Thursday, October 30, 2008

"Uniqueness In Her"

It is widely known that a group of women who live together in close quarters will, over time, witness the syncing of their menstrual periods with each other. It is also thought that artificial light may play a role in this as well. While some have speculated that their natural scents may be a source of this syncing, the truth of this natural, and beautifully intriguing feminine wonder is only a step into the spiritual nature of women...a step which is as beautiful as the physical, emotional, and mental aspects of their being, and yet unique as to be something only a journey in knowing them can provide...

But what is it about women that quickens the pulse, captures the hearts and minds, slows the breathing, and invokes longings and emotions? I have struggled with trying to answer these questions, and this writing represents my own attempt to do just that. Whether it's the charm of a little girl's loving, innocent smile, or the seductive sparkle deep within a woman's eyes, the tugging they create inside of us is undeniable.

No woman can be placed in a box--each is unique; yet these are things that I believe are common to many. They are thoughts intended to express what I have seen, and continue to see, in the beauty of the feminine.

How often have you heard the word "emotional" used to describe a woman in a positive way? Yet while we all have emotions, women are gifted in the ways they feel, connect with, and express them.

"A woman's intuition" has been used to describe the natural ability to see what men often can cut through false pretenses, motives, and may feel other's hidden emotions and pain. There is no scientific evidence to use as proof, but reading and deciphering even the most subtle body language is perhaps where the power from which this intuition stems. While not every woman may lay claim to this, it is nevertheless common among women, and is perhaps sharpest in those whose feeling, sensing personalities are in tune with their femininity. Mothers are perhaps the best example of all these characteristics; sensitivity, concern, compassion, love, and perception.

Girls naturally show their emotions; whether it's excitement about something good that happened to them, or expressing fears or concerns, they are not inhibited from letting it out. Society does not place any pressure or false expectations on them when they do; no-one questions them for it. If they have been deeply hurt, they are free to cry, and shed their tears. Men long to be physical by nature because they find no comfort whatsoever in other men; women can hug each other and be physical in a friendly sense, and that is comforting to them. With men, bonding consists of activities such as watching a basketball game.

There is perhaps no more common ground to the world of the feminine than that of a new-born baby. New mothers will often be approached by other women--even complete strangers--but instantly a bond is formed with the appreciation and joy a baby brings. It is a pride; a joy that each instinctively knows and finds wonderful to share in.

Communication flows freely, whether it's a group of young girls, or a gathering of older ladies. There is more excitement, quick comprehension and sharing of thoughts and opinions, and often while other tasks are being done. There are various defining factors that seem to clear the air of uncertainty when this is considered, such as larger groups of girls together than men or boys, which seems to indicate an open atmosphere of acceptance and bonding.

While truth never changes, women's views and response to them is unique; and for good reason. Within situations and circumstances, there may be hidden motives and agendas...and what may not seem obvious or apparent is rarely hidden from a woman.

It's a long established fact that girls handle stress better; including repetitive/long-term tasks. Women complain less and continue working hard at tasks that most men would never want to deal with.

Why is it that girls and women seem to naturally know what looks good when it comes to clothing, what colors match and which don't? Is it instinctive, or is it something they learn as a result of having a strong interest from a young age? Whatever the answer, those in marketing understand the ties a woman has with her appearance, and clothing is no exception.

Pride doesn't get in their way...the male ego can be a hindrance when it comes to getting things done; the jokes about not asking for directions when lost, or not reading the instructions didn't materialize out of thin air.

There is an overwhelming unity and blending of curves that contrasts with the ordinary, boxy shape of a man's body. You will rarely find art showing the "beauty" of the male body like it does with the female. The compact nature, curves, and smoothness of the female body simply makes the male body look quite poor in comparison--and rightly so. The truth is that you'll find the vast majority of men and women being physically attracted to women. I say "physically attracted" because most women are attracted to men, but usually in ways other than the physical. Advertisers know this, and women are used to not only attract men, but also women. So the issue of beauty is obvious. This is true regardless of hormonal-based male attraction; their basic physical makeup is intricately honed to be intensely physical and beautiful in nature.

We know that physical beauty is only skin deep, but it is most often the first thing that garners our attention, and stirs our desire. Without it, there would be less reason to further our interest in searching the soul of the one we're attracted to. The physical differences of a woman are a powerful drawing point, but they are only one aspect to consider. Likewise, hormones also play a part in attracting us, but when they fade, there are elements that retain their uncanny lure.

Differences attract, and perhaps the most subtle and unrecognized is the feminine voice. What father can resist melting when he hears his daughter's voice; her innocent and needy cry that is heard when it reaches his ears? Or what man can deny the seductive nature of a woman who is expressing her desire, or the deep pull he feels as she genuinely pours her heart out to him?

Movement is perhaps the hardest to define and describe, but it is the combination of animated physical attributes and how they relate to each other in that movement that so rapidly and powerfully draws, captures and harnesses attention. From the sometimes humorous, yet movement of a woman's breasts as she runs, or the swaying of her hips and luring twists of her buttocks as she walks, women easily command the art of their animation.

While pregnancy is often thought of as a curse, and something to be dreaded, it remains a deep and powerful ability of a woman to bear and give birth to children. We all have mothers, and the maternal connection is as undeniably a part of us as people as the air we breathe. As men, I believe recognize but rarely admit to the fascination of conception, birth, and procreation of both sexes, as though their inability to be mothers themselves has silenced their though their pride was once again defeated. Women go through nine months with heaviness, sickness, dramatic changes in their hormones and emotions, cravings of foods and womanly desires...and yet these things seem shunned or put away despite the wonder that is taking place within her as a mother and recipient of a unique beauty.

The female body is full of enriching contrasts, such as the small waist and wide hips; the fullness of breasts and the sensual openness and modesty of her sensuality, comforting and relaxing, yet seductive and arousing. The old masters of art captured the curves and blends of the female body in another contrast that stands the test of time and mindset; rubenesque and sensual--making a dramatic statement that defies what today's culture attempts to claim as the only beauty. The truth is that a woman's curves are elegantly crafted with an intricate design...there is nothing random about their placement, or combination.

