Sunday, March 29, 2009

A Fairytale

There is nothing in life that love cannot change. When we feel love, our hearts feel much lighter. Very nice words Isn't it! That love can fill your heart so much fulfillment and seems your world stop and you don't even care everything surrounds you, and seems you are in the story of a fairytale that will end happily ever and after ...

But why all of a sudden this love has always an ending with saying Goodbye...
We started saying a simple h
ello and become lovers, changing sweet words to each other including the most important three words :

"I LOVE YOU"

And there is a time when we ended conversations our saying bye and I love you is mostly un-ended. Very sweet moment that I can not forget during that time coz love is there between us....

Until one day my fear is come that our un-ended bye to each other has to come to an end with a single word only "GOODBYE" and not to follow the word

"I LOVE YOU"...

It's so hard to explain the feelings of leaving and separating from someone you love still, but the truth saying goodbye feel cuts like a knife and stab your hearts a thousand times... I don't know why, and it's so hard to explain. Why should I feel this way, with a heart full of pain? So much to consider, in this our little affair was ended this way so fast, and it goes with saying,

"Life can be so unfair".

And thinking all that's been spoken, Rationalize it, to keep my heart from being broken. There is so much question in my mind begin with the words,

"Why's, How's and Where's"

But they are all left unanswered. Well every moment for me now is like a nightmare always sparking sad memories.

I have here in net not once but twice having a broken hearted, and at the end, feeling of guilt incurred with me and to blame my self why I've learned them to love and why I have to believe that virtual love will end in a happy ending story like when I was a kid and reading so many fairytales book, assuming that can happen within me someday... I bet this sad memories of mine is not that easy to forget, time can tell, time can heal;When? I don't know' but I have to be strong and move on to fast as much as I can until my heart is ready again, it will get better and it just takes time. I know it sucks to remember stuff you'd rather forget, I'm just going to sit back and let whatever happens to happen... enjoy my life with friends and let God drive for my wheel of life ... nothing else I can do! And for my ended love thanks for everything, there is no regret that i gave my love for you, the only regret is,

"You are not meant for me",

Soon you will realize that somehow you will understand how pure my love I have given you ...
Take no offense to both of you; you don't deserve my love indeed...

Good luck!!!

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SO MUCH FOR THE MEMORIES!


Friday, March 27, 2009




Cheating is not a caught in the moment thing if you are really into
your significant other, you miss them when you are not with them, you
don't look for a way to hurt or deceive them.



So, are cheaters born cheaters, or do certain situations cause people
to cheat? Probably a little bit of both. Here are some situations that
make people cheat:



1. Bored

I'd say this is the most common reason that people cheat.It's tough to
keep that edge throughout a relationship. Things start off grand and
then level off and then you both realize that it's still real life.
When you meet someone else, that inaugural excitement of a new
relationship kicks back in.



2. Dependence

At first glance, cheating seems like independent behavior. It could be
interpreted as doing what you want, when you want. But I would argue
that cheating is a dependent behavior. A cheater is dependent because
they are not strong enough to break up with their significant other in
order to get with the new person.



3. Confusion

Sometimes life or a particular situation can get to you. When the
perfect storm of confusion is going on in your head, you make mistakes.



4. Because They Let You

If any girl ever cheated on me, I'd break up with her immediately.
Forgiving a cheater is putting up with it, and starts a vicious cycle.
That person who cheated may lose respect for you and might continue to
cheat-because they know they can get away with it, because you'll
continue to take them back.



5. Nurturing

If someone is mistreating you, then your first instinct is to get away
from him or her. But sometimes it's not that simple-maybe you are
raising kids together. If you feel trapped in a bad relationship, it's
only natural that you will run to the open arms of a person who treats
you well.



6. Revenge

This is quite simple- an eye for an eye. Cheat on them if they cheat on
you. If they continuously hurt you or abuse you in some way, you do it
to get them back.



7. Confirmation of Attractiveness

Sometimes when you're in a long relationship, or if your significant
other is taking you for granted, you begin to wonder if you're still
attractive. Perhaps, because you were out on the dating circuit, you
felt more attractive when you were single. If you have an affair,
you've proven that a new person can be attracted to you.



8. The Thrill

Some people just enjoy the thrill of cheating: running around secretly,
risking getting caught, andcreating thrilling moments with a forbidden
romance.



9. They Don't Consider It Cheating, Even Though You Might

Relationships have that grey area, usually right before you become
exclusive. He thinks date #4 is when you're "together," and you think
date #2 is when you're "together." If you haven't talked about
exclusivity, someone may think they are well within their rights to see
other people, even though the other person in the relationship may not.



I don't understand why people don't break up as soon as they have an
urge to cheat. Is it natural to have temptation, or is temptation a
sign that the relationship is losing its fire? What reasons would you
add to this list, and do you disagree with any? If you've ever cheated,
why did you do it? Could you forgive a cheater? If you are single, but
seeing a person who is in a committed relationship, does that make you
a cheater?



IF MY MEMORY SERVES ME RIGHT...

I REMEMBER WHEN IT USED TO BE NORMAL & COOL FOR LOVERS TO HOLD EACH OTHER'S HANDS, GUYS HAD MANNERS, THEY TREATED FEMALES WITH RESPECT & THE LADIES SHOWED THEIR APPRECIATION FOR THAT...SO, WHAT HAPPENED TO THOSE DAYS?





DO YOU REMEMBER YOUR FIRST KISS? THE FEELING THAT CAME WITH IT? SO REAL, SO AUTHENTIC?

