Monday, March 31, 2008

"Reach for your Dreams"

"REACH FOR YOUR DREAMS"




Far away there in the sunshine
are my biggest aspirations....
I may not reach them but
I can look up and see their beauty...
Believe in them and try to follow them...
Dont stop dreaming....
Dont stop believing...
'COZ DREAMS DO COME TRUE... BELIEVE ME !!!
It happened to me a lot of times.....





"A DREAM IS WAITING JUST FOR YOU"


Look inside your heart
For a dream is waiting there.
To encourage and inspire you,
To take you anywhere.

Listen to your dream...
For it calls out sweet and clear
And beckons you to follow
Without doubt and without fear.

Feel the power of your dream...
For the strength that i will give
Will help yoou find your happiness
Every day you live.



Amanda Bradley





No goal's too far, no star's too high.
For you to reach it, if you try...
The dream that makes your spirits soar
Is always worth the reaching for.
And anything you're dreaming of
Can be yours...
with FAITH, HOPE and LOVE


Constance Parker Graham





There is no such thing as "IMPOSSIBLE DREAM"
Because all success begins with spreading your W.I.N.G.S.......

Believing in your WORTH,
Trusting your INSIGHT,
NURTURING yourself,
Having a GOAL and
Devising a personal STRATEGY....

....And then, even the most IMPOSSIBLE DREAMS
can become REAL... :)





Always remember that the future belongs to
those who believe in the beauty of their dreams...


Learn to put anything and everything together
by seeing the dream in the pieces. Learn to appreciate
the smallest advances and conveniences.
Learn how to persevere when no solution is in sight.
Learn how to build rather than to blame.
These things will bring color to your life, as you
DREAM new dreams and begin the BUILDING....








Just remember ... If you believe strongly enough in
your dreams.... one day SOON they'll become TRUE !!!!

"Success"

Success
Education

is relevant for a person to be successful.
Education empowers a person to become a leader.

Great opportunities are presented to professionals.
The future of a Person can be unpredictable if she lacks education;
an uneducated person does not have the
knowledge
of what th
e future has to offer for her.

Education is an essential tool to make a pleasant and stable living out of a simple quotidian life.High Education contributes to the increase of the graduate
in her social economic level.

Education is the main Factor for one to become wealthy,
Millionaire, or even
Multimillion
aire.

Education offers the opportunity for a person
to become the owner of a mansion.
Education brings one the opportunity to please herself.

Perhaps, getting to travel often to interesting countries/places, or
to be the owner of the l
atest new brand sport car.

Education enables one to reach success.
Education makes one
become influential.
Education gives one the opportunity to be
at the top with the highest wage.


Education gives one self-fulfillment.

A thief can take away money, a car, a property from
but is definitely impossible to take education away from someone.
Education is worth $10,000 $50,000 $1000,000
0ne puts it value!
Education is certainly the main Element to become successful
and overall to reach one’s goals and dreams. a person.

"PEOPLE TO BE REMEMBER"


People always we

remember & they are

all time in your main.

Those Nice One Who Love Us.

&

Care about Us.

Those Nice One Who Meet Us.

far from home

&

They keep Asking about Us.

Those Nice Creators Who Makes Life Wonderful For Us.

Those Nice Inventor Who Makes Life Easier For Us.

Those Nice Designer Who Makes Life Beautiful For Us.

Those Nice Scientist Who Makes Life Better For Us.

Those Nice Educators Who Makes Life Understandable For Us.......................

"BESTFRIENDS"

You are the best friend that i ever had & i will keep you in my heart forever!
Because you are my bestfriend i want to hug you to let you know how much i miss you.............


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I want to give you a kiss on your chicks to say i do care for you & to let you feel that you are special


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If you will allow me i want to kiss you on your hand to let you know that i respect you & i looked up to you as my inspiration


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I want to hold your hand tight to let you know that i'm always there for you....................

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You need to trust me............I'm not letting go.........NEVER in your dreams.

"FRIENDS FOREVER!"

"Share your life with GOD"


Relax your mind and humble your heart to focus on Christ. Allow God to be the only person on your mind while you read this prayer . If we can take the time to read long jokes , stories , etc., we should give the same respect to this prayer. Friends, who pray together, stay together.


Dear Lord, I thank you for this day. I thank You for my being able to see and to hear this morning. I'm blessed because You are a forgiving God and an understanding God. You have done so much for me and You keep on blessing me. Forgive me this day for everything I have done, said or thought that was not pleasing to you. I ask now for Your forgiveness.

Please keep me safe from all danger and harm. Help me to start this day with a new attitude and plenty of gratitude. Let me make the best of each and every day to clear my mind so tha t I can hear from You.

Please broaden my mind that I can accept all things.

Let me not whine and whimper over things I have no control over. Let me continue to see sin through God's eyes and acknowledge it as evil. And when I sin, let me repent, and confess with my mouth my wrong doing, and receive the forgiveness of God.

And when this world closes in on me, let me remember Jesus' example -- to slip away and find a quiet place to pray. It's the best response when I'm pushed beyond my limits. I know that when I can't pray, You listen to my heart. Continue to use me to do Your will.

Continue to bless me that I may be a blessing to others. Keep me strong that I may help the weak. Keep me uplifted that I may have words of encouragement for others. I pray for those who are lost and can't find their way. I pray for those who are misjudged and misunderstood. I pray for those who don't know You intimately. I pray for those who will delete this without sharing it with others. I pray for those who don't believe. But I thank you that I believe.

