Friday, March 20, 2009

5 Ways to Get a High Quality Boyfriend

Women constantly complain that they cannot find quality men. Only last night I listened to a long time friend of mine mouth the recurring theme of "no good men left."

Well the truth be told, high quality things are not easy to find. High quality, valuable stones are not only expensive but very rare. Their value is proportionate to their scarcity. Gold, diamond and other precious stones are premium because they are not easy to come by.

Accept that quality men are a rare breed

My first suggestion in finding a quality man is to accept that he will not be waiting for you around the street corner or knocking on you door tomorrow. Understand and be prepared to sift through the rubble to find your diamond of a man. Most diamonds actually come in the rough. They have to be cleaned, cut and polished. I do believe that you may have to kiss many frogs to find your prince.

Quality men are not always "ready made."

Although many women would not admit many women behave as if the man they want has to be "ready made." That is they should possess with most if not all of the qualities they dream about.

"I don't want someone I have to work on," Ashley told me in no uncertain terms, after I pointed out that Chris is a work in progress. Ironically I do think the she needs some polishing herself as she can be very brash and blunt.

Be a high quality person

Well that brings me to my third point; in order to get a high quality man, you need to be a high quality woman. You cannot be a pig and expect to attract a peacock. That is not the way it works in real life. If you want an intelligent person, you need to cultivate your intellect. If want a person of class and dignity you need to be classy and dignified. I think it was Ghandi who said you need to be the change you want to see in the world.

While opposites attract it is similarity that binds people together.

Have many high quality friends and associates

A corollary point to this is that you need to have quality friends. Birds of a feather not only flock together but they attract similar birds that also bring their friends and family along. The important point here is simply to have friends and associates like the person you want to attract in your life. Each of these people, have a network of friends, one of whom may be the person you are looking for. Many people admit that they met their husband through a friend, colleague or family. Someone once said that you are only six persons away from what you want. In other words someone you know, knows someone, who knows someone else, etc who can put you in touch with who and what you want. Start expanding your base of friendship to include people of the same ilk of the person you desire.

Lastly but certainly not least, if you are looking for a high quality man, you need to go to high quality places. High quality places should not be interpreted to mean expensive places. It simply means you should frequent places where many of these types of people hang out. For example if you want an ambitious man you should going inspirational and motivational meeting or even meetings where investment and money making ventures are discussed and taught. If love and admire people who can speak elegantly maybe you should join Toast Masters International. The chance of you finding a compatible person in these meetings is significantly increased.

In summary, to find a quality man:

  1. Accept that the process is not going to be a piece of cake. Good things are not easy to acquire. Good men are hard to get. Accepting this makes the process a lot easier.
  2. Realize that the gem you are looking may not first appear like a polished diamond.
  3. To get a quality man you must also be a quality woman.
  4. To increase the probability of meeting a quality man have lots of quality friends and associates
  5. To heighten your chances of meeting a quality man visit places where quality men gather.

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