Any view of a woman from front, back, side, top down, toes up, and everything in between, interweaves and adds new wonder and variety to each part of her body. Taking in every detail; the feminine form, from the top down...

And now as I am almost tempted to describe in detail each female body part, I decided otherwise…I want to leave something for your imagination

Cheers to all the women out there..Everyone of us is beautiful in her own way.

Monday, October 27, 2008



Wisdom is the knowledge and ability to make right choice at the right time.The greatest wisdom comes from God.

Meditating in his words will bring you wisdom. Wisdom also come from experience; as you mature, you learn from your experiences.

This includes learning from your past mistakes, weaknesses and problems.

As compost makes the soil richer, so even problems, weaknesses, mistakes detours and losses can enrich your life and help you cultivate wisdom only when you learn from them.

Wisdom isn't about how smart you are, or that you always make the right choices.

It's about God's compassionate ways.

"Be Successful In Your Chosen Field"


Bridging the gap between JOBSEEKERS n EMPLOYERS.

Ten Steps to a Successful Career Change

1. Evaluate your current job satisfaction. Keep a journal of your daily reactions to your job situation and look for recurring themes. Which aspects of your current job do you like/dislike? Are your dissatisfactions related to the content of your work your company culture or the people with whom you work?

2. Assess your interests, values and skills through self help resources like the exercises in What Color is Your Parachute. Review past successful roles, volunteer work, projects and jobs to identify preferred activities and skills. Determine whether your core values and skills are addressed through your current career.

3. Brainstorm ideas for career alternatives by discussing your core values/skills with friends, family, networking contacts a
nd counselors. Visit career libraries and use online resources like those found in the Career Advice section of the Job Search website.

4. Conduct a preliminary comparative evaluation of several fields to identify a few targets for in depth research.

5. Read as much as you can about those fields and reach out to personal contacts in those arenas for informational interviews.

6. Shadow professionals in fields of primary interest to observ
e work first hand. Spend anywhere from a few hours to a few days job shadowing people who have jobs that interest you. Your college Career Office is a good place to find alumni volunteers who are willing to host job shadowers.

7. Identify volunteer and freelance activities related to your target field to test your interest e.g. if you are thinking of publishing as a ca
reer, try editing the PTA newsletter. If you're interested in working with animals, volunteer at your local shelter.

8. Investigate educational opportunities that would bridge your background to your new field. Consider taking an evening course at a local college. Spend some time at one day or weekend seminars. Contact professional groups in your target field for suggestions.

9. Look for ways to develop new skills in your current job which would pave the way for a change e.g. offer to write a grant proposal if grant writing is valued in your new field. If your company offers in-house training, sign up for as many classes as you can.

10. Consider alternative roles within your current industry which would utilize the industry knowledge you already have e.g. If you are a store manger for a large retail chain and have grown tired of the evening and weekend hours consider a move to corporate recruiting within the retail industry. Or if you are a programmer who doesn't want to program, consider technical sales or project management.

"Man's Secrets"

60 things most girls don't know

Guys hate sluts even though they have sex with them! (oh're not "popular" if you've slept with more than 6're a HOE)

--"Hey, are you busy?" or "Are you doing something?" ~ two phrases guys open with to stop from stammering on the phone.

--Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.

--Before they call, guys try to plan out a little about what they're gonna say so there aren't awkward pauses, but once he's on the phone he forgets it all and makes it up as he goes.

--Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.

--Guys will do anything just to get you to notice him.

--Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend or ex love-interest. Unless they're going for the let-her-complain-to-you-and-then-have-her-realize-how-wonderful-and-nice-you-are method.

--A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to.

--Boyfriends need to be reassured often that they're still loved.
--Don't talk about your guy friends to your boyfriend.

--Guys get jealous easily.

--Guys are more emotional than they'd like people to think.

--Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh...never mind.." would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking. And he'll assume he did something wrong and he'll obsess about it trying to figure it out.

--Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.

--Guys hate asking parents for money to buy girls presents. So they come up with ideas like saving their lunch money for a week. But it never works because guys are always hungry so they end up asking the parents for money anyway.

--Girls are guys' weaknesses.

--Guys are very open about themselves.
--It's good to test a guy first before you trust him. But don't let him wait too long.

--Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.

--If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don't need to give advice.
--A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.

--Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships.

--Guys will brag about anything. --Guys use words like hot or cute to describe girls. We rarely use beautiful.If a guy uses that, he likes you a whole hell of a lot. --No matter how much guys talk about asses and boobs, personality is key.

--Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.
--Guys worry about the thin line between being compassionate and being whipped.

--Guys think WAY too much. One small thing a girl does, even if she doesn't notice it can make the guy think about it for hours, trying to figure out what it meant.

--Guys seek for advice from girls not other guys. Because most guys think alike, so if one guy's confused, then we're all confused.

--Any guy could write out a rulebook or advice book for flirting, but no guy can write out a book about relationships.

--Try to be as straightforward as possible. --If the guy does something stupid in front of the girl, he will think about it for the next couple days or until the next time he spends time with the girl. --If a guy looks unusually calm and laid back, he's probably faking it and is spazzing inside. --When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl, he really is. Guys rarely say that.

--When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me."
--Guys don't really have final decisions.

--If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. It doesn't happen that often, so when it does, you know something's up. --If your best guy friend seems to avoid you or is never around when you're with your boyfriend, he's probably jealous and likes you.

--When a guy tells you that you are beautiful, don't say you aren't. It makes them want to stop telling you because they don't want you to disagree with them. --When a guy looks at you for longer than a second, he's definitely thinking something. --Guys like femininity not feebleness.

--Guys don't like girls who punch harder than they do.
--A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes. --Don't be a snob. Guys can be intimidated and give up easily. --Everything in moderation. Put on makeup, wear perfume. Just not too much.