I believe that God changes people and God changes things. I pray for all my sisters and brothers. For each and every family member in their households. I pray for peace, love and joy in their homes that they are out of debt and all their needs are met.

I pray that every eye that reads this knows there is no problem, circumstance, or situation greater than God. Every battle is in Your hands for You to fight. I pray that these words be received into the hearts of every eye that sees them and every mouth that confesses them willingly..

This is my prayer.
In God's Name, May God bless you.

"Love our PARENTS"

"Take care of your parents. THEY ARE PRECIOUS."


Realize that how much we all take for granted when it comes to our
parents.


My parents left for our native place on Thursday and we
went to the airport to see them off. In fact, my father had never
traveled by air before, so I just took this opportunity to make him
experience the same. In spite of being asked to book tickets by train,
I got them tickets on Jet Airways. The moment I handed over the tickets
to him, he was surprised to see that I had booked them by air. The
excitement was very apparent on his face, waiting for the time of
travel. Just like a school boy, he was preparing himself on that day
and we all went to the airport, right from using the trolley for his
luggage, the baggage check-in and asking for a window seat and waiting
restlessly for the security check-in to happen. He was thoroughly
enjoying himself and I, too, was overcome with joy watching him
experience all these things.


As they were about to go in for the security check-in,
he walked up to me with tears in his eyes and thanked me. He became
very emotional and it was not as if I had done something great but the fact
that this meant a great deal to him.


When he said thanks, I told him there was no need to
thank me. But later, thinking about the entire incident, I looked back
at my life. As a child, how many dreams our parents have made come
true. Without understanding the financial situation, we ask for cricket bats,
dresses, toys, outings, etc. Irrespective of their affordability, they
have catered to all our needs. Did we ever think about the sacrifices


they had to make to accommodate many of our wishes? Did we ever say
thanks for all that they have done for us? Same way, today when it
comes to our children, we always think that we should put them in a good
school. Regardless of the amount of donation, we will ensure that we
will have to give the child the best, theme parks, toys, etc. But we
tend to forget that our parents have sacrificed a lot for our sake
to see us happy, so it is our responsibility to ensure that their dreams
are realized and what they failed to see when they were young. It is
our responsibility to ensure that they experience all those and their life
is complete.


Many times, when my parents had asked me some questions,
I have actually answered back without patience. When my daughter asks
me something, I have been very polite in answering. Now I realize how
they would have felt at those moments.


Let us realize that old age is a second childhood and
just as we take care of our children, the same attention and same care
needs to be given to our parents and elders. Rather than my dad saying
thank you to me, I would want to say sorry for making him wait so long
for this small dream. I do realize how much he has sacrificed for my
sake and I will do my best to give the best possible attention to all
their wishes.


Just because they are old does not mean that they will
have to give up everything and keep sacrificing for their grandchildren
also. They have wishes, too.

"MARGARINE"

This is interesting . . . . . .


Margarine was originally manufactured to fatten turkeys. When it killed the turkeys, the people who had put all the money into the research wanted a payback so they put their heads together to figure out what to do with this product to get their money back. It was a white substance with no food appeal so they added the yellow coloring and sold it to people to use in place of butter. How do you like it?. They have come out with some clever new flavorings.

DO YOU KNOW.. the difference between margarine and butter? Read on to the end...gets very interesting! Both have the same amount of calories. Butter is slightly higher in saturated fats at 8 grams compared to 5 grams. Eating margarine can increase heart disease in women by 53%over eating the same amount of butter, according to a recent Harvard Medical Study.

Eating butter increases the absorption of many other nutrients in other foods.
Butter has many nutritional benefits where margarine has a few only because they are added! Butter tastes much better than margarine and it can enhance the flavors of other foods. Butter has been around for centuries where margarine has been around for less than 100 years.

And now, for Margarine..
Very high in trans fatty acids. Triple risk of coronary heart disease. Increases total cholesterol and LDL(this is the bad cholesterol) and lowers HDL cholesterol, (the good cholesterol) Increases the risk of cancers up to five fold. Lowers quality of breast milk. Decreases immune response. Decreases insulin response. And here's the most disturbing fact.... HERE IS THE PART THAT IS VERY INTERESTING!

Margarine is but ONE MOLECULE away from being PLASTIC. .
This in fact alone was enough to have me avoiding margarine for life and anything else that is hydrogenated (this means hydrogen is added, changing the molecular structure of the substance). You can try this by yourself: Purchase a tub of margarine and leave it in your garage or shaded area. Within a couple of days you will note a couple of things: *

No flies, not even those pesky fruit flies will go near it (That should tell you something).
* It does not rot or smell differently because it has no nutritional value; nothing will grow on it. Even those teeny weeny micro organisms will not a find a home to grow. Why? Because it is nearly plastic. Would you melt your Tupperware and spread that on your toast?.

"Friendship"

Based on my experience sometimes friendship could not be measured with time. I've been treated unfairly with friends before and I'm so happy I get through it. I did not hesitate to suffer more just to please them.
They say if it really not meant to be, then let it be. Coz happiness cannot be measured by the friends we have but to a friend we treasured for loving us.
They say that happiness comes from the moment we enjoys it but it is from within our heart that we wanted to treasure it. They think that happiness can be always be bought and so facade with masks; but happiness is always comes from within our heart, for a hypocrite can't always hides from their masks.

"Spirituality - A solution to stress!"

"Spirituality - A solution to stress!"

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How essential is spiritualism in the stressful life today?

