Thursday, December 3, 2009

Secretly In Love With You

Secretly In Love

You took my hand and led the way never telling me all you wanted to say whisper softly love , in my ear all those sweet nothings I wanted to hear kiss my lips and touch my skin boiling passions deep within

Pull me close and hold me near sheltering me from my own pain and fear through the darkness in the night baby ,be my beacon ,and shine your light in the brightness in the sun show me

I'm your only one
give me wings so I can fly I can soar when your nearby enter my heart and break down this wall it's time for me to watch it fall

I've been a prisoner can't you see
now break my chains and set me free strip me of my armor tight you'll find I wont put up a fight release my soul held deep within I'm ready now, to love again

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Earn Money as a Professional Wedding Coordinator

Starting a wedding coordination business offers an opportunity to earn an excellent income, as well as the pride and self-satisfaction of business ownership, while doing something you already enjoy. It is a great business for those who love weddings and who are highly organized. It is also a natural progression for those already in the wedding industry - people who are currently operating bridal boutiques, wedding stores, floral services, catering companies, and reception venues.

Demand for a Wedding Coordinator

Weddings are big business. The Association of Bridal Consultants estimates that consumers spend a whopping $33 billion on their weddings every year. In 1999, the average wedding cost approximately $20,000, and many more couples spend on top of that amount.

Today's bride is spending more money than ever before to ensure that her wedding day - the single most important day of her life - is planned to perfection. Once reserved only for the very rich, today's brides- and grooms-to-be, often busy with dual careers yet wanting to make their wedding uniquely personal, are turning to consultants for help. Wedding coordinators are being used more to help couples save time, money and considerable stress preparing for the wedding.

More people are finding that a good wedding consultant could be a source of information, ideas, and contacts for the bride-to-be. Hiring a wedding consultant could help ensure that the wedding day ends far more spectacular than the bride has ever envisioned. They provide guidance on etiquette, invitations, planning and directing the rehearsal and ceremony, even arranging transportation and accommodations. Wedding consultants may also assist in locating a site for the ceremony, shopping for the wedding gown, arranging for childcare and shopping for wedding accessories. As such, professional wedding consultants are compensated well for their knowledge, talent, time, and expertise.

The services of wedding coordinators are also frequently used in the planning of other social events such as anniversaries, engagement parties, graduation celebrations and other similar functions. This creates the potential to tap into these other markets as well, thereby expanding the overall prospects of your wedding coordination business.

Role of the Wedding Coordinator

Wedding coordinators play an important role as professionals within the industry. A consultant's primary function is to help a couple learn, implement and manage all the necessary tasks required to host a successful wedding event.

As a wedding coordinator, you assume the role of a planner, facilitator, mediator, money manager, artisan and organizer of all parties concerned. Your role is to be "on top" of everything - every finite detail of the wedding. Wedding planners can do just about everything - from arranging a budget and timetable to remembering to bring white bobby pins for your veil. Duties can include setting up appointments, offering etiquette advice, mailing invitations and recording responses, coordinating the decorations, negotiating contracts, and attending to many other details. However, many planners also set their limits as to what they can and cannot do. One wedding planner I know draws the line at writing the thank-you notes.

Weddings, being extremely emotional events, can oftentimes try the patience of a saint. The wedding coordinator must be able to "handle" any situation that will arise. You will be dealing with not with the bride and groom-to-be, but everyone else in their families and circle of friends. Even the most well-planned, beautifully orchestrated event has some sort of emotional twist or turn that a consultant must be able to skillfully negotiate.

Knowledge and Skills You Need to Have

The wedding coordinator is hired for the simple reason that they know the ins and outs of weddings -- the etiquette, the right people to work with, and the ways to manage within any budget. A professional wedding consultant is an experienced, organized, detail-oriented, imaginative, people-person, possessing mature judgment, patience and the expertise to orchestrate this special day.

A successful wedding planner needs to be an expert in hospitality, event planning, decorating and wedding trends and traditions. You need to be knowledgeable of the latest trends in wedding products and services, food, music, ceremony and reception d├ęcor.

