Have you ever had a man
do a complete "180" and suddenly change
how he feels about you and your relationship
with absolutely NO warning or good reason,
even after several weeks or months of dating?
He used to call just to hear your voice, or
tell you he misses you...
He used to be so affectionate and loving...
But out of the blue, he shut down and stopped
doing and saying all those things that made
you feel like your relationship was GOING
SOMEWHERE.
Ouch!
You're probably wondering if it's you or if you
are just a magnet for all the WRONG men.
But hang on. Ask yourself - did this happen after:
-- you let down your guard and told him how
you really felt about the relationship?
-- he did something to disappoint you and you
let him know?
-- you talked to him about where the
relationship is going or what you need?
If so, there's something you should know.
You're not a "wrong guy" magnet and your love
life is not doomed forever.
How do I know? Because I've seen so many women
whose luck with men changed once they started
doing a few of the right things with men.
They finally "got" how to talk to a man about their
feelings and needs. They finally understood what
men really need to feel in love and happy inside of
a relationship.
The good news for you is that your luck with men
can change too, if you discover these facts about
men and how they think and feel about
relationships.
All you need is the insights and secrets I reveal
in my "Inside The Mind Of A Man" program
Ok,tell me this...
Are you having an easy time creating the kind
of CONNECTION with a man that turns a few typical
"dates" into the beginning of an amazing
relationship?
Or...
Are you finding it more difficult than you
think it should be to find a great man and go from
him just feeling "casual" about dating you to
WANTING and NEEDING YOU on both a physical and
emotional level?
If so, then I'm going to show you 4 things
that are "must-have's" to win the right man's
heart.
These are also the things that men don't talk
about but that DRIVE MEN WILD when they recognize
them and experience them in you.
If you learn these and put them to use in your
love life, the right man is sure to see you as
that unique and special woman he just has to have
in his life forever.
Ready to discover these?
Great, let's get started.
Here are 4 things that every good man wants in
a woman.
But before we get started, I want to clear the
air on something important.
There are Real Men... and then there are men
who do NOT have their act together.
Real Men are mature and grounded on a physical,
mental, emotional, and spiritual level.
They might not have everything they want in
their life... but they are on a great path and
open to growing on a deeply personal level.
The opposite of a Real Man is a Boy.
A Boy will become uncomfortable when he gets
too close to his own emotions, or too close to a
woman who truly sees him inside and out, for
better and worse.
A Man knows who he is and will listen, learn
and communicate even when he sees or senses that
the woman in his life is unhappy or disapproving
of something about him or his actions.
The things that will make a Real Man appreciate
and admire a woman are often things that a
"lesser" man would be annoyed, frustrated, or put
off by.
For more insight on what qualities signal that
a man is MATURE and ready for a real relationship,
and the qualities that wave a huge RED FLAG that
he still has a lot of "growing up" to do (no matter
WHAT his chronological age), then you need to check
out my "Inside the Mind of a Man" program right
now.
In it, you'll learn the 7 deadly signs of an
immature man and how to spot him instantly, so
you never again have to waste precious time with
a man who can never fulfill your needs.
Now that we're clear on that, things should
be a whole lot clearer here with what will draw a
real man to you and make him want more.
To simplify things here, I'm going to share
these 4 things that a man wants in a woman by
showing you how Real Men think about each one.
And by also showing you how Boys think about
them as well.
Here we go...
#1) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is Playful
There's something that drives men wild and
invites them into a deeper level of "connection"
and bonding with a woman faster than plain old
talk about feelings and experiences.
And that something is PLAY.
See... men love to be active and to play.
Men were raised to express themselves and
connect with those around them through ACTION.
Unfortunately, too many women seem to forget
this and want to TALK TALK TALK their way into
a man's heart.
The strange reality is that as you're getting
to know a man... MORE TALK will often get you
LESS RESPONSE from a man on an emotional level.
Sure, talking is great to get the facts, and
for you to share some things such as your VALUES,
and what you do or don't want in a relationship.
But the fact is that men don't "feel it" for
you because of what you SAY. (Just like you don't
meet a man and feel it for him because he has a
great "pick-up line"!)
