Friday, July 17, 2009

How to know when a man loves you

Sometimes in our lives, we are stocked in the middle of a relationship, not knowing what to do. Whether to move front or to just go back, our minds are just confused on what to do. It may be as a result of insecurity of our minds, not knowing exactly if our partner loves us or not.

Have you been wondering and bordering if that man or guy you are dating loves you? Now is the right time for you to know exactly if he loves you truly or not. I know by now, you are pondering in your shrew innermost heart, what is this guy going to talk about that I have not hear in the past? But I tell you, relax! All you need to do at this time, is to adjust your reading glasses, take a whooping sip from your juice drink, and then clear your brains off every doubts, then read on.

This article will let you know if that guy really loves you, or if he is moving around sleeping with other girls in town, all these knowledge is for free, just because you are a hubber. Now are you prepared to know this truth? Are your minds ready to explore with me, these twenty-first secrets to knowing playboys? Then follow me, but please, don’t let him know you are sneaking out with me, for a lesson on this topic, ooh! He may get me jailed for life, then how will I continue my hobby of hubbing at hubpages again?

Now, let us let this heavens loose by the way…firstly, I tell you, if a guy loves you, definitely, his feelings must be clearly reflected in his behaviors, expressions, passion and actions alike. But if he doesn’t reflect this love for you through these mediums, haha… he might be one of those playa’s. Don’t judge him yet let us examine more. Be patient.

Number one sign, if a guy loves you, his dressing style must change to your favorites. Now examine this little change, before you met him, how does he normally dress? Is he a guy that cares less about the way he dresses? Is he a type that just put on whatever he sees, in the name of wearing a cloth? If yes, then how much has this dressing habit changed since your relationship with him? Is his dressing now okay and impressive, both to you and your friends who used to complain of his dressings in the past?

Secondly, how often does he like or enjoy glancing at you, when may be you are not looking at him or not aware? If a guy likes you, he will always like to steal some look at you, when you are not aware, which you may often catch him doing, and if may be, you caught his eyes, does he normally shift his’ to avoid you knowing that he was looking at you? This a another good sign of knowing that a guy loves you, or is admiring you.

Thirdly, how often is he ready to help you out, whenever you get entrapped in a particular sort of trouble, does he sit back and just watch you suffer in pains or does he offer his hand for help; a good sign of love.

Another way to know if a guy loves you, is to watch how he enjoys communicating with you. Guys love chatting with people they love, especially the opposite sex, as a fact, a guy that loves you, will always love to discuss one thing or the other with you. He will like to share with you, stories and events that took place while you weren’t around. But if he always observe carefully, his words and language whenever he is with you, he is using vocabs, refined and very carefully selected words, probably, he doesn’t love you as much as you think.

Remember, if a guy loves you, he likes or loves to chat with you just the same way he chats with his best male friends, he uses slang, jargons and all the chatting words he uses when chatting with his best friends, except, the rude ones. So if he selects words just because you are around, be careful, he is up to something.

Again, how does he feel for your moods? Is he happy when you are happy? Or does he try to flame up your anger whenever he notices that you are angry? If he does, that is bad sign, may be he does not love you, it may be a like. Don’t forget a guy that loves you, would do anything within his reach to make you happy.

Go out with other of your friends, have a long and nice chat with them pretend you are ignoring him, and see if he is jealous about this, if he is, it is a clear indication of love. Please don’t be fooled by such statements, “I am not a jealous lover” because every person that is in love, is always jealous, it is natural, not artificial, and it cannot be held back. But if you insist that you are not a jealous lover, and you are sure you love your partner, tell your partner to be going out with your friend or a neighbor, watch them kiss or exchange warm embrace, and then evaluate your feelings.

Another clear indication that a guy loves you, is to evaluate how much he loves going out with you on a walk, with his friends, colleagues or even to religious worships. Definitely, if a guy doesn’t love you, he won’t be proud going out with you, he only enjoys spending time with you in the secret places like, bedrooms, hide outs, midnight or at corners. This may be for a reason, either that he is preventing himself from being seen by someone else he is strongly in love with or admiring. Or he doesn’t want other ladies to know that he is hooked up with someone, since he is just using you to while away his lonely times.

How often does he tell his friends and people that matter to him about you? Does he hide your relationship with him from these people? If yes, he may not be in love with you, be careful.

Sometimes, guys act like dogs; thinking of only courting or laying with the opposite sex, and then kicking them off like ball. So if a guy is only curious about sleeping with you, and after that, he backs off for some days, without bordering to see you again, don’t be fooled, he doesn’t love you at all.

Sex is not love and also sex is a bond that bonds two partners in love, so no one can define exactly if sex is love or not, it all depends on the person’s mind set. But a guy that loves you, will always consider your emotion and feelings, he will never try to force you to have sex with him, and he will never request this at an onset of a relationship, rather he allows it to envelope gradually and naturally, it must, for sure.

If a guy loves you, he likes to tell you about his past live, both the bad and the good ones, unless he has not yet developed trust in you. But if he has, he won’t know when he will do this, guys are not much complicated like ladies.

Above all, we are all humans, which makes it impossible for us to read minds, but yet, we try to analyze them through actions. As a matter of fact, to know if a guy loves you or not, watch out for his actions than words. He might tell you I love you a hundred times, and deep inside his minds, he is saying, I don’t think this girl is right for me.

Lest I forgot, I must point out clearly here that, a guy spending so much money and cash on you, doesn’t necessarily depict that he truly loves you. So don’t be fooled by material things, some guys believe on spend it, if you have it, so they spend it on any body that they wishes to have at the moment. In order words, telling your friends, “he likes spending much on me, I am madly in love with him and I know he is too” fallacy! Money has no reputable connection to true love.

Lastly, a guy that loves you, will always talk and boost about you, even when he is with his friends, he is trying to raise issues concerning ladies, just to throw in something about you. Therefore, do your best and get more acquainted with his best friends, so you will learn more about him and how much he loves you.

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