--Guys talk about girls more than girls talk about guys. --Guys hate rejection, but they hate being led on even more. --If you are going to reject a guy, just do it. Don't say they are like a brother or just good friends, it just hurts even more. Tell them that you aren't interested in a relationship and they will respect you.

--Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions and are MAD confusing but somehow are drawn even more to them. --A guy would give his left nut to be able to read a girl's mind for a day.

--No guy can handle all his problems on his own. He's just too stubborn to admit it.
--Not all guys are assholes. Just because ONE is a jackass doesn't mean he represents ALL of us. --We don't like girls who are too skinny.

--We love it when girls talk about there boobs.
--Always make sure you know what kind of stuff your getting into before making out with a guy wheather it's a one time deal or not ....

--Believe it or not shy guys are the most easiest to talk may not seem right but trust me they will start opening up like books after you just ask them questions about their lives and unoticeable tell them about yours...

--When a guy hits your butt it means that he wants you sexually
--Even if they refuse it all guys are ticklish on the ribs.. --Guys love neck rubs and if he lets you keep doing it means that he really likes you or his neck really hurts...

--Guys will test the waters to see how far they can get with you. Even if he doesn't intend to it will happen. Know how far it is you want to let him go and he will respect that...after you let him know a couple times.

--When a guy sacrifices his sleep and health just to be with you, he really likes you and wants to be with you as much as possible.

"My Ideal Man"


I have separated everything into 4 Categories: Obvious Criteria (Absolutely Required), Physical Attributes (Exterior - Looks), Nonphysical Attributes (Interior - Personality), Bonus Points (Optional - Icing on the Cake)

DISCLOSURE: The guy I'm asking for IS NOT PERFECT. If he was, I would have probably mentioned wealth, fame, power and high status. I would have HOPED for a billionaire, celebrity or some type of rocket scientist. Instead, I understand that a great personality is worth more than materialism ever will because it is, no doubt, the inner beauty that will outlast everything in the end. Before I compiled this list, I have actually evaluated my own attributes as well as the attributes of everyone I have once dated to see what I could bring to the table, and as well as what had worked for me before and what had not.

A lot of time, people jump into a relationship either because they feel lonely, or because the other person just happens to be there at the right timing, or it could also because of love. Well, I'm sorry to bust anyone's bubbles but "love" alone isn't enough, if it was, breakups and divorce rate wouldn't have been so outrageously high. In deed, many relationships fail because people refuse to evaluate what had gone wrong in their past relationships and take the lesson into the next romance. Both men and women usually don't learn from their old mistakes and continue to go for the "incompatibles". To simply put it, they just aren't picky enough.

One could easily say my list is too much and or that I'm being too demanding but as my one of my friends has beautifully stated "Aside from the biological criteria such as looks and genetic makeup, the rest are the basic quality of a highly efficient person. Everyone should have it." If someone doesn't possess the intelligence, class, education, integrity, ambition, family values, etc.. that I will be mentioning, they wouldn't be able to thrive or even survive in this fast-paced and competitive world for very long anyway. Even if they did, they would be producing very poor offsprings (and definitely not with my eggs).


- STRAIGHT: Don't get me wrong, I am very liberal and have nothing against homosexuals or bisexuals but I will only date guys who are 100% straight. Let's be honest here, there plenty of gay males out there who have not yet come out either because they don't want to or scared to and are currently dating, or even marrying females to disguise their true sexuality. Then after 5, 10, 15, 20 years or so, they'd abandon their relationship/marriage for a man, claiming they've just turned gay when in fact they have been gay all along. My point really is, there's nothing wrong with being gay. Being gay and deceptive about it to the opposite sex, however, is very selfish. Straight guys only please.

- SINGLE: He has to be single, not married, dating, or talking to anyone else. Love triangles are too complicated.


- GOOD-LOOKING: I'll never be one of those pretty girls who would settle for a much less attractive guy just because he's nice or for the security that he won't cheat. While it's true that physical appearance isn't everything, beauty still plays a crucial role in mate finding, for if we were not attracted to someone, it would probably never work. Although I don't run into gorgeous guys and male models on a daily basis, I am fortunate, in my experience, to have come across some of the most beautiful people on the planet and for that reason, my standard in physical attributes tends to be quite high. In general, I'm usually drawn to someone with a striking pretty or handsome face, dark hair, dark eyes, tall, fit and a little tan. While it's true I prefer darker features, I have also dated and been attracted to guys with light hair and light eyes. I cannot resist a smile that conveys warmth and genuineness or a set of deep, beautiful eyes that will make me feel lost gazing into.

- HAS A NICE BODY: I don't like guys who constantly work out and or are obsessed with their bodies for the same reason guys don't like girls who are always on a diet. I am, however, attracted to a guy who takes good care of himself enough to be fit. Someone with a body that is proportional to mine, 5'10 - 6'2 tall, and not skinny, overweight or obese. I also don't like those big, buff sweaty looking guys who look like they're on steroids. I prefer preppy, pretty boys ;)

- EXOTIC: Hot guys out of my race or the ones with mixed breed really turn me on! It's probably curiosity that attracts me to people that are different from myself. I'd figured the best way to learn about other cultures is through romance.

NONPHYSICAL ATTRIBUTES (They are in fact more important than the physical attributes, which is this list is lengthier)

- POSSESSES A NICE VOICE: A good, clear voice should not be underestimated for we all have been attracted to someone's physical appearance, that is, until they opened their mouth to speak. It is extremely importantly for a guy I date to possess a nice voice because he needs to be able to attract me with his communication, not just through physical interaction.

- PHYSICALLY HEALTHY: For obvious reasons, I want a guy to be physically healthy so that he won't die on me several months after we started dating or a couple years into our relationship. And of course, no STD's! Thanks.

- EMOTIONAL HEALTHY: I'm not going to waste my time dealing with guys that have emotional baggage, ex-girlfriend drama, etc… If a guy constantly mentions his ex, I consider that a big red flag and if he says bad things about her, that would be even worse because I assume he would probably talk about me like that one day.