WELL THESE DAYS THE MAJORITY OF US JUST LIVE IN HOPES OF RELIVING THOSE KIND OF MOMENTS, BECAUSE IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS TODAY EVERYTHING IS SO DAMN COMPLICATED! MEN ARE USUALLY JUST LOOKING FOR SEX & SOME FUN WHILE WOMEN MOST OFTEN ARE USUALLY LOOKING FOR LOVE, SO THAT'S A BIG ISSUE RIGHT THERE ISN'T IT? WELL WHATEVER YOUR CURRENT SITUATION MAY BE, WHEN IT COMES TO ANY KIND OF RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN MEN & WOMEN..COMMUNICATION IS THE MOST IMPORTANT KEY/TO HELP U SEE/HOW TO BE/DRAMA-FREE..TRUST ME!

ONCE UPON A TIME MEN & WOMEN DIDN'T JUST JUMP IN BED JUST FOR RANDOM QUICKIES. THEY OFTEN TOOK THEIR TIME TO LEARN THINGS ABOUT EACH OTHER & THEN MADE-LOVE...NICE & SLOW, YES FOR HOURS...REMEMBER THOSE GOOD TIMES? I'M SURE YOU DO, BECAUSE I DAMN SURE DO!LOL

AND YOU KNOW MEN DIDN'T JUST GET UP & LEAVE RIGHT AFTER EITHER...THEY ACTUALLY STAYED TO CUDDLE, SPOON OR EVEN PLAY AROUND IN THE BED. YES IT'S TRUE THAT WHEN A GUY IS REALLY FEELING A WOMAN, THEN HE'LL DO ALL THOSE SILLY ASS THINGS HE WOULDN'T EVEN THINK ABOUT DOING OUTSIDE OF THE BEDROOM. iT'S ALSO TRUE THAT MOST GUYS HAVE PROBLEMS EXPRESSING THEIR EMOTIONS, BECAUSE IN MOST OFTEN NOBODY EVER TAUGHT THEM HOW TO DO THAT..YOU KNOW, TALK ABOUT THEIR FEELINGS SO THAT'S WHY THEY USUALLY REFUSE TO TALK ABOUT THEM. NOW WHAT SHOULD A WOMAN DO? WELL IT'S SIMPLE..YOU CAN EITHER MAKE IT CLEAR TO A GUY THAT YOU NEED HIM TO OPEN UP & COMMUNICATE OR, UMMM, WELL JUST KEEP IT MOVING 4 REAL!!! I'M JUST SAYING THAT IF YOU WASTE TIME DEALING WITH THE WRONG PERSON THEN YOU'RE JUST MISSING ALL THE TIME GOOD TIMES YOU COULD BE HAVING WITH THE RIGHT PERSON...TRUE STORY!

SAYING I LOVE YOU...

THIS USED TO BE A HARD THING TO TELL SOMEONE, BECAUSE PEOPLE ONLY SAID IT WHEN THEY REALLY MEANT IT! UNFORTUNATELY, MOST MEN & WOMEN NOW-A-DAYS REALLY DON'T TAKE ONE ANOTHER ALL THAT SERIOUS. THAT'S WHY THEY USUALLY PREFER TO JUST PLAY SILLY GAMES WITH EACH OTHER'S FEELINGS SO ALL WE'RE REALLY LEFT WITH ARE TRICKY ILLUSIONS OF HAPPY RELATIONSHIPS, HOOK-UPS, BOOTY-CALLS, JUMP-OFFS OR WHATEVER IT IS..WHICH ALWAYS START OUT REALLY EXCITING RIGHT? THEN ONE DAY YO AZZ WAKE UP & FIND YOURSELF CAUGHT UP IN ANOTHER JERRY SPRINGER EPISODE.LOL

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING THOUGH...WITH ALL THE DRAMA & CRAZY SHYT PEOPLE DO OUT THERE I STILL BELIEVE IN REAL LOVE, HOLDING HANDS, FRENCH KISSES, ROMANTIC GESTURES & DOING THE SIMPLE THINGS THAT MATTER THE MOST IN LIFE.

WHAT ABOUT YOU?

Love Is Inspiration


Disease can be a mighty foe. Cancer is the name of one of the foes many face and fight. Who can judge how much a fellow friend endures as each one of us has our measure of pain which can be tolerated. Many look at disease such as Cancer as a death sentence, or the end of their life, which brings a dark foe called fear. It is in this fear we will overcome fear or we will be defeated by fear.

It’s not something you do or don’t do that overcomes the body and death comes. Death comes to each of us in many ways.There’s no measure of faith that determines who will survive and who dies of disease. Being a spiritual person, I have personally heard the best intentioned people say to someone who has cancer, “if you have enough faith in Christ, you will live.” That’s a wonderful statement, yet our faith in God and how good or bad we have lived our lives does not determine one’s survival of the big C or any other terrible disease.

God makes himself known in many ways and in many religions. He has different names for different people. In the Bible it is written, “Who can know the mind of God?” In the same way faith is born and nurtured. I can’t say to anyone suffering with Cancer or any painful disease, there is a way to
become one of the lucky
ones who survives disease or disaster.

Is there a good time for anyone to say good by to those they love? I just don’t have an answer. My answer may differ from yours.What I can share is that I know what I believe. I know living each day to the fullest and knowing what unconditional love is a gift to all of us. Being born at the time of your birth set you on a course of choices. For myself, I don’t know how I will walk through death, but I do know, that I will not be alone nor will I be afraid.