Todays life is fast. Younger generations are able . so in this fast track lifestyle spirituallity is highly essential. Not only is inessential, it would be practically impoossible to concentrate on your work throughout the day without it. It immensely helps you to remain calm and quite throughout the day, which in turn improves productivity of work. once your inner self connects with the union, it is all happiness, which is the ultimate Satchidanand. Sprit means 'Body Energy' and science of dealing with the proper circulation and usage of energy and relising it-is known as spiritualism. or one can say trying to attain eternal bliss, in knowing who you are. it is about finding one's own God and also about introspection and an inner voice telling the right from the wrong. in today's materialistic world, man has become self-centred and his perpetual cupidity for money has posed a very grave threat to his health, this is STRESS. Spritualism plays a vital role in tackling stress. it rejuvenates man's mind and relieves his anxiety. Love, compassion for all creatures, honesty and truthfulness are the only qualities that fetch spiritual solace and salvation to a person..

"Botox"

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The study which was conducted at the University of Calgary in Canada and led by Dr. Walter Herzog, showed that Botox toxin does not stay in into which it has been injected.

This latest investigation was prompted by Dr. Herzog's own findings in a previous study on botulism and osteoarthritis in which he found that,“the toxin passed easily into the surrounding muscles and weakened all the muscles in the area.”

The American Food and Drink Administration,(F.D.A.), is presently investigating reports of severe side-effects,and even deaths amongst children, in patients who have been treated with Botox and related products, for medical conditions.

The most serious cases were in children with cerebral palsy being treated for spasticity - rigid muscles. They experienced difficulty in swallowing, breathing difficulties and muscle weakness, all of which are known symptoms of botulism poisoning.

At present, the F.D.A. it self is not advising doctors to stop prescribing the drug, but they are conducting a safety review and say these adverse reactions may have been caused by over-dosing.

Can Botox Poison Your Body?

However, the F.D.A. has issued a warning to patients that they should receive immediate medical attention, if they experience difficulty in swallowing or talking, have trouble breathing or experience muscle weakness, following any injection of Botox.

Rajiv Grover, of the British Association of Aesthetic Plastic Surgeons, comments that the doses used cosmetically are 50 to 60 times less than those used to treat medical conditions.And he says that, as he and his colleagues have treated thousands of patients with Botox, without seeing a lot of complications,“The single most important factor in getting a good result from Botox is not the drug itself, but the skill of the person who injects it.”

Dr.Antony Fulford-Smith, spokesman for Allergan the manufacturer of Botox,says that Botox has been providing medical relief for the last twenty years and that it is very rare for there to be any serious side-effects in relation to the spread of the toxin in the patient's body.

"How to Get Men Eating Out of Your Hands"

Well, we all know that big breasts mesmerize men, and for those women who are small-chested, this is a very unfair situation! Of course,nowadays rich women are able to afford the thousands of pounds it costs to have surgery to increase the size of their breasts. But that just makes it even more unfair, doesn't it?

How can an ordinary woman compete with the pictures of huge celebrity boobs which are plasteredall over women's magazines? And that's not even counting the thousands of magazines for men with pages and pages of breast photos.

Sometimes it seems that every day and in every way, normal women are made to feel inadequate and your self-esteem just goes down and down, doesn't it?
So, what's the answer then? Well, a quiet little revolution is going on behind the scenes and now thousands of women are getting to know about the new herbal combinations that, ' fool', your body into creating more breast tissue, as happens when a woman is pregnant.




This quite naturally increases the size of your breasts and makes them more dense and firm to the touch!
You won't see these products advertised in lavish advertising campaigns that cost millions of pounds to convince people to part with thousands of pounds, because it's not necessary!

They are being sold online by highly reputable specialist stores, who are happy to rely on 'word of mouth' personal recommendations from thousands and thousands of satisfied women, (and their husbands!). There is no health risk, because all of the ingredients are natural.

The product is manufactured to a very strict protocol and is tested and checked by all of the necessary government procedures.
There is no financial risk, because all of the available products carry a 100% money back guarantee if you are not delighted with your new shapely, breasts.

Therefore,as we all know, if you want to get men eating out of your hand you just need to have a 'good pair of boobs'.
How to get them? Just treat yourself to a surprisingly cheap course of treatment. After all, what have you got to lose?

"The Real Medical Cure for Acne"

This is another product that I use myself and know that it works really well on acne and it's side-effect is that it gets rid of wrinkles! Yes, really, because when you read the instructions it is listed as a treatment for sun-damaged skin, as well as acne. You can buy it at your local pharmacy or online and it's cheap.

What it does is gently, but firmly exfoliate the top layers of skin. This removes the causes of acne, blackheads and whiteheads. It leaves you with a beautiful, clear unlined complexion. I never thought I would ever hear anybody complementing me on my complexion, but they do now.

It's a cream containing a natural derivative of Vitamin A and I have included the, ' how to use instructions', below:-

"How to Use Tretinoin (Retin-A) - Using the Acne Treatment Retin-A By Heather Brannon, MD, About.com


Tretinoin (Retin-A, Avita, Renova) is a derivative of Vitamin A and is the treatment of choice for comedonal acne, or whiteheads and blackheads. It works by increasing skin cell turnover promoting the extrusion of the plugged material in the follicle. It also prevents the formation of new comedones. Tretinoin is also the only topical medication that has been proven to improve wrinkles.

Side Effects of Retin-A

The effect of increased skin cell turnover can be irritation and flaking. For this reason, many people stop using Retin-A after a couple of days to weeks, then think that it didn't work.

It is important to realize that Retin-A is very effective for whiteheads and blackheads, but it may take 6-9 weeks to see a noticeable difference. It takes at least 6 months to see a noticeable difference in wrinkles. The best benefit is seen if Retin-A is used for at least a year.