You need to have a good fashion sense. You will be expected to advise the bride on the proper attire for the wedding party, appropriateness of gown styles in accordance with wedding formality, principals to use in assisting the bride in choosing veils and headpieces, guiding the bride through the process of apparel ordering & alterations.

The wedding business is a people business: hence, you must be a master in diplomacy possessing excellent communication skills. You must understand the bride's psychology, including her anxiety and stress, to work well with your client. You must also be an effective arbitrators to help the bride and groom (including their mothers) reach decisions harmoniously on the guest list, music, desired ambience, and other minute details.

You must have good networks, possessing good contacts with high-quality, reliable wedding services. These include photographers, videographers, florists, caterers, hotels, make-up artists, jewelers, churches and rental halls, musicians and disk jockeys, and even travel agents. Most of all, you need to have the skill to coordinate all of them.

Wedding planners are expected to turn a $10,000 wedding into looking like thousands more were spent. Thus, you need to be a creative negotiator who is quick to develop solutions and negotiate prices with suppliers.

Since most wedding coordinators are solo entrepreneurs, you also need to know bookkeeping, marketing, understanding and analyzing your market. You must develop a winning business concept and formula for your consulting service. You need to have basic and financial management skills and organizational ability to run a business and even oversee a wedding budget.

I know of a wedding coordinator who worked hard learning all the things she needs - spending time with a florist, assisting a caterer - before embarking on her own business. As you learn easy and inexpensive ways specific to the field of wedding coordination, you also need to know how to attract customers and build a fabulous reputation and clientele for your service within your local market.

Pricing Your Wedding Coordination Service

The pricing of a wedding coordinator will depend on the location, nature of tasks involved and your level of expertise. Some wedding coordinators charge based on a percentage of the wedding's cost, while others charge a flat fee. Flat fees may range from 10 to 15 percent of the wedding budget. Since the average wedding using a coordinator costs about $15,000, your earnings may run from $1,500 to about $2,000.

Some others charge an hourly rate ranging from $50 to $150 per hour. According to many wedding coordinators, the average wedding takes about thirty-to-forty hours of coordinating, which ends up costing between $1,500 and $3,000.

Potential Earnings

It normally takes three years to establish a wedding consulting business

, and five years to become profitable.

If you work on thirty weddings in a year at an average rate of $1,500 per wedding, you can expect to earn $45,000 in a year. If you work alone on a full-time basis, you can service about 40 weddings a year, providing nine man-days per wedding. To increase revenues, other wedding coordinators provide extra services such as printing invitations, selling accessories or renting tuxedos.

The wedding business is seasonal. The months of September, October, June and August are traditionally the busiest months. Winter months are slow; except if you are in a tropical country where December is also a busy wedding month.

Tips for Success

The wedding consulting business is extremely stressful, demanding, competitive and with small profit margins. You will be working on a number of elements over which you have no control.

If you think the wedding consulting business is the right business for you, here are some steps you need to take to start a wedding consulting business:

1. Consider apprenticeship. A good wedding coordinator must be able to anticipate events and plan every little detail about the wedding. However, it takes time to gather the level of knowledge you will need to plan and execute creative and well-managed weddings. Consider learning the profession by working for someone else at first. One of the best things you can do is to find a seasoned consultant and offer to work for them, even for free. Another way is to work closely with people involved in the business - the caterer, bridal designer, and other professionals in the field. It will help you gain a clearer view of the business, and gain some experience before you take the reins of your own business. You can always go solo once you have developed your skills.

2. Build your portfolio of satisfied clients. The wedding consulting business is built on reputation. Potential clients will want to look at your credentials and record of accomplishment in managing and organizing weddings. To help you build a portfolio of your work, organize weddings for families and friends. Be sure to get pictures from the photographer and a recommendation from the bride.

3. Constantly update your knowledge of wedding trends and etiquette. Read magazines to keep you abreast of the ins and outs of wedding protocol. You also need to learn about wedding and reception decorations, starting with flowers. Catch up on the latest trends on wedding attires. Take time to attend other weddings in order to learn some other great ideas that you can use in your business, as well as the big mistakes and fiascoes that you need to avoid. Attending bridal shows is also useful. Be sure to collect your ideas in a notebook.