For me, death marks a new beginning not and ending to whom I am
and always will be. I believe it’s how we live each day that inspires another person or makes that person wonder about their own humanity.I believe we can inspire the sick by being there
to be their hands and feet. When they are weak. I believe we can comfort and bring joy to the sick and perhaps in doing that, you will have inspired one person during one of the most difficult times in their life. Don’t wonder what you can do to help someone who is sick. Give…give…give…your love. Perfect love casts out fear God tells us. Many want to help but they too are locked in fear to stand up and look at sickness and death in the face.

Why, I believe they are afraid, and question their own mortality.



Love Is Inspiration

Let your arms enfold us through the darkness, I pray.
Let hosts of angels lead the way. May you bring us
succor when we grow tired. And always stay by our side.

For in our dreams a stream will flow, like the warmest rain.
The solace of God’s lasting love shall bring comfort to our race.
Whether we must go, or stay only God will have a say; Yet, he will
always hold us close n his Holy Grace.

We shall feel God’s Spirit embrace us in our sorrow
as darkness unfolds it’s wings. God will lift us up
where eyes may see Divine light.

We shall hold dear, the winds of time, our love enduring
the hardest of harsh; and, when pain reaches for our very
soul, Angels will bring comfort to keep us warm.

In every life there comes a time we look at strife and cry,
Why me, Oh God must I bare this cross of great despair.
It’s here we face the greatest storm, filled with tears and
sails of pain. Screaming out in the hell of fear. Why me?
Oh God I cry.

Life may bring us many sorrows, trials and losses beyond
compare, where suffering, pain and death may come to us,
at which time is unknown.

The joy is living every day. Finding beauty along our way. It’s
living and giving the best we have to those who come our way,
with joy and sharing all that we are in unconditional ways.

Life lived to its fullest has no time. It’s the cadence of each
heart beat that overcomes the deepest dark. Faith to know how
much you’re loved; faith to fight the good fight. Faith to know
there’s another door, when life on earth must end.

Sorrow has no bounty in death, for life forever lives. There is
an end to pain and suffering where eyes will see new life
forever resurrected, in God’s eternal delight.

Thursday, March 26, 2009


YOU STILL CAPTIVATE ME AFTER ALL THIS TIME

(I wrote this for a friend and her fiance')

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I run from my own thoughts as they yell at me from the inside.
I think of your voice until it overwhelms my being, pulling me from where I hide.
I would walk a thousand miles of dreaded fear just to feel you.
I would swim through the deepest of oceans to hold your face within my hands.
Have you ever stared at your ceiling wondering;
I trace the years with my fingers across a torn page in my mind,
I escape from my self too many times, to places nobody can find.
Images haunt this soul; Images only you would understand.
Images of your face painted into my soul,
Thinking up ways to frame it; Allowing it to create me whole.
Life can be so cruel with all it's speaking of "Fate".
Don't the Gods know it isn't fate, if you have to wait.
How many hours must pass before the sun will shine;
How often must the river flow, to recognize together we are divine.
Shall I rest my thoughts my love,
Shall I sleep one final night?
Perhaps when morning comes,
Fate will find me absent of my fight.
Perhaps.
One day;
One day you shall see,
That your the only soul who has ever meant anything,
Anything,
To,
me.

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Beauty



Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

She was not beautiful.
Nothing about her was extraordinary.
Nothing about her made her stand out in a crowd.
She grew up in a family of six.
The eldest, she learnt responsibility at an early age.
As she grew stronger, and brighter,
She instilled a sort of light cheer to whomever she met.

She was not beautiful.
But she made others feel beautiful about them.
She meets a rebel boy who thinks he's all man.
Befriending him, she teaches him how to read,
A little boost the man needed to go to college.

They became friends fast and she fell,
Fast in love with her rugged, handsome student.
The "man" then finds himself in a dilemma..
He soon found himself in love with a girl.
A girl so beautiful, she turned even the grouchiest men's head.
Her hair was a halo of light around her,
Her eyes the bluest blue of ocean.
Like an angel he tells his tutor
Like a beautiful angel.

The girl swallows a lump at her throat,
She was not beautiful..
She did not possess the heart of the one she loved..
But she did not care.
As long as he was happy,
She would be or so she tried to.

She helped him write the most beautiful letter to his angel,
All the time envisioning that it was she herself
Receiving those very letters.
And so the girl helped him choose the right words,
Buy the right gifts for his angel..
His angel brought him much joy,
And much pain to the girl who cried behind her smiles.
But that never stopped her from giving more
Than she will ever receive.

Then one day, all hell broke loose.
The angel he loved left him for another man,
A richer, more successful man.
The boy was stunned..
He was so hurt he did not speak for days.
The girl went to him.
He cried on her shoulder and she cried with him.
He hurt and so did she.

Time went by.
And so the wounds healed.
The boy realizes something about his friend/tutor
He never realized before.
How her laughter sounded heavenly...
Or how her smiles brightened up the darkest days.
Or simply how beautiful, yes beautiful she looked to him!

Beautiful.
This plain, simple girl was beautiful to him.
And he began to fall.
Fall so in love with this beautiful girl.

One day, he picks up all his courage to see her.
He walked to her house, nervous and fidgeting.
Running his thoughts over and over in his head.
He was going to tell her how beautiful she was to him.
He was going to tell her how wonderfully in love he was with her.

He knocked.
No one was home.
The next day he finds out,
The beautiful girl he fell in love with
had had a brain aneurysm, putting her into a coma.
The doctors were grim and the family decided to let her go.