- PASSIONATE & AMBITIOUS: He has to have a passion for life and has high ambitions. Knows what he wants and is willing to work hard for it.

- HONEST: All types of human interactions and relationships require honesty, be it business, friendship or more. And who likes liars?

- GENUINE: In the world full of counterfeit Louis Vuitton handbags, other replica designer items, and fake silicone breasts, it's only reasonable that I want someone who is genuine. Being genuine is a little different from being honest, whereas honesty is telling the truth and genuineness is about truly being oneself. Just because I'm picky doesn't mean a guy who wants to date me should mold himself into what he thinks I would like.

- FAITHFUL: Whenever I get involved with a guy, I might not necessarily think or hope it would be forever but regardless of how long I've been with him: two days or two years, I do expect 100% loyalty. We live in a fast paced world where people fall in and out of love faster than in a blink of an eye. If a change of heart happens in any case, I think that we should always break up or at least be honest with our current partner before getting involved with someone else. It's just a classy thing to do.

- INTELLIGENT: A good combination of street smarts and book smarts with common sense, wisdom and intellectual skills are a must.

- EDUCATED: Just because someone is smart doesn't mean they're educated and as much of a liberal person as I am, I don't think I can ever get seriously involved with a guy without a college education. It has nothing to do with his career or the type of money he makes but it's rather because I know the importance of earning a good education and how a having college degree can make someone a well-rounded person. I'm not going to think any less of someone who, due to some difficult situation, was not able to attend or complete college, but nothing serious could ever come out of us considering it would be hard for him and I to be able relate to each other on the same level.

- CHARMING: It's tough for me to describe what I mean by the term "charming" but I guess it's the way a guy carries himself, how he normally interacts with other people, the gestures he makes, the way he speaks and walks.

- CLASSY: He has to have a spectacular taste in pretty much everything and is into arts, beauty and good entertainment; possesses a curious brain, constantly wants to learn new things and is appreciative of multiculturalism.

- CONFIDENT BUT EASY GOING: We must all agree that confidence is deadly sexy. I have a positive mentality and therefore refuse to date those with self-esteem issues and or are pessimistic.

- FUNNY: I like a guy who not only has a good sense of humor but is also quick-witted enough to understand and respond to my clever jokes: someone who can make me laugh and doesn't take himself too seriously.

- ROMANTIC: The guy I end up with needs to be into romantic things like: candlelight dinners, instrumental music, foreign films, hand-written love notes, cute pet names, long walks on the beach, sensual body massages, looking at stars and watching the sunset, et cetera, and et cetera….

- MATURE & RESPONSIBLE: When I talk to other girls, the biggest complaint they have is that the guys they were involved with did not know what they want. While I agree that the majority of males do not know what they want in relationships, I think they are also absolutely clueless about what they want in life. It has much to do with maturity and how a lot of males either just can't grow up or refuse to ever grow up. This is why there are so many 30's, 40's, 50's year old men out there who never had a serious relationship or a real career; they simply cannot commit to anything. A guy I date must to be mature, responsible and needs to know exactly what he wants because I'm definitely not going to waste my time babysitting or waiting for him to get his act together.

- FAMILY ORIENTED: I'd like a guy who comes from a good family, that is, preferably a non-broken family, or at least a separated but normal functional family with a cool dad and a nice mom. I know that a lot of people don't put this in their mate-finding criteria because they think they won't be dating that person's whole family. I think it is an awful mistake to overlook someone's family background because their upbringing has a lot to do with the way they have turned out. Obviously a guy who has a loving, classy mother will more likely to grow up respecting women and have more successful relationships with other people than a guy who has an alcoholic mom or a commitment-phobic cheating dad. Furthermore, I'm looking for someone who is close to his family. And by saying that, I don't mean a guy who's 30 and still lives at home but rather a guy who has a tremendous amount of love and respect for his parents so that he can too, have respect and courtesy for my parents, if I were to introduce him to them one day.

- HAS GOOD MORALS: Most other girls probably wouldn't care if a guy treats other people badly as long as he's a good boyfriend. To me, however, if a guy has no common courtesy, stabs his friends' backs, curses at his own mom, kicks animals, he is an a$$hole, despite of how well he may treat me. What good would a person be if they were to not have consideration for others or possess a sense of what's right and wrong? Why would I want such a sociopath in my fabulous life?

- DOESN'T DRINK, SMOKE, OR USE DRUGS: I think a lot of problems in the US, such as violence, car accidents, poverty, poor health, and etc… have to do with the misuse, or abuse of tobacco, alcohol and drugs. For that reason, I've made the wise decision not to drink, smoke or use any type of substance. Although I may be okay with dating a social drinker, I refuse to go out with anyone who smokes, gets high and is constantly drunk like a frat boy.

- SWEET & CARING & THOUGHTFUL: He needs to be sensible to my feelings and has no problem showing his affection. He must know me well enough to know all of my likes and dislikes. He won't ever forget my birthday and will occasionally come up with cute surprises. (I am a sucker for hand-written letters and little thoughtful gifts)

- DEPENDABLE & SUPPORTIVE: I'm not the type of girl who would constantly ask a guy to do this and that for her, however, I'd like to have someone I could completely trust and rely on: a guy with a strong shoulder for me to cry on and who will be 100% supportive of my goals.

- HAS SOME KIND OF TALENT OR INTERESTING HOBBY: I personally think that everyone is talented, or at least secretly talented, in some way. A guy doesn't necessarily have to be an amazing singer, a great actor or a wonderful athlete in order to win my heart. I could easily be drawn to a simple talent such as dancing, writing, or drawing. I'm always into learning new things so even if a guy has a hobby like snowboarding, swimming, or whatever, I'll be intrigued. I'm not asking for much, just that he won't be a bland boring person. And being addicted to Myspace or video games do not count as a hobby!