4. Establish a network of suppliers that you can rely. Research the vendors that provide food, beverages, entertainment, clothing, and supplies for weddings within your region. It is important to know who is available and what they charge, and to be acquainted with their reputations. Establish relationships with your potential suppliers and negotiate for the best possible price.

5. Strive to improve your people skills. A wedding coordination business is people intensive: your success will greatly depend on how well you work well with your clients. The bride and groom, as well as their families, can be nervous about getting everything ready for the big day. You need to have the ability to maintain a cool head and possess social graces.

Saturday, November 21, 2009

The Truth Behind The Smile

Behind my smile

People in my life lately always want to know why i'm so happy or curious as to why I look for the best in everything ....Well I have had my fair share of mistakes like everyone else and I am far from perfect but I am learning and growing each day. I realized the importance to me in life is to truly follow my heart and surround my self with great people.I like to have that karisma around me that way people can always remember that glow. I also came to the realization I want to be a true leader not a follower and impact people/ the world in a beautiful way. I value my health, faith , motherhood and helping others as far as donating my time to charities or where ever I can make a small difference; a helping hand never hurt anyone. The small things in life are too often over looked when really they are some times the most important . Cherish your health don't take life for granted . Live, Love, Learn, forgive you will find your heart and eventually You will find clarity/truth because you are the only one that has to look your self in the mirror each day. I found my self or I should say I am still seeking my self not only through life experience's but I actually sat down and wrote my own obituary scary thought kinda morbid..But it makes you realize how you want to be remembered. We all have an inner beauty in us so let it shine.


True Friend Is Rare To Find

Ok, this blog took a lot of time and effort, thanks to all of you who helped with your input and thoughts:

Kayla, Kristin, Shannon, Gorilla, Sherri, Jay, Trey and Lover Lovingston.

What makes a good friend to me??

This was a hard question for me to answer and I want to pose this question to all of you at the end here....


In my eyes a real friend is tried and true. They are there when you need someone to talk to and they understand your feelings or at the very least act understanding even when they don't understand fully. They sympathize with you and they always take your feelings into consideration. They understand that things in your life need to be accomplished as well as they would take care of their own things. They don't get angry or mad if you have something important that needs to be done before all else. They will not talk about you in public and they will always have your back.
A good friend will offer you advice and stand by your side even if they do not agree with the decisions you may make. A good friend will offer encouragement and offer prayers or good thoughts/words to help you through a situation.

A good friend will call you when they know you are having a bad day to make sure you are ok, to do the best they can to offer a shoulder or an ear. A good friend will not only think of themselves, but always take care of can't be a good friend to someone, that offers good advice, if you aren't all together yourself...
A good friend will laugh at you AND with you, they will tell you when you mess up or they may keep their thoughts to themselves, but either way, they'll love you regardless of your failures or decisions. They'll question your thoughts, beliefs or feelings, to make sure you think from all angles, not just to be an ass. They may say something you don't like to hear or don't want to hear, but they do it in YOUR best interests.

A true friend will never be offended by another friend’s advice or questions…maybe if there was an offense taken it was only because it was the truth and it made them mad to hear it said aloud, maybe it only reconfirmed their fears. True friends don’t say those things out of spite, but out of looking after the ones they care about and protecting the ones they love.

Real friends don’t publicly fault their friends. They are grown up and can act mature enough to handle things like an adult. A real friend doesn’t stab you in the back when you are only trying to be helpful. A real friend won’t ignore you over something trivial and insignificant.

A real friend will understand your need to take care of the things in your life above all else. If they are a real friend they won’t fault you for taking a few minutes to get something important taken care of. They will understand and still be there once you have taken care of necessary business.

A real friend will sense when there is something wrong in your attitude or personality, they will call you up to see if you are ok, they will send you a message saying that “I’ll be there for you, when you want to talk.”

A real friend will not do something to help you out, then turn around and use it against you. Especially when the action that supposedly helped you was not one that you had even asked them for.