One final time he got to see her.
He held her hand.
He stroked her hair.
And he cried for this beautiful girl.
He cried, for he will never see her smile.
Or hear her speak his name.
He cried.
But it was too late.
The beautiful girl was buried and the heavens broke out
In a beautiful spring shower, a cry for their loss.
She was the most beautiful girl in the world.

Look around you.
Aren't there a lot of plain faces?
Take a good look.
A real good look or you might miss out
On that beautiful person.
Forever . . .


Think about it seriously. May be u find one..................


Ability or Intelligence

We are all in the midst of understanding ,all of us have a different reasoning,power of learning,logical,intellectual,talent,and so on and so forth. But sometimes have you tried to ask yourself regarding our ability and Intelligence. Some of you will raised up their eyebrows , for giving the same meaning about ability and Intelligence,if you can look at it, it seems so different in meaning , because there are no two words with the same meaning, but for me its definitely true, all words have different usage,just like our own fingers with different sizes and with different activity. No in this world have a perfect and accurate ways of living . What is all about? Its only a very simple analysis for what we saw, and for what we experienced, it validates everything ,because of that, all of our theories turned into a fact , a fact of reality, just like what I always saying,”There is no perfect rules without the presence of a given facts or Reality”. All our needs as a human being are based on reality. As a homo sapiens , we are all created equally,but we have a reasonable task to perform while we are still living,we have a different capability to acquire and apply knowledge,we have a faculty of thought and reason,we have a superior power of mind, sometimes and always as a gift from our beloved creator and that is “Intelligence”. In our modern days now, from the beginning until the time of our physical retirement,all of us have vision of hope for whatever the things that we are doing, someone have a quality of being able to do something, most specially physical,mental ,financial or any means or legal power to accomplish something, which collaborate a natural or acquired skill or talent referred as “Ability”.

In the past up to our present time, it so obvious ,a remarkable contribution from the old ages, and still we are all a beneficiary of all the inventions of our ancestors like the technology of light by Thomas Edison , in telecommunication, invented by Alexander Graham Bell ,for his astounding ability of curiosity, he invented our telephone for his acquired skills ,no one will questioned his ability, that most of intelligent individual sometimes and always doesn't have. From the human history ,we recognized all inventors around the globe because of their natural ability even without any merit of title of honorship but having” acquired skill”considered as Ability. In our modern times, all successful individual use their ability like William (Bill ) Gates III (Microsoft Corporation), Warren Buffet (Berkshire Hathaway)Carlos Sim Helu (Telecommunication)Laksmi Mittal etc,, all of them are not having any scholastic records during their school days ,they are only an average individual took place a successful businessmen and considered as a top billionaires of the world.

All of us are capable to acquire intelligence through our parents,our peers,our school but we never acquired natural skill or talent thru intelligence.

Tuesday, March 24, 2009

"Learn a Lesson in Life each day that you live"


Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there.....…to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or help figure out who you are or who you want to become.

You never know who these people may be but, when you lock eyes with them, you know that every moment they will affect your life in some profound way.
And sometimes things happen to you at the time that may seem horrible, painful and unfair but, upon reflection, you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, will power or heart.

Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of good luck. Illness, Injury, love, lost moments of true greatness and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul.

Without these small tests, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. Safe and comfortable but dull and utterly pointless. The people you meet affect your life. The successes and downfalls that you experience can create who you are, and the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones.

If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart to. If someone loves you, love them back, unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because they are teaching you to love and open your heart and eyes to little things.

Make every day count. Appreciate every moment and take from it everything that you possibly can, for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people you have never talked to before, and actually listen. Let yourself fall in love, break free and set your sights high.

Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don’t believe in yourself, no one else will believe in you.

You can make anything you wish of your life. Create your own life and then go out and live it with absolutely no regrets.

And if you love someone tell them, for you never know what tomorrow may have in store.

Learn a lesson in life each day that you live! Today is the tomorrow you were worried about yesterday. Was it worth it?

Friday, March 20, 2009

"Majority Of Males Go For Cool Chics"




A
Cool chick doesn't get BORED because she knows how to use her own brain and have fun whether she is wealthy and has all kinds of creature comforts and gadgets or if she is broke and living in a place less than desirable. In fact a person that is lacking, it seems, would have more drive to DO something than someone who already HAS done and thus has. So please don't tell me that u r bored cause I may throw a book at u. lol......+..

A Cool chick realizes that there is something bigger than herself; not only GOD but also the people that are suffering in this world, the sick, starving, deprived, wrongfully incarcerated, and others in need.....
..+..

A
Cool chick is one that stays in shape who realizes her body is like a temple and must be cherished, have a lovely fragrance, and kept in shape for she never knows when service might be performed on her grounds.....
..+..

A
Cool chick knows when her partner/friend isn't feeling well or is sick and that even if he says he's ok and that she doesn't have to stay with him that is only cause he is being a hard ass like most men but really still want the love/caring of the chick to help encourage him to feel better.......+..

A
Cool chick knows how to be respectful and think about what she says before she says it. She chooses her words with care and wisdom.....

A
Cool chick is not quick to argue but would rather defuse than infuse anger and destruction.....
..+..

A Cool chick does not tell u one thing and then do another; like say she's going to give u that awesome back rub or other thing perhaps more freaky and then doesn't follow through with it cause she's too tired or some other bs. Hahaha, if ya say ya gonna do it, then ladies, DO IT! Think of NIKE.
..+..