- SELF-SECURE: Even though I'll admit that a little jealousy is cute because it shows that a guy cares about me, over-possessiveness and insecurity are both major turn offs! I think I've mentioned it before that I'm a Sagittarius, and because of that I'm extremely independent and value my freedom very much. I cannot stand a guy who will call, email, text, every half-an-hour to check up on me. If he doesn't trust me, he shouldn't be with me. Further more, I would feel extremely miserable with a clingy, needy guy who solely relies on me for his happiness.

- CHALLENGE: I'm not one of those people who want what they can't have, neither am I the type of girl who's into bad boys that would treat women like crap. There's nothing I would adore more than a sweet, caring and thoughtful guy but because I can usually get whomever I want, I can't help but being turned on by a bit of challenge and unpredictability. After all, isn't the chase what makes it fun? I love to seduce and being seduced in return!


- LIKES TO READ: Because I love books so much, it would help if my guy also enjoys them. Most hot guys out there don't like to read because they think it's boring. I understand that not everyone is as much of a book nerd as I am, therefore, it's only optional that they like to read.

- CAN COOK: The saying "you'd get to a man's heart through his stomach" also applies to women. As much as I enjoy eating out and dining at nice restaurants, I would prefer a home cooked meal any day. If a guy were to cook for me, even if the food is barely edible, I'd still be very touched knowing the amount of effort he must have put into it. I'd know he cares.

- ATTEND A PRESTIGIOUS/IVY LEAGUE SCHOOL: Better schools = Better education = Better person. I'm giving extra credit to guys who are attending or have graduated from: Harvard, Yale, Princeton, Columbia, Stanford, Berkeley, Dartmouth, etc... (UCLA and USC okay)


When it comes down to it, what I'm really looking for is a guy that can give me butterflies in my stomach every time I talk to him and whenever I'm around him. THE MOST IMPORTANT QUALITY, (one I would never make an exception for) however, would be the possession of a kind heart because someone who is a good person will naturally possess other great qualities such as integrity, compassion, honesty, loyalty, thoughtfulness, and strong morals/family values to them as well. (Nice Princess + Kind Prince = Fairy Tale Comes True). Yes, finding the right guy is a much more difficult task than finding the right shade of red lipstick therefore I am neither looking or waiting. The one I'm destined to be with will manage to slaughtter all the evil dragons and mean monsters then make his way to my Hello Kitty bed one day.

Sunday, October 26, 2008

"Facts About Bananas"

" BaNaNaS "

We learn something new everyday......pretty interesting.
After reading this, you'll never look at a banana in the same way again.

Bananas contain three natural sugars - sucrose, fructose and glucose combined with fiber. A banana gives an instant, sustained and
substantial boost of energy.Research has proven that just two bananas provide enough energy for a strenuous 90-minute workout. No wonder the banana is the number one fruit with the world's leading athletes.

But energy isn't the only way a banana can help us keep fit. It can also help overcome or prevent a substantial number of illnesses and conditions, making it a must to add to our daily diet.

Depression: According to a recent survey undertaken by MIND amongst people suffering from depression, many felt much better after eating a banana. This is because bananas contain tryptophan, a type of protein that the body converts into serotonin, known to make you relax, improve your mood and generally make you feel happier.

PMS: Forget the pills - eat a banana. The vitamin B6 it contains regulates blood glucose levels, which can affect your mood.

Anemia: High in iron, bananas can stimulate the production of hemoglobin in the blood and so helps in cases of anemia.

Blood Pressure: This unique tropical fruit is extremely high in potassium yet low in salt, making it perfect to beat blood pressure. So much so, the US Food and Drug Administration has just allowed the banana industry to make official claims for the fruit's ability to reduce the risk of blood pressure and stroke.

Brain Power: 200 students at a Twickenham (Middlesex) school were helped through their exams this year by eating bananas at breakfast, break, and lunch in a bid to boost their brain power. Research has shown that the potassium-packed fruit can assist learning by making pupils more alert.

Constipation: High in fiber, including bananas in the diet can help restore normal b owel action, helping to overcome the problem without resorting to laxatives.

Hangovers: One of the quickest ways of curing a hangover is to make a banana milk shake, sweetened with honey. The banana calms the stomach and, with the help of the honey, builds up depleted blood sugar levels, while the milk soothes and re-hydrates your system.

Heartburn: Bananas have a natural antacid effect in the body, so if you suffer from heartburn, try eating a banana for soothing relief.

Morning Sickness: Snacking on bananas between meals helps to keep blood sugar levels up and avoid morning sickness.

Mosquito bites: Before reaching for the insect bite cream, try rubbing the affected area with the inside of a banana skin. Many people find it amazingly successful at reducing swelling and irritation.

Nerves: Bananas are high in B vitamins that help calm the nervous system.

Overweight and at work? Studies at the Institute of Psychology in Austria found pressure at wor k leads to gorging on comfort food like chocolate and crisps. Looking at 5,000 hospital patients, researchers found the most obese were more likely to be in high-pressure jobs. The report concluded that, to avoid panic-induced food cravings, we need to control our blood sugar levels by snacking on high carbohydrate foods every two hours to keep levels steady

Ulcers: The banana is used as the dietary food against intestinal disorders because of its soft texture and smoothness. It is the only raw fruit that can be eaten without distress in over-chronicler cases. It also neutralizes over-acidity and reduces irritation by coating the lining of the stomach.

Temperature control: Many other cultures see bananas as a "cooling" fruit that can lower both the physical and emotional temperature of expectant mothers. In Thailand , for example, pregnant women eat bananas to ensure their baby is born with a cool temperature.

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD): Bananas can help SAD sufferers because they contain the natural mood enhancer tryptophan. Smoking &Tobacco Use: Bananas can also help people trying to give up smoking.

The B6, B12 they contain, as well as the potassium and magnesium found in them, help the body recover from the effects of nicotine withdrawal.

Stress: Potassium is a vital mineral, which helps normalize the heartbeat, sends oxygen to the brain and regulates your body's water balance. When we are stressed, our metabolic rate rises, thereby reducing our potassium levels. These can be rebalanced with the help of a high-potassium banana snack.