They let you have space, but don’t let you go too far from their sight. They keep you in mind and always have your best interests at heart. They understand that your family will always come before them and are not selfish in their desire to take up all of your time and energy. They appreciate the efforts you make at friendship, even if you are not able to lend out hours of your time at the time they need you.

There are exceptions to this of course. If a friend is in a car wreck or tragically ill and on their deathbed, then yes, a real friend will put their life on hold to help the other one make it through and cope. They will drop it all and give everything they have towards making the friend's situation more comfortable or tolerable. However, if it is the same situation over and over again, for example an asshole significant other or a drug problem, then the friend in need should understand that the things in your life will take importance over their matters at hand. It doesn’t mean you don’t care, it just means you have to take care of something, you WILL get back to their problems as soon as you can, but experiencing the same problem over and over because you don’t want to change things only means one thing…insanity.


Walking The Walk
(a short story)

Interesting how excited she became when I asked if she would like to go for a walk. A simple pleasure I thought would be nice for us to partake in. We set forth into the night air which was clear, crisp, and cool. Bright stars looked down upon us while a mild wind brushed over our faces, infusing our minds with the pure joy and satisfaction of togetherness. The smiles on our faces brightened the dark sky much more than the moon ever could as we shared short kisses filled with affirmations.

We talked about how our pasts shaped us in to the persons we are today. About the hopes for how our present day activities will shape our future. We shared our beliefs, our perspectives on several things and with each step, each word, each moment of silence we became closer, actually becoming a part of each others own body. Walking yet finding calm within the ruckus of life that we were surrounded by. I could feel the emanation of her love as we held hands. This love I felt, this love she wanted me to realize that she held for me, was far beyond anything she had ever spoke of.

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

When To Find True Love?

Just Another Love Story

Once, there was a guy, who was in love with a gal. She wasn't the most beautiful and gorgeous but for him, she was everything. He used to dream about her, about spending the rest of life with her. His friends told him,"why do you dream so much about her, when you don't even know if she loves you or not? First tell her your feelings, and get to know if she likes you or not". He felt that was the right way.

The girl knew from the beginning, that this guy loves her.One day when he proposed, she rejected him. His friends thought he would take to alcohol; drugs etc. and ruin his life.To their surprise, he was not depressed. When they asked him how was it that he is not sad, he replied,"why should I feel bad? I lost one who never loved me & she lost the onewho really loved and cared for her.

"Never Cry for One Who Makes You Cry!

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

A Rose In Torn

RareLightning Spears

No ulterior motive

Nothing up my sleeve

Nothing you did or said

You were just you

Didn’t have to buy me anything

Didn’t have to wine or dine me or anything

Ever and persistent

My desire for you from a distance

I love you for who you are

No agenda at all

Nothing to win but you

Nothing I would not do

You were just being you

Didn’t have to spend a lot of money

Didn’t have to call my jokes funny

Always and forever

My love for you fades never

I love you for all that you are

Not some reward

Not for anything you’ve done

Not even for being so true

Just for being you

Didn’t need to go out of your way

Didn’t need to bend over backwards

I’d hold you close or love you from far away

So much to giveSo much love to share

No one could ever compare

You’re a find you are

You’re rare Take my breath, my very air

At your beauty I constantly stare

Love you for beauty you hide

Love you not for anything you’ve got

Love you for the angel inside

Love you not for just you looking so hot

Love you so much it ought to be a crime

Love you so until the end of time

Love you as if you were already mine

Love you like no other

You are such a rare find

Hold you close or love you from afar

I love you for who it is that you are.

Monday, October 5, 2009

The Letter To The One

It's been so long since I've heard your voice. It was reckless of me letting you slip away from me. I want you to know what has happened all this time, but as of right now im so terrified to hear from you again mainly cause i dont know what your gonna say since i've been gone for so long.

I'm hesitating so much to pick up the phone and call you - i'm just too scared and nervous, but i know that i will hear from you soon cause i cant stand this heartache anymore, slowly im dying without you in my life.

I tried to live my life but everyday seemed like it was getting harder to breathe. Im still fighting that pain i still have left within me, its a battle im slowly losing because your not there when i need you most. There were so many sleepless nights that i thought about you, but there were times i wanted to forget about you. I tried to replace you with different guys but no matter who i'm with you'd always come back into my mind.