It's not the words... it's the experience.
And for men, the easiest and most
straightforward way for a man to engage in his
emotions with you is by DOING THINGS with him
that DON'T require talking, but allow you to be
PLAYFUL with him.
"Doing things" is pretty vague... so I'll give
you a couple examples of PLAYFUL activity you can
do with a man that are sure to dial up the
emotional intensity, and have him grow more
ATTACHED to you:
-Sports: Not all men love sports or are great at
them, and you might not like them either, but
that's not the point here.
The point here is to play a sport with a man
because it involves aspects of a "game". You
against him competing.
Any sport will do. Ping pong is an easy
favorite because no one is really "good"... and
you can have all kinds of playful banter hitting
the ball back and forth.
Pool is another good one since it's easy to
find when you're out together- plus you can tease
him by placing your gorgeous self in front of
where he's aiming and distract him so he misses
his shot.
Then, when you're shooting, ask him to come
over and help you so he puts his arms around you.
Nice! What man wouldn't love that invitation?
Then if you miss, blame it on him in a fun,
sarcastic way.
Bottom line, if a man is being active and
engaging in a playful game with you while there
is also some kind of TOUCHING involved... it's a
magic combination that's sure to raise the
ATTRACTION level up several notches.
-Teasing:
For men, teasing is a universal way of
bonding and communicating that is like an unspoken
language that all men speak.
Every man I know at one time or another has
told me a story about at least one exciting and
attractive woman they once met.
Almost all of these stories involve one common
theme- the women they were with started TEASING
them.
Teasing is easier than you might think. The one
catch is to do it all with a sense of humor and
fun... and don't get too serious.
The best way to tease a man playfully is to be
SARCASTIC with him.
If he asks "Do you have the time?" and you
have a watch on...
Look at him straight in the eyes and say "Yes",
smile, and then turn away from him without telling
him the time and stop paying attention to him.
He'll realize that you're being funny and
see that he only asked you is you KNEW the time,
not to tell him.
Then he'll either ask you directly what the
time is, or he'll start immediately being playful
back at you.
And away you go, playing together.
This kind of thing is subtle, but builds a
growing level of ATTRACTION inside a man for you.
Again, what's not important are the WORDS you're
saying.
What's important is that you're intentionally
either misleading him with your words to mess
with him, or you're playfully making fun of him.
Some women feel uncomfortable with teasing or
making fun of a man. But for men, it's again
another way they connect socially.
The funny part is, the more you can tease a man
and have him laughing and wanting you to be
serious for a minute... the more he's going to
be wanting to get close to you and know you
better.
It's funny how men and human nature work.
Try it. You'll love how a man responds!
To discover exactly what it is that makes a
man feel that intense and LASTING ATTRACTION for
you that goes much deeper than just the everyday
Physical Attraction a man can feel and date a
woman "casually" because of... I STRONGLY SUGGEST
you take a look at the CD/DVD program I put
together that's all about how you can create
attraction in your man.
For easy and powerful tips on how to have the
man in your life quickly feeling that INTENSE
GUT-LEVEL ATTRACTION that will tell him you're
the only woman for him...
#2) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is Independent
If you want a short-cut to how and why a
woman being "Independent" will change the way your
man thinks about and acts with you for the better,
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Now, back to it...
There's something funny that goes on for some
women because of their experiences in
relationships with THE WRONG MEN.
Lots of women mistakenly believe that men are
looking for a "weaker" woman who will make them
feel like they are stronger, smarter, more
powerful, etc.
Nothing could be farther from the truth when
it comes to a good man (the kind of man you can
actually have a great relationship with).
REAL MEN who have their own lives, who aren't
looking to a woman to validate their lives and
their significance DO NOT want a woman who they
can "overpower" so that they feel better about
themselves.
REAL MEN want a woman who INSPIRES them because
she has great things going on her own life.
REAL MEN want a woman who MOTIVATES them
because she is thinking and doing great things,
and her energy and attitude is contagious.
REAL MEN want a woman who has her own PURPOSE
that inspires her and gives her fulfillment and a
reason for living and breathing OTHER THAN just
being in a relationship.
