has ruled mankind since ages. Those who experience love are truly lucky.


Perseverance


"Determination"




Perseverance can be tough

Sometimes I think "OK enough

Then You say run the race

Look to Me, see my face

Don't give up, do not quit

Cry a little, have a fit

Keep on doing the next right thing

Great gifts to you I will bring

Trust that I know all you need

Persevere and you will succeed

Success beyond what you could dream

Things are not always as they seem

Nothing in My world happens by chance

Look beyond the circumstance

You are right where you belong

Trust in Me, you can't go wrong

Fix your eyes, and you will see

It is the way it's supposed to be

All things happen as they should

All things work together for Good.


Indigenous Science: Collaboration



Collaboration is a many splendor things. It can be the best experience, and at the same time the worst. Collaboration is working together to meet some goal, make something happen, sharing communications in an altruistic manner. Collaboration is a hard thing to do, because not all of us will ask for/accept help. I wrote before that the Creator has given us all some special ability, but I think the ability given the most and used the least is the gift of communication.We can talk to one another, and through that activity gain insights on what another's thoughts are. Some people use this to benefit themselves. Some use it only enough to get through the day, with minimal interaction with others and all the nature around them. Can we communicate and collaborate with nature? I guess it depends on what you hear when the earth talks to you. Does the farmer or rancher keep using the land when he knows it needs to lay fallow? Good farmers let the earth rest, or use practices that minimize the effects of plowing and overgrazing.


Here in Western MT some places have only the thinnest of usable soils available, and if you drive your ATV over it much, the vegetative supporting layer is destroyed. Continued use makes ruts and eventually gullys, ruining more land.
Is this collaboration? Probably not, unless you confine the road use to existing roadways. then eventually the roadways limit use when natural processes make road use impossible. I collaborate with several people, and am always looking for new collaborators. But the process is time consuming and a little tricky. I started working with 2 ladies in a nearby city, and for about a year I went to their office and visited them, and had them come to my office. I feel that because of the investment I have made, that if they need to make a decision for me in a snap, they can, and for the most part I'm pretty comfortable with what is decided. If I need something from them, I'm comfortable with asking almost anything, because they worked towards the collaborative understanding as hard as I did. In essence the collaboration was forged. Look up a definition of forge and you find that it has some difficulty involved, from hammering metal,concerted efforts, trying to get ahead, any number of things related to making something. Even the negative, as in making a counterfeit, would involve an investment in time and resources to occur.


A
nyone who says collaborations are easy doesn't really know what it is all about, then,do they? To collaborate with Native people, greet them to begin with.The next thing is to set aside an extended time to really gain an appreciation for the culture, philosophy and personal relationships they have.
Extended family and external forces are a constant with most of us, because we have familial responsibilities that are poorly understood by the west. A western person might have that weird uncle or auntie you only see at family reunions or gatherings and a native probably has one living with them, or sees that person on a day-to day basis. And, we care about and for that person, and feel we have to, all because of these family ties. Where the West would put someone in an institution (or nursing home etc...) , natives as a general feel they must take care of that person. Family duty or honor. We revere the elderly, because of what they know. This understanding is the hardest to explain, because there is no "typical" native family. Collaboration takes work, and when successful is a joy to the heart. If you decide to collaborate, spend the needed time to get to know your partners, you'll be glad you did.


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"A Man That Every Woman Desires"


HOW TO MAKE A WOMAN HAPPY

It's really not difficult...


To make a woman happy; a man only needs to be:


1. A friend
2. A companion
3. A lover
4. A brother
5. A father
6. A master
7. A chef
8. An electrician
9. A carpenter
10. A plumber
11. A mechanic
12. A decorator
13. A stylist
17. A psychologist
18. A pest exterminator
19. A psychiatrist
20. A healer
20. A good listener
22. An organizer
23. A good father
24. Very clean
25. Sympathetic
26. Athletic
26. Warm
27. Attentive
28. Gallant
29. Intelligent
30. Funny
31. Creative
32. Tender
33. Strong
34. Understanding
35. Tolerant
36. Prudent
37. Ambitious
38. Capable
39. Courageous
40. Determined
41. True
42. Dependable
43. Passionate