My heart was telling me that they're not the ones for me.It seems impossible for me to forget about you, i wish i had the strength to let go but its not easy to forget someone who i truely fallen in love with 3 years ago.

I've had to endure cold lonely nights were i would cry so hard into my sleep wanting so badly to scream, holding onto my chest all throught the night trying to stop that strange horrible emptiness that was consuming my heart. If only you knew how much i've been suffering without you, if only you can see how lifeless my soul is.Everytime i think about you, i always want to know what you're thinking, what you're feeling, i just cant help but to worry about you.

I just hope your not suffering as much as i am, I just cant let you feel what ive been feeling all this time, its something i dont want you ever feeling in your life. There are times that i wonder if your ever think about me, i want to believe you do but i feel that im too far away to be in your mind. I know you dont feel the same way i feel about you, but i hope that one day you can and see that my heart only beats for you.

Today i wanted to call you just like all those other attempted times but im always thinkin that maybe you've forgotten about me, that you moved on, maybe you already found that girl you've always wanted to love. Just thinking about these things tears me apart but these thoughts wont stop me from letting you know how i still feel about you.We both have fragile hearts and are cautious of who we give it to, but you shouldnt worry about me holding it for i would never hurt you, i have once but i wont do it twice.

I regret everyday what i did to you but im only human and im already paying for what i did. I just want you to understand that im fighting so hard for you, im risking the last bit of life i have in my heart for you. I will admit im terrified to lose you again as well as im afraid that if you let go i'll never fall in love again but im gonna do whatever it takes to show you true loyalty and affection.

I realized now that your the only one my heart ever wants, i realize that love can be painful but wonderful at the sametime. I know im so far away but i'll always be here whenever you need me. I'll always be here for you. I just cant see myself giving my heart to anyone else, i just hope you wont leave me again.

Its not easy without you here. Im tired of searching for love in this cold heartless world.Im tired of pretending that im ok when im not.If only people could understand what you truely mean to me.If only they can see that there is no other like you in this world.If only you knew how much you changed my life.

If only you knew how special you are to me.I know what im feeling is not mistaken for anything else.Let me show you what true love really feels.Take my hand and i'll lead you to true happiness.Please understand that i cant stop missing you. I cant keep myself away from you, I just dont have the strength anymore.

I promise i'll hold your heart forever.
Ohne dich kann ich nicht leben.Ich liebe dich.

Friday, October 2, 2009


Let's Not Fight

You are my Sweetheart

With you I don't want to fight

Life is too short

It doesn't matter who is right

Let's resolve our problems

I think this we should do

Let's talk things out

I hope you feel it's time too

If we let things go

And go with the flow

We can make a new start

And that's the BEST PART!

I really need you In My Life

I really need you

My dear sweetheart

Please my darling

With me don't part

I know we've had problems

You and I

Give it a chance

Please don't ever say goodbye


An Imanginary extraordinary kind a woman and angel from heaven a dream i pray i never wake from . Wonderwoman is the girl of your dreams and the woman of your fantasies all in one. she is a woman in the streets and a freak in the sheets.

She is god fearing but also heavenly . she is amzing but yet so unique, she is beautiful but also beyond it .

Her smile alone can spark your fire and desire she is a gift from the man above . who knew i would find my wonderwoman in you !
when love comes...

when love comes to you

don't run away let it stay for a moment then give it away love flows through you like a river to the sea love flows through you to everyone and let it unfold your wings and break down your walls release you to soar above life's sorrows and all share a heart full of joy and wondrous treasures give of your love daily and way beyond measure when love comes to you give it away let hope and gratitude be our joyful attitude and be Love everyday

when love comes...

Monday, September 28, 2009

" Hallucination "

Is it an impossible dream?

I want to be pursued, to be treasured by someone.

I want to be someone’s someone.

I want to have someone who is my someone.

I want someone to fight for me.

I want someone to want me.

I want someone to think the world of me.

I want someone to encourage me.

I want someone to challenge me.