Here's the catch...
A lot of women who ARE busy, successful,
inspiring, and who have their own purpose seem to
all have a common complaint-
That men are INTIMIDATED by them and their
success, and that they have their own lives.
This is NOT why men aren't responding well to
them when it comes to more than just a "fling."
The reality is, Real Men don't mind if a woman
has a great career, or if she makes more money
than they do.
What DOES MATTER is that the woman still has
SPACE IN HER LIFE for a great relationship, and
that she isn't OVERWHELMED by her work and her
career to the detriment of a potential
relationship.
Of course, the same goes for a man.
If a man is CONSUMED by his work, feels
burnt out all the time, and doesn't leave space
or energy for a woman or a real close and intimate
relationship... then he's not going to do well at
keeping a great woman around who knows what she
wants and deserves (a man who's loving and
PRESENT).
Bottom line, it's HARD to be grounded and
PRESENT with your partner when you have 438
million things going on... and you're feeling
stressed.
Is your stress level getting in the way of
you simply unwinding and being FULLY PRESENT
when you're with a man?
Or worse...
Are you carrying so much stress and worry and
"masculine energy" with you that you're not even
in touch with your own SENSUALITY and SEXUALITY?
What unfortunately happens for a lot of busy
energetic and highly functioning women is that
they get burned out and STOP simply feeling like
the WOMAN that they are.
A Real Man can love and appreciate a woman
who has a great career and life of her own, and
the independence that comes from that makes a
woman even MORE DESIRABLE to a Real Man...
Whereas a Boy is threatened by a woman doing
too much of her own thing.
When a Real Man sees you doing your own thing
and focusing on your own life, he will WANT YOU
EVEN MORE and do things to get your attention and
create intimate situations between you.
But if you've tuned out from your own
sensuality and you're stressed and anxious
because you feel like you have to do so much for
yourself... then you often aren't in that place
where a man will feel INSPIRED by you and DRAWN
TO YOU on a physical and emotional level.
To find out what the secret is to getting your
own life together as a woman from the inside out,
and living in a way that a man will naturally fall
for and be DRAWN TO ... I've put together an
entire program for all this "inner" stuff.
There's a place that's IN BETWEEN too "needy"
and too INDEPENDENT that men find irresistible
in a woman.
Funny thing, this place also happens to be
the state of mind where you as a woman are at
your happiest and most fulfilled inside.
Do you find yourself either:
1) Acting a little too "needy" to where you can
tell it rubs a man the wrong way?
Or...
2) Acting a bit too "fiercely independent" to
where you don't even want to let a man in or
RECEIVE what he wants to give you?
If so, then it's going to be tough for a man
to both feel deeply CONNECTED to you, and for him
to feel intensely ATTRACTED to you.
If you realize that breaking out of your past
relationship patterns isn't just about finding
another man to be with... but about CHANGING
from within yourself.
#3) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is "Emotionally
Mature"
A single, successful, attractive man who has
lots of OPTIONS has seen a lot of different things
from women in his life.
He's seen how women flirt.
He's seen his share of how things can go wrong
with women in relationships.
He's seen women throw themselves at him.
He's seen how women bring beauty and wisdom
into his life in a way he couldn't have seen on
his own.
And he's also seen women act incredibly needy
and unsettled, to where they lose it completely on
an emotional level and fall apart right in front
of him.
The question is...
Knowing what you know about how some other
women can be...
What do you think are the biggest WARNING SIGNS
a man has learned to look for in a woman?
And what do you think might be the biggest
INDICATOR of a healthy and happy woman?
I'll give you a second to think about it.
..
..
Now, knowing how most men think, and hearing
over my lifetime how men talk about women and
relationships, and where most of the
misunderstandings come from... I'll give you a
hint.
Both the "red flags" and the greatest positive
indicators have to do with the same thing in
men's minds.
Do you know what it is?
I'll tell you-
It's a woman's EMOTIONS.
The way a woman feels, reacts to, and
communicates her own feelings and emotions is
the greatest "Make or Break" place in a man's
mind.