Here are some guidelines that may make it easier to take this great medicine:-

* Apply Retin-A in a thin layer at night. A small amount goes a long way.

* In the morning wash your face with a mild facial scrub or rough wash cloth. This will help reduce the
noticeable flaking.

* After washing, apply a good water-based moisturizer. Yes, guys, this applies to you too. The moisturizer
will make the drying effect of the medicine more tolerable.


* If flaking occurs during the day use a wash cloth to remove it and apply more moisturizer, or just apply
moisturiser.

* Try using a moisturizer that also contains a sunscreen. If not, apply sunscreen anytime you are in the sun
even for a short amount of time. Tretinoin makes you more susceptible to sunburn.

* When you first start using Retin-A, apply it every other night or every 3rd night. The flaking and irritation side-effects are usually the worst in the first 2 weeks of application. As your skin adjusts to the medicine, you can apply it more frequently.

* If you notice an increase in the irritation or flaking, it's ok to take a break for a couple of day." H.B. M.D.



I always keep a tube of Tretinoin in the house, so that I can nip any more acne problems in the bud. I also use it for its wrinkle smoothing properties and I can tell you that it works really well in making a very, very noticeable improvement in your complexion.

I buy it here in Spain, over the counter from a Pharmacy, for about 14 euros - about $14 or 7 pounds sterling. It's just another of those excellent products that isn't advertised and so nobody knows about it! Beware of expensive skin-care products containing "Retinol", they are not the same as buying pure Retin A cream, as Tretinoin.

Sunday, March 30, 2008

"HANDBAGS"

HANDBAGS...


Have you ever noticed gals who sit their handbags on public
toilet floors, then go directly to their dining tables and set it on the table? Happens a lot!
It's not always the 'restaurant food' that causes stomach distress.
Sometimes "what you don't know will hurt you"!

Read on...

Mom got so upset when guests came in the door and plopped their handbags down on the counter where she was cooking or setting up food. She always said that handbags are really dirty, because of where they have been. It's something just about every woman carries with them.

While we may know what's inside our handbags, do you have any idea what's on the outside? Women carry handbags everywhere; from the office to public toilets to the floor of the car. Most women won't be caught without their handbags, but did you ever stop to think about where your handbag goes during the day.

"I drive a school bus, so my handbag has been on the floor of the bus a lot," says one woman. "On the floor of my car, and in toilets."

"I put my handbag in grocery shopping carts and on the floor of the toilet," says another woman "and of course in my home which should be clean."

We decided to find out if handbags harbor a lot of bacteria. We learned how to test them at
Nelson Laboratories in Salt Lake, and then we set out to test the average woman's handbag.

Most women told us they didn't stop to think about what was on the bottom of their handbag. Most said at home they usually set their handbags on top of kitchen tables and counters where food is prepared.

Most of the ladies we talked to told us they wouldn't be surprised if their handbags were at least a little bit dirty.

It turns out handbags are so surprisingly dirty, even the microbiologist who tested them was shocked. Microbiologist Amy Karen of Nelson Labs says nearly all of the handbags tested were not only high in bacteria, but high in harmful kinds of bacteria. Pseudomonas can cause eye infections, staphylococcus aurous can cause serious skin infections, and salmonella and e-coli found on the handbags could make people very sick.

In one sampling, four of five handbags tested positive for salmonella, and that's not the worst of it. "There is fecal contamination on the handbags" says Amy. L eather or vinyl handbags tended to be cleaner than cloth handbags, and lifestyle seemed to play a role. People with kids tended to have dirtier handbags than those without, with one exception.

The handbag of one single woman who frequented nightclubs had one of the worst contaminations of all. "Some type of feces, or possibly vomit" says Amy.

So the moral of this story is that your handbag won't kill you, but it does have the potential to make you very sick if you keep it on places where you eat. Use hooks to hang your handbag at home and in toilets, and don't put it on your desk, a restaurant table, or on your kitchen countertop.

Experts say you should think of your handbag the same way you would a pair of shoes.

"If you think about putting a pair of shoes onto your countertop s, that's the same thing you're doing when you put your handbag on the countertops" - Your handbag has gone where individuals before you have sneezed, coughed, spat, urinated, emptied bowels, etc! Do you really want to bring that home with you?

The microbiologists at Nelson also said cleaning a handbag will help. Wash cloth handbags and use leather cleaner to clean the bottom of leather handbags.

"Simplicity"


"I have lived long enough to learn how much I can really do without..."--Socrates.......

Are we truly aware of how much WE can live without? Is it possible for us to simplify our lives and live in a loving peaceful state? How many of us are connected to the reality of acquiring material wealth as opposed to spiritual connectedness? Is it possible that the energy we allow to be put forth into maintaining a certain lifestyle is actually disconnecting us from what is a true sense of spiritual joy? Perhaps if we were to slow down our lives we could then realize what we need is all ready there for us...infinite abundance......

Albert Einstein has said, "Possessions, outward successes, publicity, luxury- to me these have always been contemptible. I believe that a simple and unassuming manner of life is best for everyone, best both for the body and the mind."........

Peace, Love, Joy, Happiness, and the mind set to desire these, may each of us have......

"Conversational Magic for Seduction & Influence"

Conversational Magic for Seduction & Influence

All this month I have shared with you information on improving yourself and your life for the New Year. I started by sharing with you my “10-Point Must” list regarding relationships, the “4&4 As Your Core” exercise, and I even gave you my “Double Triangle.” If you have applied the information thus far you should have a pretty good start on building a better YOU for this year. And since Valentine’s Day is less than a month away, I want to give you THE ideal item for any and all romantic relationships: Conversational Magic!