WITHOUT FORGETTING TO:

44. Give her compliments regularly
45. Love shopping
46. Be honest
47. Be very rich
48. Not stress her out
49. Not look at other girls

AND AT THE SAME TIME, YOU MUST ALSO:

50. Give her lots of attention, but expect little yourself
51. Give her lots of time, especially time for herself
52. Give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes

IT IS VERY IMPORTANT:

53. Never to forget:
* Birthdays
* Anniversaries
* Arrangements she makes

"Decoding Life's Secret Messages"

How to tune in to the hidden meaning of coincidences, those seemingly random events that can guide us toward our destiny.




Jung called it "synchronicity"--random events that occur together in a way that defies rou haven't seen in a while, and she phones you. Oational explanation. You think of a friend yr, contemplating a business deal, you see a sign that reads "Beware of thin ice," and you know to steer clear. If you look more closely at coincidences, you will find guidance in times of confusion or at key moments in decision-making. We are used to looking for symbols in dreams, but coincidences in our waking lives can be also be read as symbols of where the universe is leading us. Coincidence is said to be God's way of remaining anonymous, an indication that there is an underlying reality that connects us all. Here's how to recognize those secret messages from the universe.

1. Read the Signs

Signs are literally all around us. A friend of mine was feeling stuck in her life. As she rushed out in the car to pick up her child from school, she realized she was heading into a traffic jam. "Great," she thought, "the world is mirroring my sense of being stuck." Just then a little white car zipped past her and drove straight into the converging lines of traffic, cutting them off and opening a space for her to get clear. As she seized the chance to get out of the jam, she glanced back and noticed that the vanity plate of the white car read: "CREATE." She was grateful for the double message: that when things stall, we are required to create a new approach, and that we don't have to figure everything out on our own. The universe can be friendly, if we'll let it. Other signs that are "in your face" might include a billboard, a quote on a church signboard, or the first song or commercial that is on the radio when you turn it on.

2. Ask for Guidance

You can ask synchronicity to be your guide. Start by identifying the theme in your life on which you would most like some help right now. Write down a clear and simple request by filling in the blank in the following statement: "I would like guidance on...." Now get ready to receive the first striking or unusual thing that enters your field of perception as a direct response from the universe to your question. A friend who was having doubts about her boyfriend wrote down her question, "Should I end my relationship with Doug?" She turned on the TV and immediately found herself watching a character named Doug breaking up with a girl on the phone--in an episode of "King of Queens," a show she had never watched before. She felt that answered her question directly!

3. Get Moving

Coincidences multiply when we are in motion--because we are traveling outside the grooves of regular habit and ordinary time, into a deeper reality. Airports, train stations, and the morning commute are good places to be alert to messages. You can also consult the "marketplace" oracle. The oracle of Hermes was popular in ancient Greece. Here's how it worked: You entered a walled marketplace and whispered your question into the ear of the statue of Hermes, the messenger of the gods. Then you pressed your hands over your ears until you got back to the market gate. The first words or sounds you heard after you took your hands away from your ears were the response to your question. Try this in a market or mall. Ask a question in your mind, take ten minutes to roam around, then stop and read the first sign you see. That's your answer.

4. Meet the Library Angel




Open a book at random and see what is staring at you from the page. It may be a theme for the day. Many people do this with the Bible or another sacred book. Or go to a favorite bookstore--used bookstores are especially magical--and see what pops up right away. You may come to notice, even among familiar books at home, that the benign "shelf elf," which Arthur Koestler called the Library Angel, will come and play with you--knocking a book off a shelf or revealing others in unexpected ways--if you are engaged in a quest.