Strokes: According to research in The New England Journal of Medicine, eating bananas as part of a regular diet can cut the risk of death by strokes by as much as 40%!

Warts: Those keen on natural alternatives swear that if you want to kill off a wart, take a piece of banana skin and place it on the wart, with the yellow side out. Carefully hold the skin in place with a plaster or surgical tape!

So, a banana really is a natural remedy for many ills. When you compare it to an apple, it has four times the protein, twice the carbohydrate, three times the phosphorus, five times the vitamin A and iron, and twice the other vitamins and minerals. It is also rich in potassium and is one of the best value foods around So maybe its time to change that well-known phrase so that we say, "A banana a day keeps the doctor away!"

PS: Bananas must be the reason monkeys are so happy all the time! I will add one here; want a quick shine on our shoes? Take the INSIDE of the banana skin, and rub directly on the shoe...polish with dry cloth. Amazing fruit!

"Facts About Coke & Other Sodas"


This is really an eye opener... Water or Coke?

We all know that water is Important but I've never seen it written down like this before.


1. 75% of Americans are chronically dehydrated.

2. In 37% of Americans, the thirst mechanism is so weak that it is often
Mistaken for hunger.

3. Even MILD dehydration will slow down one's metabolism as much as 3%.

4. One glass of water will shut down midnight hunger pangs for almost 100%
Of the dieters studied in a University of Washington study.

5. Lack of water, the #1 trigger of daytime fatigue.

6. Preliminary research indicates that 8-10 glasses of water a day could
Significantly ease back and joint pain for up to 80% of sufferers.

7. A mere 2% drop in body water can trigger fuzzy short-term memory,
Trouble with basic math, and difficulty focusing on the computer screen or
On a printed page.

8. Drinking 5 glasses of water daily decreases the risk of colon cancer by
45%, plus it can slash the risk of breast cancer by 79%, and one is 50%
Less likely to develop bladder cancer

**And now for the properties of COKE:**

1. In many states (in the USA) the highway patrol carries two gallons of
Coke in the truck to remove blood from the highway after a car accident.

2. You can put a T-bone steak in a bowl of coke and it will be gone in two

3. To clean a toilet: Pour a can of Coca-Cola in! To the toilet bowl and
Let the "real thing" sit for one hour, then flush clean. The citric acid in
Coke removes stains from vitreous China.

4. To remove rust spots from chrome car bumpers: Rub the bumper with a
Rumpled-up piece of Reynolds Wrap aluminum foil dipped in Coca-Cola.

5. To clean corrosion from car battery terminals: Pour a can of Coca-Cola
Over the terminals to bubble away the corrosion.

6. To loosen a rusted bolt: Applying a cloth soaked in Coca-Cola to the
Rusted bolt for several minutes.

7. To bake a moist ham: Empty a can of Coca-Cola into the baking pan, wrap
The ham in aluminum foil, and bake. Thirty minutes before the ham is
Finished, remove the foil, allowing the drippings to mix with the Coke for
A sumptuous brown gravy.

8. To remove grease from clothes: Empty a can of coke into a load of greasy
Clothes, add detergent, and run through a regular cycle. The Coca-Cola will
Help loosen grease stains.

9. It will also clean road haze from your windshield.
Did You Know ...

1. The active ingredient in Coke is phosphoric acid. Its pH is 2.8 It will
Dissolve a nail in about 4 days. Phosphoric acid also leaches calcium from
Bones and is a major contributor to the rising increase in osteoporosis.

2. To carry Coca-Cola syrup (the concentrate) the commercial truck must use
The Hazardous material place cards reserved for Highly corrosive materials.

3. The distributors of coke have been using it to clean the engines of
Their trucks for about 20 years!

"Strength vs Courage"

Inner thoughts on 'Strength vs Courage'. I thought it's deep so I'd like to share it with ya'll and it goes a little something like this....

It takes strength to be firm. It takes courage to be gentle.

It takes strength to stand guard. It takes courage to let down your guard.

It takes strength to conquer. It takes courage to surrender.

It takes strength to be certain. It takes courage to have doubt.

It takes strength to fit in. It takes courage to stand out.

It takes strength to feel a friend's pain. It takes courage to feel your own pain.

It takes strength to hide your own pain. It takes courage to show them.

It takes strength to endure abuse. It takes courage to stop it.

It takes strength to stand alone. It takes courage to lean on another.

It takes strength to love. It takes courage to be loved.

It takes strength to survive. It takes courage to live.

"Think Right , Live Well"

"7 Deadly Sins We Need To Avoid"


Pride is excessive belief in one's own abilities, that interferes with the individual's recognition of the grace of God. It has been called the sin from which all others arise. Pride is also known as Vanity.

Envy is the desire for others' traits, status, abilities, or situation.

Gluttony is an inordinate desire to consume more than that which one requires.

Lust is an inordinate craving for the pleasures of the body.

Anger is manifested in the individual who spurns love and opts instead for fury. It is also known as Wrath.

Greed is the desire for material wealth or gain, ignoring the realm of the spiritual. It is also called Avarice or Covetousness.

Sloth is the avoidance of physical or spiritual work.

The table below lists The Seven Deadly Sins (vices) in the traditional order with the virtues against which they are sins.

The history of this list goes back at least to Pope St. Gregory the Great and St. John Cassian, but while the list itself is not strictly biblical, the Bible proscribes all seven. If one or more of these doesn't seem like a big sin to you, it almost certainly means you have already rationalized it. Work on that one first. By the way, there is no set list of Virtues corresponding to these.

