Monday, October 13, 2008

Qualities of a Good Partner

Find The One You Deserve

A Happy Disposition- Look for a happy person. Find someone who has a sense of humor and can laugh at himself/herself... True happiness springs from a content heart. Beware of the person who is only happy when you are around. You’re getting tired of being responsible for another person’s happiness. You could end up feeling guilty when the person slips into bouts of depression… true happiness is a part of a person’s character, regardless of the circumstances.

Thoughtfulness- How does your date treat his parents and yours? Chances are you’ll get treated very much the same way. Does he see things that need to be done and offer to help? Or does he put his own needs first? Does he open the car and wait for you to sit-down? Manners are important – and they seldom get better after marriage.

Not Easily Angered – Temper outburst can be the symptom of internal hostility. this hostility is often repressed during courtship as a person is trying hard to be on his behavior… take seriously any outburst you observe, and check with others who have known this person in different situations to see if they have noticed this trait… the way a woman treats her younger brother may be an indication of how she will treat her husband… be leery of the person who has not learned to express his anger in words and instead merely harbors angry feelings in his heart. Going silent and withdrawing from a loved one because of anger is unhealthy and damaging to a relationship. Be sure you date a person ling enough to observe how easily he or she becomes angry and how these feelings are expressed. Ask yourself, “Is this what I want to live with for the rest of my life?”

Willing to solve problems – It’s almost impossible to solve problems by your self. Marry someone who will be honest enough to admit being wrong, who doesn’t have a habit of blaming others.

Purity –
Purity is not just an old-fashioned virtue. It’s just safer to date someone who hasn’t played around. At the same time you should not hold it against a person for past sexual involvement. You cannot always judge a person’s true purity by virginity alone. Mind purity is equally important. Is your date pure in his thoughts and speech, as well as behavior? What jokes does he tell? What music does she listen to? What movies does he watch? What books or magazines does she read? Are they pure or suggestive? Mind pollution can lead to disrespect of the opposite sex.

Truthful – Too often couples play games when they are becoming acquainted. Playing games in a relationship is a form of dishonesty. Marriage isn’t game. It’s a serious lifetime commitment. Search your own feelings and share honestly during your courtship. Be you.

Good Health Habits – No one wants to marry a slob – and few do. Bad health habits are difficult to break. That is why it’s best to look for a person who has already established positive health practices.

Accept Responsibility -
Here are some questions that might detect irresponsibility. Does she see things that need to be done and do them? Does he volunteer to help? Does she get to places on time? Does he make lame excuses? To get out of responsibilities? Does she take her talents seriously and work to improve her skills? Does he take care of his car and other personal possessions? Think about it. Just how responsible is the person you are dating?

Good Sense of Self-Worth – Often in a dating relationship, individuals with poor self-esteem glean a sense of value from the person they’re with. They become dependent on them to make them feel good. If you don’t want to live a lifetime having a tiptoe around a person’s fragile ego or having your self to hold yourself back for fear of how your spouse will react, then be careful not to get emotionally involved with someone who has a low sense of self-worth.

Likes Children – before marriage you may discuss children, but unless you’re around a lot of children and can observe your date interacting with them in a wide variety of situations, you really don’t have any idea about how he or she may discipline your children in the future. Seldom do both parents totally agree on how a child should be raised. Finding someone who at least likes children is an advantage.

A Personal Relation with God – it is very important for a marriage partner to have a personal relationship with God. Look for a Partner/someone who is spiritually sensitive and willing to follow God’s Law. A Spirit-filled life is one filled with love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness and temperance (Galatians5:22-23). A person who exhibits these traits is certainly easier to live with than someone who doesn’t. What about your date? If you’re interested in a real Christian, make sure his faith is part of his life twenty-four hours a day.

Accept you just the way you are - True Love is unconditional Love. The important question to ask is “ Do I love her/his faults?” only when you can truly love the total person, including all the points and bad habits, can you accept your mate for who he is and not secretly wish you could change him.

Willing to Grow – Good marriage partners grow together. They encourage each other to maximize their knowledge, skills and potential. Make sure the person you date seriously is the kind of person who is open to learning and will make changes need to be made.

Affectionate – The ability to express love trough words and actions is vital for an intimate love relationship. Look for tender words, acts and touches that are given naturally and “appropriately” throughout the day, and not just in private.

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