A Cool chick doesn't say she loves u, that she could see being with you forever, and that the Lord above must have sent u 2 her, when really all she wants to do is F#ck. Come on, us real men can take the truth, if that's all u want, most won't look down on u 4 it. We don't have time for mixed up lil girls that have horni lil bodies which they can't control and thus say whatever they can to try and get what they want. I know lil boys play this game 2 but girls u should know better than to play this way. How would u feel if a dude did this to U!? "I love u baby oh so much" and then the next day he act as if those words didn't mean a damn thing?

5 Ways to Get a High Quality Boyfriend

Women constantly complain that they cannot find quality men. Only last night I listened to a long time friend of mine mouth the recurring theme of "no good men left."


Well the truth be told, high quality things are not easy to find. High quality, valuable stones are not only expensive but very rare. Their value is proportionate to their scarcity. Gold, diamond and other precious stones are premium because they are not easy to come by.

Accept that quality men are a rare breed

My first suggestion in finding a quality man is to accept that he will not be waiting for you around the street corner or knocking on you door tomorrow. Understand and be prepared to sift through the rubble to find your diamond of a man. Most diamonds actually come in the rough. They have to be cleaned, cut and polished. I do believe that you may have to kiss many frogs to find your prince.

Quality men are not always "ready made."

Although many women would not admit many women behave as if the man they want has to be "ready made." That is they should possess with most if not all of the qualities they dream about.

"I don't want someone I have to work on," Ashley told me in no uncertain terms, after I pointed out that Chris is a work in progress. Ironically I do think the she needs some polishing herself as she can be very brash and blunt.

Be a high quality person

Well that brings me to my third point; in order to get a high quality man, you need to be a high quality woman. You cannot be a pig and expect to attract a peacock. That is not the way it works in real life. If you want an intelligent person, you need to cultivate your intellect. If want a person of class and dignity you need to be classy and dignified. I think it was Ghandi who said you need to be the change you want to see in the world.

While opposites attract it is similarity that binds people together.

Have many high quality friends and associates

A corollary point to this is that you need to have quality friends. Birds of a feather not only flock together but they attract similar birds that also bring their friends and family along. The important point here is simply to have friends and associates like the person you want to attract in your life. Each of these people, have a network of friends, one of whom may be the person you are looking for. Many people admit that they met their husband through a friend, colleague or family. Someone once said that you are only six persons away from what you want. In other words someone you know, knows someone, who knows someone else, etc who can put you in touch with who and what you want. Start expanding your base of friendship to include people of the same ilk of the person you desire.

Lastly but certainly not least, if you are looking for a high quality man, you need to go to high quality places. High quality places should not be interpreted to mean expensive places. It simply means you should frequent places where many of these types of people hang out. For example if you want an ambitious man you should going inspirational and motivational meeting or even meetings where investment and money making ventures are discussed and taught. If love and admire people who can speak elegantly maybe you should join Toast Masters International. The chance of you finding a compatible person in these meetings is significantly increased.

In summary, to find a quality man:

  1. Accept that the process is not going to be a piece of cake. Good things are not easy to acquire. Good men are hard to get. Accepting this makes the process a lot easier.
  2. Realize that the gem you are looking may not first appear like a polished diamond.
  3. To get a quality man you must also be a quality woman.
  4. To increase the probability of meeting a quality man have lots of quality friends and associates
  5. To heighten your chances of meeting a quality man visit places where quality men gather.


Tips on How to Get Girls to Notice You


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easons Why Girls Can't See You - 5 Tips on How to Get Girls to Notice You

You're not a ghost are you? But why do the girls seem to see right through you? If you've always been the guy women never seem to see or the only guy in the group everyone hardly remembers, it's time you try to get a little acknowledgment. Or get noticed at least.

You need poise, you need confidence, and you need to build rapport! You have to have that X-factor that makes you more noticeable. It's time you know how to get girls to notice you. Eliminate all the possible aspects of your personality that makes you a victim of being unnoticed. Here are give of the worst traits you wouldn't want to have and get rid of them one by one.

1. You're probably too shy. If you are too shy, you will definitely have a difficult time attracting girls. Girls are prone to not noticing guys who hardly make noise or are hardly heard so if you want to be on their radar, try to be more active and more confident. Walk with poise and make people know that you know how to handle yourself and you are fun to be with. Try to be less timid and joke around with people sometimes.

2. You lack a sense of humor. Your seriousness could probably be getting in the way of being noticed. Not a lot of guys have the perfect sense of humor and you could be one of them, but try to be lighter and happier than your usual self. Share jokes sometimes, learn to laugh at other people, as well as yourself, but if you want to keep an intriguing side of yourself, do so. Instead of always being the clown, be funny sometimes while on other days, be serious also. In short, keep a balanced personality.

3. You probably need to do something about your hair, or your attire. You appearance can say so much about you and if you want to be considered as someone who dresses well, then simply, dress properly. Be neat at all times, wear color coordinated clothes, and try to keep your hair and teeth clean. Women can notice you by your appearance alone, because first and foremost, attraction starts with one's physical appearance. Put a thought into your looks before setting out to meet people; however, don't be vain. Remember, moderation is key.

4. You don't converse with people. If it is hard for you to lose shyness, it'll actually be harder for you to simply converse with people; and talking with people is a big way for you to get noticed. You must know how to talk to people and how to befriend them. Remember, people who hardly make a sound are most likely easier to forget and if you don't want to fall under that unfortunate list of the forgotten, then start talking and start making friends.