Virtue against which it sins
Brief description
Pride (1)HumilitySeeing ourselves as we are and not comparing ourselves to others is humility. Pride and vanity are competitive. If someone else's pride really bothers you, you have a lot of pride.
Avarice/Greed (5)GenerosityThis is about more than money. Generosity means letting others get the credit or praise. It is giving without having expectations of the other person. Greed wants to get its "fair share" or a bit more.
Envy (2)Love"Love is patient, love is kind…" Love actively seeks the good of others for their sake. Envy resents the good others receive or even might receive. Envy is almost indistinguishable from pride at times.
Wrath/Anger (3)KindnessKindness means taking the tender approach, with patience and compassion. Anger is often our first reaction to the problems of others. Impatience with the faults of others is related to this.
Lust (7)Self controlSelf control and self mastery prevent pleasure from killing the soul by suffocation. Legitimate pleasures are controlled in the same way an athlete's muscles are: for maximum efficiency without damage. Lust is the self-destructive drive for pleasure out of proportion to its worth. Sex, power, or image can be used well, but they tend to go out of control.
Gluttony (6)Faith and TemperanceTemperance accepts the natural limits of pleasures and preserves this natural balance. This does not pertain only to food, but to entertainment and other legitimate goods, and even the company of others.
Sloth (4)ZealZeal is the energetic response of the heart to God's commands. The other sins work together to deaden the spiritual senses so we first become slow to respond to God and then drift completely into the sleep of complacency.


The Seven Deadly Sins never occur as a formal list in the Bible. Some people say they can all be found in Matthew's Gospel (chapters 5 through 7), but they are not in a simple list there. Others submit Proverbs 6:16-19, but this is a different list, covering pride, lies, murder, evil plans, swiftness in sin, lies again, causing conflict. Clearly not the same.

These sins were identified as a group around the same time as the Bible was being translated into a single language. Rather than these sins being identified in a single place in the Bible, they are found all through it, from Genesis to Revelation. The letters of the New Testament mention all of these, and many others as well. The Catechism has many Scriptural references in the section that lists the "Seven Deadly Sins." It is well to remember that the Scriptures come from the Jewish and Christian Churches, not the other way around. In both cases, faith preceded the writing.

How To Know If He's The One For You

The Right One

Marriage and commitment is about love, but it's also about compatibility. Two people can be deeply in love with one another, but their marriage will still fail miserably. The sad truth is that sometimes love is not enough. There comes a time when you ask yourself the ultimate question: Is he the one?

Why it's important to ask yourself this question?

The dismal statistics state that over 33% of marriages end up in divorce and there is a 50% infidelity rate among couples. Why is this happening? All these couples used to be in love, otherwise they wouldn't have gotten married. That's why you have to ask yourself this question. If you don't want to get married only to wake up years later and realize that you married the wrong man, you have to know that he's the right one for you. Otherwise, you may have a few years of love and happiness, but you're likely to see those years end in a bitter and expensive divorce.

Why are so many couples drifting apart?

The main thing that couples fail to do is ask each other the right questions before rushing into a commitment. I'm not talking about superficial questions such as how many brothers and sisters your man has or where was he born, but deep and penetrating questions. Most women wait until they are married to find out what their man thinks about the important issue in life such as:

* Religion
* The way to bring up children
* Whether or not he even wants children
* Does he believe in marriage
* How he handles money
* What are his long term goals

And many more important issues. It is the difference of opinion in these issues which causes couples to break up.

You wondering how to know if he is the one for you? Ask the right questions on the important issues and you'll find out.

Why Some Men Fear To Commit

Understanding a Man's Fear of Commitment

Every relationship has a romantic beginning-two people meet, start dating, and fall in love. They become each other's appendage, doing nearly everything jointly. As they grow closer together, so the relationship deepens, and reaches a plateau. This is the time when most couples evaluate how committed they are and make decisions as to which direction the relationship should go. For some, this critical point results in an even stronger relationship; for others, however, it signals the end. Commitment issues have blighted even the most stable of relationships, and while women have been known to suffer cold feet, men are more notorious for buckling under the commitment pressure.

Most men, though professing love for their partners, refuse to take relationships to the next level, even if it means hurting-and losing-their loved ones in the process. These men are known as commitment phobes-men who can't or won't commit. What are the reasons for this paralyzing fear of commitment? Why does a commitment phobe behave the way he does? To find the answers, we need to look at his past and how it has shaped his view of relationships. A child who grew up in an insecure family environment is likely to grow up wary of commitment. He might have witnessed the unhealthy state of his parents' marriage, which planted the seeds of doubt on the veracity of any relationship in his young mind.

Parental divorce would have rooted the doubts firmly, and the fear of ending up like his parents would have slowly taken place. An abused child is also prone to commitment phobia as an adult. Child abuse is usually perpetrated by those with whom the child has implicit trust such as a mother or a babysitter. If that trust has been breached in childhood, a child may grow up vowing never to have faith in a woman again. A man who has been in destructive relationships can develop commitment phobia even without the underpinning history. Someone who has just gotten out of a bad relationship or is undergoing a divorce is understandably cautious of jumping into any kind of romantic obligation.

This kind of commitment phobia, however, has more chances of resolving itself than the one deeply-entrenched in childhood. Another plausible reason for fear of commitment is one's perception of it. The term carries several unsavory connotations such as loss of freedom, loss of "manly space", and forfeit of sexual diversity. The thoughts of not being able to go out when and where he wants to, losing the space where he stores his junk, and having sex with the same woman for the rest of his life are enough to make some men quake in commitment-fear. A more practical reason involves financial stability.

It is a known fact that divorce rates worldwide are on the increase and men, especially those who have much to lose financially, are justifiably worried that the women they are romancing today could end up romancing away their hard-earned assets. Evidently, commitment phobia is a complex emotional disorder. It's not that men won't commit, it's that some of them just can't. The interplay of childhood trauma, relationship experiences, and preconceived ideas all influence a man's view of "settling down". Understanding what compels his fear of commitment is the first step towards ensuring that the relationship plateau becomes the starting point of another journey in the relationship, and not the end.

Does He Think You Could Be His Wife?

Understanding Men

Back up. You're with your boyfriend but that doesn't mean he's thinking about a long-term commitment with you.

A man can have the most amazing experiences with a woman and still not commit to her in a way she wants. Men take their time when it comes to giving up their freedom.