I want someone with passion.

I want someone who goes for the things they want and helps me go for the things I want.

I want someone to hurt when they see me hurt, to smile when they see me happy.

I want to be all that for someone else.

I want someone to love me, and I want someone to love in return.

I am a beautiful person.

I am passionate.

I am a person of action.

I am a loving person.

I am worthy.

Why do I want this so bad? Is it even possible? Can it last a lifetime?

Is it an impossible dream?

Thursday, September 24, 2009

Do Believe......

I Believe...

I Believe...

I Believe... That just because two people argue, doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, doesn't mean they do love each other.

I Believe...That we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
I Believe....That no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I Believe...That true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I Believe.... That you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

I Believe...That it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

I Believe...That you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I Believe.... That you can keep going long after you think you can't.

I Believe...That we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel. I Believe...That true Love is worth fighting for.

I Believe....That either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I Believe...That heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I Believe...That money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I Believe...That my best friend and I can do anything, or nothing, and have the best time...

I Believe...That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down, will be the ones to help you get back up.

I Believe...That sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I Believe...That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had, and what you've learned from them.....and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.

I Believe...That it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes, you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I Believe...That no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I Believe...That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I Believe...That you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life Forever.

I Believe...Two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I Believe...That your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.

I Believe...That even when you think you have no more to give, if a friend cries out to will find the strength to help.

I Believe...That credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I Believe...That the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon...

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; They just make the most of everything.

Monday, September 14, 2009

Those three words above have so much power, so much meaning in my opinion. My belief is that everyone is beautiful. We all have that picture of the perfect body image in our heads. But the truth is, you will never become that person that is inside your mind. THAT is a perfect person, and NO ONE is perfect. Most of society has been conditioned to think 'beautiful' as a pretty skinny girl , an athletic guy with muscles, designer clothing, pretty much within the norm of society. I find that to be really sad.

I know it's not easy to think you're beautiful. It takes time, but ANYONE can change their thoughts. PLEASE don't make yourself throw up anymore. You ARE skinny enough, you ARE beautiful. Please don't change yourself to fit in with the 'norm' because you ARE unique, which is BEAUTIFUL. Beauty is what the heart is. If you have a heart full of love than you're beautiful, If not than you need some love.

When you wake up tomorrow, when you're at the toilet throwing up because you don't feel skinny, when you are cutting yourself to take away that emotional pain, when the memories of rape haunt you, look into the mirror and say "I AM BEAUTIFUL." I seriously want you to do that. Comment here when you did!

Why I want you to do that is because I learned something in psychology the other day. It's called 'cognitive thinking'. Cognitive thinking basically means "you are what you think you are". If you think and say your beautiful, than you'll feel beautiful for example.

Your past, and your scars tell a story which is beautiful. Your pain has a purpose. Your story is meant to be heard. You have the power to change lives, and change the world! Do it! Feel beautiful! Be proud of who you are today!

Thursday, September 10, 2009

My Dream

i have big dreams, you know.

dreams about music and writing and talking and loving.
dreams about traveling the world,

taking in the beauty,taking in the pain.
i have dreams about a world where i have self-confidence;
dreams where i am secure and composed and okay.

i have dreams in which i do everything i should.
dreams in which i am successful, optimistic; hopeful.

i have dreams about standing on stages and making music,
watching people's eyes fill with tears and joy
as they hear their own stories in my songs;their songs.

i have big dreams, you know.

i have dreams in which i can cry whenever i feel like crying;
dreams about singing when i feel like singing,
laughing when i feel like laughing,
and loving whenever and wherever somebody needs it.

i have dreams about everything being okay.
dreams about homeless people finding shelter; finding home.
dreams about hungry people eating until they are full.

dreams about thirsty people finding water.

dreams about poor people finding jobs
and security and a better future.
dreams about sick people being healed.
dreams about broken people being restored to life.

these are dreams about other people
but they are also dreams about myself.
i am those people....

sometimes i feel like i have no place to call home
i feel hungry and thirsty and poor and sick.

i feel like there is no hope for me; no future for me,
no life outside my head. i have big dreams,
you know.i hope you have big dreams too.
and i hope that you are not afraid to talk about them.