5. You lack originality. A lot of guys lack the most important trait of all and that's simply by being themselves. They tend to pretend they're someone famous and some might even dress like a celebrity, but end up to be a big turn-off for women instead. Women hate imitators of a certain person and would most definitely want someone to act like himself instead. To impress women, you must act as yourself and not as anybody else.

It's time you get rid of these 5 distracting traits if you want to know how to get girls to notice you. If you want your presence to be appreciated, then try to befriend people while at the same time, acting like your own usual self. The key on how to get girls to notice you is simply confidence and acting yourself.

"Are You Living With A Purpose Or You Need A Purpose To Live?"




Did you ever contemplate taking your life? What leads a person to commit suicide? Why do some people fall into a deep state of depression? Doctors and psychiatrists can only speculate the reasons to these questions from examining thousands of case studies. But how can a doctor or any person really know what goes on in someone's mind? Our minds aren't equal.

Doctors can diagnose cancer, and through scientific studies and research, provide a treatment to put it into remission. But our minds can't be examined in the same fashion as a disease. Our thoughts, with their underlying fears and motivators, are intricate and unique; therefore, not measurable.

If ten people were asked to describe the color red in an apple, I'm betting that each person's description would be a bit different. Perception is key, isn't it? But here's what got me thinking. What makes a person self destruct? Where does their wiring go wrong? Can we legitimately blame our
parents for the way we feel?

I'm going to go out on a limb and say, no. I believe that we are subject to their habits and personalities, and as a
result, can learn their behaviors, but there's more to it. The mechanics of what makes a person tick is multi-faceted; and why people fall into depression has a lot to do with feeling unfulfilled.

We've all heard the stories about Jim Morrison, Janice Joplin, Jimmy Hendrix, and so many other famous artists and actors, who've overdosed on drugs at a very early age. Some of these people deliberately took their lives while others died accidentally.

Their successes, and the rush that accompanies it, was achieved so early in life that they felt the need to experience something that would take them higher. What does a person do to achieve this rush after they've exhausted all other possibilities? What do you do after you've had it all and done it all? How high can we go?


People, like you and me, try our best to make our lives better, yet millions of us suffer from deep depression. Some are battling an addiction, while others are feeling so useless that they want to die. They wake up, take a good look around, and ask the frightening question that has plaqued the greatest of minds since the beginning of humanity. They ask, is this all there is?

Now, I understand that everyone doesn't have these thoughts. We're not alike. But through reading and observing, it appears that deep thinkers and artists suffer more than the everyday person. Like these great minds, I too, have asked myself if this was all there was. Now, I'm not just saying the phrase "is this all there is" as a generic statement. I'm serious. For me, the feeling of being useless, and questioning my existence, pushed me into asking this very question.

I was unhappy with my life and felt that I didn't have anything to look forward to. I didn't have an interest in things. I was bored with the club scene. I was bored with hearing the talkers talk. I was bored with the game. When I examined what was left, I asked the question that I was afraid to get the answer to.

I felt that there had to be more than merely existing. There had to be more than acting robotically. There had to be more than what I was doing--getting up, going to work, acting out the part and not receiving the applauds.

It was during this period of my life when I relapsed into a disorder known as agoraphobia. All the questions that plagued me for years, the very same questions that I asked but was afraid to get the answers to, were surfacing to my conscience.

These questions made me think--they made me pick apart my life and curse my existence. I didn't want to face these questions because facing them meant facing the answers that went along with them.


Finally, out of desperation to rid myself of the disorder, I turned to the one thing that I didn't believe in, and that was God. I begged Him to show me my purpose. I begged Him to tell me if there was more to life than what I was experiencing? I had to know if there was more. And I found out that there is more. We can go higher if we look past the material things.


Follow me on this. Buying cars and boats, and jewels and vacations, only gives a temporary high. After they're gone, how do you get another rush? Most people keep buying. They buy bigger cars and boats, bigger houses and more jewels. If you have money, you keep buying. Finally, when you have obtained it all, what's next? Drugs? Gambling?

Listen. We can only go so high. The money can only give us so much gratification. When you've done it all, you have to find something else to give you that high, and drugs isn't the answer. But reaching out to others, is. When you have it all, it's time to start giving back. Helping people, in any capacity, is the way. It's the only way.

I was only a young girl when Peggy Lee shot to fame with her song, Is That All There Is, and now I understand why the song went big. Ask yourself . . . is this all there is?

"If There Are Problems Because There Are Solutions"

Dealing with life's ups and downs

Life is full of ups and downs. What is life? To me, I think life is a journey. A journey to where we want to go. A journey to your dreams and goals. The path leading to our destination is not a smooth ones. Depending on where we want to go, some paths are smoother while some are harder to climb as it might be steeper and rockier than the other paths. Whether the paths are easy to 'walk' also depend on your brain power, this means that whether you have the determination and also depend on your stamina and strength. You might be wondering what I mean. I am just quoting an analogy of what our life is like. The paths refer to our daily lives and the stones or rocks refer to the obstacles that we face while we are dealing with our daily lives.

Whether you are a kid or you are a teenager or you are in your fifties, we all are faced with happiness and unhappiness in our lives. It is just normal. Some people can cope with the ups and downs of life while some cannot. For those people who cannot cope with it, they end their lives or resort to consumption of alcohol, drug abuse, and still others when cannot cope with the stress of life develop mental illness.
  • So how do we deal with life's ups and downs? I think, it all come from education and your own mindset. In the school time, we are not taught of what is life, how to deal with difficulties, how to cope with stress and so forth. We are only taught on academic subjects. Excel academically is what was stressed on previously.