I don't want to insult your intelligence, you have most likely gone through relationships with men and wonder about how strange they could be when it comes to relationships.

Like when they say they'll call..and don't.

Like when they sleep with you and don't call.

Like when they hang out with you, treat you like their girlfriend but still don't commit to you.

Like when they expect you to move in with them, act like a wife and not give you a ring.

Strange creatures.

And sometimes you gotta just leave them alone to figure out who they are and what they want.

If you've been seeing your man for a while and he hasn't brought up the idea of commitment, take a hike from him and disappear.

The less you are around, the more he'll think about you - that is if you meant anything to him at all.

Men who want commitment are consistent in their approach. They will want to be around you, make the time, do what they say they'll do and go the extra mile.

That kind of man is worthy of your attention, anything else and you've got an emotionally unavailable boy who just wants to have his cake and eat it too.

Why Your Boyfriend Won't Marry You

Will He Marry You?

Your boyfriend wont marry you if you're not the kind of woman who burns such a deep image on his brain of being so unforgettable that he can't live without you.

Yes, that is how he wants to feel.

He wants to feel an intense desire for you, not just for sex. Sex alone will not make him commit and if you're trying to bring him to commitment through the physical, you've got it all wrong.

He'll only commit when his soul is on fire. This is when he feels beyond a shadow of doubt that you've so captivated him and has become more than his idea of a dream woman.

He'll only marry you if he has grown enough love in his heart for you that he decides that he could never go back. This feeling will make him give up his single status because he'll want to feel this way all of the time with you.

He wont marry you if he doesn't feel a deep soulful connection to you, one that he's never felt before and can't forget. If you can't stir him up so that he's hot on fire in his entire body and soul, he wont commit for the long haul.

So you have to look at whether you are leading your boyfriend into a commitment or away from it. If you are not the kind of woman who already possess the image of his dream girl in your heart that you can translate to his heart, you won't get a commitment and no amount of begging, pleading, sex, or mama treatment will change his mind.

Saturday, October 25, 2008

Loving Someone So Much


I got this fantastic story form friend's forwarding mail.
I am pleased to share to read it.

A girl and guy were speeding over 100 mph on the road on a motorcycle...

Girl: Slow down. I'm scared.
Guy: No this is fun.
Girl: No its not. Please, its too scary!
Guy: Then tell me you love me.
Girl: Fine, I love you. Slow down!
Guy: Now give me a BIG hug.
Girl hugs him
Guy: Can you take my helmet off & put it on yourself? Its bugging me.

In the paper the next day :( A motorcycle had crashed into a building
because of brake failure. Two people were on it, but only one had

The truth was that halfway down the road, the guy realized that his
brakes broke, but he didn't want to let the girl know. Instead, he
had her say she loved him & felt her hug him one last time, then had
her wear his helmet so that she would live even though it meant that
he would die.


I do love someone before , this much that i could die for him but sad to say all was a lie...just need to walk away from this dream that is meant to be just a so called DREAM........

"Think Creatively"

Creative Thinking

Creative thinking refers to the ability of solving problems using new ways and finding different methods of accomplishing your daily tasks . Creative thinking can also lead to new insights and to new visions
which will result in achieving your goals and gaining success.

I Am Not Creative

Lots of people may think that being creative is related to genes or that creative people are gifted, but the truth is, we are all creative. Have you ever noticed a child playing? a child can almost invent a new game out of any object he finds. I am sure that as a child you used to do the same, so if you think that you are not creative , then something must have happened to you along the way. This is what we call routine.

Routine and creativity

As children, we were all creative, but the infinite instructions we recieved from o

ur parents and the restrictions that were imposed on us in our schools helped in diminishing our creativity.

“Hey, you should not touch this, its hazardous”
“Where is your tie? You cant go to school without it”
“Don’t play there or your hands will become dirty”
“You will work from 9 to 5, everyday, and if you are late for five minutes then better not come”

Moreover, systematic jobs that require you to do the same exact tasks everyday, eat out creativity. Strict time tables, like having a day scheduled on hourly basis, will do the same to your creativity. Working in closed areas, or having a desk job will reduce your creativity too. These restrictions over time will transform you into a single minded person ,So no wonder why are not as creative as you used to be.

How to Become Creative

You are probably now saying to yourself that its impossible to avoid all of these restrictions. In order to restore your lost creativity you don’t have to avoid routine but you have to have some free time every now and then. For example, you should have one day per week free of any kind of restrictions , don’t put any plans for that day and just let it flow smoothly.

The other thing is, spending time in open spaces can help you become more creative. Why not spend one day per week at the sea side? Pay visits to natural sights every now and then? This will definitely help you in restoring your creativity .

While working you should take a break and unplug your mind completely for a few minutes . Some people spend allot of free time alone, but they never stop thinking about work!! Some people even take work with them to bed, they just can’t stop thinking about what they are going to do tomorrow, a

nd the result is the deterioration of their creative abilities.

Left brain and right Brain

Your brain is divided into two main hemispheres, the left hemisphere and the right hemisphere. The former is responsible for logic and reasoning, the latter is responsible for intuition and creativity. One of the best things you can do to enhance your creativity is to train both hemispheres to work together. Some people focus on accomplishing tasks that train only their left brains , so they end up with no creative abilities. For information on how to use both hemispheres together check out this article.

Creative Thinking

If you want to think of a creative solution for a problem then you out into consideration the following points:

1-There is no exact solution to a problem, but there is definitely more than one solution to it .
2-False beliefs can limit creativity, for example if you are convinced that you will never find a solution to your problem,then you will never find one.
3-Never put restrictions on your thoughts, even if a solution seems silly or unacceptable just imagine that you have implemented it, this could lead you to a third solution that is both acceptable and feasible
4-Break out of the routine, at least while thinking for the solution
5-Brainstorming can be very helpful; two unacceptable ideas from your friends can lead you to a third acceptable idea.
6- every now and then do something that you have never done before
7- try to have some free time every now and then
8- sit with creative people,try and see how creative you in comparison to those people.