What exactly makes up a strong family that possesses good family values? A family that sustains its members — that supports and nourishes the members throughout the span of that family. A strong family unit creates a safe, positive and supportive place for all members to thrive. They are able to utilize resources and to live together in a fairly healthy manner.
The adults in a strong family set the tone. They are good role models that lead by example. They reach out to friends and community and teach their children the importance of doing the same -- and that becomes part of who the children are. They work together to solve problems, and they pass their skills on to the next generation. Some important elements of a strong family system are family cohesion, family flexibility and family communication.
Cohesion- In families cohesion would be defined as the feeling of being loved, of belonging to the group and being nurtured by it. Although closeness is good in a family unit, there must be a balance between being together and being separate. A person must be able to develop their individuality, while being supported and confident within the family. A few things that bring a family together are the commitment of other family members, and the spending of time together.
Flexibility- There must be a structure in a family or it will become chaotic and will not be a peaceful setting for a family. Conversely, there must be flexibility or the family becomes rigid and the authority figures become resented. We could compare a successful family to a democracy. There are leaders, but the whole group is involved in the decision making process. Although the leaders are in charge all members develop the ability to cope with stress, and at times lead. While the family works to avoid stressful situations they work together to solve problems, without blaming, criticizing and finding fault with each other. Families that tend to have a strong spiritual base seem to have a sense of well-being that facilitates this working together in times of stress.
Communication- Ever hear the saying, “What we have here is a failure to communicate?” A lack of communication can rip a family apart and destroy them. Things that facilitate communication are the things mentioned so far -- family closeness, flexibility, time spent together, spirituality. All members must feel a freedom within the group to express themselves freely.
Trust-trusting each member of the family is very important because they will feel that they are really part of the family,that their presence is important.Not only in material matters,you should always let them feel that you believed in them that they can do better,trust their abilities & develop them.Don't find what they don't have but inspire what they had.
Appreciation-to appreaciate every member of the family will help them boost their self-esteem & confidence to be better to achieve for the best.Don't ever discourage them with their ambitions however may it look so impossible to happen,maybe for now but who knows.Always remember that there is no impossible for those who dream & work hard to achieve it.Just always be there to support them in the way they could be better person not only within the family but also within the community that they are living.
Teach Values & Principles-it is very important that this things should be taught from home within the family bec. this will help them to be strong as a person.The foundation should be strong so that if they move in the real world they would not be easily influenced by others.
Being a good person is not just having a good life,a good job,being a good provider & being so industrious.It is how you make use of your life & how you can influence others to be better not by giving money but how to interact with others with honesty & pure intentions.
There is a piece of advice to all!
"If you could not do anything good to your fellow just don't do anything that would harm."
"If you help it should be just because the reason of helping & not for any other reasons."
"Don't help if you will be also the one who will dragged them down."
"Always try to be honest with all your dealings,if you don't like a person show it let them know,for they know who their enemies are."
"Don't choose your friends by social standing instead based it with what kind of person they are,don't judged them by what others tell what they are but see them from their intentions.
Another very important factor is the relationship between the “head” couple. In a family that is parented by a happily married couple, people are able to express themselves more freely. What they might say isn’t filtered through the problems of the “guardians.” A happy marriage seems to set the tone in the house. It spills over from the family to the community and a healthy family will be reaching out to help others. They do not tend to isolate themselves from the rest of the world.
A very important thing for families to teach their children is how to make good decisions. If they have watched their parents making well thought out decisions over the years, they will tend to be good decision makers themselves.
A healthy, happy family benefits our whole society. Among the children of strong families their is less crime, less divorce and less emotional problems. They tend to go on and have strong, healthy families of their own, having learned from their folk’s example.