The definition of a (Real Man!)
In my opinion....a real man is somebody who accepts responsibility for all of their actions and try not to blame other people or circumstances for their behavior...somebody who can think on his own and not be influenced by other people on how to act.....somebody who has enough sense to realize that reality is not in rap songs and that being a Real Man is not somebody who can take a life away from an unarmed person or brag about having been in prison....
A man who has character and depth underneath all of his outside possessions and physical attributes
Somebody who has a good sense of self worth and thinks he is too good to become a STATISTIC of any sort regardless of what his circumstances are and that success is measured in his own eyes not in any body elses....he is not intimidated by people who he thinks "ARE BETTER THAN HIM" because he doesnt think ANYBODY is better than him no matter how much THEY have or how little HE has....
A real man can respect and love himself and will be able to respect and love a woman worthy of that and be able to walk away from those who aren't with out a second look back....A man with all the money in the world who is generous and giving doesn't have to pay to keep a woman in his life and does know the difference of being appreciated vs being used, because he knows what genuinity and good character is in others..
And sometimes a man has to hustle to make sure his bills are paid and to get ahead, but doesn't have to spend it all on "the bar" or the biggest most expensive rims he can find to go on the smallest car, or jewelry that he wants to wear all at once everyday....if a man has to hustle then he is also investing in a home or homes for himself and his family, investing in his childs future or in his child, or tryin to open a business...Its okay to enjoy and buy things you enjoy but there is a difference between doing it because it's truly enjoyed vs doing it to show off or present false images to others ...
I am fully aware on how the male ego works and a real man isn't necessarily free from ego....but he KNOWS the difference in his actions and whether they stem from his ego or his spirit and he owns up truthfully to those actions and makes conscious efforts to work on himself
A real man knows its okay to just be himself and that he doesnt have to prove anything to anyone at anytime...he is secure with himself and who he is and he is honest and trustworthy.......a real man will attract a real woman.
He is the man who a real woman not only Can't run over but Doesn't want to run over, challenge or try to dominate and who will let him drive in the drivers seat and the one who will treat that real woman like the queen she is, respect her, listen to her, work with her...
He is the man who whether up or down a real woman will stand next to, step up for, bring back up, uplift him, nurture him, love him, grow him into an even stronger man and he does the same for her ...
And pretty much vice versa for a real woman, so for all you men who claim u cant find a good woman or women who feel they cant find a good man or a real man...look at yourselves in the mirror first and see if the problem lies in you....
Good men, Good women are out there....if you seem to keep running into no good mates, its time to look in the mirror and look at yourself and see truthfully what type of person you are .
We are all a work in progress, the way to grow, build character, evolve and overcome ego is to be honest with ourselves, change what we don't like, enhance what we do like and that Real man resides in every male , just the process and patience and learning to bring him out.
In my opinion....a real man is somebody who accepts responsibility for all of their actions and try not to blame other people or circumstances for their behavior...somebody who can think on his own and not be influenced by other people on how to act.....somebody who has enough sense to realize that reality is not in rap songs and that being a Real Man is not somebody who can take a life away from an unarmed person or brag about having been in prison....A man who has character and depth underneath all of his outside possessions and physical attributes
Somebody who has a good sense of self worth and thinks he is too good to become a STATISTIC of any sort regardless of what his circumstances are and that success is measured in his own eyes not in any body elses....he is not intimidated by people who he thinks "ARE BETTER THAN HIM" because he doesnt think ANYBODY is better than him no matter how much THEY have or how little HE has....
A real man can respect and love himself and will be able to respect and love a woman worthy of that and be able to walk away from those who aren't with out a second look back....A man with all the money in the world who is generous and giving doesn't have to pay to keep a woman in his life and does know the difference of being appreciated vs being used, because he knows what genuinity and good character is in others..
And sometimes a man has to hustle to make sure his bills are paid and to get ahead, but doesn't have to spend it all on "the bar" or the biggest most expensive rims he can find to go on the smallest car, or jewelry that he wants to wear all at once everyday....if a man has to hustle then he is also investing in a home or homes for himself and his family, investing in his childs future or in his child, or tryin to open a business...Its okay to enjoy and buy things you enjoy but there is a difference between doing it because it's truly enjoyed vs doing it to show off or present false images to others ...
I am fully aware on how the male ego works and a real man isn't necessarily free from ego....but he KNOWS the difference in his actions and whether they stem from his ego or his spirit and he owns up truthfully to those actions and makes conscious efforts to work on himself
A real man knows its okay to just be himself and that he doesnt have to prove anything to anyone at anytime...he is secure with himself and who he is and he is honest and trustworthy.......a real man will attract a real woman.
He is the man who a real woman not only Can't run over but Doesn't want to run over, challenge or try to dominate and who will let him drive in the drivers seat and the one who will treat that real woman like the queen she is, respect her, listen to her, work with her...
He is the man who whether up or down a real woman will stand next to, step up for, bring back up, uplift him, nurture him, love him, grow him into an even stronger man and he does the same for her ...
And pretty much vice versa for a real woman, so for all you men who claim u cant find a good woman or women who feel they cant find a good man or a real man...look at yourselves in the mirror first and see if the problem lies in you....
Good men, Good women are out there....if you seem to keep running into no good mates, its time to look in the mirror and look at yourself and see truthfully what type of person you are .We are all a work in progress, the way to grow, build character, evolve and overcome ego is to be honest with ourselves, change what we don't like, enhance what we do like and that Real man resides in every male , just the process and patience and learning to bring him out.
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