5. Notice That Life Rhymes

Mark Twain said that history may not repeat itself, but it rhymes. This is also true of our personal history. When a name or a theme comes up again and again, it may be telling us that we need to get the message. On my way to a TV show in Seattle to talk about dreams, I had to wait at a busy intersection. Suddenly the driver of an amazing vehicle painted blue, with a giant shark's fin on top, stopped to let me cross. I remarked to my friends, "The shark will be a theme today." On the air, the interviewer told me of a dream in which she was flying low over blue waters, watching the dorsal fins of sharks circling below. I commented that, if it were my dream, in addition to watching out for "sharks" at work, I might wonder if anyone I knew was challenged by cancer. Sharks don't get cancer, I said, and have sometimes proved to be helpers for cancer patients in guided imagery sessions in which they picture a shark eating the cells of their disease. Off the air, the TV anchor revealed that her mother, who was vacationing in the Caribbean, had been diagnosed with cancer. I suggested that her mother visualize the shark as an inner healer.

6. See an Opportunity Beyond Every Setback

My rule of thumb is: When you find a door closing in your face, look for the one that may be opening. Here's another example involving Mark Twain. In Hannibal, Mo., young Sam Clemens read in the paper about a "wonder" plant in Brazil that was supposed to have healing properties. Local businessmen agreed to back Clemens on an expedition to acquire a large supply of the plant. But when he got to New Orleans, he discovered he couldn't get to Brazil from there. Repairing to a local tavern to drown his sorrows, he met a Mississippi riverboat captain who agreed to take him on as an apprentice pilot. From his experiences on the river, Clemens got the material for his best stories, as well as his pen name. And so, every time I miss an airplane connection or a plan falls through, I am open to finding an opportunity that would not otherwise have appeared.

7. Don't Be Afraid to Get Lost

This is the cardinal navigational law of serendipity. You can only get to the magic kingdom by getting lost. You get there when you think you are going somewhere else and "fall off the map." Serendipity is a major factor in scientific discovery and invention, as well as in exploration and entrepreneurship. Alexander Fleming discovered penicillin by accident. He neglected to isolate bacterial cultures from stray spores blowing around his hospital building before going away on vacation. When he returned, he found that a mold had killed the bacteria in his experiment--and his trained mind recognized that he was looking at an extraordinary cure.
The glue used in Post-it notes was another accident; a scientist trying to produce a strong adhesive came up with a very weak one instead--and recognized an unexpected opportunity.

8.Notice Slips of the Tongue

It's amazing what can be revealed through a slip of the tongue. Pay attention to what's going on when you or someone else misspeaks a name or a phrase. This could be a Freudian slip, or a slip of a more interesting kind. I'm pretty good with names, so when I get someone's name wrong, I always pause to ask whether the "wrong" name means something we need to know about. After I called Mark "Charlie" for the third time in one of my seminars on coincidence, I asked, "Okay, who's Charlie?" Charlie had been Mark's best friend, and Mark was still grieving his death. In fact, Mark was wearing Charlie's favorite sweater that day. This guided Mark to construct a simple personal ritual to honor his departed friend and to separate their energies.

9. Identify Your Personal Omens

We don't want to carry around old superstitions. But we can oftenecially in an unlikely place, is always a s find guidance by identifying our personal omens. For me, seeing a friendly black dog, espign that something good is about to happen. I have also received life-guiding messages from red-tailed hawks. Many years ago, wondering whether to leave the city for a rural home, I sat under an old white oak and pondered my decision. I felt that if moving was the right choice, there would be a sign. A red-tailed hawk came circling overhead, dipping lower and lower--and dropped a wing feather between my knees. I accepted the sign, purchased the farm, and found my life entering a new spiritual depth.

10. Be a Synchronicity Magnet

Coincidences tend to cluster around us when we pursue our deepest creative desires. The stronger our emotions, the stronger the effect on our psychic and physical environment, and the more our direction is guided by meaningful coincidence.

The poet William Butler Yeats believed that when our minds are working on a challenging line of inquiry, we attract the interest and guidance of deeper intelligences. Thinking about this one day, I took my dog for a walk in the park--and ran into a cheerful Irish setter called Fergus. His owner explained the name by citing a poem by Yeats. Accepting the coincidence as a sign, I proceeded to make Yeats a major character in the book I was working on.

The world responds to the thoughts and feelings to which we give the energy of our attention. There is no impermeable boundary between mind and matter anywhere in our universe. Through the power of our minds, we can open bridges between the everyday world and a deeper order of reality in which we may find the hidden logic of events--and our own larger stories.