Friday, March 27, 2009

Cheating is not a caught in the moment thing if you are really into
your significant other, you miss them when you are not with them, you
don't look for a way to hurt or deceive them.

So, are cheaters born cheaters, or do certain situations cause people
to cheat? Probably a little bit of both. Here are some situations that
make people cheat:

1. Bored

I'd say this is the most common reason that people cheat.It's tough to
keep that edge throughout a relationship. Things start off grand and
then level off and then you both realize that it's still real life.
When you meet someone else, that inaugural excitement of a new
relationship kicks back in.

2. Dependence

At first glance, cheating seems like independent behavior. It could be
interpreted as doing what you want, when you want. But I would argue
that cheating is a dependent behavior. A cheater is dependent because
they are not strong enough to break up with their significant other in
order to get with the new person.

3. Confusion

Sometimes life or a particular situation can get to you. When the
perfect storm of confusion is going on in your head, you make mistakes.

4. Because They Let You

If any girl ever cheated on me, I'd break up with her immediately.
Forgiving a cheater is putting up with it, and starts a vicious cycle.
That person who cheated may lose respect for you and might continue to
cheat-because they know they can get away with it, because you'll
continue to take them back.

5. Nurturing

If someone is mistreating you, then your first instinct is to get away
from him or her. But sometimes it's not that simple-maybe you are
raising kids together. If you feel trapped in a bad relationship, it's
only natural that you will run to the open arms of a person who treats
you well.

6. Revenge

This is quite simple- an eye for an eye. Cheat on them if they cheat on
you. If they continuously hurt you or abuse you in some way, you do it
to get them back.

7. Confirmation of Attractiveness

Sometimes when you're in a long relationship, or if your significant
other is taking you for granted, you begin to wonder if you're still
attractive. Perhaps, because you were out on the dating circuit, you
felt more attractive when you were single. If you have an affair,
you've proven that a new person can be attracted to you.

8. The Thrill

Some people just enjoy the thrill of cheating: running around secretly,
risking getting caught, andcreating thrilling moments with a forbidden

9. They Don't Consider It Cheating, Even Though You Might

Relationships have that grey area, usually right before you become
exclusive. He thinks date #4 is when you're "together," and you think
date #2 is when you're "together." If you haven't talked about
exclusivity, someone may think they are well within their rights to see
other people, even though the other person in the relationship may not.

I don't understand why people don't break up as soon as they have an
urge to cheat. Is it natural to have temptation, or is temptation a
sign that the relationship is losing its fire? What reasons would you
add to this list, and do you disagree with any? If you've ever cheated,
why did you do it? Could you forgive a cheater? If you are single, but
seeing a person who is in a committed relationship, does that make you
a cheater?

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