"True Relationships"

Relationships from God Never Fail

By Jerry (Guardian Angel)

If a person claims to be saved and yet allow evil grudges to rule through spiteful acts then they are rejecting the leading of the Holy Spirit.

A Believer is to never to act out of spite. Root out grudges and plant a healthy crop of obedience to the Lord. If a person refuses to practice this, then they do not walk with God.

Unfortunately, this is frequent in relationships and marriages between men and women, they bring suffering to eachother through spiteful acts and selfishness, which is why in these cases do the relationships become not of God, and hearts are wounded. The Bible says-----"We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves" (Romans 15:1), and this should most definitely apply to male/female relationships. The following verse should also be engraved into the heart as well-----"Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong" (1 Corinthians 12:10). And where does such strength come from? It comes from LOVE. When a man and a woman commit themselves to become ONE flesh, which begins with the love they claim for the other, then let that love never fail. The Bible clearly says-----"4 Charity (Love) suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, 5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; 6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; 7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things" (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). However, going by the divorce rate and how many relationships end so bitterly among Christians, it doesn't seem that 1 Corinthians 13 is within the hearts of these people very much, and I think its an utter tragedy, and it definitely does not line up with God. There are of course those who will twist scripture, out of pure pride and hypocrisy, to justify their corrupt actions within a relationship, but that means they do not stand in true love, and are very deceived people, only concerned with pleasing their own flesh! Remember Romans 12:9 which says-----"Let love be without hypocrisy." Woe to them who twist Gods greatest gift for selfish reasons!

The deception that plagues so many relationships (including those who are supposed to be Christian ones) is that they are in LUST and not in LOVE! They may seek to justify their actions all they wish, even twist scripture to seemingly make it righteous, but it is NOT righteous! The Bible says-----"The heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked!" (Jeremiah 17:9). And what is it that deceives the heart then? It is the FLESH because the human heart IS of the flesh! God is a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth (John 4:24), and to worship God, also means to live as He requires us all to live, which means also how we treat eachother! All we do, if we claim to be Children of God, should be done through Gods will, not our own will. The human heart will afflict a human heart, but the heart of GOD will heal the human heart and restore it back to life! The reason so many relationships die, is because the human hearts that inspired them were already dead. This is because they are guided by the FLESH and not the SPIRIT. True love is of the Spirit, and true love never fails, so why then do relationships fail if they are supposed to be of Love? Because they are NOT of love, but are from LUST of the human heart! Galatians 5:16-17 says-----"16....Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. 17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would." But if a man and a woman walk together in Spirit, they will not fulfill the lust of the flesh, and God will truly be the light of who they are as ONE in God. This cannot be however, if people are led by the flesh, and walking NOT in love, but in LUST. You will only truly come to know eachother if you LOVE one another, not LUST one another! Please, if you truly want to save your relationships, then together stand in LOVE. Love will never fail you, but lust WILL fail you! Lust dies because it comes from the flesh, which DIES. Love never dies because God is eternal, and true Love is also eternal because GOD IS LOVE!

True love also sees beyond ones failures, it does not become discouraged then walks away. This is why so many have broken hearts, because they once believed that those who walked away loved them. Love never abandons but remains at ones side as a comforter, is it a refuge and a deliverer, and it will never cause one to become wounded. This is what is lost when a couple become broken, because Love is like a refiners fire, one in the other. Where patience becomes nonexistent does the flesh rule, because love is patient. Would a surgeon save so many lives if he was impatient? Therefore, how then is a relationship saved if there is no patience? Patience also doesn't distance itself but it bonds stronger, because when two become bonded they overcome as ONE. This is what love is! Love is also repentance, and a loving heart is a repentant heart, and this is known through the Spirit. If a person has a repentant heart they will overcome pride and confess they are wrong, just as I confess tenfold that I have been wrong, and my heart knows it was hardened, but I also wish for God to restore me! I wish for God to restore me, because I want LOVE to rule me, not my flesh!

I pray that ALL come to know this, and apply it to themselves, because ALL deserve to have ALL that God wishes to give. Your flesh rejects the gifts of God, but the Spirit will receive Gods gifts. Receive and your bond between You and your significant other will never end, but always see new beginnings. This is what love is, and love is God. True love comes from Gods perfect will, not flawed human choices! The unfortunate reality though, is that flawed human choices come from the FLESH and the union of a man and a woman needs to be much more then the physical.

When God brought Eve to Adam in the first marriage, she was made from his "flesh and bone" (Genesis 2:31), and they became "one flesh" (Genesis 2:23-24). That is a concept that is lost in our modern society. Becoming one flesh means more than just a physical union. It means a meeting of the mind and soul to form one unit. This relationship goes far beyond sensual or emotional attraction and enters into the realm of the spiritual "oneness" that can only be found as both partners surrender to God and to each other. This is a relationship that is not made up of "me" or "my" but of "us" and "our." This is one of the secrets to having a positive relationship which then becomes a long-lasting marriage. Making a marriage last until death parts one from the other is something that both partners have to make a priority. Solidifying one's vertical relationship with God goes a very long way to insuring that the horizontal relationship between a man and a female is a lasting one and one that also glorifies the LORD. But sadly, couples pair themselves up with more of the "self" in mind, rather then having God in their hearts. The true key to being evenly yoked as a couple is by placing GOD before yourselves! If God is first, all that comes second will never forsake you nor fail you, and will last forever because He who came first is forever. If God is first in your life, then your life is a real life. If God is not first in your life, then you never truly lived. This goes for those who are single, as well for those who are coupled. Keep the truth in your lives, and that very truth will set you free!

Amen.