If a man feels attracted to a woman, enjoys
being with her, and they're spending a lot of
amazing time together... eventually there's
going to be a situation that comes up where you
and a man will see something differently and
misunderstand each other.
There might also be a time where a man does
something that hurts your feelings, or shows that
he isn't thinking about you and your feelings.
How will you respond to this?
And how will you share your feelings?
Will you share with him in a way that will
inspire and encourage him to open up to the fact
that he might have done something wrong?
Or will you share in a way that he'll receive
as BLAME or CRITICISM? (Both of which will
encourage a man to either feel ANGRY or WITHDRAW.)
The difference in these 2 choices of how you
as a woman respond has everything to do with how
YOU deal with and handle the EMOTIONS you have
inside yourself.
Do you have the patience and maturity to take
the time to get in touch with your own feelings
as you're feeling them, and communicate from a
place of positive intention?
Or do you feel overwhelmed by your emotions,
to where THEY CONTROL YOU... and you do and say
things that aren't coming from a place of love
or positive intention... but from a place of your
own hurt ego?
You as a woman are NOT supposed to be more like
a man, and seek to "detach" from your emotions as
you feel them.
Your feelings are a gift that brings richness
to your life and experience.
But how do you SHARE your feelings with the man
in your life?
Whether or not you recognize it right now, the
thing Real Men want most from the woman they're
with is to see her simply happy and smiling
because of who he is and the good things he does.
Knowing this, what do you think happens when a
Real Man who would want more than anything for you
to feel happy, loved, and delighted by him and his
ACTIONS with you hears that something he might not
have even known would upset you made you feel
awful?
That's right. He'll feel frustrated as well,
and often take it personally.
He'll feel like he can't do things right with
you, even though he tries.
This isn't a great feeling for a man to feel
in his relationship- and it can eventually drive
a man to STOP LISTENING or TRYING if a woman gets
upset by him for too many things he can't
understand.
If you want a man to know that your
relationship is something he wants to last and
keep going, then he should feel like it's EASY
to know how to:
A) Make you happy
And...
B) NOT upset you accidentally to the point where
you lose your cool emotionally and he feels like
you "turn on him"
A woman who has the maturity to not BLAME or
CRITICIZE a man for what she's feeling, but to
share her feelings in an honest and authentic way
that helps a man BETTER UNDERSTAND HER... will
have a man who is more open than she could imagine
any man being with her.
How does the man in your life think about you
and how you share your more "difficult" feelings?
Does he know and trust that you love him, and
that you communicate from a place of LOVE and
positive intention?
Or does he RECEIVE what you say and feel like
you are BLAMING for him being "wrong" or for being
thoughtless or uncaring?
A man, even a great listener who loves you and
is patient... will have a tough time remaining
open and caring when he feels "attacked" by your
hurt feelings.
But don't worry, creating the kind of loving
and nurturing exchanges and moments you want in
your relationship isn't as hard as it sounds.
For my very best secrets of how healthy and
open communication works in a lasting
relationship, and how to build this effortlessly
into your relationship...
#4) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Makes Him Feel
Intense ATTRACTION
Men know, as well as women do, that it's
EASY to find someone who makes you WILD with
desire at first...
And hard to find someone who makes you feel
this way loooooooong into your relationship.
Here's something you might not know about
men.
Men aren't as scared of COMMITMENT and
RELATIONSHIPS as they are scared of being in a
relationship with a woman where there is no
PASSION and ATTRACTION.
Have you ever had a situation with a man where
the passion or the attraction seemed to fizzle
out, but you didn't know what to do about it?
Do you know how to start off conversations
with a man and build the ATTRACTION that a man
is feeling to the level at which he'll be BEGGING
YOU for more time and attention?
Do you know how to KEEP THE ATTRACTION GOING
STRONG inside your relationship, and what makes a
man stay intensely attracted to a woman well into
the relationship and past the "honeymoon stage"?
A common way women accidentally KILL the
ATTRACTION men might be feeling is by either
TRYING TOO HARD to get him to like you, or by
acting like the relationship is too serious too
soon.
Here's a tip as a single woman...
When dating, a great way to create attraction
with a man is instead of trying to get so serious
by talking about what he does for a living, where
he grew up, etc. (even though these can be
important things)...