In school, children are loaded with piles of work to do. At home, they have to do extra work as in having tuition or attending special classes so as not to 'lose out' to their peers (as some parents would think). For working people, they are faced with pressures from work and having to cope with work and family and also parenting duties. Because of all these, a lot of people are gradually developing mental illness of some kind or another. If from young, we are taught in school about dealing with all these problems then people can at least learn from these skills. Otherwise, a lot of people now how to resort to reading and learning from themselves, seeking self-improvement books.

Depending on education alone is not enough. Learning is one thing and practicing it and doing it is another thing. A lot of things have to depend on your own. If you do not want to 'help' yourself, nobody else can help you. You can read lots of books, attend a lot of seminars, but if you don't practice what you have learnt, it would be useless. What I mean is even if you have knowledge of what to do when face with problems, you have to practice what you have learnt. You have to be brave, you have to have a clear mind. Though is easy to say but difficult to do, but it is not impossible if you have a determine mindset to do anything you are determine to do. The main thing is to persevere.

With the correct mindset, and will-power, we should persevere til the end of our life's destination, despite the rocks and stones which stand in our way. Sometimes we might get a tripped and fall down. It is painful and you might have bruises, but be brave, stand up and clean yourself up again, rest for a while if you want. There is no hurry. When you fall down, think of why you fall down. How you are going to learn from your mistake. When you are ready, you are able to bring yourself to a greater distance. This time, you have to be prepared to walk a longer distance to compensate for what you have lost or missed.

Walking alone is very lonely. Sometimes you can walk in groups or in twos. Try to associate with positive people. When you are with positive people with a positive mind, you will soon inherit their thinking also, and you too will be happier. If you are always with negative people and always harbour negative thoughts, then life would be very miserable for you and to deal with life's up and downs would even be harder for you.

It seems like I have been narrating about all the life's down moments. Life got its 'ups'. What do we do with it? People seldom remember what you do good in but always remember what you are the bad things you do. We should change our mindset. Try to see the 'good' in every people rather than the 'flaws' in people. When we are in the happy moments of our lives, treasure it, try to 'prolong' it, and when we are in the 'down' moments, that is in our sad times, we can think back of our good time, and that will give you a 'power' and strength to 'pull' you up from your fall.

To see a clearer picture, these are my views on dealing with life's ups and downs:

Dealing with Ups of life



1. Treasure it
2. Have a good friend
3. store all the good memories in your special brain (so that you can always retrieve out in times of sadness. This will help boost your energy to move on from your fall, if any.)
4. Spread and share your happiness with people around you.

Dealing with Downs of life

1. be brave
2. let it out (have a diary or friend where you can pour your sorrows, seek help from. This well help you to feel better. Talk about it. Cry if you must. You will feel better.
3. Surround with Positive people
4. Do not have negative thoughts. Always think positive.
5. Improve your knowledge. Read more books on areas you want to improve yourself.
6. Think of where you go wrong and how to be better in future
7. What you should possess: Be determined, have a strong will-power and persevere to achieve your dreams.
8. learn from your mistakes when you fall; and try not to make the same mistakes again.

It's not easy to practice the above though it is easier said. However, I believe that with determination and patience, impossible would become I M POSSISIBLE.

Thursday, March 19, 2009

"You Mesmerize Me"


Current mood: blessed
Category: Writing and Poetry
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I THOUGHT ABOUT YOU TOO
IT FELT LIKE THE RIGHT THING TO DO
THE MORE I THOUGHT
THE MORE I SEEN IT TO BE TRUE
I THOUGHT ABOUT YOUR SMILE,
THAT ALWAYS DRIVES ME WILD
I THOUGHT ABOUT THE WAY YOU LIFT MY MIND
THE JOY YOU BRING IS NEVER HARD TO FIND
YOU FEEL SO CLOSE
EVEN WHEN YOU ARE FAR AWAY
I THINK DAY TO DAY
HOW YOU MAKE MY HEART'S MUSIC PLAY
A MELODY
THAT RIDES A LONG WITH THE SWEET WORDS YOU SAY
I THOUGHT ABOUT YOU SO MANY TIMES
BEFORE THE POEM AND BETWEEN EACH LINE
I THOUGHT OF YOU WITH EACH CHILL YOU SEND UP MY SPINE
I THOUGHT ABOUT YOU

AS I LICKED MY LIPS
YOUR RICH CHOCOLATE, I WOULD SLOWLY SIP
THE WAY YOUR HAND REST ON MY HIP
AS WE WALK A LONG OUR PASSIONATE TRIP
I THOUGHT ABOUT
THE FUNNY WAY YOU WOULD MAKE ME LAUGH
AND THE QUIET MOMMENTS WE WOULD HAVE
ME LAYING IN YOUR ARMS WATCHING TV
A REALITY SHOW, WATCHING US JUST BE
I THOUGHT OF YOU ALSO.... MISSING ME!

"Color of Friendship"


Once upon a time the colors of the world started to quarrel.

All claimed that they were the best.
The most important.

The most useful.
The favorite.

Green said:
"Clearly I am the most important. I am the sign of life and of hope. I was chosen for grass, trees and leaves. Without me, all animals would die. Look over the countryside and you will see that I am in the majority."

Blue interrupted:
"You only think about the earth, but consider the sky and the sea. It is the water that is the basis of life and drawn up by the clouds from the deep sea. The sky gives space and peace and serenity. Without my peace, you would all be nothing."