No matter if you are trying to use conversation to get a sexy new person interested in knowing you further, needing some quality skills for talking to someone of influence, or if you simply want to have richer more deep conversations with friends. We all know that the number one complaint in relationships seems to be either bad communication or “we hardly talk anymore.”



What if you were able to indulge in conversations that were a verbal adventure of the mind so stimulating that it lingers in your thoughts for hours…maybe even days? The kind of conversation where the moment it begins you find yourself drawn to the words and it is as if everything else around us just starts to melt away? Those kinds of conversations that last for hours as if it had a life of its own and having no regret as you realize that the night has flowed into morning. Would you be interested in learning how to have conversations like that?

I have a confession to make; I just used some conversational magic. From the “So what if…” onward, I intentionally tried to take you on a mental journey with my words. And if you found your mind drifting, imagining, then you have a taste of what the affect is when you use conversational magic.We all know that magic is not real; it is just a clever illusion. It is a deliberate attempt to move your senses in a certain direction. Would you also agree that some of the best conversations you have had can be described the same way? Have you, like me, enjoyed those conversations where your mind created images and scenes of what the person was talking about? And maybe now as you look back on those conversations you begin to get an “Oh, I get it now” feeling for a conversation that was incredible but you could not put your finger on exactly why. Well get ready my friend, you are about to learn how to give other people that same kind of enjoyable feeling in the conversations you have with them!

There is a popular rapport technique used in self-help seminars called “matching and mirroring.” This is when you casually mimic the other person’s body language. So for example if they are sitting with their left leg crossed over their right, the mirror of that would be to sit with your right leg crossed over your left. If they rub their left leg with their left hand, you rub your right leg with your right hand. Get it? Personally, I find it quite effective. But you have to do it right, or you end up looking like a damn parrot and it will be very obvious and possibly quite creepy! The way I do it is to do what I call “similaring.” I do something similar with my body language as they are doing with theirs. For example if they rub their left leg with their left hand, I might tap my right leg with my right palm. If they have their head tilted to their left, I might tilt my head to the right as I finish a sentence and then bring my head back to where it was.

You will know when you have successfully built solid rapport from doing this when you move your body and they do the same or similar movement. Cool, huh? Some people have felt that this is “sneaky” and “deceptive.” Personally I think it is a compliment since I am taking steps to have a good rapport with them instead of not giving a shit. But you can make up your own mind on how you feel about it. Now while the “similaring” is going on, you want to engage the other person in conversation by asking questions a certain way. I have a natural curiosity about people, have been that way since I was 5 and wondered what made people do what they do. So for years I have asked the question, “What is it about X that makes you feel the most Y?” So for example if a woman mentions to me that she is a receptionist at a loan office, I would ask, “So tell me, what it is about your job that you find the most fulfilling?” By asking such a question and asking it that way, she can not help but share a glimpse of what fulfills her. It is non-intrusive, yet powerful in learning about the other person. Okay, so here is one for women to try. Guys can use it too, but I want to give the women a gender specific one so they do not feel left out.

Let us say that a guy mentions a love for playing tennis. The typical thing you ladies might say to him is, “I play tennis too” and maybe “We should play a set sometime.” But by conversing in this way you are not learning much about him. But by asking him, “So what it is about tennis that you find the most fulfilling?” you get to learn not only what fulfills him with tennis but it also gives you clues as to what else might be fulfilling to him. These are called “probing” questions, which leads to much more enjoyable conversations than “yes or no” questions can produce.

Another question you might ask is, “So if you could travel anywhere on the planet right now, where would your ideal dream vacation be?” Then the follow-up question would be, “So let me see (the location they named) through your eyes. Why there, and what would you want to do while you were there?” The location they name is not as important as why they picked there and what they said they would do there, because it again gives you insight and clues into whom they are and what they like.

Having that kind of information is invaluable because it gives you ideas for directions to go in the conversation instead of trying to think of something to say. But most importantly, when you ask these kind of questions that reveal things about their likes and personality, they will reply using what I call their “power words.” These are words they like to use like “Spectacular” or “Fascinating” or “Challenging” just to name a few. And by knowing their power words, you can start to literally speak their language! So if they said, “I think it would be a nice and glamorous place to vacation” you now have their power word of “glamorous” to use later when it would logically fit in something you say. Do you follow me?

The final piece for Conversational Magic is to use very sensory rich descriptions in your conversations. That means using words that describe things in a way that causes the other person to see images of what you are talking about. Remember near the beginning of this article I spoke of a conversation with someone that “makes everything else around us just start to melt away.” In order for your mind to comprehend what you were reading that first time, you had to feel what it described. So “melting away” was the sensory rich part of the description. And after that I spoke of a conversation that “takes on a life of its own” and, “you realize that the night has flowed into morning.” The sensory rich wording being “a life of its own” and “flowing” as you may have already spotted. This is nothing that I invented of course, poets have used this technique for centuries to melt the hearts of maidens and maidens have used it to calm the beast in knights.

After you learn several of the other person’s power words, you can add them to your conversation as well as starting to use sensory rich descriptions in your sentences. Can you see how this method of conversation can not only make you someone people love talking to, it would also be nice to teach your boyfriend/girlfriend so you can feel the magic of it also. Above all else, for this to work you need to have a genuine interest in conversing with the other person. By having that genuine interest, your tone of voice will enhance this powerful set of tools.