Saturday, September 5, 2009

Top 8 Ways to Improve Your Luck

Have you ever wondered if you can improve your luck?

Why does one person get sick while another stays healthy? Why does one person seem to find wealth and prosperity everywhere, while another never succeeds at anything? Many believe that the answer is luck.

In order to win sweepstakes, Lady Luck has to be on your side. For your name to be the one to be picked out of hundreds or thousands of entries takes a little push from chance. Here are some of the ways that people use to improve their luck.

Positive Thinking Attracts Luck

If you are the type of person who believes that the glass is half full, not half empty, than you're already familiar with positive thinking. Studies have actually shown that being optimistic can
relieve stress and help you live longer. But can it help you to win sweepstakes, too?

Absolutely. One of the most challenging aspects of entering sweepstakes is that nagging feeling that you will never really win - or that you will never win again. It's hard to enter sweepstakes day after day with no guarantee that you'll win - and it's nearly impossible to keep it up if you have a negative attitude about it.

Accentuate the Positive with Visualization

Visualization is a technique where you picture yourself experiencing a desired event, which helps you work out the steps to make that event happen. In terms of sweepstakes, we think about winning a prize - we feel ourselves win the prize that we're dreaming about - and use that visual image to fuel our drive to win.

If you're familiar with the old Bing Crosby song, "Accentuate the Positive," it offers a similar concept. To quote the lyrics: You've got to spread joy up to the maximumBring gloom down to the minimumHave faith or pandemonium'sLiable to walk upon the scene. In other words, focus on the positive aspects of sweeping to keep charged up and motivated to win more.

More Inspirational Sweepstakes Quotations.

Affirmations Reinforce Lucky Thinking

If you watched the movie, Evan Almighty, you might have noticed that Evan's character starts every morning by looking in the mirror and saying, "I am smart, I am successful, I am happy." This is an affirmation.

Affirmations are ways of planting the seeds of success in our subconscious, helping us to think positively and to be more prepared for success. As W. Clement Stone said, "Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve."

Affirmations are always positive, in the first person, and in the present tense. You can write them out or repeat them to yourself several times each day. Some good affirmations to improve your luck might be, "I am lucky, I am open to success, I am a winner."

How to Make an Affirmation

Feng Shui Lets Luck Flow

Feng Shui is an ancient Chinese art designed to bring balance, health, and even luck to the people who practice it. Some dismiss feng shui as superstition, but the principles of this art can help you to be more productive, more positive, and less distracted.

For example, one of the principles of feng shui is that clutter has a negative effect on your energy levels. And it's true - a messy, disorganized area makes it difficult to find what you need and to concentrate on your work.

Imagine that your sweepstakes entry area is clean and tidy, everything you need within your reach. You can concentrate on your sweeps, and get more entries in less time. Can't you just feel your luck starting to increase?

More about Feng Shui and Good Luck

Lucky Charms and Rituals

Many sweepers swear that they have increased their luck by wearing a favorite pair of socks or t-shirt as they enter sweepstakes, or by having lucky symbols like four-leafed clovers, ladybugs, or even Troll dolls near their computers while they enter. Still others perform some kind of lucky rituals before they start their daily sweepstakes. But this is superstitious nonsense, right?
Not necessarily. Using lucky charms and rituals makes you feel luckier, happier, and more optimistic. This positive attitude makes it easier to keep entering sweepstakes, and thus improves your chances of winning. For more information, see
Lucky Charms Don't Work -- Or Do They?.

12 Lucky Symbols to Improve Your Luck

Increase Your Karma, Get Luckier
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Karma is one of the principle tenets of Hindu philosophy, but it can be simply summarized as, "What Goes Around, Comes Around." In other words, if you do good things, more good things happen to you and the luckier you'll be.