Yellow chuckled:

"You are all so serious. I bring laughter, gaiety, and warmth into the world. The sun is yellow, the moon is yellow, the stars are yellow. Every time you look at a sunflower, the whole world starts to smile. Without me there would be no fun."

Orange started next to blow her trumpet:

"I am the color of health and strength. I may be scarce, but I am precious for I serve the needs of human life. I carry the most important vitamins. Think of carrots, pumpkins, oranges, mangoes, and papayas. I don't hang around all the time, but when I fill the sky at sunrise or sunset, my bea
uty is so striking that no one gives another thought to any of you."

Red could stand it no longer he shouted out:
"I am the ruler of all of you. I am blood - life's blood! I am the color of danger and of bravery. I am willing to fight for a cause. I bring fire into the blood. Without me, the earth would be as empty as the moon. I am the color of passion and of love, the red rose, the poinsettia and the poppy."

Purple rose up to his full height:
He was very tall and spoke with great pomp: "I am the color of royalty and power. Kings, chiefs, and bishops have always chosen me for I am the sign of authority and wisdom. People do not question me! They listen and obey."

Finally Indigo spoke, much more quietly than all the others, but with just as much determination: "Think of me. I am the color of silence. You hardly
notice me, but without me you all become superficial. I represent thought and reflection, twilight and deep water. You need me for balance and contrast, for prayer and inner peace."

And so the colors went on boasting, each convinced of his or her own superiority. Their quarreling became louder and louder. Suddenly there was a startling flash of bright lightening thunder rolled and boomed. Rain
started to pour down relentlessly. The colors crouched down in fear, drawing close to one another for comfort.

In the midst of the clamor, rain began to speak:
"You foolish colors, fighting amongst yourselves, each trying to dominate the rest. Don't you know that you were each made for a special purpose, unique and different? Join hands with one another and come to me."

Doing as they were told, the colors united and joined hands.

The rain continued:
"From now on, when it rains, each of you will stretch across the sky in a great bow of color as a reminder that you can all live in peace. The Rainbow is a sign of hope for tomorrow." And so, whenever a good rain washes the world, and a Rainbow appears in the sky, let us remember to appreciate one another.


Whenevr u r DEPRESSED or CONFUSED or HURT don’t worry ….Stand in front of d mirror u’ll find the best person who solve ur problem , So trust Yourself …..

A Friend is one ,who 4gives before u say sorry , understand wen u say I 4got , waits 4ever wen u say 1mint , n stay with u wen u say leave me alone .

"SELF-RESPECT"

Stop Being A Doormat


What ever happened to the words of Jesus, "It is more blessed to give than to receive"? (Acts 20:35) The idea of sacrifice and giving ourselves in service to others is viewed by many today as one of those ridiculous little outdated standards that we have done well to abandon.

Not long ago I watched some folks being interviewed on one of those daytime talk shows had the "guts" (according to the host) to stand up for themselves in life. They were then contrasted with "those 'wimps' that enjoyed being taken advantage of by serving people." One lady boasted of having over fifty jobs in the past several years because she refused to lower herself to serve her boss.

The audience applauded.

Since the '60's, millions of children have been raised with no idea of how to "sacrifice" for other people. Our society has glorified the "do what you want" ideology to such an extreme that most don't understand the concept of servanthood, much less practice it.

Most enter jobs, marriages, friendships, decisions, whatever, with a "what's in it for me" mentality. All they are interested in is, "Gimme this. Gimme that. Gimme what I want". We have developed a whole generation of "Gimme" Monsters. The "Me──Me──Me" Gimme Monster lifestyle is ultimately destructive. People who are like this can hardly get along with themselves, much less with another human being.

It is true that there are individuals who let others step on them because they are just weak people. These individuals are incapable of defending themselves. But this is not what it means to be a servant. God does not want us to think we are worthless beings that should be run over. We are creations of God and as such possess dignity and certain "inalienable rights."

But knowing who we are is not to be a foundation for living selfishly and for ourselves; understanding ourselves and our rights prepares us with the necessary strength to really serve others. Actually, the Bible teaches us that being a servant is not for weak people. It can only be expressed by individuals who have a strong sense of personal worth and freedom. Scripture says, "For you were called to freedom, only do not turn your freedom into an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another." (Galatians 5:13) Selfish people can’t serve others. They care only about themselves. They don't care about the thoughts and feelings of other people.

You may think, "EEEK, if I do this, people will take complete advantage of me!” Truth is, it will often look like that when you give yourself selflessly in relationships. However, keep in mind the God-factor. God promises to get involved and protect us when we reach out and continue giving to people who try to take advantage of us. Pr. 25:21-22, "If your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat; and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink; for you will heap burning coals on his head, and the Lord will reward you."

Romans 8 suggests that when you walk the life of a servant, you will look like a lamb led to the slaughter. "Just as it is written, 'For thy sake we are being put to death all day long; we were considered as sheep to be slaughtered.'" (Romans 8:36) But that is not the end of the story. Verse 37 says, "But in all these things we overwhelmingly conquer through Him who loved us."

Again, God is not calling us to be doormats who allow people to walk all over us. We are NEVER to allow folks to abuse us emotionally or physically—you need to run from situations like that (emotionally, if not physically—remember David in the Old Testament who ran from abusive King Saul?). The idea of selflessness can only be born out of strength, not a sense of worthlessness or low self-esteem. Grow and get strong so you can serve well and change the world!