"The 5 Reasons Women Reject Men"

The 5 Reasons Women Reject Men

Tell me if this sounds at all familiar to you, if you can relate to it.


A guy is out someplace like a club or bar or maybe a party and he notices an attractive woman he would like to approach. He gets himself psyched up to go talk to her, imaging how well the approach will be. Then as he takes those first steps towards her, something happens...his heart rate increases, his breathing changes, a tension in his gut starts to form, and his mind becomes filled with thoughts of rejection. He really wants to approach that woman but he ends up not doing it, he ends up just walking away. The discomfort and pressure had become too much for him and he wanted it to stop, knowing that walking away is what will make that happen.

As I reflect back, I recall being that guy many times. The level of energy I had in approaching a woman became the same level of nervous energy that ended up taking over. In a matter of seconds I would go from a level 10 energy high, to a level 10 energy freak-out! Walking away made the freak-out levels subside and that felt really good, so in a sense walking away felt like having accomplished something; "I have avoided potential disaster, yay me!"

What I find fascinating about those times is that it wasn't even the woman rejecting me, it was the fear of being rejected that was so painful. In a sense I was rejecting myself for her. And what I eventually came to realize is that women never actually reject you. In my entire life I have never once approached a woman and she said, "Eww, are you kidding me? Do you even own a mirror and know how unattractive you are? I would never go out with you, you loser!" There may exist a guy who has been told something like that by a woman, but I have yet to meet any such person. Instead, I had heard things like, "I have a boyfriend" "I'm here with someone" "I'm not looking to date anyone right now" "No, but thank you" or they had just ignored me or walked away. I don't know about you, but when women would do or say any of these things I was not devastated for the rest of the night, the people nearby did not point and laugh at me, and it never once felt anywhere near as painful as I thought it might. I might get bummed about it for a few minutes and maybe imagine in my mind some clever thing to say to the woman so I felt better, but then it was gone and I was fine.

It took some growing up, but I came to realize that a woman saying things like "No" or "I have a boyfriend" or her responding in a way different than what I wanted her to, is not rejection. Sure it's disappointing not to get the result that you want, but not getting a result does not mean you were rejected.

When I get asked by guys how to deal with "rejection," my answer to them is, "Stop looking at it as being rejected. The better question to want an answer to is how to deal with your fear of rejection."

But before I get into that, let's take a look at what possible reasons a woman would have for doing or saying the things that guys see as "rejection." I've noticed similarities in what guys typically do that causes those "I have a boyfriend" or "No, but thank you" moments, and boy do I recognize how I used to be the same way!

Things like:

* Nervous Body Language


Most guys are incredibly unaware of their own body language, but you can trust that women are very aware of his body language the entire time he's there. When a guy approaches a woman, there is always that initial moment of eye contact. Where most guys screw it up is they quickly look away or look at other places on her face like her mouth or nose, only briefly making eye contact again. Some guys think they are being cool by not giving her much eye contact, but they fail to realize that since he approached her this will almost always come off to her as the guy being nervous.

Another aspect of nervous behavior guys are unaware of is he is fidgeting or gesturing a little erratically and he is in his head thinking of what to say, or how to respond, or as he is listening to her talk. Some of the guys I have consulted were completely unaware they were doing this fidgeting/erratic gesturing when I pointed it out to them, it was completely outside of their own awareness. The speed of your movements telegraphs your relaxation and comfort levels, despite what comes out of your mouth! Another strong sign of nervousness that women can immediately pick up, is when a guy's voice raises higher at moments while talking to her. His voice may only do it a few times, but that is all it takes to let her know you are nervous around her. So no matter if a guy is doing any or all of these things, it seriously weakens a woman's potential interest in you on any romantic level.

* Clueless of Bad Timing


I was at one of the clubs I enjoy and I witnessed a display that I not only can relate to once upon a time, I also see a lot of other guys doing it.
There were three women sitting down, one was upset about something and the other two were listening/consoling her. A guy walked up and said to the upset one, "Hey, what's wrong? A pretty lady like you should be having a good time, so let me buy you a drink." The upset woman politely replied, "No thank you." The guy persisted and said, "Come on, have a drink with me. I'll buy us all a round." The upset woman said, "No, really, we're fine. But I would like to talk to my friends in private." The guy said, "Whatever, your loss."

This guy may have genuinely wanted to make the upset woman feel better initially, but he was clueless to the fact that since one of the women was upset it was not a good situation in which to make a first approach. Even worse, he took the situation personally, as evidenced by his "your loss" remark.

Another time, at a different club, there were two women waiting in line for the ladies room and I saw a guy approach them. He stopped right next to them and asked them if they were having a good time. One replied, "A good time waiting to get into the ladies room?" and then she and her friend laughed. The guy continued to stand there, and asked them, "So are you locales, or visiting from someplace." They ignored him and just continued talking to each other. He persisted and offered, "If you're not here with anyone, I have a VIP table you can come party at." They said, "Ok, maybe" then promptly ignored the guy and continued with their conversation. The guy then proceeds to tell them how to find the VIP table he was at, and then he left.
This guy is a dumbass! Guys who try to pick up women as they're waiting in line to use the bathroom are about as pathetic as a lawyer slipping his card into a pocket of an accident victim as the person is being loaded into an ambulance. Women do not like to be approached in the bathroom line, it's creepy to them.