Make sure you do and say things that interject
FUN and HUMOR into your relationship from the very
start.
There's nothing more appealing to a man than a
great woman who knows how to relax and have fun.
And the universal way that men relax, have fun
and BOND is through playful TEASING.
Flirting almost always involves some form of
humor and sarcasm- as in instead of answering a
man directly when he asks you what you do for a
living... you look at him and think of the most
ridiculous thing you could imagine getting him
to believe and say that instead.
It's not that WHAT you say starts off an
amazing chain of events that leads down the road
to building a deep level of attraction -
It's the fact that instead of being so caught
up in your mind, you're joking, having fun, and
inviting a man into playfulness with you.
Men instantly understand what's going on when
there's a connection with a woman and she starts
being playful this way- and respond by opening up
and becoming more engaged and attached with you
on an EMOTIONAL level without even knowing it.
Of course, the fun and playfulness of being
UNPREDICTABLE holds true when you're in a
relationship as well.
Most couples get very used to each other, and
how their partner will act and respond day in and
day out.
Part of this is a natural progression to a
relationship that provides a healthy level of
PREDICTABILITY to things.
And if you can be the woman who also mixes
this with fun, exciting and playful UNPREDICTABLE
things... suddenly a man doesn't know quite what
to expect.
Suddenly he's reminded that he hasn't quite
seen everything that there is to you.
And suddenly you're having fun teasing him and
engaging in a playful back-and-forth that has the
PASSION and ATTRACTION level rising all the while.
Of course, if you don't do this with a
genuinely playful attitude and a little
flirtatious smile on your face... it won't go
over the same way, and he'll be wondering what's
wrong with you.
For all my very best secrets on how to create
a deep level of ATTRACTION that will make a man
literally stop in his tracks and wonder how in the
world he ended up wanting to be so close to a woman
and love and appreciate her... you need to go and
check out my "Natural & Lasting Attraction"
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Discover some amazing tips to put to use
in your love life right now, and start enjoying
the incredible feeling of KNOWING that the man
you're with is WILD about you because he can't
stop telling you and showing you that he feels
deeply connected and ATTRACTED to you.
All the best secrets to making a man feel
DEEPLY ATTRACTED to you to where he'll want to
keep spending more and more time with you.
And all the best secrets for getting things
started with a man on first encounters and first
dates- up to the point where he asks that you and
he are EXCLUSIVE- is here in my "Meeting The One"
If you're single and you don't even know a
great guy, and your friends don't know any great
men to set you up with... how long do you think
it could take to simply bump into a great guy on
the street?
Now, imagine the odds of this considering that
you haven't yet bumped into this great single
man at any point along your DAILY ROUTINE.
The odds of running into the right man, and then
having a great easy opportunity to start a real
conversation can be unfortunately slim for lots
of women.
There's a great way to quickly meet several great
men, get to know them, engage in meaningful
dialogue...and avoid the "creeps" out there.
And that's through the magic of ONLINE DATING.
Even if you might believe that it's not for you,
ONLINE DATING and meeting and starting
conversations with men online has introduced
literally MILLIONS of women to that one
special man who is now in their lives.
It's at least worth giving a shot.
Meeting a great guy should be fun and exciting.
I show you exactly how to not only make meeting
the right man for you online fun and exciting,
but I show you exactly how to:
-Write a great profile that will both attract
the RIGHT MAN and screen out the "toads"
-Have several men who look like they could be
real "catches" EMAILING YOU to get to know you
-How to start the conversation so that a man will
both be INTRIGUED with you and feel that spark
of ATTRACTION that will inspire him to want to
see you in person when you're ready
-The way to go from chatting and getting to know
one another online to meeting up in person and
going on your first date (avoid the big mistake
most women make that is both dangerous and sets
things up to fail for them and the man)
-What kind of men to AVOID, and an easy way to
have only the men who are looking for a real
mature relationship communicating with you
-The secrets of your picture online, and what it
says to a man
-And lots, lots more...
To know all there is to know and find and meet
the right man for you using the magic connecting
power of the Internet... go here and check out
my "Finding Love Online"
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