In sweepstakes terms, many sweepers promote good karma by
sharing trivia answers and UPC codes, posting links to new sweepstakes, and doing everything they can to help others win. While it might seem to be smarter in the short run to keep the contests and answers that you find to yourself, everyone needs some help and encouragement at some point. Helping each other to win increases the luck of the entire sweepstakes community.
Visit the Sweepstakes Forum to Spread Luck and Increase Karma

Increasing Luck Through Spirituality and Prayer

Many people turn to a greater power to help them increase their luck. Some say a prayer before they start to enter sweepstakes, asking God to help them win what they need, or to help the prize go to the person who needs it most. Some feel that asking God for specific prizes is inappropriate, but ask instead for the strength and the positive attitude they need to not give up and to keep entering sweepstakes.

Others ask the Universe to send them luck, prizes, or a positive attitude, or they use meditation to help them focus and enter more quickly and persistently.
All of these methods can have a positive effect on a sweeper's outlook, helping them feel - and be - more lucky.

Read about the Basics of Prayer

Work Harder, Be Luckier

Thomas Jefferson said, "I am a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it." It sounds almost like he could have been a sweeper! The more work you put into entering sweepstakes, the less you need to rely on luck. The amount of luck you need to win when you enter a single sweep is much greater than the amount you need if you enter a few hundred a day.

Hard work is the
secret to winning sweepstakes. By being patient, persistent, and having a positive attitude, you'll see many more lucky results with your sweepstakes entries.

Wednesday, September 2, 2009

You wouldn't like me when I am angry!

Writing helps me express my emotions.~~~~~~~~~Stop me from saying things I will regret. I am the one who preaches "Sorry doesn't heal the scars."I am afraid I am about to inflict deep scars.I am very good at psychology. I can find the things that one doesn't want anyone to see, "thinks" nobody knows, take those things and CUT someone to shreds.When it comes to being mean, I am QUEEN!Yeah me. The sweet, caring, one. People have been surprised at what a sweet soul like me can be capable of.

Maybe it is because I hardly ever get mad. I am very peaceful. Like Mt St. Helen's, she rarely blows, but when she does . Or maybe it was because I was pushed very hard over and over and over and over and over................I then turned into someone they didn't know. Wished they didn't know. Although, everything I did was legal. It was still wrong. I recall this happened ONCE when I was with my ex-husband of 18 years. He said "Remind me if we ever get a divorce, NOT to f*ck with you." When we divorced, he didn't. I can make them wish, beg that I would stop being mad.I don't want to be Queen at that.It is one thing I don't like about me. For the most part, I have complete control over it.For I know "Sorry doesn't heal the scars." And I will be sorry when I am done being pissed off.I know we all make mistakes. Sometimes we just didn't stop to think about how the other person would feel.Why would I want this person to be as hurt as I am now?

Revenge is NOT sweet.
It is MEAN, evil, and wrong.
Patience, tolerance, acceptance and love is sweet.

Time to take a deep breath and bite my evil tongue.

Distant Lover

women always worry about things men forget ,
men always worry bout things women remember,
know wonder we can't come together ,
a man falls in love with his eyes,

a woman through her ears ,
the great divide is oh so clear,
women marry men hoping they will change,
men marry women hoping they stay the same,

a woman vision is deep reaching ,
a mans vision is far reaching,
listen to these words and their meaning,
opposite do attract divided we fall ,
united we can conger all ,

God in all his wisdom made it to be this way,
God knew man and woman had to be opposites,
his reason being they must learn to work as a team,
playing off the strengths of the other,

sad but true man woman have drifted away ,
each living life in their own self imposed isolation ,
to proud to come together for them selfishness rules
bickering self serving motives its all about me

know wonder stalemate often comes about,
in the form of divorce irreconcilable differences,
through inedible disappointment where is atonement,
love is forever the next time i get married it will be.

through sickness and health poorness and wealth .
please if you wish to be with me this you must not forget ,
opposites do attract trust in me you will see ,
i got your front sides and back ,

i am a poet i am a lover,i am a seer ,
i am a pleaser,such a teaser a joker,
a honey spot stroker ,
thats why i am lonely ,

wont compromised if she is to be my wife,
she must be willing to live as one in life,
whats mines is hers what hers is mines,
together we will live our world all about love,

yes it is true all i ever needed in my life ,
was one good woman to do me right,
i got what you need you got what i want,
opposites do attract