* Comfort Bubble Violations


In an attempt to come off as cool or relaxed, some guys will violate a woman's "comfort bubble" within seconds by touching her or putting their arm around her as they say, "Oh you are so adorable." While there is a way to do that without making her uncomfortable, it becomes extremely difficult if the guy has already approached displaying nervous behavior, mainly because it now will come off as clingy or approval seeking behavior to be touching her.
It translates to the woman as if you had said, "I feel I have no shot with you therefore I want to at least say I got to touch you." Another bad comfort bubble violation is to physically touch her in some way whenever you laugh at something she has said. While such behavior might be fine later, after you've spent about an hour talking and building some solid rapport, but even then you should limit how often you do it.

* Being Too Agreeable

I used to be so guilty of this one, many, many, times. You want to make a good impression and influence her into going out with you, so you agree with her on things even if they are not how you really feel. A guy wants to show her they have things in common, but he ends up becoming too agreeable and it damages the attraction. This is not limited to actually saying agreeable things either, it can also include frequently nodding your head in agreement. Many experts have stated that nodding as she is talking demonstrates that you are paying attention to her and builds good rapport. I agree, and very much advocate demonstrating that you're paying attention, but frequent head nodding can actually come across to a woman as insecure!

* Lingering or Following Her Around


When most guys hear me say not to following a woman around, they assume I mean the behavior of staying on the heels of a woman wherever she walks, and they say, "Oh, I don't that." Following a woman around also applies to frequently "finding" her when she goes elsewhere in the club. For example: there was a guy who had been talking to a woman for a few minutes and then she excused herself to go powder her nose. (That by itself means nothing bad, so don't panic if it happens to you.) When she returned from the bathroom, she chose to mingle around the club instead of returning right away to where the guy and she had been talking. The guy found her and went to where she was. This turned her off because it seemed clingy and as if the guy had no one else to talk to. The woman was a friend of mine and said that she had actually been interested in the guy before he did that.
Lingering is another big problem for guys. I am not just talking about the kind of lingering where there are periods of silence and you still stay there. Yes, that is very bad, but there is another common kind of lingering that for some reason guys fail to notice they are doing. It is when there is steady conversation going on, but the woman is having most of that conversation with other people in her group. The guy adds his comments or opinion into the conversation, and since the woman or someone in her group might acknowledge or reply to something he has said he fails to notice that for the most part the woman is ignoring him. What seems to cause this the most is that the woman gets a feeling that the guy is trying too hard to fit in with her and the group. People get a feeling, a vibe if you will, when someone is just using comments or giving opinions to be part of the conversation, versus having a genuine interest or fascination with what is being discussed. And most times in these situations the guy has thrown in some bullshit to appear cool or "mysterious" but she sees right through it. By trying to be part of something in hopes of being accepted or to attract a woman, you actually sabotage these things from happening.


By now you should have an understanding that why most guys get "rejected" is because they are doing and behaving in ways that cause it to happen.
Now that I've covered some of the more common reasons why guys get "rejected" it's time to get into overcoming your "fear of rejection." Taking care of that will help you avoid doing the things I have just mentioned, as you will see once you apply the information. One thing that I realized was helping me overcome my fear of rejection was to imagine having success, not failure, with the woman I was about to approach. I know that sounds too simple, and yes I did have to do it over and over many times before I could actually approach a woman without fear, but it worked. Through doing that I found women were almost always very receptive, and it led to better and better results for me.

One part to help you imagine having success with the women you approach, is to understand that just as you have fear of rejection, women have a similar kind of fear of rejection. You might have thought that beautiful women never worry about being rejected, that is actually not the case. They get nervous about looking like a dork or sounding stupid, they feel those awkward silences in conversation just like guys do, and they really do want to be able to impress a guy that has their attention.
I used to think that when a beautiful woman would say, "Sorry, that sounded so dumb, huh?" about something she had just said, she was just trying to get compliments. I have come to learn however that often the woman really is concerned that she sounds dumb! In regard to this a striking looking friend of mine said, "If I say something like that, I obviously care about what his opinion is of me or I wouldn't have said it." Hmm, very good point don't you think?
You might have heard a woman you were talking to at a bar or club say, "My friends dragged me here" or "My girlfriend made me go out tonight." While that might be the case, often a woman says that to convey a certain perception she wants you to have about her. Some women are concerned that they will make a bad impression and be seen as some crazy party girl or promiscuous. She might love going to clubs or other very social locations, but she wants you to subtly know that such locations are not always required for her to spend time with you. Women communicate differently than guys, and this is just one example of that.
And one of the biggest realizations that I have had about attractive women is, the more beautiful they are the more insecure they are about how they are perceived. A stunning looking woman will often feel much more pain and embarassment from spilling a drink on herself than an average looking woman will. When a woman is blessed with stunning features, it doesn't also come with a stunning personality, so they need to develop one. And while it is widely believed that stunning looking women just rely on their looks, otherwise known as "gold diggers," even those type of stunning women are still concerned about rejection and want to impress the guy. I used to know one such "gold digger" who would frequently complain that the guy she was dating seemed like he was losing interest in her. He had not stopped buying her pretty much whatever she asked for, so that wasn't the source of her concern. He didn't start calling less frequently, so that wasn't what caused her concern either. They would have regularly and passionate sex as well, so that also was not what started her concern. Her concern was based on the fact that when she would tell him about something funny that happened that day, or share some really cool information she learned, he would not sound very interested in it to her. In short, she thought she was boring him. Really look at that for a moment. She was getting whatever she wanted him to buy her, he was giving her the same amount of time he always had, and the sex
remained at the same level and frequency. The only thing that had changed was her perception of what his opinion was of her. So you see, even a "gold digger" worries about a guy's rejection. That being the case, it should help ease your tention at least a little the next time you spot an attractive woman you want to approach.

I'm not done yet though. That was just information letting you know that women worry about rejection too, but it doesn't exactly help you overcome your own fear of rejection.

Here are a few ideas for accomplishing that:

1. Observing and Approaching as You're Going Through Your Day


This is a nice step in your efforts to overcome your fear of rejection. When you're sitting at a place like a Starbucks, or enjoying lunch someplace, or inside a bookstore or at the mall, try to notice when guys are approaching women. You don't have to hear what is being said, you just need to pay attention to their body language. Pay attention to how he is standing and gesturing as he talks to her. Pay attention to what she does with her body and her eyes contact with him. After doing this just once you will notice something very interesting. Even though you don't know the guy nor the woman, you will still be able to notice by their body language if either one seems nervous or if they seem to be connecting. Chances are you can recall having seen some stranger and even though they didn't say a word you still got the feeling they were nervous or angry or upset, right? Being able to "read" someone's emotions through their body language is a skill we all have, every single one of us. Unfortunately most guys don't think to use that natural skill when talking to women, both to be aware of her body language as well as being aware of what his own body language is saying to her. So imagine the powerful information you will collect by observing just a handful of these interactions. You will notice the similarities in body language in the people that were nervous, versus the people who seemed confident. And by notcing these similarities, you can begin to spot in yourself when you're displaying nervous body language and not only know to correct it, but also know what to correct it to so as make yourself appear more confident! The great thing about this is, as you correct your body language to one more confident it literally causes you to feel more confident!

Connected to this is my suggestion that you get in the habit of meeting and talking to women as you go about your usual day. So often guys set themselves up for failure because they make plans to go out and meet women, instead of just interacting with women wherever you happen to be. That's putting more pressure on yourself than you should, and will take you far longer to overcome your fear of rejection in my opinion. After all, you're at the electronics store to buy a flash drive, not pick up women, so there's nothing to fail at if the woman you end up talking to "rejects" you. Doing it this way also gets you in the habit of approaching women, which is much easier to accomplish than just doing it at the club. So you can actually handle two major "problems" at the same time; you will be learning how to have better body language skills, and you can apply it as you apporach women.

One of the other benefits of observing guys approaching women, is you get to see that even when the guy gets "rejected" it really ends pleasantly most of the time. Unless the guy is a douche and calls the woman a foul name or gets physically abusive with her, it typically just ends with one or both them giving a "it was nice meeting you" type of goodbye. Seeing that will help you in eliminating those horrible outcomes you might imagine happening to you.

2. Plan Ahead

When it comes to interacting with women, most guys fail to have two important things planned ahead:

A. What a guy will say when he approaches a woman

Guys want to know how to approach a woman, yet they never practice it in advance. So when the moment comes they are nervous, making their ability to think of what to say at that moment becomes even more difficult. I am not talking about having a "canned" rountine or "pick-up" line ready, I am talking about having a couple of basic things that you can use in pretty much any situation. Once you have a couple of ideas of what you could say, you need to practice saying it before you go out. It doesn't have to be something you practice out loud, you can just do it in your head. It will take you less a minute, and it will help you have it ready when the time comes to approach her.

B. What he will say and do if she "rejects" him.

When the woman says, "I have a boyfriend" or "No, but thank you" most guys react in the wrong way. Some guys will slump their shoulders and walk away with a body language that displays defeat. Some guys will make some kind of "saving face" remark. Some guys will throw her an insult. And some guys will persist but in the wrong way. Personally, when a woman used to tell me she had a boyfriend I would reply, "Cool, bring him along, I'd love to meet him." These days I am so fascinated with how people meet and fall in love I'll ask her how they met and what it was about him that attracted her.

These are things that I had practiced, just in case I needed to use them. You need to think of how you can calmly react when faced with "I have a boyfriend" or "No, thanks" and then mentally rehearse it before going out. By being prepared for the "rejection" you already fear will happen, you will get through it more easily and in a very short time you will come to have less fear of it happening.

3. Journal It

One of the best tools I used, for overcoming my fear of rejection, was writing the experiences in a journal. I would write a brief account of what I said when I approached, how she responded/reacted, anything I felt was important about the encounter, and what she said that either made me feel rejected or ended the encounter. Then I would go over it and do a kind of "what if" thing where I wrote down what I might have said that could have been better, or what I now remember that had I caught it at the time I could have used. Initially I did this to help me come up with better ways of approaching women and getting them to talk to me longer, which is it did help in a big way. However something interesting also happened when I looked over a handful of these journal entries; I noticed a pattern of my behavior that I had not been aware of. So using other skills I had developed, I was able to correct it and greatly improve my experiences with women.

It took me a long time to get these things figured out, and to realize that just because a woman would talk to me did not mean she was attracted to me.
The years of time and effort it took me to spark attraction in women on a regular basis was very painful, but ultimately worth the journey. I used to think it was just "luck" that some guys were able to get really attractive women, but I now know it has nothing to do with luck at all. Once I had a system for attracting women on a regular basis, I had to figure out how to explain what I knew in a way that any guy could use to get the same results. The time and effort to accomplish that was also painful, but ultimately also worth the journey. I invite you to take advantage of that time and effort by checking out my Fire of Seduction program. In this program I break down the process of making women feel attraction for you into easy, step-by-step exercises and techniques that any guy can start using immediately. I provide some of my word-for-word seductions so you know exactly what to say and how to progress things from "first approach" all the way to "getting physical."
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Be well, my friend, and Live Unleashed!